The Accident

Mufti Menk

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Includes a clarification of the car accident he was involved in two days prior that happened in Zimbabwe. Lecture from MEPS School, Harare, Zimbabwe. May Allah protect Mufti Menk and his family.

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we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we came upon all conditions, we send blessings and salutations upon Mohamed Salah, and he was sending his entire household and all his companions. May Allah bless them all. And may He bless every single one of us. I mean, my brothers and sisters, this is the first lecture that I'm delivering after the accident that I had on Monday afternoon. And I think it's only correct for me to clarify, because there is a lot of rumor connected to what exactly happened. Some people thought I was in Johannesburg, no, I was here in Harare, the accident in Johannesburg was a different accident all together, it was a 50 car pileup or should I say a huge

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truck drove through a lot of vehicles. And that was on the 12th, close to elvetham. But that was on Tuesday morning, very early in the morning. But the accident I had was on Monday afternoon or early evening. And what happened I was on Coventry road down here, just very close to here, perhaps one two kilometers from here or three and going down the road. And as you all know, it's quite a wide road we had stopped at the traffic light, the first set of traffic lights that were there. And thereafter we proceeded in between the first traffic lights and the second traffic lights. There was a man in front of me there was another car to my left, and the man in front of me suddenly decided

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to make a U turn. And when he went off the road or towards the right, I actually swerved towards the right in order to avoid him because had I swerved towards the left there was another vehicle there. So it was just so quick that all this happened. And before I knew it, I was actually I swiped the sand on the the fourth lane and you know what, in a split second the car swerved back towards the left, and it actually spun facing back towards the city. And the key was hit a tree was miraculously there because it stopped the vehicle from going through the walls and so on. So they

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So many medicals no oncoming traffic, no passengers, or should I say no?

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What can I say pedestrians? No other vehicles involved no trucks parked on the side of the usually there are so many things we have to thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for and you see me two days later standing in front of you and handler. According to some rumors, I'm supposed to be half dead. So we think Allah subhanho wa Taala really that he has blessed us? Yes, my wife did infozone sustained some injuries, she actually broke a collarbone and each other We hope that she will be

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cured very soon. Normally on a Thursday evening, she's always here. So we thank Allah Subhana Allah to Allah for blessing us, it could have been much, much worse. But really, it's something that we always need to be grateful for. In fact, I even found out that the vehicle is not so badly damaged that it cannot be repaired. So that also is a blessing.

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This having been said my brothers and sisters, did you notice what happened earlier this evening? We had the first major rain of this season of this year. Should I say the rainy season that we're waiting for and we found a love for it? In some areas of Harare. Apparently we had hailstones that were the size of little golf balls. You know when we say little golf balls, or golf balls are the same size. So anyway, may Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant us ease. But amazingly, it was so hard, I was thinking perhaps we might have to cancel the session if it was still raining. But look at what Allah subhanho wa Taala did two things. One is the electricity miraculously, that goes every single

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day did not go today, Mashallah, we thank Allah for that. And I see those living in Kensington smiling because they are not affected by Mashallah. And then Subhana Allah, the other thing that happened is, the rain stopped just before we were supposed to come, in fact, a lot of rain that already subsided. And this, you know, gathering of ours happens on a Thursday evening after salado, Asia. So we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala. For this, I want to raise two or three points. One is, whenever something negative happens to us, please look at the positives. If you look at the negatives, you will become depressed, you will become a person who can never ever come out of this

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form of a problem. Be brave, Be courageous, understand that Alice plan is far greater. And Allah loves you. And he knows he has placed you in this world to test you one after the other. Someone actually told me you know, perhaps maybe people have done black magic on you. Look, you had one mishap and another one. And you know what's going on? I said, I don't even know what you're talking about. Because for me, it was an honor and a pleasure that Allah made me go through something so light, Allahu Akbar, look at this. Imagine that we would be something that happened to us with paralysis, may Allah protect us all and grant cure to those who are paralyzed in any way. But

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imagine if paralysis had to happen, amputations had to happen. May Allah subhanahu wa Jalla make that a means of entry into gender for those whom it has happened to, but we think alike hasn't happened to us. And at the same time, take a look at so many other factors that I spoke about a few moments ago in the incident that happened with me on Monday. But with every one of us, sometimes you have a little loss in your business, sometimes you have a struggling with one of your children, sometimes you have the loss of a specific person in your family, thank Allah, it could have been worse. This is what we are taught. And we're lucky we will continue to be tested until the day we

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die. and thereafter the examinations are over and you hear the results. May Allah make it easy the day the results are announced for your information, I actually quit.

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Or I actually excused myself from attending the annual prize giving at St. John's College where my son attends and he's winning some prizes there. He's already won them. And the reason is, I had to be here with you imagine, if I was there, I wouldn't be able to come here. So I think Allah subhanho wa Taala. This also is called prioritization. For the sake of ally, it's no big deal for me, because it doesn't even take me a minute to think when it comes to this. But at the same time, we need to understand sometimes we have something personal that is very close to us. There is another way I can congratulate my son, I know it's important for us to take part in their lives and so on and we have

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been, you know, but at the same time, sometimes you need to prioritize I mean, if it's clashing with jumaane, what would you do with the question? Some wouldn't bat an eyelid? Guess what they will do?

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Mr. jumaan, Allahu Akbar. Allah make it easy for us. Some might have thought that, you know, perhaps they wouldn't you know, it reminds me of a joke someone sent me earlier today. And I added a little bit of spice to it. You know, can I tell it to you? It says, The peep the women will ask.

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And this is something you know, I would have thought does not require thinking that which book has helped you most through your life?

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That's a very important question. Which book has helped you most throughout your life, the difficulties

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So on why wouldn't automatically say I don't know if we ask our sisters here they would say the bond The Book of Allah.

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I don't want to ask him because you know what the response was by the majority. My husband's checkbook right now so Hannover winter Allah says goddess, my husband's checkbook imagine which book has helped you throughout your life My husband's

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us forgiveness, it's supposed to be the Quran the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala and this is why if a person happens to be from amongst those whom everything material makes them makes them happy, they will actually never achieve complete contentment because materialism is such the worldly items are such they are updated and upgraded from time to time you could have built the mansion of mansions with the latest of technology in 1980 today, nobody would want to live there. I know when I want to renovate my own house my father tells me Why is there anything wrong? I said no, I just want to upgrade upgrade what is there a leak? Is there a breakage

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say no, but these windows need to become you know, we need to put aluminium and it's not so bad actually there was a time when it was a little bit cheaper than what it is today. And he says why what's wrong with these windows? Do they not close? No they do close so then what's the waste all about? That's the thinking and I think I love that I have someone on my head to continue reminding me today Don't waste your time The other day I said you know what we need to buy a new car but for what? Well now maybe I can convince inshallah Allah subhanho wa Taala granted, he is a goodness, man opened our doors because sometimes To be honest, and even when we wanted to get him a new vehicle,

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he said no, not at all. Why would you want Why do you Why do I need to change this car? It's going it's excellent. And I know one thing about my father and I'm just going to tell you this, you know, something interesting every time we've got him a new vehicle, he misses the old one as though Okay, let me just respect him and say you know as though it was better than the new one Okay, may Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless us all but he misses the old one and he says no, no, no no, this thing doesn't feel as good as the old one so and the old one was you know for us he needed it's an honor to you know, change the vehicle as it is is just a Toyota or something, whatever it is, but at the

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same time, it shows how the older people and the older generations used to appreciate items remain with them for years on end they did not complain when they saw others having things which were better than this but with us and I've got the some of the diseases as well. What is it you see a latest phone the minimum is you want to know about it, the fact that you know about it at the bottom of your heart, you actually have it in you that you know what i in your perhaps inshallah let's see, we can one day get this phone. No, you might be asking me what phone Do you use now? Well, I used to have a phone and keep it for years on end. But what I've noticed is sometimes we need to make use

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Okay, this is not just an excuse, it's a reality, we need to make use of technology in a way that if you if you actually you know have sometimes some of these gadgets and you know how to use them perhaps you will be able to serve the dean a little bit better. So it depends what your intention is. And I'm not trying to exclude you from the from this but all I'm doing is I'm telling you Okay, perhaps what I have at the moment is a phone called a Samsung s5 juulsen

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you can take a guess why I have a deal with them okay, but at the same time we think a lot that they have phones of this nature and what do you do you record for example the talk I have it's recorded on my phone push up onto the internet within five minutes of me leaving from here and this is what happens it's just a pity that I cannot video my own talks because I can't just hold my phone in front of me and keep on talking. And no can I put it up on an ion you know stand on a tripod and let it face me and so on. I know brother Faisal records all these on video but that's all you know, it's like private video so to speak. We hope that one day he can auction them for the billions inshallah

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and thereafter we will build up a few huge places inshallah Faisal, of assistance to the poor by the help of Allah sorry. I mean Oh, Mashallah. That's great. Well, these are the people who are going to be offering you so you better look at what they were in China. Now Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant us all good sustenance and Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us in every single way. The verses I read at the beginning of this session connected to turning to align asking him forgiveness. Yeah, you have Medina, Amman, to Who

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are you who believe that you know turn to Allah repent to Allah seek the forgiveness of Allah, Who is to return to come back to Allah come back to Allah in a good way in the beautiful way, no point and say Allah forgive me in your back in this and all of it give me you back into sin. But delbarton suha would mean that a person asks for forgiveness, and then it changes their life. What hasn't Allah blessed you with, you know, you grow up and after

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Little while your life starts moving and the ball starts rolling, you will have problem upon problem if you want to look at it as problem, but you have challenge upon challenge if you want to look at it as a challenge, and it doesn't mean that you've been through 12345 different challenges that you are doing now. It depends how positive you are about it, how hopeful you are about it, that it shows your link with Allah subhanho wa Taala. It shows that you've understood why you're on this. So this is why we say now that your life has started and you the ball is rolling, you're an adult, sometimes you gain independence after you're married. I hope Allah subhanho wa Taala make us parents such that

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when our children are married, we give them a little bit of independence, at least you know, we allow them to make their own decisions. In some families, the father makes the decision for his son and daughter in law to and his grandchildren and grandchildren's wives and daughters and husbands as well. And it keeps on going just because he's the one who the family rotated around. So the same mistakes that he made the repeating repeated with the next generation that they struggling and suffering. And each one of them say please the old man could have died. Not yet. Oh, it's got a long life.

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If that's the case, what we don't understand let them live their life. Let them live their life. Yes. If they're doing something wrong, it is your right to guide them correctly. Well, if it's your right, you tap them on the shoulder Look, my son This is haram. It's not allowed islamically but if it's not Haram, let them do it. Because I tell you, sometimes with the generation changing the way people think changes completely. And with two generations, it is totally different. Believe me what they see normal, absolutely normal. We see it as something that is absolutely appalling. Unacceptable. How can you marry someone from North Korea? Are you crazy?

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Maybe you didn't know.

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We're in North Korea was

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with us. I was about to say maybe we didn't know the the phone code, you know, the International code. But the truth is, I don't know it either. So to be honest, nowadays, it's just someone who perhaps

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you can communicate with online. And people look at you and say, how could you get married online? How that's wrong. So what's the Islamic ruling of getting married online? The truth is you get married offline is worse luck or bad

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luck. But what I mean here is, you need to make sure it's the right partner, no matter how you were introduced, that was the will of Allah. But sometimes you meet people offline, and they are offline. Sometimes you meet them offline, and they're online. And sometimes you meet them online and offline. And sometimes you meet them online, and they are definitely online. And online here in the straight and narrow Alhamdulillah. So it all depends on the person. How you met him was Allah Subhana, Allah to Allah, sometimes he allows you to come across certain people, you know that a lot of stories if we have to sit in this room and ask each one of us who married How did you meet your spouse? Those

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were not shy to let us know, we learned a lot from them.

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It was such a miracle. Well, it is very interesting to ask people, how did you meet your spouse? And they will tell you in some cases, okay. You know, the introductions, the older people will tell you Oh, I have no say my father said here and I said thank you, dad. So you know, but the the younger people might tell you, this is what happened. This is what I did. It's totally different. It's changing with the changing of time. So what we have to do guidance guide them to say, look, these are qualities you need to search for. Be careful about falling for people who have photoshopped, wow, wow. Photoshop their images before they send them to you. And you see,

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and you go so crazy. You fallen for some face that really when you look at it in reality, you know, even the face was not that grand, so it shows you and he might say all the time I took the photo, but I'm so stressed about marriage, you know, now, I've just changed. You know what, everyone is gorgeous. Everyone is pretty, nobody's ugly. But the reality is it takes someone with an eye to notice what type of an eye an eye that looks deeper than the skin. Remember this. So you got to teach your children look, you're going to grow old with the same wife of yours. And the wife is not a cell phone that you keep on changing every time so panela you know, and the wife is not a motor

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vehicle that every two years you say okay, what do they call it? The warranty is up let's carry on. No 100,000 kilometers.

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Allah Subhana Allah Allah forgive us, but the truth is you need to know the qualities What are these qualities? They are

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the dedication of the individual, how serious they are with their link with their maker because that is what is going to help you and that is what is going to help your resultant offspring inshallah because they will be a little bit of a guiding light within the home itself. But if people are interested in partying every single day, what do you want the children to do? Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us I mean, he helped us so this is why we say the guide

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In light should always be the parents. Yes, correct. There comes a time when you can only remind them so Allah subhanho wa Taala reminds us all this is all you who believe turn back to Allah truly, sincerely, properly forever. Which means once you've had these warm tears roll down your cheeks that Yala what I've done is been criminal in the past the sins I've committed against you, Oh Allah so bad. The beauty is Allah forgives. But the ugly part of it is people keep on going back. Because shavon is also working. He also tries and this is why I've always said people are good, but a man is bad. He works on them and he wins them over. So we become people of the devil temporarily or

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sometimes for a long period of time. When we haven't realized the blessing of Allah upon us what hasn't been forgiven, you can't pretend to him. Allah is the only one who wants nothing in return for what he's given you. Besides that, which is better for your own existence, and your after. Anyone else who really gives you a lot is some form of a deal. There's some form of a given take, you know, someone who does business with you what happens, they give you something you give them something, someone who's for example, assisting you in some way they standing up for you or something one day, they would want you to stand up for them, and so on and so forth. Allah subhanho

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wa Taala doesn't let you down. He does not let you down. When someone pays you a salary you working for them with Allah, it's something minor, whatever he's asked us to do is actually to our own benefit, you know, if you make your Salam in Salah correctly, it actually exercises so many muscles that you don't even realize I was reading about it because I have this shoulder ache, this double shoulder ache that is you know that there as a result of what I went through on Monday, but when I mean Salaam correctly, the muscle is stretched properly, especially the pain is on the right so when I mix and I'm to the left, it's all stretched and pulled properly three physio Allahu Akbar. Now

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don't read Salah with the intention of physio because then it's not counted. Some people do that. But if you read Salah correctly you know your back is supposed to be straight the way you make your schedule, the way you come out the way you you make your salon the way you sit in pattern you don't have to slouch and so on all this is very very healthy for you the way you do and you do cold the water for me it's better It feels good. You know your capacity, it actually helps your blood flow for me cold water very nice. Good. These are the hottest days in this country. You know we used to call it October madness. I don't know what you call it but it's really the madness of October the

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hottest month in this part of the world. So what do you do cold water The water is so beautiful. We are lucky that our nights are usually quite cool. Even in the heat of the summer, or in the hottest days of the summer. Nice cool look at today Mashallah. We've had rainfall, it's cooled down the temperature dropped the temperature by a few degrees which is excellent. So we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for his turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala and this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala he reminds us in such a beautiful way as our bukem and you can feel it.

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If you turn to Allah correctly. Perhaps Allah subhanho wa Taala will forgive your sins expiate. They've gone by what by you just saying, Oh ALLAH forgive me. People are saying Islam is a religion that just punishes and penalizes Allah He know if you really know the religion, you will understand it is the religion of mercy such that anyone who asks Allah forgiveness, the sin is wiped out, completely forgiven. The problem is if you've committed a sin against a fellow human being,

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oh, now you've got a bit of a problem because they might not forgive you in a rush.

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But what Allah if it's a sin between you and Allah

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subhanho wa Taala don't even panic. That's the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala He will forgive and he does forgive. And he says, I saw a boom and you can come see it come. Allah subhana wa tada will forgive your sins. expiation of the sins. Will you see like I'm generating and he will grant you entry into paradise, what type of people those who committed sin but asked Allah forgiveness. And this is why today, someone sent me a beautiful message of Eben Raja and Hambling Rahmatullah Allah. And immediately I decided to translate it into the English language and tweet it What did it say? It said if you cannot compete with the pious in the acts of worship, and even their piety and goodness,

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then compete with the sinful in their

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repentance. Wow, what did you think I was gonna say this in? No. compete with them in the repent. There are people who are still talking about this man. You know what he did? But we don't know his sin is wiped out because he cried the same night to say Allah forgive me. She cried and now her life has changed and we still say Oh That woman is like this and this man is like that. We are left behind.

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And they'd gone they caught the first available train. And they've already arrived at the destination. And with us, we still standing at the station looking at all the trains and say, oh, that guy's inside. That guy's excited. Mandela, forgive us. This is the attitude we have, and will it shape on working on us again, and this is why really if you cannot compete with the pious in their piety, compete with the sinful in the way they are asking us forgiveness, and coming back How many people do you know who've been having or who have had a past that was really not befitting of a true Muslim, but they've come on track such that you don't even realize today you forget how they

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will.

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Plenty plenty people they will tell you Do you know what? We had such a past? We did this we did that. There's nothing in the book of haram that we didn't do. But today I wouldn't miss Salah that's what they will tell you. And where are we still busy chatting about them back chatting this guy you know he was a bouncer at the club. So what? Now Mashallah is bouncing on his masala Allahu Akbar, Allah Subhana Allah Allah make us not from amongst those who read Salah too quickly, but we really need to take our time with Salah. So this is the beauty that Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah has blessed us with what is he? We ask his forgiveness? And he says his mercy is great. He will grant

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you that forgiveness and on top of that, he will grant you Jana.

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What does Allah Subhana Allah say?

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Yo mama Zilla

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in Amman, Omar. On that day, Allah will never disgrace

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the messenger and those who believed with him. Allah will never disgrace. You say you are a part of the Omar Mohamed Salah Salah, what have you done? How have you proven it? What have you tried to do in order to show your link within what's the point of saying, Oh, I belong to this place, or the school or this college. Or, for example, I'm a citizen of this land or I'm a I'm a member of this party. But to be honest, you're doing nothing that even shows that you're a part of it.

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That would be hypocritical. And this is why it's important for us, the struggle of our life is supposed to be getting closer and closer to the ideal that we are supposed to be. That's what it is. So the fact that we moving in that direction is good. But one very important point, never let arrogance overtake you. Because you it's seeming to you that you're moving quicker in pace than someone else. And this is a point that needs to be stressed. Because so many people, they might use this to justify their wrongdoing. But if they look carefully at it, that's not what is meant by it. It is really solely and only directed to those who are moving in the right path to say do not become

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arrogant, another person could actually move in

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and overtake you, yet you had overtaken them at one stage. Like they say, I'd rather be a tortoise moving in the right direction than a hair moving in the wrong direction. Why what's the point of being so quick, and yet you're heading in the wrong direction be a person who you can be quick in the right path and handle a new light upon light goodness upon goodness. But if you are still moving slowly but surely in the right direction every day, giving up one or two things that are wrong or every so often we looking back and seeing how best we can improve ourselves. So hon Allah and then inshallah we're heading in the right direction. My brothers and sisters, a very important point I

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raised it last week and raising it again. Salah, your prayer, don't miss a pray, never, never. No matter what the circumstances are, do not miss a pray. If you miss a prayer from one of these five, well lucky you have actually swerved away from Allah subhanho wa Taala. You've swerved away from his mercy. And trust me, there are two three types of people when it comes to this one, those who do not allow anything to hinder them they are above that particular point of, you know, breaking so nothing will break them when it comes to fulfilling their Salah. But those people also fall into a few categories. Some of them are humbled, the more Allah has granted them is to fulfill their duties

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unto him. The more humble they become, the more they are full of humility, the more they treat people kindly, the more they look at others and try to search the goodness of others. That is the best. Those are the people who have really worked on themselves to a level where they are content, they are happy. May Allah grant us contentment, Allah promises us you do good, I'll give you contentment in this world. He didn't say I give you what you want in this world. But he says your highest will be a year your life will be pure, it will be good and you'll be happy you'll be content. Whatever comes your direction. You You have a link with the Supreme Being who's in control

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of what has just come in your direction. So you know it's from him.

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So that's the highest, then there are others whom they fulfill their Salah. Yes. But as they're fulfilling, they begin to look at others and say, but why is this guy not?

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by him being or not being at fudger? Is it going to validate or invalidate yours? Question? If he's really close to you or a family member or someone you'd like to address, do so in the most humble possible way, using the most wisdom possible or that you have in your bag? Allahu Akbar. speak to them with beautiful words. Imagine Allah speaks about the Kufa and Allah says, want to giardino Alan kitabi in loving lady action, do not debate with the People of the Book. Except with that which is the best, the best words how you talk to those non believers make sure that the best words are chosen. When Allah tells Musa alayhis salam to go to the Pharaoh, he says use soft words. What about

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us we speak about others who are mostly mean who have already added the Shahada. But because one or two issues they have a we have with them, we start speaking to them harshly or about them harshly, may Allah protect us even if we are reading Salah five times a day, with donating that Salah away, the worst thing you could do is to sweat to do good deeds, and then find there are no good deeds written next to your name on the Day of Judgment. Why? Because the tongue couldn't stop wagging. And when the lad in the wrong direction, what did he do? It spoke about everyone and anyone just that backbiting made you lose everything. If you want to worry about others worry about them in the in a

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positive way. That's what it is.

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You really concerned about others, give them hope encourage them, give them a gentle reminder, show them the goodness they are in perhaps nowadays, I find that that is much more encouraging than just blasting them and making them feel doomed. You know, they go out Dickey, I can already feel the heat of janome You know, they're walking home in such a way that they are holding their bellies out as though the fire chasing them from behind Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard us

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that is an approach.

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But I found that you know what, it is only workable with those who have already got to a certain point. And then they start worrying about the fire. But if you start with young people, they will start thinking depending on who they are, obviously, there is always a position a place to say things in a certain way. Wherever you are, you need to look at who you're talking to. That is what will determine how you talk to them and what you say to them with which words what you choose. You know, if my son is very close to me, I can tell him things that I cannot tell the sons of others. But today we will swear the sons of others and we won't swear our own. I'm not saying we're supposed

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to be swearing our own but we are exemplary. The minute the child comes someone else's child we click to blame them. And we don't realize hey, hang on. Maybe my own son is telling a lie My son, no way I can never, ever lie.

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Why? Because he's my son

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in law is effect. This is what people think and this is shape I'm coming to you. You have to consider the fact that perhaps this little child is pulling my legs perhaps

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Allah forgive us so I was saying some people fulfill their Salah, but it makes them despise others who do not. We should be concerned How many times have you cried in Salah for those who are not reading their Salah from your own family? How many times Oh Allah help my child to get up for this prayer helped my husband or my wife to get up or to do something correctly cry for five years, 10 years see what would happen you think Allah will not respond that call that is quite a basic simple to add to Allah and it is so genuine and sincere, more sincere than if you are asking for a Ferrari. Because you know what? Ferrari something materials, Allah give me this and you know, deep down that

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if I get it don't get into one of those things for you to be able to ask for something religious for someone who's connected to you or even not so connected to you. It has to come from the bottom of your heart, it has to you have to be genuinely concerned. Allah help them guide them help them to dress appropriately Allah the other day, I heard this and that with a lot there is no HIPAA, which means you tell the law whatever you want, he knows already. You see, I heard this, you know this happening. Someone was blasting the beat and doing this and do you Allah guide them guide me, protect me guide them to your law make dua once, twice, 10 times for them shed a tear or to lie,

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they may not know that it's through your door that they achieved guidance.

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And what do you get in return, you get the prayer of the angels. Whereas on the other hand, some people as they are becoming physically or outwardly should I say pious, those that holiness actually translates as holy as in holds. Not only as in pious because to be honest, it's a hole through which if you fall you end up in the pit of hell.

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not do that, let's encourage others. So this is why we say and the third type of people are those whom they fulfill their own Salah. And they couldn't care less about anyone else. That also is a sign of weakness, although it's better than the second one we mentioned.

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But that's a sign of weakness. We need to be concerned in a good way, in a good way. Allah Subhana Allah, Allah forgive us, then there are those who don't fulfill their Salah, but at the bottom of their hearts, they want to in fact, some of those who have fulfilled their five Salah day regularly during a certain period of time, there comes a slump in their lives where now they find themselves weak again, regarding one Salah or two Salah This again is shavon and we have talks of this nature to remind you to say don't do that my brothers and sisters, one of the worst things you could do is when Allah has guided you, you tasted the sweetness of that beautiful salah and now because

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something has just been relaxed in your life or for whatever reason it is you've quit again, may Allah subhanho wa Taala never do that to us. Don't go back, fulfill your Salah, strengthen yourself, make yourself strong. Once again, put that alarm in such a way that you don't ever press the snooze button No, as soon as it means Get up. Get up early. If you find yourself a little bit too early, read some Salah or read some Quran. Perhaps if it's the time of the 100 you can read Salah if it is that if it is the time of fudger is already set in and you still would like to perhaps go to the masjid and so on. Then you need to read your sooner or sooner and perhaps read some fun. meet some

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Vicar read a good book, listen to a decent lecture spend a beautiful time early morning doing something but what is the problem? We put our clock at 430 and Salah in the masjid is five 510 and the mustard is two minutes away. So 430 we hit snooze. Next thing we've got up at 515

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huh? Guess why? I misaligned MSG. Okay, okay, fine. Yeah, at least you got your Salah, that's what you're telling yourself.

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The next day I

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got up at 530 Oh, I miss my Salah sunrise was 527 minutes, three minutes. That's the beginning of the end. That's what it is. It's the beginning of the end. But we are supposed to becoming better at this one line become better at it. Before you would get up for 31 law IE There comes a time in your life if you are concerned for 3429 you will be up and you turn off your alarm before it leaves. I tell you one lie. If you are concerned of your salon, about your salon, believe me there will come a time when you set your clock at 430 a minute or two earlier

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you will be up and you will have turned the clock of initial 100 law and you and it does you don't use sleep means nothing means nothing to

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make do all that we see those days now like nothing to us. I mean.

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So this is the gift of Allah never ever achieved something big achievement and then suddenly throw it away. You know, we've gone backwards. Don't do that, like someone who's dressed appropriately, well dressed and they've got a problem in their marriage. Suddenly they might go through a divorce and obviously I'm not picking on anyone This is just off the cuff and suddenly everything comes off. Next thing you're in the ministry What happened? Oh, divorce. So did you are you divorced from Allah?

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Almighty reality? No. You had a problem in your life which is you should be drawing yourself closer to Allah No, I'm fed up with Allah perhaps Allah sent you from something greater. So do not let a little distraction in your life make you become fed up with a line go backwards. People have a little problem financial issue next thing you know they could all the team that they've had said you know I've been making for the last five years inshallah you will make dua until the day you die inshallah and you die in the condition of Duan it's better for you than dying in the condition of quitting and giving up no matter what.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala help us never ever quit because you know what? Ultimately you have to die. How can you have quit before you die? People have problems if you think you have problems there are people who have major issues far bigger than yours. And guess what they have hope natural, keep them going. But if you have a little small pain,

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perhaps in your belly or on your finger, and you lose hope you will be depressed Believe me so depressed, that you won't even know whether you're coming or going so to speak. So my brothers and sisters then there are those who do not fulfill Salah but they want to

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they want to so they tell me to Allah makes me strong. Maybe Allah makes me strong. I'm only reading three Salah day you know, that's excellent, but I used to be two threes much better. Obviously, we do know that three percentage wise from 40% to 60%. You know, three out of five. Oh, that's a big improvement. If someone had to give you that amount of profit in your business you probably say thank you very much, Mashallah.

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Remember one thing it's good that you've achieved yes we acknowledge we pat you on the back but remember

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Do not let shame on make you think that you're doing too well because he stops you at that point

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hey I'm doing well but it's been five years that you really pretty solid come on you this phase must not last more than just a little while. So from three when are you going to move to four Come on. So how Allah Allah blessed you don't just say make two are made is only a part of it a very important part but only a part.

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We cannot do away with Dre definitely but we cannot only do with Tao and Allah has given us the capacity and capability to do something physical about it. And we ignoring that no, Allah says what's the point of making dua alone when I gave you the capacity and you just lifted and you just kept on saying just pray for me it's like the sisters whom Mashallah they are improving the dress code and so on make to have for me it will have for me Yes, we will make do out for you. And Mashallah, but is there going to be like a time limit after which inshallah you're going to click and everything's going to come in place, or even upon death, we look at your sister have been to

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Africa for 20 years. 20 years, I mean to have you all put a scarf on you right? Don't worry. They'll cover your property right now though. No problem. That's why we've always said let not the first day that you are covered decently be the day that you will ensure that after your death

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do it before that.

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Let it not the first day that you are covered decently be the day when you're in shouted upon your death. That's a powerful statement. My brothers, my sisters, something we can learn from not only regarding dress code, but anything we want to change, learn. ask Allah subhanho wa Taala guidance and Helen and not only ask Allah but work towards it make an effort to give you the ability, the chance do you know there are people who've lost their health, they've lost so much they've woken up completely, Mashallah we're sitting here with Allah has blessed us in so many different ways. Start making improvements in your to your life, perhaps the day Allah takes you, He will take you in a

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condition that he is pleased with you. And that's the best tip ever.

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We've spoken about it in the past asking the question, what is the best death? The best day? What is it? It's not how you've died, it's upon which condition you've died.

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It's not how exactly your soul was removed from the body. That's up to Allah. You don't have a say in it. But it is whether or not Allah is pleased with you. If he's pleased with you, and you will crash to pieces, I don't want to become too graphic here. But if he's pleased with you, and you had a very bad sort of an ending in terms of the way physically the soul was removed from the body, but Allah is pleased with you what law you had the best possible way of leaving. That's it, because where are people going to meet you in heaven.

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So this is why the point I'm raising those who are weak with their Salah, and they want to read their Salah, and they keep on saying pray for me or they're praying for themselves or listening to me, that's a powerful prayer. Keep on making the prayer, but with it, make an effort and see what happens. Allahu Akbar, may Allah open our doors and make us strong, then there are those whom they are not regular with their prayer and they couldn't be bothered.

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May Allah never make us from amongst those, I do not believe we would attend the talk of this nature, or want to listen to a talk of this nature, when we are not even bothered about our Salah. I think the Salah comes before a talk of this nature.

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And I'm speaking from experience having spoken to people, people who come to a talk, which motivates you, religiously, 99% of them would be people who at least they have, they are bothered about Salah, I'm not saying they might be regular five times perhaps might be weak, may Allah strengthen us but they have to be bothered. That's what makes them want to come and listen to something motivational to one to turn towards Allah.

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Because I tell you, Allah has made it quite clear.

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He gives, and he tests, those who believe will understand that this is a gift of Allah. This is a test of Allah. And then he snatches away, sometimes sometimes as a point of mercy in order to turn people back to him or towards him for the first time.

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So if a person doesn't want to fulfill their duty unto Allah, sometimes he makes them go through something huge, and we've spoken about it. We've given entire lectures on this topic. And I'm not going to go into details because the statement I can say right here now is that if it is a calamity that brought you close to Allah, Allah, it was a gift of Allah.

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Don't wait for that. Turn to him before that so that it won't come in as a calamity to come in as a challenge. The same thing will happen but you

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looked at totally differently. Now make it easy. So never be from amongst those whom you couldn't even be bothered. That's the lowest degree that you could get to. In fact, there is one degree lower than that. But I don't believe a true movement would do that. And that is those who go out to discourage others from Salah woman

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who can be more oppressive than the one who blocks people from the houses of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And he strives and struggles to actually destroy the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala not do that to us. You know, it's what Allah says, I tell me and

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speaking about the Buddha and others of his qualities, what does Allah say? Do you see the one who is stopping a slave from reading Salah when he's trying to prostrate to Allah?

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And Allah is admonishing, and Allah is making clear that that is criminal behavior. So that's the West.

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In fact, I want to give an example. Some things come to my mind.

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Moments ago, I said, I don't think any one of us can be from them. I don't think we would intentionally do it, but do you know how we unintentionally do it? Sometimes in our company, there is a person who's bothered about Salah, but because we are bigger numbers, and perhaps the person might not be strong enough to say things sometimes especially the youth and the youngsters and those who are adolescent and perhaps growing up and then we tell them Ah, come on, you can beat your Salah later, let's go and he wanted to read the Salah. We say no, you can go let's just go carry on. And then we made him miss his Salah. So one for me not to have fulfill my Salah is a sin. But for me to

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have blocked someone else from fulfilling Salah is an even bigger sin. Give you another example. You see the dress code, sometimes there are people who dress appropriately, but because we are role models in society, people look at us and what do they do? They say I want to be like that. So after they were dressed appropriately because of us, they removed what they had. And Allah subhanho wa Taala may forgive us for what we did to ourselves. But what did you do to others, Allah put you in a position where the higher you are, the more influential you are, the more people look up to you, the more responsible you are for your behavior and for what you do and say and this is why we say my

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brothers and sisters It is part and parcel of the oma we support one another we love one another we encourage one another, the little Nitty gritties we've had a little small, you know, what can I say Miss haps? Or should I say the small misunderstandings we've had? There comes a day when they become bygones. They become okay By the way, okay, you know, 1960 we had this issue. You cannot keep it all the way up to 2014. Come on.

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It's gone. It's gone. Come on. We have Haven't we grown up enough to see a bigger picture we have Subhanallah they are people trampling over the entire oma at least we are sitting together we love one another one line Subhan Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala help us to not be from amongst those whom, when Allah has given you the ability, the capacity that you go around discouraging people directly or indirectly.

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Allah forgive us really, I would The last thing I would want and really and truly make me conscious of this. Because the last thing I would want for myself or for anyone else is to get into the grave and find that okay, I didn't perhaps commit major sin directly myself, but the way I acted on it on earth is such that I encouraged others directly or indirectly and now I'm being made because of what they did. And that can happen because the prophets of Salaam says Manson assume that and say he atten fella who is

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a bad example, they get the sin of it. And of anyone who follows it up to the last day the deaf tiama May Allah forgive me and forgive everyone else. So become strong when you become a powerful person. And even if you're just a mother in the home, sometimes and we're lucky in a lot of homes. I'm not too sure of this particular country, but I do know of people who send me a lot of emails from elsewhere and tell me I tried to dress appropriately my father stopped talking to him.

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My mother told me not to do so and so on and they suffer and people say I try to read salah and really my father doesn't want me to allow them Stan, may Allah safeguard us. Allah help such people and help us but if your childhood you know it's too soon, don't wear a scarf too soon only 1010

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how many kids have died at 1110 nine

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What do you know?

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What do you know? Well, I never do that to us. We don't know this is a man or a child never belongs to you. Did you ever know that? Not ever? It's not your child, we just have the good fortune of seeing my son. I said it a few moments ago.

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That is only referring to the fact that I'm responsible for this ama that Allah has blessed me with that's all.

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And believe me, sometimes it's not a blessing. It's a test. In fact, it is a test. What do you do? We become so attached just because we gave, we will responsible for them being given birth. That's all we become so attached, not realizing, hey, it's Allah Who created Allah who gave Allah who chose Allah who did absolutely everything, Allah who has decreed, and you are in this picture solely to be tested? How do you handle this challenge? That's all nothing else. And this is why I always say those who don't have children. Sometimes Allah has not has chosen to have mercy on them because had they had kids perhaps Allah might have tested them in such a big way that they would have been

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totally depressed. So just relax, thank Allah take a look at those around Mashallah, we thank Allah because the country is not as advanced as other countries, we have slightly less problems and I've actually come to realize this having travelled and seen a lot of countries, the more modern the more modernized the more advanced countries they have different types of problems and everyone is complaining about their children a my child my son don't listen my daughter's like this My that one is like this that's happening that's happening. Thank Allah thank him a million times. If you have children who are decent.

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Lie just think nothing is going to be rosy, 100% way you have everything your way No Never. That will never come to stand to love that. Yeah, Allah I can cope, I can manage keep it this way helped me through my test. When I die, at least I will have died. Having had next to my name. This man kept on reminding his children about salah and about their duty unto Allah. Wow, what a blessing. May Allah help us this evening, I was talking to my own daughter and telling her

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I can tell you what happened. I can let you in on an internal story.

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This evening at five o'clock, she had a glass of milk and she put in there to eat foods foods of Nesquik. Okay, so I looked at her and I said, that's very bad. You don't need to put so much of this in it. And she was upset.

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Upset totally. She didn't think she left it. She went away and I went away too. So what happened? She came back after some time I went into her room locked the room. I said, Hey, you need to talk to you.

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I love you.

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I don't think so.

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was full of nice speakers full of mosquito larvae. But that's a child.

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Then what happened? I started explaining to her look, you know what, the reason why I did what I did was because we worried about you your health. You cannot you need to live responsibly, tomorrow is gone at least. And I sat and chatted with him for half an hour beautiful chat. And she was so delighted after that. She was so happy. She told me I love you 1,000,010 million a lot of times. And that's what is required. I had to just sit and explain. But when it happened, it was the heat of the moment. And you know, maybe I might have said it a little bit rough. But I don't think so sometimes you have to be a little bit hard. You know, when you say things, how could you? He says Why did you

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tell me in front of everyone, but that's your brothers and sisters. It's not everyone. I mean, did I announce it on channel one now? I did

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not forgive me anyway.

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So this is the thing my mother's and sisters, my brothers really We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to help us realize the gift that he's blessed us with, really, we keep trying and it's responsibility that we want to instill within our kids and the biggest sense of responsibilities when they understand their link with their maker, and what it's all about. Because today people are fighting that and they trying to convince the children that you know what, you just share by chance, and you just got to enjoy you just live one since that's it and just have fun. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us may open our doors and May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us or gentlemen, may he

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make us from amongst those whom the most important book in our lives is the Quran. Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all happiness and make us all from amongst those who understand his tests and the challenges and make it easy for us to pass them. And may He never test us with those tests that are too difficult for us to pass on a lot over Salama albaraka Allen Amina Mohammed