Mufti Menk – Sisters Lesson – Surah Ahqaaf – Part 3

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The transcript discusses the title of the book Surah and its relation to the title of the Surah. It touches on the importance of hesitation as a means of protecting against evil behavior and the need for respect for lineage in Islam. The speaker emphasizes the importance of not giving personal information and not being in touch with anyone. The transcript also highlights the importance of shidduch and partnership with Allah as a way to achieve joy and fulfill obligations.
AI: Transcript ©
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inshallah we'll be reading from verse number 15 of pseudo to Lakoff, Page Number 683 of the Noble Quran translation and page number 504 of the Sahih International translation. We will be laying him in a shame on your team Bismillah

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R Rahman Rahim name

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was slain

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had either ba ba,

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ba ba, ba, knee and Ashkelon, aromatic and Lottie and

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Allah wa Lee.

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Li ve ri at

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me to LA Cava mi Mina loose Namie

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have been one who

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was say to him when I was

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teaching him fee

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we're loving Paul anyway I need a

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in the long held

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do was

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being a failure

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to duck Bo.

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Bo, Bobby.

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smilla rahmanir rahim

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al hamdu Lillah Allahu wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Milena v abajo ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam.

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We praise Allah Subhana Allah to Allah We thank him upon all conditions, we asked him to bless us all we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his household, his companions. We ask Allah to bless every single one of them and to grant us goodness in this world and the next Alhamdulillah I mean, my beloved mothers and sisters,

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this morning's lesson is connected to parents and the duties and responsibilities upon us towards our parents. And the way we should be looking at things and it's something very touching because this Surah Surah, Allah half makes mention of some angle or some aspects that is not made mention of in other places. And Allah subhanho wa Taala in verse number 15, says, what was seen as incentive LED, and indeed we have joined up, we have enjoined upon man to his parents, good treatment, which means we have instructed men to treat his parents well. Let's pause for a moment every one of us has parents some of our parents have passed on May Allah grant and gentlemen, some are still alive May

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Allah grant them goodness and a good health. Now there is no excuse to be ill treating parents not at all. No matter what they've said or done, no matter how wrong they are, or no matter how harsh they've been. There is no excuse to Ill treat

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Parents, treatment does not mean obedience we need to know this and get it straight. You never ever has Allah subhanho wa Taala instructed us to obey someone who is wrong to obey someone who is saying something unacceptable to obey someone who is going against the command of Allah subhanho wa Taala no matter who it is. So this is something that needs to be clarified kindness and goodness on one side, and obedience on the other. Obedience is for Allah and Allah alone with his messenger and anyone who is going to conform to what was revealed. There there is obedience. If there is anything that is instructed to us that is against what was revealed abroad by Muhammad Sallallahu sallam.

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There definitely there is no obedience law utterly mahalo confy maaseiah did harlot there is no obedience for a creature against the instruction of the Creator Himself. So this is why it's important for us to know that Allah says we instruct you all men,

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regarding your parents, good treatment, to be good to them, to be kind to them to reach out to them, to make them comfortable, to speak to them with respect, may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us all from amongst those who can modify the way we speak to our parents positively. Meaning we can do something that we can inshallah improve in this aspect. But Allah subhanho wa Taala reminds us why is it that you have to be so good and kind to your parents? What is the big deal? I mean, why they're human beings, they just like us, and they they've got their faults, they're not perfect. They they say things do things sometimes that are wrong. Sometimes they give us guidance that

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happens to plunge us into disarray, and all sorts of things. So what's the big deal? Why parents? Why does Allah say be good to parents? Well, we've got to be good to all the creatures of Allah subhanho wa Taala definitely respect even animals, respect all creatures of Allah subhanho wa Taala that is Islam. And that is the way of peace, that is how we will be at peace and all the creatures of Allah subhanho wa Taala will be at peace. But when it comes to your parents, Allah says, You know, I created you, I made you. And in order to bring you into existence, I could have chosen any way I wanted. I could have just made you all independent creatures who were created, just like Adam

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was created, and each one of you would be totally independent from the other. But I chose for you a way and the path that I decided it was my choice and my choice alone. And I chose for you parents, through whom you came into existence, and it was my choice, not yours. So I want you to respect the passage through which you arrived in this world the way you came into this dunya we chose it for you. So we would like you to respect the fact that that was the choice of Allah. So part and parcel of worshipping Allah is to acknowledge your parents and this is why lineage in Islam is extremely sacred to deny lineage to your father, or to deny your link to your father or to change it or to

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seek lineage to someone besides your father is one of the major major sins of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam clearly says that those who call themselves to parents beside or should I say to a father, besides their father would actually not smell the scent of Jenna and Jenna can be smelled from 500 years away, or 50 years away. According to one of the narrations. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to protect us and Allah says in the Quran, in Surah Al Azhar rumely, Abba, him who

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de la, call them here, speaking of the orphans, speaking of

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those whose parents have passed on those whom you have looked after, in terms of Islamic style adoption, you know, adoption, according to the understanding of the globe today is not exactly the Islamic way of doing things in Islam, you're allowed to look after someone else's child. That's all. That's that. That is the meaning of adoption, looking after. That's it. So they need to know who they are from day one, they must know their lineage. It is so sacred, every human being has the right to know exactly who they are, where they came from, who their parents are, they have the right to know that they must know it, if we are blocking it, stopping it, we are definitely definitely

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earning the Wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah forgive us, May He grant us the ability to make amends. I mean, so the Quran says call them with their father's names, what this means is lineage is always so and so son of so and so. So and So Daughter of so and so. And this is something sacred. So when you say so and so it's the father that counts because the mother herself has a father. So the mother would say, for example, and I'm just going to take a name, say for example, someone's name is Miriam. And her father's name is Abdullah. You got to say Maria Binti Abdullah Maria, the daughter of Abdullah and that is the lineage

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So a surname Alhamdulillah It's fine, it's there because it's the father's surname, and it's known but generally speaking, the father's first name is of importance. Nowadays, we have documents, you know, the passports and so on, you've got first name surname, a lot of the times they don't have the option of father's name, although in Islam, it's sacred. If you look at the Islamic history, from the early

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from the early years, from the early years of Islam, we've always had at least one rabbi, you know, your four names, your name, your father's name, your grandfather's name, and your family name. So you that's how you would go down. So for example, my name would be my most Ebrahim and, and we could add even and even in the middle, which means son of and son off, and then we could carry on the closest people to us in this other Jews, the Jews have something quite similar. They are supposed to also be calling themselves with their father's names exactly as we do. And then at the end, you slot in a surname or family name, the surname can change with the changing of time, sometimes you have a

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person who decides that Okay, now on my laptop, or my family name is going to be known by my grandfather's name. So instead of calling themselves for example, the old surname, they might want to bring in a surname that's a little bit later on, which is not deceiving anyone, that's fine, there is no harm with that there is no problem with that. So it becomes known as the family name, but where there is deception, that is what Allah speaking about. So here, nowadays, like I was saying, you just have a name and a surname that surname should always be following the father, no matter what. And this is an Islamic injunction. And this is something that Islam has taught and it

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requires, and it's one of the basics of Islam, the basics, meaning just like your Salah, aka your very existence is connected to the lineage Allah has chosen you for whether your father is a drunkard or he's a gay or he's an addict, or he is a mortal meaning he's left Islam. Still, you will be known as the child of that Father, no matter what the biggest example is a crema even in Abuja, Abuja. He was the worst enemy of Islam that existed in Mohammed Salah salams lifetime, and he harmed Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam he harmed the muslimeen he was responsible for so much harm and murder and usurping of the Muslim wealth and so on. When his son accepted Islam, he was still known as

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equity man, even in Abidjan or the Allahu

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Allahu Allah means melas May Allah be pleased with him with who with a crema Subhan Allah is both of them were Muslim like Abdullah Omar, we would say only Allah one woman, may Allah be pleased with both of them. So if both were Muslims, you say may Allah be pleased with both of them?

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If one was a Muslim, Allah be pleased with him. So you say a crema even in Abidjan.

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If it was wrong to call yourself with the name of a parent who happens to be sinful, or who happens to be a, you know,

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militant, you know, he's abandoned Islam, apostasy or what have you know, the crimes that are perhaps committed according to the plan, and the sooner you would still have to call them if there was if that was the case, were you allowed to drop it because of sin, a crema would be the first one to drop it. Somehow Nola. The same applies to the son of Abdullah, nobody even knew saloon. You know, this was with the head of the hypocrites. He had a son as well. And he had children Subhan Allah, they were always called the children of Abdullah and obey. And this is what it is. So this is something that Allah subhanho wa Taala makes clear.

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The same applies. If, for example, a person for purposes of paperwork happens to add a surname to a child that is their own, because they've adopted the child and they are trying their best to strike a balance between the system that happens to be in place in non Muslim countries and the Islamic system, then for as long as there's no deception in it and the child is quite is made aware of the fact from from the very earliest ages of understanding that look, you are actually the child of so and so and this is your proper surname, but we've used the surname in order to facilitate for example, travel or paperwork or whatever else, then by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. If that

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was your last resort, and that was the way out, then by the will of Allah you will not be responsible, although we ask Allah to forgive us for having done that. Similarly, there is a huge debate as to whether when you get married, you're actually allowed to adopt your husband's name. So a lot of the scholars, the majority of the oma says it is haram. And it's forbidden, because that is stealing your identity. And if you were to be divorced two or three times you would be thrown from pillar to post having different surnames every few years. So the truth is, the majority of the scholars say you must maintain your name, your father's name and your father's surname, even if

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you're married, that is the majority of the scholars of Islam. However, if you have to change your name because of paperwork and if you have to change your name because not because of deception, but because you want to facilitate

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state that the the the understanding that you are now married, and some of the scholars do say that it is permissible. So for as long as people know that the statement is no longer Maria, the daughter of Abdullah but it is now Maria, the wife of Abdul Rahman. So, there is always even xeljanz. So even would mean have been meaning the daughter of Eben meaning the son of, or zoologia means the wife of so for example, you would say such and such is the daughter of so and so that you can never add the husband's name because that's a lie you're not the daughter of but if you nowadays we keep quiet, for example, is my Messiah he people would know, is my son of Moses, Allah. But when you say Marian,

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Abdullah, a lot of people would know Maria, the daughter of Abdullah, but after a while you if a person is if Maria was married to a man, for example, she would be known as Maria, Maria and Zelda Tara man, so and so so and so. So although like I said, the bulk of the scholars prohibited and I would I would actually say, if you do not have to do it, don't if you really do not have to do it, do not keep it maintain it. A lot of the people on the globe, keep it in the States women's rights. Why must a man come and steal your identity? Who is he? Who does he think he is, and he doesn't show or depict love, because so many people who've taken the identities of their husbands have actually

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suffered divorce, and thereafter take the identity of someone else and someone else and someone else, you know, so the most correct and upright thing in terms of women's rights. And I think someone will begin to advocate this, if they haven't already done this, even in the West, is to maintain your identity, your own identity, who are you? People need to know I'm the daughter of so and so up to the day I die. That's my father, man. And that's not your husband up to the day you die. And when he dies, guess what, you'll have a husband who teach you even better than him and he took your name first time as Clozaril. Alexander's good husbands and wives. I mean, so it's just an

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example I'm giving but the point being driven home is why does why a parent so important did Allah subhanho wa Taala ever speak in the similar way, regarding your spouse, spouses are important, yes, but not as important as your parents No way. treatment, a good treatment, respect of both parents, not one, even if they're divorced, even if one has died, even if something has happened. Even if one is sinful. You respect them, you treat them well. you fulfill their rights. But were they asked you to do something against the rule of Allah, it is null and void. It is completely unacceptable. Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us East For example, one parent tells you after a divorce, don't be in touch

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with the other that's Haram. That's their weakness that's shape on coming to overtake him, and so on. And Subhanallah you would

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discount that you would actually throw it apart, because you know that there is no obedience for a creature against the command of Allah subhanho wa Taala. However, if really someone is extremely evil, and they've done a lot of bad and harm to stay away from them is not wrong. If your parents are bad people, they've done so much evil and wrong, and they have such a bad influence on you that when you see them, you become depressed. There is no harm in staying very far away from them. Not at all. But don't disrespect them. Don't send them WhatsApp messages with swear words. I'll just give you an example. Don't send them messages with You're insulting them no need just stay away. Make dua

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for them. That's it stay far away. Because why the person is evil, very bad, asking you to do something very, very unacceptable or they themselves have proven qualities where firsthand, we know that they are completely and totally evil.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding. It's a very tricky situation. And it's tricky in the sense that when a child is growing up, and the parents happen to suffer divorce or something goes on, they're normally the one whom they grow up with would contaminate their minds against the other in 99% of the cases, especially with ethnic Indians and Pakistanis. May Allah forgive us all. If you have Christians and Jews, they probably treat themselves much better because we do know of how they have an open mind in this regard. And they say look, as much as I think he's a he's a dog, for example, I still believe is your father, Allahu Akbar. And that's exactly how they

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think. But we don't think that way. We think no, the fact that he is the one of the best individuals in the world, the fact that I was divorced from him Colossi that makes him a dog. stopzilla. So Well, that was May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us and Allah forgive us. So the rights of parents are so great that if you deny the lineage even to a calf, who is your parent, you have committed a grave crime against Allah. Allah says if you don't know the parent, for inlanta llama home for a while, no confit de pneumonic.

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You don't know the parent, you don't know who the parents are. You either call them son of Abdullah, the son of the worshipper of Allah or use, for example, you say this is a person I've looked after. So it's so and so being looked after by so and so. So there is no harm in that.

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But you don't if you don't know the parent you don't lie to say this is my child, not your child. Come on, come on no matter what. This is why it's very tricky. May Allah grant those without children children, but to adopt is sometimes not even an option for those who fear Allah sometimes because it's very difficult to strike the balance. Some people really feel if I adopt I would like the child to take my name never to see the parents again, when Who the * are you? Who do you think you are? The child's lineage is sacred, Allah created the child and chose not to give you kids harass. That's it, you gotta surrender to it. You cannot lie. You can look after them. Look after an

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orphan allow give you gentlemen, look after someone else's kid Allah will grant you gentlemen. But don't ever think for a moment, I want to take away their lineage and pretend like it's mine. Come on. Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy. A lot of people don't have children. And a lot of people have adopted and some have adopted even with their own children. But that doesn't make it permissible to lie to them that you are my child. I know of of a certain individual, who only found out that those whom he called mum and dad were not his mum and dad, 16 years later, and he became depressed. And when he went to the social services, one law he from Allah, they told him that it's

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Sorry, it's blocked, we can't let you know. We've signed, you know, the laws of adoption in this country. And in a lot of other countries. There's a clause that states this never to be disclosed. He actually told me personally what law he he says, I'm not allowed to have a long birth certificate.

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Think about it. If it was you for a moment, I'm not allowed to know who my father or mother is. So what if she dumped you She's your mother. So what if she threw you in the bill? That's your mother.

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Allah decided to keep you and you survived. In order to show that your heart was good, she might have repented and want to reach out to you one day, my mother, that's your mother, she might be crying, she might be the biggest source of blessing for you. Allah may have forgiven her she may have turned to ally and be in paradise before you and here you are thinking No way.

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And the people who picked you up think that you know what, this child here is mine.

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Yours can wait.

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You can there's no harm in telling the child we looked after you we found not in a way that you're trying to brag about it, but in a way that you making clear to say you know, this was your history and Mashallah we found you. You know, recently I've been going through a lot of video clips of children who've been maimed or children who are disabled, either in Afghanistan or Iraq and so on. Christian homes, non Muslim homes in America have taken them and brought them up in a way that I do not think most Muslims would ever do. Go and see, go to the net, go to YouTube, go and check. Kids without hands and arms and kids without noses and anything who who wants to adopt a child with no

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nose, no arms, nothing. They say this is Bella but go and see the non Muslims how they treat those kids. And they don't lie to them. You're my child. They say look, you Yes, you can call someone dead. There's no harm in that for as long as they know that that is just a dead figure. It's not really my personal father my own dead. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us deepness, a deep forgiveness. Allah subhanho wa Taala really opened our doors. It's something I'm passionate about my mothers and sisters. This is why Allah says we have enjoined upon men to his parents, good treatment, his mother carried him now this is what makes a mother different. This is what makes your

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mother so important. This is why you're not supposed to disrespect your own mother, you are allowed to correct her you are allowed to stop her when she is going wrong. You do not you do not obey her instruction when it is unreasonable or unacceptable. But all of that is not connected to disrespect. You are not allowed to disrespect her.

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You can't swear you can't yell at and so on.

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He's mother carried him with a hardship and gave birth to him with hardship. hardship.

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One Allah one.

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Quran wa two Quran in another place. Allah says his mother gave birth carried him.

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It was imposed upon her imposed meaning she had no she had now no option but to carry no option but to give birth to with hardship.

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And his gestation and weaning period is 30 months.

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This was men you, myself, everyone included.

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Her mother's carried us with hardship and gave birth to us with hardship. So at least respect that. At least respect that.

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And his gestation and weaning which means the pregnancy period plus the weaning off from the breast is 13 months. Now 13 months in another place Allah speaks about about the gestation Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about the breastfeeding being two years so how come the breastfeeding plus the gestation is 13 months? Something very interesting. Two years, add another six months it makes it 30 months 24 plus six. This in Islam is the minimum gestation period.

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six months, and it would go up to nine months. Obviously, the maximum doesn't exist, but

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six months is the minimum gestation period. And then breastfeeding is allowed for two entire years. For those who want to complete that period, they may do so thereafter, they should read the child Two years later, male or female.

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No difference between male and female. Recently, someone asked me a question about females and males and the difference between the two and the gestation? No, no, no, no, the breastfeeding is the same two years after that you win the child off. And now you have the verse saying it is 13 months. So there's no contradiction. It's actually in one place. Allah says the breastfeeding is two years, the complete period of it. And here Allah says the gestation plus the breastfeeding is 13 months, which makes the gestation minimum six months. And this is why when those who have given birth

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to a child before six months

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after being married, unless the child has been declared premature by medicine or by the doctors, perhaps it would be considered illegitimate in some circumstances. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deeper understanding, I won't go into details of that I just made mention of it in passing. So then Allah subhanahu wa Jalla says, until when he reaches maturity and reaches the age of 40, he says, Now this is an instruction from Allah and it is also a description of those who are good, those who are kind of dutiful unto their parents. Sometimes you only understand the value of your mother and father when you clock 40

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because at a young age, you say this father of mine is a pain. This mother of mine is really a pain and so on the clock, the age of 40 you may understand because now you have your own children and you see what goes on. By the age of 14, many would be grandparents if they're married at 20 May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us I know of one of the friends of mine, he's about 45 years old,

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and he's a grandfather. Mashallah 45 grandfather, well, who knows, I could be one too May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us goodness and ease. So this is Allah subhanho wa Taala telling us that when he reaches maturity, he becomes mature and reaches the age of 40 years. 40 years is more or less like the middle of life. It's like the peak of that mountain then you start going downhill after that you get aches here and there. Your toes begin to ache, May Allah forgive us, grant us protection from aches and pains and diseases and sickness and mela grand cure to those who are struggling in any way in that regard. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says at 40 years, he says, what

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does he say he makes it to add to Allah, He calls out to Allah and this he and she, Allah uses the term he because in the Arabic language is called the leap, where if you have males and females included, then you use the masculine term. So that's just linguistics, but feminine is included in it. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says at that age, he says, My Lord, enable me to be grateful for your favor which you have bestowed upon me. My Lord enabled me to grant me the ability to grant me the ability to be grateful for your favor, which you have bestowed upon me your favor. That means now I recognize your favor upon me, and I'm asking you to give me the ability, why the ability, it's not

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hard to look, it's not easy to look after your parents, it's quite difficult. It's not easy to be, you know, so patient anymore. You're now 40 your parents are probably 6080 wherever they are. You need to look after them. They become so difficult. That's Allah He tells you that in the Quran, that you know, when when kids are young, they, yes, they do all sorts of silly things, but they kids, they they excused, then you grow to an age, you know, you come to the middle of your age, and after that, you become old and you become a pain. You know, why? Because people expect you to understand things to speak properly and correctly, but no one realizes you go back into your childhood type of

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mind and thinking at the same time, because you're so old, you don't want to admit that you're wrong. So now to live with such people, that's your paradise. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, My Lord, enable me make it easy for me, grant me the ability to do what to be grateful for your favor, which you have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteously

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of which you will approve and make righteous from for my offspring make righteous for me my offspring. So Allah subhanho wa Taala is being asked by the righteous individual, the good person, each one of us should be making this dua to Allah or Bo z and ash Koran aromatic allottee. And under Allah Yahweh Allah Allah de wanama lasallian tapa was literally if he read it in me to be to la caja in a minute muslimeen learn the dua. ask Allah guidance. It is verse number 15 of surah Allah cough, and Allah Subhana Horta and that is Surah number 46.

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Allah says, This is the dua my lord enable me to be grateful for your favor which you have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work and to work

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righteousness of which you will approve and make righteous for me my offspring Indeed, I have repented to you. And indeed, I am of the Muslims, I am of the submitters. So you're asking Allah to grant your goodness to grant you the ability to be thankful I grant you the ability to be thankful, because it's not easy to be thankful you need to have the ability, you ask Allah to grant you the ability to be thankful to be grateful, to be able to thank Allah for the favors, to be able to look and identify the favors of Allah upon you. We're lucky we have been blessed so much, we have been blessed, so much so many favors upon us, Allah has bestowed but we take them for granted, we

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concentrate on what Allah has taken away. We never ever look at what Allah has left with us. This is why one of the shapes that I was listening to recently, he was making mention of how important it is that when something is taken away from you, Allah will always take things away from me and from you. When something is taken away from you. Never look at what was taken away. Look at what Allah left with you.

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If you if you concentrate upon what Allah took away from you, you will never ever be happy. Because there are about 10 things out of the million billion that you have, for example, and you're you depressed, you lead a life of depression and you die in depression because I didn't have 10 things. Come on. You didn't have 10 things. Well, Allah blessed you with another billion things. And there are other people whom 100 things have gone and they still happy.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for us. So Allah says, it's important to be able to be grateful to be granted the ability to recognize the favors of Allah and grant me the ability to be grateful for your favor which you have bestowed upon me and upon my parents. The biggest favor is a man, the biggest favor is to believe in Allah alone, to protect yourself from sherek to protect yourself from anything that is not revealed by Allah subhanho wa Taala in terms of belief, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all goodness, steadfastness, and the ability to tread upon the state path. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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and grant me the ability to be grateful

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to be grateful for your favor which you have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness, to work in a way that is full of righteousness.

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Which you will approve let me do things that you will approve your Allah

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and Allah subhanaw taala let me do things which you will approve Amala Salah according to a lot of them have a serene his deeds that are in conformity to what Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam has brought. they conform with the teachings of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam or confirm, conform to them, that if you take a look at good deeds, you know, deeds, the here we're talking of acts of worship, any act of worship that is not taught by Mohammed Salah Salem expressly is actually invalid. It's not there. Yes, you may want to volunteer to do certain things for as long as they don't contradict with Allah subhanho wa Taala message and they are not direct acts of worship. For

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example, if I want to turn on the light for someone, it doesn't mean a where is the evidence I need to turn on a light if it's not there, I'm not going to turn it on. No, that is something that falls within the bracket of permissibility. It's something encouraged, it's being good, but if you want to read it and for example, an extra Salah one more aka at the end of your four because you're so excited because of the gifts of Allah upon you. You're not allowed because that was not taught by Muhammad Sallallahu sallam. So this verse covers both things. One is the issue of shidduch. The issue of the Association of partnership with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And to is the fact that you

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need to obey the instruction of Mohammed Salah Salam when it comes to acts of worship, and when it comes to the general way of life. But here is the, the the obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala the worshipping of Him alone and the insurance that the acts of worship that we fulfill will only be those which were taught by Muhammad Salah Salah that's when you will succeed in your life and that's when we all succeed so Allah subhanho wa Taala says, grant me the ability to do righteous deeds that you will accept that our Salah that you will be happy with that Allah those which make you happy, make me do deeds that make you happy. So this is why be in constant thought always ask questions

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what I'm doing is it right? Is it okay? Is it correct? You know what I've been trained to do? Is it fine? Is it okay? Is it correct? Is it up right? Will this please Allah if it doesn't throw it out? change.

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So, so then at the end of that statement, or that Allah says this person who understands his link with Allah sees in his indeed I have repented to you or Allah, and indeed I am from the submitters. submitters means I surrender to your instruction, even if I don't like something stuff like I make myself like it because I'm a Muslim.

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Upon lung, imagine a person

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who gets up from a deep sleep Subhanallah solely and only to worship Allah Subhana

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Whoa, Adela, they've definitely understood their purpose in this life.

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You leave your luxuries, whatever luxuries you have solely to read your Salah to obey Allah instruction. you've understood why you're here. And you know what we're here just for a few more minutes. That's it few more minutes gone.

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Let go on this forgiveness the day he takes us away, man, You grant us a good death. I mean, then Allah says verse number 16. Those are the ones from whom we will accept the best of what they did. And we will overlook their misdeeds. Imagine those who respect their parents, those who call out to Allah to grant him the ability to be able to fulfill the rights of their parents and to be able to do deeds that are pleasurable to Allah and to be able to, and making dua for their offspring that Oh Allah, make righteous for me my offspring, Allah says those who say, I repent to you, Oh Allah, and those who say, indeed, I'm from amongst Muslims, those are the ones who we will accept the best of

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the deeds that they have done, and we will overlook their misdeeds and their sins. There. They're being among the companions of Paradise, they will be in paradise SubhanAllah. So if you want to be in Paradise, take a look at verse number 15. Look at the draft, understand its meaning, look into it quite deeply read it often understand with its meaning and continue to understand it.

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And by the will of Allah, Allah says, We will accept the good deeds and we're going to wipe out your bad deeds. We will accept the best of your deeds, I'm sure all of us, there have been times in our lives, May Allah increase those times when we've really done some really decently good deeds. And we believe in ourselves, we feel so good when we think some Hanalei ally did this only and solely for you, well, Allah says, You know what we know we know exactly what you did. And we know how beautiful it was. And we will accept from you the best of your deeds and the other deeds, we wipe them out if they were bad, gone, on condition that you understand the gift of Allah, parents don't deny lineage.

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Don't disassociate yourself from your parents in a way that you disrespect them. No, not at all. If there's, like I said, if there is reason, to stay away, because of whatever that is valid in Islam, then Alhamdulillah like someone is really bad company really evil, they always you know, picking on you and telling you to do evil things. In that case, you know, like we always say, heaven does not lie at the feet of those mothers that are not even going to heaven in the first place. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us.

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I mean, if your mother is telling you to drink a bottle of alcohol, you can see heaven lies under her feet or at her feet. So now let me just drink the bottle because that's how I go to heaven, and always be drunk. And you will you'll you'll have gone against the instruction of Allah so let's not misinterpret that completely, not at all.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, those are the ones May Allah make us from amongst them. I mean, may Allah make us from amongst them, I mean, those are the ones from whom we will accept the best of what they did and overlook their misdeeds than being from among the companions of Paradise. That is the promise of truth, which Allah or which they had been promised, obviously, by Allah, what the city lady Can you are doing, what powerful words are used in this beautiful verse, Allah says, Now a warning. Now that was goodness, isn't it? Allah promises Jenna, he promises forgiveness, he gives us old he says, The evil deeds that you may have that you may have done, we will wipe them out

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completely unconditioned, that you repent and turn and do good deeds and submit and understand the value of your parents and so on and fulfill their rights in every way and ask a lot to protect you from shitcan at the same time to prove to protect you from acts of worship that are not taught by Mohammed Salah Salem, and Allah gives a warning.

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On one hand, he says okay, these those people will go to jail. And on the other hand, he's telling us who will go to Johanna, Allah says,

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but the one who says to his parents off of means like I'm disrespectful to the parents, you know?

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And so on whatever sounds are being made, sometimes it's worse than the sound, those who are disrespectful to their peers, but the one who says to his parents off to you, Do you promise me that I will be brought forth from the earth when generations before me have already passed on into oblivion, while the parents are calling Allah's help.

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And their to their son, they are telling their son woe unto you believe become a mcminn be become a believer. Indeed, the promise of Allah is the truth. But he says the child says, This is not but legends of the form of people's only stories about the role of money in these are lines that are written by the old folks long time ago people used to believe now who wants to believe this is what's happening today.

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When you tell people believe they say no believe in what Come on everything is just natural nature. Why can the merciful God allow so much of harm and so much of destruction to happen on earth? May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us from this time

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So the parents are saying here.

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Well, the child is disrespectful to the parent. And this verse is showing us the relationship between the child who is reneging the child who is disobedient, when the parents are calling the child towards Allah. But when a parent is calling you against Allah, then obviously like I said, there is no obedience for them. However, you respectfully abstain, respectfully, not disrespectfully, respectfully, you may want to engage them in beautiful discussion, but you do not become disrespectful. So Allah says, the one who says to his parents, to you Do you promise me that I will be brought forth from the earth when the generations before me have already passed on into

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Obviously, we will all be brought forth, life is so short, we're all going to die, we're all going to be buried and when we are buried, we will be decomposed into the soil and one day resurrected. So a person who denies that is actually a fool. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, they are making dua for their son look at the relationship between parents and children. The child is saying something evil but the parent does not make a bad dog. The parent actually makes a good deal. The parents do. They continue to say Oh Allah, bring this child, Oh Allah, let the child believe Oh Allah, let the child come to goodness Subhan Allah.

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And yet, the child says no ways these are all stories of the past,

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Tales of the past.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala warns regarding those children, Allah wants them themselves, the children, Allah says, those are the ones upon whom the word or the decree has come into effect will be among the nations which had passed on before them of jinn and men. Indeed, they were all losers.

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And for all, there are degrees of reward and punishment for what they have done. So people will either be rewarded or they will be punished.

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And it is so that he may fully compensate them for their deeds, and they will not be wronged.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant His forgiveness. May He opened our doors, may he really open our doors, the doors of goodness, May He grant us the ability to respect our parents and to understand our duty unto Allah and to understand why Allah has kept our parents and the lineage so sacred. the respect of our parents and lineage so important.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says, and this is the last verse I will read for this morning, Allah says,

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and the day those who disbelieved are exposed to the fire, it will be said to them,

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You exhausted your pleasures during your worldly life and enjoy them. So this day you will be awarded with punishment, the punishment of extreme humiliation because you were arrogant upon the earth without rights, and because you were defiantly disobedient. So Allah warns us from disobedience warns us from arrogance and ground and obviously tells us that those who disbelieve Allah says to them

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hepatoma ye batty confy hayati, como dunya. All the nice things you wanted, you already got them in the world, you had no rules and regulations imposed on you, or you felt that you had no rules or regulations imposed on you. So you did as you wished and yours was the paradise on earth. So now what do you want from us? You already did what you wanted. You did not do what we wanted. You did what you wanted to now this help I talk about it's such a straightforward blunt statement. When we say blunt we mean direct, so direct, Allah says Yes, you did good you told the truth you did everything but you just believed in us So what happened? You got all your your goodness that you

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might have engaged in all the good deeds you may have done as a disbeliever you got the recompense of it on us we gave you good health we gave you cold water we fed you we made you happy we gave you children who were the coolness of your eyes while you were on earth. And now all your coupons are used. Everything is gone. Now what do you want from us? Now you've come into the year after that you never even believed you didn't believe that you are going to be resurrected. You never wanted to believe we sent messages. We sent messengers we send so many reminders but you just didn't want so Allah says now what do you want?

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Me that never happened to us my mothers and sisters.

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where Allah subhanho wa Taala sends us messages and messengers and reminders and one after the other we keep on being reminded stop doing bad continue doing good. Stop doing bad. Stop engaging in sin stop dressing inappropriately stop missing your Salah, stop disobeying with this should I say disrespecting you know number one is disobeying Allah number two is disrespecting your parents and so on. Stop all in. We didn't bother. We were not interested. We just did as we pleased, as I please. That's what I did as I please. So now because a person does as they pleased, or did as they pleased in this world now what will happen

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In the Fira, Allah subhanho wa Taala. Forgive us, May Allah help us make amends. May Allah help us return to Him. And may Allah help us to, to be able to thank him. Allah give us the ability to be thankful to God and ash Quran ametek allottee and under Allah Allah Allah Allah day 1am Allah subhana wa wa was literally fever re emitted to la caja de mina muslimeen wa Salatu was Salam. ala nabina Muhammad Subhan Allah subhana wa salam, O Allah, Allah and I still feel like I wanted to boil it.

Sisters Lesson from Harare, Surah Ahqaaf Part 3.

The missing parts were covered by other scholars in the absence of Mufti Menk.

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