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Jumu’ah Lecture from London
Holloway Masjid

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Alhamdulillah nahama do who wanna stir you know who wanna study he wanna do Billahi min Cerulean fusina huaming say, Medina Manya de la, la la la la,

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la la de la

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la ilaha illAllah hula hula sharika wash hadoo Ana Mohammed Abu rasuluh wasafi you who

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are here to whom in healthy he salatu wa salam O Allah Allah Allah subhanaw

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taala iva de la what Takuya momento Jonah de la la

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coluna maka Saba to home Lola moon, my brothers and sisters It is important for us to remind each other every single time to be conscious of Allah subhanho wa Taala to develop what is known as dakoda. choco is piety or it is the consciousness of Allah subhanho wa Taala some translated as the fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala it should be making us develop closeness to Allah and the distance from anything that displeases Allah subhanho wa Taala. Brothers and sisters, the fav is upon us are many, if you look at the gifts of Allah subhanho wa Taala upon us, we will never be able to count all of them. As he says, we

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do need una de la de la. So

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if you are going to try to count the gifts of Allah, all of them upon you, you will never be able to count all of them, you will always perhaps count many but not at all. Every single one of them. from among the gifts of Allah is the fact that you have a man you have belief in Allah subhanho wa Taala the fact that you and I are followers of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the fact that Allah brought us into this earth so that we can worship him. That's the gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala we are going to be leaving this earth very soon. Allah brought us here in order to prove ourselves to Him that we will worship Him alone. So that is a gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala another great gift

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of Allah subhanho wa Taala is the fact that he allows us to get married Subhan Allah Subhana Allah, it's a great gift of Allah. May Allah make it easy for those who are not married, to get married. Once people are married, Subhan Allah what happens? the favor of Allah is to bestow them with children with offspring. Everyone wants to have children. May Allah bless those who don't have children, with children. I mean,

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when we have children Subhana Allah what happens? We want to have more than one. A lot of the time someone says you know what, I'd like to have a son and the daughter and Allah chooses whether he wants to give you sons only daughters only sons and daughters, or neither sons nor daughters, may Allah subhanho wa Taala, bestow upon us His blessings. Remember, what ever Allah has done for you. He has actually given you what is most suitable for you. That's what he has done. So we may sometimes be upset because of something never be upset if you're a true believer. If you're a true believer, you are never upset with the decree and decision of Allah subhanho wa Taala. from among

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the gifts of Allah is he gives you siblings Subhana Allah siblings meaning your brothers, your sisters, do you know that's a great gift of Allah ask those who don't have brothers and sisters, even the children they will tell you, I want to sister Subhana Allah. Recently someone thought I was Santa Claus with the wrong beard color. And they were saying please can I have a sister and this was a little boy. Random, so random, I got a shock. And I said anyway, may Allah bestow them with guidance, goodness, and whatever they're asking for as well. But the point being, even a little child will say if you were to ask them, What do you want, they will say I want to sister I want a

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brother. The reason I raised this today is because as we grow older, we lose the value of these siblings that Allah has bestowed upon us. Allah gives you a gift of a brother, a sister, when you're young Mashallah you grow up together. I want to start off by speaking to the younger ones, value your brother's value your sisters, trust me. Soon they will be married and gone and you won't even be able to spend so much time with them. And yet, we will arguing and squabbling over small matters while we are young. Don't let that happen. When you're young, stand up for one another, teach one another guide one another. And when I say stand up for one another, I don't mean in that which is

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wrong. But in that which is good, what

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would be the what

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if me Well, anyway.

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help one another when it comes to goodness and righteousness and do not assist one another when it comes to enmity and disobedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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same would apply Allah says what up Allah be conscious of Allah subhanho wa Taala it would apply with siblings as well. You help your little brother, you help your sister, you see, you might go to school together, you might come back from school together. And as you grow older, you might choose to go to a different college. And that's where things quickly separate. things quickly separate. But I want to inform you of another gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala today, and that is communications. They've become so easy. you communicate with people much easier than we used to when I was young. And some of those older than me, you probably know how difficult it was you write a letter A month

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later it arrives at your brother, they read it and reply, it takes them a week to do that, and it will come back to you A month later. That's two and a half months before you've even said hello, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us forgiveness. Nowadays, you see someone you can talk to them. The problem is, we use it in the wrong way. When last Did you call your siblings? No matter where they are? They could be somewhere in another country. When did you phone them? When did you speak to them? When did you have a video call with them? For example, yet we can do that with the wrong people. We can actually call people for business on a daily basis because we want to earn the pound

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and the dollar while we're in the dunya. But we're lucky we forget to earn the currency of the earth Hara. Allah made them your brothers Allah made them your sisters in order to test you what is going to be your relationship with them? Are you going to fulfill what Allah has instructed you to fulfill?

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Allah brought me into life, he chose who's going to be my brothers. I need to be aware of that. He chose who's going to be my sisters, I need to value them. I need to help them I need to reach out to them. He chose my parents. But I don't want to speak much about parents today because that's a topic on its own. I want to speak more about siblings, your brothers, your sisters, as you grow older, you find life takes you to different places. And like I said, even at university level, perhaps one might go to a different city, a different country. How much are you in touch with them? Are you in touch in a positive way or a negative way? understand it's the plan of Allah. Some people they pick

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on their siblings just because this one is younger, just because that one is darker just because this one perhaps is not doing that well in life. Or just because this one has done so well in life, we become jealous, etc. No way. It's a test of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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Surah Baqarah right at the beginning, Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about fulfilling the relations that he has instructed you to fulfill. He chose for you, your relatives because it's a test for you. If it was not a test, you would have been able to choose your own relatives. The fact that Allah chose it means it's a test for you. Anything you have had absolutely no say in whatsoever. It's the biggest test for you remember, as a human being and as a movement. Even if your siblings are not believers. How much have you spoken to them? How have you related to them? Sometimes the way we relate to our relatives who perhaps are not Muslim is such that we chase them away from the goodness

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of Islam. We chased them away in a way that Subhan Allah we become an embarrassment for our own Deen and our faith.

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You just have to say, I love you. There's no harm in loving your brothers and sisters who are belong to a different faith. We love them. Rarely because they are our siblings and blood. We may not agree with what they have chosen but don't we disagree on so many other matters? We love each other for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala when we share the faith and the deen but this misrepresentation to say you're not allowed to love Subhan Allah just because they're not mean when they're your brothers and sisters. That is something that is a grave misunderstanding. Subhana Allah, we care for them. Yes, love is of different types. This is the filial love. This is the love of your siblings,

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why not? We will reach out to them, I care for you. Do you need anything? Is there anything I can do for you? Do you know if you want to have an impact in somebody's life, you need to show them you care. You need to show them you love them. If you don't do that you will never have a positive impact in their lives. And if you don't show them by telling them nowadays, it's more important to be accurate. Even between husband and wife, you know that a long time back they did not use to say I love you as much as we do today we have to today because they would prefer to feel it rather than to say it with us. We want both the feeling and the saying you need to repeat it again. But remember to

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send these messages to your brothers, your sisters and your children and go beyond to those who are related to you closely the choice of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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shown. Boom.

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Allah speaks of those who have sound intellect those who will

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be earning. They are the ones who fulfill the relations that Allah has instructed them to fulfill. Starting with your siblings. If you want paradise you need to fulfill these relations. You need to know how to maintain ties. And this is why if you look at Surah Nisa, the opening verse, Allah says, What duckula de

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Luna v one.

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Be conscious of Allah, whose name you use when you're asking one another important matters. We use the name of Allah, don't worry. Allah says Be conscious of Allah subhanho wa Taala and be conscious of your relations, your relatives, who are they? How do you treat them, no matter who they are, you're supposed to be good and kind to your parents, even if they're not Muslim, and you have love for them because they are your parents. And this is why you care for them, you reach out to them Subhanallah the same would apply to your brothers, your sisters, your family members. So Allah subhanho wa Taala praises those who go out of their way to give that reassurance to those whom they

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are related to remember this

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and another verse also in sudo to write and we find it in Surah Baqarah as well. where Allah warns us when Latina Yakubu na de la he Mubarak Demeter Aki poco nama mount on long will be IE you

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why okoto onomah long will be

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our you see do Navin una eagala? Houma La La Akbar Allah says the cursed are those who

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break the relations that Allah has instructed them to maintain the cursed or those who break the relations.

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Allah says in Surah Al Baqarah, hola como hacer una, they are the losers. Allah says I gave you your brother I gave you your sister. I gave you your relatives I gave you, your parents, your children? Why do you just go and break the relation with the smallest of reasons, a lot of the time gets connected to money matters. It's connected to sometimes perhaps you got married, they got married, maybe the spouses didn't get along. So they divide the brothers or sisters themselves, why that is not the way men should operate. Allah says those are the losers. Imagine being called a loser. We would not like that. So the encouragement from the pulpit today is let's go out of our way to

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maintain our family ties. Let's message our brothers and sisters to tell them how much we love them. Let's message them to say how much we care for them. Let's call them Let's invite them over once in a while. While law he asked those who live a singular life with no relatives or those who are in distant lands they can never ever get together. They will tell you that you know what I feel lonely. Sometimes, they will be so happy when they see another family with so many relatives and they will in their heart feel. I wish I was a part of this. So let's never ever forget the value of family members. The problems you have in your family are a test from Allah. Your challenge is to solve that

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problem to resolve the matter come what may solve the problem and Allah will bless you may Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us goodness and May Allah subhanahu wa taala open our doors, my brothers and sisters. What is absolutely important for us to realize is a true maintainer of family ties is not someone who is in relation with those whom he or she is related to when it is convenient. But rather, when the ties have been broken, the better of the lot is the one who does not give up trying to mend that relation Subhanallah sometimes you have a family member perhaps suddenly on drugs, may Allah protect us, or they have chosen a wrong path. For example, they might have lost the way

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somewhere, depending on how close they are to you the feeling you have in your heart. Why do we give up? Don't give up? It can be a lifetime your life is going to be average 60 to 70 years. If you're lucky, a little bit more. Why do you want to give up in that short space of time? You need to keep on trying someone says well, you know I've given up hope, my son on drugs. I've known of people who've been on drugs for 20 years come out of that and now they don't miss their Salah in the first serve in the masjid because someone did not give up. That's why but there are others give up on them at a very young age and God Subhana Allah maintain a good relation, maintain a relation in a good

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way by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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Till they see the light. And this is why the best of us is the one whom, when the other is being difficult, and we still continue to be good and kind. And it brings me to the powerful point, never lose the sense of your goodness because of the evil of someone else. Someone else is being bad someone else has sworn you, you don't swear back. But rather what you've got to do is you must make sure that you maintain the goodness and it is through the durability of your goodness that is maintained, that they soon shall see the light by the will of Allah and minimum is Allah will reward you. When you do good to someone, you're doing good for the sake of Allah. Remember, I am good to

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you not because I think you deserve it, or I deserve it. But rather because Allah has instructed me to do that. And therefore it is an honor to be good and kind as per the instruction of Allah, I want to earn the pleasure of Allah when I do it for Allah. I'm not worried about what you do to me in return. But when I do it for my own game, then I will only be good to those whom I know when I have put in my investment they're going to give me back a greater return. May Allah forgive that type of thinking. May Allah make us from those who understand. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all goodness barakallahu li walakum wa sunanda anyway, yeah, combi Murphy Hema mean it will hikma Hakuna

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