We all make Mistakes

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Mufti Menk Jumu’ah
Topic: We all make mistakes
Masjidul Quds CapeTown

Except for our beloved Prophet s.a.w., there isn’t a single person who can lay claim to perfection. We have all made mistakes and what’s most important to note is that even some of our prophets made mistakes.

For instance, the first man to commit a wrong was our father, Adam a.s.  But did Allah swt Himself not teach Adam a s. the supplication to invoke in seeking forgiveness?

Then we have Musa a.s. who killed a man. Did Allah not forgive him too?

It is this that Sheikh Menk reminds us of in his talk. It’s crucial to remember for the sake of our faith that Allah is Most Merciful and that He shall continue to forgive us so long as we seek forgiveness and repent when we err.

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu lillahi wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah who Allah Allah, he was happy, and we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his household, his companions. May Allah bless every one of us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless the entire Ummah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless humanity at large. And may we be granted the beneficial rain that we are really seeking in this part of the world. May Allah subhanho wa Taala Have mercy on us and on all his creatures. I mean,

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my brothers and sisters, you know that the first of our species to be created Adam alayhis salatu salam who was sent to the earth was sent

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in circumstances that were explained to us by Allah subhanho wa Taala in the Quran, to a certain extent, and we all know that Allah subhanho wa Taala tested Adam Allahu salatu salam. So very interestingly, when Adam alayhis Salatu was Salam in Jannah, in what we call paradise, right at the beginning,

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was given one instruction by Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that was to stay away from something one might ask, why is it that Allah says don't do certain things? The reality is, when Allah subhanho wa Taala says, I created you to test you. The test includes doing certain things, and abstaining from certain things. So if you are to do things, you pass the test, things that you are supposed to do, and then you abstain from things you're not supposed to do, then do you pass the test. But Allah calls himself merciful. Bismillah R. Rahman.

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We hear that millions of times and we say to, in the name of Allah, the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful

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or the Most Merciful, the Most Merciful Subhana Allah, that is the meaning of Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. He calls himself primarily right at the beginning, the Most Merciful. This would mean if sometimes, you followed by not doing what you are supposed to be doing. Do not lose hope. But get back on track as soon as possible. And if sometimes you did something that you are not supposed to be doing, do not lose hope, but get back on track as soon as possible because your Lord is merciful. Amazing. So Allah subhanho wa Taala told Adam alayhis salatu salam and his wife Hawa, may peace be upon them both. Allah says

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Oh Allah taco raba heavy shadow Raja de una amin, Al for CD, do not get close to this particular tree, and the fruit from the tree is being spoken about. Do not get close to it. Because if you do, you will be the losers. And from this, we learned that whenever we do something Allah has prohibited it's not allow losers. It is us who lose. It is not someone else who's going to lose the people who perpetrated that crime or did what they were not supposed to be doing are the ones who will lose. But Allah subhanho wa Taala has a way out and we're going to speak about that.

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So Adam, Allah in salatu salam unfortunately, very unfortunately, shaman engaged in something known as West wasa what is the West Vasa. What was what's up as it sounds, you know, was was was was, you know, they shaytan comes in, try and whisper things in your system.

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Allah says, for worse, worse, Allahumma shavon shavon definitely whispered, in his own way, encouraging them to do what was prohibited by promising them false things. When something is prohibited, what happens to us, we look at it, and somehow it becomes beautified in the system about a man is weak. And sometimes somehow we think we're going to be achieving, for example, a person who sees money that's dangling out of somebody's pocket and he's standing in the queue. If his email is weak, he's going to start thinking is anyone watching? Look around, right? If he's the man is strong, and inshallah it would be the case with all of us. And I pray that it is even with those who

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might not have material wealth. They would say brother or sister, this thing is dangling from your pocket. Make sure that you put it away safely, someone might take it

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You have succeeded. But if your Eman is weak, and then a person says, Is anyone watching? No, can you quickly just pick it? You know, I remember watching a little clip of a man who saw a 10 pound note stuck under the motor vehicles tire in a parking, and he looked around the knee. So he tried again, he tried again, he couldn't get it out without ripping him. So he decided, let me sit at the cafe that's across the road, he went to sit quite a busy caffeine. And every time someone passed that little note, he looked at it, and he looked at them, and he will he had his literally his heart in his throat. Every time he thought someone was going to take it. And a little while later, the

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owner of the vehicle comes, turns on the car and drives off. Guess what? Everybody in that cafe got up to go and get the note Subhanallah they were all watching from the glass. This is actually a clip you might have seen him. But this is the nature of a person whose human is weak. It wasn't Come on one of those things who had Allah be honest. So shavon comes in say that you know you are going to succeed you're going to have a few dollars, you can have an extra coat, you can go to Nando's perhaps you might want to go here or there so kind of love. And you'll enjoy a little bit one law here that joy is short lived. But shaytaan promises you know, it's going to be long, long.

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Held.

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Here is shavon telling Adam la salatu salam and Hawa alayhi salatu was Salam that you know, what can I show you? The fruit of a tree, if you were to eat from it, you will never die. And

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you will be having

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property or material wealth that will never deplete.

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Now, anyone who hears that you're now 70 years old, 60 years old. I show you something you live long.

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Not like you're not going to die, but you live long. What is it? If they tell you to do something against the instruction of Allah drop it, it's not worth it. But if they tell you to do something, okay, fine. You know what, you need to exercise this way. You need to exercise this, you need to do this diet, for example, go on to this diet Alhamdulillah it's fine. You need to make this dua that's also okay. But the minute they tell you to do something against Allah, forget about it, drop it. But in this case, Adam Allahu salatu salam, it goes to show that the devil sometimes has an impact. That impact is such that even good people can fall. Good people can make a mistake. How do I know that

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the best of the luck made mistakes? Obviously, I'm not referring to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam he was perfect. But I'm referring to some of the other messengers of Allah subhanho wa Taala, where an error occurred.

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And this is why on the Day of Judgment, each one besides Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam each one will be saying never see never see. As for a surah la salatu salam he be concerned about us. Mati Mati mighty May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us his intercession on the Day of Judgment, say Amin.

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So my brothers and sisters Adam alayhis salatu salam loved by Allah, created by Allah subhanho wa Taala. And yet

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he felt it to a certain extent he did something he was not supposed to do. What was that? It was that he ended up being tricked by the devil by shapen. And as soon as he ate from the forbidden fruit, he regretted he made a mistake. He said, Oh Allah, the two of us have made a big blunder. And if you are not going to forgive us, if you are not going to have mercy on us, we have no hope we're going to be the losers. So what was the prayer he said immediately?

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And Allah taught him that Allah says, okay, you made a mistake. This is how you seek forgiveness.

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Amazing Allah subhanho wa Taala taught Adam alayhis salam how to seek forgiveness as per the verses of the Quran and then be short forgiveness using good words or Allah I will be at a loss if you don't forgive me. Rob bana

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husana

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Lana,

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Lana coonan Alina for CD. Oh.

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That means whether you've committed a sin or not a lie still you're up a lie still your owner completely. Oh, our we have transgressed against ourselves. We are the ones who have done wrong against ourselves. Subhana Allah, they are admitting that this was wrong. You had instructed us not to do it. We fell into it. And Oh Allah. We have wronged ourselves. If you are not going to have mercy on us. If you are not going to forgive us. We will be the losers.

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They realized immediately Something is definitely wrong. My brothers and sisters, I started this way to show you. Allah forgave Adam alayhis salam, when he faulted when he slipped up because there was remorse. There was regret, he sought forgiveness and he turned back to Allah subhanho wa Taala he did not commit that sin again.

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How many of us,

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make mistakes, commit sins, do things we're not proud of? Do things we're not supposed to be doing. miss out on things we are supposed to be engaged in my brothers and sisters. It's not the end. We are still breathing. We are still beloved creatures of Allah. Allah loves us. Ravana Valentina and Susana,

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Lana,

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Lana coonan aminul seen that to our net supplication opened the door of the mercy of Allah years back the same supplication, do you not think it will open the mercy of Allah, the doors of the mercy of Allah today when we have faltered and we have made mistakes.

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So it's not the end of the path.

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The only time we should start worrying is if we have not quit our bad ways and habits a person persists. For example, you have a bad habit and there are so many bad habits, countless bad habits. I cannot just mention one or two because there are plenty and Shaffer if he could actually engage in a successful what was up against Adam alayhis salam, do you really think that we are stronger than other monies Allah?

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us through the blessed glimpse of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah says Allah subhanho wa Taala to us khulumani de Macaca Waheguru. In

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all the children of the same Adam, all humankind, they make mistakes and

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does not mean one mistake, they make many mistakes. All of us, not a single one of us is absolutely perfect.

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None of us are perfect, but we know when we make mistakes. The Hadith says the best of those who constantly are those who constantly repent as well.

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I asked you and myself, how many times do I repent if it is once a day is too little? If it is 10 times a day is too literal. It needs to be more. Let's get it on our tongues, a little la VM de la vi M I seek your forgiveness, Oh Allah, you are the greatest Subhanallah get it on our tongues. Let's look into ourselves and ask ourselves what are the bad habits that we are engaged in and let's cut them and cut them for the sake of Allah, I promise you it will open the doors of the mercy of Allah. We desperately seeking for rain, we are desperately asking for so much will lie you will start seeing income. If you seek the forgiveness of Allah, you turn back to Allah, Allah mercy only

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comes to those who deserve that Mercy by trying to achieve it.

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Sometimes Allah gives us even if we don't deserve it, because that's, that's the nature of His mercy, but those who deserve it, he will give it to you to lose Oh, never despair.

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My brothers and sisters, if you take a look at the lives of some of the blessed prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala give you an example of Musa alayhis salam.

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One day, there was a skirmish a little fight between two people as new Sally Sally went to help.

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He ended up giving one of them a physics and that was it was such a big blow so panela

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it resulted in the death of the person may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us.

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It was quite a soft amin because some of the answers must be saying I wish I had the blue light.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us forgiveness.

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So my brothers and sisters immediately he knew what I did was wrong. What happened? He said the same words similar words. He says Oh Allah what I did was wrong. This was from shavon.

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Allah had Amina Manisha on in Abu

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Dhabi. He said, Oh Allah, this is indeed from the devil. Oh Allah, I seek your forgiveness. I have wronged myself. This is from shaper. He is definitely one who leads astray. He is definitely an outright enemy.

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Recognize the devil, my brothers and sisters. When you do something you're not supposed to be doing. You need to recognize that this was the worst facade of the devil. We have a man we have something powerful it is the Shahada. We declare a shadow Allah

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Allah, Allah, Mohammed Abu, how then can we commit a sin, thinking that there's nothing wrong with it?

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We should turn to Allah repent, seek the forgiveness of Allah and Allah mercy will begin to show in your life.

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The doors of sustenance shall be opened like no honey Salam says,

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Boo.

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Boo,

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Boo.

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Boo, meet him while you are Benny. He tells his people you know what, seek the forgiveness of Allah.

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He says, Oh Allah, I told my people to seek your forgiveness, to seek your forgiveness because you are most forgiving. And as a result, he will open the doors of the skies with the rain that you require Subhanallah to what? Turning back to Allah. And don't just pay lip service. You know, you've committed adultery, you know, you're hooked on to pornography. You know, you gambling and you know that you perhaps doing something totally unacceptable. And you just say everyday stuff.

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But you haven't changed your ways. You haven't quit your habits. You haven't thought about it. You haven't even batted an eyelid. That is not seeking the forgiveness of Allah. That's playing the fool.

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You slept someone every day. Say I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Come on. You sound like a mental case. May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Forgive us, you need to be serious about it. You don't repeat it. May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us forgiveness, amin, Amin.

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Now I come to another very, very important point. And this was something that had to be said, my brothers and sisters, we all make mistakes. We all have committed sin to a certain extent. I don't want to ask you to put up your hands if you are perfect, because there will be no hands and the hand that is up will be the most imperfect hand. So what I want to tell you is the question for you is when people make a mistake around you, what do you do as a result?

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Did you hear what I asked? When people around you your loved ones, your spouse, your children, your parents, someone nearby has done something wrong? What is your reaction? When Adam alayhis salam did something wrong? Allah says, Look, if you show remorse, and you seek forgiveness, I will forgive you.

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With us, people perpetrate a crime, for example, they do something wrong, what do we do? Number one, we've got to pray for them. We've got to try and help them. And we have to look into ways of rectifying and tenability. Just like when you bought your brand new BMW 10 series, what will happen,

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that's gonna come one day

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what will happen

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if you had to damage part of the vehicle, you don't throw the whole car away.

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You have to get it repaired. And you know what, it might cost you a little bit, it might set you back, but I promise you, you will enjoy that vehicle. And you know, if the damage is not so much a scratch or to a little dent, or to a little crack in the light, something of that nature, you might want to live with it and nobody will notice how many times only the owner of the vehicle knows what's wrong. So Panama the other seat Mashallah lovely vehicle.

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Do you go around telling people Hey, you didn't see the scratch on the other side? Can I show you? That's not what people do. We do that with material things. Human beings are far more valuable than any BMW. You know, when your best friend they say BFF, right. So hon Allah, best friends, whoever. And sometimes when you really, really good friend, they say B and they put about 20 years after that. So panela that means really Forever, forever, forever. So the BMW whether it's a BMW or w w w w, it is not more valuable than your best friend or your spouse or your child or the Imam in the masjid. He could make a mistake. They could be blunders, he could have committed a sin. But

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remember, it is he or she who persists and does not returning, does not regret does not show remorse, where we may have to start perhaps distancing ourselves, we try and from this What I mean is in a marriage, and in a family scenario, your brother, your parents, your sister, your child, when they do something wrong, you don't just kick him out and throw them away. Never. That's not what Allah taught us.

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I was reading an article that every 20 marriages 12

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them are breaking, eight of them are lasting. And that's a disaster. If that's the truth, they will lie here we need to cry. We need to cry. And if you go to see the reasons for the divorce,

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you know, people say the marriage was a mistake. Sometimes the divorce was a bigger mistake. There is no angel on Earth. You want to divorce someone because they've made one mistake, but you are making another 20 mistakes of a different nature.

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If that person is prepared

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to seek forgiveness, if they show remorse and regret, then don't just break it. Don't throw your BMW away solely because one of the panels was badly damaged. No, repair it. It will cost you a little bit. Try work together. And I promise you, the marriages that have been built after a mistake or a sin or something went wrong, are far stronger than those who have not tasted that, or those that have not been through this.

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We all make mistakes. We definitely make mistakes. I make them you make them. Sometimes it's not a mistake. It's a sin, outright sin. But that's the nature of Adam. It's the nature of humankind. Yes, if it is something really evil, perhaps it might be more difficult for us to help. Sometimes a chi is written off. In that case, you might want to dispose of it. scrap metal, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness.

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Sometimes a sin is way, way too big, where a person might seek divorce. You know what, I can't live with this anymore. But for us, sometimes a small matter, something minor. And when I say minor, I'm not belittling sins, but what I mean is that which can be repaired and you throwing the thing away. Let's not do that my brothers and sisters, let's get used to something. Let's try to understand. If we would like the mercy of Allah show mercy upon others, your hammer woman fil A or B or ham Command V sama, show mercy upon those on earth and the one in the heavens will show mercy upon you. Another narration the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says Leia homina homina homina. Allah will not have mercy

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upon those who don't have mercy on humankind. People make mistakes, we all make mistakes, learn to help those who have made a mistake.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness and guidance so my brothers and sisters, you will look at the examples given

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throughout history within the Quran. Every single place. Allah speaks about a sin committed by someone. If he speaks about the repentance, he always says that repentance was accepted by Allah every time. Not once did he say they sought forgiveness, but we threw them out. We rejected them. No, it is a quality that is divine.

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It's not easy to forgive, but find it in your heart to make amends. Yes, if something repeats itself, and it repeats itself a third time, then maybe we have a bigger problem at hand. But give people a chance. Give people a chance. I recall a person working for someone for many years, many years, almost two decades. And one day

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he decided to when the family was on holiday, he decided to turn on this Mercedes and Subhanallah whether he wanted to pinch it or whatever he maybe he just wanted to have a bit of fun. And he damaged the vehicle. It went straight through the wall of the garage that it was parked in.

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He ran away absconded, worried about what his boss is going to say when the boss came back look for him forgave him told him do Don't worry. The insurance will pay for that. But I keep you back at work. Wow. People told him you're foolish. He says you know what? He's been so honest. He's been such a hard working guy. He's been working for me for so many years. He made one mistake. I think this is forgivable.

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Not many of us can do that. But Subhanallah if you can, then indeed you are a person who deserves the mercy of Allah, you had mercy on someone.

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So I call on all of us. In the same way you and I know what we've done wrong. And we expect people to help us and we expect people to forgive us. Surely we should look at others with a similar I. People say but I wouldn't do this. Well, you might have done something in the eyes of Allah that is worse.

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And my brothers, it's important for me to make mention of two types of sins. One is the sin that you commit between you and Allah. For example, a person who drank alcohol, a person who's on drugs, a person perhaps might have done something of that nature.

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That's between you and Allah. If you seek Allah's forgiveness and you repent

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You are serious about it, Allah, Allah forgive you, without a doubt. But there is another sin that is between you and a fellow human. You stole someone's wealth, backbiting about someone,

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you know, you perhaps? Well, the example that first comes to mind is when you have deceived someone cheated them.

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In that case, it's a more dangerous crime, because you need the forgiveness of that person as well. And it's not easy for anyone to put the tail between their legs and to go and say, You know what, I'm so sorry, what I have done. Very bad. And a lot of us we say,

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a lot of us will go to the person and say, You know what, please forgive me for anything I might have done or city and in your mind, you know, you committed a huge crime. And the person says, Yeah, it's okay, it's done. You're lucky that it was a wholesale forgiveness. By right, you're supposed to go and say, You know what, forgive me when someone comes to me and says, forgive me for everything I might have said, or did I say, Well, what did you do? Or say, please let me know. You know, because I promise you, when you go around spreading deception, or backbiting, then it's not good enough to just say, forgive me and carry on. And the person says, You're forgiven. That's what enough,

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actually, if you're a true moment, you would tell yourself, I have done so much damage, I wound up the situation, I'm going to make an effort now that I'm forgiven to unwind everything. So now I will go around, and the people I spoke to negative about this party, I'm going to tell them positive things to say, you know, I told him something bad. Unfortunately, I was wrong. So Panama.

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That's the way to seek to forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So my brothers and sisters inshallah, what we want to see, especially in marriage, because a lot of marriages are breaking, even when we give advice to the couples that are struggling, don't just say, leaving, just leaving, you get another guy. But sister, you who is speaking, went through a divorce, and it's been 20 years, and you're still looking for that other guy, right? She's in it. rather give her the good advice to say, You know what?

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Try to make it work. Let's see how best Is he an evil guy? Is he engaging in physical abuse? If that's the case, there is a limit of tolerance, you need to know this, there is a limit of tolerance. I am not saying here from this pulpit today that just go out and forgive everyone and live in every situation. You know, sometimes parents abused their daughters, we've come across cases where some abused their own children, there is a limit, there is a line, we will have to do something to save those kids, because we don't want it to repeat itself. Even if it just happened once May Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us. I'm not saying in that case, that is an extreme

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case. It's like writing something off. Like I said, I'm not saying that in that case, you should actually now for someone who's going to be living with this abuse, staring them in their face to live in that situation. No, but I am saying wherever it is something that can be resolved, try your best to resolve it. And try your best to forgive people give people correct advice as well. Many people are friends, many times come to us and say you know I'm going through the situation. Fear Allah regarding the advice we give them. Make sure that it is something that Allah and His or assume would be happy with sallallahu alayhi wasallam May Allah subhanho wa Taala Have mercy on every one

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of us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us, like I said, inshallah we forgive, we learn to forgive, we commit mistakes, we should seek forgiveness as well. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will indeed open our doors of mercy. Like I started with a two hour of rain. I end with the same to our Oh Allah, we asked you to grant us beneficial rain in this beautiful city of Cape Town and it surrounds and we ask you to bless us with rain wherever it is short. And we asked you to have mercy upon us, Oh Allah. Don't look at our students, but rather the fact that we are seeking your forgiveness today or Allah bless us with the most blessing of rain today. Tomorrow and every day aku Kohli hada

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sallallahu wasallam Allah