Lessons for the Sound Mind – Part 2
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Lessons for the Sound Mind Part One
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
smilla al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam. O Allah Rasool, Allah, Allah He was happy he may my brothers, my sisters, we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household companions, we ask Allah to bless them to bless every one of you, to bless the oma at large to bless humanity to grant us goodness, to protect us from evil to help us through the difficulties that we face throughout our lives. And to grant us all ease. I mean, my brothers and sisters in the same way that you say you love me for the sake of Allah, I promise you that I love you for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala I see the faces here and I forget how hot it
is. I see the faces here. And I forget all the negatives because you know what the biggest positive is that we are seated here in the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala unique, amazing, awesome place. Absolutely awesome. May Allah built for every single person who has put in a single dollar
towards this house of his an entire house in general.
So now you know if you want to get into it like that for you, you need to put $1 into the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala. By His Will I always tell people that you know, if you were to pay for using the facility at the masjid, that you happen to read Salah in $1 for every Salah, I promise you the problems of the oma would be resolved, the salary of the Imam would increase and a lot of our children would want to become an Imam. So hon Allah because the Imam would be driving an S Class perhaps as 600 Mashallah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us. The point I'm raising is we use facilities sometimes that are paid for by someone else and we are wealthy in our own right. Would
you ever consider donating putting something into a box here thinking to yourself I've used the facility let me put in $1 $2 The problem is sometimes we take it for granted. Please consider this inshallah May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from those whom when we use a facility, the water, the carpets, the electricity, everything else, we can at least contribute towards it at some stage.
I wish to continue inshallah, from the topic that I started yesterday about Hulu and Hulu Alibaba, those with sound intellect and Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of them in the Quran, in several places, and one of them is in Surah Yusuf who Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about those who are intelligent those who have a sound mind. And Allah says about the stories that he has made mention of of the previous prophets, he says, Love for the canopy also see him Reba on truly owning and
indeed, in those stories, they are lessons for those with sound minds, those with sound intellect, they will derive lessons from the stories we have mentioned in the Koran, about the prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Whenever there's a story in the Quran about the past, remember, it's not just for you and I to read it and say, Wow, those were great people. Wow, this prophet really endured, look at the story of this one and that one, but rather, together with becoming emotional about what was said, because obviously the stories are emotional, we need to derive a lesson and that is more important actually. So we spoke about it yesterday, the story of Adam, Allah, his
Salatu was Salam and shavonne those of you who perhaps might have missed out on the talk, you can always catch it on Muslim Central calm. If you go and search for that talk, inshallah, you will find it after today by the will of Allah Subhana Allah Allah. Today, I wish to kick off with the story or something that I want to derive from the story of Ibrahim alayhi salatu salam. And there is a reason why I'm doing this and I'll explain to you but before I do that, remember when we're saying I'm going to talk about the story of Ibrahim alayhis salam, I'm not going to mention the entire story because that would mean a whole lifetime. I am going to tell you just a few points and we want to
learn lessons, perhaps certain points that we want to derive to help us today here and now. Like for example, Ibrahim alayhi salatu salam was one of the most gifted by Allah. He was one of the most gifted by Allah subhanho wa Taala. When I see a large crowd of people, I get worried, worried because it's a huge responsibility. I am just like you this afternoon I delivered a talk entitled my favorite check at the Harlem Masjid. That talk is also available online.
If you hear that talk, I dedicated the entire 25 minutes to explain to the people that I am one of you. Nothing makes me better than you perhaps you may be better than me. It's just that I happen to remind you about Allah subhanho wa Taala and you know what I need to be even more clear
Because when I remind you I need to ask myself, am I actually practicing what I preach? May Allah strengthen us all, and make us all indeed from among those who can become better people as the days pass, I mean, so Subhanallah Why do I get so worried? One is it's a it's a responsibility to the messengers of Allah whom Allah loves so much. Sometimes very, very few people actually accepted that message. Do you realize this? Ibrahim alayhi salatu salam came out, he was sent by Allah He delivered the message. Do you know that initially, very, very few people perhaps according to some narrations, just two people accepted his message Subhan Allah, one was his wife. And one was his
nephew Subhana Allah according to some of the durations, low poly his salam, according to some of the narrations, his wife, him, and that's it, the rest of them the Father, the others, they didn't even accept the message. So I want to tell you sometimes numbers does not necessarily mean that you are right May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant disease. As for us, we are fortunate, we are just following the footsteps of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, if I tell you something that Allah has said, I'm doing a good job. If I tell you something, Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam has said, I'm doing a good job. If I'm bringing you closer to Allah and His Rasool Salatu, salam, I'm doing a good job, the
minute I bring you closer to anything else, or to myself, I'm doing a bad job. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all and grant us all success in the dunya in the army. So Ibrahim alayhi salatu. Salam was young, before his prophethood he started asking questions. He was asking questions to his father. Right. I want to stop there for a moment because this is a little Bob. Okay. That's what we're saying. It's lessons for those who have sound minds. So what was he asking his folks, he began to say, Listen, my father is carving the idols. My father is worshiping this, and he's worshiping that and he's doing this, I want to engage in a discussion with this father of mine, because I don't
understand why he's doing what he's doing. So he started asking questions from this island, that it's only normal and natural for people to ask questions when they don't understand. Don't get upset. When someone asks you a question, Brother, why are you doing this? Can you explain it to me? Shut up, I don't want to explain to you, you just do it. Because I've seen other people doing it, I'm going to do it. If you say that you have failed, you have failed Subhana Allah. But if you engage them, you try and understand if you don't know you're going to learn and come back even if it is your own child. Many of us lose our children sometimes because we don't have answers for them. We
do things and we know we are right, but we don't know why we're doing it. So kind of law. That means you need to increase your knowledge. If you want to preserve your deen you need to increase your knowledge of the deal. If your knowledge is not increased, you will not be able to preserve the deed Remember that? The ailment the knowledge is the most important thing. We'll have he sabini
and Armani. Donnie was super Hannah Long You wanna Amina shrieky, Mohammed salatu salam instructed by Allah subhanho wa Taala to say, this is my path. I call towards Allah, myself and those who follow me with sound knowledge and basura here refers to that which was from Allah in terms of knowledge and Revelation. We use revelation in order to call people towards goodness, how are you going to do that if you don't have the knowledge of the deen? So inshallah I hope we all make an intention we're going to increase our knowledge Allah you know when there are lessons in the masjid please try and attend Mashallah, you have a beautiful machine, I promise you, the concrete here is
going to bear witness for you or against you.
I promise you the walls here will bear witness for you or against you. I promise you the spot upon which you laid your head to be in frustration for Allah will bear witness for you or against you. So make sure that you make use of the facility and make sure that you worship Allah subhanho wa Taala you know, if you don't worship Allah, one of the scariest things that I've come across is a verse of the Quran, where Allah says Allah subhanho wa Taala
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If you're going to turn away, if you are going to turn away from the obedience of Allah from worshiping Allah subhanho wa Taala then you know what Allah says, We will replace you with others who will not be like you. So you want to go away. The loss is yours, not ours. That's what Allah is saying. If you don't worship Me, Allah says no problem. We will bring others who will worship us.
So Pamela So, if we don't make an effort towards getting closer to Allah, there are others who are making an effort towards getting closer to Allah. I want to pause for a moment and give you an example. I visited Nigeria, and I visited some other West African countries. And I promise you, I was shocked at what I saw in a pleasant way. I was surprised, pleasantly meaning it was something I didn't expect. And I saw the the the massage, being full force in some parts of the country. And I've seen people towards the north.
The way they study the Koran, the way they learn it, the amount of importance they give to it is amazing. And I told myself Subhanallah when you hear Nigeria, what do you think? I don't even want you to answer that question. When you hear Nigeria What do you think? I promise you if you travel to that country, and to the northern part of the country, you change your mind. So Panama there are some people who are so powerful in their team that it makes us feel like we are so weak and yet when we sit and listen to the name of the country, we think you know what, you better watch out there are a lot of con artists then there are a lot of people who might be doing this and that no, that's
actually a misunderstanding every country has good and bad.
Every place has those who who are dedicated and there will be some who may be criminal I mean, today I was passing around and we were speaking about the jails. You know, there is one area here that is built on a land that perhaps might have been a prison a long time back. Am I right? Am I right? So thinking about it, you know, for me, it would be a little bit spooky to purchase there but it's okay.
I'm thinking to myself Wow, prisoners, the prison was quite big man. How many Muslims would be in there? Oh, the number of Muslims is growing in there. So is that true? I hope it's not true. I hope it's not true. Come on, come on. We need to do better than that. We need to do better. What did we learn? Let's be honest. While we are pointing fingers at others, we are busy losing our own children and family members to crime. That's not true. That shouldn't be the case. We need to be honest upright people learn the deen put it into practice be concerned about conveying it to others. I promise you you lead a happy life we are searching for contentment and happiness but the problem is
the solution is dangling in front of us and we heading elsewhere. That's the thing Allah tells you you want contentment come to my house when you wash yourself correctly and say Allah
Akbar and you will achieve so much contentment you just so calm everything is left behind with your shoes at the back there you know so Panama your shoes I can imagine how many shoes they are at the back good luck to everyone looking for your shoes when you're done. Allah subhanho wa Taala grant you easy if you don't find them don't worry it's a good sign because that means you let go of your problems Mashallah.
So my brothers and sisters it's amazing how we have the solution of our problems in Salah Salah is a plugin with Allah your maker, but we don't make Salah we still want to solve our problems. Share, pray for me why I have problems. Brother do you pray to yourself?
I expect you to do that you view the shade. I'm gonna share how you need to first pray yourself call out to Allah He's the owner of the solution. Subhana Allah come fulfill your prayer. If you've been weak or the masjid is a little bit far at least start off at home but don't miss a prayer. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us punctual say Amen.
And I hope that was a genuine I mean because you know what, sometimes we sit and we say, Okay, okay, in my in our minds, you know, it's inshallah, inshallah means. What does inshallah mean? Can someone tell me
if Allah wills so now sometimes
that means I'm not gonna do it.
But you say inshallah, that means yes, I will do it. So is it one of those one of these inshallah? inshallah, Mashallah. Mashallah mela Mecca, steadfast. So, my brothers and sisters, we become more conscious of that because, you know, there were messages sent to us, we are fortunate, like I said, we have Muhammad Sallallahu sallam.
You know, he spoke about us to his companions. Do you know that? You know what he told them? He said, they will come people from my Luma who have not seen me, but they will believe in me without seeing me. So
we are the ones we believe in Him firmly.
That he was the Messenger of Allah. He was the final. He was the best of creation, the most noble of prophets. We haven't seen him. But our belief in conviction is solid. No one can shake it. May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep that and make it even more solid. I mean, so we are fortunate that we are part of this oma of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, they were prophets who worked so hard. At the in the initial stages, they struggled now, people say you know what?
I'm living in a nation where it's becoming a little bit embarrassing.
To be a Muslim, the reason is a lot of Muslims, you know, sometimes they do a few things here and there. And it's not really helping me because, you know, we're getting a bad name. So what do I do? You know, I think I'll just decide to, like sort of fit in in a way that I can just change my whole identity. I don't need to really come to the masjid. I don't need to say my name is Abdul Aziz anymore. What's your name? My name is easy. Okay, fine. No problem. So, so So what else you know? And and we just given and you you've given it and Subhana Allah, okay. Okay, fair enough. Do you know that if you claim that you are going to be a Muslim, and if you are a real Muslim, Allah is
going to test that Allah says, well, we're going to test you How? Well people are going to look at you funny, is that going to change you if it did? Subhanallah, you're not heading in the right direction. If it didn't, then you are going to make a difference because more and more people will look at you and say, I want to be like that. I want to be like that. You know, they see the calmness of the people walking to the masjid. And amazing. They want to be like that. I can give you a true story. There's a sister who told me that, you know the smile, we talked about smiling. Mashallah, you gotta smile, right? Everyone's smiling. Are we smiling? Yeah, we are. hamdulillah when you
smile, Subhan Allah. It's an act of charity. It's an act of charity. Subhana Allah. So the sister was saying when she goes to work with all the other sisters, and she's sitting around, she always tries to smile, even if he's had a bad morning, or even if she hasn't been feeling too well, but she'll smile. And she says, there were these people who visas fellow sisters who were looking at her every time but they were not Muslim. And they spoke to each other saying, you know, this sister here. She's always smiling. She's always happy. And they went to her told her What's the secret, you know? And she says, you know, I'm a Muslim. I'm supposed to be happy all the time smiling, and it
drew two of them towards the dean and they entered the fold of Islam through a smile through a smile. Don't underestimate the sooner Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam A lot of us look so upset that when people see us they're like, Whoa, whoa, whoa, wait, even if you didn't have problems, it feels like you've got all the problems because of the face that you see. You know, we scrunching up May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us when someone looks at you they should feel to themselves that you know what? Mashallah, I want to be like this man positive all the time. That's a movement that's the belief I genuinely am the movement for in
the Hadith says you know, the affairs of a believer are amazing. All the time. They are good, something negative happens he bears patients, it's better for him something positive happens. He thanks, ally, it's positive for him. So my brothers and sisters, remember that it's very, very important. We will be able to spread the deen and we won't be replaced would be replaced. So I was telling you, sometimes when we don't come, you don't realize there are people in Africa who might be filling that gap. So panela How many of us read the Quran every day? A few days ago, I came across an app an application in my mobile phone. Someone sent it to me. It's in the Arabic language. It's
an application called neck Kim. Remember that word? Nothing, right? You can search for it is in Arabic language. And that application has been downloaded by millions of people and what do they do? What does it do for you? Every time you touch your phone and how many times do you touch your phone guys?
How like you're touching it right now. Right? So every time you touch your phone before you get into it, it makes you read a verse of the Quran one verse
and you know who finishes the Quran? The quickest the youngsters Mashallah because every little I have a read this verse, okay? What does Allah say? Allah says this, then you open your phone, and then you open your phone. So it's interesting. I know there might be some cheats, but it's okay. At least you have something reminding you to say listen, we've got to read the Quran. I want to ask you a question. How many of you and you can answer it within yourself? How many of you read the Quran on a daily basis? I think we're going to only have about 5% of us. I promise you I'm not joking. 5% of us every day you open it and you read one verse or two, minimum one or a little bit more. How many
of us were guilty? We are guilty. Well, Ah, here we are guilty. If I were to ask you to show me hands, I would be embarrassed. You would be embarrassed so inshallah I won't, but I will tell you please make a difference. One best, how much? one verse a day. Is it too much? No one verse a day one, just one. Start with that I promise you Your life will change. You know why? It is canon law. It is the word of Allah. You get excited when someone's coming to talk to you, but you're not excited about the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala. It is a last word that you're supposed to be more excited about. It is amazing, the most truthful word in existence, the best, the most powerful, the
highest, the one that Allah says.
Allah describes that
Book and the Quran with these beautiful words that Allah has sent for you or believers. A reminder from Europe, it has in it a reminder, it's a reminder for you and I, and it has any cure for the diseases of the heart. We're all looking for cure. We all want our hearts to be good and pure. We all want to even regarding our physical diseases and sicknesses, the Quran has the cure. Do you know that the verses of the Quran are so powerful that when you read them, your body becomes healthy? How's that? So panela your body becomes healthy? People have done it, you read ayatul kursi What will it do for you it will protect you. So Carla, you read the last two sewers of the Quran. What
does it do for you? It protects you from evil from the evil eye from jinn from shaytan from black magic from whatever else. What word on earth can do that for you besides the Quran Subhana Allah and we don't read the Quran on a daily basis, then we complain, I'm seeing things I'm seeing things now. You know, back in my country things is the name of like a crisps. You know, they call it things so it's always I'm seeing things you say oh, well, you know, did you buy them? What did you do? You know, I'm seeing things okay. Okay. Do you read the Quran? The answer is no Subhana Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us, you know, talking about things, one of the shifts here Mashallah, may
Allah subhanho wa Taala bless all our missionaries and older brothers and sisters. Mashallah. So, he sends me a message and he says, Please, can you come to my place? So, I thought somehow Yeah, you know, but when I was in Sydney, one of the shifts there told me that you know, there is such a such a shift and you should go to visit you know, the center. I didn't know that. The question I was about to ask him was irrelevant or wrong, because I told him, please, can you tell me where is your place? And yet the name of the place was my place.
My place? I think it is a center here called my place my right.
Or my center? Yeah. So he says, Please, can you come to my center say Where is your center?
By sentence of Allah? Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us goodness. So my center inshallah my center Well, now it's become our center by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So that was a question I asked him because I was ignorant. I didn't know Had I known better I would have realized, you know what, when you say my center, you're talking of a specific place. So if you increase your knowledge, you start learning things. When you read the Koran, you get closer to Allah, when you read the Quran, it brings you towards fulfilling the other duties that you have unto Allah, such as your Salah, a person who's regular with Salah there is a link between them and Allah, it's such a unique
way that when sin comes in front of them, they won't want to commit and you know why? Because Allah says, In
Salah itself will prohibit you from immorality and vice evil, Salah stops you from committing evil. If you read Salah confession and you're worried about between the two, you're not going to go and commit a sin when you read more, and you're worried about Serato also because now you need to read so you're not going to come and sit in the middle you read acid, you know before you know it is Maghrib and when you read Madrid, you know that before you know it is gonna be solid Malaysia so panela so we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us regularity with Salah to make us more serious so that it keeps us away from the other sins. Now, Ibrahim alayhi salatu was Salam very, very early
in his life was asking questions, like I said, when your children asked you questions, don't throw those questions aside. Don't embarrass them. Don't make them think you know what, why are you asking this? They can ask you the silliest things. It's okay. Take it. If you don't know say inshallah tomorrow, get you the answer.
Or inshallah we'll ask the shake, because I'm not too sure myself. So Pamela, or we will ask someone else there's no harm. You don't need to pretend like you know the answer for everything. You know, you might be a scholar, I might be a person who knows a little bit so many things. I don't know. I'm not embarrassed when someone asks me. What is this? I really don't know. I'm not too sure. I need to find out. There's nothing wrong in that answer. It's a good answer. So you can say that to your own children, but answer them help them go out research learn and you will be able to help your children inshallah maintain that strengthen the deed. Then Ibrahim alayhi salatu. Salam, he decides You know
I've already knocked out my dad when it comes to the argument. And I need to just tell him something so he says, Yeah, but in
given day, Debbie knee handicap.
For my father, knowledge has come to me that did not come to you for
Follow me, I'll guide you to the right path. Now he's advising his father, the father refuse to take that advice. The father says, Hey, who do you think you are? You don't stop what you're saying and what you're doing, I'm gonna punish you. I'm gonna penalize you. So Pamela, that was the wrong way of responding. From this, I learned that sometimes you can get advice from someone younger than you. If they are right. They are right. Take it. Take it. Sometimes your son can correct you, your daughter can come and tell you You know what? That Mom, I think you guys are wrong.
And if you are, don't be proud and arrogant to deny it and say, No, I'm not wrong. I'm right. Hang on. If they've proven that you're wrong, you're wrong. SubhanAllah a lot of the times we fail because Allah sent someone to correct us younger than us. And we're too proud to accept the correction. So what we do we prefer to choose failure over being corrected. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a beautiful lesson. Look at this. Allah mentions it in the Koran, but we are drawing a lesson for ourselves to say, listen, Abraham.
It's a lesson for those with sound intellect to say this is what happened at the time. And here it is Subhanallah This is the primary Salah, I want to draw one more example from his life. He was concerned so much about his progeny. Those two follow up to kiama I don't know if you hear me talk sometimes when I start, I say May Allah bless you, bless your offspring, those who come up to the end of time for up to qiyamah Subhana Allah Some people say, Hey,
man, that's like far away. I need to be blessed first, come on, man, you know, so Pamela, like, sometimes, you know, when someone makes it too out, and they say, mela grant your offspring risk, you say but what about me?
Well, offspring is a sign of risk as well. You know, it's like when we say,
Okay, I want you all to say, I mean, may Allah bless you with offspring.
So many of you are not married.
So when you say May Allah bless you with offspring, it includes in it now give me a gold spouse. Wow. It's all inclusive to in one, you know.
So what happens is when you say May Allah bless you with pious offspring offspring will be the coolness of your eyes. It includes those who don't have children May Allah give you children, those who are not married, May Allah give you a spouse and men children SubhanAllah. So now you say May Allah give you rich children, what will happen? He has to first get you married, then he has to get your children then he has to make them rich. So just say I mean what does it cost you? Mashallah, but remember, the richness needs to be the dunya and the afra not just richness in the dunya Charla May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us goodness. So, my brothers and sisters in primary Salam is made
mention of in Surat Al Baqarah. And in a few other places where he says, Rob Bana
Lima, like oh, Allah, the two of us, my son is married and myself, make us submitters unto you and you know what, not just the two of us from our offspring, our offspring, those two come after us, the two of us, make them also those who will submit unto you What happened? They were serious about the DA, Allah gave it to them. Allah gave it to them.
Ibrahim Alayhi Salam was tested so much by Allah subhanho wa Taala, one after the other. I'm not going to talk about his tests today because there are so many and he shall show you know, quite a few of them. The Prophet Ibrahim alayhi salam, he was tested so much he passed all those tests as a result, Allah became so happy with him. Allah said to us, what are the long will? He masani Allah, Allah has taken him as a very close friend. No, honey is the highest level of friendship you can have is a hula, it's friendship of a very high level. Allah says Ibrahim is a very close friend of ours for your information. Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam is also known as de la he's also a close
friend of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So how did you become so close? When the lab tested him, he did not become angry. He did not become upset with Allah. He never questioned Allah, brothers and sisters every day things will happen that are not according to what we want. Because Allah is in charge. Allah is in control. Be happy with what Allah has chosen for you. Did you try your best? Yes, I did. Well, then I'm happy with what transpired? Did you not if you did not try your best you share the blame. Because for example, you want to pass in the examination. You want to get a job but you haven't applied properly. You haven't worked hard and gotten off your bed and go to look for
jobs. And then you think you're sitting on the bed and blaming Allah Oh Allah didn't get a job. Allah says I gave you energy I gave you the everything I gave you the capacity, you only had to get up and go next door to apply for the job.
You didn't do that. Now you're blaming me. So Panama, you want to pass your examination you did not get up, you didn't study you didn't work out, you were sleeping, you are on your games, you are on your phone and then you get up late for the examination. You go there who is to blame? You want to blame me so panela but when you worked hard, you've done whatever was in your capacity given to you by Allah, then you need to just leave it in the hands of Allah Oh Allah, whatever you've done for me, I surrender. It's the best thing and it's a good thing I passed my test Allah will be happy with you. When Allah tested the primary Salah he was never upset with Allah.
Today we lose our children may Allah grant those who have lost their children suffer and May Allah make those children a means of their entry into gentleness a Amin.
Today when we lose our children, what happens we become people who question Allah Oh Allah, why did you do this to me? Allah says, I gave you the child in the first place. I love the child more than you I wanted the child with me. What are you getting angry for? So Pamela, you don't question Allah decree. each other's decree as part of a man.
Today when you lose something, you know an accident happens you lose a limb Allah safeguard all of us. Someone struggling with their health. Don't question Allah someone struggling in their marriages don't question Allah. A lot of the times we are guilty of making life difficult for our spouses.
I want to take another promise from you guys tonight. Can I do?
Those of you who are married
promise Allah that you will be you will be the source of the coolness of the eyes of your spouse make life easy and good and beautiful for your spouse. Is that a good enough promise?
That was quite a soft I mean guys.
Is that a good enough promise? Yes. Mashallah. Minami inshallah. So now remember, you're promising Allah, that when you go home, you're going to be the best possible person to your spouse? Why do I make you promise this tonight in the house of Allah, and you're going to be questioned about there might be people from amongst us, you've got marital issues going out. You can, you can, if both of you want to, you will be able to do it. Allah says in the Quran, a
If both of you intend to solve the problem, Allah will grant you the acceptance to sort it out. But if one doesn't want to sort it out, you're not going to sort it out. You understand? Go home and sorted out, be the best person to your spouse, because charity begins at home, you go home, you must be the coolest person ever. You must be the sweetest guy, you must be the loveliest woman ever. Why? Because the Hadith says
the best from amongst you are those who are the best.
to your family members, to your spouse, to your wife. Subhana Allah, the best of you.
Now, you know if you look at the Arabic language,
the term used is Heroku. Now and it refers to a few things, right? Primarily the spouse. So when you're translating it in English, you know what you say the best from amongst you are those who are best to their wives. Now, where is plural? And why is this plural? So you say the best one amongst you are those who are best to their wives. And I have had wise young men who go home and say, Did you hear what the chef says? So so the woman says yes, she says you must be the best to your wives, your I am your wife. This is no you missed the point. It was the s
Come on. Come on. What did you take home? What did you take home? You cannot take home? what suits you know, go and be realistic. The only thing that guys here is this by nudging each other.
Why? Come on? We're talking about being kind to Who's that Oh, that's what we're saying being the best. Don't be cheap. Don't deceive. Don't be an adulterer. Don't be someone who commits major sin comes home and expect your spouse to digest it from you know, today's the day we're going to change all that because why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam whom we love the most says the best time amongst you those who are best to your wife, Subhana Allah. So I think that promise was good enough. It's in FEMA Hanley, meaning it's in the right place, because we want to be the best. That's the reason why I make you promise and I promise that I'm sure if you go to my house, you might hear a good answer,
inshallah. I hope so. Sometimes you can't tell because when I asked my family members, do you think I'm a good guy? That's all very good. You know, really one of the best machines but you never know. When I'm going in someone else's house. The guy there might be saying,
you know, so May Allah subhanahu wa taala make us among those who are good. I mean, go home. Be the best of people at school. At
work wherever you are, be the best be the best. That's what will make you inshallah a person who deserves the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala let's get back to LA salatu salam What can he do? He may do our for his Korea for those who were to follow after him like I told you what, Oh Allah our offspring make them on the team, a lot of us
we don't make do out for our progeny. How many of us sit and make to our for our children?
Are we not guilty? We're so immersed in the worldly life of our own, that we think that you know what these kids will just grow up without and they will grow up with our effort but we forget it happens sometimes we forget the element of supplication. Please call out to Allah for your needs. When you need something and you know and even if it's not a desperate need but you know it's in the hands of Allah definitely call out to Him ask him say Oh, like Thank you, you blessed me with children, give them good health and protect them and give them you know, make them the coolness of my eyes, make them submitters unto you many of us make it to our Allah give my child good health
Allah make them succeed in school Allah help them to get good jobs or help them to get good salaries, or help them to get good wives all I help them to get this and we forget to make sure our love make them good Muslims. We forget that to Allah make them good Muslims and women to react in a modern Muslim and like make them support is up to you Oh Allah, Allah loves that. It shows a concern. Allah He when you are concerned, half the problem is gone. If you have a concern to concern about something, half the matter is resolved by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So this is Ibrahim Alayhi. Salatu was Salam as a favor unto him. Allah gave him something unique. Do you know
what it was?
The prophets who came after him were all from his family. So Panama, what a gift of Allah just the concern he had the worry that that concern that rather he kept making to Allah, Allah says, You know what, Ebrahim? You are my friend.
You are my friend. The profits are going to be from your family. Now you look at the profits coming all the way down from the family of home, Ibrahim alayhi salatu salam,
my brothers, my sisters, you know Prophethood is over with Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam Can we make to our Oh Allah make my child and pious child SubhanAllah. If you want the child to achieve some form of piety and obedience unto Allah, guess what? You need to start with yourself?
You need to start with yourself. How do you talk to people? How do you dress? What is your relationship with the Quran? What's your relationship with the prophet SAW Selim Suna? Do you read it? Do you give it importance? Or are you a person who's far away but you're just making it to Allah I found that my children keep them close. No, that doesn't work that way. How can you say that Oh Allah you know means Okay, I might not read Salah but my children Yala. Make sure that they're, you know, help them to be regular with Salah. I tell you if you make an effort in one direction, Allah has given a power, automatic sense of respect and position to parents that they don't even know they
have. Sometimes when your children at an early age, what you when they just look at you and see you do something they automatically want to meet, they want to follow they want to copy. If you read Salah regularly I swear by Allah, your child who cannot even speak will want to come into Judo with you when you go down.
I swear if you dress in a specific way Your kids will want to dress just like you and they will fight to dress like you. Who gave them that? Allah it's a philtrum it's something inside to copy parents and to mimic them is a gift Allah gave parents without them realizing the power of sometimes. So that's why pick it up and ask Allah Subhana Allah Allah to help you. And by his will be vanilla, he will open the doors. Ibrahim alayhi salatu salam, one after the other. Let's take a look at some of the children. So he has his main alayhis salam is made any Salam was brought up in such a beautiful way.
Such a beautiful way that whenever his father had to do something for the sake of Allah, there was never objection, because
they knew that this is the instruction of Allah. Okay. So I had a case some years back where there was a woman who was complaining of the husband never being at home. So I asked, I said, so where does he go? She says, I don't know. He makes an excuse to say I'm going to the masjid. But he goes to the masjid from facha and he comes back after Salatin Asia. Now, I was a little bit you know, I'm surprised I said this man is a good man. It seems like he's a good man. Where is he going? What is he doing? So I decided to meet him Brother, you know, don't feel bad, but you know, I think you need to spend a bit more time at home.
He says no, he says no. What are you talking about? Have you changed? You know the story of Ibrahim alayhis salam? I said yes. For about it. Now, I don't know which way the story is going. I have no idea what he's about to say. He says, You see, I read that Ibrahim Alayhi Salam told his wife and his child that I'm going because Allah told me to go and they said,
so he says, I want my family to be just like that they must submit. When you bribe money, sir, I said, Brother, number one, you're not Ibrahim malasana.
Number two, Allah did not tell you to just go leave them just say go, they must say Okay, go. It doesn't work that way anymore. You know, have you ever heard the story about when Ibrahim alayhi salatu was Salam visited Mecca? Very interestingly.
And he, he went to the house according to the narration mentioned by obliquity Rahim Allah, and he says, he went to the house of his maid, and he said, I was made at a salon was not there. So he asks the question, he knocks the door, the doors opened by the spouse, he asked a question about the Where's your husband, and she didn't know who's this old man. And she had a few bad words to say, Ah, you know, he said something negative. So he says, okay, when he comes back, just tell him that such and such an old man was here. And he says, you know, you need to change your door, you know, like the doormat or the door, right? So she says, okay, when he came back,
he asks anyone visited. So the wife says, yes, there was an old man and he asked me this question that question then he says, When your husband comes back, tell him to change his doormat.
So he's made a solemn says, You know what, that was my father. Guess what? He's asked me to divorce you.
Whoa, whoa. Now, you know, that's a serious story. Because you know, that's a prophet of Allah. We can't question that. Right. It's a serious story, right? It's a prophet of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah definitely has inspired him to do that. And he did it for whatever reason, he visited after some time, and that time there was another wife. And it's finally Salam was not at home. And the same thing happened. And he was impressed by the response of this woman who had no complaints. She said, some good words. So he said, Tell him to keep your door or your doormat. So when he when the husband came back, he found out that this is what the old man said. And she says, that was my
father. And he was happy with what you had to say. And he said, keep your wife. So now today, you have certain parents who tell their children when they've got no problem with their wives or anything going wrong. Listen, divorce your wife. Why? Because myself and your mother, we've got a problem with her. for that. I love her. Hey, don't you know the story of Ibrahim la sala.
Allah says you must derive a lesson from the story. Allahu Akbar. So when Allah He was cases come to me while I am not joking. It has come to me. And you know what I told him, I said, Brother, you are not Ibrahim Ali Salim the day you're a prophet of Allah, you can talk. Because that story does not make sense to me either.
That a father must come and instruct his son to divorce the wife and the two of them may not have a problem. That's for an Abbe of Allah. If there was something really happening, and we're sitting together, we're advising when there is a major disaster. And the father says, Look, I have a feeling maybe you guys should separate. That's a different issue. But there's nothing wrong. How many of us are guilty here of interfering in the lives of our children who are married? Sometimes we think we have the right one. Because if
this No, you're not a prophet of Allah subhanho wa Taala. You cannot come in and start dictating in the wrong way. Your duty and My duty is to make sure that the marriage works, to make sure that we solve the problems, we try our best to resolve matters. The first line of advice is never to say, just break the marriage. Just go home just quit. It's never that. It's always to say, listen, try and make it work, make amends, forgive each other, have a big heart, etc, etc. Yes, if it is extreme oppression and so on. It's a different matter. But the point I'm raising here is when we draw lessons from the stories of the prophets, we should never come up with something negative like this,
and just claim No, he did it. I can do it. You're not a prophet of Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease so is mine a salon brought up in such a beautiful way that the day his father came to him and told him in Me,
He comes in he tells his son Oh my son I had a dream. Allah instructed me to sacrifice you Subhana Allah, sandwich city man says you know what that do as you've been instructed inshallah you'll find me to be patient, Allah.
The child was brought up in such a unique way that when he knew this was the obedience of Allah, he did not object.
He didn't object. We don't have it's so hard. We don't have it so difficult. But the way we bring our children up, sometimes we use the word love and Avi
as an excuse, to buy them everything they want, and to do everything they want to do, even if it is dangerous, and detrimental. We haven't even guided them sometimes. I know of some parents,
whatever keeps the child quiet, they just give the child why because just let them play. It's okay. I'm okay. You know, even if it is something bad, sometimes
there is a game that might be detrimental sometimes. And the diction is developed to the television such that you know what you put your child in front of the TV with the remote and you go away, you can go in for six hours, the child will be happy, playing and flicking and see whatever they watching and you're so excited doing your own thing you might even disappear for a while come back in to see the child in the same place. I tell you what, I tell you what you need to know what limits are. Whatever you have given your child you need to know to teach the child the limits of it. what's right, what's wrong, you need to learn you need to learn to teach, learn to teach your children how
to use things that have been given to them, they need to be responsible. I have a policy if you do this, you will get that if you do that, you will get this Subhanallah you love for example your computer game you love your phone. Well if you do this much here you're going to get that phone for two hours in the evening so panela amazing. So it's a bargain into everyone's house is different there's no blanket rule that works everywhere but the point I'm raising is inshallah we can become a little bit more we can become a little bit more inshallah conscious of how we treat our children by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So that was from Ismay Salatu was Salam and one little point
that I raised. Then if you take a look, he had another son called his hat. his hat alayhis salaam had a son called Jaco Jaco Bonnie Sanam had a son called Yusuf. So Yusuf alayhi salam, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam speaks of him very highly. Do you know why? He was an OB? Son of an OB, son of an OB Santa's gonna be Subhan Allah, what a great gift of Allah. Imagine as a prophet of Allah, his father, Prophet of Allah, his father, his father, Prophet of Allah, Allah Subhana Allah, that's a gift of Allah. And on top of that, he was so handsome. He was so good looking. He was gifted by Allah, guess what happened to him? Subhana Allah. I touched on it yesterday just for a few moments.
And then we have to close because the time was up, like right now I've spoken already for 15 minutes, almost. Do you realize that not 15 five, zero, by the way, so panela so use of a salatu salam gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala. He went through difficulty upon difficulty upon difficulty upon difficulty, knowing that he's the Messenger of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
right at the beginning, right at the beginning, he was just a young boy. He just had a dream, and he told his father the dream. And the father told him, don't tell your brothers, because your brothers may become jealous of you. Unfortunately, he told them, they did become jealous. they plotted to kill him, and then they decided let's not kill him. Let us just, you know, bury him, or let's throw him into a pit into a well, they threw him into the well. And guess what happened? He was a young boy. They came back to the Father lying, lying. While
he beat me, Gabby, they came with false blood on his shirt in the evening. The father knew immediately these guys are telling me a lie. But he couldn't pinpoint what exactly had happened.
So panela One might say,
Okay, I just thought of a point right now, let me pause and say, you see, we all have children, our children make mistakes, right? They make mistakes. You don't just rule out or throw out your kids because they've made a mistake. You help them You try. The children have an appeal of Allah jacoba came back to him lying to him, and they were his children. Does it mean he brought them up in such a way that they were liars? No, but shaytan came to them. He did a good job but she comes and messes things up my mind.
My father, sometimes we try our best with our children. But still, when they grow to a certain age, they start doing things that we did not teach them. Maybe they learnt it somewhere else. Maybe shavon beautified something for them. Don't become too depressed at that you did your job, you will continue trying, you will continue making dua to Allah. They have now become independent people answerable to Allah, we will keep trying because we are parents, we will never give up. Some people say when should I give up? your parent? Yes, don't give up, keep making do our right up to the end and keep trying right up to the last moment. I know of drug addicts who've had the dirtiest life.
They've come back with warm tears of Toba after some time, because someone had hope and someone may do out for them. And someone kept trying for them. I know of some shares who later became shakes, and the beginning of their life was actually quite dark. I know of some of those. How did it happen? Someone worked on them, someone had hope someone tried therefore my brothers, my sisters, no matter what you've done, don't lose hope in the mercy of Allah. Allah is merciful. Allah is merciful. Just be strong, come back, come back to Salah, come back to Allah and you will find your doors opening one after the other by his will come back to Santa Salah is something Try not to compromise. That's
one thing. inshallah, if you have it in place, you will open a lot of beautiful doors by his word, by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So my brothers and sisters, here comes the children of jacoba a salon with a lie, they lie to him. That doesn't make him a bad person. No, he wasn't bad. But what happened is shaytan deceived them.
Now, I will end with this point in Sharla. Very interesting point.
Again, it's a lesson for those with sound intellect. I said earlier, that in our lives, certain things happen that are negative. We suffer loss, loss in our health. Maybe you might lose a job, you might lose some money, your investment might pop, for example, you might have lost a limb, you might have lost a loved one. You might be struggling this way that way. I promise you bear summer, because your use of Annie sallahu was loved by Allah. He went through so many issues. Number one, his brothers were jealous. Number two they plan to they threw him into a pit number three people picked him up and decided to sell him. Number four, the people who sold him who bought him decided to
accuse him. Number five, the system the justice system found an innocent man guilty, something he didn't do and God Subhana Allah.
What happened one after the other everything started happening negative. He never ever said she, I think someone's done black magic on me. You heard that one. That's a famous line. It's a famous line. When one thing went out, the second thing went out, the third thing went out, the fourth thing went out immediately we start thinking okay, there's black magic on me. And who do we start blaming, you go to a chef and the chef takes two coconuts and start doing this.
And a little while later, he says I can see. I can see what it is.
And it takes a name. Okay. It takes a name. I don't want to stick the name because I said it the other day and I regretted it. Okay. But anyway, he takes a name, right?
And what do you say is sometimes they say it's someone in your own family. That's a famous statement. You know why Shane town's main job is to destroy the family. And every single extended family has some form of politics. It's impossible to have an extended family of about 1015. And this everything is you know, sweet. There has to be one or two small cracks here and there. It's normal. So a man comes and chisel in the yard. Someone in the family you start thinking Yeah, I know. I did have a problem with this guy anyway, I'm sure yeah, that's it. So what happened? You are in the trap of the devil to do that. Yusuf Ali Salam never ever blamed the jinn or shaman or anything of that
nature. He knew the shaman. You know what he says?
right at the end when they came together, he says I'm so thankful to Allah who brought us together after shavon shavon had to split us who did the blame, shape and
you know is what meaning we're so lucky. We've got someone to play. So
you know, if you yelled and screamed, and you did something wrong at home, all you got to do is go and say Salaam Alaikum. Guys I'm so sorry. You know that?
And they'll say yes, it was cheaper Mashallah.
We've got someone to blame. The problem is we come up and you don't even want to blame. You know why?
We are little shouting ourselves sometimes. Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, Allah subhanho wa Taala not let that happen. So my brothers and sisters, this is something unique. It's something amazing that a movement has, we know that it's the devil that makes us do bad. I always say that people are good chiffon is bad. I'm sure you might have heard me say that people are good. But shaytan is bad. When Satan overtakes you and in practice you you need to understand you need to get out of there as soon as possible.
Get out of there as soon as possible, because he will track you. The longer you're in his clutch, the more difficult it is to come out. So as soon as you did something wrong, come back to Allah as soon as you did something wrong, come back to Allah. Don't allow yourself to go deeper and deeper into that sin, because then it will become more difficult to come out of that. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for us. So here is Yusuf Ali Salatu was salam, one after the other, so many bad things happen. And right at the end, guess what happened? The people who planned his downfall,
they were the ones who came begging to him.
Allah raised him above those who try to drop him because raising someone is in the hands of Allah.
So when someone tries hard to tarnish your image, ignore it. Don't worry. If you do something, do something positive about it don't become negative because you know what? Allah will give you a day when you will see what will be the results of their plot. Mama Kuru mama Kerala. They plot and Allah is the one who plans against that.
And who is the best of planners, Allah.
So when negative things happen by patience, when someone tries to plot against you patience, what will happen? A day of victory will definitely come for you. And you will see it and Allah will grant you the smile of that day. You Somali salami reported that it was almost 14 years, according to some narrations. And then what happened he saw the victory his brothers came in. And I want to end with that same point that I said I will end with where
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We are going through a very tough time Have mercy on us. We brought you some little wealth. We want you to give us a little bit of practice and have mercy on us. Be charitable. He couldn't bear that because now it's his own brothers. What happened?
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He says you know what, I want to ask you guys a question. Do you know what you guys did to Yousuf and his brother while you were ignorant. Now he's finding an excuse for them either. And I'm Jacqueline, that's an excuse to say when you guys did not really know what you were doing. Do you know what you actually did? They were shocked and stunned. The reason why they were stunned is because they knew that okay, the story of the brother of use of perhaps maybe few people might know it because he was Binyamin. And you know, but the story of use of no one knows it, no one. So this can only be him, no one else. Zero. They kept it within themselves. So they looked at him. They
looked at him again. And this is in a gala.
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Wow. Now was the time of the truth. He could jail them. He could punish them. He could execute them. He could. This is retribution. Anything could happen on that day. He's in power. And these people who tried to kill him initially, they were all there in front of him. His brothers. Do you know what he says? And
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He didn't even want to hear what they had to say. He says I am you. So this is my brother. Allah has favored us. Wow. I don't want to hear about the negatives on this day. I don't want to hear about what you guys did. I actually want to tell you the famous of Allah upon us. Wow. And they were shocked. They were just looking, they didn't know gobsmacked What do I say? What do we say?
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We are brothers and sisters. What did you learn from usermod A Salaam. He tells the people so para la la de la Coolio. You know what my brothers for 40 years you separated me from my family for 40 years you did a lot of harm. But I want to tell you today no retribution I still love you go home, go and see our father take the shirt, bring everyone back Come and enjoy here. Who would do that? We are not ready to do that with our own brothers. We have a problem of $1,000 collapse my brother no more my brother Don't ever come back to me. That's how we operate.
Let's sort our matters out.
What did you learn and after those verses, that is when Allah says look at the canopy kasasa him and
indeed the stories of these messengers are lessons for those without knowledge. Look at Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the day of flesh the day of the victory of maccha he went into Makkah with the whole army in front of those who had persecuted them for so many years. And he asks them a question knowing they knew very well that this man has come to us with superior power. He has come to us with 1000s of men and he has marched into Makkah we harmed them we persecuted him for years on end. And here we are standing in front of him he can do what he wants with us. And the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says yamashiro courage.
Even become a people have courage. What do you really think I'm going to do to you today?
And obviously they are looking they are worried they are concerned. They are very concerned because they know this man could do anything but they were hoping good because Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was a great man. He says to them. I am going to tell you what my brother Yousuf told his brothers latter three ballet Coolio no retribution against you today. It has
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every one of you you can go your whole free there will be no retribution we have forgiven you for what you've done.
That's the sin of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Today we have a disease for the smallest difference.
We hate on each other. The smallest difference, we hate on each other. We call each other names we want to hit each other, destroy each other, harm each other. Let's change that inshallah for the sake of Allah and we will become the best of people that Allah subhanho wa Taala make us an asset not only to the oma but to humanity at large. akuto kolyada sallallahu wasallam Obara, kala Nabina Muhammad wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.