Channel: Mufti Menk
Saturday 11 May – 8.20 pm at Fanar “Advice for a Muslim”
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All praise is due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and all his companions, his entire household, may Allah bless them all. And may He bless all those who have brought the goodness to us and may He bless every single one of us and grant us goodness, and grant us the ability to spread this goodness and May He grant us all also the ability not only to respect entire humanity, but all the creatures of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And may He make us an asset not only to our families and communities and nations, but to the globe at large. I mean, beloved brothers and sisters this evening, the topic I've been given to speak on is
advice for a Muslim. And if you notice the recitation that I have chosen just prior or just as I commenced, is actually the topic.
If we look at surah Luqman, it is a surah named after a man who was a very wise man in the Quran. If you open the books of Tafseer you will come across narrations that make mentioned that this man was not a prophet of Allah subhanho wa Taala but he was a wise man worth mentioning in Revelation of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So some of the narration say he was from a nova Nova is actually an Arabic term, referring to the Sudanese region of Africa.
recatch from Han Allah so he was a man from Sudan roughly, if we could say that according to some narrations, and yet Allah says he was granted wisdom. He was wise. If you look at the beginning of the surah you know some of the people who memorize the Quran, they are sometimes confused tilka to Kitab al Hakim Dinka to Nikita will move in, you know, there are different sources that start in different ways. This surah you need to know look man was al Hakim, so it is still carry at will Kitab al Hakim, you need to know that this is a simple way of understanding and memorizing it. And knowing the difference between the two of he was a wise man very wise, he came about he was given
some gift from Allah, what was the gift, the opening verses Allah says, We are the ones who have given Luqman the wisdom.
This means the source of wisdom is Allah, just like the source of knowledge is Allah and you need to know the difference between the two. If you have knowledge, it does not necessarily mean you are wise. And sometimes people are wise and their wisdom takes them further than those who have more knowledge than them because of the wisdom. So this is why it's very important to have both and to ask Allah subhanho wa Taala. To grant us wisdom, like they say, knowledge is to know something and wisdom is to be able to deliver those goods to others in a way that makes it palatable for them to digest. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us both. You know, it's easy to know what's right and
wrong, but sometimes it's not easy to convey what's right and wrong to people in a way that they are convinced that this is right and wrong. So May Allah make us people who are not only sharp and intelligent but at the same time, who can handle situations who know what to say when to say it, how to say it, who you are speaking to how to address them. If you look at the life of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam it is full of both knowledge as well as wisdom May Allah grant that to us in a few minutes inshallah I have in front of me perhaps 45 minutes to an hour. In that time, I'd like to go through what happened to this man and what he said that made him so important. He was
given a gift from Allah, Allah says Allah tada attina We are the ones who have given who Luca man and his matter, we gave no command the wisdom.
And what did we tell him? Initially Allah say, You should be thankful to Allah. Now, there are two points here. One is when you have wisdom, you automatically thank Allah and the other is part of the wisdom was that Allah inspired him to thank Allah.
This means someone who is not thankful to Allah has no wisdom. And if they have no wisdom there, then they don't even have knowledge because part of knowledge would also require you to be thankful, if you do a good deed to me and I say thank you very much.
As a human being, you feel acknowledged, Allah does not need the acknowledgement, but to give you more, he says, You acknowledge and I will give you more to show you that even amongst yourselves, if you acknowledge you will prompt the person or inspire them or perhaps inclined them towards helping you more so if you did someone such a big favor and they just looked at you and carried on Will you do it again for them, you need to have a very big heart Mashallah to do that again. And the third time when they just walked off Subhan Allah or what if you did someone something good and they are harmed you in return, they harm you. You know, you help a person you build them a house and next
thing, they they come in, drive into your vehicle and say this man, I'm jealous about the car he's got Come on, he built your whole house, he did you such a big favor? would he do you anything else? The answer is no. So the minimum gratitude to Allah is that you do not do that which will anger him which will upset him that which which is unlawful. If you engage in what is haram you are actually being ungrateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So step number one, to stay away from from that which is prohibited. Step number two, fulfill that which he has required you to fulfill as best as you can. This is why Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam says, If I have instructed you to do something, or if
I have prohibited you to do something, stay away from it. And if I have instructed you to do something, do it as best as you can. This is an amazing instruction of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
is anahita Mansion infantil if I have prohibited you from something then stay far away from it. What either Amar to kombucha in fact to mean who Mustapha to, and if I have instructed you to do something, then do it as best as you can. This is a beautiful instruction of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because the instructions are plenty.
We may not be able to fulfill every single one of them. The prohibitions are a list you have no
excuse to engage in prohibition. May Allah grant us wisdom. So Allah subhanho wa Taala inspired him, part of inspiration is that he be grateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala why What does Allah say?
Why am I in school only NFC, if you are going to show gratitude to Allah, by worshiping Allah by fulfilling his commands, you will definitely find that you will benefit from it. If I show gratitude, I will benefit from it. Imagine, Allah gives me my nose, my eyes, I use my eyes in the correct way. Whenever I have faltered, I asked him to forgive me, I use my mouth in the correct way I use my hands in the correct way I benefit as many people as I can. And I try to be a good person Alhamdulillah I will benefit from the goodness. So who benefits when there is gratitude we benefit ourselves to start with, and then Allah says, one
me, whoever wants to show in gratitude. Here the term Kapha refers to ungratefulness someone who's ungrateful in any way, whether they have disbelieved whether they have not worshipped Allah, whether they have worship Gods besides Allah, whether they have been sinful, whether they have not fulfilled the obligations, all that in gratitude. Allah says, We don't need them, they need us. Money means independence. Allah is independent, and he is full of praise. Whether you praise him or not, praise belongs to him.
Whether you thank him or not, all thanks belong to Him. Subhana Allah so this is why it's important for us to know what Allah says in the Quran.
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if you are going to turn away from the obedience of your maker, he will replace you with others who will not be like you. You don't want to read Salah the masjid is still full. You notice that if someone misses Juma and they are outside somewhere, is the masjid going to be empty, it's going to be full. Nobody will even notice that you will not there because Allah says we replace you so quickly with someone else.
If there is a good cause, and you don't want to give your money, the good cause will happen without you. Someone else's money is going to be used in a good cause. Maybe your money might be used in a bad cause. So this is why it's very important to ask yourself this good. Am I involved? If I'm not involved, let me do something better. Let me try my best to involve myself in the goodness if it is an obligation. Make sure you are there if you don't first in the month of Ramadan. There are so many who fasts even outside Ramadan. You know we have asuna fast May Allah help us all to fulfill it every Monday, every Thursday. Try it out. If you don't try it out, there are other people trying it
out anyway. But the sweetness of it, it's not a ferret fast. It's as soon as the sweetness of it you will only taste when you start. I have heard non Muslims.
I have heard non Muslims say that they fast on a Monday and a Thursday because they have found how beneficial it is health wise and they say they know that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the messenger of Islam has taught this but they say we found it to be very beneficial for our health. A professor and I heard this on BBC you can Google it and check.
That's the biggest chef in the world. His name is Chef Google.
So you can check it. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us on a grant this is really, the reality is there are people who are doing things and they're not even Muslims and they've learned from Islam and we who are muslimeen sometimes are far from the Islamic teachings. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us and may He guide us all. So Allah subhanho wa Taala has explained very clearly that if you are going to show gratitude, it will benefit you You are not going to show gratitude. You need to know Allah is independent anyway. And Allah subhanho wa Taala is definitely full of praise and the owner of all praise, then Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of something very interesting. He
says, Remember, remember, when you look man
addressed his son
saying the following now before we say what he said, Let me explain to you the word that is used booni
Allah says why is Allah Allah tomorrow living he when remember when look man told his son even we all know mean San phoolan in full on such and such a person son of such and such a person. We know that. What did McMahon say to his son Yamuna? Yeah. Wow. Why didn't he say you have been
Yeah evening, he didn't say oh my son using the normal word but rather he used a very sweet word. He used the word which depicts closeness. It depicts love. It depicts the tender age of this child. He's not just a son but he's a young son boonie in the Arabic language is known as a religious leader meaning something that is used in a way that depicts many aspects of young age perhaps, or you know, making it smaller, sweeter perhaps, and sometimes in a fund manager, you're speaking to them, it shows love and affection. This means he's telling a young son, this his advice to the children as well. And Mashallah, I do notice a lot of children who come Mashallah, and listen very
attentively. Many of the brothers have told me, you know, My son is so small, but he sits and he imitates you, somehow Allah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us goodness, the reality is this type of advice is for everyone. Even the young people who are seated here, this type of advice is for everyone, not just for the adults. And this is why he says, Yeah, Bonnie.
Yeah. It could have been a brother that he was advising. It could have been a father, like the case of Ibrahim alayhis salam, he says, Yeah, but he
said, we, all my father
is talking to his father, knowledge has come to me that did not come to you. So follow me. And I will show you the path. Imagine Allah kept that in the Quran, how many of us, our children are trying to correct us but we don't agree. We say go away. Well, Allah has kept it in the Quran, there is a statement which says that Ibrahim tried to correct his father, when the father did not take correction. You see how he suffered. So if we don't want to take correction from our children, we will suffer perhaps in a different way, but common logic and in this particular case, the son is being advised by his own father, when you talk to your children speak in a sweet way. Don't say Hey,
why are you playing with an iPad? Oh, why did you buy it father?
Today, the children Mashallah they want to play with things, but sometimes we are guilty of facilitating that for them. Now, Allah subhanho wa Taala, protect us speak to them nicely. Yeah. boonie Oh, my beloved Son, you have an opportunity, and you speak to them beautifully. You talk to them. We are being taught here. This is advice for a Muslim.
And this is why I kept it in the Quran, revelation that is for us. Amazing. So when you speak to your children, be careful, address them nicely, be close to them so that you can tell them things. Some people have this cat and mouse relation so far from my chair, my child, that he is frightened to even greet me. He's frightened to even talk to me. Some people have that I hope it's becoming less and less in the world. Because as much as you are a parent, and you will remain a parent, but you need to have a close relation with your child so that when they have a difficulty and a problem, they trust you with their problem. And they know my dad is not going to just blow his school
and get upset with me, but rather he's going to help me. This is the attitude. So the first piece of advice he says, Oh, my beloved Son, remember one thing, don't associate partners with Allah. Yesterday, we spoke about the purpose of creation. And I made mentioned quite clearly to say we are created in order to worship Allah, and we explained it from different angles. But to be honest, if you look at what we're saying today, the first point is do not associate partners with Allah. If you do, you are foolish. Do not associate partners with your maker, the one who made you believe that he is one, he is singular, he is alone, and He alone is worthy of worship. Nobody else is worthy of
worship. You cannot worship a stick or a stone, an idol or a grave. Nor can you worship a top pop star. We've always said pop stars are called pop stars because they pop. You've heard that before.
We don't wish to pop stars. We don't know. We have role models. Yes, that is correct. But remember role models Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the ultimate role model. from him. We take everything Yes, from anyone else. SubhanAllah. Like today, you might have a role model of your teacher, or perhaps someone else who is around, you know, a respectable person, we need to take certain things and some things we excuse them because they are human beings as well. Say for example, you've got a school teacher, and to you He's your role model. And on the other hand, you have a big businessman who's very successful, who's your role model, the businessman is your role
model for his business and the way he has succeeded, perhaps, and your school teacher will be a role model in whatever he can he or she can
offer you in terms of looking up to but there will be aspects in their lives that you will need to discount Why? You see them smoking behind the wall. Oh, I'm not supposed to have seen that. You know, you see them sometimes it can happen they might you see them in an angry moment they say something that is not something you follow, but the one you follow completely is Mohammed Abdullah Al Hashimi al Rashid sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you follow him completely. So here, look man is telling his son, don't associate partners with Allah. Be careful. You worship your maker, put your head on the ground only for your makeup. Do not allow yourself to be distracted. That is my advice.
Number one, advice number one to a believer. Please do not associate partners with Allah no matter how enticing it seems, you know fortune tellers, magicians, those who are engaging in witchcraft, all this is association of partnership with Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we are want to say lead your life Come on lead your life. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness and may protect us. So this man says in a shield kalamoon alim, indeed, association of partnership is a grave sin, what is the meaning of volume, if you look at the Arabic language, and you open the you know dictionaries, and so on, you will find a very interesting meaning alone watershape if you add mahali, to put
something where it does not belong, so you are putting worship where it doesn't belong, and your co existence is because of worship. So that's the biggest loss, this is why it is called
wound. It is a great sin. Great wrong. Perhaps in the English language, we would say a great oppression, to put something where it does not belong. You have put your head on the ground for someone besides Allah besides your maker, how could you do that? And this is why sometimes the non Muslims come to us and they tell us why do you put your head on the ground for a black box in Makkah?
You tell them new ways. We don't worship the black box. Not at all. We worship the one who made us that's it. Whoever made me I say Suba hanabi Allah Allah, what is the meaning of Robin? You know, Praise be to my Rob, who is the highest? What is the meaning of Rob, Rob is a mean is a word in the Arabic language made up of three letters bah, bah, bah.
And it has a meaning that will fill three booklets. That's how deep his meaning is. I can give it to you in a little nutshell. You might have heard me saying it at the beginning of some of my lectures. All praise is due to Allah nareesha cherisher sustainer provider protector creator cura the one in whose hands is lies the control of absolutely every aspect of existence, that is only part of the meaning of Rabu.
Subhana Allah so we cannot associate partners without God, Allah mean, the one who created everything, that's who I wish. This is why Islam is the fastest growing religion on the globe because of the concept of godhood. And the fact that you plug in directly with your maker whoever made you that is when I call Rob and I call him Allah and I put my head on the ground for him alone, and I confess my sin to Him alone and he is the owner of forgiveness and he is the one I will return to when I die I call him Oh, the worshipped one. Yeah, Allah yarby May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness. So now if you take a look at the next piece of advice, after he started off saying,
worship Allah alone, then he carried on why did he choose to start with this because the rest of it is a waste of time. If the root is rotten, if I can use that word,
you have a house you're building, your foundation is very Sandy. And then you want to use the the strongest concrete at the top, it won't help your building will still come crashing. Your foundation needs to be concrete then you can enjoy building as high as you want. The deeper and stronger the foundation, the taller you're building. Ask those in Qatar, they know Subhana Allah tall buildings Mashallah we see all around. Look how long they take to dig before it comes above the ground. Once it comes up in a few days, you see, wow, this building is up but it took them very long to dig down. So this is what we say your Sheikh, it is not supposed to be there. solidify your belief in Allah so
that your route is powerful, then whatever you build is meaningful. Everything you do will be for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So this is a powerful lesson that we learn. Then he says,
And Allah has indeed ordained to man to be kind to both his parents.
Imagine one is Allah. And after that he is saying you need to be kind to both you
Parents, not just your mother, not just your father, but both of them. You need to be kind to them.
Amazing question might come to a lot of people's minds. Oh, my parents are divorced. So who do I owe my allegiance to kindness does not stop because of a divorce, you need to be kind to both of them. Excuse your parents when one comments negatively about the other. You are a child, excuse them. Your kindness is above. Your kindness is above the negative comments of one against another you need to notice. Sometimes the weakness of men parents are divorced. or parents have got a problem and mom comes you know your dad is a rotten man. So you say right, Dad, why are you rotten? Come on, take it easy. There's two sides to a story. You need to know that your mom's weaknesses she involved you as
a child in her Miss lavaca lavaca kindness does not stop at a mere comment. You don't
you still kind of your dad comes you greet him. Minimum kindness is to greet him to embrace him.
If he tells you my son, or my daughter, I need you to do this no problem get it done so much. So even if they are disbelievers, the Quran tells us that you still need to be kind to them. Amazing
disbelievers. You are kind to them. The Quran is telling us. The only time you do not obey an instruction of your parents is when they instruct you to do something which is prohibited in the law of Allah. Someone says you know what, here's some money. I'd like you to go to the shops and buy me the latest French whiskey that you have. You say Dad,
I love you. I'll bring you water or bring you drink or bring you juice, but not the whiskey that bad for your health. Whatever you want to say say it because you cannot obey an instruction against the instruction of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So this is why Allah says, even if they are instructing you to engage in sheep, you stay away from the chick, but continue being good to them. Wow. Subhan Allah, look at the wisdom, look at the advice. They are instructing you to do shield
against Allah. And Allah says, Don't follow them regarding the ship, but continue to be kind to them. So the statement of one divorced parent of yours against the other is far lighter than she imagined. So unlike saying if they are trying to push you into shield, do not listen to that. But you must still be kind to them. I'd like to say no matter what you've heard about your father or your mother, kindness is above the comments that you've heard. Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. This is the advice to a Muslim.
Amazing. May Allah subhanho wa Taala. open our doors grant us a deep understanding. Everyone goes through different problems, different difficulties, the rate of divorce is very high across the globe, it has increased over the last few years. And whatever the reasons are not our topic today. But what we do know is some people are not crying to their parents because of a separation. Why did my dad do this? Dad, you were very bad. If you loved us, you'd have stayed with our mother, for example.
How do you know maybe because he loved you. That's why he separated to allow you a decent upbringing, instead of an upbringing with fighting and swearing every day, maybe so you don't know the other side. And even if you didn't know, try your best if if, you know if they are if one party is totally ignoring you completely, it's a different story.
But you as a child is supposed to still be kind May Allah grant us goodness. Now I see we have a lot of adults here. And Mashallah, we're living in a country where perhaps a lot of us are distant from our parents in terms of physical distance. So how do I fulfill the rights of my parents, whether they are Muslim or not? We told you that's besides the point. At this moment, we are talking of kindness to your parents, you pick the phone up tonight, call your parents.
Just find out how's your mom doing? How's your dad doing? If they've passed away she had to offer them. The Hadith says a child who makes dua for the parent is offering the parent a very valuable gift. Very valuable, because the deeds have been a cut when they die besides three things and one of these three things is the death of a child for the parent the basic you just ask Allah Allah forgive my father, repeat that every day. Yeah, Allah for example, grant him you know, ease in his grave and what have you and so on. This is something that we are requested to do and it's something very beneficial for them. But today if they are alive, call them some of us with Mashallah you know, q
tell change the name to read.
Why it means I want doesn't it? We do it means I want I'd like to think that's what it means.
What does it mean?
Correct someone saying no it means to do okay?
To be honest with you,
the name is changed and tariffs went down and the competition has increased and you have Viber and you have Vonage mobile and you have so many other things I don't want to advertise everything because you know people might think I have a 5% cut in there but the reality is use it come on it's become cheap. You can sit on WhatsApp all night but you haven't WhatsApp your own father. One might say he's not on WhatsApp. Well and phone him Come on. So had Allah make a phone call that How are you doing? You'd be shocked my son did something go wrong?
Did something go wrong?
Why because we are so far from our parents. Kiss your mom on the forehead. Tell her my mom, I love you. Please pray for me.
She might not be there tomorrow. Allahu Akbar. Allah granting forgiveness. So it's very important for us not to undermine these type of acts of worship. It is an act of worship, to keep comes with your parents act of worship. And yet we don't sometimes in the same city they are living but we've never been to see them we haven't you know visited and so on. We've not even made an effort to call today you have we call it what these video calls people will call a spouse they'll call a girlfriend. They'll call anybody hey can I see what you look like wow, you looking good. Your parents they want to see you You are a result of Allah Buddha and Allah power he chose for you those
particular parents as a test for you Subhana Allah and yet you're not even ready to communicate with your own parents come on. So I think inshallah we can all make an undertaking. inshallah, those of us whose parents are alive tonight, will see the timing because you know it might be night someone else they might be sleeping and say Hey, stop disturbing me Put the phone down. So think carefully when you can at your earliest convenience, give them a call or visit them. Try your best say a word or two and Subhanallah you set the trend and the pace let your children watch what you are doing. Because tomorrow they will do it with you. Let your children watch what you are doing tomorrow they
will do it with you show them the excitement Hey, we today we speaking to your granddad Mashallah Come let's talk one day they will do the same with you well, ah he will smile and he will say Subhana Allah, Allah has guided me This is the advice of a Muslim and we are sitting here speaking about it from lookman May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless him and bless all of us.
So this is a beautiful statement that Allah says that even if they are trying to turn you away from the deen, you don't follow that. But you still keep on being kind to them.
Because Allah says to me is your return, then I will inform you of what you used to do. This is showing answerability whatever you do, remember Allah is watching. Remember you will be answerable to Allah you are and so our mind. Whatever we do, we are answerable to Allah. I remember mentioning yesterday in both my talks that if you want to have a good meeting with Allah the day he is taking account of our deeds, scatter your books with a lot of instead of engaging much of his stuff, I ask Allah for giving us look at Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he engaged in so much yet did he need it?
He did not need it. But he engaged in it much so that we who come after him can follow that example. One of the narration says up to 100 times a day he used to repent to Allah ask Allah forgiveness. Sometimes a week goes by we haven't yet repented once we didn't think about why because Mashallah we sleep we get up we go to work, everything is okay the car, we have remote control vehicles, boom, you press the button and it starts waiting for us. The air conditioning unit is already on, you know, there are vehicles now. And somehow everything moves and so we have no need to turn to Allah. Allah don't lose track of the fact that you are answerable to Allah one day he will show you what
you used to do. Subhan Allah. Long time ago people used to say, how is Allah going to how does he keep a record of everything we do deeds for so many years, 50 6070 years. Today, you have a small chip, they call it one terabyte, you come across it. one terabyte, you know how much that is? Perhaps 3600 libraries full of books can go into that one terabyte the size of my mail. You can have that amazing and now people are saying what can I have in there you can have approximately six
6000 hours of high definition
for me to show you or for you to show me a CCTV on the side of a few days ago, it's recorded already in the system. So amazingly, why do we think we can run away from Allah? You know, once I was looking at something, and it was a strange documentary where they were showing how people enter a lift, and they look, is there a camera here in this lift? If there is no camera, the camera is a little bit hidden, then you find them doing silly things sometimes and so on. And you start thinking to yourself, people look to see if there's a camera before they do something wrong sometimes not realizing that there is something more capturing than any camera that is on you. 24 seven you cannot
run away from Allah Subhana
Allah bless us and grant us ease and goodness do good deeds to imagine you enter the palace of the army and you know you know you're being watched Come on from before you enter one mile before you enter you know, you're being watched. So you know, you're smart, you make sure you smiling you made sure you're okay, well, I'm being watched. I just know I might be a person who might just get a commendation to say Wow, what a good man you know, he's and you being good. Allies watching you, so be even better. Love. Allah is watching you, so be even better. Let's move on with this advice, beautiful advice, where the man is speaking to his son. He's spoken about chick number one. Number
two, he's spoken about parents and he's given details, details of the parents. This also is a verse that is a revelation from Allah. If you read how it is worded, it's actually a revelation from Allah and instruction for all of us as well. That is how it is worded here. Then he says javaone Oh my beloved son.
Amazing What is he about to say? Exactly what I said moments ago, worded in a more beautiful way in
on the TV.
me, oh my son, even if it is something as small as the seed of a mustard,
even if it is something as small as the weight of the seed of a mustard,
and it is inside a rock, not on the rocks under the rock, under the rock, you can move it and check it inside the rock or as high as possible or as deep into the ground as possible. Meaning in the skies or in the ground, no matter how high or no, Allah will bring it forth. Allah knows about it, he will show it to you, he will bring it he knows. So he is saying
you can never hide anything from Allah. He knows what is inside. He knows what is outside. He knows what is beneath what is in the top, every direction. He knows absolutely everything. Keep on remembering this. This is the advice that lokman has given. So I need to remember Allah is watching me all the time, no matter what I do. If I hide from my parents and do something I was watching he knows and he knows that this thing will have a repercussion later on whatever he wants to do it will happen. We need to make an effort to be the best of people. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala groundless goodness. So this is also a beautiful piece of advice. He says Allah knows everything he has
knowledge and he knows the intricacies the small details today when you meet someone
you take them at face value. You see me as a martial law, this good guy, I hope inshallah
when I see you I say Mashallah, good guy, you know, you look at the guy who's decent fella Alhamdulillah we hope but deep down. Every one of us might have something we don't want someone to see. I have maybe a bad habit. Maybe I said something yesterday to someone. That was not nice if the world had seen that I said this to someone or they would think what is this fellow all about is preaching goodness at that moon and NASA been busy. What and so now I'm full circle. You know you are ordering people to do goodness and you're forgetting yourself. So sometimes what happens? Allah is so merciful, that he shows what is good and he covers what is bad. Yeah, manohara jameela wasabi.
One of the ways according to Allah, O you who has made a parent that which is beautiful, and has hidden that which is ugly, that which is not beautiful. Allah has hidden it. This is a gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala
So we should know, when you are conscious of Allah. When you have Allah in mind, he gives you the ability to distinguish between right and wrong. Yeah, you alladhina amanu
de la jolla, como Karna. Amazing. Oh, you believe if you are going to be conscious of Allah, He will give you the ability to distinguish between right and wrong between this and that he gives you the power. It's called the the ability given to a believer.
It's like a thirassia. It's like a certain type of an art, something given to you by Allah subhanho wa Taala, where you just see something and you think to yourself, I just need to be a bit careful here. Subhana Allah, may Allah grant us that type of distinguishing power.
Sometimes, you know, there is a business deal lucrative. Let me give you an example, man, this is a true story. A man came about and told me
I can double your money. He told me I can double your money. I said, Okay, sit down. He was so happy. He thought I'm gonna give him a lot of money. You know, I can double your money said, Okay, sit down. He says, and you know what, I can even triple it.
Now, he was sitting on a chair, I didn't understand him or sit on the floor. You might say I can quadruple it, you know? But I said, Okay, how? He says, You see, I've got the scheme, and he started speaking. Let me not get into the details of it. It's not our topic. But I want to raise a point. And he started speaking and telling me telling me, and he says, You know what? I don't even want to cut from it. Don't worry. I looked at his clothes. I saw he had some tea on his clothes. I seen this man is dressed in a very inappropriate way. I asked him Brother, what car do you drive? He says, No, I don't yet have a car.
You want to double up my money and quadruple to triple up my money. And you don't even have your own money. Where did you? Who are you trying to fool here? He says no, but I'm telling you I can I said sorry. I'm not interested. said if you were a multi billionaire, I might have thought you you might have a business way of doing something. But what you're telling me does not make sense at all. Amazing. And he tells me you know what? But I'm telling you, I can double your money. What a fool What a fool Subhana Allah, may Allah grant us goodness, all of us who are seated here. I want to just give you a little piece of advice. When someone comes to you and tells you something that is
too good to be true, be very careful. Very careful. So many people have lost money to Ponzi scams, you know, pyramid schemes, so many people, and it happens every single time we hear the story but we still give our money. It is greed. That's what it is. Don't do it. Your money, work hard for it. Do not waste it in that way. ask Allah Allah Allah give me the power to see what's right and wrong. And then inshallah you will be able but that will only come if you are conscious of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Let's move further with this beautiful advice that look man is giving his son melas peace be upon all of us. I mean,
he says Yamuna Yaki new salata Wow, the term Salah had to come in see
although the Sherry at that time would have been different to the Sherry are we are following now meaning that type of Salah might have been slightly different, but it was called the prayer the Salah, oh my son, establish your prayer. Pray constantly to Allah. In our case, do not miss not only your five Salah, but on top of that, try your best to offer voluntary prayers to Allah constantly remain connected to your maker, optimist salata. Oh my beloved Son, oh my beloved Son, do not miss a single prayer. Fulfill your prayer, establishing a key Miss Salah. You know a comma to Salah is a term that is used to establish your prayer. That means to be firm on it, to do it with leisure. We
that some people they just read their Salah because they have to do it when others read their Salah because they want to do it. Very big difference between the two. Ask yourself do I read my Salah because I have to or do I read my Salah because I want to if you are reading your Salah because you want to Alhamdulillah you have got to a higher level and this is when you know when we go to sujood we take our time when we come up we take our time. If you are in a rush in your Salah there is something wrong. Allah subhanho wa Taala blesses me he sees
what mobila o v one.
Oh my son,
encourage people to do good. And join that which is good. Which means go out and promote goodness
and demote vice that
Which is evil, discourage people from it? Tell them look, this is evil. This is bad. Don't do this. speak to the people communicate with them in a good way. When you have goodness, do not be selfish. Today we are muslimeen. Do you know a lot of us have not even invited non Muslims to Islam. Some of us are shy, we are so shy, we say, you know, Islam is such a bad name. How can I invite this friend of mine, he's gonna tell me, Hey, you want me to accept Islam, and you want me to make my life difficult just like that.
So we are so shy, we don't even tell them. Brother, there is something called Islam. In actual fact, if you study it, you will find it to be the best, you will find it to be the solution to all your problems, we too shy to say that go and look at those who have reverted to Islam. At times they are stronger than the born Muslims. And they are more passionate about giving the message to others because they know they were upon darkness, when they saw the light, it turned on so bright, that they could see so much compared to what they had in the past which was complete darkness.
So this is why do not underestimate the value of a small message that you give a person you work with, or a person who might be in your company for whatever reason, who is not a believer, even for a moment, if you've said something, it is worth it. Can I tell you, you can get a DVD, you can get a CD, you can get a booklet you can get anything, perhaps and just give them to say my brother, I just want you to know what I believe in, please go through it, you will understand us better. That's all. That is the minimum you could do. More than that you can actually sit and discuss. Remember to be very respectful. Remember to be very respectful. This verse is telling us giving us advice as
muslimeen to say if you are selfish with your Islam, you are wrong. You need to conveyed not only to non Muslims, but even amongst ourselves. We need to encourage each other to do good. And we need to demote bad in a way that people are convinced that this is bad.
You know if you have a child and you tell him my son, do me a favor, that switch you see there is an electrical switch, never touch it. What have you done? You have given him good advice, we have prohibited him from something bad. But some of these children they say my dad said Don't touch it. Let's see why. Let's see why. Now they start taking a pair of scissors and poking it inside. When you see you take them and you take the scissors away, hey, don't do that. You know, what's a clever thing to do? Go to Google, I told you, he's a chef.
And you can check some little clips of how people have been burned because of temporary with electricity, call your child. Just have a look at this. You show it to them once they will never, ever go close again. And you watch the child when other children come that say, Hey, you know what I saw a clip of what happens to people who touch these things. Don't even go near that say no problem. They take it easier from their comrades than from us.
So this means you thought of a way of explaining to them. But if you don't think of a way, you might tell them all their lives and a child may die because of electricity. They may there are so many who have because of that because you did not think of a good way to prohibit them from that evil. The same applies in the Sharia. The same applies in Islam. When you want to discourage people from bed, don't just go and blast them and start telling them how much they are out of the fold and going into the fire of jahannam and all that they will turn away from you and they still do what they're doing just like the children, but speak to them in a beautiful way. explain to them why it's wrong, come
out and convince them to the degree that they will then go and tell other people you know what my brother I used to be there before but believe me that's not the path come and see what it's supposed to be like Subhana Allah, what a beautiful piece of advice.
And then he says was Mira Allah, Allah saw back when something afflicts you when something has reached you in terms of negativity, bear patience, be forbearance be a person who actually holds on not everything, every time will be according to your liking. You might lose things in life, you might not be able to get what you want in life. That is why Allah has kept a paradise. And we've said this many times. What is the point or the value of Paradise if in this world, we were supposed to get everything we want? What's the point? Anything I want is here. So Allah says, I want to show you that this world is a place where you will never, ever get absolutely everything you want.
The way you want it, but we have kept another place, if you are forbearance and if you bet patience upon what we have decreed for you, in this world, then we have kept for you a paradise later on, which you will get to. And then we have to stay.
What I love is
that whatever your soul desires will be yours, whatever is delicious to the eyes shall be yours.
Imagine the term delicious, is used for the eyes, do you taste with your eyes? The answer is no. in heaven, you will amazing whatever you look at, you know, wow, you know, sometimes you look at the cake. And you say, hey, this thing is looking tasty and you taste it and it does not taste nice. It has deceived you isn't it? But then you look and as you think it tastes so it shall taste amazing Subhan Allah, Allah make it easy for all of us. But this we need to be a patience upon what Allah has decided for us. And this is why he says, this is something you need to follow, it is something you must be firm upon, fulfill your prayer and join that which is good, prohibit that which is evil
and bear patients upon that which has afflicted you, which has got to you in terms of negativity, that is what you need to do, you must do.
Then he says the issue of humility and humbleness is addressed why my brothers and sisters in this world when we have got things slightly the way we want it. Sometimes we become arrogant sometimes. You know, you have a person for example, very wealthy, if he's wealthy, and he's arrogant, he needs to know that there are people who have more wealth, but they are humble.
If a person has good looks, and they are arrogant, because they think they are beautiful, you know, there are people who have better looks, but they are humble. So this world is a competition competition in the sense to do good for esthetical hierarchy. Allah says compete with one another when it comes to doing good. So if you think you are hot there is someone hotter than you but more humble Wow. Where did it lightly wedding of the youth? If you think you're a big deal, there is someone who is a real big deal, but they are more humble than you are. Down to Earth. You won't even know someone sitting with you and you ask him Sorry sir. And he won't even tell you who he is
tomorrow you find out this was the CEO of a huge company while he was sitting right next to me I can't even believe it. Why because he's humble. And me I've got 5 million in my pocket and I walk around who
hand the boss What is that?
So so this is why Allah says here wala Casa de Cali
never turn your cheek away from the people in this arrogance. me.
I don't know if I did it right. But
Allah forgive us. Really? I'm just showing you to say that this is what sometimes people do they really turn their heads. Allah says Don't do that. Don't give you a cheek to the people who say no, I'm bigger than you better than you know. The only time you will be better is when you get your book on the right hand on the Day of Judgment, then you can say wow, ha omokoroa Okita.
Allah says in the Quran. Those who are given their books in the right hand they will have the right to say and they will utter the words or read this book of mine. Wow. I'm so happy on this day I am the happiest. I have this happiness given by a law that I bought my book on the right hand. mela granted to all of us.
That is the day but before that we are nobodies. We are nothing. Really. We are nothing. The only difference is taqwa. This is why the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he clearly says la familia robbyn Allah, Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah and so on and so on. And he says in Levitical law, there is no virtue of an Arab over a non Arab and vice versa, or a black over a white and vice versa. Except
by piety, you are close to Allah, you are higher. And the closer you are to allow, the more humble you will be. It's a sign it's a sign that Allah Subhana Allah grant us humbleness and humility may make us people who do not turn away from people just because of a little bit that Allah has given us. And the worst is He who doesn't have anything he has nothing but still he is arrogant. Wow. That's the worst. Neither are you intelligent. You know some people they think they are intelligent. And this we need to say it because when the young
People are sharp, sometimes we haven't advised them. Some of our children are very clever, but at school, they make like they are it. They make like they are it you know, they don't listen to the others they make like they are a step above. we as parents need to make them you know, calm them down say Listen, you are coming out first in your class, be humble. Talk to the others properly, you know, be good. So many people have come out first in class, but they found it hard to find the job. Do you know that?
Well, I I know of people who, who became top doctors medical field, and yet they took years to find an appropriate job.
Allahu Akbar. Good, good people. So this shows that you know what, it doesn't mean you came first in class, so you are above the rest? No. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala opened our doors, grant us ease and goodness, we need to be humble. And we need to be down to earth. And don't walk on this earth with pride with arrogance tread properly. So people say Look at that guy. He's so arrogant. He's driving a Lamborghini. No. arrogance is not connected to the type of car you are driving. It is connected to your attitude. Even if you are driving a Corolla like mine. And you have an attitude, you're arrogant.
And if you are driving a Bugatti, I'm sure Qataris would know what that is.
But your attitude is humble. You're not proud. You can be living in a palace and you can be the most humble person because you respect those who work for you. you greet people, you have a humanitarian feeling for others, that is humbleness, you treat people with respect. That's what humbleness is. treat people with respect that is Islam. And that is taught in the Koran
that is humblest. So what we need to know how much wealth you have and what type of house or car you have, or clothing you have is not arrogance. arrogance is described in the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam as rejection of the truth and despising people. Two things. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, when you mock at people and you don't respect them, it means you're arrogant. And when you reject the truth, when it comes to you, it means you're arrogant. SubhanAllah because the Sahaba the Allah and asked Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam when he says the
man can affect be Miss Carla hi Betty, Mr. Delman kibble. He says, a person who has in his heart, even the weight of a mustard seed of pride will not enter Paradise. So the Sahaba were worried. They said, Oh, messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we like our clothes to be neat and everything in our conveyance to be good and so on. He said, That's not the pride we're speaking about. The pride we're speaking about is when you reject the truth, and when you despise people to things. May Allah subhana wa Taala help us to respect one another as human beings, and at the same time, may he keep us humble.
Then he says, towards the end of his advice, Look, man, the Wise. He says, Oh, my son,
when you are speaking.
In fact, he says, when you are walking, walk humbly, and when you are speaking, Don't raise your voice in a way that you yelling at people. What are you yelling for?
Calm down, speak with a nice voice. When you talk to people instruct them politely. You know, May Allah forgive me? And may He forgive all of us. Sometimes we are guilty of raising our voice for no reason. Sometimes in the house, we raise our voice so badly with our own children. Yes, they are our children. But my mother's it does not give you the right to yell at them. The environment of the house becomes so dark because you are screaming all the time. So you might say well, they make me scream. They don't they are a test from Allah, you are screaming.
We need to come down all of us, with our children, with our family members, with our workers with all the other people stop yelling at people speak with respect your own child, if they've done something wrong, you don't need to say, you know, I don't want to show you how it's done. Because you might say relented there. But the truth is, we should not be doing these things we need to understand at once. We need to understand that once drop your tone.
Yes, if you need to speak loudly because people need to hear you. It's a different thing. But when you are yelling
and screaming unnecessarily
it is more like the brain of an ass meaning the sound of a donkey mule. That's what the Quran says the worst of sounds is that of a brain donkey brain knew. You don't understand what it's saying. You know, it makes
noise? What is it saying? Don't know makes a noise? What is he saying? I don't know. You see, we have a habit sometimes. Look, I'm going to say this, it has happened to me as well. May Allah forgive us all.
Sometimes what we do when you have a helping hand at home, and we want to call them, whatever the name is, you calling them from three rooms away, and they haven't heard you. And then you call the name again. They haven't heard you say, she's deaf.
She's deaf, Allah gave you legs, you need to walk there. And you need to say, Please come here, she will come immediately.
Who told you to scream from one side of the house expecting her to listen from the other side of the house, if you really wanted that to happen, installed microphone and installed nowadays in every room. So then you got to say, these come here.
Like the airport and like some of the stores. You don't need to scream. But we are foolish because we are all guilty. Sometimes from one side of the house, we scream to the other side of the house. And then we get angry that she purposely didn't come. But hang on. The Quran tells you not to scream and yell which means in other words, take a little walk to where they are and tell them nicely with respect to I need you here, please come it will help your cholesterol levels as well we took a walk.
Now Allah Subhana Allah, Allah bless us, you know, I have spoken about this advice. And really, I hope and pray that we can implement it as best as possible. May Allah forgive us for whatever we may have said there is a shortcoming. And whatever goodness we have said, May Allah help us implemented my brothers and sisters, we all have homes, we all would like to live a happy life. Remember, there are pieces of advice we can take him, if you fulfill them, you will find a lot of calmness in your life, you find yourself very content. This is advice given in the Quran. And we need to know let's be good with our children. And as parents, let us make it easy for them to obey us and to be good to
We as parents, sometimes we expect our children to listen to us, but we are unreasonable. You know, sometimes the issue of marriage, for example, comes about and we are so unreasonable with our sons and daughters. We don't want them to marry someone for some silly an Islamic reason, an Islamic reason. And then we forced them to marry someone whom they are not supposed to be married. They don't want to tell you that I'm not happy. I don't want to say you have to. You have to you don't know how much goodness they've done for me. That's not Islam. A woman is not there for sale, but you got to give her to those who you owe money to. That was the idea. That was the ignorance. Believe
me, if you have imposed on your child, that she marry someone who she does not want to marry, you have committed a sin. And this is one of the reasons why the divorce rates are so high. People are telling us No, it's because of love marriage. Wow. Yes, we do agree that sometimes people do not know how to get married. But you as a parent, why did you not guide them from a young age of eight and nine as to how to choose a spouse so that the day they grew older, they had they could choose correctly now that they are old, and they've made a choice, and you stayed out of their lives? Who is to blame that they've made a choice, and they are fighting you for it? It's you to play him you
were too far away from them. You might have been trying to earn the millions and the billions, not realizing that 1 billion alone is enough for him for having spent time with your own children.
Well, ah, it's a difficult and with us, we don't like to listen to advice. Sometimes we don't like it when it hits us. And it hits us hard at home, we still don't like to listen to advice. Let me give you an example of a man An example of a man and this example is only to draw the attention of ourselves. They say this man had his motorbike and he went he went out one day to sell the motorbike. So he passed his neighbor neighbor was an old man sitting outside you know old people, they like to sit outside in the sun and watch what's going on and so on. He says oh my son, where are you going? He says I'm going to the market to sell my motorbike and I'm going to get so much
money and I'm going to open a business. He said Son say inshallah senses forward and going
Oh, did you hear that? What was he stated? He says son say inshallah, what's the meaning of inshallah, if Allah and Allah says in the Quran
la Soraka has a beautiful statement, do not say that you are going to do something tomorrow or in the future, whether it is near future or afterwards, without saying that if Allah wills without hanging it to the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So the old man says, say inshallah, he says, forward, I'm going, he didn't say it anyway. So he stood at that herranz you know, that auction and he waited with his motorbike for a long time.
And people came they showed no interest in his bike and they were going and the day was almost over. Near the end of the day. One man comes and says, How much are you selling your bike for? He says his price. He says, Okay, can I take you for a ride? He says yes, he jumped on it. He went, didn't come back.
He didn't come back. This man waited evening came nightfall came midnight. K, nobody came back the whole auction closed. They told him what are you doing? I'm waiting. The man is gonna come with my bike. He waited the following day in the morning, he started walking back home, he had to walk.
No money, no bike. Now when he walks back home old man is sitting outside there and he says my son, you got your money.
You know what he said? inshallah, I took my motorbike, inshallah I waited at the at the Mirage inshallah men came inshallah, he took my bike inshallah I gave him a price inshallah. He wrote it inshallah he did not come back, inshallah. I'm walking here, inshallah I pass, he said, What's wrong?
What's wrong? He says, I regret insha Allah is the word I should have said. He said something too late. When we told you to say it once you didn't. Now you can say it a million times. It's not going to help you.
How may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant His goodness, mela opened our doors. So we sometimes are just like that word. Or like that person who didn't utter the word. When we are told something. We don't like to listen. When it comes back to haunt us. We say oh, no, this should have happened. And now we have a big mouth. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all. Really, it was a good few days that I spent here in Doha. And I've really met some good people Mashallah. And I've actually seen a lot of people whom
I've perhaps met on the social networks and it really brings a warmth to the heart to see such numbers and so on. I see a lot of smiles and a lot of faces Mashallah and I appreciate the fact that you know, the warmth of the brothers and sisters here the hospitality as well and I will be leaving in a few moments in Sharla straight from the airport from here. So I request you to allow me to walk out reasonably inshallah.
By the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And until we meet again, next time here, we say May Allah bless us all May he make us have benefited something serious from what we've said, until we meet again and we say, well, Sal, Allahu wa Sallim wa barik, ala nabina, Muhammad Subhan, Allah Subhana Allah,
Allah, Allah, Allah and