Change and Transformation
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ROU Convention in Trinidad and Tobago April 2015 Day Two
Bismillah R Rahman Al Rahim In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala Most Gracious, Most Merciful al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala Lord of the worlds, the one who created us the one who's in absolute control of every aspect of our existence we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for everything that he has bestowed upon us we're also live on Sunday mala from Calcutta Jemaine abena, Mohammed Ali wasafi.
Woman, Sani Nila complete blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his companions, may Allah bless them all. May He bless every single one of us, and our offspring, those to come up to the end of time. May Allah, grant them steadfastness and bless them all. I mean, my brothers and sisters yesterday, we spoke about transformation. And we started off with the issue of changing for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And I want to continue from there. And I promised you that I would ask you a question tonight. And I'm going to start with that question. So what was the question? Do you remember?
Yes, get up for failure. So I want to know from you with a show of hands, high up in the air, and be honest, how many of us got up
this morning? And we read it, put up your hand. Hi.
Mashallah, Tamara Kela hamdulillah? You know, it's so good. And I asked this question in this specific way, because I knew that those who didn't get up would actually be eclipsed by those who did so we wouldn't be able to see them. The idea was not to see those who didn't read, I could have said all those who did not get up for failure, put up your hand. But that's not up to me. I shouldn't be here to embarrass you. But all I'm doing is to encourage you to say those who didn't get up put up your hand and we were all in the majority and they were much more hands up than yesterday when I asked you who had got up for Salah. So inshallah the change has begun, hasn't it?
It has, how many of us are going to keep it going and Charla,
by the will of Allah, we need to improve, we need to continue inshallah, like I said, many speakers will come to talk to you many reminders will come to you, but you need to ask yourself, when is it that I'm going to change? And what type of a change Am I going to effect in my life? Is it something temporary? Is it something that is only going to last a few days? Or is it something permanent? Am I going to improve as the days pass? Or am I going to go, you know, dwindling on my improvements May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant the strength. My brothers and sisters, we have so many verses of inspiration in the Quran that motivate us to change. The Quran is full of inspiration, but certain
verses are connected to change and what to do. We spoke about it yesterday when we said we start off by seeking allows forgiveness, having hope in Allah subhanho wa Taala has mercy understanding that we are going to return to Allah this evening. We read Salah Phoenicia a few moments ago on the pitch here at this stadium and I can say it again from john stadium Mashallah.
Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us yesterday I asked someone Why did everyone laugh when I said the name? And they said it's the way you said it. So Han Allah, you know, so anyway, we read Salah on the pitch here. Did you notice something we put our heads on the grass, am I right? heads on the grass. One day that grass will actually be dug up and we will be buried in the soil. May Allah subhanho wa Taala Have mercy on us.
One day we're going to go back into the soil Allah says mean half Allah upon komachi Hanoi Laurie Dooku
we have created you from it meaning from soiled and we will return you into it and we will resurrect you from it once again. That's Allah subhanho wa Taala. So what's of importance is for us to know that we are going to go back into the earth. Today we are on it tomorrow we will be beneath it. So prepare for that day by transforming by changing for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala by becoming closer to your maker by understanding that nothing should come between you and seeking forgiveness. Nothing should stop you. Nothing should delay you. Nothing should make you lose hope in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala that is transformation. That is the way inshallah we will progress. I spoke
about improving our dress code, improving our attitude, improving our behavior at home. How many of us have really taken that seriously, how many of us went home yesterday, and we're better people
With our family members put up your hands
we need to see more hands inshallah, we need to see more hands inshallah I know it would have made a difference because
a believer is always benefited by a reminder, Allah subhanho wa Taala says very clearly why they kill, keep reminding for
me, because the reminding definitely benefits those who are true believers, if a reminder helps you you're a true believer by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. You're a Muslim who whom a reminder helps. That's a sign of Eman. Some people get upset when they reminded me from amongst those. You know, someone tells you oh my brother, you know, you shouldn't be doing this. Stop climbing and fatten on the pavements and stop doing whatever else they're doing together that some kind of lie lend some words today didn't
Wow. You're just busting the line, aren't you? Wow, may Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us Really?
Well, I forgive the brother who told me that.
He actually asked me would you like to busser line brother. And I told him while I if it's in the obedience of ally, wouldn't mind if it's in the disobedience of Allah. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect me and every one of us I mean,
but there's no point in earning the Wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
to things that make you happy, but displease Allah, because there are so many things that would make you happy and would make Allah subhanho wa Taala. Happy, we need to turn to Allah, really, we need to understand the plan of Allah subhanho wa Taala he has a great plan. If someone tells us stop doing this, stop drinking, stop gambling, stop going into the clubs and and stop doing whatever else it is, you know, do we get upset and angry? Hey, who are you? Why are you telling me this? You know, what's the point? Well, ah, he my brothers and sisters, sometimes what is right glares us in the face, but we just deny it. And sometimes we we lose focus of what is right to the degree we become
so intoxicated by the evil of the world that we don't realize that there is a maker we have to return to yet. It's glaring us in the face. SubhanAllah our loved ones have returned to their maker. People we knew who are more powerful, more wealthy have gone back to Allah subhanho wa Taala. But we still think we're not going to go you know, it reminds me of a joke Subhan Allah with a lesson,
something on a lighter note where two guys watching the news. And the one guy looks at the other. And they busy looking at the news where there is a man who's about to jump off a bridge.
And that was on the news. So the one guy tells the other, meaning the first guy tells the second, I bet you this guy's gonna jump off.
And the second guy says, No way. He's not going to jump off, I bet you 100 bucks, he's not going to jump off $100 he's not going to jump off. And the next thing in the news the man jumps off. And so the second man is taking out his $100. And the first one says, Look, I can't take the 100. So the second one says Why not? He says because I I watched the news earlier on.
I watched the news earlier on. So the second one says. So the first one says I watched the news earlier on and I knew that this guy would jump.
So the second one says yeah, I watched the news earlier on as well. But I didn't think he would do it two times.
So then he says, Okay, give me the $100
you know, to let it let go away. This is how sometimes the truth glares us in our faces. We know reality, but we're just denying it just like this guy. today. We laughed at him. Because for us, it's foolish to think okay, it's the same piece of news. And because you saw it once and you think it's not gonna happen again. That is the most foolish thing ever. The same thing when we watch people go in front of our eyes and we think it's not going to happen to us. How foolish is that? It's the same thing.
Now Allah subhanho wa Taala open our doors May he make us from those who realize, let's take a look at some of the verses of Surah flockmen were Luqman alayhis salam in this quest of transformation of his own children and offspring. He tells his son certain things in order to transform the child in order to remind the child the first thing he says Yamuna, Yala, cu*ic mila shilka Laguna de, oh, my son, don't associate partners with Allah for indeed that is the grave oppression. You want to transform yourself. Start off by worshiping your maker alone, only you make. That is Islam. People want to know what Islam is. Islam is not what barbarism is being shown on the media about a religion
that has sometimes been hijacked by politics.
Who want to forward their political gains? using the name of religion and counting myself and yourselves or trying to do that? No, Islam is purity, it is full of peace and goodness, it is full of serenity and contentment. It is full of rules and regulations that will govern the beauty of your life, they will come about with lots of peace and contentment. People say I want to be a Muslim, but there are too many rules and regulations. And I always say, you know, the private schools have many more rules and regulations than the public schools sometimes. And this is why sometimes in some countries, you achieve better results in private schools or the discipline is greater because there
are a lot of rules. Do you know what? If you dress this way, you will be punished if you do that you will be penalized if you look this way, you will be punished. If you walk across the field, you will be on detention. And if you happen not to greet someone, you will have to run 10 times around the field and so on.
That sounds hard and harsh, doesn't it? But that's discipline. The day they took away all these rules and regulations from the schools is the same day they dropped the standard of morality in the schools and discipline in the same schools. But does anyone say I don't want to go to the school. It's got a very, very good reputation, but too many rules and regulations. I know it's right. I know it's the best. But I can't go there because too many rules and regulations. Well if you want to be from among the best, you need to embrace these rules and regulations. The same applies with Islam. Lots of rules and regulations, but what do they do? They govern your life. They really ensure that
you lead a happy life focused a focused life. Focus on your spouse, your children, your family members, and focus in such a way that you will you do not lose that focus so that you lose your contentment and happiness. This is the transformation that Allah is asking of you worship Allah alone. don't associate partners with Allah.
In Islam, we worship our maker alone. I'm not allowed to put my head on the ground for anyone but the one who made me so I say Subhana Allah Allah when I put my head on the ground, I'm declaring he who made me the term Rob means the maker the nourisher cherishes sustainer provider protector cura that is all included in the term Robin Robin. I'm saying All praise is due to you. Oh, my Oh, my maker. Oh, you who nourishes me. Oh you who provides for me? Oh, you who is in control of every aspect of my existence? Are you who's going to take me away? Oh, you whom I'm going to return to owner of forgiveness or owner of the hereafter You are the greatest, the highest here I am declaring
your praise when my forehead is on the ground. Wow, what an act of worship. What an act of worship. No religion has the sujood and the frustration that Islam has.
No religion has the frustration that Islam has the way we have it. No. And we are supposed to go down onto the ground so many times a day through the five daily prayers. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to accept it from us. I want to tell you the power of putting your head on the ground for Allah. Do you know the story of Musa Moses May peace be upon him Musa alayhis salam. And they were these magicians that had engaged in their magic, and they had brought along all their ropes and sticks and they try to compete with the stick of Musa alayhis salam. And then the serpent that was the resultant
creature of the power of Allah subhanho wa Taala manifest through the laying down of the stick of the Prophet Moses May peace be upon him, ate up all the other sticks and ropes that all the magicians that come with and they immediately knew that what Moses or musala Hassan has brought is not magic. It is actually something from Allah. So what did they do? They fell prostrate. They put their heads on the ground for Allah how many times
once? How many times did they put their head on the ground? They just went down once and guess what happened?
As a result, Allah forgave him and Allah elevated their status and they are made mention of in the Quran and they will earn Paradise by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala they were persecuted and executed by the fear by the pharaoh around and Allah subhanho wa Taala praises them. What did they do? They dropped prostrate, they fell prostrate for the sake of Allah just once one frustration that was accepted by Allah resulted in their forgiveness and salvation. How many times have you frustrated in your life?
My brothers and sisters, haven't we lost count.
If I told you how many times have you frustrated for the sake of Allah? Haven't you lost count? Well, if Allah could forgive those because of one frustration that was accepted, trust me if one of yours or mine is accepted, I have hope in Allah's mercy and I really hope that I will
subhanho wa Taala will grant me salvation and paradise and the same for every one of us. This is the religion of hope, have hope, if Allah could forgive them because of one prostration I prostrate so many times a day may Allah accept it from me and from you as well. I mean
wow Subhana Allah.
And this is why continue prostrating for Allah worship your maker alone when you are sick, there is no Ill ask Allah to cure you go and seek medication from permissible means, but never ever do that, which is going to displease Allah going to fortune tellers and witch doctors and those who promise you and those who happen to look into a few lemons that they may have cut in a few roses that they might have set. And they might tell you, you know what, your brother in law has done something on you know, your brother in law is absolutely innocent. Trust me, those whom they accused of doing magic, black magic, and so on. Trust me, they are innocence. The ones who have made the accusation
are the ones who are guilty, no matter how long their beards are, no matter how religious they may seem to be, they have uttered something that is prohibited.
When someone did something to Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam it required the revelation in order to find out who it was. So jabril alayhis salam came down with the name, the angels that come down libidinal as Somalia hoody, that was the name of the man. And what happened? It was revelation that came in order to guide us all to the last two chapters of the Quran, surah, 10, Falak and Su rottenness those are the chapters of the Quran the last two
minutes, if you read them every morning and evening, thrice in the morning and evening, Allah will protect you from all forms of magic in all forms of evil and sorcery and so on. You need to read the surah thrice every morning and evening. The problem with us we don't even get up in the morning to read the sutras. And then we want to blame everyone to do things. So if it was revelation that came to inform the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him what had happened. You tell me who does revelation come to today?
Nobody. Revelation stops, it ceases. If you believe revelation has come to someone today. It means you have insulted the finality of the Prophet Mohammed being the last prophet Subhana Allah, the finality of prophethood being insulted. May Allah subhanho wa Taala not do that to us, we believe is the last messenger. We had a sister who embraced Islam. And Subhan Allah Didn't we say moments ago? Say that I bear witness that Muhammad peace be upon him is the final prophet of Allah subhanho wa Taala messenger of Allah subhanho wa Taala Well, there goes. So those who are seeking deal and happen to want to worship others besides Allah by believing that someone besides Allah knows the
unseen in a way that Allah knows it or achieves or receives revelation. They have heard, they need to transform they need to change they need to go back to Allah subhanho wa Taala rejuvenate they need to rekindle the link with Allah subhanho wa Taala they will still be depressed and they will still lack and lose contentment for as long as they are distant from Allah subhanho wa Taala.
So this is where we say, look, a man tells his son Jani Allah to Allah Oh my beloved child, don't don't associate partners with Allah for indeed that is a grave oppression. It is something wrong. It is a grave mistake error. It is manifest clearly wrong. SubhanAllah
and look at how he addresses his child. He says yamane Oh, my beloved Son, oh, my little child Oh my sweetie pie basically, because the term Bunny is a very sweet way of addressing your child, which is one of the sweetest ways you could actually address your own son. You know, they say Ebony. Oh my son, and yeah boonie Oh, my beloved son you know today we look at our sons and daughters and we are shy to call them darlings and sweetie pies because you shy to call your spouse that
may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us sweet inshallah. I mean, Bella, make a sweet, may Allah make a sweet for the right people. Like I said yesterday, what's the point of smiling and being so sweet? And really, you know, being a charmer. Mashallah, but you come home, and nobody's charmed at all. Mashallah, because you're not interested? May Allah forgive us? You need to be the charmer at home. Forget about outside at home. That's where you're supposed to be charming. Mashallah, same applies to the opposite sex May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us rekindle the beautiful links that we're supposed to be having within our homes, within our homes.
If we develop our link with Allah correctly, it will soften our hearts to be the best people to our family members. Here we have the son of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, he says how you can hire only the best from amongst you or those best to their spouses to their wives.
In particular, and their family members at large and the Prophet says I am the best from amongst you in that regard
how many of us our spouses and family members can see this guy is the best
can they can they
oh he's saying x them wow x that's typical tinea x them
we'll leave the question for next time inshallah, you should be knowing it, you know, Subhana Allah, you should be knowing that yes, I try to be the best I can. So you know what? I'm sure they would acknowledge that yes, you are the best.
I just don't want to embarrass the brothers. Imagine if I were to ask the sisters a question. How many of you believe that your spouse is the best ever? And you find three or four hands? What would we do here? We'd have to close this meetings panel and go home. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us so that's the question we won't ask them my brother. Mashallah. Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us. I just love the accent I wish I had a Trinidadian accent. Mashallah, it's a pity I can't I can't put it on I tried.
So my brothers and sisters, Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us the story of look man and a salon because there is transformation in it, there is change. The ingredients for change are there. You know what he says? Yamuna Hakim is sala de mobiel Mousavi one.
Go, oh, my child, fulfill and establish your prayer unto Allah. establish your prayer unto Allah. Establish it for the sake of Allah. and enjoying good, remind people to do good in a nice and beautiful way. When you want to tell people to do good, there is a way of speaking, there is a way of telling them, you don't pretend like you're a big boss, and everyone is so sinful, they're all going to hell, and you're the only one going to paradise. So you actually look at yourself and say, How How, how paradise.
If that's the attitude you haven't achieved, you need to speak to those who are who might seem to be a stray from the path. Because when you speak to them with goodness and kindness, they will really be enlightened to see that this path of goodness has in it, a lot of contentment, a lot of purity. A lot of goodness, a lot of respect for others. But the sad reality is the more we become religious, sometimes the harsher and the harder we are becoming. If that's the case, your religious news is not accurate. It requires a lot of changing a lot of transformation, you need to soften yourself. Those who are the most religious from amongst us are very, very approachable. They are very, very soft in
nature. They really care for everyone. They care for those who are drowning in the nightclubs and they pray for them at night when everyone else is asleep. And they make sure that when they meet them, they are so so engrossed in trying to win them over in the most beautiful way. This is Islam. This is religiousness, religiosity, whatever you'd like to call it, you want to be a pious person. piety comes when you respect the other creatures of Allah, even the non Muslims, the fact that you are so keen to talk to them, the fact that you are so keen to show them to showcase to them the goodness of Islam, and the beautiful character and conduct that a Muslim has been taught.
And you are so keen to see them see the light. That is what would make you a person who has earned the pleasure of Allah who is walking in the light that Allah has given us and has shown for us.
But if you're so arrogant that you look at someone who's not on the straight path, for example,
they may be who knows you might be on the wrong path. But say for example, if someone's not on the straight path, and you look at them as though there is no hope for them. Where were you a few years back? Where were you? And who knows where What about your forefathers?
Someone somewhere up the ladder accepted Islam.
And where did they get the deen from? They got it Subhana Allah from someone who made an effort on them from someone who tried so you be a person who tries as well. And this is why establish your prayer. As look man Ali Salam is recorded to have said to his son, and the lesson is for us all enjoying that which is good call people towards goodness in a beautiful manner with Isla Sabina be given a
call towards the path of your ABA, with wisdom with tact. Don't chase people away. Sometimes when we are regular with our prayers, and we've dressed appropriately and we feel that we are decent Muslims, we chase others away because our attitude stinks. Really, we chase people away. They greet us we don't greet back. We don't greet them sometimes, because we think this man is going to jam them. No, he has said his Shahada who knows the tortoise might end the race before the hare and you
Know that Subhanallah
you might have a person who's racing towards paradise. And last minute, something happens and they didn't do. And you might have a person who spent 70 years walking towards hellfire. And guess what? last minute, they happen to transform and change. Who's the winner?
May Allah help us all. This is why learn to be humble.
Learn to be humble to respect all the creatures of Allah subhanho wa Taala, especially human beings,
learn to understand your duty
towards others, is to call them towards the goodness imagine. And this is why those who go around, inflicting harm damage, sometimes executing and killing those who are non Muslim, they need to learn
that that is the furthest from Islam. If that was the teaching of Islam, none of us would be seated here today, we would have been killed a long time ago by people who believe we didn't have the right to exist, because our forefathers were non Muslim.
There we are.
But rather, we're supposed to be going out sharing the goodness let them come. Let them see. Let them taste, let them let them get the sweetness of putting the head on the ground for the sake of their makeup. Let them see what it is. And if you inspire them to do that, by the will of Allah, you will have a full reward of absolutely every act of worship they engage in because you made the effort by the help of Allah, Allah chose you to make that effort.
So make the effort in sha Allah and call people towards goodness. And then he says one hot Anil mooncup discourage people from bad but in a beautiful way in a nice way. When you discourage people from bad don't make it seem like they are the only ones who need help. No, we need help too. And this is why you hear a lot of the scholars say May Allah guide me first and then everyone else? I need this more than you do. I think I said it yesterday and even the day before.
Well, the day before I remember in particular I said I need whatever I've said in terms of advice I needed before you
Why do we say this because voila Here we are in the same boat where human beings we are.
And just like you would like me to pray for you. I would like you to pray for me. We all go through our human problems and they human nature that makes us for example.
Not be ideal. None of us are perfect. We are not perfect. So we need Allah subhanho wa Taala
we need the help of Allah so when you are correcting someone don't make like you are correcting them from a pedestal don't make like you are correcting them from perfection. No you are not perfect. You are correcting them in something that Allah has blessed you or guided you to perhaps see and at the same time you can tell them my sister You know what I'd like to tell you something. If there is anything you see in me or my brother, anything you see me that needs change that needs you know, that I need help in Please tell me please inform me I'm about to tell you something don't be offended. I'm just like you because I noticed it I'm just going to raise it with utmost respect. I'm
not judging you and I'm not a person who's going to think that you evil and bad but I think some Hana luck that perhaps you need to correct this little aspect maybe it will bring about a lot of goodness inshallah in your life and inshallah you will achieve goodness in this world and the next and I don't mean to be judgmental Subhanallah look at how we've got to beautify this stuff. We've got to beautify this stuff. So panela You know, when we have food.
A lot of the times it's beautified. You know that you have a dessert. And you have little dots of chocolate on it in such a way that it draws a heart and sometimes it draws to something else. And they shape it up in something and they have why if you could have just taken the ingredients and had them as they were put them in your mouth and enjoy the taste. But women spend more time decorating the food than preparing it. You know that lie in the kitchen? Like I always tell my family I always said you know what? You spending so much time in the kitchen. Just allow me to get a cook and they say no, we don't want you to get a cookie. We will cook some annaleigh Wow. Okay, but so much time.
Come on. Make something simple. We're going to eat it at the end of the day. I've chewed it in five seconds. My the sisters take a whole day to make 20 biscuits that looked like a motor vehicle. Subhan Allah and what did you do? You came in Munch them and gone. And that's it. And you didn't even say Wow, nice. You didn't. The only thing you can pick on is I think you bake this a little bit too long. There is an aftertaste in here. And she just looks at you. Yeah.
Well, Allah subhanho wa Taala help us. You need to appreciate don't make and this was the point I was raising. Don't make like you are the perfect one and everyone else is imperfect. You want to correct people in the proper way. Make sure that you make them feel that you know what
You're one of us, and I'm one of you. We're all in the same boat. We all need change. I noticed something, I will raise it, you notice something, please raise it in the most respectful way. And you don't need to publicly do something to disgrace people and so on. No, it must be with respect. This is why I say when you have something to eat, they beautify it so that you feel like eating it, you know? I'm sure the worst feeling is when you enter, like a coffee shop and you choose the best looking cake. And when you bite into it, it tastes like sand. How do you feel?
You feel ripped off, don't you? Because you say hey, I chose that which looks so nice. And here I bite into it and look at what it's all about. Voila, he my brothers and sisters. We need to beautify our, the way we speak to others. I always say it's a it's a product, sell it to the people. It's a product. You know, when you have a business deal. When you're a salesman or a saleswoman and you want to sell something you always mentioned the good things in such a beautiful way and you come in you know sell sand to the Arabs Subhanallah
like they say you sell ice in winter you heard that one
because you just said you know this ice is so important as cold as it is it will make you feel warm. And so I hope you're allowing my brother you know they called ice beyond a certain temperature is called hot ice. Have you come across it? They use it in these ice cream bands, I think.
So my brother, you need this ice and next thing he buys the ice in the middle of winter with the smiles annaleigh we're not cheating. We're not deceiving. We're actually selling a product that is the most important product on earth. And that is something that we need to market in the most appealing way. And trust me if you're going to be hard hearted, and if you're going to be harsh, they will run away. Allah tells Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam while I woke
up one morning kobina from boom in Hoenig, if you are hard hearted and harsh, they would have dispersed from around you. But it's the blessing of Allah that bestowed upon you the best of character and conduct so you will lenient towards them. So they came. So you spoke to them with respect. So people came to listen to what you had to say. And in order to take heed because the way you spoke was something very, very considerate of the situation that people are in now lawmakers from amongst those who can correct one another in a beautiful way. I mean,
this transformation, this is how it will come. This is how it is the change we need in our lives. The approach we have the attitude we have towards others, even those who might be sinful. Those who might be might not be on the straight and narrow. So panela what type of attitude you have towards them, changes, change it now. Remove hatred and envy jealousy from your heart. It's not difficult. You need to fight yourself to say yeah, Allah, I'm just one. I'm very, very mortal. I'm just a human being. I make so many mistakes Allah you've covered me. Yeah, Allah helped me guide me and help me to guide others.
So Allah subhanho wa Taala says
that Look, man Alayhi Salam tells his child one honeymoon card was better Allah Masada, be patient, be patient regarding that which got to you that which hurts you that we that which happened to you that was negative, be patient. My brothers and sisters, every single one of us has to go through certain things that he or she does not want to go through. Sometimes we go through turbulent times, we go through loss of life of loved ones, we go through loss in terms of finance, financial loss, we go through, for example, unemployment, you know, time of a timeframe or a period of time where we looking for a job and we didn't find or we go through sometimes a divorce. Sometimes we go through a
stage where perhaps we are looking for a spouse and we haven't yet come right. Everyone goes through these things. Everyone goes through things that they don't really want to go through.
That shows us it's Allah in control.
And he tells you bear patience, work towards what you'd like to achieve in the best possible way and be patient. So don't just sit back and relax and say, Oh, it's it's it's been predestined already. So I don't know. Let me just sit back and wait, wait for what a job. It's not like the world knows that you're a qualified person, go advertise, do something going on for a job, apply online and everywhere else and let people interview you 125 10 and you might find a job by the will of Allah. But if you're going to sit back and relax, trust me, your boss is not going to drop out of the ceiling and say, Hey, I need you. I need you know, I've got a job here and I need you. They don't
know about you. The same applies to marriage, you need to make an effort. You don't just sit back and relax and say it's not in our culture to actually look for a spouse. So we're just going to sit back and wait what
You're gonna wait until the day you die Aren't you so behind Allah? May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us. culture is very good on condition that it does not contradict the deen the minute it goes against the deen what comes first the dino the culture?
I heard people say the deen I hope it does. Sometimes our culture punishes us, but we cling to it knowing that we are suffering all family members are suffering. You know what one of the cultures are.
A younger girl is not allowed to marry until all those older than her is getting get married. So we promote adultery and fornication. The reason is, everything is set. But that says no. You've got an elder sister. Wait, Wait for what? What if? What if in her destiny marriage is not written? So does that mean now I must also not be married. I must wait. No, you do not wait for anyone if this is ready. The third daughter, the fifth one or the son, right at the bottom, the youngest one ready for marriage, one marriage age, everything is done Alhamdulillah you can skip 12345 get married and let everyone be happy? Are you ready to give up that dirty culture? The answer in a lot of cases is no
I'm not because I love my other children. Well, then who suffers? You are forcing the other kids or one of the kids to suffer? You forcing them to do something that is really against Islam and against Allah plan. Just because you want to cling to something. May Allah help us I know I might have pressed the red button but Allah it's about time someone spoke about it.
Like that there are so many matters, the issue of race, someone wants to marry a person who belongs to a different race. Has Islam ever given you some instruction to be a racist? If anything? It's the other way around.
But would you be ready?
The answer is I don't think so. That's what a lot of us would say. Why not? If you're a true Muslim, that culture stinks. Trust me, or that bit of the culture smells bad. It has an odor, no way. Don't be a racist.
Look at people. If someone has entered the fold of Islam, you have reverts brothers and sisters complaining that for them to get married is so difficult because some of the folks and some of the parents and the oldies happen to look at them and say no way you're not marrying revert. For like a they probably Pura in the eyes of Allah than those who are born Muslim because their book started later on in life. And your started a long, long time before
sapan Allah. So stop this racism, stop it. That is the transformation we need. That is the change we need. Why is it that we are Muslims and Islam teaches us that racism is haram and prohibited. But still we happen to have from amongst us racists or within us we happen to have little elements of racism now and again. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. Like I said, people might not might not like what was said, but you don't have to like it. It just has to be the truth. That's it.
Imagine a person from a totally different race, coming to ask for your daughter's hand in marriage, and she is keen and interested Subhanallah and you just being a block noise. I'm not interested. Who are you? How are you going to answer alone the day that he resurrects you from the soil and the dust? What answer Are you going to give in your grave? There was nothing wrong. The man came ahead. He came forth. He was a brilliant character proper Dean. And the only reason you shook Your head is because he belonged to another race stowford Allah.
Is that Islam?
No, it isn't. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us transform me he helped us change Really? May he be with us at all times. May these things be matters that are discussed, matters that really these type of issues considered taboo in society, but not taboo in the eyes of Allah, they need to be crushed. They need the barrier needs to be crossed by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala
my brothers and sisters it's about time we turn to Allah. Be patient upon that which Allah has tested you with. But Don't be foolish. This is why the Prophet Muhammad sallahu wa salam says, Harish Allah May Allah, Allah He will work hard to achieve what you want. seek the help of Allah, don't be lazy. But if something happens, not according to your plan, then just say that was the will of Allah and bear patience.
But if you share the guilt, then you can blame yourself. Oh, I didn't when I had the opportunity. I didn't do this and I did not do that. So panela
We ask Allah for forgiveness and return the new leaf. And we go back to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And do you know what? Look man Ali Salam tells his son and this is something we all need, because
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Omar beloved Son,
this is in Surah procmon Allah says oh my beloved Son, man Alayhi Salam says to his son,
that if it is a mustard seeds wait worth of any deed anything, no matter where it is on earth
it can be within a rock, within the rock
or anywhere in the sky is on the earth.
Allah will bring it forth, which means nothing can be hidden from Allah. No matter what you do. Allah subhanho wa Taala knows it. No matter
what it is anywhere on earth or in the heavens, Allah knows it. You cannot hide from Allah He knows what you've done. The world might not know but Allah knows and this is why seek the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala ask Allah for forgiveness. And I tell you saying is still far and I want to spend a minute on this. When you say a little law Allah forgive me. Oh ALLAH forgive me. How powerful is that? It does not mean only be only if I know I've committed a sin so I should ask Allah forgiveness know even when you think you haven't done something wrong, keep on asking Allah forgiveness because the Hadith says the forgiveness is a key to the doors of all your needs.
Whatever you need, you ask Allah forgiveness, Allah will open your doors completely. This is why Mohammed salatu salam used to say Oh ALLAH forgive me more than 100 times a day scattered throughout the day. I call on you, all of you and myself throughout the day, in in a language you understand or in the Arabic language if you know it, or if you know the words say, Oh ALLAH forgive me. Oh ALLAH forgive me keep repeating them such that every day you save more than 100 times. Oh ALLAH forgive me. Allah forgive me say it within yourselves now Allah forgive me and think of some of the bad things you've done. All Forgive me. Allah forgive me repeat it now as you're sitting here within
yourselves. Oh Allah forgive me and keep on saying it. Oh ALLAH forgive me. And every little while Oh ALLAH forgive me you driving to work or Allah forgive me. And why do I say say it in a language you understand? Because a lot of the times we see that stuff, but we don't know what we're saying. We don't think about it. And we just pay lip service to it. You know when you say a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa salam. Aleikum, wa rahmatullah in Salah. You're supposed to immediately say a stock price. You know what a lot of us do. We say Santa Monica de la Santa Monica de la. La. Have you heard that?
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What's that? You think? It's an insult lip service, you haven't even asked the last forgiveness. You just repeated words because to get it over and done with Come on. You saying Oh Allah, I seek your forgiveness. Oh Allah, I seek your forgiveness. Oh Allah, I seek your forgiveness. Look at how powerful the statement is.
and you pray five times a day. And after every unit every set of prayer, you would say that thrice, you definitely not much more than 100 if you made this a habit, so panela
so you ask Allah forgiveness. And this is how you change because when you are serious about asking Allah forgiveness, you become a better person. You know, if I tell you look, I'm very sorry, what I did to you was very bad. Will I do it again?
Say for example, I
started with Allah. May Allah forgive us all. Say I abused someone with my tongue. I said words that were unacceptable. And then I went to them and I said, you know, my brother. I'm so sorry. I said something bad about you. Please forgive me. I really feel so bad and I feel so crappy. You know, I don't feel good at all. Forgive me, please.
And he says, It's okay. Don't worry, you know, it's fine. It's forgiven and it's okay. It's okay. And you go back and immediately what happens? If you were genuine, you won't say bad words again.
But if you were a fake, you're gonna go back and say guys, he's forgiven me but you know what he is like this and like that and you start to fall again.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us and guide us. Let us never be fake when it comes to asking Allah forgiveness and keep on asking Allah forgiveness. If your human nature makes you earn again, if it makes you commit sin once again. Remember that Allah subhanho wa Taala has mercy encompasses the sin again and again, but don't plan to sin. When you
Asking for that forgiveness.
Allah is watching. Allah knows a lot of records how many times you have asked him for forgiveness. It's there in your book and this is why the Hadith says ooba lemon Wu Ji the FISA effetti his new foreign kathira give good news, too, he or she, on whose sheets a lot of forgiveness will be found on the Day of Judgment.
So you know, your your, your pages will be laid bare on the Day of Judgment. And on your page every little while there's a record a forgiveness, seeking forgiveness, seeking forgiveness, every line, you sought forgiveness. Allah says, Oh, good news to that person. Every line, you know, every moment, my deeds are being written every day is a page, right? Well, I'm just calling it a page. But every day Say for example, there's a page. Imagine on that page more than 100 times every single page. I've said Oh ALLAH forgive me. Do you really think he's going to burn you in Hellfire? No, he won't. His mercy is greater and grander than anything you can think of imagine. Once the Prophet
peace be upon him was passing by a woman who was breastfeeding a little child, infant. And he asked his companions, he says, Do you think that this woman would throw this child into the fire? They said no ways that's impossible.
A woman breastfeeding a baby. You know how much connection there is how much love there is? How much affection there is, it's impossible to think that this woman will get up and throw the baby into the fire. I can't happen. So the prophet SAW Selim says, Well, I want you to know that Allah has much more mercy upon every one of you than this woman can ever have on this baby have
some kind of law what mercy what was what the smiley brings on our faces Mashallah.
But we need really, we need to give the excuse we need to give us the smallest reason for us to achieve the mercy of Allah. If we're working towards the anger of Allah, change so that Allah has mercy will descend upon you. Imagine nothing is hidden from Allah.
Subhana Allah. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us May he guide us May he opened our doors, and the piece of advice that look man Ali Salaam gives his son. Towards the end of these verses, he says, Oh, my son, be humble. Walla
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Do not turn your cheek up.
against the people you know, that means.
Don't turn your cheek. Don't give your cheek to the people. It means literally, don't be arrogant. Talk to people with humbleness, be calm, develop your character, your conduct your speech, the way you interact with people develop it, make sure that is your key to gentlemen, it's your key to paradise, when the Prophet was asked about the deeds that would result in people earning janela and paradise. He said, the consciousness of Allah and good character.
So be a beautiful person.
Be humble. Really, no matter what you have, you can be a very powerful person, a very wealthy person, a very popular person, a very good looking person, you can be whatever.
But you need to be humble.
People will love you when you're down to earth when you are a normal human being like everyone else. When you understand that you're just a number, like the rest.
So develop your character. Don't give up. Don't turn your cheek. Don't become arrogant. You know? Who Oh, you don't know who I am. I am who I am. You know, one day there was a lady
in the airport, and there was a guy who missed his flight because he was late. So the woman who was checking in the passengers happens to tell him that you know what, you've missed your flight, sir. And I'm sorry, it's just closed. He says no, you have to open it in you have to make sure that I get on the flight. She says I'm sorry, I can't do that. It's closed. Flight is closed. You are late, obviously. And you know the arrogant steps in some people who who are powerful get so tempted to flex their muscle at that stage. Don't
don't. So she says to her, do you know who I am? Do you know who I am?
She says Hold on, hold on. So she goes on to the PA system and says Ladies and gentlemen, there is a man here who doesn't know who he is.
He asked me Do you know who you are? So there is a man who doesn't know who he is. You should see the guy's face. I wonder what it looks like? Some kind of law.
So don't ever tell someone you know who I am. Who are you? You're just a human being
and like everyone else
may Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us wala to such a
powerful advice for change transformation. Don't be arrogant. Don't turn your cheek don't give your cheek to the people
and don't walk in a haughty fashion on earth with haughtiness. You know, you walk as though you the person you're the one annaleigh You're the only one. That's it.
You walk like you own the world, so Han Allah, May Allah forgive us, you know, the stage is a little bit too short, small. Otherwise, I'd have shown you what I mean.
You want me to go down and show you how
Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. I'm sure you got the gist of it, right. You don't need to walk in a way that oh, you know, I'm the guy. I'm the dude, that cheat. Oh, it's me. I'm the prettiest girl here. Don't worry. A day will come when the wrinkles develop on you as well. Mashallah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us? those wrinkles are beautiful. Do you know why?
The wrinkles of the face? Take the wrinkles of the heart away. Did you know that?
When you start developing wrinkles on your face, your heart becomes cleaner better. Because you now realized, you know what I'm aging. I'm getting closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. But sometimes no wrinkles on the face. And you know what your heart
don't want to see it. Because the attitude, this is why we say when you walk, be careful, be humble, relaxed. Everyone is there, you know,
there was a lady, one,
you know, popular person on the globe. And she was walking with these high heels. You know, when I say high heels? I mean, like, you know, when you tiptoe you know, you get high heels like a few inches, I don't know. But this was like so Mount Everest, you know, you can have an avalanche. And anytime from Angela.
And she's busy walking in, you know, looking this way. And that way, whatever. And the next thing she dropped flat on her face. It's on YouTubes panela.
She flat, she fell flat on her face. And guess what? Everyone started laughing.
Imagine now if you were humble and you fell on your face, I don't think people would laugh at you. They'd rush to your help.
And I'm not saying people those who laughed were right. They were wrong. You shouldn't be excuse them. That's their weakness. You rush to them and make them realize that you're just a human. Don't worry, you made a mistake. We all make mistakes. But the point being raised is sometimes a lot tests you and sometimes Allah subhanho wa Taala make something happen to you for you to realize you just a normal ordinary human being. You thought you were such a big deal. You look down upon others. And here you are needing the help of the same people you look down upon. Be careful. Be careful, this happens.
So Latham she filled out the marahau.
Allah does not like those who are arrogant, haughty, proud, too much pride. Allah forgive us.
Don't be one of those. That's the only time you'll be able to change yourself. And the last piece of advice that we will speak about tonight.
The way you talk.
What does it feel machico
advice of Look, man.
He says, You know what? Walk with humbleness, humility. We've spoken about that a little bit. And he says, lower your voice. Speak with respect to people. lowering your voice means your tone the way you speak to people let it become Let it be good. You know, when we were at home,
I once lived in a certain country. And my neighbors was such that they would greet each other screaming and yelling. So the first time when I shifted, I really thought they were fighting so I went to knock on the door to try and sort the matter out. And I said Sorry, brother, you know, I hope everything's okay in your home. He said What do you mean? I said no, I hope so. Okay, you know, but what are you talking about?
You guys just fight? No, no, we just created we're just talking. We're just having fun. How are you?
Is that how you talk?
You want to ask me how you stop screaming you frightened the whole lot of
things. You guys get a shock when I was only saying how are you? Come on guys. None of you said I'm fine. Did you notice that? Why? Because that's not a way of speaking. Allahu Akbar.
I think I woke you guys up right? We can go on for another hour inshallah.
Relax, take it easy. Calm down low your tone, man.
You want to talk Don't scream Don't yell.
It reminds me of the old people with some time back. You know, when we used to phone overseas. The phone is just here, right?
Hello it's a guy relax they can hear you know the from England UK
Are you okay? Can you hear me? Okay relax in the UK
and then you get the otherwise crack at the top of the building looking with binoculars saying hi there. Can you hear me? Hello? You find because he thinks they're so near
so you have all these wisecracks all you need to do is just relax. Take it easy speak in a tone that is required. When the Prophet sallallaahu salam spoke. Never did anyone tell him speak louder. No one told him you speaking too loud. He had the perfect tone for one person. It was worth that person. Two people for 220 30 he raised his voice accordingly. Let's learn. It's as soon as the professor sanlam raise your voice according to the number of people you're speaking to. You're talking to one person, it doesn't mean the whole whole needs to know your discussion.
SubhanAllah and when you're speaking to many people, did you notice what I did at the beginning of the session, I took my time to ensure that these microphones were in good position correctly. The fan was in the right place. I took my time it might have taken a minute or two. But for me it's far better to spend a few moments at the beginning than every little while fixing this telling you hey this fan is wrong. That is wrong. This is happening. That's no do it proper. Take your time and then inshallah Go for it.
And I don't regret well i i really don't regret so panela because they were no disturbances were they Mashallah the fans blowing and Alhamdulillah the sound seems okay, everything is fine. hamdulillah
we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for giving us this opportunity to meet. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless us, I've said a lot. And I want to end off by saying my brothers and sisters, when change comes, it should come from within. It should really be a feeling that we have and it should grow as time passes. We need to be the best of people. We need to really improve ourselves. Every one of us myself included, we can improve the way we speak the way we dress, the way we worship Allah, the way we interact with others, the way we come across to people the way we walk, everything needs improvement and inshallah I hope these few days that I've spent with you have been days of
motivation whereby we've all promised that we will change our love and the next time I come I will ask you a question How many of you
How many of you have not missed Salah for the last year since the last time we met? That's going to be a question we're going to ask inshallah. Next time, but I hope and pray that each Allah we see so many hands May Allah make me from amongst those who never misses us Allah And may Allah make you all from amongst those who never miss a salah and over and above that may make us from those whom our Salah is fulfilled in such a beautiful way that it is accepted by him for indeed if our frustration is accepted by Him we will achieve salvation. May Allah forgive us on the day he resurrects us May he Bless you all and bless us all we spend the moment also to ask Allah to grant those who are who
have suffered across the globe
and who are suffering across the globe May He grant them all ease in whatever suffering they're going through. May He open their doors of goodness and hours all of ours are sold Allahu wa salam o Baraka and Amina Mohammed Subhan Allah Subhana Allah homopolymeric Masha Allah Allah hi lantana