The Monumental Tafsir #41 Surah At Tahrim

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there'll be an amine salatu salam ala Shafi more saline see dinner Muhammad and he was happy he had marine we're gonna do Allah Magna myInfo. Now one final be my limit and I was in learning what I came for that.

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I was actually thinking of the topic should we continue with Jeff sila move on in the same order. And I know

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most of us are,

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you know, we prefer to keep switching topics. But you know, I really find this more of an escape,

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I find it more of an escape to keep switching and changing the topic of Helaba I really think we Allah has enabled us Subhanallah last week, brother Amir reminded me that it was the last week was the 40th session for zero. And we've covered to just handler and these are again, the the teachers are most Muslims know, right? And

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so, and Allah enabled us to go over to Seattle gave me Sadie.

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So why not continue? Allah has made it easy for us and that Hamdulillah we have this flow this momentum, why not just continue with it, not necessarily changing the topic for anything else. And what could be better than the Quran that we continue with it. And I find that many people just go over, sometimes the baraka and then they sort of give up. Now let's persist, let's continue in sha Allah.

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And all of the Quran is the words of Allah. And there is so many lessons that we can.

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Also last week, there was a question about the concept of evil, and I really seriously considered speaking about it. But you know, here's an issue. Before we begin with solid among Dinah today.

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There are concepts that they themselves like in themselves, they are they're not difficult.

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They're not difficult. But the difficulty, like the difficulty is not intrinsic. The lot, difficulty doesn't come from the topic itself, or the concept itself. It comes from the distance between us and the topic, and the herd held us between us and the topic and the concept.

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There is something we don't understand, we always we seem to underestimate the impact of

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modernity on us

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is absolutely massive,

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We don't realize how generations populations have been kidnapped from their mother, culture, and way of thinking, and mindset.

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And we are the children of those generations,

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we have been taken out just like fish taken out of water, we have been taken out of our

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way of our cosmology.

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Cosmology is more like a worldview.

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It's the very building blocks and foundations of how you think and how you process the world and how you perceive and how you process stuff. This has been disrupted.

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It has been disrupted.

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And we have been indoctrinated. And all of us have gone through that system. All of us have gone through the system. From a young age, all of us went through this process.

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So all of that shaped us in ways. So we are thinking for the most part, we are seeing the world in non Islamic terms, really

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non Islamic terms. And there is a tendency in humans and this is a bias. This is a mental bias that is started by the way. It started by cognitive scientists. There's a lot of human like, cognitive bias in our thinking that we make leaps of logic, we make irrational conclusions, all right. So one of them is something called presenteeism.

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And in presenteeism, we tend to look at previous nations before we don't know much about them, you know, some things, there's a lot of gaps.

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How do we fill these gaps in order to understand these people? Subconsciously, we fill these gaps from what we know about our life.

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But a lot of that is inaccurate.

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A lot of this isn't accurate. And one of the examples is the use of language. Today among the Arabs, there are words that have been completely changed, like taken out of their meaning and given completely another another meaning. When we read our books, we assume oh, yeah, that's what they're talking about. No, that's not there is a difference. Like the word has has been has changed. And there are other things as well. There are things that are even deeper how

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Be thinking how we process the world. So we come across issues that you can't just providing information will not solve the problem for you. Why, because of the famous rule that Einstein that just attributed to Einstein, you can't solve a problem with the same logic that created it right?

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A lot of what we call problems or questions are literally a function of a faulty system of thinking. One of them is evil.

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And that's the point that I seriously seriously thought about addressing it. But I just realized, you know, what, we have to unpack so many layers, and is going to be very difficult for most people.

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The concept of evil is not difficult, the concept of good and evil is not difficult. The difficulty comes from what we have been taught about this the wrong notions. So we have to do a lot of unlearning at many levels. And then the concept when it reveals itself, it makes so much sense. But that's a journey, and it requires commitment. You can't learn passively, it's very little that you can learn as a receiver of not passive receiver of knowledge, you have to engage, and you have to pursue to learn.

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Yeah, and this is, by the way, again, this is more of a tangent. But

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you know, the Chinese have this famous proverb, they say, when the student is ready, the teacher appears.

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When the student is ready, the teacher appears. What does that mean? That means the teacher is always there. But when the student is not ready, they don't see the teacher. So the lessons are all over the world. And you can learn but when you are stuck in a mindset, you are blinded.

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So it's only when you are proactively seeking information starts to appear, insights will make their way to your mind will start to understand things. So many people think oh, I just ask a question and get an answer. And it's solved? No, there's a lot of issues that cannot be sorted out with an immediate, direct answer. Why? Because you have layers of misconceptions, and each is building on the previous one that really blinds you to a very simple concept. So the problem is not with the concept, even if I share the concept with you what makes sense. Why? Because the operating system that you are using is faulty. It doesn't produce that type of results. So people when they are

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Muslims had no issue with evil.

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early Muslims had no issue with the question of evil. Why does it seem to be bothering people today? It's not a new question. By the way. It was asked at the early stages, but not by the Companions not by attributing not by the people who learned the knowledge through a direct chain to the Prophet sallallahu sallam.

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The first people who started to bring up the issue of evil at a formal level were the Marta Zilla.

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They want a president

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and then eventually the motorcade the moon started to address it differently. But it was not a question for the believers, it made full sense. Why did it make full sense? What's the problem? There's no problem with evil. The problem is with how we process the world. And the concept of evil. As we understand it in this modern mindset doesn't make sense.

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We don't agree on you say evil, I say evil, we don't have the same view of it. By the way.

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The earlier scholars when they spoke about evil, they don't have the same understanding as we have today, we don't realize that a lot has made its way a lot of misconceptions have made their way into the concept of evil today.

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So that's why it's confusing. So sort through all of this. It's going to be a very lengthy and demanding kind of discussion.

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It's not suitable for this Friday. Hello. Okay. So that's why I just thought sharing one thing with you the concept of the problem with how we relate to the concept of evil is that we have been fed so many misconceptions, misconceptions, means untruths,

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false false stuff falsities.

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And we have swallowed that we've accepted that as not only we have accepted it, we are seeing the world through this.

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So how are we going to fix this, it requires a lot of, you know, personal responsibility to unpack that stuff under that stuff and seek the sources of this knowledge. And, you know, purify, you know what you know, and improve it, polish it, then it gets, you know, you start on the journey and then eventually you're going to arrive at some point. That's that's the only way to do it. We don't realize how much lies when the prophets are sending them and we made a few hot boys will ask you to hot buzz about this years of deception. Our times are one of those years of deception. Years of deception. That means almost everything around you that is shared most of it is lies.

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Not only in the information, is it false or wrong or not. It's even as we said the operating system, the mindset itself.

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It is corrupt. It's made up of lies.

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So that just causes people more confusion.

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And if this sounds like a mystery, it's simple, a very simple and very crude example of this, if, you know if someone new is coming here to the masjid, and I, and I tell you, you know, be careful of this guy

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is, you know, he's gonna cause a lot of trouble. Don't trust him with money.

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And just stay away from him,

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he will probably approach you, but stay away from him, he might be a very good person,

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any kind of gesture that he makes towards you, you will see it through the lens that I shared with you, right? Because you trust me this thing.

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They're trying to be nice, they're trying to be kind, you're going to, you're going to interpret this, you're going to perceive it as what, you know, he's trying to get you nicely.

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He's trying to make a good impression in order to, you know, get what he wants.

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That's a simple, very simple, like basic example of what we call by mindset. So imagine layers of this, layers of this pile up on top of each other. And then you see the world through that and you've done this for a long time, then it becomes just a question that sounds absurd to you. And it's very inconvenient, and very disturbing.

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It's very disturbing. This is why learning is not easy. It's not just information.

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And by the way, the early generations knew about this, and they understood this. They truly understood this. And when I said

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a half what I didn't Islam either will either fail Islami, Min America, Haiti, and

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someone said, I only get worried about for the future of Islam, when there are generations that are born into Islam, and they don't know what Gehenna yet is.

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Like, why do they need to know generally because if you don't know gently, you don't know how good Islam is.

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And to know Jaya Helia you they can read about it know, firsthand experience is different.

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Reading doesn't get to you, it doesn't make the same impact doesn't give you the same understanding. So the older generations understood this statements came from some companions metabolising they said Keifa and to me that I think Abdullah and Mr. Buddha Lila, gave it unto me that'd be set conflict now.

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Harry met Ali had kebele What can be Allah Allah has Surya what is the Metallica. Jimmy.

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How are you? How would you be when a fitna engulfs you? Fitna? Right, they know what they're talking about. Fitna fitna blinds you. It engulfs you, the older among you have grown up, sorry, like have lived their life. Seeing that this is the truth.

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The young among you,

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they have grown up seeing that this is the only truth, the only good thing. And new Muslims have come into Islam seeing that this is the truth.

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So he says, How is your state going to be when this is the case had either a year or two that's the final bit of the steam headset, either a year or 13.

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Until and when this someone tries to change this again and restore it to the original version of Islam, it would be said there would be

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like people would object to this person saying, Oh, you're changing the Sunnah.

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That's what we're talking about when you swallow completely faulty mindset. even questioning it is very disturbing.

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It's very disturbing. It's not easy, and requires a lot of courage. And it's unsettling.

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So again, so this is why

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one of the I think one of the greatest obligations on us Muslims today is just to become aware, just to become aware of how much modernity has shaped us in very bad ways.

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In terms of our thinking, in terms of our logic in terms of all cosmology in general, and in terms of our values, and in terms of our aspirations, we have swallowed so much stuff.

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And I don't know if we can really get rid of it but at least becoming aware of it is a very good step is very powerful step. At least we we realize, okay, that

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we're not in good shape and there is something we need to do so maybe you start doing it rather than just be full of ourselves and think we are thinking logically when our logic is faulty. And

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yeah, and just seeing Oh, like Islam is difficult doesn't make sense. This is why when we look at things

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let me not get into details. This should be enough. Let's get into so let alone tahina Parliament

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Fidel Castro Allah Camila kami mejor Allah Mohana whom was equally Masada hukum masala income, one Munna Siboney

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so definitely Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. This is a rebuke from Allah to His Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he forbade to himself either intimacy with the slave woman, Maria or the Aloha, may Allah be pleased with A or A drink made of honey in order to please one of his wives according to the well known story. Therefore, a large panel dialer sent down these verses, all profit that is all you whom Allah has blessed with prophethood revelation and the message, why do you prohibit your from for yourself that which Allah has made lawful for you of the good things that Allah has bestowed upon you and you're seeking by which of this prohibition to please your wives,

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Allah is oft forgiving, Most Merciful. This is a clear statement that Allah had forgiven His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam absolved him of blame and bestowed mercy upon him. Thus, that prohibition that he imposed upon himself become became a means of prescribing a ruling that was applicable to the entire ummah. Allah subhanaw taala said prescribing a general ruling that was applicable to all alts Allah has already prescribed for you a way of releasing yourselves from your oats, that is, he has already prescribed for you that by means of which you may release yourselves from your old from your old before breaking them, and that by means of which you may offer expiation

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after breaking them. This is like the passage in which Allah subhanaw taala says, or you who believe, do not forbid to yourselves the good things that Allah has made lawful for you and do not overstep the limits. The expiation there of is to feed

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When poor persons with the average type of food that you give to your own families or to clothe them, or to free a slave, if that is beyond your means, then fast for three days, that is the expiation for the oats you have swarmed, anyone who forbids to himself something that is permissible, whether it is food or drink for a concubine, or swears an oath by Allah to do something or not to do something, then breaks that oath or wants to break that oath must offer the expiation mentioned above, Allah is your guardian that is He is in control of your affairs and takes care of you in the best manner with regard to both your religious and worldly affairs. And that by means of

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which he works off evil from you, therefore, he has prescribed for you a way of releasing yourself from your oats, so that you may be free of any burden of sin and He is all knowing most wise, whose knowledge and compasses all that is visible of you, and all that is unseen, and he is most wise and all that he creates and ordains therefore, he has prescribed for you of rulings that which he knows is in your best interest and appropriate to your situation.

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Okay, so this has to do with the situation this, the reason why this tool was revealed a story that happened. So there are again, two possible stories that the books have mentioned. Remember Saturday here did not mention the story. He just made a reference to it. He said the famous story or the well known story, and the gist of it is that one of them the most famous or the most quoted in the books of Tafseer on this is that

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the prophets, Allah Salam, I believe used to go to one of his wives used to make him very good food, our specific dish that he liked, and this was Xena, probably along if I'm not mistaken, again, if anyone can read, knows better, let me know. It's okay.

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So, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, there was some sense of competition among them. They were human beings, and sometimes they acted on that. So it seems that actually Allahu Anhu along with Hassan they conspired to

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say something to the prophets of Allah when he was setting them in order to get him to stop eating, or favoring that meal. Because they, they felt that she was getting an advantage because of this meal. Because of this, the prophets of salaam light.

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So they recognize they would they knew when the prophets of salaam went to the house of Xena and would have this meal or this dish. And

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so they agreed together they had a plan to

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make the same statement to the prophets. I said, oh, there's a smell of garlic. You smell garlic. Right? And the prophets or Selim did not like the smell of garlic. The prophets of salaam would not eat garlic and he would not eat onions because of the smell.

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And when he was in the house of

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Ebola Ubud Ansari, I believe was it about Ebola, sorry. Yeah. And after, after,

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after hijra, he was in the house of Ebola, Ebola and sorry. And this very interesting story with Ebola Ebola Ansari told the Allahu Anhu he had his house was made of two levels. So he wanted the prophets of salaam to go on the top level.

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And the prophets of salaam said, No, he said,

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I'll stay in the first and the ground floor, right? proselytes Kobina it's easier for me, people come and visit me and like go out in and out many times. So it's, it's easier for me to, you know, just to be in this exactly.

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But about a year, he said he could not he could not stay on top, who would actually about you and his wife would not even walk in the house. Why? Because they they thought every time they walked through the house, they said maybe the prophets of Salaam is below us. We don't own our feet to be above the head of the Prophet SAW Salem. So they would actually walk right next to the walls. They it was a great inconvenience for them. Subhanallah like the, the way they held the steam the respect the love that they held for the Prophet SAW Salem was amazing.

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Finally about a year went to the Prophet and somebody said, you know, you have to go upstairs. You have to move upstairs like I can't we can't we can't deal with this. So the Prophet sallallahu seldom agreed.

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Now avoidable so it brings that he made makes a very special so platter of fruit for the black the best food for the prophets, Allah Salam, and he offers it to the Prophet Solomon leaves he gives it to him and he leaves then he comes back and he says the was not touched. The problem has not touched it has not eaten from that.

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Now he panics, is there anything that disturbed the profits house and anything

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He didn't like about the food or he's upset with me whatever. So he asked the prophets of salaam messengers Salam says yeah are you in the energy Manila to energy? Like I pray I pray to Allah I make dua to Allah and I pray at night

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so, and he said that this the garlic smells bad so I don't I don't eat it. I don't eat it.

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yeah, so the Prophet Solomon did not eat garlic, and he didn't like the smell of garlic at all at all. And we know that if someone smells the prophets of salaam said, Man akademin hair teeny sheduled a teeny, teeny Falaj acaba animals on land, whoever eats from these fowl like smell plants, okay. Let him not come to our Masjid

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that have not got an authentic hadith A man came to the masjid

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at the time of the Prophet SAW Selim to pray at the time of Jamar and he smelled garlic and the Prophet and commanded the companions to carry him to Alberta.

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Some people might say, Oh, that's a little bit too much. It's not too much. Okay, this is a religious thing for the prophets of Allah, who send them and for the Masjid. So you eat garlic, garlic sauce. Be careful.

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Okay, don't go to the gym. But don't eat garlic to avoid coming to this.

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Okay, so, so the Prophet SAW Selim, when I shouldn't have said, so I should stay at home, you smell like garlic. And definitely that's like a big note for the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Then he goes by the House of Hafsa. And she says, Oh, you smell garlic, and now it's confirmed. Now it's confirmed. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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made an oath, like I said, he said, Well lie. I will not eat that dish anymore.

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I will not eat that dish anymore.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala revealed this Allah's Patel revealed the story to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And there's something very beautiful etiquette from the messenger of Solomon would highlight. So the Prophet Salam spoke to Aisha and have said about this revealed it. And Allah told him, You do not have to make an oath and you know, when you make an oath in Islam, you mean you have to stick by it, it's binding,

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it is binding

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in situations where the benefit of breaking your oath or your Yameen is better, Islamically more beneficial. Then you break it, but you have to do the expiation perform, the expiation

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could fall

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could fall and could fall as mentioned. And another sort of handyman certainly here mentions it for Kafala to a farmer Ashati Misaki feeding 10 Poor people out Guess what? No supplemental penguin monkeys were at home or clothing them offering them clothing them meaning an outfit 10 Poor people offering them a complete outfit.

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Okay, so at home, Oh, definitely a roller coaster, or freeing a slave,

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familial immediate family and within a 30 a year. If you're unable to do one of the all of those, you don't have the capacity the means to you can't afford this. Then you fast three days. You fast three days. So this is

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this is when again when breaking your oath or you remain has more benefit, more advantage. Islamically speaking, it's better. Okay, so someone says like, I'm not gonna lie, I will not speak to my brother.

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We can't do this. This is your brother, you're gonna speak with them. And even like, it doesn't have to be your blood brother, your Muslim brother say there's more benefit.

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Unless again, it's an unhealthy relationship, then that's something else. But generally speaking, you might get upset and say well, I will never talk to him. No, we say break your immune and you pay the explanation or perform the explanation and inshallah you're good. So Allah subhanaw taala told the prophets of salaam to do this. said you don't have to make haram for yourself. Allah made Khaled for you. The food because the food didn't have garlic by the way and garlic is not haram but the Prophet Salam did not eat it. But that food did not have garlic in the first place. So it was hard for the Prophet sauce and there was no issue with it and he liked it.

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So Allah says, You can't make haram for you for yourself. You can't make one for yourself. What Allah made hunted for you, and this is an important thing in Islam. Many people think you know being religious means you make more things, Helen.

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Wrong. Big, big mistake. Big mistake. Making something Helen making it head on

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is just as bad as making something Hallam hella just as big. And actually some scholars say that actually making what is headed making it haram is even worse than making the headlong into hella.

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Why? Because there's an agreement among Muslim scholars and a clear indication in the Quran that Sharia to

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the Allah's legislation is it's built on law on mercy on ease, while useful. So when you make things haram, you're actually going against this principle, not only you're changing the law of Allah, but you are also what going against its spirit at the same time. So this is why it's even worse.

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So people think, Oh, if I'm religious, I'm just going to make more things haram. Like there are people who look for things to make the poem like it's, there's that desire that they want to satiate. This is from Shetland. Shaytan is messing with you playing with you making you feel you're more righteous than others.

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And any headers that you will make into haram, you're going to commit a greater haram by the way to compensate for it, but most of the time, it will be hidden and more subtle. That's a general tendency. general tendency, this is why you find people are so obsessed with making things how long holding people like catching people at fault, catching them red handed, and they find so much joy in this right? You will find these people in their private life, they are the worst, the worst.

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They hold a very strong religious stern public image, but Allah in their life, in their private life, like they take so much liberty either Hello be Muharram Allah in Tohoku these people are alone with the limits of Allah, they violate them without a question.

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This is why this religion is built on what a ref

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ref is.

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Again, gentleness.

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Take, take your time with things. Things take time to build, you know and to progress. Don't rush into things don't an exaggeration, you do hear, you're gonna, you're gonna actually do the opposite. On the other side. Don't mess with the religion of Allah, you are a slave. You're not a legislator, you are the slave and the servant of Allah, your position of obedience. And you're the reason why many people do this is that they have a lot of zeal. And they have a lot of passion. But they don't have the knowledge and they can't hold themselves. They can't hold their personal grand grandeur. They can't hold it. They want to get into an honorable model and an animal come and they want to fix

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the world. And when they want to fix everyone else, and and they don't realize these things take time. And you have to build we have to build strong foundations. And slowly slowly you, you know, you you raise it higher and higher. If you go all at once, then you're not doing this for the for the right reasons. Yeah, your intention is not pure enough.

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Yeah, it's, you know, there is no work and there is external work is take one step here, one step here, one step here, one step here, this is how it goes. And slowly, slowly, you build a very solid foundation. But if you just go after yourself enough to people around, you're trying to get everything right. And the more haram the better. It is. This is a man's way of getting you carried away with an untrained desire and spirit, which eventually is just going to get you into Hulu, which is extremism.

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Extremism. Yeah. And on the on the flip side, we don't want we don't want to encourage, you know,

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you know, being

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not being committed to Islam, and not,

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you know, giving the rights of Allah or given the loss penalty and the limits of Allah they're due, and finding ease and violating them. But it's very important I say this because I expect people will come to the masjid to be more of the religious type.

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And this it's more likely with them.

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So it's not it's not about making things alone, making things Haram is not religiousness, and doesn't equal religiousness at all. What, what equals religiousness is that you obey the commands of Allah and you do not act with without knowledge. You don't act without knowledge. You don't act on impressions. You don't act on an untrained, you know, level of education still takes you time. It takes a lot of time to know what Islam is. And you will find generally, generally speaking, people who stopped practicing, and they are very zealous.

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And they've they become very rigid. If they continue with knowledge, if they continue with Islamic education. You know, they become softer later on.

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They become softer. Why? Because they realize the rigidity that they had at the beginning was not coming from Islam.

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and was not in line with the spirit of Islam and the legislation of Islam. But it was an impression and immaturity the impression that they had. And the problem is they acted on it. So they start, you know, regretting their mistakes and fixing things. Then you have a new generation of zealous people will say, oh, this person has changed. They used to be good now, they're no good.

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Right? You have this generational issue.

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Yeah, you, oh, this person used to say good things. And now they don't say now they change their views. Right. And they used to say this was haram. No, they say it's halal. You see the change that's fitna not realizing when they said haram, they were not speaking from a place of knowledge.

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And now they learned. So they are actually now seeing what is right.

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And you as someone who is beginning to practice on I say, beginning to practice, just to be safe, give yourself 10 years.

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Oh, long time. Yeah. Not a long time, very short time. Very, very short time.

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Learning Islam in all the signs of Islam are so intricate, honestly, they're so systematic, by the way. And most of us, and I'm speaking about even students of knowledge, and I'm speaking about Imams, and I'm not trying to put anyone down, by the way, but most of the religious people, most of the Imams, most of the students have knowledge. What they know about the knowledge of Islam is is is

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is the tip of the iceberg.

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the the the heritage that we have the tradition of Islam is so rich, so systematic, there's a lot of issues that today we say, oh, you know, these are new issues, and they were not there at the time. And now we need to find some new HD head for them.

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And you think you really have a good point. But the thing is, have you studied the old books, the older books, have you gone through all of them to see that this was not dealt with.

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And you'll be surprised, you'll be surprised that most of what you call new issues, or things, new situations that were not addressed, now the world has changed, you would actually be amazed at the level of detail, the level of insight that the scholars went into, in, and the even the principles that they laid out, in order to equip you to be able to handle in a situation if you invest in knowledge.

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But you know, we know very little than we think because we are Muslims, and I have some familiarity with some classical books. And I think I know I have a good idea, you don't have a good idea, you have a very inaccurate impression. Truly,

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truly Wallahi when you go into some of the books, and some of the writings and some of the systems are fake, you are just you are amazed at the level of sophistication and the level of coherence and the logic and the powerful the powerful structure and architecture of the whole system and how it connects to each other. It's It's mind boggling. I've studied what will you call secular knowledge? I started with a call center and I read a lot in the humanities.

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I've never seen I've never seen in modern academia, the level that you see the scholar the scholarship that you see among Muslim scholars, early Muslim scholars Wallah you don't see the depth.

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You don't see that.

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Okay, so.

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So really just that he is not making things Helen is not in making religiosity is that if you don't know, you know, stay silent. Don't say anything.

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Because when you speak about Allah without knowledge, you're actually committing one of the cupbearer one of the major sins.

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One of the major sins, one of the major sins went to Allah haemagglutinin Would you speak on behalf of Allah about something you don't know?

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It will tell you wrote a very important book. And it's a masterpiece called Allah moonwalk pain. Sometimes software also called Allah in but the name is Allah and we'll move octane and Nabila mean,

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if you translate the title, he's talking about scholars and their, their, their scholarship and the system that they managed to put together from the Quran. So all the revenue driven, derived from the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, how they managed to put that systematically for people to be able to understand.

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So that's what he's speaking about, eventually, from embezzle him a lot. He said,

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Just to emphasize the value of this book, he said, Erlang will walk in catabolism. So there again, is the book of Islam. Not meaning like as in the Quran, no, but he says like, if you want to understand Islam, if we need to know truly what Islam is at depth, in terms of the system and everything, look at the book,

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and it's not an easy

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Eat aluminum okay and I'm gonna be ending with this. How does the title translate it alarm will more pain or alarm and more pain, either notification of those who sign on behalf of Allah

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or the names if we say LM, the names of those who sign on behalf of Allah. Who are these scholars? When a scholar says this is haram he's saying Allah says It's haram.

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When you say something is halal or haram, you give it a religious ruling. You are speaking on behalf of Allah. Imagine you're lying. Once trying to say something on behalf of Allah huge crime, huge growth. This is why you if you look at the full cover Imam Shafi remember him had been humbled when you read their own fatawa you will find that they are asked about something and there is no clear text about it.

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There's no clear text about it it's a new product at their time. You will find that Imam Ahmed for example says a CRO who I dislike it

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and the students of the Imam like if I if someone doesn't know the language of someone reads it, he said okay, that's disliked macro. Imam Muhammad says Accra Whoa. But the students who know that Accra who means Imam, Imam is saying It's haram. But why? Because he doesn't have a proof directly from the Quran and the Sunnah and it is honest, he had he hates to see it in definitive terms.

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Same with the remember Shafi a cloud meaning I dislike it mean I see it as haram, but I don't dare say It's haram. It's my rich dad.

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But we are very generous like with Oh, haram, haram, haram right? What are you wearing this how, what are you doing this? And we enjoy it along with and this is a craving for power, but we use religion for it. Okay.

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So, yeah, something I wanted to point out and it's really good from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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which reads here

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for the mana bear to be here well how to hula hoop it out of love about the whole world on land that So when Allah subhanaw taala revealed the whole story to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam spoke to Asha and

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he found out the whole story. Did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam you know? Get them to sit and say 1234 The whole thing? No. Out of love about the whole out of

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the prophets of salaam brought some of the issue and he overlooked some of the issues.

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And this is what we call generosity of the soul.

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This is what we call it a raffle. turn a blind eye to some mistakes. There are people who hold you like they're doing an audit.

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Literally like government is auditing you. Nothing goes you know, on questioned and ever you have to answer for everything. No. But in relationships. You need the sense of decency. There are things you might see a mistake, someone might wronged you. And you might you don't realize it's so trivial or it's so indecent even to talk about this. You let it go.

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Let it go. So I'm not saying Oh, it's my right now it's not about right. Sometimes there is an adult, which is being even equal, but there is always

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forgiveness. A level of generosity is very good. So when someone like there are people who hold you accountable for every word you say, Oh, you remember what you said? Two months ago? on a Monday in the morning? You said that word. And now you said it again. Last year you said it five times. That's hell that's not alive.

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A good person forgets that forget. Forget don't hold a grudge like this. Okay, so the prophets also remember certainly really put it nice here. I think he made a beautiful comment

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where he said

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shall follow forgot about the who might come actually, okay. I'll remember him Allah Allahu wa salam never you elaborately his word. He had ether for lack of a minimum for sitting here. Hafsa omole mumineen audibly alone and subtler land abuse lots of them, dita. Well, I'm not here.

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To be here. You should, you should totally Allahu Anoma blah blah Hobi then you can hover Allah the other two Fadwa Hassel Allah when he was in them badly my pilot were out of the unbound column and min hawks Allah Allah when he was a limo he met for auditor level woman and Becca hurdle hubba under the rim Let me ask Raj min. Harland about any lady

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sure that we estimate why the embalming couldn't fit in Allahu Allahu Jibreel was solid, meaning women are eager to get their daddy cover here at Jimmy OH one on level of Saudi Maga he Runa Salam Salam on Canada. I went over Wellman. So we will whom Emanuela with whom I huddled with he had a bottle for Lila team and Michelle laughingly say you didn't want said hey Fujairah little belly enough said we'll carry meta Well, how was the healthy one and they had a lawsuit in Kareem.

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And remember, when the Prophet told something in confidence to one of his wives, many of the commentators said that she was have said the Mother of the Believers. While the alo Arnhem, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told her something in confidence and instructed her not to tell anyone but anyone about it, but she told Ayesha Rhodiola on about it, may Allah be pleased with them both. Allah informed him of what she had disclosed and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam told her of some of what she had said, but he refrained from mentioning some of it out of generosity and forbearance on his part, she said to him who has informed you of this matter which no one knows but

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us. He said, The all knowing, all aware has informed me of it, from whom nothing is concealed and he knows all that is secret and yet more hidden.

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If you both repent to Allah, that will be better for you for you have sinned. These words are addressed to the two noble wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or Asia and have settled the alarm Homer, who are the reason why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had prohibited himself from something that he loved. Allah urged them to repent and rebuked them for what they had done telling them that they had sin. That is, they had transgressed and done something that they should not have done, and have strayed from piety and proper etiquette and respect towards the Prophet, towards the messenger. So Allahu alayhi wa sallam, when they should have avoided causing

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trouble for him. But if you conspire against him, that is, if you plan to cause trouble for him and persist in doing so. Then I'll then know that Allah is his protector and Gibreel and hit the righteous believers. And more over the angels are his supporters. That is, they are all helpers and supporters of the messenger so the long rally will send them and whoever is supported by these will prevail, and those who oppose him will be defeated. This highlights the great virtue and honor of the leader of the messenger as the as the creator himself and the elite of His creation. Are the helpers of the of this noble messengers of Allah wa. Salam. Okay, call. What are the 15 Minute daddy

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This was also a warning to these two noble wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as is quite clear, then Allah alarms them by

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Telling them of something that is very difficult for women, namely divorce, which is the worst thing for them as he says, it may well be if he were to divorce you, that his Lord would give him in your stead wives better than you. That is, so do not be arrogant towards him. For if he were, if he were to divorce you, that would not be difficult for him for he does not need you, he would find and Allah would replace you with wives who are better than you in terms of religious commitment and beauty. This was a kind of warning that did not come to pass and there has and there was no need for it to happen. He did not divorce them. But if he had divorced them, then there would have been other

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wives as Allah mentions, who would have been woman of virtue who combined Islam which is outward compliance with the laws and faith, which is inward compliance with the laws by way of belief and actions of the heart. obedient. The word translated into here as obedience refers to a constant state of obedience to Allah, repentant, that is repenting from a lot from all that Allah dislikes. Thus they are described as doing that which Allah loves, and repenting from that which Allah dislikes, previously married and virgins. That is, some of them wouldn't be previously married, and some of them will be virgins. When they heard this warning and discipline, they Hastin to seek the

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pleasure of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Thus, this description was applicable to them, and they became the best of believing woman. This indicates that Allah did not choose for His Messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam anything but the best of circumstances, and the most sublime of options, because Allah chose for his messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that the wives mentioned here would stay with him, this indicates that they were the best and most perfect a woman.

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Okay, there's a lot of things, good things to unpack here. And

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so one, what you can notice here, is the decisiveness in dealing with these issues.

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And for some of us, with a modern taste, we might feel this is a little harsh, or a little too harsh.

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But again, it's just, it's important to understand that we're looking at this, through our modern dance, we have to realize this, and we don't hold like our modern lens doesn't hold any superiority over other like cultures. Although it, it actually has this side, this, this arrogant side to it, that we are at the peak of civilization, and somehow we have like the best values and the best views and we have figured out things. But that's actually

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that's, that's inaccurate, And subhanAllah I just recently came to realize that there is a lot of sociologists, even non Muslims who actually have been researching this since the 70s 80s, and 90s. And they have like, they're discussing modernity, even one of like,

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I don't recall exact like names and and connect them to the titles, but some of the titles is like, the narcissistic civilization, narcissistic modern life, and things that are aura

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politics of narcissism, and in terms of the culture and modernity itself, and its that its impact or even the psyche of the humans. There's a very famous, distinguished British sociologist, Anthony Giddens. He wrote extensively on this very critically, very, very critically, but this one Allah, these, this kind of discourse doesn't make its way to the public. Very, very critical of the damage of modernity, what it did to the modern humans. He even says the modern human being is broken, empty, and humiliated.

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That's what he says, compared to previous times in human history.

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And he's talking about the impact of this civilization.

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There are many like there is a there's a lot of writings in this in this area. But my point the reason I'm bringing this up, is that we have to be aware that when something doesn't seem to make sense to you, or something seems a little odd or weird when you hear about things in the Quran, things from the prophets are some even the translation here by the way, they skipped some some phrases, and they skipped some clauses here. And I know why they skip them. Because for someone for a modern reader, the reader there would be puzzling and they might be inappropriate.

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Okay, not not that they are inappropriate, but they they don't want to cause misunderstanding to the English reader.

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So, so it's important to just keep this in

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mine. So there is decisiveness. The problem was very merciful and gentle and very, he was the best to his wives. The person himself said, Hello, come Hello, come literally the best among you is the best to their spouses. What no hero Camillia holy, I'm the best to my spouse's, I'm the best person to his poses.

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So the professor was very good with them. But now what we call good and what we call appropriate has changed, not necessarily for for the better, most likely for the worse.

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What you find decisiveness here, which is the only way to keep the family together, sometimes and keep everything, you know, heading in the right direction. Some people will take offense today. Or that's abuse.

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And that's where narcissism leaks into people's lives. Like people's dignity is always on the line, you say a word, and they take it personally.

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Now there is a hierarchy of authority in the family, and needs to be ignored. Now, someone who's sorry, and again, no offense, I know this is an unpopular opinion among us, but if you know what modernity does, it really puts everyone on edge.

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Everyone, everyone is offended. So no relationship is possible. By the way, literally, no relationship is possible.

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I've received a few messages of people saying can you talk about the high rate of divorce in the Muslim community?

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No quick talk about the root causes of this.

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Because this has been in the making for decades, and now we're just seeing the fruits. So what's the point talking about that?

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Everyone is so offended, everyone is looking for an opportunity just to feel offended.

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Literally, and you say just one word, even in good faith.

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Or, like,

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you're abusive. And we start using using big words, oh, you're abusing me, you're harassing me, you're stalking me.

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You're gaslighting me. And I'm not saying these things don't exist. But I'm just saying that there are people who can't even take your word for a minute. But I tell you what, from their boss, these people would take insults

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or would not even say a word. And next day, they will come to work. And they will do what they are required to do. But you know what, again, modernity, Rick respects its own

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hierarchy and levels of of power and authority that it has created.

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But it doesn't hold any regard for any other system.

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And it seeks to make its own system, the only system and it seeks to eliminate all other systems. So if you let yourself be completely molded by modernity,

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yeah, it's gonna take away every kind of other even natural human logic or relationship.

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So, so it's not really that, Oh, I feel offended. Oh, it's my dignity and my respect. No, because your dignity, a lot of times, it's taken in so many circumstances, and you don't have an issue with it. Why? Because it's, this is how society works. This is how employment works. This is how the corporate world is.

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But you know, we're all at home, oh, you're abusing me. You're oppressive. Your retirement.

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Again, so I don't want to say more and get myself in more trouble. But you know, what I'm talking about. It's important just is I'm saying that just for the sake of awareness, but you find here and for a modern reader, I understand this for a lot of our daughters, when they read this, oh, this is like very, very sort of,

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like decisive and maybe aggressive.

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No, sorry, you've been taught the wrong things, you really been told the wrong things.

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So, again, so this is what what you will find what you will find here and Allah was decisive with that. Allah was decisive with this. But there is another level of gentleness that even the nature of

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the female here

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the nature of the female is accepted. They make mistakes. And these mistakes by the way, by the way, make no sense to men.

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Literally, they make no sense the men, but you know what, it doesn't have to make sense to you because a woman is not a man.

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She's not like you and the problem today. men want women to be like men and women want what? Like, again, so one of the things and sisters bear with me

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I don't know what's going on today.

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I'm going on a rant. So

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a sister wants her husband, she wants to complain to her husband, like, share with him all of the thoughts that are going through her mind. She wouldn't bring everything out. That's not men that don't have patience for that. She wants to tell them, tell him about her friends, her colleagues and neighbors, the children, you know this and that. It. I don't have capacity for this. And for her, this is empathy. This is like, friendship, this is companionship. But that's not men.

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That's not men. And I'm telling you, if you tell a man a problem, say, you know, my sister, oh, sorry, my sister in law, which is like his sister, right? She said this and that he would pick up the phone, how dare you talk to my wife's like this, right? He's going to create a problem. She said, Why did you do this? He said, I want to solve your problem. I don't want you to solve your problem. So why are you talking about it?

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I just want to talk about it. That's it.

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So women and men approach these things differently. And you have to let women be women. And men be men.

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And again, so our culture, places, you know, in a very, very unhealthy expectations on both. And this is why we're not accommodating each other, we're not giving the space that everyone needs. So there is a there is a place, it's not random. So there's a place for

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like for forgiveness, for grace,

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overlooking stuff, that's fine. But there is a place where there is decisiveness. And there are consequences.

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Because you need to keep things and you need to keep that kind of system, that kind of balance that

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needs to be there. And it's not random. We it looks random to us because we don't understand the logic behind it.

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But there is logic behind it. And that for the for them family was kept together. Now the family is being destroyed. And we know that

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we know that men are not happy women are not happy children are not happy, nobody's happy. Why is not because Okay, let's have counseling. You know, the solution is not counseling.

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The solution is not counseling, there is a problem with how we perceive you know what it means to be a man what it means to be a woman, what it means to be a husband, what it means to be a wife. We're completely messed up when it comes to this. And that's what's causing the problem. So no amount of counseling isn't going to solve that.

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Especially if the counselor himself comes from the same mindset that created the problem. What's going to happen?

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You see, so it becomes darkness over darkness over darkness or and becomes more complicated.

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Yeah, so.

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So again, it's important is to sometimes not to approach these things with the view that I'm able to judge them, right, maybe I need to question my judgment. And that's how we learn by the way.

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That's how we learn with the Quran we know is the truth. The prophets of salaam we know is the best example. His behavior, his actions, his strategies, the way he addressed problems is the best. So if I have an issue with that, it's not like I should ask for an explanation. Maybe I should turn inward and see why I have an issue with that. So that's something for me to start fixing good. Now I recognize something that needs fixing and I can start maybe I can sort of you know set out on a journey of fixing myself that's that's a that would be a blessing. But the thing is, all the prophets I send them did this and did that why you're speaking already from a position of authority,

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which is in more accurate words, this is arrogance.

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And you're demanding an explanation from the Prophet SAW Selim to you but what kind of moral superiority do you assume

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you're just full of yourself because you've swallowed so many lies and misconceptions.

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So that's that would be a good exercise every time you find something in Islam that makes you feel uncomfortable. Either you'll miss understand that you don't understand it properly, or that's an opportunity for you to start really seeing you know, where is this resistance coming from?

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Okay, so then the topic a little bit changes, so we'll keep this inshallah for next.

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Friday, we

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can take a couple of questions on the topic, and no political issues.

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Could you briefly describe what was the story of Maria?

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I really don't recall. So this is why I skipped it.

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Yeah, the brother asked about the story of Maria. I don't recall the details. So I

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I deliberately let it go

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okay sisters questions

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is bad or we have swallowed

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there's nothing in the world that's fully bad. Even cheaper

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so the answer the question right?

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It's impossible for something to be fully bad. How?

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How everything has good and evil in it.

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Where do I start?

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Know the truth, you will know its opposite.

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Invest in learning the Quran. This is why it's Allah calls, calls it Nauruan Mubin cadenza at Qumran bobina. Right. Bright light, you know the truth, then you recognize falsehood, but

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falsehood is multiple. There's multiple falsehoods, so it's an it's a bottomless pit. You can't exhaust it.

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It just add, the more you learn, the more confusion you get.

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So that's why the shortest way to the best results is always the truth. The truth is simple and one falsehood is multiple. So know the truth, invest in the truth. Go to the source of the Quran, start learning the Quran, start reading the books of Tafseer, listening to the scholars not like doing it on your own, listening to the scholars of Tafseer.

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Start learning the Hadith, learn the commentary on the Hadith, familiarize yourself with fic and the classical books on FERC. And the principles behind the FERC and the principles behind it of sale. And then the history of Islam and you will start to realize, oh your whole vision is changing.

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You have a better view now of what's good and what's evil.

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Without tools, you can't know what's good and evil. So it's just like there's no shortcut shortcuts, the tools and the tools are not just something you go and pick up from Canadian Tire. It's hard work for a long time.

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It's hard work for a long time, it's investment. And if someone doesn't invest and they're not willing to invest, they should not expect much.

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someone had their hand up before so go ahead.

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What is the correct way of

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fixing it not to commit a particular sin? It's already haram so without reconsider.

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Or, or if someone kind of like takes an old battle calculate all that's mandatory upon us anyway, so good that

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okay, good question. So if someone says will lie, I will not commit this sin anymore. Oh, Allah, He I will I will. You know, observe all my salah. Yeah, the Salah is an obligation. So you have to do it, but you just added a layer of commitment. Same thing with the Haram, you should avoid it. But you've added another layer of commitments. So you violate it, you have to, you know, offer the explanation. What would that be? Like? Still on off? I don't know what the word is. Is it another? No. Another is different. Another is yeah, it's the word. The word for another, I think is also an English. Another, I believe, yeah. But another is just you say, if Allah gives me this, or if this

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happens, I will offer this and that. It's a promise. It's a promise. Yeah. But it's my crew. It's disliked in Islam. Yeah. But if you if you commit, you have to fulfill.

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Sisters questions. Just to be fair, yes. No question. And then we'll close inshallah.

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I love the concept of evil.

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No, I have so many questions like blah, blah, blah. There's two things that you mentioned before we started and the other day about the problems, right. So I think they all kind to each other. Like you touched the surface. And all of those items you didn't give examples. I would love to hear examples of like, when you say evil, I don't remember that being evil society. And how does the modernity affect religion? And what our problems that we think are problems are not problems. So you give other How about to talk about all the stuff you get any lectures about the stuff? They give courses? Because it's a huge topic. Yeah, it is.

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Yeah, so the brother says,

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I don't even know how to repeat what you said.

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That's too many things like, right. And you know what, you know, just don't look at the whole thing together. It's simple. It is simple.

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Now, when I mentioned the hotbar, I honestly it was, like, 20% of what I what I had, like sort of look like what I intended to say. I don't know, usually I have a good sense of time, but I just didn't today. So the hotbar I tell you, it was clearly an incomplete thing. But I managed to, you know, get away with two principles and this

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was, again, if you really fix your relationship with Allah and figure out the main problem of life, then everything else becomes easy.

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Or most of the problems will go away other problems you have, you have so much momentum in their face in facing them. The second one was ignorance.

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People are just people are acting with ignorance.

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People have the urge to get, you know, get to work and do this and do that. And they don't realize they're ignorant

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and this is why I'm gonna help upset Africa who are blind to so what do you know, educate yourself learn study before you put yourself out.

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And it's a modern thing, by the way that the youth get into this political social activism. It wasn't like this people who wanted to be active people minded their own business.

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Politics was run by the state's knowledge was run by scholars and the clear tradition that can never be messed with

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a lot of these social affairs were run by the work of charitable people and you know properties that were set for the sake of Allah the revenue would go into social

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welfare and projects and everything you know, I think 70% of property in the Muslim in the Muslim world was worth

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just before the use of colonialism 70% of property

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not with investors works that means the money goes into the society into the the poor segment of society

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Yeah, so there's so much we don't know about Islam as Muslims today. There's so much as the masses. There's so much we don't know about our history. There's so much we don't know about modernity and about its ideas.

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Okay. So, but it's a very big thing. But

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what's so crazy

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is that Kamala Harris allows