Take Ownership Of Your Responsibilities

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The history and importance of Islam are discussed, including its birthplace and its origins. The responsibility of parents to care for their children and share their experiences is emphasized. The importance of sharing stories and context to avoid confusion is emphasized. The responsibility of parents is emphasized, along with the need for forgiveness and mindful living. The importance of fulfilling children’s dreams and goals is emphasized, and the need for parents to act as if one is just part of life is emphasized. The responsibility of parents is emphasized, along with the importance of good use and utilizing one's experience to benefit others.

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All praise is due to Allah, we praise Him. We seek his aid and we ask for his forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evils of ourselves and the evil consequences of our own actions. Whomsoever Allah guides, none can lead astray and whomsoever Allah leaves to go astray and uncon guide, I testify there is none worthy of our worship and devotion. But the Almighty Allah alone, and I testify that Muhammad Sallallahu orally he was early he was in them is His servant and His Messenger

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or you who believe

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have Taqwa of Allah, and fear him as he should be feared and die not except in a state of submission and Islam to your Lord, all mankind, be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person and from this person, he created his own wife, I'm from them both. He created many men and women and fear Allah through whom you demand human which you have mutual rights and observe the rights of your kin. Surely Allah is ever an old water over you. Are you who believe, keep your duty to Allah fear him and speak the truth. He will direct you to righteous deeds and will forgive you your sins. And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger has indeed attained a great achievement. The best words are

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those of Allah. And the best guidance is that of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ala he were early he was in them. And the worst things in the religion or the newly invented matters for all the newly invented matters in religion are considered to be heretic innovation and big and every bit is misguidance.

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or theory why it in the Muslim world image had learned while so

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This is Ali Mohammed Hassan Al Abbas sorry, the Imam of Basra Rahim Allah narrates. He says, the governor of El bussola

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obey the law in New Zealand who is known for

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excessive bloodshed.

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He comes to visit the great companion miracle Imagine yourself lose any of the Allah who

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when he was on his deathbed, he comes to visit him check on him.

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Now after looking at yourself says to him,

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I shall share with you something I heard, directly from Allah's Messenger salallahu alayhi wasalam.

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Had I known I would live longer, I would not have told you about this, I would not have shared this with you. If I knew I were to live longer than that I would not have shared that with you now.

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I heard Allah's Messenger SallAllahu only he was sending them say there is no servant, there is no slave. There's no human being, that Allah interests with him or obviously hair is well.

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People under their charge under their responsibility.

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when the when the death or the day of the death comes about, they are innocent, they have not fulfilled the responsibility. They have not taken good care of those under their charge under their responsibility.

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They have not fulfilled that obligation towards those under their care or they have not done a good job

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towards the doors under their care.

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So they have cheated them.

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They have

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shortchange them

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except that Allah will make prohibited for them Jana,

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Allah will prevent them, Allah will deny them interring Jana

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and in the narration the wording of one of the wordings in

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an Imam, Muslim and Muslim. The Prophet SAW Selim says if this person who's in charge dies, and they have not exerted themselves and done everything that they could

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that is in favor and in the interest of those under their charge. Except that Allah will be Jana will make Jana haram for them. So today, it's gonna be the hook was going to be a little bit straightforward.

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And we might find this a little bit challenging and uncomfortable, but let it be.

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Let's go to the story and the context. So we have this great companion, not going to know yourself lovely Allahu Ana.

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He's on his deathbed.

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The governor

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of a doula in his yard, who is known as we said, for excessive bloodshed, extreme violence, and tyranny.

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Like the slightest sign or doubt, he would shed the blood of a person or a people.

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He had an iron fist, he governed with a with an iron fist.

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So he comes to visit this companion.

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And he thought he was extremely ill. So he comes to check on him.

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But the companion of the Prophet size and um, does not play politics here. He's not diplomatic. He says it straight. He says, I want to share with you something I heard from Allah's Messenger. So I'll send them

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and it's going to be extremely uncomfortable to this person.

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And he tells him why he's telling him this or he's sharing this hadith with him now at this moment.

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He said, If I knew I was told that I were to live longer, I would not have shared that with you because I would feel for my life.

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I know you are unjust.

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I know that you would oppress me. I know that you would take that personally and you would not take that advice.

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But since I feel that my time is over, I'm going to tell that to your face. I'm going to see it right in your face.

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I had Allah's Messenger so awesome. Say any person that Allah interests to be in charge

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of people, a group of people or even one person

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and the death of this person the last day in their day in their life comes and this person has not done

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On a good job.

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But Allah will mean jinna haram for them.

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That's scary.

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And this doesn't only apply to governors, presidents, heads of state, it applies to any person in a position of responsibility. And I want to emphasize today something that is more relevant our times to our personal life.

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And that's parents. So parents bear with me.

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Today is going to be tough for all of us. Because this hadith, this hadith should be a wake up call.

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As parents, Allah subhanaw taala entrusted us with the welfare of our children. And when I say the welfare and the well being of our children, I'm not talking about primarily, I'm not talking about their clothing,

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and their activities and sports and their luxury, I'm talking about their hearts,

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their well being their connection to Allah, the right to know to understand to be taught the truth, and to be guided to Allah subhanaw taala. To be given a fair chance to know the truth and understand the reality of this life

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and know why they were created, and what they were supposed what they are supposed to do with their life. That's our responsibility.

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The school will not take that burden off your shoulders.

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The best jet will not take it will not take that burden off your shoulders.

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The Quran teachers are not going to take that off your shoulders.

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Allah will hold you accountable because Allah says yeah, you have nothing in common oh and Musa como la jolla coming out on

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a Jarrah

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Oh, you who believe protect yourselves and your family's family, he remains your spouse, your children and anyone under your care, protect them from the hellfire.

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That's your responsibility. So if any parent has not exerted themselves and done everything they could, and sometimes we underestimate what we can we have this bias want to give ourselves an excuse. If you have not done your best or the best possible, in your situation, Allah will hold you accountable, it might be that you will be denied paradise, it's not a joke.

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And you could come up with excuses. And I have a lot of responsibilities. I'm so busy, I have to do this, I have to do that I'm working two jobs.

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Oh, the way the system here the way that system what here works does not allow me to spend time with with my kids to take care of them.

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What your kids get taught in school, what they get exposed to on soil and social media, on all of these devices, on the internet in general.

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And any media.

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That's your responsibility.

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You're going to be held accountable for that. And if you have not done your best,

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and you need to be careful to really assess what you best means.

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Because again, chayton will always whisper into our hearts to try to give us excuses why we're not fulfilling the responsibility. Because he wants to take the children astray.

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And he's working on them.

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And the other parallel path, and he's working on you as well.

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And he's working on society as well.

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So when you kids get fed, when they get taught, when they get exposed to the influence that they undergo.

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Don't think that's not your responsibility.

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It's your responsibility. And Allah will hold you accountable. If you want to lie to yourself.

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If you just want to try to pass the buck, you can fool himself here. But with Allah subhanaw taala everything will be brought. Everything will be brought. The skills of Allah are true.

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You can come up with excuses. You can make up a story now to make yourself to sedate yourself and make yourself feel better and you think you have excuses. Oh, that's all I can do. But these will fall apart when you stand before Allah on the Day of Judgment.

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That's your responsibility.

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Your spouse, the spiritual religious well being of your spouse is also your responsibility.

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And Allah is going to hold you accountable.

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So take your Parenthood of this position as a parent take it seriously, there's no joke here.

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There's no joke,

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stop all of the intoxication, and the distraction,

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you know, that we are immersed in with all of this social media, social connections, or any other engagement, that is taking our attention from fulfilling our responsibility towards our children, towards the younger generation, towards our spouses towards ourselves.

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Get rid of all of that

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make an inventory? Are you really fulfilling the responsibility?

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Will you have an answer to offer on the day of judgment that will free you from that severe punishment, and that is denial to enter a wintering paradise.

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So that's parenthood.

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You can apply that to other areas in your life.

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Any position of responsibility you are in, you are a manager, you are a head of department, you're a CEO, you're a supervisor, and you are abusing your authority, or you're not doing what's in the best interest of those under your care.

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You think you can get away with that power with these power games,

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Allah is gonna hold you accountable. And the price might be gin.

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The price might be Jinnah.

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And this is why life is a serious business.

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And a lot of what we have a lot of the distractions, a lot of the social media, a lot of the entertainment that we have around a lot of the ambitions and the goals that we that get communicated to us that we swallow them to this machine of, of wealth and love of life and capitalism and consumerism. All of that is taking our attention from seeing the truth. It stops us from calling a spade a spade and seeing things for what they are in their in our lives. So we are intoxicated.

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We are intoxicated, we don't see the truth, we don't see where we stand.

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So we don't take corrective steps.

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We don't take action to fix things with Allah subhanaw taala.

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But the price for that is going to be extreme regret and pain on the on the day of death

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is going to a person who's going to wake up, but that will be too late. It will be too late then.

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So what we need to do is to take our responsibility.

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Take it seriously.

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That what our children learn what they are exposed to, what they get fed, the influences they're going through, or that they are experiencing. We are responsible for them.

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We're responsible for them. They say, Oh, it's the school, I can't do anything about it. It's society. I can't do anything about it. It is social media. I can't take the devices for my children.

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I can't deny them, you know, access to all of this stuff. What can I do? My hands are tied.

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Well, you can play that game and feel good about yourself for a short while. But when the truth hits,

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you're going to experience a lot of pain. Don't fool yourself. Don't let shaytaan fool you and blind you to the truth. Any person

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who Allah places in a place or in a spot of responsibility, and on the day they die, they have not fulfilled that responsibility. They have cheated. Look at the wording the Prophet SAW Selim said, you're moved to yo Miyamoto, whoever shall love, the person dies, he has cheated. He has shortchanged those because when you are in a position of responsibility, many people crave that responsibility that leadership thinking it's an honor. But the prophets also told a Buddha or the Allahu anhu,

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about leadership, about positions of leadership. He said later on Melinda Alif name, do not seek leadership do not take leadership, even if it's over two people.

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Not in the region. The prophets. Allah Salam says in her Amana, we're in her yo Maria Mati Hassan ADAMA, it is a huge burden and responsibility and on the Day of Judgment, it will be a source of regret and pain and remorse.

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So responsibility is not an honor. It's not a privilege. It's an

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Stream challenge. And sometimes we voluntarily seek out that kind of challenge, but sometimes it is just part of our life as a parent.

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So, what you need to do is because you will find many people, you know prophesizing and coming up with solutions for the problem of poverty in the world, right, and that they will talk about public policy, foreign policy, they will they have solutions for everything in the world, but look at their life, look at their family, look at their children.

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They leave their responsibility and the waste their time talking about something that Allah will not ask them about. Before you prefer very stop prophesizing and philosophizing, about problems that are beyond your circle of responsibility, fulfill the responsibility first, because that's a distraction from shape one.

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That's a distraction from shape one, work on what Allah is going to ask you about. First and foremost, when you are in good shape there, then you can expand your responsibility voluntarily and offer your help.

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So let's take care of this and hold ourselves responsible. Because no sweet words, no euphemism is going to make this easy. It's only the truth and telling the truth and accepting the truth with humility

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and asking Allah subhanaw taala to help us handle it Ebola already had our stuff with Allah Honey, we're looking for stuff.

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Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayidina Muhammad, what are the early he was herb he oedema Hagen, when

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we said previously that this life is a test.

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And Allah subhanaw taala promised

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that this life will have

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its share of challenges, trials, hardships, it doesn't mean you lose heart.

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The dominant culture today in the world promotes entertainment, enjoyment,

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pursuit only of wealth, and fake happiness. And people keep people stay stuck for most of their life trying to pursue a mirage and delusion.

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This life is designed is created to test us to challenge us to squeeze us to crush us.

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It's not designed for pleasure, there will be pleasures in it. But the pleasures are not goals on their own. They don't have any intrinsic value of their own. They're just part of life. They're part of the grease of life, there's ups and downs. So don't get attached too much to this life. You are here renting your spot in this life, you literally renting.

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So don't think you're going to reside forever. Don't act as if you're going to reside forever. You're here for a short period of time and nothing you have belongs to you nothing. Nothing.

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And soon you will leave this world

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only taking yourself out only and you will leave everything behind everything you call mine. And many things that you call you think are you many people think the wealth, their wealth is who they are. The car is who they are. Their reputation is who they are. Their looks and appearance is who they are. But all of that is borrowed stuff. None of that is yours.

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The only thing

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that was given to you and will remain with you is your heart, your heart, your deeds.

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And that's what you're going to leave this life with.

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That's it that's that's the only thing you're gonna take out of that life. So take care of that. Everything else don't get attached to it. It's utility, use it, utilize it, benefit from it, put it to good use. Good use meaning something that will bring you closer to Allah something that will be something that will make a good contribution.

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That's it.

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Forget about reputation. Forget about how people see you how people think about you. Forget about what you possess. Forget about the beauty of your clothes. All of that is going to come to pass look at previous nations, kings, ministers, rich people strong people tie

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rinse, where are they? They're all gone. They're all gone. We're all going to be gone as well. But that's the delusion of life. It seems to be everlasting and eternal as we are dealing with it. Why? Because it constricts us, we become completely absorbed in the moment. And it seems as though it's gonna last forever.

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But nothing lasts forever.

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Nothing in the creation lasts forever. Everything is going to come to an end, you health will go

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look around and see any person who is struggling with their health.

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You think they've been like that all their life? No, in the youth, they probably were the most athletic fit person. You think you're safe from that there will be moments where the gifts of Allah will be taken away from you as a trial as a test.

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So let's remain mindful of this responsibility of life and our obligation to Allah subhanaw taala and know that all of your own you cannot fulfill it. And that's why you need to seek Allah's help. You always need to seek Allah's help you are helpless as a human being, you can't even pass through this test of life. It's only the help of Allah that enabled you to do that. So you need to be humble and ask Allah for that and never take credit for whatever good you do.

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And that's why we say you can go do what you can to stay or Allah it's only you that You we worship and it's your held that we see because we can't do that on our own. We're helpless the more you recognize this the more help from Allah is going to come to you. That's how things work out

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