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The importance of finding a good man for a marriage is discussed, along with the need for character and manners in public. The speaker suggests seeking good people for a woman in the age of marriage and advises seeking good people for a woman in the age of marriage. The importance of privacy in public and finding suitable individuals for a relationship is emphasized, along with caution in certain circumstances. The use of alcohol and non-M pizzas in Islam is also discussed, along with the history ofighams and the use of hats and hats as means of pretending to be from the Prophet.

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen salat wa salam ala Sayidina Muhammad in my early he was so happy here Jemaine what I do.

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So we got to a point in the life of the Prophet salallahu Salam. And this was actually we were talking about this, maybe two weeks before Ramadan. So it's been about almost two months of Han Allah. We got to the point where there was

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some sort of

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a dispute between the Muslims in Medina and Benin nobly and

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Bernardo ended up leaving the whole of Medina area and they went to a sham. They went to a sham which is natural Syria. So they were sort of exiled, they were made to live Medina because they violated their agreement with the Muslims. And they attacked a Muslim lady then they attacked a Muslim man and so on and so forth.

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So this is this, the state of Medina. So what today's halacha is about is the social state of the Muslims in Medina. Like I'd say an average day in Medina, generally speaking, after the Battle of battle, so the Muslims have become

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a main power in the Arabian Peninsula. They're recognized for their military power after defeating Quraysh. Probably that's looked up to among all the Arab tribes, and is seen in a position of leadership and you guys remember that we said the Battle of budget there are so many implications that came from the battle of Beto because garage were considered to be the religious leadership. They were considered to be the military elite among the Arabian Peninsula, for for Christ to be defeated. This was such a huge achievement by the Muslims such a huge it changed the dynamics in the Arabian Peninsula. So and we said when the Prophet SAW Selim was in the Battle of bedrooms, when

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they came back, they found out that a year of the Allahu anhu, the daughter of the Prophet SAW Selim and the wife of Earth man and I found all the low animal past had passed away, had passed away. And

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so after the battle, Muslims went back to their normal life, they went back to the normal life.

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One of the companions who dies after the Battle of Buddle cornice was named his name was honus. Edna Huda a Sammy, who plays immuno Huda semi he was the husband of half son

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of the Allahu Hannah Hafsa, the daughter of a marble hubbub. So who plays dice.

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So in Arabic, they say to a Yemen, she became a widow, have saw became a widow. So after she's a few months, and she's ready now for marriage, and this is something that we can learn something from amamagna hotbar probably Allah who comes across with Mandevilla fan. He comes across with Manoir fan and he initiates a conversation with him. So I'm gonna hop hop is actually narrating the story. So he says in Arabic, a title of man for out of to LA have SATA. Have SATA. binter Omar,

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I came across Othman, I approached him, and I offered him to marry Hafsa daughter of Omar, my daughter.

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For many people, I know how this is like Shane, how can I offer my daughter to someone in marriage? As if like she's cheap, right? But this is probably Allahu Allah and the Prophet sallallahu he was sending them. Actually he talks about the Hearer of Amar, the sense of protectiveness, and the sense of decency and dignity the amount of hubbub has the prophets of salaam says in the Hadith on the slide when mirage that he saw a palace in Jannah or a to Virginia to a customer.

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So the proxy I'm entered that palace, and then he says forbidden to the Jerry atone men powerful customer. So I saw a lady coming from the other side of the palace

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for sell to Kostroma nada Kostroma weatherbeaten Amalfi Jana, for newbies for the Prophet SAW Selim says for about two total fee of October sorry with a current tagliata KR Omar, the problem says so I remembered the sense of protectiveness that Omar has. So I turned away and I left the whole thing. The Prophet Salem stopped looking in the whole direction, remembering the protectiveness of enrollment. That's a Mahatama has the sense of Riera himself. The Prophet he himself is approaching Earth man lovely Allahu Ana, and he's seeing

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Basically in * and Ghatak if you want, I can marry you if you feel so I can marry you my daughter Hafsa Allahu Allah. What is the lesson that we can learn from here?

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The lesson is there's nothing wrong. There's nothing wrong with a father seeking a good husband for his daughter.

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There's nothing wrong with that.

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If Mr. Babu has the sense of Gala, he himself is actually seeking a husband for his daughter. Now remember Subhanallah one day meeting chef Hamid Jamil xinerama Holla.

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Sheikh Mohammed Amin demeans you know, he married his daughters to righteous brothers. And he says the way I used to find a good husband for my wife is that I used to go to the local masjid and after salah I would sit at the back of the masjid and observe the young men how they pray. So now find someone praying in nicely with a lot of Toma, Nina a lot of peace and focus on teaching and their salah. I realized this is a good man.

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So I would approach them and I would. And he said, This is how I married a number of my daughters.

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So it's a good thing for a father actually a father, as we plan to marry our own sons, we should also plan to marry our own daughters. Oftentimes people leave their daughters to stay without a marriage for long term sometimes for them not even to get a chance to get married. Why? Because we think it's inappropriate to

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reach out to good brothers and seek a good husband for our daughters.

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So who has more protectiveness than the Arabs have at the time of the Prophet saws? pacifically Omar, Omar himself is approaching with Martin Luther and he's he's basically offering him to marry his wife. He's saying to him in shaytan catoca Leone, if you want I can

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You can marry my daughter

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have some

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sort of a fan? And don't forget, a fan had just lost his wife. Roca. Yeah. So he's single now. And he definitely needs a wife.

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But he says thermal hubbub. Look at the bed early Oh cuddly, that has a water yo me.

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You know, I'm not in a mood to get married. Really. It's a very polite way to say, I, like I'm not interested. But it's a polite way. That's another lesson that we can learn. Basically, with issues of marriage relationships as well. Sometimes there is something a little bit called Atari.

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Sometimes when you advocate you want to advise someone, you don't have to give it to them squarely in their face. You don't have to be so blatant and abrupt about it. You could actually use implication.

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Implication like indirectly a person indirectly advise the person a story like this was mentioned from

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a lesson. And Al Hussein there'll be Allahu Anhu

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the sons of Illuminati polyp and Sons of Fatima will be Allahu Anhu Jemaine

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there is a narration that they saw an older man a senior making will do and he wasn't making properly, right? It wasn't, he was sort of like some people do today. Just rub some water here and there. And he's not really making a lot of profit and the prophets also, by the way, warned against this, warned against this. The Prophet Prophet Salam saw a man making Mordor and on his like,

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on his foot, he missed, like

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a circle that's just like this like a coin. And the Prophet SAW Selim says, If this man dies in the state, no matter how the LaMotta, Hillary military Muhammad, this man dies in the states without making properly he would die on the religion other than the religion of the Prophet Muhammad SAW that center. So it's good, it's important to really learn how to make well look. So they saw this older man not making more look properly, what did they do? They realize the man we too young, probably teenagers at the time, how are we going to advise him without compromising on his dignity as an older man? So they thought of an idea, just to indirectly advise them and they said, Uncle,

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you know, I was arguing with my brother as to which among us really is making the best photo. So we want you to be the judge. We're going to make wudu and you observe us and you tell us who's will do is better.

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So they make will do in front of him. When he looks at them. He gets the point. It says, you know, guys, actually your widow and his widow is far better than mine. I should learn to make although and he makes although again, that's a polite way. That's a polite way. And sometimes we lose this politeness. We really miss out on this politeness. Look at

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The moment I found the Allahu Anhu now doesn't say like, it's a very critical and sensitive issue when someone like, Bob comes and asks us, man, would you marry my daughter? It's sensitive, very sensitive, and it's easy to break someone's emotions at that in that moment. So he handles it with care. And he says, I don't find myself in myself in the intention really to get married. That's it. Very polite, indirect way of saying, I'm not interested. I'm not interested. I'm gonna hop up still, by the way, he doesn't feel very comfortable about that, we're gonna find out why he still doesn't feel very comfortable about it. But we can see that the companions of the Prophet cinema are

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actually sensitive to each other's emotions, sensitive to either each other's emotions, and this is an etiquette, we should actually pay attention to. Because oftentimes, you know, we take one Hadith, one verse, one instruction, and we use it in a way that destroys other Hadith and other instructions. That's the problem. That's the problem. We have to hold everything together, rather than than just being selective, doing something and ignoring something else or violating something else from China. So oftentimes, when we want to give advice, we give it in a very disrespectful, abrupt way.

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We don't help the other person save face. Like there are people who like it when you make a mistake, and they'll call you out on it. They love it. That's not the way of the prophets Allah Azza

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that's not even the process and I'm actually explains even how to make trade and business the Prophet says, Rahim Allah humbly and some hen either bat some hand either stall or some honey October. May Allah have mercy on a man who's very like, beautiful demeanor has the smile and easygoing demeanor when he sells when he buys or when he takes his right from others.

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That's what Islam teaches us.

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As the prophets of salaam says, a thorough mindfulness of Jana, but then Imani Bella has not HELOC the number one factor that interest interest people in the in paradise. After witnessing that Allah is the only one who has the right to be worshipped is good character. Good manners. It's a big act of worship, you want lots of rewards, just have good character, have good character and you've got it.

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So here with one my friend is extremely sensitive, very respectful of America. He appreciates the sensitivity of the situation. So he handles it wisely. I want to help Bob moves on he gets the answer. And he moves on. He moves on it's not an easy situation for a father still to seek a husband for his daughter. So then I'm gonna rehab says fallopian tubes Karina so do so then I come across a mobile closet. I see him there. And I'm gonna be seeking the best among the Muslims for his daughter. See how he is seeking the best. The best he's going to Earth man, the only Allah No, and to overcome of the Allahu Anhu. And that shows if someone has, and we said previously, we need to

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make this year a practical, we need to bring it into our lives. You have a daughter, it's your responsibility. If no one has no one who's good and suitable for her has yet asked for her hand. You might want actually want to reach out to other people. And by the way, if you don't feel it's appropriate, and because we have cultural issues, we have to take note of them as well. If you feel it's inappropriate to go and approach someone directly, you can do that through a friend. You remember how Khadija asked for the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in marriage? Well, the Allahu anha she didn't go because she was a woman. It's it's, it's inappropriate for her to go and speak to the

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prophets of Salaam. But she spoke to her friend, and she said, I'm interested in like, this man is really good as a husband, her friend figures it out. She says, Shall I ask for him? Shall Shall I try to get him to ask for you? She says well, maybe. Right? So she goes and speak to the prophets and her friends speaks to the prophets, the prophets Allah and finds that it's a very good thing. So he approaches her father.

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So if you're a father, or you're responsible for for a girl who's really in the age of marriage, you should actually start seeking good people for her. And as I said, if it's inappropriate for you to approach them directly, you can actually speak to someone who might actually speak to them in an indirect way and bring their attention to the fact that there is a potential here there's a potential spouse for you.

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But sometimes as I said, we are so controlled and limited by our you know, we have calculations we have considerations.

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So all of the tough meets Abubaker says

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in shaped as a wish took a half Saturday in town but if you wish if you want if you're interested, I can marry you have some internal perhaps the daughter of I can marry out to you. Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Allah know the

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not see anything. He didn't give him even give a response. It felt as an awkward situation. It's awkward, like someone's saying, I can you know, I can marry you to my daughter.

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And he just gives him this blank smile or looks. There's nothing.

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It was an awkward moment. So I'm going to start this for con to La LJ I mean the idea of man so he says, I've felt bad about this more than I felt bad about Earth man's response. It really felt bad to me that he just ignored it because he seemed to have ignored me, altogether, ignored the request or the offer.

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So then I'm gonna have Bob says, fill up with Tolyatti. So I, a few days passed. And then the prophets Allah Salam asks for her

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program offers to marry have settled the law now he speaks to a man and he asked to marry her and she marries the Prophet salallahu Salam she becomes the Mother of the Believers on well meaning of the Allahu Allah.

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So then Abu Bakr comes to

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Allah, this is a lesson this is a lesson in good behavior and emotional social sensitivity. Abubakar comes to Hamilton he says the LE Fe omega feedback feedback he says maybe you really felt bad about the way or responded to your offer on that day. I'm gonna Oh no, no, no, it's not a big deal right? Often times like someone you really like you've heard it from that person and they want to talk to you Oh, no, no, no, there's no issue no problem. No problem. But you're not really honest in that I'm gonna hold up says yes.

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And when a worker says you probably felt bad about the way I responded to your offer that day

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I'm gonna have to assess yes indeed I did. Honest honest, I did wasn't feeling well. I really felt bad. So I will work on all the Allah says that I like to either in or out of the alley you have some felon in a cache? Maybe you felt bad when I when you spoke to me about how sir and I didn't give you any response. God I'm gonna have Bob Nam. So because I said Carla in Holmium nanny an algebra ICA FEMA out of data year 11 equal to Lm two, and now Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam aka the cara phelim Accordingly, Shia said rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Well, I will tell you how rasool Allah here are bill to her. He says the reason I didn't respond to you was that I actually heard the

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prophets of salaam mentioned mentioned her. The Prophet Saddam had intention he was asking about how sir, with the intention of asking for her hand in marriage, I heard about that.

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And I did not want to disclose the profits, secrets and intentions. So I waited until the problem asked for her. And now here I explained the situation to you

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imagined this level of good character, this level of sensitivity, this level of concern for other people's feelings and this level of again what the prophets of Salaam has a beautiful Hadith where he says a majority, so Bill Amana in my journey so Ben Amano what does that mean? That means if I have a private conversation with you, like we have a conversation, this conversation should remain secret between you and me.

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Automatically, I don't have to make you sign your like a paper to see. Okay, that's between you and me automatically. Any conversation that I have with you is supposed to be private unless it's public knowledge. Unless it's public knowledge. Like I tell you all for example, I went here I went there this happened this happened Hollis keep it between you and me. You don't disclose it?

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And then majority so Bill Amana

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conversations are naturally by default. They are private, you're not supposed to disclose them. And do you know this kind of NEMA, he said she said we're not going to be column and carrying speech from here and there. And this is all in line with the general principle of guided

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Islam and Takahama. Allah Yani a sign of a good man's good faith. Good. Ema is that he stays away from things that are none of his business. none of your concern. someone's private life. You shouldn't be talking about that. He shouldn't be you shouldn't get involved in that you leave that as a private thing. So Abubakar Abdullah, who heard he knows the prophets of Salaam has the intention to ask for Hafsa

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in marriage, and I would assume if one of us wasn't we're in the position of Abu Bakr, he would say Tama I know the prophets are saying it's going to ask for her. But what if the Prophet SAW Selim look at the wisdom of Abu Bakr, he knows that it's none of my business. I shouldn't

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speak about that, I'm going to keep it secret. Imagine the prophets of salaam had mentioned her, then he changed his mind.

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When he decided not to ask for her, then America would be waiting for him, right? There would be a misunderstanding, there would be a complex situation, how often like, you know, that someone, for example, might happen with some relatives, you say to someone, someone says to you, you know, I'm planning to visit like, our friend, so and so are our cousin, so and so.

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And you somehow you meet that other person and say, you know, I know that, you know, our friend is going to visit you, our cousin is going to visit you. But then something happens and this cousin doesn't visit. The other person is expecting the visit, or he was intending to visit. He's not visiting what happened. Maybe he's upset, maybe something happened, what went wrong? A lot of speculation and issues, you see.

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But here,

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Abu Bakr Nabila who remained silent, and he remained solid, and he risked creating an awkward, uncomfortable situation for himself with Ramadan, probably Allah Anna. These are important things that we have to they might seem to be small. But this is how you build strong brotherhood. This is how you build strong brotherhood. This is a very simple incident in the life of the prophet saw Salem, with his companions, but there is so much to learn, what can we learn from it? Basically, you have a private conversation with someone, it's about something about their own business, their own work their own private life, their own family, or something happened to them. You don't have to

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disclose that to somebody else. Keep it there.

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Keep it there. And majorities who will Amana. Number two, don't try to show Oh, I know this, I know someone is going to do this. So don't don't try to pretend you know about knowing, you know what people want to do, because people do say they want to do something when they change their mind.

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And this by the way, this happens a lot in the in the

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in the employment world. Sometimes people will come and speak to you they say you know such and such company is actually asking about you. They want to know, if you would be interested in working for them. Right, this happens, and you start developing hopes, right? Maybe Oh, that's a good opportunity. If they really speak to me, I would really, and you start building hope building plans. And then those guys change their mind. They're not interested in you anymore. How do you feel disappointed this happens often, by the way, in recruitment happens a lot.

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So why because that person was not supposed to disclose that to you. They were not supposed to disclose that to you. So it's extremely important really to observe these etiquettes they build a strong society. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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marries Hafsa along the Allahu anha and at the same time, the Prophet SAW Salem

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knowing about a man he decides to marry his third daughter to Earth man love the hola Juan which is

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which is ropey

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on Makoto Manali Alana so the daughters of the Prophet Salam again, from the oldest to the youngest. Do you guys remember Who's the oldest? Xena are the hola Anna and number two

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raka Yara Delana who passed away during the Battle of butter better she was in Medina number three on microphone and fourth is Felton Melody lawanna. These are from older to younger. So now the province of Salem marries his daughter on microfilm to Earth Mandel the Allahu Anhu and his work with man is called What's the lockup or the nickname of Earth man or the Allahu Anhu?

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Will no rain the man with the two lights? What does this refer to? The two daughters of the prophets Allah Salam will a year at Omaka thornborough The Allahu anha

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edge Mandarin

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now what happens is as I said this is social side of life in Medina Guess who reaches to the Prophet SAW Salem realizing Zainab is married to Laos Arabia

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Alana is dead on microfilm is married to a man who remains Fatima the alumna Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu approaches the Prophet SAW Salem and he asks for Fatima to marry her.

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And by the way, just something for I forget, when a man I'll be alone who offered Hafsa to Abu Bakr after Abu Bakr explained to me he said I had heard the prophets of Salaam has intention to marry her so I remained silent. I didn't say anything.

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What Oh, Taka hello so Allah He saw similar problem to her and had the Prophet sallahu wa salam left her I would have married her.

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I would have married now I will

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Booker is approaching. The Prophet SAW Selim and he wants to marry,

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wants to marry Fatima. He wants to marry father Monaldi Allah Juana How old was Fatima? That time?

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In her teenage years around 13 years old

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1314 years old, that's the age of 40 middleburgh Allah had the time

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and well what could wanted to marry Fatima?

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What is the prophets of salaam say? That's his best friend Abu Bakr is asking for Fatima the prophets of salaam system in the house of Lila she's young.

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Amana hottub approaches the Prophet SAW Solomon he asked so far the man he says like I want to marry the daughter of the prophets of Allah doesn't know what a great honor so approach is the Prophet saw some of the Prophet and says in the hustle era.

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But how come like the province of Santa Maria I Aisha, the daughter of Abu Bakr.

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Like how come? How come the prophets of salaam what means or what he meant in that statement? She's young for you. Basically, she's not suitable, as simple as that. So it's not a matter of age necessary in Islam. As a father or as the willie over girl, you have to really be careful who is suitable for her and who's not.

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Now there are people again, these are issues we have to stress. Sometimes as I said someone takes a hadith. They want to apply it across the board, even in situations where it doesn't apply. Why doesn't someone come to the prophets? I seldom I mean, who's better than Abu Bakr?

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Who's better than overkill? The Prophet says, A volu heavier burden or be a book is the best in this ummah after the prophets Salam, Abu Bakr

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can someone here apply this hadith and say either Jaakko mantle Don ADINA, who were Holika, who has a we do a lot of Allah Jota confit the TOEFL Arabic officer DON'T GIVE YOU CAN SOMEONE apply this hadith here? If the Prophet says, if a person whose religion and their character you approve of then marry them, they asked for a daughter, marry them, if you don't do you will be causing mischief does this hadith apply here?

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So we have to see how that hadith apply the prophets I send them said oh worker, she's not suitable for you. And the age is a factor here, between you and air. There is she's she's not suitable for you. You're not suitable for her. That's the meaning that you have to get

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the same amount of Mahabharata Allah.

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So a father or a wedding, he has to really make a very good decision whether a person is actually suitable for his daughter or not.

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You have to have a good assessment of people. You have to have a good assessment of how often you find someone marries their daughter, and it happens often here. Two weeks later, he comes in he says, you know, we want to divorce her want to get her out of this marriage. Why the man turned out to be a monster. Or he doesn't even show up or he doesn't provide for the family or he has a drug problem or he has addiction problems and he has this problem.

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So you haven't done enough to really figure out what kind of man he is.

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And this is why also a believer and by the way, faith is practical. Humans we need to develop a sense of intuition, a good insight into people which is vilasa fear rasa. The prophets, Allah Salam says the Techo Fira, certainly movement into all philosophy and movement, be careful Be aware of the insight and the insight of and the intuition of a believer.

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There is an addition to this hadith, which says basically that no young Balbina Allah she felt bad he said, This is life, this part of his life, but the first part is so he is authentic, it all feel a certain moment we can all have the insight and the intuition of a man of a believer.

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Why because a man gives you insight

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because gives you insight about yourself first, and it helps you see through people's intentions and people's nature. So So the Prophet SAW Selim realized through his insight that boubakeur is not suitable for Fatima Alana Omar is not suitable for for the middle, the lower Hannah, so he didn't marry them. Did that break the relationship? No. It doesn't mean don't take it personally. Or work. It didn't take it personally. This didn't affect his relationship with the Prophet SAW Salem, Amara Delano the same thing. They never held grudges against this. They just moved on. And that's how life keeps keeps going on. But in this time during this time

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a woman

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was actually a servant. She was a servant, leader for Ali.

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cannot be a pilot. She she hears that Abu Bakr and Omar have asked for Fatima and she knows that a LEA has intentions. So she goes to sleep and we try them. And she says to him, you know, have you heard what happened? People are asking for the hand of Fatima. They're approaching the Prophet and send them to marry his daughter. Why don't you go to him?

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So he thinks to himself, and he says, I have nothing to offer her like as a Maha as Don't worry, there's nothing I can give her as a gift of marriage. There's nothing I can offer. She says just go just just go and speak to the Prophet SAW Selim. And I want you to pay attention to this beautiful encounter with the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so I'm gonna read it in Arabic. And

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I'll read it in Arabic and then I'll translate

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so aluminum foil it was speaking he say hopefully about faulty metal Illa Rasulillah he Salalah when people asked for faulty metal, the Allah Anna, that people approached the Prophet saw someone with her regards for Arlette Lima for quality muhlach only. So one of my servants says she's a lady hell, alimta, nflt Metallica totally but ala Rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Petula. Do you know that someone approached the Prophet Salam with regards to his daughter? He said no.

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Violence for God holy but for me I am not okay and Tettey Allah so Allah Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for us? Are we jack? What prevents you from approaching the prophets? I send them and most likely you would give her to you.

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Football to winning, do you notice? Or would you be here? And he says there's nothing I don't have anything to, to offer for them.

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How can you afford that?

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Okay, can you leave this till the end? Because we can explain this. This is a part of the Arabian culture at the time that we don't we don't really know very well, but we can explain it. So basically, families had maids in the house that lived with them generation after generation, like Amon Ali Alana. She was part of the family. She was considered part of the family but she was a maid. So she was similar to that, okay, so it's not about being rich. So people will consider these maids to be part of their family and they want like even sell them as slaves no matter what. So they became part of the family. Okay, so that's just to get by.

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So she says, forgot that in the kanji Thalasso loss. If you approach the Prophet Salam he would most likely marry you. For Allah He has Allah Tala Genie Hector the hell to Allah. So the lessons learned she gave me hope she keeps giving me hope until I actually went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam. So I think it'd be Taalib approaches the Prophet salallahu Salam.

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And he goes and he sits with the Prophet Solomon his house.

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He sits and it's an awkward moment. The person looks at him and he says, yeah.

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Magia abic Is the alleyway you know, what did you come like, what's what's on what's going on? What's up?

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He says, let's shake nothing. He's shy to speak to the prophets.

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Prophets. Islam leaves him then he speaks again. He says, Yeah, I'll imagine a big Why did you come on what's up? You know, anything, says

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the prison system landlocked.

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Perhaps you came to ask for fall in line marriage.

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I didn't know what time is. Is it now chaotic indeed it is. Just like that. But it's so shy. I want you to see the fatherly love the Prophet SAW Selim was offering Illumina be a pilot. He knows he could see he could read the mind if I lived. And we told him he came to us for faulty memory. We was too shy. He knows he knows I leave now be a pilot. I mean, he's his cousin. They spend a lot of time together. And even thought it was one of the early Muslims. So he already knows him. And that's that's important as well to know the people around you.

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Pay attention to them, read them.

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So the promises and even like sort of teases him the way the person spoke to him. He says maybe you can perhaps you came to ask for Fatima. So it gives them that push man just speak like, get this word out of your mouth to see it.

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So it says yes, indeed. The prophecy of sentences are in the cache on

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Tuesday. Whoo ha yeah. Do you have something to offer her as?

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He says love Allahu Allah. So Allah, man de la Kadima. He says, ah, Messenger of Allah, Allah, I only have this, you know, this shield. That is all too old.

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And the prophets of salaam says, Well, my father, or my father had not gotten and fell to her Yak. You know what happened to the camera that I gave you? From better, like from disposal for I gave you so I live in a battalion from the spoils of war of better he had one camo when she can

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and the prophets I seldom gave him from his own share another candle. So he had two camels. He had two camels.

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So I don't even know be part of doesn't know how to basically like, he says, they're gone.

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They're gone. And the reason is, something happened to the Prophet said, Imagine he knew, but the person thought there was something else.

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I don't even know we thought it was trying, as he heard that people are asking for fundamental the law and in marriage, he himself decided to get himself ready. So maybe before he approaches the problem, he would get something ready. So he went to buy some stuff. He went to the market, he had his two camels, he parked them, literally parked them, by the shop of one of the unsought and he left them and he went to some of the Jewish

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shopkeepers, to make something for him to sell something and exchange it. He goes on, he's done with his business, he comes back, and I leave no bid on him. starts crying.

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Literally starts crying. Why? Because he says, I see my two camels dead.

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They've been slaughtered, cut, their stomach has got open their intestine is put out. And that is the mutilated.

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Say, He says from left to left, see, and then I ini for Assad to enter Rasulullah Salah.

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So he's like his eyes, and he rushes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So let's see what he says. Basically, before that, before he addresses the problem, he says like he's puzzled as to who killed my camels like, this is my wealth. And we will talk about cameras. By the way, you know how much use I don't know how much you really pay for a camera today, but it's 1000s of dollars. It's 1000s of dollars. You pay for a camera. So it was a wealth.

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It's like you have, let's say you buy a brand new buy a brand new car, then you find it destroyed or damaged. That's exactly the feeling for you that like that's the worst day in your life. That's what happened to leave. Nobody thought it. So he asked who did this to my camels.

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They said Hamza

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who's Hamza? Hamza dunk, uncle of Olive, Natalia uncle of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So he's puzzled. He doesn't understand. He rushes he cries in rushes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he goes, so he says, basically as Ultraman ferula they said, he said, who did that for all of Allah who Hamza bin Abdul Mutallab? Well, who if he had the bait if he should have been the who? They said it's it's Hamza, and he's in that house and one of the guys have the answer. And they're drinking.

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Okay. Veneto Pina Tomas ha was harder who for call that farriner Allah Hamza they shut off in the world. So basically, Hamza listen to this and be careful. Hamza all of the low Anna with some companions from the answer are in a house and they're drinking

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and they're drinking.

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And he feels high, right? He's

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and there is

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a slave girl that is singing for them. And she praises Hamza that he is

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a courageous warrior. So he gets really excited. He gets his sword. He goes out in the street, he finds these two camels is like he slices them as Hamza so the prophets I send them for karma Hamza to be safe. Vegeta best Nima Tahoma wa Baccarat, Saba Hama, Hamza cuts you know their humps. And he splits open their their bellies and he takes their liver

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on Allegan Frontenac to hit the Add hola hola. Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam are in the Huzi wo Haritha so I rushed to the Prophet salallahu Salam and Z wo Khalifa was with him. For out of Allah so Allah Azza wa sallam few words he led the locates the Prophet MCs looks at my face and he knows something troublesome happened

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for Karla suasana Malak altri rasool Allah, Allah Hemara E to can you make up for some says what's going on? He says almost enough Allah I've never seen a day like this. I've never seen I've never had a day like today.

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Either Hamza to Anna Anna Katya Finster bass Neva Tahoma Woba Cara Hawa Sara Houma, Hamza attacks my two camels. He chopped their humps, and open their bellies.

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Wow, who were there after you beaten Mara, who should have been? There is with a group or another with a group of people and their drinking. Godfather I Rasulullah saw somebody that he further had prophesied and calls for his cloak. He puts it on for months that I am she he works with Tibet to who and I was

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Aw Haritha so I follow him with this even though he had Alibaba Latifi Hamza when he came to the house door of the house first then after adding all of he seeks permission, they allow him in for either one fish shop sitting together and they, they're drinking together. These are Muslims drinking why? And stems out of the lawn, drinking alcohol. How come?

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It was not haram at the moment still, it was still Halal at the moment.

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the Prophet SAW Selim they entered the product for topical Rasulullah saw salami Lumo Hamza female the Prophet of Islam started blaming Hamza for what he did, how can you do how do you do this? Why did you do that? For either Hamza tomo, Hamilton Aina or Maratona. Hamza, his eyes are red intoxicated mandala tone and you know,

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for number 102 ilan rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I thought Messiah or the novel La Ilaha competi Hamza is looking at the Prophet Cyrus and it looks sort of like from head to toe. He looks at him

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from Messiah at another of another illustrata He then he looks at his belly. For masa add another of another language he just looks at the Prophet Salam this kind of with some kind of disrespect. For Karla Hamza, and I believe only Abby. Hamza says you guys are just slaves for my father.

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Nonsense, basically nonsense.

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For out of Rasulullah saw Solomon the whole feminine faneca Surah Surah Allah He SallAllahu CinemaDNG RPB he'll got our Hello Joe Hello Gina Maha who, by the way, this isn't Siberian Muslim, just in case there's in Bukhari and Muslim

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so the problem with MCs Hamza is intoxicating and intoxicated. There's no point speaking with him. You can't make sense right? So he left him and he he moves, he moves out. So

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basically, as we said, alcohol was still part of the society at the time. Still part of what a daily routine, daily routine even by the way, I live you probably thought him himself he speaks about alcohol. He says one day

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he says one day we were in a in a house together Muslims and it was time to pray.

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He says * them any local mall is Salah people said you you lead your Illuminati toilet, you lead the Salah. So he starts reciting. And before that they had been drinking.

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They had been drinking and now they're making their Salah.

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So I know you're gonna Talib starts reciting Fatiha then he recites Alia you healthcare for your own law Budo Mata Abu don't write, how does he recited he says Kalia you Alkaff your own Naboo domata Budo this is all you disbelievers, we worship what you worship

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okay. And then

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this was

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narrated to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. So, the Prophet SAW Selim, basically and among Hapa hears about this and he sees all of this mess around alcohol is Allahumma baginda And I feel hungry by Anand Shafia Allah like clarify for us what it is about,

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about alcohol how to deal with it. So after this incident with illegal not to be tolerated Allah subhanho wa Taala reveals the verses and Salatin Nyssa Yeah, you Alina Amanullah Columbus salata and Tom suka,

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mo mata coulomb are you who believe do not approach Salah when you are intoxicated, you're intoxicated, do not approach salah, don't pray when you are intoxicated. At the moment the Quran so you, you know, you're making sense of what you're saying. Otherwise, you would say something inappropriate, just like happened with Allah, you know, be tolerable be alone. And

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so because of this, you know, when you drink, it takes a few hours for you to wake up sort of become sober.

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So that basically limited the time through which the Muslims can drink alcohol. So they started drinking, either in the early morning after fajr. So that when the time comes, it's been a long time. So now they're awake, and they can pray though, but you can't pray in the middle of the day. They sort of they can't drink in the middle of the day, if they drink in the middle of the day. They won't be able to pray for her as her own mother or a bride or even Asia. So they started drinking either after fajr straight after fajr or after Asia before they go to sleep. So it limited the time in which they could drink alcohol and by the way in their society people drank day and night. Like,

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like you drink water they used to drink alcohol. It was a very common thing among the Arabs in their society.

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drink all day, keep drinking all day. They even used to

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take pride in the fact that they could drink and not get intoxicated. They could drink a lot and not getting intoxicated. Why? Because there was so much they became desensitized to it

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okay, so, anyway, the prophets orsola, Mary's father model the Allahu anha, to not be tolerated and the Prophet hunt gives them some gifts, some basic furniture, some basic furniture and was a very simple house or even a bit taller, probably Allah who I know had, but it's not about the possessions it's really about the love and the family and the, the the the, the love of Allah subhanaw taala as well the fact that this marriage is built on, on faith.

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And the Prophet SAW Selim as well don't forget that with

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the Prophet said in the Hadith Arlindo Nikka El Nino and Nica when you have an acre when you have a marriage, announce it that people know

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that people know and this is why secret marriages are not from Islam.

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Secret marriages are not from Islam.

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In extreme circumstances, it might be but it should never be the rule. It should never be the rule. And this is something sisters need to be careful of. A lot of the sisters especially divorcees, single mothers, might actually you'll find some people approach them. They say I'm already married, I want a second wife. But I don't want anyone to know.

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I want to have a secret marriage. And because of her situations you might agree.

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And am I advised our sisters don't fall into this. I've seen so many cases where sisters get taken advantage of Big time, big time. The man seems to be nice, respectful, religious, etc. But if a problem happens with his first marriage is going to sacrifice you.

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And there are people who take advantage of the situation. So there should be no secret marriage don't marry in secret, don't marry in secret, the process and it says Alena and agalloch said there are extreme cases where this could be considered, I understand. But these are extreme cases. This is not the norm we shouldn't you know, opt for the secret marriage just like that. There must be extreme conditions and circumstances to do this, and the prophets of salaam says first of all, my banal Helen will haram a dwarf. What separates Helen from haram is a dwarf. The women used to you know play with the drum during the Nica white announce the announced this is this is a marriage so

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people know who got married to who.

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Not like tomorrow you'll find a man and a woman walking to get together. How come y'all know this will be a reason for any bet and Amina and a lot of talk. And a lot of talk is why the prophets of salaam one day he was with his wife, Sophie yellowbrick Allahu anha. At nighttime he was walking with his wife Sophia.

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And two companions passed by the prophets of salaam says Allah is three coma, hold on guys. Hold on guys, and she's Sophia. She's covered. And she's a woman and she's with the Prophet SAW Salem. He says Allah to sneak Omar in the house of fear. This is Sophia, by the way, just in case

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just in case.

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They said Yeah, rasool Allah are we going to have doubts about you? Like we're not gonna have doubts about you? He said in the shape on the dream in Ebony and the medulla dominant shape plan runs through son of Adam just like blood runs through veins, Chapin could throw an idea in your mind and become suspicion becomes an accusation. So there should be clarity about all of these things. There has to be clarity, who married who,

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who married who in order to preserve people's sense of dignity and reputation.

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So um, so this is part of Islam, this is actually part of August lamb to and have to have,

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you know, to have the wedding being announced, and it should be a moment of joy and happiness should be a moment of joy and happiness for the community. There are people who have, you know, marriages and weddings, they're exactly alike. You know, there's no sign of happiness or joy.

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Really, there's no sign of happiness and joy. No women should really sing and use the depth and enjoy enjoy themselves and that and the men are supposed to have a good time.

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It's a good sign

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around that time by the way, and the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he says to the companions with regards to alcohol after Allah revealed the verses that do not approach Salah when you are intoxicated, the prophets of salaam fields that Allah is going to reveal something about alcohol, consumption of alcohol. So the prophets of salaam he says yeah Marcelo muniment Karna in the WHO Boqueria two men hammerin Philea. Bit Who are we interpreted be? In Allah Zoa gender, you add a little bit humble.

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The Prophet zestoretic companions I can feel can see Allah is saying something about. Alcala wants to say something about alcohol, so he's about to reveal something about it. So if you have any alcohol, sell it off, or use it,

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or use it.

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And around this time, by the way, after the Battle of whether or not Muslims became a power, this is the time when hypocrisy and the * was born. We said in Medina, there were different segments in that community in that society. We had the Muslims, we had the non Muslims, the pagans, with an EN middle Arab, and we had the Jewish tribes, People of the Scripture, these through three groups. Now, the pagans among the Arabs started seeing all the Muslims are getting really strong, and we sort of like our position and society is becoming very weak and vulnerable.

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So they're the biggest one among them, Abdullah ibn obey Ibnu, Salah will, he figures out there's a way to deal with these people. I mean, we can't really survive being just the pagans of Medina, were shrinking a number. Were being the odd ones out. So he decides to use a very deceptive tactic. He decides to pretend he's Muslim, to pretend he's Muslim. And that's what NIFA is hypocrisy. He is non Muslim, he doesn't believe he doesn't believe in Allah. He doesn't believe in the Prophet size and doesn't accept the message. But he pretends why? Because he thinks

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we are unable to destroy the Muslims, let's destroy them from inside. Let's destroy them from inside. And the way to do this is to pretend is to pretend. So he and people a good number of his group, they actually come to the Prophet SAW Salem, and they take their shahada,

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but they're not Muslim.

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They're just saying it. They think this is a better tactic. They think it's a better tactic.

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So this is how hypocrisy started in the Muslim society. This is how it really started and started taking root in the Muslim society and these hypocrites, by the way, you might think there was so visible No, they were not visible. People could not tell who was a hypocrite and who was a real believer. They couldn't tell why because these hypocrites actually prayed in the masjid in the first row. And they were with the Prophet saw some of them and they said some of the best things

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they said some of the best things. So the external aspects are important, stay external aspects of Islam are important, but they're not the whole thing. They're not the whole thing.

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So we're gonna finish inshallah quickly,

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just want to mention one incident that has to do with alcohol. So I think today we got a good glimpse as to what was happening in Medina, or social life, how social life was how the Muslims were growing, how they were dealing with each other, especially the marriage issue, the marriage side of it, you know, the great companion and a sub nomadic, who was young, who was younger than his mother brought him to the prophets of salaam to be the servant of the Prophet sites and his father Malik, his father, Malik.

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Now, the narration doesn't specify whether he was Muslim or not, but he says to his wife, the mother of anus

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and her Konya was a Muslim. About the Allahu Ana mousseline. He says to her in her module,

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talking about the profit doesn't need to be in the head. Roger, do you have the moral hammer?

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This man Mohammed, it seems that he's going to make alcohol haram and this man was addicted to alcohol. And he says I can't live without alcohol.

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So he decides to leave Medina leave his family and migrate to Hashem where he actually dies there as a non Muslim.

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When he dies, there is no Muslim. So Muslim was left alone with her son

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And us numerical, the Allahu Anoma. Okay, so there are people Subhanallah their desires, take them away from Islam.

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There are people who their desires take them away from Islam. There are young people here who want to live a life like non Muslims who wants to have relations with other women. They want to have a girlfriend, right? Or they want to smoke marijuana, or they want to drink alcohol. And they see in Islam, this is haram haram haram haram. They start rationalizing. And then they start hearing from some people who tried to attack religion and they say, you know, the religion is nonsense. It's all made up and stuff stuff and all that stuff like this. So they hear it they say, yeah, yeah, maybe that's true. Maybe that's true. Islam is all nonsense. And this is all fabricated. Why because of

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their desires. Be careful.

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Be careful. Don't let your desires blind you to the truth. Don't let your desires make you lose your faith. So these are serious, serious things. There is something that happens with OMO Salim after this man leaves here, a man approaches her.

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And his name is Abu Palau is one of the best people in Medina, but he's not a Muslim.

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He approaches her and he basically he wants to marry her. So she says to him, you're Ebola in the Mithila Caligula. She says I will tell her you know someone like you cannot be turned down.

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Well, I can I can move on Catherine. But you're a non Muslim and I can't marry you.

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I can't marry you. He says what are we what do you want Mahaki like, Marroquin the, the whole football he says whatever you want as a door he is with me gold and silver. Right? She says Lisa Lisa So basically she says to him in NIDA What do you do Sephora I want to talk about I don't want gold nor silver. I want from you Islam. Are you doing kill Islam?

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Then he she says to him at as a word Yoko anteater Abu Harsha button. Naja Rahab Devala. She says do you want me to marry you? And you worship a piece of wood that was made by a carpenter?

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Don't mix very.

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Sir, she says fit into slim for that commodity. If you become a Muslim, that's my Dory. I would like I would marry you without anything else. Whether it's a Luca Euro, who now would not ask you for anything else. That's it.

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So this man is puzzled now. This man is puzzled about how shall I

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become a Muslim and marry her or what? Is he going to embrace Islam just to marry a woman? Would that break his intention? Or what would that sort of invalidate his intention?

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Okay, we're going to try to answer these questions in sha Allah.

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Next time inshallah we're gonna answer this next time even Allah He to Allah

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