Forgive And Grow

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Moutasem al-Hameedy

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Friday/Jumuah Khutbah at the Abu Huraira Center on January 27, 2017.

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had he had you Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam, or Shabbat ohmori madatha wakulla modesetting de wakulla diaton Bala wakulla Bada, phenol, All praise is due to Allah we praise Him, we seek his aid and we ask for his forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evils of ourselves and the evil consequences of our own actions. Whomsoever Allah guides, none can lead us astray. And whomsoever Allah leaves to go astray, none can guide I bear witness. I testify that no one has the right to be worshipped, but Allah alone, who has no partners, and I testify that Mohammed

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sallallahu alayhi wa early he was sending His servant, his his slave and His messenger or your who believe, Fear Allah as he should be feared and die not except in a state of submission and Islam to your Lord, or mankind. Be dutiful to Lord who created you from a single person, and from him he created his wife. And from then both he created many men and women and fear Allah through whom you demand your mutual rights and observe the rights of your kins. Surely Allah is Ever an old watcher over you, all you who believe. Keep your duty to Allah. Keep your covenant with Allah, fear him and speak the truth. He will direct you to righteous deeds and will forgive you your sins, and whoever

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obeys Allah and His Messenger has indeed attained a great achievement. The best words are the words of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And the best guidance and way of life is that of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam, and the worst thing in the religion are the newly invented fabricated matters, because all of these matters are innovation and better, and every bit that is considered to be misguidance and it leads to the hellfire.

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abubaker Allahu anhu, the great companion of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and a great role model for each one of us. He had a cousin called Mr.

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Mr who was a very poor person,

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whereas Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu, Allah blessed him with so much wealth. Allah blessed his wealth and his possessions, and a lot showered him with his mercy. So Abu Bakar used to provide for his cousin Mr. atha. He used to support him financially. He used to look after him, check on him, make sure that all his needs are met.

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And this was for quite a while for a long time. And one day when

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the slander started spreading against the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam he shot all the Allahu and her the false accusation against her. This slander started being was spread around by ill hearts, and sick people in the community. One of the Muslims who got involved in this, who were trapped in this who fell in this pitfall.

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So he spread the news, somehow thinking it was just news. So he was passing it on. It was misbehaving author himself. Mr. atha himself

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passed on the news to others. So he got involved in this probably with good intention.

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But that was the owner of his of his relative shadow the Allahu anhu, the daughter of Abu Bakar, who was providing for him.

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So when the whole metal was cleared by Allah subhana wa tada in the Koran, and shut off the Allahu anhu was cleared. And everyone knew the truth about this and the people who got involved in this slander were exposed. Abu Bakar probably Allahu anhu became angry, because it was his daughter that was slandered. And it was his cousin that was involved in this land, Mr. Have no atha so Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu said, Well, no, he I will not support him. From this moment on, I will not support him. I will not help him. I've been helping him for years and years and years. And now without any proof without any evidence without any clear clue. He spreads a lie against my wife.

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And what a vicious about my daughter what a vicious lie against my daughter and the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so I will work another low and was angry. So he said I will not support him anymore.

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Allah subhanaw taala reveals a verse from the Quran to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after the issue was cleared. Then Allah subhana wa tada says, will tell you all Fub Leeming comesa A you too.

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What am I Sakina Well, mohajir ENFP sebelah when we ask

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Allah subhanaw taala sends a verse and the meaning of the verse says that those people who have been blessed by Allah subhana wa Tada. Those people have a history of generosity and giving and kindness. Let them not refrain from it. Let them not hold it back and let them support the weaker ones. The poor

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Once the needy ones among the Muslims, let them still support them.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala says, what are the full well yes for one let them forgive. Let them pardon. Let them turn a blind eye to the blunders of others. What do you got for the US for who else to hit buena young Pharaoh Allahu Allah come? Don't you love that Allah forgives you. Don't you love that Allah pardons you? Don't you love that Allah frees you from your sins. When Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu heard this verse, he said, Bella,

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Bella Yara, indeed My Lord, I want you to forgive me and Pardon me. And from that moment, he paid an expiation for his oath. Then he broke it, and he sent back to Mr. Fattah the monthly or regular support that he used to give him previously.

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So Abu Bakr radi, Allahu anhu is teaching us a beautiful principle that he learned from his prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that's about forgiveness. That's about an Apple was soft.

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About an Apple was soft, about forgiveness. And we know one of the greatest Names of Allah subhanho wa Taala is that he's an iPhone. He is an iPhone. He is the one who pardons. He is the one who forgives a football for the one who forgives our sins and clears them. He pardons us, He forgives us, and that's his name and Allah subhanaw taala in that verse that Abu Bakr responded to Allah subhanaw taala is making it clear that if you treat the creation of Allah with forgiveness, Allah will treat you with forgiveness. If you forgive them, Allah will forgive you.

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And how you treat the creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah will treat you and that's something we should keep in our minds all the time.

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And the prophets Allah made that principle clear. And so many Hadith when he said a Rafi Monet or hammer hammer, man, the ones that are merciful to the creation, Allah will be merciful to them. So if you want Allah subhana wa to Allah, you want your Creator to treat you in a certain way, treat his creation in that way, and Allah will respond to you.

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Allah will respond to you.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was teaching his people trying to warn them, telling them that the religion that you guys were upon is an invented religion. It was created and fabricated by human beings. It has some of the remains of the religion of Ibrahim alayhis salam, but it was twisted and changed and distorted. The core of it was completely changed. Instead of worshipping your Creator alone, loving him,

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devoting your life for him, you started to devote your life to some creation, to some stones, to some peers, to some graves to some great personalities to money and wealth and status.

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He said come back to your Lord. Because this life is not the end there is a hereafter there is a paradise and there is the hellfire. You need to get ready for that next life. And this life is not a test. But these people opposed him, persecuted him attacked him physically, mentally.

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They tried to slander him, create lies about him, spread rumors about him challenge him in every way possible.

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Yet the Prophet sallallahu Sallam after they harmed him physically. And they injured him they cut his cheek and they broke his tea and he was injured in the battle. And he was angry and he was about to make a doormat then he said, Aloma

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ALLAH forgive my people, forgive them, forgive them because they don't know the gravity of what they are doing. They don't know the real consequences of what they are of the way that dealing with me. Oh ALLAH forgive them. Oh ALLAH forgive them. And one opportunity that we all know about when a loss and the angel of the mountains would you be in alayhis salam, after the prophet SAW Selim was hurt by his people severely. And he said, If you wish you can command the angel that is in charge of the mountains to make the mountains collapse and then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said no. He said no, that I wish Allah will bring from their descendants people who would worship Allah and be saved from

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the hellfire.

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One day the people of Quraysh one of their challenges to the prophet SAW Selim, they said to him, if you can call upon your Lord, and He turns the mount of a safari, the small amount of a suffer if you can turn it into pure gold, we would become Muslims we would accept your message and we would follow you. So the prophet SAW said and made a lesson.

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gibreel Ali salam, Jabri, etc. The prophet SAW Salah last month and I say to you, if you want, I can turn that mount into pure gold. But if I do this and they do not believe, I will take you them, I will take them out completely I will destroy them that would be the end. The prophet SAW Selim said no, don't turn it into gold. Don't turn it into gold.

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Let's give them more time.

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So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam lived his life with a pure hearts with a pure heart, never held a grudge against people. And this is why he slept peacefully. He slept peacefully. When we talk about forgiveness, we think we're going to give away something that's important. We think we're going to compromise our rights. And we hold on to the grudges, we hold on to the pain. We hold on to the sense of revenge. We want to we want to avenge ourselves, and we think we are doing well. But the hatred, the grudge that you hold against someone

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will burn only one person and that's you. And that's you. Because when you hold a grudge, when you hold to hatred, and envy, and anger against someone you are

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creating or building a furnace in your chest, that will burn your heart, burn your soul, and also burn your body and medicine. Doctors will tell you that when you hold on to grudges, you will be destroying your body. Everything you will have you will have high blood pressure, you will have joint pain, you will start your immune system will go down.

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Everything in your body will start to deteriorate because you're holding a grudge. We humans are not designed to hold on to anger and pain and a grudge. So every night before you go to sleep, make sure make sure that you feel your heart from any envy from every hates, from every anger. From every grudge you're holding on against any human being. So if you pass away that night, you would pass with peace.

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And you will be getting so much reward from Allah subhanaw taala you hold on to it and you are bound to destroy your health. And what's most more dangerous than your than losing your health is losing your Eman and losing your connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala

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because that grudge, that hate the anger will eat up your heart and will leave no space will leave no portion in your heart, no share in your heart for your Creator.

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Your sole concern would be to avenge yourself and retaliate.

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And this is why Allah subhanaw taala describes the believers he says, Well cow the mean.

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And they are the ones who suppress their anger suppress the anger the scholars of Tafseer they say this is the lowest level.

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The lowest level is that someone someone angers you, someone wronged you, instead of acting on your anger you full of anger. It's boiling within you hold it back.

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That's the lowest level when Calvin Mennella youth, then Allah mentions a higher level while atherina and nurse and these are the ones who can forgive people and pardon them. That means clearing their hearts from the grudge. Forgiveness is not a word. Forgiveness is a state of heart. It's a state of mind that you let go of the grudge. You let go of the anger, you free the person. You're no longer you no longer hold anything against them. That's what it means. Then Allah subhana wa tada mentions the highest level. So he says, Well currently mean eleva the ones who suppress their anger will Athena and Ines and those who forgive others forgive people

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when law who you have seen and Allah loves the ones who do well, the ones who do good and that's a higher level. And this is why one of the Muslim caliphs in the history of Islam. One of his servants was pouring water on his hands. He got warmed up the water for him, he heated the water for him in order to help him make a lot so he was pouring the water and the Khalifa. The leader was making more.

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So the guy had overheated the water by mistake.

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So when he pulled it It burns scorched the halifa so he became angry but then the servant was a wise man. He said Do me a little more money and oh chief of the believers. And last panel to Allah says will probably mean aloha youth and those who hold back their anger. So the belief I said come on to how you leave. I hold back my anger.

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I'm not gonna have to put upon it. Then he said, Well, Athena and in us, and the ones who forgive people. So the halifa said, I forgive you.

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Then the seventh completed diverse will law who you're sinning and Allah loves the ones who do well. The ones who do do favors, the ones who go out of their way they go the extra mile, they get out of their way to do something extraordinary.

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Well, now you hit

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those ones.

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So the halifa said to him, You are free for the sake of Allah, he was a slave. You are free for the sake of Allah. But I will never say no to the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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That's what our religion teaches us. That's how our prophet SAW Selim was he himself teaches us inside a Muslim, the messenger Salaam says a man or a woman, man,

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a charity, when you give out for the sake of Allah, it will never decrease your wealth. It will never if you try to work it out mathematically might not work out for you.

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But you know, Allah will pay you back through ways you never expect.

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So any charity will never decrease a wealth was there the abit Don't be f when Illa

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and a servant, when he forgives, when he pardons,

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he will only be increased with more honor, and more dignity and more status. That's a promise from the Prophet sallallahu.

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So when you forgive, that's not a sign of weakness. When you pardon, that's not a sign of weakness. It's a sign of strength. It's a sign of nobility. And that's what our religion teaches us. But when the scales are altered, things are twisted. We don't understand the truth we see things, not as they really are. This is why a Buddha, the Allahu anhu was asked men as soon as, who's the one that's most noble and honorable among humans, who is he? He said, He is the one. He is the person who has the power and the ability to avenge himself, but he forgives, but he forgives.

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Men after and

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this is why the prophets of Salaam when he conquered Mecca, these people had persecuted him for so many years killed his companions fought against him for about eight years. The prophet SAW Solomon he had them in his hand.

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And he conquered McCann had power over it. He said, What do you think I'm going to do with you? They said, a noble man and the son of a noble man. He said, above.

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You are free. You're free to go after everything. After all these crimes, or this murder, or this conspiring, or all these plots against the Muslims, after all of this Yes, is Abu for antimo Tanaka, you're free to go. That's it. That's it.

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And no one can forgive, except for a noble song, except for a noble soul, especially when the person has the power.

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So a las panatela advises us to forgive when Allah mentions the trials and the tests of this life. Allah says that our wealth is a trial and the test for us. Our children and our families are a test for us because there's a lot of responsibilities. There's a lot of things that you don't expect that happened to you. You might face ungratefulness from your family, from your children, you might invest so much but you never get back that last penalty. Allah says we're in debt for what us for whatever fill in the law, have a photo of him and if you forgiven pardon, allies or forgiving, Allah forgives the law pardons, so keep that in your mind. Apollo cola was the federal law Holly welcome.

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Bhatt, the great companion Abu Dhabi Allahu anhu. He had a servant. He had one of his own children,

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either his child or another young servant. And he was supposed to look after his sheep and after his horses.

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So one day, the kind of hay that was presented to the horses was very expensive, so they won't give it to the sheep. They won't give it they won't offer it to the to the sheep, they would only offer to the horses. So the young boy, or the younger man took that expensive hay and he offered it to the sheep and it consumed it. And that was a huge amount of money, a great assets. So a Buddha came to me he said Why did you offer that? Hey, that belongs that's supposed to be offered only to the horse. Why did you offer it to the sheep?

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He said in Arabic

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And

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I wanted to anger you, I wanted to ingrain in rage you had an issue. I wanted you to get angry. That's I want to get at your nerves. That's it. I want to push your buttons today.

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So Abu Dhabi, Allahu anhu said to him, will la healer, a Juma and then he left. When he left. He basically was a slave. He was a young slave. He was a young slave in those times there was slavery.

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So he said will lie. I was not combined to my anger. The only thing I could combine with my anger is forgiveness. You are free for the sake of Allah go. I don't want I don't want anything from you. You are free, you're free to go and live as a free man.

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That's how they used to be.

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As he's being the Khalifa, the leader of the Muslim government at the time, walking the streets, checking out on people, someone bumped into him by mistake.

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And there were some guards walking behind the hotdog. So the guy looked at me said to him, Are

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you a donkey? You're stupid. That's why he says to the leader of the Muslim ummah. You stupid. A moment as he turns to me says no, there's

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no I'm not a donkey. I'm just I'm not sure but I'm just I'm up. Then he walks on. So the gods wants to take the band. I'm gonna type says Celanese to Ireland for Egypt to who he asked me a question I answered him, then well,

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these people would not hold the grudge. Do not hold the pain and amendment Buhari Rahim Allah, Allah.

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He was trying, he was slandered people spoke ill about him, especially towards the end of his life. So someone came to him and he said so and so is actually speaking bad about you. He's saying so many bad things about you. Mount Buhari looks at him. And he says, In Nikita, Shivani, Canada, the plotting of shavon is weak. What does he mean? That you're not going to bring hatred between me and my brother?

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Another one of the Imams, someone came to him and he said, you know, so and so he's actually saying bad things about you. He's saying this and he's saying that.

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Then he said to him, he looked at him and he said,

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I'd be doing saw the opportunity, Athena. He said, he's a righteous man. But his trial, his test was to see me in bad terms in a negative light. May Allah forgive him.

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These people that didn't have time for this, didn't have time for them or will be one of the greatest greatest among the tambourine.

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Someone saw him in the streets a slot started heaping abuse on him, swearing at him using very bad language. Speaking of it, the man kept chasing him and just swearing at him and he ignored him kept walking. The guy kept chasing him and swearing at him about being insensitive, and he says, No, listen,

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a las panatela has heard what you said. I heard what you said. And he said in a baton CUDA

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in front of us is such a difficult way. We're in accurate,

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Ilana. And then after that hard difficult way, there's either paradise or hellfire. So if I'm going to paradise, if I'm going to make it to paradise, what you say is not gonna harm me.

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But if I'm going to the Hellfire, I am worse than what you describe. So I don't care. I just don't care. So so what you whatever you want to say, these people lived in peace.

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So for us as Muslims who are supposed to hold on to the spirit and the beauty of Islam, and to make what we're talking about practical, every day, every day before you go to sleep, that would be a very good time. Make sure that you clear your heart from every hatred and every anger. Forgive every person, make it a point to search for a person who angered you enraged you in your life. And you still hold the grudge, even if it's if it's not something that that usually pops up in your head, but you remember it from time to time. So make it a point to remember a person who really wronged you and you still hold on, you still hold on to that grudge. And say today, I will forgive that

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person. I forgive them from my heart. I'll just free them. I'll set them free. I'll get that memory, that recollection, I will get it out of my heart for the rest of my life. And I will forgive that person forever. I will hold nothing against that person. I will let them go for the sake of Allah. Because I want a lot to look at me with an eye of mercy. And forgive me

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that's something we Muslims are supposed to hold on to because that's gonna, you will experience a level of freedom probably you've never felt before. You'll forgive Allah will forgive you. Allow will forgive you and so many things will start changing. There is something I want to remind you as well about our mustard here hamdulillah and just Akuma head on for the support and the help

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That was during last year. So Alhamdulillah, the management of the masjid. And the Board of Trustees, they managed to get the payment that was meant to be by the end of the year, and hamdulillah. So it was actually in the process of being paid off. But I need to remind you that that's not the end. That's not the end, in order to keep doing the work that we do in order to expand it as well, we still need your support. So what I want to do is that just put you in perspective, just give you some numbers show you where we are today.

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Now we have two payments left, we have two payments left one at the end of this year 2017. And that will be 1.5 million,

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then we have another payment, and that would be the final payment of 1.3 4 million. And that's December 31 2018. So that's what we need to pay off in order to get, you know, the building next door. But there's another point, a lot of people just on the law here have ventured and gave them as Judd

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Carbone has done, which is alone without interest. That's a great contribution, we appreciate it. And we want to make it a point that we pay off that debt as well, that Cardinal Hassan has reached 1.7 million by the way out that now they are standing 1.7 so you need to add this to the whole total as well. You need to add this to the whole total. So what we want from you is to keep your support and keep your help to the masjid with whatever you can and if you can spread the word around in order to make sure inshallah that towards the end of the year we'll be able to make that payment and that we can pay off as much as possible of the people who have lent the most of their money. May

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Allah reward you all for your support allama Philomena when we not when a Muslim in our Muslim and even home What am what a llama feelin? I don't know when our slough and Effie empty now with a bit of them Anna monsoon alchemy carefree and Allah Subhana Allah subhana wa DD now what do you mean the home Hakuna Lena su cannot be calculated as a phone was Salam ala l mursaleen Alhamdulillah Hello behind me