Intellectual Seerah #12 Marriages Of The Prophet Muhammad 2

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa ala Council How you guys doing uh, welcome to the 12th session, probably somewhere midway through the whole series of the critical zero, where we employ the interdisciplinary method to try and decipher, understand, appreciate the life of the greatest man has ever lived the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And in the previous session, we spoke about some of the marriages of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam In fact, some contentions that are related to them, but also some of the narratives that we find in Sierra in general, we understand more about the wives of the Prophet Muhammad Salah Salam, we already covered

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in some detail. In fact, Khadija been tweeted, the first of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad wa salam in the Meccan period. And just to get your guys in the cloud in the room here to get you guys.

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your juices flowing, and we ask you a question. Which wives did we cover? off man? Last week? We covered a few one of them being Aisha

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and her on her sorry, yeah.

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So Sofia, Sofia, Sofia, Sofia.

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There's someone before I share that we've covered Yes, the Deja. That was before but before before I share in that session, who we are. So so the

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the one which I should love the most? Yeah, sure. Okay. Tell me something about So, Emma. She was she and cathedra are the only two wives of the prophet who

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weren't in a polygamous relationship with the Prophet. So interesting. And tell me something more about solder in terms of

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she had five children. Okay, interesting. And

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she, I believe she married the Prophet after, I believe was one year after the one or two years.

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Anything in particular? You told me I mean, I'm leaving open to you. All right. Okay. And there's obviously there's a one of the things you mentioned, was obviously her her size.

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Yeah. And I think just just from,

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like a wife perspective, that's why she liked her the most wasn't threatened by him from Yeah, he's older than a jealous lover. Yeah, we spoke about jealousy at great length and how the connection between jealousy and love, but we won't go into that. Now, let me ask you

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a game actually, let's get everyone involved. Let's play a game. And the game is, let's name the wives of the boss. And what we're gonna do is we're gonna start from this side of the room. Okay, so not only are we

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and there's 11 wives of the Prophet Muhammad, Salah Salem.

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We want especially if you got to mention Zane up there or Tuesday. Yeah, sure, shall we don't don't give them the answers, but

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that's gonna be your answer. But anyway, just one name per person just to get our juices flowing once against the guy. Zubin. Jeff. Next.

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Yeah, hi. Do you. Okay, try and get the full name. Maria.

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Okay, well, that's a difference of opinion. Or we said the majority opinion is that Maria wasn't actually a wife. So go go again.

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Let me try to think okay, because I have a labor

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Go ahead.

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Been down?

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been what's the alternative? You mentioned that

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you mentioned? No.

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Oh, sorry. I'm I'm gonna guess what's her name? Yeah. What's her name?

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Oh, that's beautiful. Excellent. Sofia. So for you been Hey, good.

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Soda, soda, soda.

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Soda Wednesday, Ma. Yeah. Got you. Almost Selma. Yeah, Selma, Selma southern shore. For extra points. I'm not gonna ask you for actual names. That will be pushing it. But it's good fine. Great Good.

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Jewelry have been haha yeah, see? It gets harder now. Isn't it? These guys who haven't harder okay God mental attitudes.

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I'm cheating.

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Me Munna? Yeah, Ben is at hardest hat. Same thing, right? Yeah.

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Okay, not sure how long get involved this is a pretty

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easy one.

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I don't know when to ah, because they might

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have recovered all of them.

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And in fact, there might be

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there might be another one which goes

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It was a witch this difference of opinion whether she was wife or not, which is that 108? We're gonna speak about it today as well. But these these are the words that are pronounced according to even those times Josie. Yeah. So we've covered four of them and some good detail. Yeah. And by the way, like, not all of the ones that have happened has a solemn, you will have that many reports that you'll see. But when we speak about a hammer, but to say it, even if she is a wife, we don't even know she's Why was effectively no reports on like, I tried to find any reports, it's nothing, nothing, like almost nothing. So once again, some wives have a lot of stuff, and have what some

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wives have very limited information about them. Today, we're going to be speaking about

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another wife. But before we get to that we're covering because the critical Sierra, we're covering the wives, which there is considerable contention around, you see, because we need to be able to defend the honor of the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salam, and then like anything else, right? If someone wants to attack another person, you go for the family affairs, it's a very successful strategy, you try and walk those things, okay. So we need to in order to us to defend that, because it paints a very bad picture of someone because this person is a shadow, any this person is desirous person, all they care about is desires, and so on. But once we understand how to historicize these events, then

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we can respond in a way which is more sophisticated, historically sophisticated. So we spoke about, actually, before we move on to the enum, in fact, I've been to Jash, not Jose,

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we're going to ask you a question about admission, because it's such a big shopper nowadays. And it's such a oft repeated contention, that I think we and we need to interleave as they call it, pedagogy. interleaving is this idea that you know, when you finish with the idea in one session that you bring the session up again, because repetition brings about

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acknowledgement, and it strengthens the andragogy process. The question is, if someone let me play devil's advocate with people, yeah. If someone with a show is very squeaky, don't worry, I'll change it and fine. But if someone were to come to you and say, you know, if Islam is true,

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then why is it that your Prophet consummated the marriage with a nine year old?

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With the issue from a way basing your morality from? Okay, that's a good way to start. That's a good way to start. I'll say, Look,

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isn't it wrong? Could you it's totally wrong for a grown man at that age to marry a nine year old? I'd say we don't actually look at the age that's not that important. Islamically because the age even like here today, geographically changes was more pointless, quite mature as a child in our definition would be and I think even in your the field disagrees, she's not sure. What's your definition? A few collide in Islam, which I think is doesn't understand these words are used. So there's a few principles, principles, where if they go past that principle, then there'll be accepted as adulthood, we'd actually have the concept of teenager in Islam. Okay, child, adulthood.

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See, that was good. I like that. I like it. But there's a there's a key word that we use last session that

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so Tarik knows what it is puberty. Okay. But there's another key word that I think was said. So, did you always say the word was nice? Yes. Bring that word in, say your your definition of adulthood, as 16 or 18, make it very clear, is a social construction construct. So what this we said this is an argument from social construct, you see, so to bring about the fact and you say, look, with his historical forces at play, and childhood wasn't seen as this before. One of the most powerful arguments to bring about or to show showcase, demonstrate that this is a social construct, is simply to show that cross cultural historically, the idea of adulthood wasn't a 16 year old. As simple as

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that may be.

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It's very powerful

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across geographically as well, today, yeah, you have many countries that accepted, beautiful, excellent. So that's one argument. So morality is a good argument, the way you can approach that is like I was trying to debate

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or in general, to force someone to two options.

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You know, I think it's a very good way to get yourself to a position where you're victorious effect effects, essentially. Yeah. So what you would do is like, for example, there's two ways of doing this, and I've discussed it with Alia, length, I've discussed it with many of you guys, but just to remind you, with the Aisha issue,

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you take it to their own morality. So for example, I would say, look, the fact that this is wrong, in your opinion, is this categorically wrong, or is this consequentially wrong?

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So they have to choose one of the two, they can choose Okay. Consequently, categorically, there's not a third option actually, if you think about it, because categorically wrong means is wrong or abysmal times, in which case you have to prove that. So if they say scattered, they have to pick their poison. Yeah. So if it says categorically wrong, they say fine, prove that's categorically wrong. So they have to try and do some Immanuel Kant moves in

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I try and philosophize that, which is very, very, very difficult. And if you know how to fight in that area, you'll win.

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And if you say it's consequentially wrong, the consequence that they're going to attach it to is what harm. And for them to say it's harm, what they have to do look at the sources, they have to prove it. So the burden of proof is upon the one that's making the claim. I'm saying, Okay, well, you have to prove that as harmful. So you know, I don't have to prove anything, any nine year old, and they have to use universal statements. So well, actually, you're using a source, which is that she was nine. So you might as well use all the sources and prove that she was harmed as well. Because you got to chuck away the sources, then chuck away the source that says she was nine, she

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might not have been nice, you might be 1821 5050, whatever you like. So if you want to check the sources away, check all the sources of way. But you can't selectively choose sources, if you're saying it's harmful, then it shouldn't be as clear as the fact that she was nine. So you have to know the burden of proof is upon the one that's making the claim. So that's one way of doing it.

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Now, think of how you would create this dualism or this dichotomy using the social construct argument.

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So you can how would you say how would you exhaustively

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make the point?

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So there's either history,

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either A or B, how would you say that in this using the word social construct? How would you make an argument? Well, you say, why is an adult right? Are we asking them a very open question? You want to give them two choices? What choices would you give them? It's either

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always wrong for a nine year old to get married. Or not. But that's that's the other one. That's the consequentialist verse. Categorical one? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So

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simple is out of a number of principles. And then you push your you're on the right track, you're definitely using the word social construct. How would you construct this argument?

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The idea of otherwise a social construct? Yes. Oh, being an adult is a fixed number. Beautiful. That's excellent. That's excellent. So you give them an option. Now, is it a social construct? Or is an objective reality?

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If they say some objective reality, now what

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they have to prove this, which is impossible, very difficult, and whatever way they try and prove this is going to be hard for them. Or you can put it another way to say, look, adulthood is either based on social construct, or biology.

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And if they say biology, then they can't say 16 or 14 or 18. Or

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if they say social constructs, the next question would be, why should we use one person's or one people's social construct as an arbiter for objective morality? Do you see? So what you're doing is you're trapping them.

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So I just thought it would be good to start with that. Because obviously, it's a Sherpa that keeps coming up. And the main thing in a discussion or a debate or an argument or anything like that, is for you to be asking the questions and giving the options. The moment you're given the options is the moment you on the backfoot.

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You can answer a couple of questions and stuff, but you have to get back in the center of the ring. Effectively, you have to you have to get back into the center of the ring.

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Yes, that's what you have to do. You have to establish the center, which means you have to be the one asking the questions. You have to be the one throwing the punches.

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And options and stuff is the best way of doing it. Okay, talking about options and talking about controversy. Actually, at the time of the Prophet Muhammad Salah Salem in terms of his marriages, and this is a subsidiary argument in the first place. The his marriage was at issue was not the most controversial marriage. So which marriage was given to Josh. And tell me someone why is that the case? Because he married he's adopted at that time, he's adopted sons wife in the Arab culture that was seen as that's your actual son. But it's not said no, that's not actually so. So taller for you tomorrow. So let's let's break this down. We've already spoken about. We've already what sort of has

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been hotter? And in the Meccan period, we know that Zaid and the problem has a sudden had a beautiful relationship. It was very close relationship. And people used to it was so close that they used to call him you know, the son of the Prophet Mohammed Isola, they used to call a man but he wasn't the son. He wasn't the biological son wasn't he actually considered or accountable for the versus biologically wasn't considered the son because they knew that the Father came and there was a store I'm not sure if you came across what we spoke about it, but there's a story when his father came back and then the Prophet gave him an option to either go with his father or stay with him and

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he decided to stay with him, which shows you the connection I had with the prophet but the father wasn't around. So he didn't. It's like nowadays when you have a stepdad or something, you know what I mean? Like, even though it wasn't like that, because he wasn't married to his mum. They even had his his mum. He wasn't married to his mum. But it was the closest thing that nowadays happens is probably that yeah, we'll talk about the story. The Solar System announced that this is my son. Yeah, he wouldn't be called Zane.

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He was called. The doctor would consider

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To him his full fledge son so he came later Muslim than what he acquired inheritance as well and yeah before before that people will consider my son so it was considered as a chef said as good as he is refining the product a little bit it's good

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to oversee what's happening but it's it would be considered like I think you'd be right then according to what the show has so as you because sort of like the son of the Prophet Muhammad masala

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however, what happened was the following is that Allah, He sent some A's in the Quran to try and basically nullify or abolish the practice of

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adoption Yeah. So many are adoption He Allah wanted to

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abolish that practice that Allah started with are only about a maraca Sato and Allah is this isn't sort of

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that call them to their fathers that this is more just according to Allah, meaning don't do this thing where you're calling someone according to their, to their to the other person or another man. And if you really think about it from the objectives of Islam perspective, one of the things that Sam came to protect is the lineage of people. So this makes full sense. Because you guys know that there's five objectives or six objectives, Sharia According to some scholars, and one of them is NESHAP or Nestle or lineage. And so, the idea that

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the idea that

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the idea that the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam or that Allah wanted to abolish adoption, is clear in the Quran.

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Now, what happened was,

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it's a good qualification to say that Islam encourages a person to take care, let's say, of a child adopt him in that sense. But the main concern issue is the issue of lineage. Yes, that he shouldn't be named, as this guy is his father. Because I feel the word adoption, may may be misunderstood that Islam is against adoption, meaning it's even against a person taking care of an orphan, let's say, Yeah, but actually, that's one of the main things that Elijah can be worshipped through. So I think that's a very important application. And I thank you for coming, please, because we'll make sure that everything is is clear. So the idea in question

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that Allah subhanaw taala revealed is a number 37 OF SWORDS last up. What we're going to do, the first thing I'm going to do, is we're going to spend three to five minutes looking at the air. So it's chapter 33, verse number 37. And then we're going to come back and take each part of this air

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and ponder over in Sharla so I'll give you maybe five minutes to speak to the person next to you and ponder over the air number 37 And then we'll come back and and discuss it together and challenge.

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Okay, let's, let's take the first part of the aya

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who wants to tell us what it means with the cooler lady and I'm Allahu alayhi wa and I'm Tali I'm sick Alec has ordered our Tequila What is this saying? How would you translate this what's being said

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the person just flew and He only told the person that you've helped or like yeah, because he helped him quite a lot

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this translate this translate with the horror lady and I'm tell another person that you said to who've you've helped keep your marriage and stay stable was that okay? Let's get a more extreme translations Prophet said to the man who had been favored by God and by you keep your wife and be mindful of God. Okay, so who's the man

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we know that because obviously the name comes up and his name is the only his hobbies name that comes up in the Quran? Actually, literally. Yes.

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So okay, that's a great it's a great honor for him. But let's go back to this. So what's what is the Quran trying to tell us here? And Allah Allah, he

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was the Islam being Muslim.

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Okay, but what is what is the prophet telling him to do? Not keep your keep your wife and keep your what? Keep your wife, right. Give you a wife. Yeah. So what must have been going on at that time? It means the there was an issue between him and his wife and the the plan to divorce or something like if the house isn't stable. Okay, so there was this chord between ze that Ben had with her. And then a bit to Josh. And so the process son's involvement in that was the Quran stating that you came in and you told them look MC Calicos article with tequila. He said, he said to him, which is a different habitat. He said to hold your wife and have Taqwa of Allah.

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Okay, does that make sense? So we have

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a discord going on between eight and 10 Jash and the prophets involvement was to try and do soccer between them. Now already, there's telltale signs of

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The posts are solemn, his involvement is a good one. The show will help that come in from this, by the way, what we will say is that the process alum, he was infatuated with her. He got them divorced. And then he married her. That's the narrative, by the way, right? There's a lot of questions that come into play here from the first part of the air, which is that the first question is, why is he trying to get them? Keep them together? That's the case. Surely, if like me if I wanted to marry a woman, and there was a discord between her and her husband, and he's telling me about it, keep quiet at least. Maybe I even encourage him to divorce. So yes, you know what she's,

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she's, she's crossing the lines, bro. Like, you know, used to divorce or get married after. That didn't happen. In fact, the opposite happened. We see

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marital problems that they were so actually I came across some narrations about what,

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what they were. And some of those narration seemed to be strong enough, which indicate that actually is entered into Jash. Because of his placement and like who she was, in terms of status. Right? She was from a quality tribe. She was a free woman. She was like all these things, which wasn't there. And they didn't had it. So she had the streak of like, being superiority complex. You know, she had a bit of a superiority complex. Yes, it was the daughter of the hunters. It was laksana. Yes. So she was the cousin. And

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so of course, she was the cousin. I mean, it's using the same tribe, but it can happen. That's why a lot of the folk are hot. By the way, there's a very interesting discussion. They talk about what you call a fair, like phones. And this is an interesting point to pause and think about this, which is a lot of the focal heart. When we talk about marriage and stuff. They say, it's important for a woman and a man or a woman to marry a man in a very similar socio economic level.

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Because if you marry if, like, for example, a lot of the reasoning they give, I've seen it in like Hanafy texts and stuff is, if she's used to a certain kind of living,

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then if you can't provide it to her man, she might. And it's not always the case, but it might bring about this kind of discord, because then she might start thinking I can get the grass is greener on the other side.

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And I'm not gonna say that that's exactly what's happened, Xena, but certainly there was kind of

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this dissatisfaction that she felt with him.

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Because she maybe she thought she was socially superior, she should be with someone of a different rank. Frankly, that's what she thought. Now, is that a good thing to think? No.

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Even if she then had been trash, can we even is that blameworthy? thing. You could argue that that was a blameworthy emotion. And that said, that if she had been more

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humble, that she wouldn't have had to carry these emotions, you could argue this. Remember, we don't have this angelic idea of the Mothers of the Believers that they're perfect. And they had, you know, perfect IDE and everything was but you'll see what it actually does things which are problematic. This wife does things which are problematic, and it's natural, and it shows you the human emotion this, this story is natural. Okay, having said that we know about Xena, by the way. And by the way, guess who narrates this shamisen Buhari we know about Xena was that she was one of the most religious wives.

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And she was like one of the best ones. In fact, probably the best one. What I actually said is that she was the best of the wives in religiosity. That's why she says, Can you imagine? Like we know we've already spoken about how I Isha is so jealous and possessive, and all these kind of things and love the Prophet. But she even though there was a kind of a rivalry between her and Xena, you can imagine now, because now we've spoken about kind of woman she is, she's a woman that Hey, she's got a lot of self dignity, right? But she's also got a visor. So you can imagine now what kind of class you're gonna find between her and how she does clash between them. In fact, they both had their own

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parties of otherwise that would, which there was two conglomerates, those two parts, okay, and like Xena, if you like Li led one group of women and actually led another group of women. The creators rivalry Yeah, because it's usually those people that have the most grandiose thought process or the most possessive ones that are going to

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are going to reach the heights of that. So that's what happened there was two kinds of camps the ASHA camp and then up camp.

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Xena was within that camp already, but there's an admission of admission and she mentioned that he ality come to seminar and also less I sent him that she was the one that we were both on an approaching level. Yes.

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Yes, so she mentioned that about Xena so not so something about her. Maybe it was three counselors almost I

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was so jealous and really even when the closer I sent a proposal it got married.

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You ya such a jealous, I'll make dua for you and all that. So, you know, the frost I sent him thought to consign so selama was the head of one camp and the other and Xena and Josh was

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Within the camp of Selim, about who's who says this, Jack, because in a way, you could say that she was the one who used to rival me. Could you argue that Zeno? PEDOT? Headed a camp in herself? Because it's an organization's mission two camps?

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Really? Yeah. We'll come to that. But surely there were two strong forces within the lives of the believers. And as you mentioned, she was one of the most religious because we have the narration of the Prophet Allah Salam said I couldn't Oakland be at what the cornea then. Yes. So

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the proselytism was talking about Xena Mindjet. And that particular narration just to come back on that, because that's actually an interesting and important narration, is that saying that, you know, the ones who has the longest arm is going to be the one who is join me join me first, meaning there's gonna die after me.

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So the the woman or the believers, they came together, and they actually started measuring dams to see who's got the biggest wind length. But it came out afterwards.

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That actually what that means is that sadaqa because it's a more jazzy meaning, which shows you that sometimes you can have a one meaning that they understood in one way and then afterwards, it's understood in another way after the peak of the particular prophecy. And we're going back to the point she was very much an issue, even though she was jealous, and she has this kind of grandiosity. She said about her that actually, she was the most religious of all of us. She said that she's number one in terms of, number one terms of prayer, and, and one is in terms of

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CME and fasting as well. And so on. Sadaqa sadaqa, she was known for it.

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She had a reputation for giving a lot to Josh. So that was that's, that's an aeration will highly, by the way.

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Anyway, so the first thing is that if we're if we're proposing, or we presupposing, that, you know, the Prophet Solomon had this malicious intent to try and get this man who he loved very much divorcing his wife. There's two questions you got asked, Why is he telling him to get stay together? The second question you ask is, why didn't he marry her before? They did?

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You think about that for a second. I mean, if you really wanted to, he could have proposed to her and he would have had a higher chance of getting that Yanni proposal met, because he was from the same tribe. Why not just proposed to her directly,

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might not marry her, why not beat him to to it and marry her before she does? Before he does that even harder. So it doesn't make sense. But then you read on there are tough enough seeker. Mala, who will be D, what action so Allah Wahaca and Tasha, this is a very important a. And in fact, this hadith on this particular part of the area was just a of the is particular part of the A, what took 15 years to come along with D reduction. So Allah, Allah had conduction.

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So what is this also 15 FC come Allahumma booty? So I looked at some theory about this. And what it says is that what's off if you never come along with d, and this is there's two opinions were being honest with you. Some say that, Oh, that he wanted to marry her. That's one opinion. But the stronger, more prominent opinion tafsir is that Allah told him that he wasn't gonna marry her.

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So the first assalam was shy to mention the fact that okay, Allah told him that, okay, you're gonna marry this woman in the future? Who was shy to say that. And what Allah is saying is that even though you know, those things you feel awkward, or shy or embarrassed about, I'm going to expose it.

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Now, what does this remind you of in the first discussion that we had in the very first session that we had the principle of what?

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Embarrassment haha. Okay. Now, what is the principle of embarrassment?

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If you don't want to say something, because it's embarrassing, and the principal basically talks about, like, if it was embarrassing for us, for someone to say they wouldn't say in the first place, so he actually goes against him. So let's say for example, here that,

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you know, the,

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the prophet wouldn't would keep some certain things to himself out of embarrassment, and the fact that he says it shows that he's very truthful in saying it. Okay, so where is this principle found?

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critical this

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is part of cm, many of the scholars, especially Biblical Studies mentioned this kind of thing. You've got the principle of embarrassment, which is that if something is likely to embarrass somebody, it's more likely to be preserved historically.

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You see, so according to the modern historical theories, the HCM, the more embarrassing something is, but it's still mentioned, the more likely is to be true. And interestingly enough Asha herself and I've met I've looked at and seen other generations of like hassled bacillary and they all think this kind of thing of looking at deficits of women cathedra or anything other than that, but it doesn't Bihari. Why

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She herself said that if the prophet was going to do Kinsman, if he was going to suppress anything from the way from the revelation he had suppressed this

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so she is affirming that this is the point this is embarrassing for him but Allah He revealed expose them. Why would I shove will people say this? She would say this because she knows that it's something she knows the professor someone's temperament as character.

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So she knew full well that okay, this is gonna embarrass him.

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Why would the peninsula go out, talk about the most detailed aspects of his private life,

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to the community and for it to be morality, something which is continual and perpetual in all of history.

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That you have no incentive to do such a thing.

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People don't want to be vulnerable in that way. And look how Allah look at the tone that Allah is using in the in this part of the eye, or took 15 FC come along with D and you're trying to suppress in yourself what Allah has already exposed.

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Allah is going to expose you effectively, they are exposing this information.

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What action Ness he continues and you fear the people. Look what Allah saying in the Quran to the Prophet, you fear the people what action so Allah conduction, and Allah is more worthy that you would fit him.

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So Allah he's, he's effectively calling out the prophet that is reprimanding that this is one of the aspects where Allah is reprimanding the Prophet Muhammad wa salam based on

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some of the things, his preferences, his temperamental preferences.

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What is it that why do you feel this is? Why do you feel this way? Why do you feel that if you were to say this stuff in public that you would be that? Why would it make you embarrassed?

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or Allah haka, and Tasha and this is this part of the AI shows you that the Prophet Muhammad Salam

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is free from a lot of the psychological things that they attack him with. You can be a psychopath, or sociopath or a narcissist, because someone who's that grandiose on that level of the spectrum of narcissism or psychopathy wouldn't care what people thought,

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actually, and probably ironic now that I'm mentioning this, there was a series that Piers Morgan done,

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where he was interviewing the psychopaths, and I'm not talking about his recent interviews with the Israelis.

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Although that probably could fit into the same category,

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where he literally was interviewing psychopaths. And if you watch that series, which I don't recommend that you waste your time, but if you can watch some clips, if you ever see an interview with a psychopath, you know, when people say, I don't care what people think this phrase, you might have heard it before, I don't, I don't care what people think. Anyone who says that that's other than a psychopath or a sociopath is either

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swimming in the quicksand of self delusion,

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or that they're lying, because we all care what other people think we and especially those who are closest to us, you cannot say I don't care what other people think unless you're a psychopath. If you're psychopath or sociopath,

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I agree that you might not care what people think if you watch those interviews.

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It's a kind of awkward stoicism that the these people actually portray. They don't care. Just watch their reactions, either. On the other side of the laugh, is someone dying, some kid dying and stuff like I was speaking to a psychopath one time a self admitted psychopath. And you I was talking to him about some massacres and stuff and he started giggling and laughing He does not care. Guys does not care. And I realized he doesn't care. And sometimes it can move on to sadism. Michael, you actually enjoy seeing people suffer. And psychopaths, psychopathy and sadism are connected actually. So the thing is, a lot of the the orientalist cycle New Age obviously this moment or intersect, so

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you don't find this level of argumentation, or this kind of

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I would call it superficial level actually, if you think about it, of argumentation in the old textbooks, but you find it now like a lot people say, Well, he was a psychopath and he was a narcissist. This is shows you that he was he was embarrassed, he was shy, he had these emotions. And we're going to come across when we speak about media crip Thea, we speak about the death of Ibrahim. However, Salam was also in grief, he would expect he would experience the full range of human emotion

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of a natural human being, which makes his feats in life. All the more impressive, actually.

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And when we really see that it makes it even more impressive, because if it was a person that wasn't predisposed to this kind of pain, if he was a psychopathic individual, or whatever it may be. And you're saying he did this. And he'd done that and he married just one and done that. And he went to this war and all that kind of thing. It might not be as impressive. But the fact that this is a man who experiences the same range of human emotion, that me and you and everyone else experiences yet he proceeds with what he proceeded with. It makes it all the more impressive

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But then the air continues so what's the next part of the

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contract Shafran Nakaba they don't mean Hamiltonians always NACA. Okay. Let's let's come with this book fella called the salesman. Yeah. What is this? What does this mean festival translate that please.

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My understanding is when Zaid divorced her and the either end okay, well that doesn't mention the Quran but it's look well for them because they don't mean what are on the agenda? Let's stick with this for a second. It effectively means this.

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When zayde

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done, he closed his interest.

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Typically speaking, if you look at for example, whatever the cathedra says, or anyone else like about this verse, one fella Mercado hijo for example, literally when he's when he's finished what he wanted to do with her.

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And I was doing terrible this I actually and this might be wrong, and the chef has had to correct me.

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But if you consider the reason why they got divorced, it's a bit of purity, as we said, like she thought she was you know, but see how Allah is putting it. So one Zaid had completed what he needed with her, he's putting her on the backfoot actually, can you see what's happening?

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So that fella Mark Zaid is the one who's in the Allah has this this is

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a manifestation of the Hadith of the Hadith of the Prophet mentor that Allah Allah. Yes. Because they it was Masada and the situation Xena was a little bit not. So so how Allah dealt with both of them in the Quran is that hey, look, when Zaid finished what he wanted to do with her.

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We got married to her.

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Do you see what's happening here?

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It's not like when they were when the marriage ended? It could I mean, there could have been a range of different terminology. But the terminology that was when they finished what he wanted to do with her

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Do you see what's happening? Or any if you think about what's going on in this area, Zetas Allah is putting him as Okay, the one when Zed decided that he didn't want to continue with anymore.

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And just his name to like it was named as well. So yeah, and if you think about that, if you're just about to get married to a woman, and you have all this desire for her, and you love her so much and you had to decide the last thing you want to do is put her down. This is a little bit a little bit like okay, well, she'd be really should be listening to this. I'm not sure what she'd be thinking. Like, considering

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when when they decided to complete his job with her finish while he was the high jackal. It's translated as when they no longer wanted her. Yeah, so there's no more than was on one side but it was eight as well as eight. It's not about her

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actually means misogyny.

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It means like his is complete as desire with it. Yeah. You know how you mentioned how I'm saying that? The most righteous religious Alvord the wives how he obviously wants to run was like fully revealed and everyone kind of memorized and incorporated that this was a question I had what how did Zainab interpret this ayat? And the fact that we don't know anything about it? I have not come across a Hadith from Zainab Singh This is that the other in fact what I did come across is she used it once again to show off about it

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so to say she said to the other wives, you guys got your she was talking to the wife now. She goes you guys got your wives yourselves married through your for your families. But I got my from seven heavens.

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So okay, you can look at it like that hurts a fetal Daya is okay, well, Allah Donna Catherine's NACA. So she's looking she's holding on to what the NACA, she's not holding on to what? For the Makala

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but both of them, so Allah is Yanni from one perspective, and he does that with his hobbies. If you look at like LM Ron, you'd be surprised how Allah speak sometimes was to hobbies puts him in his place. Because it's not just Xena. But whatever he does that with with the male so hobbies, especially when in war, it puts them in their place. And a lot of the time he even he goes fine home Luke Kufri yami isn't a caribou Eman. They're close to that day the man there's a lot of them have his Hello going on. But overall, because she has a listen to this, I'm going to cut it out.

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Overall, Allah says Raja Lavon take the whole thing.

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So with all their flaws, I mean, real love is real love and real acceptance is that we know what your flaws are. And we still accept who you are, and we still are happy with who you are. Because first thing is to try and create the hobbies and the marriages and all that some kind of an angelic Union.

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It wasn't an angelic union, and there was the divorce. And it's interesting to note that someone's high up as an inheritor in terms of the rank of Hobbes got divorced.

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Moreover, as an advantage if someone is high opposite and got divorced, but both of them

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were accepted by the community, once again, the stigma of divorce. This could be used to show that well, hold on, it's not that bad. can't be that bad. It's so how much was the gap was there between the divorce and the marriage of the Prophet? That's a great question. But obviously there would have had to be either. Okay. Yeah. So three, three menstruation though. This has mentioned two narrations, and it happens immediately after I'd made

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an exception. So that was one thing that I wanted to mention.

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Now, what's the Eric has it continue

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meaning a hydrogen fee as well as Yadi.

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Is Ocado mean Honda Ouattara? Okay, well, can Allahu Allah him of Hola. Okay, so let's, let's go with this. Because li K usually tally, right. So it's the case, usually, this is the reason so that there may not be

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on the believers a difficulty if they want to marry the wives of their adopted sons. But obviously, we know that adoption wasn't, was terminated. So what this would mean is that the ones who you had previously had in an adopted format, because now adoption is not allowed. If they have now removed and like any,

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they no longer one.

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Obviously, you can't. So they're no longer one than

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what someone can reply and say, Well, hold on.

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What kind of emotion is this anyway? Like on a sociological level, right? Let's say for example, we were to reformulate what happened here. And we're talking about a man that had a guy that was almost like a son to him, and then he was married, and then you have to marry them. This the sort of the masala, or this particular type of marriage, on a sociological level, wouldn't even represent 1% of all marriages that take place.

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You see what I'm saying here? So why is the Quran making a big deal about this? In fact, someone could say this is clearly used to cover up what the Prophet wanted in his shot, where and this and that, can you see where they're coming in? That because this is such a, it's such an unlikely type of marriage. So the fact that this is mentioning as the reason Yes, doesn't seem like a good enough reason to go through all of this. So it'd be the response to that. The marriage wasn't for the reason for the most part was to end the adoption. So it's basically setting the end of it, you see, so now Now we're talking. Because now what you're saying is that really what was the bigger

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objective, which is one of the five major objectives Sharia is to end this adoption process or the adoption thing, and the most emphatic way to do it?

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The most emphatic way to do it would be to bring the prophet to marry that particular woman at that particular time. Because what that will do is it would leave no doubt in the minds of people that this cannot be his son. But the adoption issue was rejected another fellow who

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find the law. Yes. Yeah, that's I think before this

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was before because the Zaid was named, they didn't know Muhammad. And then Prophet SAW Salem. After that I, he renamed him back to satan in harissa. So I think, in this ayah, there's different issues, not one about the marriage now what they see, let's stick with that for a second. Because just because it was there in the fourth, Aya, it doesn't mean it was before in terms of like, this was a ruling that took place a year before and then this happened after this all happened at the same time. So this is sort of to reinforce is to reinforce the private prior rule, which is that okay, so, because if I just say theoretically, but don't worry about him, right? You just call them to

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their fathers. Think of it practically it wouldn't be as decisive. So what does that mean? The Shubha does, there'll be different folks coming in and saying it means it means is preferred?

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Seriously, because there's a whole discussion about I'm gonna hit my head, hell I'm refusal is Babel wardrobe. And listen, there'll be a group of scholars that come out and say that you can still do 20 But I suppose to have not to trust me. But this issue, this issue that came with his mark, that there's no way there's 20 Norway's adoption, because he's married this woman here. So what this does is because why is it a big deal? It's a big deal because Islam came to protect the lineages of people. That is one of the five objectives of the show.

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Yeah. And if people if I was calling another man, my dad, like nowadays, especially in the age of globalization, with stepdads, the metal will be finished, bro. You know that he got stepped in as my stepdad No, he's my dad we've gotten

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and runaway fathers none of none of the people whose runaway fathers? Well, a lot a chunk of people, especially the Muslim community whose runaway fathers have run away.

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The young the youngster will now associate more with a stepfather. They say this is my dad.

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But the fact that Islam prohibits that allows this person okay, this is not my father, biologically. But he's, he's like my father in terms of you raised me blah, blah, blah, they can make those distinctions. It's very important. That so instead of okay, well, some will come and say, well, this sociologically only deals with 1% of my life and 1% of marriages, 0.1% of marriages, so it doesn't make sense for the Quran to make a big deal out there. The responses actually makes a big deal out the economics a big deal out of it, because of the implication, one of the five objective, overarching objectives that Islam came to protect one of them being lineages, because if it doesn't

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protect that, then we have chaos in terms of knowing where our fathers came from, and stuff like that God just referenced. I think you might have mentioned it in your London year series, but what are the other five of the other four? So?

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Yeah, so the wealth. So let's start with the left. Dean, actually, number one religion? The number one is religion, then dean then sorry, Dean, the neffs? Which is the person like the life the number three is Mel.

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Okay, I mean, it's not in any particular order. And you got Apple there as well. Right? Which is the rationality of the person. And also

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you have this, which is messed up. Some other six are coming up with the 60s, they had

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mentioned out of necessity, Oh, I see. So, focus on one of those, like the honor of the person, because it's links to the lineage, there are two of them that it links to lean it some some will see lineage, and some will see, some will count in the lineage someone can be different.

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adulthood, for example, is it a matter related to the person or

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notice called mentioned, wealth, malice, malice, yeah. Okay. So that's like wealth, which includes?

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the question might be, so Okay. Zaidan Haritha. He was killed, like later on, in the Battle of taboo. Right. Okay. So why when the water? Right, so the question is, why won't Allah marry Xena after this, so that there is no controversy around around this? So so if you argue that

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Allah subhanaw taala wanted to show that okay, there is, there is no differences of interpretations of, of adoption.

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So, another person could say, okay, then why don't he married here? After because Allah knows everything right? So why don't he marry your after they wouldn't be as infected? Because then you'd have another group of scholars saying,

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yeah, so long as they were alive. And so if you're not allowed to. And so it's just like about death and life. This makes it very clear that Hakan was even more clear like this. The fact that and you know, what, it's very interesting asked that question. One of the narrations I came across was that guess who engaged the prophets of salaam to as an interjection, it was Zaytoven how to himself. And in fact, if you look at some of the shorter hats of why he done that, they say you've done that to do cut out the Elsener of the NES to

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make it even more emphatic that he was okay with this example having after his death, it's like we wouldn't know what was data about this. Or maybe he didn't like that. How can you do that to read, but the fact that he was okay with it, and he could see visibly that he was okay with it. Even made it stronger.

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He had enough of that particular relationship.

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Honestly, he I don't know. And this shows you you have two people at the highest caliber. Okay. But they just don't get along. I think the issue he's referring to I think there is another issue, the life of the prophet of Islam is exemplary. So incident has a mean or the same incident happened with OMA Salama, while she migrated to have a senior and her husband died there. So there she was desperate she had not no one than the Prophet Solomon offered the marriage and he have he married her. The same happened with let's say, in this example, as you said, there is an example of saving the lineage, NASA everything so

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It shows that the provinces had, let's say, live in wives. Everyone had the hikma behind it, especially for example, let's say if Allah subhanaw taala want, the Prophet SAW Selim to marry Xena who the prophet is to reject it. So all he did, Allah subhanaw taala decided him to marry, marry her. So it means there is a Hikmah behind the incident in life of the prophet is a very good point. And this is interesting. You mentioned Salma because if you look at each marriage of the prophets of Salaam, you can see the heckum As you mentioned, so for example, with almost selama, she was a widow. Okay, as you mentioned, like her husband, Mo Salama, okay, as you know, you know, we haven't

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covered this, and we won't come up with selamat in great detail, because there's not that many controversies that surround in fact, she's one of the least controversial because of what she represented. And what she was, was that we kind of maybe alluded to it, but her husband died. And in the process of Emeritus, she's a widow. See, it's kind of like a sort of exam how we spoke about before, she was also an avid singer. And she was with the musical. So you had an older woman here, who had kids of her own in her own right, that process Allah married her. You had a woman who is a widow, that has a solid murder, to incentivize the believers that is okay, it's good. It's a good

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thing. And it's made in the ratio to Marissa widow, for example.

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And then you had OMA Habiba as well, who was the daughter of Apple, Sophia,

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and whatever you wish we're not going to cover in detail, but you can see what's going on here, which was a marriage to try and bring the hearts of the opponents closer. I shall not be alone her she was young. She was dedicated to knowledge. Exactly. She narrated more than 3000 Hadith. Yes, yes. Everything has a hitman behind the marriage. Absolutely. Fantastic point. So yeah, absolutely. So you can see when you look at now, and we've looked at Zeb and to Josh and then in the lens of, okay,

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this is this is what it's done in terms of outcome, as well as anthems objective Shediac, you can see really, the summer of the fruit of the Hekima of the Prophet, Allah subhanaw taala number one, number two, number two, you can see in terms of preservation of the religion of Islam, how it's done now. Because Xena been to Jash the marriage of the Prophet Muhammad wa salam, let me tell you this, let me tell you this, the marriage of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has entered into Jash would be considered by modern historians to be one of the most authenticating incidents in the time of the Prophet Muhammad salah, they would have many of them, I can tell you that for a

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fact, I would consider this to be more voracious than the Hadith sciences. Now that's wrong. And we can explain in some of the times why that's wrong. But the fact that the marriage of Xena but the judge because of the principle of embarrassment, which is one of the main principles, especially in like medieval historical

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kind of exercises, is fully fulfilled with the testimonies of the Prophets wife and others in the exegesis is that we find

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that the principle of embarrassment in the life or the marriage of Xena Buttigieg in particular,

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meets the criteria. So Subhanallah one of the great wisdoms that we can use in our criticality discover and uncover about the marriage of the process lumped in with a dash is that it triangulates, the preservation making mechanisms of the Sierra and the Sunnah, in a way, which complies with Saturn satisfies different levels of historical authentication.

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Can you see? So number one, we said, look at look at the wisdom. Number one, we said the objective Sharia and then number two, we said, it shows you the Prophet Muhammad Salah is engagement with people and his his own vulnerability and human nature. They showed that the human that the human side of the Prophet the vulnerability of the embarrassment, the shyness, the modesty of the Prophet. And number three, we've shown how this in fact, this marriage, it preserves the Sunnah, in a way, which satisfies a whole different criterion, which is more applicable to the historical critical method of modern times. That's what it's done.

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And by the way, you'll find this mentioned by the enemies of Islam, they always mentioned in it, say it satisfies

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you. Yeah, he does. Actually, that's a good point. Jonathan mask has mentioned that, you know, a lot of people do mention from from John of Damascus, all the way up to critical scholars of I'm not gonna mention their names because I don't wanna give them too much credit. But as of today, they mentioned it in their books in their peer reviewed journals. So it brings a whole new audience to Islam, by the way, which is like the elites of the Western world as hell who actually this believe me they express

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the Express

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The kind of fascination or interest with this, and for them, it does satisfy their

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critical, or their criticality, their historical criticality. So that's number one, then we'll go on to the next any questions ago.

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question regarding the Prophet sallallahu Sallam hygiene, why, if we took that interpretation of an IRA, what have you? Yeah, fair enough. So, how is it possible that the Prophet sallahu alayhi salam could hide something from the way of Allah Subhana Allah, if Allah has already told him, and this is why, and he knew about this, how he can because there's two kinds of way the way that Allah tells the prophet to say, so for example, the Quran, the Quran is known that he had the process that has to go out and say, yeah, and there's why, for example, could be a dream. It could be this, it could be that which the peninsula might not know, okay, I have to reveal this to the people.

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And this kind of why that is in the second category, because it's a personal matter. So it could be that the person thought, Okay, this is this is not to be sent to the public.

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But what Allah is trying to reinforce is that even on personal matters, you have to go and sell out to the public.

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You see what I'm saying? So there was some level of ambiguity where is this applicable? Is it appropriate for public audience? The

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if there was any hesitation Allah pushes him this is a is actually

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it's almost as if Allah is reprimanding him for even having a visual lesson. I know it's public, but you have to say this.

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You see the point because there was ambiguity whether this should be publicized or not.

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Yeah, I have two points here. The first one is when she allegedly said about

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Salem modes

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what's the wife's name? Bentayga. Xena, them and yet, he imagined after he died, right? Because some people here understood that like, no, it's that there was an exception. So no, no, it was after. Yeah, after that. Okay. The second one is

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one reply also to the situation the the argument of that wife suspended my hair after

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the Zen has

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died. And

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I just thought about it now when you said it's he died in Muktinath and taboo.

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Because the Battle of MATA especially, it was

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very hot butter, like it wasn't balanced between Muslims and gaffers. So this video, and might someone might just this beautiful might say, He sent him to the death or something like this. So making it making it happen. This is a good point. Yeah. Making it happen.

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That's a very good point. Yeah. He sent him to a fight because he can take his wife. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. They would say that, you know, for

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that, why would Allah make a big deal of the surface, a small percentage of marriages? Isn't it also important to mention that it was frowned upon amongst Quraysh? And they were like, sort of making fun saying, How could you marry your sons? Got a very good point. Yeah. So this is this is another angle of it, which is that actually, Allah is protecting the owner of the profit.

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So he's trying to say that this is not a problem, you know, so. And it's not just about the profit, Kalay Hakuna Hodge fee as wedge, a Daya a

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common one, author. So it's like actually, this is easy for everybody.

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It's good. Okay. One of the things I wanted to mention,

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sort of this being the most controversial marriage kind of proves the Isola Allahu Anhu. Being nine is not an issue. That's a good point. Yeah. So this even helps answer that question. And if you really want to get controversial, you should focus on that, because that's what the Arabs at the time argued about. Not this. Absolutely. That's a really good point. Excellent point. Okay.

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Now we're gonna move on to

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another life and check out you're gonna help us with this one

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is to add a mental health. So I've been speaking a lot today. And I'm going to try and cope with this little more people presenting, you know, that

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I've got about 15 minutes. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, take your time and also ask questions during the cover. No, no, see? I mean, like, and I need to take a call in 15 minutes. Okay, that's fine.

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We'll put it on the top plates here. Yeah.

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Suez speaking at the moment about the wives of the Prophet alayhi salam, and

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one of the wives that we need to consider and around whom there is some discussion is Georgia, a lot of local town

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the story of the homage to the Prophet sallallaahu. Selim goes as follows and this is only a summary that the Prophet sallallaahu Selim received some news that the bottom was phallic wanted to attack the Muslims. This is the tribe that she was from. And the head of this tribe was a man called Al Hadith who was joined his father.

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So, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam left Medina with a group of Muslims and went in the direction of battle masala to to fight them. And they met at a like a, like a water well, that they had called them racier.

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And there was a skirmish and the 10 of the abundance cycle killed, and one of those that was killed was God as Father had. And the rest of them were taken as capitals of war.

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What happened thereafter is that a companion of the prophesy Salam

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their bid

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on quite a bit in case

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there was an ice or not Allahu Anhu. He was a Sahabi that took JD JD as a captive of war.

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Obviously, she was the kind of like the state of calm, she's the daughter of the leader. So she begins to have a discussion with the 33rd law, I know about what's happened arrangement might she be able to do so she agrees on I can work out an arrangement, I think this has been discussed in a hotel explained in the the thing is, was discussed in some of these sessions that we had on kind of like prisoners of war and the like, what the idea is basically that Allah says in the Quran that I would have been able to only keep having me manifest a mannequin for Katie Bowman, Adams and FEMA highlight that this this idea of mortality, but a prisoner of war can make an agreement with

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basically their capital, that

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they will pay a certain amount of money in order to kind of purchase their freedom. So she agreed a certain amount with 30 ML quesadilla or annual, but she didn't have the money for it at the time at the time. So she went to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.

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And as she enters, she accepts Islam. She says it actually takes a testimonial faith, she accepted Islam. And she asked the Prophet sallallaahu salam to help her out in terms of, you know, this macat arrangement. So the Prophet sallallaahu, Selim said that, you know, would you rather something better than that? And so then she said, What, and then he said that, that I will marry you. So then she accepted that. Okay, let's pause here for a second because I like the fact that there's two things here, very, very direct proposal by the prophet Mohamed Salah Salem. Yes. Which shows you the way the process has approached women for marriage. In the in the modern age, this is something a

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question people don't maybe tackle and deal with visa vie, the Sierra, this is very direct, very direct. It's not no, sorry to say, you know, whether or not what is the current red pill and all this. So you have to do what aim and this and that you have to have game and you have to chop thing and this and that. Sorry, let me get your number and this and all this. And let's have a discussion. Let's go there. There's no straightaway. You see, this is cutthroat. It's like, you know, you get a knife, a hot knife, and you cut it through the butter of the marriage process. And just get straight to the point. But also, what did he give her? And it's such a see.

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Choice is a choice. He's gonna say, Well, you know, I'm gonna buy from Sabbath middle class, because he could have now pay for it and you can do the mechanical arrangement will what will continue with me?

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Honestly, it could have been she's a slave

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option if somebody's rejecting it. No, because think about it. Think about this thing overthinking? Right? There's no threat of rejection. In that situation. say look, I've already spoken to savate

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I've already spoken to them. And I've already arranged that I'm going to reduce the price and take it's going to be me this rather than him

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to see what's happening here. Is that not a thing? Of course it can be several raised it with debits and I've decided to take you as a prisoner of war. Yes. And you're going to be doing the ransom to me instead of him. And even

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to do that ransom handsome like it's not a compulsory there's no ransom. Yeah, in fact, there's not forget about all that. And there's difference of opinion. I mean, the majority of all math says is not compulsory. But there's some like chords to be mentioned that some some say it's compulsory itself and so on. But let me for the sake of argument.

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That could have been the case well, he put himself in a vulnerable position. And of course Salah and by the way, you will find in the Sierra, and you'll find in the Sunnah, both things happening. Women will come to the Prophet and asked him if they want to marry him. And he would also ask women, so be reciprocal. Like for example, there's a very famous Hadith and Behati where a woman can serve as a Salam. And she said her leg can be hijacked. Do you need anything from me?

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She literally came to the Prophet saw me. She said, Do you have any need for me? That's what you said for sob another he looked at and he said silent, clearly want to hurt feelings, you know? He didn't want to marry. Okay.

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Now I was saying to the guys the other day um Subhanallah it's been a long time someone came to Mr. Lacombe Hajah.

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discussing this issue, yeah.

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Maybe not, maybe different story with me.

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Another thing is interesting. Maybe she hasn't touched upon it. Yeah, he's in the process. And I'm actually honoring them by seeing marriage because if they were concubines, the right for the concubine is different for the one because if you think about my marriage, is actually honoring them by saying, there's responsibilities. Now. mirros is a concubine. You don't really have that yet.

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Can you continue with that? Because I want to break your flow. I think we did a little bit, but no, but I think you kind of preempted a lot of the sea issues that people raised with this. So

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I'll finish the story. And then Shawn will speak please tell us these objections? So the choice was the choice. Just yeah, Tom again. So what was marry me? Oh, yeah. So. So she asked basically, for some assistance in sorting out this macat arrangement, she had agreed to basically pay a sum of money that she didn't have. So the prophets Allah has said and said to her, that, you know, I can offer you something better than this. And so, she said what and then he said that he will marry you, and that that, that basically, that wealth will be taken care of the the whole macadam arrangement now will marry. So she accepted that arrangement, or the law behind her thereafter,

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all of the Sahaba now realize that basically the captives that they had work, now that basically the in laws of the prophets Allah sent him because it is a tribal arrangement. So she's related to all of the capitals that they've just taken from the bottom was toilet. So they all decided that, you know, we can't keep the in laws of the province align itself as a captives. So they all decided to free all of the capsules that they have taken. And so we said that, you know, that there is no woman who's who's brought more baraka to her people than Joy did for her people. So it was one more time because I was, say, explain a bit about all this free slaves. What happened exactly. When the

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Prophet sallallahu Sallam married God, Roger Lohana, all of the Sahaba who had received captives from this particular battle, they began to kind of say, amongst themselves that kind of like how can we keep captives who are in laws of the province, Elias Selim, because joy read of Aloha now, of course, she's related to all of the people from the Bible study. It's a tribal arrangement. So they all decided the only they didn't want to keep captives who are in Lord of the prophets lie Selim. So they decided to free all of them. So So we're talking about one marriage. Yes. Was the freeing of can dozens of slaves? Yeah, I've heard that mentioned and the the Chefman double check that it was

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100 families that were taken the is this was mentioned. Yeah. So 100 families, because you mentioned that he was killed. Yes. But it wasn't killed. It wasn't cool. Gandhi came back later this approximate sentiment analysis Islam.

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Especially with CRR, Liberland. Couple of books. Yeah.

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Maybe, okay, but in any.

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So because, no.

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Confusion, there was a strange narration that he offered,

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that had came to the roadsides, but I'm not sure whether or not it's an authentic narration even on the standards of zero. So he mentioned that when he came, my daughter will never be a slave for a personal son. So the Ross iclm proposed lil health, if I would offer to mirror.

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So he mentioned, let's give her the choice. Then the father actually told his daughter a lot of Lena don't what

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he meant, don't marry him. Not any. And how dare you marry the person who didn't exist in battle? So she chose to marry him. So there are a couple of relations that show that he was alive. And he became awesome. So the question now would be, remember that the question that we posed last week was a favorite. Hey, what was the question?

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What kind of psychological thing that is attributed to women that?

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Okay, so someone will come and say, What? Chakra What would someone come and say? Yeah, so somebody will say that, yeah. And the idea that you can wait, you can basically go to battle with somebody's family, defeat them in battle, and then marry that person and actually happy to be in that marriage is an impossibility. And therefore everything which would seem to indicate that God was happy with that marriage, we will interpret it as being some type of psychological condition where she was, you know, now predisposed to have positive. And now, especially thank you very much for that. I mean, responding to that with the information that you have from last week. How

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You respond.

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Do you remember the slides we have spoken about Stockholm Syndrome visa vie, Sofia, but hey, so what would be the things that will kind of things we will cover last week?

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What's the first thing about Stockholm Syndrome? It's very different. What is it? What is it? It's the idea that the prisoner

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falls in loves falls in love with the idea of the person of the you know, the guy who's taken do capita? Yeah. So the first question I have for you then. Right? If that's the case, that's what Stockholm Syndrome is, is a kind of insanity.

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Is it a kind of insanity? Is it a kind of psychosis?

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Yes, no.

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It was mentioned, if somebody has that diseases, so he can decide on Okay, now.

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So go back to you now. So come syndrome.

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Is are one of the symptoms of it. Site? Psychosis? No, from that definition, okay. So what does that mean? what's the implication is that they have a choice. They're making a choice. You can take decisions, so anything that you psychosis, or this is an assertion? Excellent. So this is excellent point, right. So according to the DSM register and stuff, whatever you like, any definition you want. psychosis is when you lose touch with reality reality. And if you don't have psychosis, and if you're not insane, and if you're not in a coma, and your mind is not vegetated somehow, then legally in any framework legally, would you be allowed to make your own decisions? Yes. Can someone suspend

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your right to make decisions based on the fact that they think that you have Stockholm Syndrome. So even if you did have Stockholm Syndrome, it doesn't mean anything, by way of decision making your decision making is not suspended. And that's according to every Western country. I don't know of anyone that says, if someone has Stockholm Syndrome, that they have psychosis, and therefore they shouldn't be making their own decisions, that the Father is going to come and start writing a will on the behalf of that person. And then the responsible adult or whatever, maybe, I think radically should open the dialogue on the psychology of a woman of what's trigger mechanism to shove in a

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biology that makes her fall in love. So there's something deeper like I said to the hardwiring, why is it that in her she has and this you see this many times like you know there was on Netflix there was a documentary about you know, the guy who was accused of

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committing a murderer he came out he did second sentence?

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I don't think anyone watching which one is

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looking at me like

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it's called Murder.

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Something murder. Yes. So basically, very if you haven't brought you have to, it's one of the most impressive that was documentaries, A Documentary.

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Documentary. There was It was phenomenal. But they were a woman actually writing letters to him. Like yeah, I'm in love with you never met.

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No, no, no, it's something reinventing the murder.

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You need to watch it but and then a woman basically write letters. Like, I mean, if you look at him, he's not really get away with murder. He's not really something like that. Yeah, he's not really attractive man.

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Really an attractive man, but they will woman basically visit him in prison around the world in your they will travel to America and say, I'm in love with you here. So you're never met? What is it that attracted you to this guy? And then he goes, it shows us there was a search done on a woman's psychology. So there was five kinds of fantasies that a woman has here. Is there in love is a vampire.

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Yeah, yeah, exactly. Billionaire.

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Making movies. Yeah. So it just tells you that there is things about a woman that we haven't discovered, you know, so yeah, I think I think it just opens the question of, it's totally acceptable that and it's shown, there's books written on this. I like what you're saying. I think there's a very clever way it shows our ignorance as to how a woman is wired. And you'll see it the pragmatic nature of how women in the medieval period. And and today, but maybe to a lesser extent, because the thing is today, you don't find entire villages been wiped out. And then you know, the same mechanism, but it still happens, like you'll see. And we spoke about this at length actually,

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on your shows, and now, the global village, you have individuals who have these charisma, wherever you call and if a woman around the world on the internet streaming to him, no, no, I go with me. It's happened on a mass scale. And this is definitely happening. But in terms of like this ability to adapt, because, you know, my imagine and Tivat has been wiped out. Now you have to adapt, because like, it makes a lot of sense for a woman to have a more malleable ability to do that. And in that in that space of time. But yeah, sure. I mean, I like all of this guy's father was at the view

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with his wives and Sahaba it's such a weird view where he's abusive he's controlling. Where would they be without him like, would we know the Arabian Peninsula? The Prophet himself didn't come with the money and be more one of the most influential people without

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Really I agree with that, you know, there's some Julia was a good worship she was an excellent worship but she showed all the signs of of that. I mean, there's a hadith Sahih Muslim, where she was, you know, worshiping for a very long time. And the process salaam saw her like in constant worship, which shows you how

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dedicated she was to the cause. And then he told her like, you know, there's there's four words that you could say, that are better than all that you've done. Subhanallah he will be handy out of the house. He was honest, he was in it's absolutely when he came out. And this is what my daddy can imagine. And this is mentioned all of the ethical bahamasair I'm not sure if you've come across but that hadith is God Robinson had his heavy surprise that they see it as abuse boasting from a Western paradigm. They are the most influential of the world, because he made the exercise known abuse, he actually I learned that he raised there. Not only that, but he gave them. Remember, we'll go back to

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last week's session, because there's two things he does. Number one, he gave her a choice before the marriage. And what did he do after that as well, during the marriage, it gave him a choice again, mobile was in container terminal hypertonia was in avatar in same suit, as app, which is that he gets so he gave them a choice before the marriage and given which was during the marriage. So there's there's no question that Stockholm Syndrome would indicate that there's a continual entrapment. But there is no continuing treatment. So we're using this as argumentum ad absurdum was saying, even if you're saying that she's suffering from this thing called Stockholm Syndrome, it

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wouldn't mean anything, vis a vie like how her decision making ability from legal Western paradigm, what if we don't say that, then

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you go ask yourself, how could you have Stockholm Syndrome and she had all these, like Sofia had the ability to go to her family. And she already had the ability not to, and so on, as well.

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Documentary mentioned, and that this system that might be attached to how women think, or something like that, I would like to put it more toward the, the morality of Islam and how that can I can affect you will to be to choose

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who cut the cutter, because the more the moral thing, the the moral like, evidence DC, an example of this, we just spoke about Zaidan herefor when his father came, and his uncle came to Warsaw, Salem and asked him to, to buy him and give him the choice, either. If you choose you, you just go with you for free. And if he's not, then I will. So what you're showing here is that there's a there's a theme throughout the Prophet's life is that he doesn't force people to be in his life. He's just whether it will be paid, whether it was Sofia, whether it's with God, and the only woman it's like their morals of Islam also under the monitors of sua salaam salaam, his character

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shows something distinguished about a social person. And yeah, second word also about

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when you when you mentioned

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when you mentioned about that

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PSA was named Julia,

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that Julia Milan, she

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is certain that he has the honor of enslave all of her awful tribes. Yeah. So this is also was one of the things that show the morality of Islam. I think that

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he wanted to, like, add on to that. It's a good way to sort of end a confrontation. It's a form of unification. Really, absolutely. Because what do how would they want to end it like extermination? No, it's it's a way of inviting them in and actually builds a sustainable society, like there are countries in the Arab world that were created through marriage in a way like they would go in and this is well known what I mean, yeah. Now in popular culture, we see this in like medieval England and medieval France, Italy, and they all knew it. This is a good way of doing it. Absolutely. Excellent. So let me ask you a question. We've spoken about who the wives of the Prophet SAW salah?

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What are the names of the slaves? The female slaves of the Prophet?

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Maria, okay, well, Maria, I've come to come to her and then she became a wallet. So she was raised in

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a notebook, she became a wife

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to two or three. Well, that's all I'm asking you.

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To do.

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Okay, because yeah, we all know the names of these are the female slaves. So, okay, we have, let me tell you the answer, according to Belhaj. Okay. I mentioned that there's a person called alpha beta and it's not the one that we're all thinking about here. Well, he mentioned that there were four. Okay, so we have Maria look up there. We have Rihanna, which we're going to speak about a little bit but there's differences of opinion whether she was a wife

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or not. And there's even different opinion whether Maria was a wife or not with the majority opinion is that she was more valid and so on. And then there are two others actually, that he mentioned. One of them was called Jamila.

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We don't know much about her. And I don't know of any narration like authentic narration which talks about her. And that is very interesting. Listen to this one, right. It will claim mentioned there's a fourth one, who was gifted by guess who

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was entered into Jash.

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is entered into Jascha cordings. in McLean, Virginia gave the Prophet a white slave woman.

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thing to do. If that is true, I haven't come across any authentic narration that says that this is part of me. Well, no, yeah, it would make sense. But I was gonna say that there is a Hadith in Bukhari, which I came across as well. And this hadith Buhari indicates that the Prophet SAW and died and he didn't have any slaves. So either slaves were raised in rank or they were freed, because that narration would make sense because it was also slave the first time and then it was gifted by with female slaves only.

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You mentioned, slaves that I mentioned that

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man mentioned. The first one, you missed one, Maria, I have Jamila.

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No, he that he mentioned this. He's the narrator of that.

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Okay, so now let's let's move on to one of them. In fact, which is the most the one that we have the most information about, which is Maria, I look up to you.

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Who knows the story of a miracle day at what happened with us? You know, okay, Maria. She was one of two slave women that were gifted by the what was the other one called? You know?

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What he gave her to?

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Me? He gave it to the poet what's his name? The power of the Sahaba Hassan yeah Hassan.

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And it was the Egyptian or the northerly the macoco No caucus, Macaca is called Okay, so basically what this is, find the story in any authentic narration. I couldn't find it in the authentic narrations like in the full story. Wife is mentioned by the hubby and others even mentioned by McLean that the story goes as follows basically, that the Cyril writers say that she became a Muslim at the hands of hearts have never built

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this person who was had an ambassadorial role of Tao actually hardly been ever well.

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You might know him from the story of many controversy, where he went after how they via went to his family and he told them, you want them about the conquest of Mecca because and then that led to problems, but how to remember belta Basically, went to my doctor and they say this happened after holiday BIA. Okay, that's what this narration is saying.

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Because the process I sent him after completing our DVR, he sent the letters to the kings of the earth. Yes, so

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the Romans Opus, so he sent out on belta holding the letter of the proselytes and Tulum corpus, so it makes sense that thing that the issue becomes Yes, so the narration Jehan, you can quote me is that he sent having been named Delta to

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that particular region, and that he then dour to her and she became Muslim before she even came to Medina. This is what I was what I came across that what she was you she became Muslim, before she even came to El Medina.

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And actually is my focus is from Alexandria. So these people are known for generosity in the past

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and his his sister that was

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she was gifted to the process of

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buying and selling human being it can't be something's different reactions. Yeah. And the reason by the way, as sad was the name of the sister and the guy because of how generous he was more coke has. He also sent 7000 whiskey bottles of the hype of gold.

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Anyway, hopefully he became Muslim. I don't know why he definitely didn't rip up the paper. And what happened after that was that so she became Muslim.

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The key story that happens with her that we are acquainted with in the in, in Bali, in fact, in the Sunnah is that she actually was the mother of the child, the Prophet, Ibrahim Ibrahim, His Beloved Prophet Muhammad wa salam, and he died at the age of one and a half. And when he died, the prophets are solemn. There was a very famous Hadith of the Prophet saying that, that certainly the heart is in pain is grieving.

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Miguel, exactly. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, yes, and

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Well, no,

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you're, you're

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certainly the heart is in pain, and the eyes are crying. But we won't say that except which Allah is pleased with or that the Lord is pleased with. And that certainly we are grieving for you, oh, Ibrahim, the very famous Hadith, but it shows you. This shows you the commitment of the process. And of course, it shows you that he's been tested with the most severe things. Imagine your child dying, he saw this, he witnessed this. And he was grieving over it.

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And he was crying over it. Once again, a psychopath doesn't cry like this.

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Are these things that there's nasty things to say about the Prophet couldn't be true. He was in severe pain when he saw his son dying in front of him. Law best actually was the one who washed him now best the uncle of the prophets Salaam. He was the one who done a hustle for him, for the Son. And he was putting and by the way, there's a very interesting narration which is connected to this narration.

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Which is a woman came to the Prophet SAW Salem, out she was she was down the graveyard and she was crying of her son. And she was screaming.

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And so on the process, I'm left and she came back and she was told who he what was going on who he was, told her, don't cry, don't cry. And she said, you don't feel that. You don't know how I'm feeling. But we know now that she the person didn't know how she was feeling. Look at how she responded how he responded, Because he went to her house and he said to her, she came to him in fact, and she said to him, you don't you know, sorry about this, and so on. But then he gave her a piece of advice, a songwriter submittal Hola. Certainly patience is upon the first strike of the calamity. She didn't realize that he was the prophet somebody to realize exactly, yeah, that he is

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the prophet.

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Absolutely a Sabra and the submittal Allah that certainly patience is upon the first strike of the cattle committee saying that, and not experiencing improving that would be one thing. But we know the process and I'm sure look at this. When the when the boy died, Ibrahim Ali Salam, when he died, she he was very, he Yes, he was in pain. But he wouldn't say anything, which wouldn't was

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four for when there was an eclipse, and they said, Yes, I was gonna get to that. So you know, there was an eclipse and this is something we use no doubt a lot, that there was an eclipse and that people said that, you know, is eclipsing because of because of the death of Abraham. So there was it could have been an opportunist and said, Okay, that's actually the case. But actually, what happened is that he said that the you know, the sun and the moon, they have their own orbits, and they don't Eclipse for anyone's death. So it shows you that this once again, is an authenticating marker of the process. alums, marriage. Oh, his, his prophethood.

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So, you know, with that story, you know, the woman was sort of crying, and she didn't really walk, she wasn't in the zone to accept advice. And when the Salem saw that he just left her alone and didn't feel the need to, you know, argue with her, or tell her you know, do you know who I am?

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So, that was the first thing. The second thing I actually actually a question.

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Did also salam named him Ibrahim because he loves the money. The Prophet Ibrahim, or who chose the name Ibrahim. Yeah, sure. Yeah. Is this a good way of thinking about that? I don't see any reason why not? It makes sense, doesn't it?

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We don't know. I mean, doesn't I haven't come across anything.

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Wife sauce

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when he saw her crying,

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like, like, I know that when she's given us the hat, and she replied with a reply, at that time that they can meet in now, let me talk about a floor plan is something like this, like a strong

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an acceptance of what's happened, and to sort of lift and then when she came back to us, and we said, someone does something. Because once some might say it was awesome, polite also. So why? Like, he asked us to not cry or something like that. But

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I think the Hadith showed that she she was in a state of

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not controlling of, of the incident, she was doing some, like, yeah, shows you that. There's acceptable limits to panicking and grieving in Islam. You don't act like you know what I mean. You can cry, you can show emotion. But our religion tells us you can control yourself. So do it. Don't be don't be too much. And this goes with everything. If someone dies, if something happens, don't be don't do go too far. And the process of manifested they didn't just say that wasn't lip service. The fact that this happened in his life is a manifestation of that he showed how to do it. But there was another incident I shouldn't say Don't cry

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Douglassville show patience. So because she went beyond limits, yeah. Beyond patients what we call this out, showing.

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grievance selling.

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Yeah, can controverse

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See about when he used another wife's bed with Maria? Nope, that one you know that one already? That one Okay, so, you know everyone knows the sort of Harry limit to honeymoon Hello hola hola whatever tell him about that as well in sort of the to him and there's two opinions of what's happened here. Why'd you why'd you make Halal what Elijah Muhammad Allah made halal in order to try and please your wives. And some say even cathedra chooses the story of honey, he says because of the honey story that basically half son ash have teamed up in order to try and say that to his breath and smell. So I still am very good, because of the honey that he's eating and so on 138 In the house of Zane have

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been just, you know, they haven't seen.

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So that was the issue that was the issue of injustice.

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And the other one is controversial, was the house of mentions, and this is the Hadith itself, there's a long array of the Hadith and there's a shorter away of the Hadith, the longer one is by by all standards and objective myself. But the shorter one is that effectively

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they came to them as a Saturday you came a half says that you came on my bed and my night, oh my God, my turn, and you took your money up there and was intimate with me. Now, this is not chosen by the facility and as the reason for this verse coming down. But the Hadith itself, there is discussion of its authenticity. So a lot of them do a scene of it and so on. It's not at the same level. But the longer the way it is there's a very long one and that one's weak, but there's a shorter way out which is which is which is more which is more correct. So guys, today we've we've covered some very important things. So as we let's just do a quick brainstorm of what we have

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covered. So what do we start with today?

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Which, which one was the first wife we covered?

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There have been two Jash. Okay, and what did what are the conclusions of that particular marriage that we've covered? What are the the wisdoms of that one? That's basically they went to war?

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Oh, sorry. Sorry.

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Go Yeah.

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Actually, we discussed the controversy about the marriage of the Prophet with the wife of the ex wife of the enhancer. And we say that the prophets of salaam tried to keep this hidden. And then Allah subhanaw taala revealed it by revealing a words about dedicated words. And Allah subhanaw taala mentioned this himself that I have married her to you, and you were trying to keep it hidden. And then

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we married her to you, I married her to you. And it shows that the prophets lesson

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didn't somehow trick ze to marry her wife, or let's say they were already said lost his interest. He didn't want it her more. And then

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Zainab was somehow diverse, let's say, close to divorce, and he divorced it and then the profit center married her. So we put light on reality that somebody may say that the profit force died because he was his son, and he might like to her wife, his wife, and then he married her. That's that was not true, because Zeid was already

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lost his interest lost that lost all the, let's say, the issue that he had with

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he already, let's say, What's the word for the you already

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lost the interest. He didn't want it her more. And then profits are married. There is no problem with that. And also, we said that it shows that a man can marry the wife of his adopted son, because his adopted son is not like his real son. And by the way, just just a point on this. There are some marriages in Islam that people don't know would find awkward that can take place. Let me give an example. I'll give you a few examples. Not to sound too controversial at the end of this round up the session, for example, say if I just had a brother, okay, if I had a brother and then it's gonna be quite awkward here now, isn't it? Brothers?

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I was gonna say like, for example, if I was married to a woman

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and then I died. Can she my my brother after I die? She can. Now for me, that's more of a controversy in many ways. Then. Then this marriage if you think about because blood, okay also example if I marry a sister

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and then

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she dies. But you cannot marry the both of the same vintage Mabuni of 2011. Marcela.

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20 No, no. Two sisters, you cannot marry at the same time in polygamy.

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Understanding. Okay, so for example, if you marry a woman over let's say, she's a widow, and then

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you can marry her son's wife. I think that's also permissible anything. But I mean, nowadays, well, we like a lot of sorts of say, like, for example, if I'm married, you know, I'm also having me Okay, so if somebody marries somebody and different, yeah, yeah. Or someone marries, like, you know, a woman marries a man, and then something happens to him, and he marries his friend. Yeah, all of that is permissible. Now, that is, in many ways is more controversial in the present time, then than this. In many ways it can be marrying the cousin to Islam that you can marry.

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Now, obviously, you might not have known this, but there are some scholars that say that Mona cousins micro, it No.

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No, he says that, for example, and though he says that marry your cousin, mcru, because he says medical condition, not that he says that it can cause dispute within the family. But that, again, is interesting. But these are marriages that are allowed in Islam, in general, anyway, are more controversial, and probably you could argue, at least somewhere on par with that. Polygamy itself is on par with that, frankly, nowadays, people are making an extra controversial issue.

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I feel like it's becoming less controversial with the this red pill movement, of course, it's actually less controversial. It's actually an advocate, it's a driver for people liking the religion, surprisingly. So it's the times as it's the times and the culture of the day, really. So in 100 years, maybe half the stuff we're talking about is normal, like, good. So that's the first thing we mentioned was that was the second one from Manchester. I don't know, I didn't mention the principle of embarrassment, accident. That's a really good one, which is

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sort of,

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if you have an adopted sign, it's, it's sort of considered your actual son in our culture.

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And it was considered taboo to marry the wife, ex wife of your son. So this was also introduced to reinforce the message that No, he is not your son. Excellent. This is also reflected in the Quran where it says, I know you, you know, I think you've already mentioned us, culturally, this is unexpected, they will find it taboo, but you have to say it either way. So that's the principle of mashallah is really good, man. Yeah, this is Hamdulillah. What's the second wife who went through?

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God, what can

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you tell us about her? You were saying something? Yeah. So basically, they went to war with the tribe, or I

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saw Yeah, they went to war with Ben Stiller. And we fought the father died, but he didn't really show what he said. But the some of the family members will cut this.

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I'll hide it. And Harry.

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Yeah, so he wasn't killed. But some of the her family members were taken captive. So obviously, we know from the prophetic tradition that sometimes he would marry. So if there's disputes between two individuals, so obviously, the Companions took some of

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the wife's family members as captives. So when he married her, you give her option which will happen before we come out?

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Oh, she was she she was she was in agreement to get her freedom

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by one companion. I don't know the name. Do you know anything?

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That was mentioned saboteur.

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Get No, not that. Not that. So yeah.

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So he she was in an agreement that she wanted to try. But for now, 32 Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So the compliance habit. So he, she was gonna get her freedom from him, which Allah Michelle Kuranda will make the contract. But before that happens in the process, the process alone could have used that to his advantage. And say, Now, I will take that on board, but rather he married her. And if we look at it, if, if she stayed as

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a concubine or slave, it would have maybe be better for the Prophet SAW Selim. But he wanted to call the wife we're gonna give her

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I don't think he gave her a choice. Yeah, exactly. Give a choice. And she chose to marry him. When she married him. That meant that the companion said, Okay, we can't have we're gonna have the in laws of the process and his wife as catalyst, so they let them free. What if she got Stockholm Syndrome, bro, like, you know, let's see a Stockholm Syndrome, no problem, because what it shows is that she still has a faculties to make a decision. It doesn't negate that. That's number one. Number two, I think from another different angle.

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May have Yeah, exactly like from there. Because it tells us it makes us now want to question and understand the thinking process the psychology of a woman to do this, because it's not just the first time this happened many times it happened in high bar. It happened today. It's happened in history. So we need to now diagnose and understand what's in a woman's biology, that she willingly, willingly is making that choice to, you know, be with the capital. Another thing, which I believe maybe be a benefit of this is because sometimes there can be resentment between the two tribes, should you say this has now sold that you got rid of that tension? Because now you're in loss?

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You're married?

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it so it could have caused further bloodshed. Or they may have want to come after Revenge later on. So now it's like you know what we're family. And now it's only helped Islam grow further fantastic one last person we mentioned you look up to what great

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nation did was she sent from Egypt? Oh yes and what what great city wishes

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was the name of the macoco?

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And what nationals

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tell us a little bit about two things you would take from the story, especially visa vie, the death of the Prophet is on Sunday by him that you would use to prove Islam is true.

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First of all, when the Eclipse happened, when every time that he the Prophet SAW Selim, could they use that as an opportunity to

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clear luckily, yeah, it's like a prophecy. This was formulas on and people were talking about that at the time. But he dispelled those claims said no, the sun and the moon has its own orbit. And the second thing, what about the emotional side? Yeah, the second thing is that he was very, he was grieving a lot from the death of a son. And he said, he said he showed something What was it showed patients? Yes. And there's even a story of the woman who was at her grave, and she was wailing, and going beyond the limit. And the professor said, Be patient. And she said, Excellent.

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You don't know what I'm going for. And then he kept silent. And then later on she he showed temperance. And that's one of the virtues that we spoke about in the second session. And it's about self restraint. And the point is, is that you'll see that a lot of the attacks are the ones are solemn, want to pick them out as a desirous man, a man that cannot control his emotions that cannot control his desires. But someone is able to control himself in one of the most

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calamitous moments that anyone can imagine, which is that his son died. And show that level of self restraint with that immense level of grief was overtaking him is not the kind of character Okay, who would act in so impulsively with their desires, and so on. So these are the things that we've covered today. I hope everyone has found this as stimulating and enjoyable and interesting, as I think all of us have. And the next session now we're going to move on not to the Wiser profit but into the wars that are profit. And the first one obviously, is better. But there's some things that happened before, which we're going to discuss. And that's going to be another area of controversy as

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everything is almost everything with discusses in these sessions. Well, that's the point of these sessions this point, so we can actually discuss the elephants in the room.

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Make sure to tune in next week was salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.