Manners Matter Adab Of The Masjid

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was handed over to Allah created us for a purpose. as Muslims, we are most familiar with this purpose, since we are most familiar with a religion that is in alignment with the purpose, fully and totally in alignment with the purpose for which it was created, created us as human beings. And the purpose for which it was created. All human beings is insane, right. However, some people fulfill that purpose and others fail. Some people fulfill that purpose.

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You know, I don't say fully but better than others. Some might, might fulfill it, to a certain extent, others may. That purpose obviously, is to worship a bus gentleman that now allows me to add it will hold us accountable for whatever actions, whatever choices, whatever decision we made it we are making in this life. Now.

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I've been talking about success for the past,

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for the past few weeks success, and what is the formula of success? How do we how are we successful people? How do we define success? So maybe you can go to the top again, for those of you who are not present at the football, but I really want to hammer this issue. And I said that that I'm most proud of that we have a very practical religion, by the way, Islam is the most pragmatic, most practical religion.

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And it's not idealistic. Sometimes we miss we lack understanding for Islam. You know, sometimes we find it to be very, very, very hard, we might find it to be,

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you know, we might have to struggle, right, but it is nonetheless practical.

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You know, someone might say, wait a minute, what are you talking about practical? I mean, there are many aspects to this now that I really have struggled with. And I don't find that to be practical. I say there are many things that are supposed to be practical that many people don't do people have, that many people struggle with. The problem is not with the the the the principles themselves and the rules, but rather with the people and the circumstances that people created.

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Right? How hard is it by the way to go green these days? You know, going green, right? How hard is it to go green?

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is like really easy and comfortable? Or is it something that you really have to work out and get used to do?

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Right? Is it something positive or negative, it's not easy. If it was easy, it was so common that there was no need for people to put a lot of emphasis on it. When we put the recycling things like a year ago, here, we have to struggle with reminders for the youth and people that this is not a trash cap. This is for items that we recycle, you know, and we had to struggle with as we were reminding people now everybody's becoming better at it, that please do not put anything else there. And also, items that should be recycled, put them there, that's what we have in there for just to make a difference. There may be something insignificant for some people, but I believe that is something

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significant because a lot entrusted us with. So but it's a lifestyle, being environmentally, you know,

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having an environment you know, being environmentally aware, or being sensitive, as they call it

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is a lifestyle. And now there are people like Al Gore and other people dedicating their lives for this saving the environment,

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or saving the earth, the planet everybody wants to do. And this week, the reason I mentioned this is because this past week, you know, the 22nd was Earth Day. I don't know how many how many people realize this.

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So anyway, so it's a lifestyle.

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Family is a lifestyle.

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Islam is a lifestyle.

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Now the difference between Islam and other ways of life,

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other ways of life is that is that is a comprehensive and complete way of life.

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It's not the complete way of life. I remember asking third graders in this article that I was teaching it like 10 years ago, I said what is Islam and I was looking for the for the literal definition of the word Islam, Islam. So people gave me all kinds of answers. When I finally told them Islam means submission and I gave him the the definition, the literal definition. That's a little girl.

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My name is while she was little now she's college, having an evolution raises raising her head, and she said, I have an objection. She said, I thought Islam was a complete way of life. So I said, Yes, indeed, Islam is a complete way of life. That is a description for Islam. But it's not a definition. But this, this statement, or this phrase, or this, this, she heard it so many times. And it was hammered into her psyche, that she thought that was the definition of the word Islam, complete way of life.

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And we repeat it. So when we tell people about Islam, or when we talk about, you know, when we give Dawa, we always repeat the statement, it's not a complete way of life. So Islam is a complete way of life.

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So what does that mean?

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I mean, is it something that you just, it means that Islam came to, I want to say govern, but pretty much guide us in, in the various aspects of life? every single aspect of life? Islam has solutions, Islam has an answer. Islam has

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a process, Islam has a recommendation in every aspect of life. Now, unfortunately, many of us come from secular backgrounds, no matter which country you come from, secularism got into our, our system, it got into our way of thinking, it got into our the way we lead or, you know, we, we live the separation of church and state, and in Islamic countries,

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and I believe in the separation of church and state.

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But then it's not we won't have a church.

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Church gonna say should be separated. Right, but it's not we don't have a church.

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We have state

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is the state that you should be in as an individual who was

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willing to move to

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the moon and do not die except instinct of Islam.

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So you can't, it's not

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like should be based on

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how could you separate life from life is then came to talk to us about, you know, and I said this in the past, many times when we focus on death, what will happen after death, the day of judgment is indeed, but that is not about death and destruction in endon. And scary things. No, actually, Islam is a religion of life, because it's not going to tell us how to lead our life. And told us that this life is nothing but but a stage that will take us to the next life. And death is nothing but a transition.

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But in order for us to have that

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eternal bliss and that eternal life of the Hereafter, we have to leave this life. This is a testing period, according to tonight.

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And we will only know our results, when that moment comes, where we face on where we stand before was done.

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Every social taste death, we're in the middle of summer, would you want to call me on pm? How do you know that you have done a good job that you have succeeded? That you have fulfilled your obligations in anything that you do work study in? What do you get the results of the exam? Right? When you get the results. At the end of the month, when you get your paycheck. When you get your evaluation at the end of the year, someone says who lives in that for every social case that doesn't want us to go through this and

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we're in the network.

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It is it is only that you will be rewarded or you will receive your wages and your reward on the Day of Judgment. That's when you will know whether you were successful or not. That's really successful.

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an agenda For whosoever is removed from Hellfire and place in paradise admitted agenda. That's real success. Any other type of success that we talked about in this life, I call it relative success. The American dream, the relative success, the house is a relative success. The career is a relative success, your degrees of relative success, retirement, everything that people work for is all relative to success, because I don't find it to be real success. Because if you have to leave it, if you have to maintain it. If you have to be paranoid and scared about it the whole time. what success is that? I know a man that owned the house for 24 hours, only 24 hours a house that he worked all

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his life to pay for. He only really owned it for 24 hours when after he made his last payment. He died after 24 hours.

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If anything, I mean if if it should be enough, it should be enough to ruin anything that we talked about and this way to know that it's

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Not everlasting, it will end it will come to an end fundable component, everything will come to an end.

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But the real success is of the hereafter. Right? Now, someone might say, Okay, so what is that supposed to mean? I said, we work rationally don't do anything.

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What we have to understand is, people who are the most successful people that are out there are people who really found that the true meaning of success in this life,

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and were successful in this life.

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by understanding their purpose, and making sure that their life or their lifestyle is in alignment with that purpose for which it was created. And this is the one message that I really want us to believe in, buying to

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commit to, and pass it on to the next generation.

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We have to feel it, we have to breastfeed them that we have to put it into their their minds. They have to know it's one of our obligations. Otherwise, we're not doing them stuff. I mean, we are actually doing them, you know, heart, we are fooling them. We are not we are not really conveying the message, we're not giving them reality. Right. So we need to do this. So when we talk about Islamic matters, and how you should behave and how you should do, this is what it's all about.

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It's the process of cainy, you know, before the before Islam were divided, where I mean, they had some good qualities, let's not, you know, be honest, he was appreciated, generosity, the atoms of Arabia were known for generosity, for honoring their guests for honoring their words, and all of that, but on the but they had what they had a baggage along with that, like most of us bring some cultural, but they had cultural values that are far, far, far worse than some of the cultural values that we have. Now. We used to rob these kill each other, they used to exploit the weak, they used to, you know,

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all kinds of things. And one of the greatest problems that they had as a nation or as was the fact that they were divided.

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No one was able to bring them together, except the province on the left it was send them what was it was a process of conquering that he saw that he was a magician, he wasn't that he sort of Sir, did he just go like, unite and that was it? No.

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The deposit promised him gold and silver. And in this life, he

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was going to lease it Yama, aren't you pleased if it's for them in this life, he said, Xerxes of prison and

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Hercules of the Byzantine Empire and they live in this lavish lifestyle and you are the leader, you are who you are. And this is the kind of lifestyle that you have, to devour cried when he saw the process and going through the process and chose that. He didn't have time for it. Number one, number two, he wasn't interested. Number three, his concern was in his own mind, the poor and and the less fortunate people, and he didn't even look at it as fortunate to him. And because the problem was exposed to the Hereafter, once you see what is the agenda, everything in this life becomes

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worthless. So the Prophet was exposed. So what is the agenda? So he did he lost interest in anything in this life. So he's a different case. And I'm not saying we should go home and say, You know what, let's get rid of the sofas and let's get rid of your scars, and let's have

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a positive effect that is, of the luxuries of this life is a good luxuries of this life, and markable honey,

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to have to have a nice ride, a very comfortable, nice ride will be to the USA and to have a spacious house.

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Right? was the son had to have to have a righteous spouse.

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These are the three things that really count in this life, of the enjoyment of anything else.

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Right. So, so the process was a different case. So however, the peace be upon him told us a habit, isn't it? Aren't you pleased if they haven't in this life, and we haven't been here after trying to make them realize that what is in the Hereafter is much more valuable, better.

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By far, if

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I said, if we if I was to live in the same house that I have now in the Hereafter, except that I don't have to work as hard. I don't have to work at all. And it's everlasting,

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then that is enough.

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That will make it so what about having even a better place? You know, what about having a more beautiful and more comfortable

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there is not in the comparison. So the success of the year after is a true success.

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Robin Hanson of natural Casanova grant is good, the good of this life and the good of the hereafter. Again, successful people in this life are the most successful people in the hereafter the true successful people in this room, the true successful people in this one. So when we talk about manners and all of that, let's not take this thing lightly. This is what our Deen is all about. This is, you know, because of law, or matters actually, etiquette and manners as a reflection of our our belief

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is a reflection of the beliefs. So if you How did we know that the companions of the Prophet moazzam had true belief, belief, and had had truly believed in the message that they were sincere? And they were, what was the difference? How were we able to tell? We didn't see them within it?

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What is it that told us about their commitment, they told us about their integrity that told us about their actions,

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their behavior, the way they treated each other the way they treated other people and the results that they were able to produce? So what if we are the largest religious group in the world? 19% versus a 17? The Catholics, right? So what if we're not effective, if we're not productive, if we are not recognized if we're not acknowledged, even as a community, and as that has legacy that has something to offer? That was the point, right, so we need to focus in on quality. And that's, that's, that was my, my

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method. Today, what I want to talk about real quick, is the adapter to first teach our kids. But remember what I said before, that adapt will not mean anything, if they do not back if they are not based on the foundation of traits and qualities and manage. I'll give you an example. You know, many of us know some of those fine etiquettes, how you approach something, how we talk how most people know these things, right?

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I mean, in the old days, they used to say that it's common sense, but common sense is no longer common. Right? So you have to talk about them, you have to teach them in the process of talking. So how are those five etiquettes however, the etiquette themselves, if you heard them, you can go and pull up the link, you can go and say,

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manners or etiquette of conversing with people or conversation, manners, or etiquette of the massage, manners and etiquettes of treating your spouse manners, you can pull them up right now on the internet. And if you just go through the list, the possibilities are habited. Okay, so today I'm going to teach teach you the manners of how you treat your wives. Today, I'm going to teach you the matters of how you eat, know, the profit rather made it more relevant. And he talks about any issue when it was most

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most needed by for example, when he saw his cousin eating, he talked about he sees that pathology and he taught him how, what are the proper additives of eating, and that's what we need to do with our children. So whenever I tell you your unique take it of course, you know, needless to say that we need to implement or apply those things ourselves, and then pass it off to them whenever the opportunity whenever we have a window of opportunity to do that with them and make it don't give up make it that make it a regular thing. Don't stop Don't just I told you once not to do this. Nope, you have to remind

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us a habit he did that even with adults. If we as adults need to do this, you know, what about what about children? So we need this constant reminder inshallah. So what are the editor of the Messiah, first of all,

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loving the message.

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Now, by the way,

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the message, the message role goes, it goes beyond

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worship and obey obedience, so much of how that is everything, really, all of our lives. And our, our entire lives should should conform to a data to say,

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we still have you know,

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you know, there is an economy here that we live we live in, we still have that separation. So sometimes when I say this, people don't go here. So people come and say, I can be like

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24 seven. In reality, you can if you understand the comprehensive nature, you understand what that is the definition of you can't can we afford not to be worshipping a lost path at any given moment? You can't we are unassailably bad.

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I mean, is there a point where you are not the servant of a lot during the day, even when you're asleep?

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Even asleep could be could be as a form of

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eating and drinking everything could be better. If you have, if you are if you have an understanding of what the bad is about is to be servanthood to us.

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So the role of the machine goes beyond the slot, the formulary that the slot and the, you know, the things, even during the time of the prophet SAW the message it was, you know, sometimes people want to treat the message like, okay, it's a place where I go and get spiritual,

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spiritually charged.

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I go and I get a boost. This is not a gym.

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I mean, it's not a gym where you just go and get like a half hour workout and then you come out all

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right, although it gives you it offers much more than what the gym offers.

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It's not a hospital is not it is much more than that the machine, right.

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So we have to understand the most important thing is we understand the role of the machines, they're all the machine is the messenger in the tower, the processor was everything. It was a community center, it was it was a place of worship, it was a place of gathering was a place where the it was a headquarter of this Islamic state that will receive his guests, we may not be able to afford to do that. But you know, everywhere there has to be a machine.

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It was a place where people to socialize. There was a place for people to get to know each other. It was a place where people would conduct their marriages. It's a place where people get counseling. It's a place where people meet each other after.

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That's the place where people you know what, okay, let's meet at coffee beans. No, let's pray

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that the machine will either across the machine and we'll carpool from the machine.

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Yeah, so it was it was it was the heart of the Muslim community.

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Right. So the first thing that we have the hope or the rights of the masjid is that we love the masjid, we honor the masjid and we respect them. So this is the these are the places that are must have Fie beauty, add in a model on top of copy as well. And how's the Ramos parent Allah permitted to be

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to be elevated to be honored, and for his name, to be celebrated? Somehow?

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We have to teach our kids that the questions. Yes, it's a special place where we do everything. But it is a sacred place. It's the most respected place. We love the machine, we honor the machine more than we even honor our own house, the house on

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the machine is very special. So the least I would say that we should demand is

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the rule as much as you love your own home, you should love it most most of our kids do right about their home, right? I love my home. My home is like they love to write little articles. Why not things about the machine. You know, ask them when you go home, start from an early age.

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There are some kids that don't have the machine. And we need to resolve to solve this decision. There are many kids that don't have the machine Unfortunately,

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there is this kid, their parents, his parents were telling you the other day that I eat the machine. And I hate this I hate anything that has to do with I don't know what happened. What did

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who did what right, could be one of us could be what so we have to live the mission. And we have to make the mission

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loved by others, especially our children. So make sure that they love the machine to make sure that they have respect when Mr. Lawson has a certain height versus 32 that he can

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that whoever shows respect for the, for those symbols of our devotion and love for must have a dialogue that is indeed of the sign of the purity or the piety of the hearts. Number two, maintaining the message both physically and.

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financially in every way. The proximal lab running seven man he said whosoever builds a messy house for most of the island.

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Even this, the size of bird nests of birds mess, even if a small machine doesn't have to be big.

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Ben Allahu

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Allah, power of data will build for him a house in paradise.

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So to participate, even if we you know, to participate and be part of that maintenance, the building and the maintenance and establishment of the Messiah is a noble thing. And the Continental Muslim community is doing a great job of that here in North America. I mean, think about it. I was just thinking about this the other day. We used to call them Hamilton's,

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you know, Thomas Jefferson musicals. They didn't know the word Islam and Muslim. They weren't familiar familiar. They use the same words that the preachers and orientalist told them. Right. So so

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with anyone that

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knew America 100 years ago, or 50, even 50 years ago, would anyone

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Believe that now in America, we have more Messiah than we have seven Gods

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over 2000 2000

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there are some people that pass away, they're buried in our graveyards that that don't know that their dreams became reality.

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their dreams of having invested in the community became a reality where they used to live, they used to pray in places that they rent your house.

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slab has reached this this, this continent.

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And it made it and the loss of habitat is how much how much can we do? I mean, again, I don't want to deny the Muslim community, I don't want to deny the early immigrants. I don't want to deny uncle's of animals, all the great work. But really, I mean, when you look at us, how much work are we doing? Are we doing okay? compare what we're doing, to our potentials, to whatever we have, we're capable of doing is insignificant, but I'm happy that we're doing so. So I don't want to I don't want to deny this as a Muslim community any credit, right. But we can do much more. Imagine if we were as organized and as effective. And as professional as the other faith group like the Mormons,

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or the or the Catholics,

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I tell you, we would have been in a different place. Nonetheless, we should. So we should not say, Oh, we have enough message, let's pay attention to something else.

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So building the machine in itself, and of itself is a virtue.

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But speaking of building the machine, this makes sure that you might move to another community. I'm not, I'm not asking you to stay here. But if you ever move to another community might be part of a new project, someone else you might know someone who is in some community where they want to establish or build a lease, please, for a lot of sake, please convey this message. If you're ever part of it, make sure that the message is built

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properly, make sure that the design is done properly. This, you know most of them, not all of them have all kinds of design flaws. Again, we have a handling that I'm not complaining, we should make the best out of it. But in the future.

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Let's, let's do more studies, let's consult people that have experienced Let's come together. Let's take into consideration. You know what, what everybody else says. So you have to be designed in a way that fulfills the full purpose of the message. Not only in the place of worship, but as a place for everything else on the community must do. Right. So let's let's do that. Nonetheless, even if you were the Prophet Sam tells us that even if the message that you build is not that great, the design is flawed in every way, even if the machine is too small or too tight.

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even then

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this is the membrane MSE then, on top, even if it's the size of a bird's nest, but I'm not going to make an agenda.

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So the very, you know, the building the machine and maintaining is a great number two, and number three, sorry.

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Visiting the machine frequently, being a frequent user, or visitor of the message.

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There are some people who use or

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they're in the gym more than they use the machine. They go to the gym more frequently. And their visits to the gym is free. Some people not all most people don't they just have the membership.

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Right. And there are people who use their whatever they go to, to the to a specific restaurant more than they go to the machine.

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There are some people who go to who can places more than they go to the machine. And there are frequent visitors and regular visitors to those places. I even know people i don't know what i mean once you go to Disney or even once or twice or three times. But there are some people who go on a regular basis,

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like once a month or something like that. Right. And there are people who come to the machine once or twice a year on

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most of those people anyways, they miss a lot because they come late

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or once a week.

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I say we need to visit the budget and be connected with the message somehow on a regular basis more more frequently, and bring the family with us not every single time. But whenever we come for any function we bring, and this is something that you you you folks have been doing members and how

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Unless you unless your family but continue to do that, even if it's not as fulfilling, even if it's not as exciting as you'd want it to be, in fact, it is not as exciting as you want it to be, and you find me to be very boring, you know, this, this is exactly what we need, we I don't want you to stop coming. Because, believe me, you're not making any set statement by not coming, you're not making any difference by not coming, you're not going to bring any change by not coming, but rather you come and you try to improve you try to be part of the change, you tried to be part of the improvement you tried to be part of this of this great process.

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So, and remember that the Laws of Power the problem tells us that on the Day of Judgment amongst the people that will be under the shadow of law is a is a is a man or a woman, a person whose heart is attached to the machine

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in his heart is attached to the mission. Some of the Scots had a believer the relationship between the Muslim of labor and the message is lacking the relationship between fish and water.

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This this is this is this is our

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This is our safe haven.

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This is this is the mesh. So we should we should come to the machine as often as we can as often as possible

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and make it to the regular prayers to the best of our abilities.

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Number four

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when we come to the machine,

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the loss of our data set off verse 31. This is the one thing it's not me.

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It's not me. And it's not that this is not Dr. Phil is not

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right. Hello yeah Benny Adam a fuzziness

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Oh Children of Adam, beautifying yourself. clean yourself beautified when you go to the masjid

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go to the masjid in the best of fashion.

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I know sometimes we like to be we like to relax. But when we come to the machine, we should. Okay, I will say we need to make a special place.

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A special place. Looking good. smelling good. Feeling good.

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Right. So the common denominator, the promise of a lot is in them actually tells us at whosoever purifies himself

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or herself in their home, and then they come to the message, right? every single step that they take

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will wipe out one of their every single step and wipe wipe away or will take away one of their bad deeds. And once upon a time, it will give them a good deed. So every step that you take, every time you take a step, actually, right.

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Every time you sit, you take it

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if you want to basically

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measure a distance, I mean, when you take a step that are that you take every time it's not. I mean, it's each step is called a step. Right? So but usually step is what you make two steps back to back, right? Right. So one is the right foot goes and then the left foot goes.

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Right. So that's one set, one set right there of two steps that you took the machine, right, that set of steps one step wise about the the second step

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gives you a good deal.

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For every step that you take to the machine.

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Please do not ask me directly when asked me so what if I drive to the mission show that Council was

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was at every turn of the week? I don't know about that because we have some and some people say but every time we take a step if you're living that's the one of the you know, one of the blessings of living around the masjid and being able to walk to the masses.

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But, but please speak and walk to the machine. Those of us who live across the street, try not to jaywalk. Try not to, I'm not saying don't do what is hard, but try not to do as someone said it's bad.

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And you might get a ticket or you might get hurt.

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anyways, number five.

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The messages.

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Okay, one of those things that we should avoid is

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again, I'm not saying let's not have a connection in the machine we can have we can make connections, but business transactions and matters of dounia should not be done in the master

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especially in a place designated

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For myself, like people talking about their personal projects or making deals and selling buy, we can't do that in commission.

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But there is nothing wrong with people saying, Okay, I'll meet you there, and then we'll go and I'll show you the house, we'll leave the car, we'll go there. And nothing. But conducting business, personal business.

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or talking about dounia, matters of dooney, I'm talking about pure matters of opinion.

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In the inside, the message is discouraged. Especially when it's time for a

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walk between a dynamic power once the event is called,

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our focus and our concern should be the event itself this time.

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The wife said that the message Obama used to help, they said what was the mosquito like, at home. So they said use of system because he's a system.

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With their chores with it, he has things I mean, he makes he makes a use out of themselves, otherwise, he deserves to be to be to be if any human beings deserves to be

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served, that would be the process of organizing.

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And he does deserve to be served.

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Right. But the problem is, and we'll make

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another he didn't appreciate people serving him, but the problem will make use out of his time and energy and you sit around and help right. And be with his family, be with them, you know, engaging, he wasn't like sitting in on this throne. Or he has a specific couch, or a specific Lazy Boy recliner where he says nobody else is allowed to sit there. It's mine and mine only, right. And he says there and everybody else just comes to him. No, he used to be with them, intermingle with them and deal with them and have conversations with them, and help them and carry things and

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until the event is called.

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Once he hears the other or the terrible, so outcomes, some of the ones that

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he turns, I mean, he changed as if he doesn't even know us. That's it. Now it is not time for anyone else. But almost because his connection with the last pattern was so strong that when the time came, that is supposed to be dedicated, and devoted to Allah only everything else comes to

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everything else's second costs. That's it.

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And the processor was very, very,

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very organized. And he was very meticulous and

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especially with this, right, okay.

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But when we go to the message, I'll just real real quick go through the rest. When we go to the machine, of course, when we come to the message, we should come to the message with right attention, you know, in peace in a peaceful manner. Don't rush don't run to the masjid don't, you know, sometimes people come catch us a lot, especially there's a lot right running and rushing,

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trying to catch their, you know, their breath, the process of setting a goal, you hear that and you approach the machine from Shivani kena what would with tranquility and peace, this is something we need to teach our children to go into a province called and start running no love for them. But you know,

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with with with tranquility, with peace with dignity, with with respect, when we walk into the masjid, you step in with the first with the right foot first, right, and when you walk out of the machine, you step out with the right foot first.

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Sorry, left foot first.

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So, right foot first, when you walk in left foot first, when you walk out, I know that everybody's gonna be today going like playing that little desk.

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You will be watching other people know, once you get used to it, right, it becomes second nature. We know that. By the way, the professor said that when you put on your shoes, when you put on your shoes or your slipper, we should put on the right one first, and then the left one second. When you take it off, you do the other way.

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You take off the left first and then you take the right second after that. Of course in the beginning I used to always just become natural. Every now and then I catch myself trying to put onto my left socks first.

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Which is yelling again. If you see someone going with the left first. Please do not tell them

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that you shouldn't be doing this. It is a recommendation.

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And if you wonder what the wisdom is, a lot of it I personally saw great benefit from it. It makes me more aware of what I do. It makes

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Me in the state of it puts me in a state of awareness of every action, by the way I started. Okay. I don't know if you have this problem or not. But when you go home, do you? Do you have an appeal? What do you want to leave the house? Do you do you have?

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Do you have to look for your glasses? Or your keys or your wallet?

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Many of us have this problem. Because when we are doing something, we're thinking of something else, we'll set something on what will come up when we are opening the door at home. Right? We're thinking what is behind the door? Or who is behind the door? And what am I gonna say to them? And what are they gonna say to me today?

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What are those things that helps you actually

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be in state of awareness and in common is the following the prophetic etiquettes, they have come when you come home and before you open the door, if you say for example, the process have taught us a lot of money. So

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when you, especially during those days, where you become more concerned about those things, and you start doing them, you will be more aware of what you're doing. So you're going to lose, you're not going to lose, you're not going to misplace, you're not going to be confused, you're not going to forget as much as you would do when you're not doing these things.

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Just being in a state of awareness. In my opinion, that is one of the greatest benefits of this. In fact, they have seminars and workshops that talk about these kind of things, how you how you make yourself aware of every moment of your life, because every moment of your life is so precious, you know that it shouldn't be wasted, you know, and people who are in control, you know, do better. And all this some sophisticated, some, you know, very complicated concepts that they try to teach people. But the center has taught me and helped us with that in a very simple way. What do you do anything? There's a job that you do, there's a matter with which you do that thing. Okay. So right

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first, first when you walked in the machine, right, left foot first when you walk out of out of the machine? And what do you say that there either you say we haven't written on, on top there, right? The drive they say, when you walk in, this will have the most

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amount of

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One thing please, we need to teach our children is to be kids to be to be aware of the cleanness of the message. And at the heart of the mystery of

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the organization, our shoes, by the way, when we for example, separated the insurances. We said, Okay, this site for the brothers that site for the sisters, it was for a reason, for many reasons. Sometimes we kind of can we don't see the point of it's just a matter of conversing. It's for a reason.

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We need to also teach them, by the way, in question. Right? Every now and then we have all kinds of crime when we have a parking lot crisis, people double parking, if you don't have strict rules, amendments, they always make these kind of announcements, someone blocks, double parking. Another crisis, we have what I call the shooter crisis, or the shoe the shoe crisis, right shoes all over the place people misplacing their shoes.

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From what I know, from what

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used to come to the rescue, not all of them, but a lot of them use dried their animals, animals, camels, mules, and I have never come across any narration or any reported any book that talks about camel capital, a new crisis, that the participant came out, was a hammer came out and they couldn't leave the machine because the cameras and and the mules and donkeys were all over the place. There seems to be a lot of data and that the processes taught the discipline, and they were willing to learn to the extent where they were very organized.

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Everybody knew what to do. And to the extent that if a bad one or if an outsider comes, you will be able to tell that he's an outsider, because his behavior will not be at the same level of the behavior or the conduct of the people of Medina, the Sahaba what are the possible so

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this is this is something that we have to struggle

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and then many other things that we need to finally I just want to say that by the way, victory in the masjid is a is a major sin is not a major sin, it's a sin. And the expiation of it the kafala of it, is to remove it.

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So for example, if you spill something, the kafala, you know, in the machine, the cafaro is to take care of it, especially in something

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impure or something that if you throw something in the Pacific a photo and is to take care of it too. So literally the question is, is

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as our taking care of

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Maintaining the cleanliness of the machine is a virtue. There was a black woman that used to do this on her own. And the machines have the promise of a lot of money.

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And when she passed away the promise that she was one of the people of gender. That's what she did. That's what she was known for, and approximate

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assets. So how about where she was the case, she disappeared, he didn't see her anymore? And where What happened to her? They said, Well, she passed away, we buried here. And the processor was disappointed. He said, If any one of you dies, or

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why didn't you tell me when she passed away? what you thought she was, she was nobody that you didn't need to do.

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So she was someone that, you know, that the person that had great level of concern and respect for the process had said, Where did you bury her? Show me. So they took the process of up to her grade, and the proxy locks in the main swap engine has on her entering grade, and on her Great Western, right. And he makes a lot on her after she was bearing police officer. So this shows the other method, this shows her status. And what was she known for us? So how is it she used to clean the machine and pick up like, little things here and there kind of woman was used to sweep and clean the mess on her own, probably bla bla bla, we don't even know her name, but we know her story. And we

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know that the problem lies and that

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was concerned about her.

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Okay, so these are just some some question, please. You know,

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parents a few things that kids don't listen to you, they do. If you don't, if you don't think that they copy you. They do actually. But they do listen to sometimes they may not behave, or they may not react in a way that suggests that they are listening to you, they get affected by everything. I mean,

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I don't know maybe.

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I remember a lot of things that my father taught me. And I find myself now using a lot of things that he told me.

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And sometimes I remember, you know, that many times he was shocked. He thought that I wasn't listening. He thought that I wasn't getting, you know, getting affected by

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it right now. If I go if I ride with someone, and I go somewhere, right? I don't know, I just became sensitive about this thing. And someone else offers me a ride, I say you have to seek permission from the person that I rode with.

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Because my father, I remember when I go to the machine with him, and and he would make some noise, he would make like, you know, eight records or something. As soon as we're always long. I thought my father prayed every single day. But anyways, so I become impatient. So I walked to the I walk home, and I just leave. And every time my father says don't do this, you came with me, you leave with me, why do you shop

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he said, the condition of companionship is to be in agreement or to be to be

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with someone for some reason, it was so repeated so many times that it became

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part of my personality. So now if I go anywhere I feel or if someone does it, i get i get

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i get i get uncomfortable when people just let's say we work together somewhere else. And when you leave with someone else, without asking that person permission. So there are some some of those five etiquette that you think that your children won't pick, won't be affected what but they do, all you have to do is connect with them and talk to them about it and show it to them.

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so inshallah, in the future, I'm going to be talking about the basis of the matter in the end, the etiquette, and how we can we can connect with them and how we can make it

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relevant how we can bring in healthy, healthy change. Another thing that I want to inform you of is that I have this

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this proposal and this

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this program that I'm putting together, I spoke about and talked about, and it has to do with me as an individual, you know, how do I have a successful How do I have a balanced How do I have a

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happy lifestyle? And what are the things that I should do? practical steps I talked about today the hot work and and I talk actually I gave this book but for different

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for different types sometimes. So I suggest that you listen to the football if you haven't heard it. If you weren't here a

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few weeks ago when I gave that football, it talks about success. It's undefined. Do we have it on the website? There is a title of it.

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We sent a reminder email. By the way, if you're not on the email list, please make sure that you are on the email list because you get updated but it is on the website.

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So talk about it. Please give me your feedback, any suggestion, any feedback, any criticism? I welcome anything. All right. But listen to it and let me know. So this is something that we can be talking about in the future. inshallah. Does anyone have any question? By the way, notice that I stopped giving time for q&a.

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Right? Because every time like I designate like 1510 to 15 minutes for q&a, nobody asked me a question. For so many people. Everybody likes to ask the question on the site after everybody else abuse, so But does anyone have any burning questions or comments objection?