Mohammad Qutub – Tafsir Juz 28 #27 – Al-Talaq 3

Mohammad Qutub
AI: Summary © The conversation covers various topics related to marriage, divorce, custody, and custody of children. The speakers emphasize the importance of following the commandments and avoiding sin. They also touch on issues such as custody and divorce, as well as the importance of verifying the method used in testing the Torah. The conversation provides context and examples for the use of "has" in various context, including marriage, divorce, custody, and custody of children.
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ala to come with the slim as I say you the weather the mind so you know what have you been a middle class in Mohammed Abdullah?

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Subhanak Allah, Allah in, in Hollywood Hurricane Sandy where Cindy and Melissa and Cody which are longer than the heart is suddenly when she killed Kareem was

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repay the loan lady and send prayers and blessings upon the Mercy of Allah sent to all of humanity, Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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his family, his companions and all those that follow the guidance until the day of judgment and may Allah azza wa jal brings us together with them behind the paradise and sha Allah. And we asked the last panel to make this need sincere, and to give us knowledge and to increase us in faith. And to make the Quran an argument for us and not against us on the Day of Judgment. their brothers and sisters, I usually forget the homeless I'll begin with at this time, and the answer for the homework.

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And how is this? Where did you get this from?

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The wind, the winds are answering these questions.

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Now, our wives will teach us and give us knowledge, mashallah, this is something to be proud of.

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Albeit, if they are the ones who are teaching us, it means we have major problems. While

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this is not meant to degrade, God forbid the women, it's the opposite. It's actually a compliment. And they're teaching us because if you look, from a practical point of view, you will find the men have many more chances for learning and

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gaining knowledge about Islam than the women.

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And this is why you'll find sometimes, whenever there's a shift where he's giving lessons to the women, they jump on him after the lesson. And they have so many questions because they don't get as many chances as reason. Because you are attending five daily prayers on the masjid in sha Allah, you're seeing the shift you're seeing the scholar you're asking questions that you have, you attend Friday you attend lessons, maybe the women are busy raising their children or other things. They have less chances. So if

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they are teaching us then we have problems by their brothers and sisters.

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But what about the belly? No, the lien just knows it's

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exactly and it is.

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Hadith the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. And Gibreel himself is the one who told him of course upon command from the last pantalla to take her back why? Because she is Solana and a woman She's someone who used to fast a lot and

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new pm for this is this is one of the things this is something that

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honored say the half side of the line amongst many other things and for this recent

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Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him was commanded to take her back of course, the divorce in divorce, there's only one it was only one divorce.

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Last we left off

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with the beautiful verses,

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verses of relief for all that go through any type of tribulation

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and verses that any person in any predicament should remind themselves off and should recite often and shouldn't cure their own.

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At least problems in their heart to cure their their distress and their dismay and so on and their anger cure all of that with these verses. Woman Yes.

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Well your resume in high school,

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well then you can add Allah for whom

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in the law valid will.

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Really I need the meanings

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that are in these verses are beyond comprehension and beyond elaboration.

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We can speak about them we can give herds of examples

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of how Allah subhanaw taala has made things easy

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For people who went through predicaments and through tribulation and so on, and it refers to every different type of risk.

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When he says,

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while in high school, I don't think that this is strictly referring to risk in terms of wealth and provision, everything as we discussed last time is is wealth is provision. In this case, it is a pious wife is the greatest that is, children is

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it is a provision

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is risk from Allah subhanaw taala. And it's the greatest gift and it is the greatest provision.

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Can you give me an idea that would give us that meaning?

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That the man itself is risk or Taqwa?

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In the hierarchy,

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what is that?

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That is provision,

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provision, the best provision is sub one. Do you want anything more direct than that?

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This is the best provision to all of this is part of this, and do not despair, and do not be dismayed people much better than you and make more beloved to Allah subhanaw taala were trained. And they were they were more difficult tribulations, but they were patient and whoever its patients, my dear brothers and sisters, Allah azza wa jal will make a way out for them. And this is similar to the same coxae the use of insulin in a woman yet why yes,

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Allah Allah.

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Whoever is pious has piety and is patient. And here he is mentioning to you, piety,

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woman yet tequila, Maharajah and here he is mentioning the other one which is called the importance of relying on Allah Subhana Allah woman yet Allah who has don't get bored of reciting these verses and reminding yourself remember when we talk about self accountability, everyone needs to have their own add monitor from within their own selves.

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You know better than I do, when you really need to remember these verses. And when you really need a good dose of dependence on Allah subhanaw taala a good dose of patience in the way of Allah subhanaw taala in this switch, he has tried you and so on, in the law, that it will

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not be in any doubt that Allah subhanaw taala will bring about that which he has decreed or he has written for you in the preserve tablet Aloha foo and John Allah Who equally che in Andhra, but then you may think Subhan Allah has When will this happen? When will my Reliance bear fruit?

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When will this way out come? I have been patient for the last few years. And Allah azza wa jal has not made the way out for me

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Subhan Allah,

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Allah subhanaw taala has decreed for everything a certain a certain prescribed time, it will happen then

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be patient.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala says

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I'm just summarizing, we spoke about these verses in detail last time.

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A good.

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and those who no longer expect menstruation among your women, if you doubt, then their period is three months, and also for those who have not menstruating. And for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth and Whoever fears Allah he will make for him of his matter is

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coming up

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About what in these eyes? What's the subject of these verses?

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The period

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right. But then there was mentioned before was not that there was mentioned a few verses before from the beginning of the surah.

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This is for different categories of women

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was not mentioned

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wasn't mentioned in other chapters

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is the waiting period of these categories of women?

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Are they mentioned

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yes or no?

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not mentioned. So, this is the first time right? Precisely, this is the first time and this is why there is a reason for revelation of this set of resumes and it is authentic.

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When the women read the verses of Surah Baqarah, they asked them about these categories of women saying that there are still some types of women for whom Allah azza wa jal did not explain the the waiting period. And therefore, these verses came down to delineate what this is. What are these categories?

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Those who no longer expect menstruation meaning what the old women write for women, when menstruation stops.

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The ones who did not reach menstruation, meaning they have not, they didn't have their first period, even though if you want to get Excuse me.

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Now, we mentioned those the old ones who don't who don't have

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who messed with and stopped.

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And they don't necessarily, but do they never make sure it?

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Never. Okay, so it's abnormal. She doesn't have a period Subhanallah it was part of the wisdom of philosophy.

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As you mentioned, some reached the age of puberty, maybe there are other times but they don't menstruate like Dr. Lachman said

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they may menstruate soon after,

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but not immediately, this applies also to them, okay, because they have not menstruating yet, even though they may have reached that age and so on.

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Those who are pregnant

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women these

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a few are in doubt.

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What does this mean?

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Scholars explain this in two different ways. And different companions. And Phillips

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also gave this meaning. I will give you the more popular opinion first. And that is

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that in a symptom here means if you are in doubt about this,

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which is the waiting period of these categories of women.

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And this is corroborated by what we just mentioned. The reason for revelation, this is the reason for revelation. So it's showing that they were in doubt about the waiting period for these types of women. So the women asked about it and the verses came down. They were revealed, right? This is the correct meaning was

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However, the other opinion is that if they are in doubt about

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menstruation, stopping, has have they reached the stage of menopause or not. They are in doubt. So there is that understanding also for the meaning. And those who no longer expect menstruation among the women, if you doubt and this is why then scholars started debating about what is the age of menopause. Okay, and of course, right.

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Everything. Everything was a scientifically correct right we unscientific

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Excuse me?

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Precisely, sometimes they don't know if they actually reached it or not. And this is why

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they're different.

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In the opinions between scholars about what she does in that case, and how long she waits in the case that she is divorced.

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This is the meaning of

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what is there waiting three months, similar to the other one, but it's not exactly the same right? Three months is not exactly the same as three periods can be quite different based on the woman's period and so on.

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will eliminate those who have not menstruating.

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What does this prove to you?

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What can you deduce from this? You can marry her

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you can marry

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because he is mentioning to you

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as a woman who has not reached menstruation

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This is normal. Don't think in the

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poisoned brains of today, the way they think marrying young women and so on.

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We are talking about

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that Allah subhanaw taala has given us he is the most wise and Muslims are clean people and they understand and these are things that any they take into consideration. Okay.

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This proves that

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a young woman can

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succeed leaving

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different European countries.

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it's as low as 12

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another saying the the legal age for marriage, right?

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Marriage, it's legal. Subhanallah but it's telling us that the legal age not for marriage but for sexual * outside marriage, that's fine for them

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can be as low as 12.

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Some European countries will try to find out where exactly and then they they they are coming and they're bashing our heads because Prophet Muhammad Allah.

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Allah Allah and they are two of the most pure human beings on the face of the earth. And they're they're talking about sexual * outside marriage here. We're talking about marriage, which is legal and approved

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by and it includes announcing the marriage and there being witnesses and everything's

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okay. Yes.

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I'm sorry again.

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Okay, this is a common situation where she doesn't mess with

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with respect to one.

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Oh, I see what you're saying no, no, it's

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the same. It's the same as colors understood this.

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This from these verses definitely applies. The point in the end is that it applies to this. And otherwise Prophet Muhammad peace be upon you will have done it or others may not have done it. And we can argue that it is something specific to this weapon, unless there is evidence for that. Right. Sometimes there's a tendency to say no, this is only specific to Mohammed. Usually, there needs to be evidence for that. Otherwise it's especially right it is general I know this is general

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The waiting period, the pregnant woman is what

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she gives birth.

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This refers to the waiting period of a pregnant woman who was divorced. Does the same apply to a woman

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whose husband died, a pregnant woman whose husband died Is this her wedding period or not? Yes. Is there a difference between scholars or not? Is it

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this they mentioned it that way but it is not.

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In other words, there are different

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And this is because of the presence of the other Aya and Surah, Baqarah. Right?

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Mentioning that the waiting period for women when their husbands died is what? Four months and 10 days.

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Does this apply to pregnant woman or not? And this is where they differ.

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And season

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of their life. They were of the opinion that if this happens, a pregnant woman's husband dies while she's pregnant, that she waits, how long the longer of the two.

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So if she is pregnant, and she gives birth, before four months and 10 days, she needs to wait. This is their opinion. And vice versa.

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For months and 10 days already passed by she has not given birth yet she needs to wait until she gives birth. What is their evidence? Their evidence is that it is according to the

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one of the laws in Sweden is that if you can

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what's the word?

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If you can combine the two verses and apply

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it is better than only applying one and having that one be an abrogation of the other or something of that nature. Okay.

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So in this situation, there are satisfiable

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if she waits the longer of the two periods,

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however, the hadith

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of survey, Islamia of Allah is an argument against

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and that is the Hadith, this lady,

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her husband died.

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She gave birth after his death in a few days in one direction, and in 40 days in another nourish most way before the four months.

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She was getting ready to get married.

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One man when he knew about this,

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we asked her and he told her what are you getting ready for thinking that she has to wait before months and 10 days.

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And it caused doubt in her so she herself went to get a fatwa from

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the best person to give that one this is Prophet Muhammad Lawson. So she went to him. And he is the one who approved of this and gave her permission to get married.

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Fellow Scholars sent even a piece still on her bed.

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Even if he's still on her bed, in other words, he just died.

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And she just gave birth,

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she can get married the only differences as she will be in the postpartum bleeding. But there cannot be physical relations between her and her husband, but they couldn't get married at that time, even if it is that soon. That was an instance after he died. Okay, this is and this is the ease of the Sharia. This is the use of the Sharia. And this is the popular opinion Allahu Allah, that it applies to both. And this is the the opinion of most the majority of scholars will Mohana that yes, she can get married, and that this waiting periods, which is giving birth applies to those pregnant women who get divorced as well as those whose husbands died.

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She couldn't get married, especially since if you know

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many scholars

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said she does not deserve nothing

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from her husband after he dies.

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It is an issue of some debate. But many scholars said she does not get enough a call from her husband after he dies.

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From his inheritance, of course not for them personally right. But this is

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if you consider that then yes, it makes even more sense as you're saying that she can get married and she needs maybe a source of provision and so on.

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Let me

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woman yet tequila, and reuse another confirmation and reminder, fearing Allah subhanaw taala and being pious, despite the verses that came before, and you'll see it repeated over and over, and all in this song

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about Allah. Because, indeed someone who goes through that experience, may Allah distance it from all of us. Someone who goes through that experience, needs to have a good dose of piety and reminders to be pious, in order to go through with all of those procedures in a way that Allah azza wa jal approves, and saw that he made make a way out for him, because we mentioned last time, absolutely things are some of the stuff that they were saying, when you divorce in the right way. According to the facts of divorce in a way that pleases Allah, Allah will make a way out for you.

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No, this is generally

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only bogged down with gender. There's no gender in the Quran. The only gender in the Quran is when the Quran delineates, this is for Lenin, this is for women, and so on. Of course, of course, all of these verses, it's all of these women.

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This was a men only, it's for the men and the women, of course.

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All of these things is fundamental, except when refers specifically to the males or the females. Otherwise, we say these obligations are for the men and women, unless there is an authentic they need either a verse from the Quran or an authentic hadith that showed that this

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worship, or this, this verdict is only for the men and not for the women. And for this purpose. The Quran

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tells us in a beautiful verse,

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He refers to different qualities of the men and women. And he keeps repeating the men and the women. And you may ask why, in the Muslim in a Muslim as well, many men as well quality and

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so on.

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For so many qualities, always the men and the women, why? He's confirming to you that many times there's no difference between the men and the women, as regards

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the way Allah has chosen, precedes them.

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Are their duties the same? No.

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Their duties in general are different. In terms of things they do in life, certain responsibilities, they have that with respect to their duties to Allah azza wa jal, to a large extent it is the same.

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And they are both required to have Islam and to have a man and to have to note here means what what is going on.

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to Allah and his messenger isn't required for the men and the women. Of course,

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there's an honesty required for law. Of course,

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that is also required for both all of these things,

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to confirm that they are the same this but this is of course, the place of a woman.

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Woman emoji

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and that's why

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certain people may say, Well, why is using the male

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the male

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pronoun, if you will, in Arabic, obviously will refer to both unless it is clearly indicating the male as opposed to the female otherwise you'll find that usually, the pronouns that are used are male. Women hit up the ledge along Emily you know, Whoever fears Allah, He will make for him on his knees. This is similar to which is

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No, not in the same Surah another surah

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Allah will make for him of his matter if

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any of us in

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so many reminders, after difficulty, there will be is be patient. Be patient and thank Allah subhanaw taala And fear Allah subhanaw taala will make a way out for you and he'll make after difficulty is if we feel a lot of sleep

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No, it's the most difficult one.

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Especially if we talk about these matters. marital discord.

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Yes, it can really destroy a man a woman and children do it in the right way. And it will not necessarily be the case. And Allah subhanaw taala will make after that in sha Allah sees and how many

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technically, how many men and women have gotten divorced, and then gotten remarried,

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not remarried, and we're happy. Also under second marriage, don't look at it as if this is a reality. buzzin Sisters, we hate it. We try to avoid it as much as possible. But it happens. And therefore this

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this pejorative look that people have

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to work towards divorced women. This is not

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that we agree.

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Maybe a person who doesn't want to marry a divorced woman, this is his prerogative. But to look at them as if there's something wrong with them.

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As if they can no longer ever get married, this is wrong.

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It's a reality it has happened. And people then eventually maybe gotten remarried.

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Now, if they got remarried, and again they got divorced again, if it repeats itself, then it seems to indicate a certain problem that may require some time to figure it out or to find out what is the problem to try to rectify, whether it is the man or the woman

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in a coma.

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that is the command of Allah which He has sent down to you, that Whoever fears Allah, He will remove for him his misdeeds and make great for him his reward. This is what the commands of Allah subhanaw taala which he has sent down to you.

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But we know this, we know that this is the command the philosophy is all a common philosophy. What is this? What does this idea do?

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How does it benefit us?

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Because it's a confirmation from Allah subhanaw taala you will know to come back from Allah but when you read as a summary, that all of this is the colors of Allah subhanaw taala to you.

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This way it should wake our conscience up. This is the another and an obligation and a command that Allah subhanaw taala has given to you and he has given it to you how

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from top to bottom.

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From up to down.

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This is an affair that came down to you.

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This is not something that is coming from your peers or from your colleagues.

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And it is coming horizontally. It's coming vertically now coming from Allah subhanho wa Taala about

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and it is coming down to you.

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It's like when you tell and of course the to Allah and also the best example. When you speak about

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work and so on and you say this is coming from high up.

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This is coming from way up. Don't argue about it, don't debate it, just do it.

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This is coming from your brothers and sisters, not you and I this is coming from Allah subhanaw taala the King of the universe, the most supreme he is telling us it is coming from up to down and

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as the Quran was brought down to us, as it was brought to Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this is the command the philosophy Allah Tala, which he has sent out to you, because applying some of this may be difficult, requires a lot of piety requires a lot of

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manners, which to a large extent, maybe we're deprived off today and so on. But this is a command of Allah, which He has sent it down to you.

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And it is to remind you

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that the God that is in the heavens, is God on the earth.

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Because people like to say that he is God in the heavens.

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The laws are in heaven know the laws are in the heavens and brought down to you to apply here on the earth.

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Right, as in several verses that show us this, such as what can we come up with those verses?

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that he is alone the heavens and the earth, right?

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Well Allah similar to

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He is Allah, the heavens or the Earth, the same.

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Otherwise, to keep these laws in the book, to read theoretically and to keep a penny on

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hamdulillah the Quran is there and then we don't apply anything and we don't implement it. No, He is Allah in the heavens and on the earth. It means his laws are to be applied here. Just because the laws came from above doesn't mean that they shouldn't be applied here below.

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Implement these things. Then you will see the blessing of following the commandments of the last panel with Iona. Woman, tequila again. And whoever fears Allah subhanaw taala hands on woman, woman tequila fearing appearing Allah Xhosa, as seen in Surah,

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fearing Allah subhanahu wa. In fact, if you see if you analyze the chapters of the Quran, you won't find this phrase repeated as many times as in full Pollock woman yet.

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Woman you you can't fill it, he will remove from him his misdeeds and make great for him his reward. And what more do you want? These two things, erasing since erasing misdeeds and increasing good deeds, this is what everyone wants. This is this you gain by saying Allah subhana wa Tada. This removing of misdeeds, Allah Allah as we have discussed before, this is the forgotten, right the minor sins that Allah subhanaw taala removes

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and erases for us if we feel a loss.

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Even without repentance,

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right? We said the minor sins

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don't necessarily require repentance, the major sins do.

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Right? So Allah subhanaw taala may forgives the sins, though, we have not actively repented from those sins, because some of them are minor and sometimes we don't realize it and a simple example is Rhea

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right the hidden ship

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which is to do things out of ostentation, showing off to please others, I'm sorry.

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Some of it

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is undetectable and therefore it is a minus and technically not react is called the the the minor ship is not major.

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When it is not sincere to Allah subhanaw taala

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if you are doing something which is clearly

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clearly meaning

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you are doing something not to please Allah subhanaw taala.

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But the problem is that here is many different levels, right? It's a gradient. So you can be

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it can be partially sincere. It is not fully sincere. You see what I'm saying? That's why when

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if something is clearly being done,

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not for Allah subhanaw taala

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come completely not. For instance,

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I'll give you an example.

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I am praying to Allah subhanaw taala

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I am praying for Allah azza wa jal

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I have no doubt about this. But the only reason I'm praying sunnah now is because there are people

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this is dangerous, because this is fully

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the reason I'm doing that. The reason I am engaging in that worship is solely for those people.

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It's different than

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I'm praying sooner anyway. But once I felt that someone is watching me, I improved my prayer.

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There, I did that thing specifically.

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Just to please those people have they not watched and they've not been there. I wouldn't have even prayed sooner. You agree that there's quite a big difference between this and this?

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This is what I mean.

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The Hadith of Prophet Muhammad

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and push you to can become an animal

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was still Philokalia

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and I seek forgiveness from you for that which I don't know of what

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seeking repentance from this shit means I don't know it in the first place.

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You see what I'm saying? So I can't repent from it. That's why in that case that would not be considered a major sin

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but it's it's different it's different levels itself is many different levels

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you can see it you are your alumna who

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fearing a loss pantalla itself a reason for Allah azza wa jal multiplying your reward erasing your sins and multiplying your reward May Allah make us of those

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tell me you tell me Oh

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watch them

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launch them in a section of where you dwell out of your means, and do not harm them in order to oppress them. And if they shouldn't be pregnant then spend on them until they give birth. And if they breastfeed for you, then give them their payment and confer among yourselves in the acceptable way. But if you are in discord

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then there may best feed for him another woman

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lumped them in a section of where you dwell in other words, give them

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shelter or

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residence, give them residence

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where of where you dwell

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out of your means.

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We said that it is obligatory upon the man

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when he divorces his wife to spend on her

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and the other right is sukhna to give her dwelling

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but there's this in all cases of divorced women you

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which women deserve this right? Absolutely.

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Okay, this is an exception

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to the rule, but the rule itself is what

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you assume they're not

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performing these mistakes.

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We assume that

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one of the rules

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which divorced women deserve

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and it is obligatory upon the month to spend on them and give them residence in their waiting period all divorced women

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all divorced women

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the man divorced her three full times.

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The last time can he take her back? No. Is he obligated to spend no.

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The first two very important

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not simple you remember this we discussed this in detail.

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This is for what

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she deserves and must get a dwelling place and

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all right

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differentiated between dwelling place residents and calling upon them okay. So if it is the third one which is

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she does not get now. This is according to an email. Okay, and

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also say it is there is some debate about it, but this is the correct opinion. And even even according to the Maliki and Shafia they also said similar thing however, they said the very different or rather their opinion was that she doesn't get NASA calm, but she gets sukhna

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She gets dwelling, but she doesn't get nothing.

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But the popular opinion and this is what I've been Kathy's mentioned also is that it is no no no spending and no sukhna and the Hadith and fires Muslim is clear in showing there is no spending and no residence if What if she has been divorced three times and there is no chance for her to come back. Right and this is and we got this from the end of the first

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answer your question inshallah be patient with me

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when I'm in hiatus,

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this is showing this is a command from Allah subhanaw taala to keep in the houses, right, does not allow for a man to expel the woman in her waiting period and nor is it permissible for her to leave the house or for her parents for that matter, to take her out of the house and so on. She must stay inside the house.

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Even if it is not directly inside his house, but close to it. This is why you find

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me in high school second, meaning where are you live? Right. So this is clear.

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Once they come here means your capability in that what you are capable

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one of the seller for explain this and send even if it is a compartment next to your house

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is not directly part of your house. But it's a compartment next to your house, you should put her there because this is what you're capable of doing. And at least you have kept her in her home.

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And this is as we discussed, part of the wisdom of it is that there is still a chance that you may come back together as opposed to when you are in the house and she's somewhere completely far away.

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Give them dwelling

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where you live

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in that what you are capable of meaning.

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If Allah azza wa jal has given you wealth, and provision

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and you have divorced

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and you are spending on her

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fear Allah subhanahu wata, Hannah. And don't try to annoy her

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by putting you in a in a part of the house.

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That is not good.

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That is below the standard of the rest of your house. And similarly with your spending, spend on her the same way you spend on your son's Metro, keep it

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in the state of normalcy, don't decrease spending, why this will be a violation, don't do that. This is impermissible. Allah subhanaw taala is commanding us to fear Allah subhanaw taala and not to oppress them by not in the dwelling and not in the spending. And this is what some husbands do.

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They will reduce their spending, they will keep her in the house, but in a certain place maybe that

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that is substandard relative to the rest of the house and so on. No. This is not what Allah subhanaw taala commanded. If you fear Allah subhanaw taala you keep things normal as they were before. Men hate to second to men when they come to work

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and do not harm them in order to oppress them. This also applies to the

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like we mentioned some men

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not intending to take them back, taking them back at the end of the day.

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So that they cannot remarry.

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They actually intended to take them back.

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They should have taken them that way before but they kept her all the way to the end of her waiting period. And then they took her back. And she was just about to have a winning position and she could have gotten remarried, she would have been divorced from him and gotten remarried. This is what the husbands do.

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She can technically she can but

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A it makes things difficult part of this

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harming her is to keep harming her in this way so that she demands hula. And when she demands, she's

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basically forfeiting her financial rights. This is what some husbands do and this is what Allah azza wa jal is prohibiting, 100 need to buy.

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All of this comes under this prohibition.

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What including that will not to Hamelin

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if they are pregnant, then spend upon them until they give

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for pregnant women

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okay, this

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is telling us to spend on them until they give birth. But we know this already.

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We know that

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a man must spend on his divorced wife,

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he has a chance to take her back right before the third divorce he must spend on her. So why is he saying spend on them until they give birth.

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This is the final.

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So this is not

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the previous case, this is not the first to Monica Luffy.

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And all cases for pregnant women, whether it is the first or the second or the third, divorce, even if you have no chance of taking her back, you must spend on her

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and give her dwelling

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part of the rights of the pregnant woman.

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The other one, if you divorce her a third time, there's no chance of taking her back, she waits in that waiting period you are not obligated to spend on her or to give her a dwelling place. Allahu Allah in the popular opinion.

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But if she is pregnant, even if it is the third,

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and you have no chance of taking her back, whether it is Virginia or the inner, you have to spend upon her

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and give her a winning place.

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And this is clear from the first antibody.

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Now, this is also evidence for those

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for the scars who said that this also proves that the other ones don't deserve

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the other ones where there's no chance of taking her back. If she's non pregnant.

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You shouldn't spell them because you're saying spend on them until they

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until they give birth.

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So it means this is special. Exactly. It means the other ones you don't have to spend on them.

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There was no chance of taking them back in the final divorce. Is this clear? Any questions on this? No questions hungry?

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For answer what I

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have known and this is something that scholars are

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in agreement about now, you may ask him,

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Allah azza wa jal spend on

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what about if a pregnant woman's husband dies?

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This is a different situation.

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Not divorce. She's pregnant, but her husband

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must be spend on her

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scholars different decision.

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The same humbly

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in the same

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they have both opinions.

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They have both opinions in these two lovers. In one case, they say there is no need to spend on her on the pregnant woman or for husband dies. And the other opinion is also there. And the argument of those who say no, she does deserve spending is because the spending is not for her. It's for what is in her belly or time.

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And as she is indirectly

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the one who will benefit that child

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through food and so on, then

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that he is supposed to spend on her. This is one

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this is a subject of debate between scholars. Okay. Another question.

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What if

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this woman is Nash's she disobeyed her husband

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she's not pregnant, and she disobeyed her husband or she committed Zina and so on that she deserved. Do

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I think

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and the spending no. Right? What is your proof?

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The verses that tell us about spending upon them

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this is there's an exception, which is if they came with this fashion

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but here was saying for unsafe what the President wants.

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So it seems like it's an all cases, rightfully so whose colors then came up with this question? What if a pregnant woman came with

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the she still deserve the spending or not? And this is also something that they debated and the opinions are there with

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him, you're gonna have known

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what time you will be in a coma. And if they breastfeed for you find

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the one that has divorced. The divorce went all the way in didn't take her back. Right. And now they aren't divorced. But now

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he needs someone to breastfeed his child.

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It is her child also.

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What she breastfeed her child

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she has the option, she is not even obligated technically, according to the correct opinion. She's not even obligated in the marriage.

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Much better.

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In what situations is she obligated even after the divorce to breastfeed her child?

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If there's no alternative, he couldn't find a nurse.

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The baby is not accepting any any other nurses myth.

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And that case, she is a * obligated to nurse her child. And if they breastfeed for you, then give them their payments, pay them, they deserve payment as it is not obligatory upon them. They deserve payment for nursing, even though it is their own child.

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Then, as they breastfeed for you then give them their payment.

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What can you

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tell me who here it's referring to discussion between you debate between Warszawa as if there is Shura between them, okay?

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Do that with mouth talk about these issues

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in a civilized way, not by insulting each other.

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And throwing accusations at one another, do so in civilized manner, debate and discuss these things and converse about them in a civilized manner in a good way. Because ultimately, it is for you and it is also for your child.

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What will be my hope

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and confirm on yourselves in the acceptable acceptable way. But if you are in discord, such as she doesn't want to breastfeed or she wants to breastfeed but she doesn't agree to what you offered. And technically, as you say what time your

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mouth means all good. It means give her what she deserves. Give her what you would give another nurse if she were to muster

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the payment, because you're angry at her after the divorce. And similarly, your sister don't demand more

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also put to punish the husband what can you bring

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make it something that is balanced.

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Of course think about the title. So, pay something the man should pay something reasonable and the woman should demand something reasonable. What we have available tomorrow

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if you are in discord you cannot come to agreement, then another woman will breastfeed for him.

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She was able to find another woman another and he will pay her and this is no problem this is acceptable along to Allah Allah Baraka la Fico.

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Any questions or comments? We will detail more about the issue of payment in the next time because the next verses is still referring to

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any questions or comments

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She was already pregnant

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the baby.

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a major

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we discussed

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the issue of diversity and divorcing three times this is this is

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this is Pollock which has been,

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it is

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a sin of course, and whoever commits that has committed a sin and should repent to Allah subhanaw taala. However, in the opinion of many scholars,

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the divorce is valid, and all three are valid, and she is no longer

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according to many scholars, unless she married

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this is the this is actually the majority opinion.

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We discussed this in length last time, but then the first time when we talked about

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what does this mean? And we discussed the issue of political and political right. And we said

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is to divorce her either while she is menstruating.

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She's pure, but there was physical relations between them is Pollock,

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an artist also is to save three times. And you can if you analyze the verses the beginning of you can get that from you can understand that from the verses itself. And this is where the scholars difference, however the scholars are

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they all agree

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is a sin and seeing them all at once is a sin.

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But they are different about whether it is valid or not. The majority said it applies if you said I'm terrified of antibiotic antibiotic, she's no longer yours. You wait, the waiting period, you cannot take her back anymore until she marries another nun.

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And he divorces her.

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Of course.

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So he's sinful.

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But does it apply? This is the this is a major debate. Remember I told you this is a subject of major difference. Majority of scholars said yes, it applies. However, some of the companions and some of the latest scholars such as Damien,

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Allah and others, they said that it does not apply it

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does not applied whether the three or something else even come up are

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they different?

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Their claim is that all three in one sitting is considered only one for a long time.

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And I mentioned to you some of the evidence of the two groups in the first the first talk yesterday.

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And this is also major ignorance brothers and sisters,

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using all of your chances all at once. This is ignorance Allah has given you three SubhanAllah.

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Only the one that wakes up to this has given you three chances, three opportunities. And he goes on he says you're divorced. You're divorced, you're divorced, three times, or four. As I told you in that story, one man said it 1000 times

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is so angry Subhanallah

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when the progresses and this

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he said three

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applies and 997 are on your back as sins on the Day of Judgment. Yes, their sins.

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This is a SYN saying

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that how about seeing a four and five and six and seven eight times?

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This expression is serious

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we discuss this also saying it even as a joke, it applies.

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If you say, oh, no, no, I'm just kidding. It applies, you just lost your chance.

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We said that the things that is a Prophet Muhammad, these three things, even joking about in a serious, right?

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Marriage Divorce and

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everywhere, not only in your part of the world everywhere, but this is major. It's an example of far how far away we are from our religion, and how little understanding we have of the fit

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of our religion.

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And taking her out of the house, this is really, maybe even some of the players parents will know that

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he divorced her, how dare you take her out of the house now and bring her home and keep her in the house until the wedding period is over. He just destroyed the life

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she's not allowed to leave, she is allowed to leave the house as we discussed before, only for necessity,

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only for necessity, and better in the day then at night. Right? But then she should come back. This issue of I love able to absorb this is a secret you should not work unless, like you mentioned

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that she did something if she is abusing his parents if she is if she committed of course the major factor which is Xena, and so on. In that case she is totally

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Of course, of course stay in the house. Stay in the house is the reason Allah subhanaw taala said in the end of the first day

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know, Allah subhanaw taala may bring you about a matter and this matter according to

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many scholars himself, he says this is

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the Allah's version may bring about their readiness to come back together. This is part of the blessing of keeping her in the house, even if they're angry. Brothers and sisters, all of you know, anger is temporary. Correct. And for those who are married, the anger of the woman may be more temporary than even though

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it's something you know, the thermometer rises quickly and it comes back down. It happens.

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So you got angry fight. You go and you take her out of the house because of the fight that happened in a day.

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Maybe all of those feelings

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would disappear from his heart or from her heart.

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Because it's a sin and it is an IT is ignorance. And it's destroying your your children's lives. Just this one, keep them in the houses even if he pronounces divorce.

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What about situations where we have someone who doesn't take care of the family and he loves us?

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The wife physically

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no financial health, Nothing can be worse.

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The wife is allowed to ask for divorce.

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The wife is allowed to ask for divorce, I'll bet she has to have a good excuse. In order not to fall under the warning of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him who said that whoever whatever woman asks for divorce, unjustly, in other words, undeservedly that she will not smell the smell of

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dangerous even asking for.

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So she should not ask for it. Unless there is real cost, what you just mentioned whether it is real costs, because it is her right upon him to spend on her. Number one, number two, is her right upon him to treat her well and not to abuse her and not to beat her and so on and things of that nature. So if she is deserving she can ask for divorce as he gives it to her.

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If he doesn't, she has the right to ask for help.

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She says you know what, I forfeit my financial rights. Take back your down. I don't want it. Take back this house you gave me as far as whatever it may be. I don't want it just let me go. She has that right. That's a second way.

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He still refuses. She has a third way. She can go to the judge and the judge can implement this color

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which is two separate

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It seems that indeed,

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she is justified in what she is requesting.

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The advice is, for her to be as patient as possible, advise him to be patient, maybe Allah azza wa jal will

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rectify their condition, maybe Allah, Allah will guide him. And there are many men who, whose situation improved, even their religiosity improved because of that.

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And the famous example will give them this.

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You remember, you see, it's here somewhere.

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This is a problem, and we don't try.

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Our memories are much worse than the memories of the man.

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And they stop, go around with or not. And they used to say, it will stay with me until I go to the grave.

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We forget

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looking at the mother thing that

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was given the option between an excellent

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memory or a pen, and he chose a pen and a notepad. No, their memory is just something else. And we know the famous story of the mother

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and his memory. And the the memory of the mother.

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1 million has this I mean, this is this is

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Google heavy, right?

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We have trouble with two or three.

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you think a million, the method only who cares? Nothing is simpler than.

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100 100 Hadith and they mixed up the the, the testing and basically, how many people know the story. So they said

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they used to hear about Buhari, and he and his memory and his knowledge of Hadith and so on. So some of the Hadith scholars said let's test them. So they bought him.

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And they gave him 100 To Hadith and they mix them up.

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We're not talking about the method. The method is correct, obviously. Right? But they mixed up the sentence. So they put this method, this the content of the Hadith with this Senate, and vice versa, and they mix them all up. Sorry.

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If I remember correctly, it was Andhra, they jumbled them up. And they given this hadith.

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So they started saying, Have you heard this hadith? And they said, No. Have you heard this hadith? No.

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And he kept on saying no to all.

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And then they said, What is this?

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This is the scholar Halevi hasn't heard any of these Hadith. He means what He means I haven't heard that this content was this. I heard this conference was that Senate

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the way they mixed it up, and then he went back and he

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repeated all of them was the correct assignees. And they all gave up. And they they they they couldn't but say that indeed, this is the Imam of this time and

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of course

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their chi Vania is because say that of our time, the amount of our time and Hadith, a little law

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was not what he said. But what his age was

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when he was young to have to know this many Hadith is America. If he was old, his memory is still serving it's still America.

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This woman

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said she can go out for her necessities, unless you call us back

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soon this requires a

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general question regarding this trip.

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You mentioned this a bit. Yes. Now the My question is something different is that what still many scholars consider is valid. So, what is the principle of validity?

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I mean, how can it be that can be valid?

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Valid only that it applies.

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But it is sinful.

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See the difference? He is sinful in what he did

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but not

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To the player enough, now, you're thinking is part of the evidence of the group that sent, it cannot apply as long as it is simple and it is a bit. And this is not what Allah commanded in terms of the way of divorce, it cannot apply. This is part of their thinking also, the group who opposed the majority.

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But they also have their evidence that it does apply that the three all apply together, they refer to some Hadith, they refer to some analysis of the Danny, it will take a long time if we're gonna go one by one. And it is a known subject of debate between scholars.

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This is not the only thing there are other things where it may be sinful.

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it applies.

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I'll give you an example.

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An issue which is marrying with the intention of divorce.

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You married this woman, and you are intending to divorces such as those who marry for in the States, the green card and the blue card and other things.

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They they're intending to divorce.

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Is this permissible? No. It's sinful.

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Because marriage is meant to be something lasting? Right?

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What's the name for this?

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We don't talk from our heads brothers and sisters. Islam has loved us for us to believe that marriage should be nothing

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logical final, but doesn't the need for

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some weakens the meaning is strong.

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Physical as well as logical Bernina. We're

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talking about not only children and grandchildren means that the marriage is supposed to be lasting.

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It's supposed to be lasting, but sinful to marry in this way.

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But did it but didn't marry him this week?

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nullify or not satisfy some of the rules of marriage? No.

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All of the conditions are there. They announced it. He gave a dowry. There were the the acceptance of the Welly that we're witnesses everything. So it's the correct marriage. So it may be sinful. There are things in Islam, according to it may be sinful. But it applies

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to didn't go beyond.

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I mean, if we think as it is sooner.

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So people know the intent of getting married was not correct. He's sinful, he's doing something sinful.

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It's also a bit better, meaning that he's not marrying in the right way. You're not supposed to marry with the intention of divorcing her in the first place.

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And there are many other things like this. Why don't you as I told you,

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the other day opposing group is used as using partly this logic, that it cannot apply as it is not.

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If it is not something that Allah if it is not in the way that Allah azza wa jal commanded

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anything else?

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This is the

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sure most of the cases

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according to what

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seems to be the

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Correct and Islamically the custody

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the woman deserves more

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even Islamically. She is more rightful to custody than the man of course, eventually judged.

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Between in a court and so on, but she is more deserving. Unless there is something that

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is not satisfactory in her on the way she raises her child or personality or something else. But in general, this is

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what you're saying. It's not that the customer is going to him, but he is obligated here to spend on his job. This is this is why

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but she may get custody. Yes, she deserves the custody Marula even but ultimately, ultimately usually this is something that will be subject to a Sharia court

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I don't know if this is they are basing it on Sherry hours

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okay so they'll keep up with the

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naming there's leeway in these issues and this will be judged according to what is beneficial for the family

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she doesn't want custody this is this is the this is the most important obstacle to her getting custody she herself doesn't want custody means she will not be able to implement this well then it will be in the custody of the funds

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custody she gets too many custody first goes to

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it the mother isn't

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to do

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almost trying to keep her was okay to keep the child was THE WOMAN

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Yeah, that's possible also because the

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the the maternal aunt, and she has a similar status to the mother. Okay, and the the mother of the Mother, the grandmother and great grandmother and so on. They have keeping them they're trying to keep them with the woman because the custody ultimately I need the women are more deserving of that also makes sense

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to divorce situation file to custody

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law and according to this, it goes to the event

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so even so, it's in the case of divorce as well as the case of

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death. Right, this is what you're saying.

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It was not mentioned.

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That's why he's asked his question. In the case of that she died.

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Does the custody go to the mother, grandmother or to the Father?

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gonna spend some exposure to Colombian Spanish

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