My Son – Be Firm, Not Forceful
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All Praise and Glory be to Allah we thank him and we seek His help and his guidance and his pleasure and it's forgiveness. And we turn to Allah for protection from the evil whispers within us and from the consequences of our evil deeds. For whomever Allah guides men can ever lead astray and whomever Allah leads astray, none can ever guide. And we testify that no one is worthy of our worship and our devotion, and our love and obedience in the absolute sense of those words, but Allah and Allah, Allah and without any partners, the true supreme King, the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was indeed in truth, without doubt, His Prophet and his servants and His Messenger, whom
Allah Azza wa Jalla centers a mercy to the world. Oh, you have believed to have the Taqwa of Allah presence in your life at all times be conscious and dutiful to Allah
in the manner that he deserves, and do not die except in a state of complete and total, loving and willing, consistent surrender to Allah state of Islam.
To begin continuing with the advice of Lachman, or the Allahu Anhu is done.
We left off at the verse Yeah, buena yaki Alchemist follows what more will model V one hand in monkey works better Allah aka in a valley kemin. Ultimate OMO. Oh, my dear son, established the prayer properly
and enjoying the good promote the good and forbidding evil, prevent the evil, whilst Berala are far back and be patient in the face of what afflicts you
in the valley come in as men are more certain. Certainly this is over the matters that require great determination greater Azeema great results. Well, as you saw, I had the calendar and do not turn your face away from the people in arrogance.
If these three instructions we can cover in today's football
and benefit from in sha Allah that is more than sufficient.
He said to him, Oh, my dear son.
Yes, establish the prayer. Yes, promote good, yes forbid evil. But this is not going to be a piece of cake, you will be afflicted. It's not a walk in the park. effecting change, changing people nevertheless, for the better is something that requires a great deal of patience requires a great deal of endurance. for so many reasons, other than we already discussed, that the quick solution that is imagined in our mind, which is reacting to falter doesn't work. So we have to put greater focus on promoting good this lower road but the long road is the only road to a long road requires patience.
But there are other reasons as well. Human beings naturally tend to be resistant to change. They don't like to change,
either because they're just complacent. They're satisfied with where they are. They don't want to put in the work to change for the better. And so when you tell them you need to, they will push back says who I need to Who are you to tell me I'm not good enough where I am. And so they will lash back at you on various levels. They could mock you, right? They could laugh with you, they could punish you. It's a whole spectrum. But something of affliction, Allah of our back is going to happen.
Sometimes people resist change also because they are very confident. Sometimes even rightfully confident in telling themselves, how can he tell me to change I have good intention. And they are blinded by their good intention from realizing that their action is very wrong.
Because the driving force, they are certain that my driving force and doing things this way is that isn't my heart is in the right place.
And that is why Subhan Allah the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, methadone, Allah shall do the law. The example of those that uphold in themselves and with others uphold the bounds of Allah is like the example of a group of people and get onto a ship together. And so some of them,
some of them right on the top side of the boat, and some of them right in the lower level.
He said Alia salatu salam, the people on the lower level, every time they go to the top side to get some water, they have to pacify the people that are already up there. They crowd them, they annoy them, they bother them. He says, so one day, they had a great idea. It was a very good intention. They said lo Anna para poner viene of the vena cava con Lemnos, demon Falconer. If we can just make a hole in our parts of the ship, the lower side of the ship, we won't be bothering the people up top, their heart is in the right place. But what is the what a great example Rockefeller give so many lessons to be said here, but just focus on that part, their intentions were right.
But despite the fact that their intentions are right, you still have to resist
you have to not throw in the bottom of the ship in the hull of the ship. So he said alayhi salatu salam lauter aku Houma are all do the hell a coup. If they let them do their bright idea. They're well intentioned idea they're sincere attempt at making others comfortable, they will all drown they'll all die.
While others do Allah ad him manager when agile German and if they stop them, you're gonna have to stop them.
If you stop, if they stop them, they will all be saved. So for so many reasons, people are resistant to change. Sometimes they think what they're doing is absolutely right. Like the debates in like popular culture nowadays, between equality there has to be equality. Certainly there doesn't have to be equality, but you're blinded from equality sometimes, from considering another aspect of morality of virtue called justice, you're blinded by the pursuit of equality from the pursuit of justice. Or sometimes people say I am not going to accept religion, because religion tells me to close my mind. And here's all these groups. So I'm refusing to listen to you not because I'm stubborn, but because
I want to keep using my mind. And so yes, it's true. You're right, you should not follow that. But what about the other religions that are not asking you to close your mind,
it's hard for them to get past this fact that I'm doing what I believe is the right thing. And so there's going to be an involved, there's going to be some sort of affliction, it's going to be taxing on the person that wants to build good and diminish from evil during their lifetime. They gotta prepare patients, they have to prepare patients. And then he said to his son, and don't underestimate patience.
Patience itself is not the walk in the park in the valley came in as millimole V. This is a patient of over what will afflict you is of the matters that require great Azima great determination.
And he's telling him this so that he can develop the determination to endure the long road to endure the long taxing process of changing the world for the better. Because Azeema is something you can develop.
And it has to be pre developed before you meet the situation, the readiness, the power, the willpower to be patient when something happens to you.
But this is something that needs to be developed because it doesn't always exist or originally exist in human nature.
Allah azza wa jal said that even the very first human being the prototype, why did he slip? Why did he not hold endure the Command of Allah He slipped in his was he in his determination to remember?
Fantasy yet while I'm Nigel Dylan, who asthma Allah says, The human being is nature, he's forgetful, and he's not we did not find him as I said him to be someone of strong results.
But then he climbed up again with the Azima to never do this again. And he climbed two levels, as we say higher than the level he was at Adam Alayhis Salam before he committed the sin.
But his children are the same way and we are children.
Well, Hala Hal insert, the human being takes on the responsibility
in now who can have a lumen Jehovah, but he is ignorant, and he is transgressive. He doesn't know what it takes. He underestimates it.
And then he cuts corners, he transgressive. He cuts corner.
But the people that did develop this Azeema they climbed with this Azeema to the most beneficial people to humanity, and they are the Prophet. And then if you go among the prophets to the highest level, the highest tier of Prophets, of all of their virtues, Allah
I chose to point out that it was the virtue of Azeema that you should celebrate was to be a camera Saba Odle as the Mina Rasul of all the names he could have given them. He said, Be patient, like the messengers have strong resolve had patience. It's something to treasure if you have this one thing as EMA, if you instill this one thing and those you care about Azeema
everything else works out like what do you need, you want to memorize the Quran, even termination, you want to commit yourself to good manners, even when there's friction that needs a determination. You want to lose weight, it's determination. You want your marriage to work out despite the hiccups. You need determination to not quit, lose breath, lose your wind midway. Everything boils down to this. This is what differentiates a successful human being in dunya. And in Africa and someone who isn't.
Because what is the virtue of humans having superior intelligence over animals, if they can't act on that intelligence, then it means nothing at that point.
It disqualifies your edge on them the fact that you can't act on it.
And so if you want to climb, you're going to have to be ready to withstand the bitterness of the challenge of the battle.
And you need to always tell yourself and tell people that work not for the bitterness of the challenge, there would be no sweetness to the conquest. If everything was easy. If everything was easy, nothing would be tasteful, nothing would be pleasant. This is why people that don't suffer for a known end, don't struggle towards the unknown end, their life becomes tasteless. Why do people become depressed after retirement? There's no goal in mind anymore. It's nothing to work toward.
And so people sometimes shy away from a Lambo model for Nike and monka. And being someone who's purposeful and trying to better the world and reform the world for the better because they know is going to be backlash. I don't want the headache.
I don't want you know, the burden. But the people who actually suffer the most are the people that have signed out from every burden. I don't want I don't want the headache. These are the lives that are most meaningless, most tasteless. That's why the poet he says, Let accidental match the terminal enter kilojoule. And tableau will match the hasta la sobre. He says don't think that glory and like you know, triumph and conquest and all the feelings that it comes with. This is just like a walk in the park or some dates that you'll eat. They're not free sweets. Basically.
It's something far more meaningful, worthwhile than that. He says, Do not think that glory are some dates that you will eat, you will not reach glory until you taste this sourness of patience, the bitterness of the battle. Once you conquer whatever was your obstacle Allah puts inside you that feeling that sense of accomplishment that we thrive for, because we are purposeful creatures. And so you feel like you've made gains on your purpose. You feel satisfied with that on some level. And this, this, the simplest human being has to understand this. The problem is in our generations especially, we need to double down on this concept. Because when you always throw on other people,
it's their fault. They're not changing, it's their fault. They're not appeasing me, you're not ready to put in the sacrifice for it. That's why we're so miserable so many times.
I've been Ketty.
I've been medicating the Corrib Rahimullah, one of one of the One of the notable figures from our history. He says, I want to met and Arabi just to show you the simplest human being is to understand this concept and should understand this concept, but it's straight logic, what we tend to shy away from, from presence in our consciousness. But sometimes, we don't want to put in the work. It's in our nature just to tell ourselves not that important. No big deal. You find something else. Let me change the subject. So he says of the relic of Nicaragua, I met in Arabi, a man who doesn't even live in the cities uncivilized from what call him uneducated. Some would say this man is uncivilized
man behind here, Ramadan. Chedid. In his eye was a very bad infection, like really bad pinkeye basically, he says, and I said to him, why don't you wipe the tears like your tears are running on your cheeks? You look silly. You just wipe the tears column and Annie Bobby, he said, the doctor said I can't do that. But the pain is going to be more than the infection is going to spread. I'm not allowed to do that. He said, Well, I hire a team and either almirola tomato either Legionella in surgery. And like there is no good in a person who doesn't know how to follow instructions. Like what's the point of having a doctor? I'm not gonna listen to him. This is the idea. What's the point
of having access to knowledge if you can't act on it? So I will make him cry. He felt bad for the man. And he said to him Elijah, like do you desire particular food? Can I get you something nice like just to make up for your
How's the mood your condition?
Fall and well i kidney asked me. He says yeah I just some things I'm really in the mood for the doctor said I can't have anything. I have to protect myself from escalating the disease by eating anything. Whether this is correct or incorrect medical advice is not the point.
He said to him Well I kidney Atomy. And then he says to him, this Bedouin simple man, he says to him, we're in a hurlan
Gala but shall what to whom? Him Yetta, whom for helico.
He then at the end of the day, the people of the fire are people whose desire out did their resolve their protectiveness, and so they were destroyed. Look at the connection he made. He said, This is what what human excellence is human dignity human everything. What makes a human a human the ability to have agency or not the rock you're not an animal you have intelligence and the ability to act on intelligence. Egos This is not just about egos, I'm training myself there is no good enough person who doesn't have Azeema and so
look, man is telling his son and be patient for what's going to happen to you and prepare the Azima you can just say I can't I'm not strong. I'm not strong tempered the same way someone you would not accept of yourself or your child to say I don't know. I can't learn I'm just not smart. So you have to learn. The Prophet SAW Selim said this as well. He said enamel enema with the Allume will kill me with the Hello Musa brutal combo. He said knowledge is through practicing knowledge education. And forbearance is through practicing exercising forbearance, and patience resolve is through the exercise of patient. So he's telling him Oh my son exercise patience, because you will need it in
order to be a positive influence in this world. A cola COLA that was stopped for a while I'll be manual.
hamdu Lillahi wa salatu salam ala Vandana Shiva, Shiva La ilaha illallah wa Sharika what should we know Mohammed Abu whenever you who are pseudo walsworth Allah Azza our back be patient on what will inevitably afflict you in the valley CheMin asmall OMO this is of the matters that require resolve and determination. The third statement moving on to the next eye and now his father said to him Well as to say I heard the colonists and don't turn your face away from the people in haughtiness in pride in arrogance.
Don't get sick of the people is over the implications here. You see, it is a very hard balance that our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam called us to by the way that Allah azza wa jal expects of us to be firm on the truth, like we mentioned the private previous cookbook, right? But at the same time to not be forceful with the truth, and impatient with your patients. Patients mean like medical patients, the people that you are catering to the people you are trying to remedy. Many times people are very forceful, and they just sick and tired of the people because they've heard so many knows, they've lost hope. And I guess they're just doing this, but Allah said, I have to do this. But they
have no genuine concern inside them for the people anymore. And so they look at them from a high horse, they have no hope in the people anymore. And so he's telling him, Oh, my son, don't let the years dry you out. Don't let the years of patience that you're going to have to endure affect the way you look at humanity. Because sometimes when you're involved in calling to the truth for so long, especially when you need to resist so much resistance, you start getting jaded, like you have a negative perspective. And you start assuming that nobody wants truth, except me. And then you start saying I'm the truth.
Huge problem, when someone who calls to the truth starts assuming that he is the truth. And so disagreeing with me is disagreeing with the truth. And insulting me is a hatred for truth. This is a humongous problem, a humongous disease, that people that call to the truth have to be vigilant about. He's telling him Don't be diseased like that, you know where to start and look at that term.
They say Assad or Assad is a disease in the necks of the camels that was known to the Arabs. There's a cultural connotation here. When the when the camels get a certain disease in their neck, their neck kind of turns, they can't look straight anymore. And so people act in this disease the way you are, you just don't look at people anymore, even when you're speaking at them. So that's why they say you're speaking at them, you're not speaking to them.
And this can happen two ways. When you're addressing people, our people are addressing you, you are the truth so nobody can offer you anything and we may come back to this thing called buncha Allah. But even when you're offering the truth to people, you offer it in a way as if you're on top of the mountain. No, no, no, you may have a piece of truth and they may have another aspect of truth in their life both by Allah of course not personal truths, Subjective Truth, no, no, there they have an aspect of the deen they're practicing that you may not
know about and you have an aspect of the team that you're practicing, you see that they're not practicing. Nobody's on top of the mountain, we are all helping each other, point each other to the top of the mountain. That's where we need to be. We're telling each other about it. We're not on top of the mountain, to assume that you've arrived and you're speaking people from a high horse will destroy you and will not work with the people. And we are very prone to it. So be careful.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when the man was brought back after drinking wine time and time again and they cursed at him. He said, Let us Cebu for Allah Allah. Allah Allah rasool Allah who don't curse at him. You think just because you're the one applying the punishment, which is in fact the remedy for them and for society, that you are sinless and have no punish ability in the sight of Allah How do you know you think you're the only one that is sincere? The only one that loves Allah and His messenger? He said to him for Allah Allahu perhaps he loves to love his messenger meaning how do you know that he doesn't he does love Allah and His messenger.
You know, interestingly, in the time where I'm gonna move above the Allah Who
there was another
who was ever messaging stop coughing, very famous story that will Michigan, I will Michigan was a very interesting personality. He was of the heroes of Aqaba, see you one of the greatest battles in the history of Islam against the the Sassanid Empire, the Persian Empire, he was a hero, he was a knight, hardly anyone had his fame has his ability, his tactical ability, his courage, his skill, but he was knee deep, he was one of the greatest alcoholics you can ever read about among the righteous.
And it took him a long time to come around for the good in him to actually sprout
to for someone at a distance to look at him and say this person has potential and will message in itself coffee. He used to say to the people when I die, please bury me next to a grape tree. So that my bones can drink from the juice of the grapes, wine is made from the juice of the grapes. He has so my bones can drink from it after my death.
And do not dare bury me in the desert after I die. Because I fear not tasting wine anymore. Once I'm in my grave. This was poetry that he was saying.
And so in the Battle of Valencia started he actually drank wine while on campaign. And so they punished him and they punish and just became no longer sustainable. And so I'm gonna I'm gonna have Bob send a message from Edina decided maybe we'll call the prophets uncle, then listen, just detain him, we'll figure it out later. Just arrest him, detain him and put them away. So he detained him in one of his homes.
And then I will Michigan about the hola Juan. He's he's hearing the battle cries. He's hearing what's happening because the car is hearing the screams he's hearing people falling left and right. He's hearing a Muslim army come in front of something they've never confronted before armies of elephants showed up at the Coliseum something the Arabs never saw in their own history that they actually have to confront them face to face.
And so he would beg the wife or the servant girl, the historic debate, to please let me out of the house. I'm begging you, you have to let me out. It was He was burning inside out of love for Allah and His Messenger wanting to be with his brothers to serve Islam is I swear to you, I vow to Allah, if I survive, I will come put myself back in detention after.
And so she actually lets him go and she gives him the horse of time to maybe walk off his house and some weapons that were lying around in the house and he takes off and that was injured, yet a medical condition. He was not in the battle, but he was overseeing the battle they built for him a rafter and he would watch and instruct. And so he would sit there and he would say I'll Carioca Rubalcaba
or Barbuda, Bobby Michigan, who is that person because he covered his face when he jumped in. He's supposed to be in prison. He said, the way that animal moves, that's my animal. I know my animal. That's it but his horse. He said in the way that person strikes that Apple imagine, we said that's impossible. He was dismissed the thoughts that were mentioned at home, in his head, at home, about the Allahu Anhu and every time he went after someone that person would fall, and every time he moved towards like a patch or a group of the enemy, he would disperse them and make them easily available.
And then after Allah azza wa jal vanquish the opposing army, he went back and upheld his vow and he tied the chains back in his legs in the state. And sadly well of course eventually comes.
And he finds out after some light investigation that she left him out, that was him.
And he said,
Ledge lidocaine Philharmonie Baglio. I will never with you carry out the punishment on USA Today.
Allah Oh ALLAH he and Matt and Abby Sherry Viva Liam and I will never drink wine after today. He said no
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he was a warrior. He's saying the reason I never stopped drinking wine because I could not stand the thought of people saying I stopped because you beat me.
He was defensive, your dignity was on the line.
But now that you will not beat me now I leave it.
Humanity is very complex. We cannot, with a wide brush, just automatically assume this person, there's no good in them. You know, oh, my God look above the law on himself. He punished the Muslims so severely when they first embraced Islam. He tortured them.
And you realize that it was not because Ahmad was pure evil. Or Omar felt spied. It felt provoked by the fact that this little group is saying that their ancestors are all wrong, and that the elites of Quraysh can stop this little group of believers. And that is why when they were leaving, not fighting, not back, not resisting when they were leaving, so we'll have to Abyssinia. He said, Where are you going? He said, we're going where you can't reach us anymore. He melted at that point. That was the first sign of almost transformation. He said Sahiba Kamala, he said, may Allah accompany you on your journey before he became Muslim.
And her husband her heard her saying, You heard what Omar said. She said, he said, so what you think Omar will ever change.
His father's donkey will become Muslim before this guy becomes Muslim. That's what that was what her husband said. And I'm gonna mocha doesn't become Muslim. He becomes the second greatest Muslim in this ummah, after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam right hand when Abu Bakr then there is Omar, he beats everyone.
I used to know a man and I'm closing the hotel now. I used to know a man, I still know him in Brooklyn,
who was a murderer.
Open and he went to jail for it he was convicted of and he entered prison. And he remained for a long years in prison. And the Muslim populations in prison are substantial.
And the only reason and I thank Allah for extending his life till he left prison. He did not accept Islam in prison.
Though he was blown away by the beauty and the opportunity of redemption that Islam offers you and he's one of the most committed Muslims I know nowadays. He says the only reason I did not become Muslim, because I could not stand the thought of someone saying I became Muslim for protection in prison. So I waited to my left.
Allah azza wa jal says not all people are the same. Well, I Haruna
Allah says there are other groups of people that are not just pure good, they're pure evil. Hello, Hello, I'm Alan Foley Han. Whatever I say that mix between pure act and evil acts as a Lavanya. To valet him Perhaps Allah will open the doors of repentance for them.
So you don't turn away from people ever. You don't leave people to shape on ever. You don't assume you will ever outrace anyone ever. That is what he's telling his son be firm. But don't be forceful. Don't be callous. Don't be arrogant. Don't ever assume you're on top of the mountain.
Because you don't know how you will die. So how can you know how someone else will die? You don't know the reality of all your own secrets. How could you know what sits inside the chest of the people? You don't know what they go through. You don't know the complexities. Let God be God. subhanho wa Taala let Allah be Allah.
I'll end there visa later ALLAH asking Allah azza wa jal to make us wise guides who our selves our guidance never make us deluded and make us effective with those that we love and make us of those who extend this nirvana of Islam near and wide to the Muslims or non Muslims. And may Allah increase Us and Them and guidance and protect the guidance that he has sent our way and increase us in it. Allahumma Amin, I have one minute to speak to you now nonverbal related By Allah's grace and the effort and the wisdom of many people in this community. Hamdulillah I will not fundraise today, there is an ongoing fundraiser for the next six weeks. After asking for over a million dollars
Alhamdulillah a letter of intent was signed by the owner of the pizzeria and we will have this pizzeria in sha Allah Allah in a month or two for only $700,000 what Allah has, and he is giving us 10 years to pay it. We need to secure 200,000 By the end of December. And so I need every single one of you to dig deep. I've been making phone calls and I've been setting up flights and I will be going myself to see what I can do. But no one is going to carry the load of another's community at large. And so every single one of you please dig within your context and within your pockets and bring forward what you can.
In the next few genoise especially before the breaks begin and people start traveling and disappearing. We need to pull together this money and the rest of it in sha Allah will be through renting out the restaurant itself or otherwise will pay the remainder after the initial 200,000 is secured. May Allah
doesn't help us to maximize this place through this new asset. May Allah fill this message by allowing us enough parking and allow us to have programs in its place that are uniquely beneficial and beneficial to an unique size of the community. Allahumma Amin from Allah Azza wa barakaatuh Vienna Muhammad Allah Who knocks on our Hamner will already tell us a kill Nerissa listen also the muslimeen Kubernetes Marina que well at the start dinner Ragna Rahmatullah chef ricotta Allah Holika Illa Allah, which are limited we are in a health condition in a vehicle from Allahu alayhi wa sallam Jana who does and Musa Dean have been I have learned I mean as well as you know how to react in a
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