Mohamad Baajour – Funerals – Be Patient – Have Ihtisab

Mohamad Baajour
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the loss of various families and the importance of grieving and mourning after death. They emphasize the importance of patience and faith in the process of divorce, and emphasize the use of Salsam in Islam. The emotional toll of a deceased family member's loss is also discussed, and the use of wreaths and burial practices is emphasized. The transcript ends with a discussion of the history of abuse and the belief that the person who died is not punished by the family's tears.
AI: Transcript ©
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Sadiq Khan Rahmatullahi

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sulla kondalilla salatu salam ala Rasulillah salam ala moana, my fauna and finally my lamp Tana? Was it nine mon Yahama Rahimi? Ask Allah subhanaw taala teachers would benefit us benefit from what he told us and increases in knowledge, any need.

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Ask Allah subhanaw taala Baraka in this gathering, and make us from the people at the end of the gathering that will be told como before I get up, all your sins are forgiven.

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And we just learned on Sunday, after Fisher, we learned that from somebody is sitting in a gathering and seeking knowledge. As long as he's sitting in that gathering, there's an angel dedicated, just to make that lumber for Allah. Ya Allah forgive him, Allahu Akbar. So, Allah make us amongst these also, I mean, so you can just imagine the failure and the blessing in this gathering.

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So we continue in Charlotte, Allah, learning, the proper,

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and the right manner, to behave when we are faced by the calamity of death. And we have to go through the funeral process and, and all that comes with it.

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And we are in chapter three right now. And the chapters title is grieving and mourning over that grieving and mourning over that.

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When death strikes, my respective brothers and sisters, when death strikes, it's natural and normal for the family and relatives and the friends, of the dead person to grieve. Even that has been regulated by our dean.

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We are told how to grieve.

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It is natural,

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to feel sad, it's natural, to cry, to be upset, but there are certain

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guidelines that have to be followed in order to do that also according to the Kitab and

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so when the calamity strikes, the believer is asked by Allah subhanaw taala. To be patient

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is asked by Allah to be to be patient and have complete trust that Allah Subhana Allah Allah will here will reward him for that affliction. Allah subhana wa Taala said

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whenever anyone can be sure you

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mean on hold, while you whenever sin mean and while you will see with

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whether she saw the screen and levena either also have it masiva to con or all in

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he can

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weather the balloon

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when the lamb

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and the newly tested Toki come into a verb, then that means that verb there's no doubt it's going to happen you're going to take place whether or not blue one knuckle

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well as well at this mountain, you will definitely hear so 100% you will be tested by what you Allah by either one of those five things or all of those five things or two of those five things. You will be tested by one of them at least what is it che in miniature? Some hunger,

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some of the fear

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loss of

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family members loss of someone dear to you, loss of wealth and loss of crops.

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That said loss of crops could mean also loss of Baraka in your

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what you have.

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What should I do with a shell? Give the Bushra give the glad tidings to anyone

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When he was afflicted, know, with a shear solder in the ones who were patient when they were afflicted by one or more of these five, where the shear is sagging and levena either of our other Tomasi, Eva, coddled instantly,

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But after two weeks of complaining, after two weeks, why me? Why this? Immediately in Lilla, we're in LA Hirado.

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You're sitting here your phone rang, your son has a car accident, in that

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you got a text message your house is on fire in a

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message your father passed away in

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a garage. This is the movement, the true believer

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in Allah,

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we always say it, but what does it mean? In Allah, I belong to Allah.

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Me, my wife, my children, my business, everything belongs to Allah.

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We're in La urogen. And to him I shall return

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Subhanallah it's very easy to say right now, as very easy for me to tell you oh brothers, make sure you say it right away. But when it hits, this is where the believer rise.

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Just like we said last week, that's Jim has football and I advise everybody was going through any kind of hardship to listen to the football job.

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One of the things we said in the football that when we are going through calamity

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remember that or compare what Allah took to what Allah has left, right.

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Similarly, when we say in early Allah

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many of us they are the first generation in the United States, right? Many of us and many of us came here

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with hardly anything, right? Maybe $100 The richest one amongst us came with $1,000 and the rest, either maybe students are hardly making it right? Right or wrong?

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Where are you now?

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You still have $100 Mashallah. You have your own homes, your own cars, your kids are doctors and lawyers and accountants will just come from in all from Allah subhanaw taala or from Allah, in Allah.

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Allah subhanaw taala gave us all these things that we have all of them without any doubt in our heart, right? They always give this example there's a brother. His name is

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Abdul Wahab

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Abdul Wahab every day he comes to you. He knocks on the door in the morning, and he gives you $10,000 Every morning. How's that?

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Beautiful Ride? $10,000 everyone.

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He stayed doing that for two years.

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When they have the rehab after he gave me the 10,000 he said you know, what?

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Can I come in?

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You're welcome.

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I'm thrilled to have came and opened the fridge and took an Apple

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took one apple

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how upset Are you going to be?

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Are you gonna be upset?

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But you're gonna say

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the fridge is from you. The house is from you.

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My children's education is because of you.

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So if he takes an apple, you're going to be upset. Take whatever you want.

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When he learned my friend, and to the hub that Abdullah hub to the hub is the biggest example. When they were hub gives us all these things. And then he picks one thing, he takes a child. He takes a house, he takes a job he takes a hand he takes something from the house in law, when they have a job, I belong to you. Everything that happens from you, you could take it wherever you want. It's an Amana right. I wish we could remember these things when we are hit by a calamity. And please remind me and I will remind you inshallah Tada because it's easy to say it now right?

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So nothing wrong with it.

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being upset. But the first thing that should come to our mind is in Allah

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Rajim Rasul Allah Allah Azza test bygrave He saw a woman crying, she lost her husband. Sort of so as I said and told her, it tequila was very it tequila was very fear Allah have Taqwa of Allah and be patient. She told him she was looking like this is not know who's talking to him, said leave me alone. You don't know what I'm going through

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Salah Salem

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Subhan Allah look at this but he's not you know who I am, you know, you're talking to nothing he left

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then she found out that was a soulless Isola.

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She ran the or assume Allah please forgive me I did not know what was you. He said for a sir.

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As a famous statement

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that account in number several, and, and submerge in older patients is indeed patients should be displayed at the beginning of the masiva at the beginning of, of the of the masiva the Hadith in Bukhari, and Muslim. So the first thing we have is patience, Jaquan patience, whatever it is, you're going to divorce, patience, you lost a job, patience. And you know, like we said in the hotbar loss of a husband was the best thing that ever happened to almost irrelevant loss of a child or soloists. I seldom have a gathering like this.

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Sitting with the Sahaba and there was one zahavi He had a beautiful son. He keeps going back and forth back and forth around the father in the Halacha.

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You do Hola. He goes around him. So as I said, I'm Takada who he missed him one day he did not see him. So he said, What?

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He said, Yeah, I saw Allah you see that child that was with him?

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said yes. He said, he's gone.

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And he's very upset. So Salah Salem went to the man and he said,

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what happened? He said he had a Salah, I lost my son,

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in that in that when they hit on your own, and then he told him, he gave him two options.

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He said,

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do you wish you would enjoy your son as long as you live? Or you will not come to any door of the doors of Janna except he's standing there waiting for you. Which one do you want? He said, Yeah, rasool Allah. I'll pick the second one. He said you got it faneca dyadic.

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So who could have imagined that loss of a child loss of her husband, loss of a daughter

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be something good for you?

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So similarly, loss of a job, as long as I'm doing what I'm supposed to do? Yeah. And the masiva and the masiva hit Alhamdulillah Cinderella when Roger and I go on with my life, then it is halal, but my small brain and small intellect cannot figure it out.

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Just like Musa alayhis salam and

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Huck there is a rocky birth is Safina de halacha cada Calacatta and

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Nimra your history Why did you put a hole this is the Safina this ship belongs to Misaki into poor people. You put a hole in it. This is a Musa alayhis salam he told them what are you doing? You've done something gotta go.

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And then at the end when Mr. Fina for again at Lee Misaki Yama Luna Finbar for our two Eva worker in our mannequins, yet who couldn't less Athena 10 H Osma.

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Turned out the hole in the ship was the best thing ever happened to the Smithsonian? Because there was a king there. He confiscate any ship that passes by and looks good. So he kept him busy fixing it and handling the enemy, the king.

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So the point is, we have no clue where the Hyatt is but our trust, our trust in Allah is so high that no matter what happens Alhamdulillah in any law when any Rajon and how the formula there's a formula that we should all abide by, man or sadaqa may occur in any you

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know, I can only use ebook.

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This is a formula. Whatever afflicted you it would have never, ever missed you.

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It's not going to miss you. And whatever missed you. It will never afflict you

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This is the formula so whatever happened has been decreed by Allah subhanho wa Taala second so first is Sabra second is that the Sabbath

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there is supper

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and there is supper with the sub

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what does this mean?

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No sub is accountable at sub is expecting reward for the patients that you have like man sama Ramadan Iman and why the seven? He's fasting not because he only he wants to fast No, he is fasting because it's an order and because he's expecting the reward promised by Rasulullah sallallahu sallam. Okay, so I am being patient not because sometimes Yeah, when as we all know, you have nothing else except to be patient. What are you going to do? You're not gonna bring back the dead

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horse. For example, Brother what happened?

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My I see you're upset. Like I lost my job. Okay, things okay.

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hamdulillah what kind of underlies this

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hamdulillah what can

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you not

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rely on? I'm sure there is a

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big difference between this and that

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they're expecting the reward. Yeah, Allah. I am going to be patient. And I know you're Allah. Where's your SIR whom Dina southern Jana.

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Look at the reward of Jana. You see always the word suburbs suburbs.

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Now saw them in Lucy but in the East nila, where may you mean Billa? Yes, the Akali

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surah Allah subhanaw taala No calamity strikes except by Allah's permission. And whosoever believes in Allah, Allah will guide

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Allah will guide his heart hamdulillah lamella can handle when a sister

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her 15 year old son passed away. People are giving her condolences. And she told them Alhamdulillah.

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Allah gave me my son for 15 years. There are people who have no kids.

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There are people who have no kids, and death, she found the brighter side. She compared herself to the people who are worse than her. They never even tasted the sweetness of having a child. And I got it for 15 years. Allah Akbar. This is yes. When I'm reminding myself and I'm reminding you, if we ever hit by such a major calamity, especially loss of a child, this is big for parents big huge.

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A woman has seven eight girls.

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People are giving her condolences.

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They're crying, and she's smiling, like taking condolences. She's smiling, and they're crying. She told them why are you crying? She's telling them why are you crying? They said, your husband died. And seven eight girls. Are you going to support them? She said, Allah I never knew that my husband was the result.

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The result is how you lay.

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This is the mentality. This is where now, now this this gathering this sitting?

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House, I'm gonna love everything is good. A man shows very strong, but

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when it hits,

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how we are going to act? How am I going to act? I'm telling you what to do. How am I going to act?

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This is the email

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Allah make us from the people who listened and apply. I mean, so

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he said in addition to patients, a person who was struck by a disaster should look forward. This is looking forward to Allah as you word them forgiveness for the disaster. Okay, Karla Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam in Allah La yada yada the abdiel movement is

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this Sufi mean? Alan sabara. What is this doing in general? If one of Allah is believing servants display

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Patience and the Sab. When Allah takes away from him a beloved one, Allah will approve for him, no reward less than Jana.

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No reward less than genuine.

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Now the shift specifically

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after he spoke about sovereign debt, he said he made a special a special chapter or a special part of the chapter about the loss of a child.

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Because that is Subhanallah and he mentioned

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many Hadith

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about losing a child

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called Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, whenever

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three of a woman's children die, they will be a shield for her from the fire.

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That's like a hadith he mentioned in the, in the Quran.

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The hadith, of man in Muslim to Cebu whom was either fire code in early Allah or in in Asia Rajim Allah Who journey female female CBT works lift me higher Mina Illa for Lawhead

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no Muslim who is hit by a calamity.

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And he says in that Allah in the era, here's your own, Ya Allah reward me in my affliction, and replace it for me with something better, except Allah will replace him with something better. Yeah, one, this is a promise from Rasulullah sallallahu sallam. And like we mentioned, almost Salah said that and she said to herself, who could be better than Abu Salah who could be better than Abu salah. Allah replaced her with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who is better than the Earth full of abbyson

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subhanaw taala

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I will let me discuss one more and we finish and

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what are the permissible acts while we're grieving? What are things that are permissible because Jaquan as we all know, no matter where you come from, whether you're out of the or non RV, we we all have a lot of bidder in our cultures a lot of bidders a lot of innovations. Right? So what are the real

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Kitab and Sunnah how to grieve? Okay, first

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can we kiss

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that body after the body

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has been washed? And inshallah Tada I don't think we're going to do this before I go to hygiene maybe when I come back from Hajj Inshallah, we will going to have a demonstration. Exactly how to perform the lesson, and the shrouding and everything in details. And giavotella There'll be a lot of volunteers, that brother because he could call when the when he's stuck in Sharla.

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Can we kiss the body after he's been washed? Can we kiss the body? The body? Of course, the face of the deceased person? Can we are no. Yes.

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Who are anybody? Those who are permitted to kiss him while he was alive, are permitted to kiss him while he's dead.

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Okay, that's number one. Number two, what is the Delete?

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What is the evidence that it is permissible Javin Abdullah reported that his father's body was covered after he was killed and mutilated.

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He uncovered his face and wept. Those around him try to prevent him from that. But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did not. When as soon as I sent him commanded that he'd be raised in preparation for burial. His sister Fatima started weeping as soon as I saw them, then a shoulder of her brother's great status with Allah LabKey masala in melodica. To the loop he asked me what he had to move, do not wait, because the angels continued shading him with their wings until he was raised.

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I shall report the prophesy send them and to dwell the body of Usman

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own was an uncovered his face, leaned over him, kissed him and cried until I saw the tears flowing on a soulless SLM cheeks. So as soon as I sent them, kissed us, man, the mother roll when he was burying him himself. Plus,

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we all know that al bakr Radi Allahu and when he was also salam, di

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He came and kissed the face of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam so it is permitted for the son to come kiss his father for the brother, the wife to kiss her husband. Nothing wrong with that in sha Allah Tala

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and this could be done after the hosel

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some people like you know make it as a

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knee they make a pull off around the coffin. Just make it in a way respectable for the for the body, you can set inshallah that don't make it like you have to kiss. If you're a very dear person, you would love to do something like this, this Milla there's nothing wrong, there's nothing wrong with that. weeping, weeping it is permissible to eat quietly over the dead, provided that it does not reach the level off. Ah wailing wailing when it reaches waiting, waiting is haram What does waiting mean?

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Screaming and yelling and ripping your and hitting your face and ripping your hair ripping your clothes And subhanAllah This is not permitted at all in Islam

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is very strictly prohibited. So we think there's nothing wrong and this was the chef mentioned the hadith of Americana, but when he went with our Salah Salem to see Ibrahim his son, when he was dying, as soon as I said and kissed him and

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Allah Azza wa sallam started shedding tears. Sandra man was surprised. He said even you cry Rasool Allah as his tears continued to fall of course I said and said yep, now in her Rama in a lie in a retina. When alkaline water in a hole in your the rub better. We're in before our kicker. Yeah, Ibrahim Zun. Oh, now it is the mercy. It is the eyes that shed tears and the heart feels sad. But we only say things that are pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala. And we are indeed saddened by your departure. Yah, yah Ibrahim. So

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When is it?

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We hear that the dead person will be punished by the crying of his family.

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Let's explain this hadith. And by that

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when is that the case? Because if that's the case all the time, then we are in trouble

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trying to hold back not to cry, the other the person not to be punished.

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Number one, when you hire somebody, and you might be surprised, but there are countries that there are people that you hire to where

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you hire to where

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she asks you for example, what are who is the person who died? You tell her son his name is

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he has four children. He was 53 years old he was this he was that you give her the description

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as if you're filling in application Yanni, she takes all the description. She makes a nice monologue edge.

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How did you leave us? Why did you leave us Yasmin? And you left us with four children? Yeah. As you start hitting yourself. She doesn't know how it looks like. She doesn't know his last name. She doesn't know who's

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she's hired to do that this is haram. This is where the if

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this is if the person did not ask for that. Okay, he will not be punished for someone else's sins. As the person who did who died before he dies, he

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in his rasiya said make sure you get some people to scream and yell and make noise. So people know that I die. This is the person who will be punished by the crime of the dead

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by the crime of the people. But if somebody cries yeah when you lost a son you lost a father husband. And you cried. This is natural. The person will not be punished by by those tears in sha Allah Tala. So

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may Allah subhanaw taala make our last deeds our best deeds. And may Allah subhana wa Tada. Forgive all our sins. May Allah subhanaw taala just like He gathered us here, gather us with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Zakon la que la FEA come handy to the

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stockbroker on a two week

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