Value of Values

Mirza Yawar Baig

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AI: Summary © The importance of values and a focus on one's own values is crucial in hiring people. They use the term " Higher Value train behavior" to describe various forms of behavior that come from values, including anger, anxiety, and depression. The speaker emphasizes the need to expose children to positive and good adults in one's circle to build a sense of pride and identity. They also discuss the use of negative language in media and emphasize the importance of differentiation in life, avoiding limiting one's point of view and asking for forgiveness.
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My brothers and sisters,

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among my books is a book I have

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written called

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Hiring Winners.

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And this book focuses on, like the title,

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Hiring Winners, so how to hire good people.

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Of course, the 4th the focus of the

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book is

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in the corporate world, but it applies to

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anywhere where you have to choose people for

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whatever the reason,

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including incidentally in marriages.

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Now one of the things that I have

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said in the book and which I believe

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is about the importance of values.

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Now if you see

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our lives, there are

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2 things that we have,

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1 is values and the second one is

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behavior.

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Values and actions.

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Values are the

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foundation from which actions arise.

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So based on the value, we act in

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a particular way.

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People of certain values act in certain ways.

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So if you want to understand behaviour, we

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say you have to go down to the

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values. What is this behaviour coming from?

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For example, you might have somebody who has

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an anger problem.

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Right? So expresses anger,

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uncontrollable, and so on.

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Now if you say, no, how can we

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control this anger? You cannot control the anger.

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You have to go to what is giving

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rise to the anger.

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What is the value in the person which

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is

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resulting in this person

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acting in that way,

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in that set of circumstances. Because you will

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find that other people who face the same

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circumstances don't act in that way.

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It's not as if it's a universal thing

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that everybody has to know. Some people like

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it one way, some like it another way.

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Anxiety is another big one.

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Depression is another one.

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People lose hope

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and then they do all kinds of things.

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So

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different

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manifestation

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of behavior they come from a different set

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of values.

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In my book, I use the term, I

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say, higher values

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train behavior.

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Higher values train behavior, meaning

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don't try to

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train values into a person because there's a

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very good reason because values are hardwired.

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They are hardwired into you

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because they come from your upbringing. That is

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the reason why it is so important to

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focus on how you raise children.

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Parents

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who

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literally parents write the script

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of their children or whether your child would

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succeed or fail,

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you are the reason

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to a huge extent,

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not entirely but to a great extent.

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And where you find that parents who have

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raised children in a certain way, the children

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have still succeeded,

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then you find some really,

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overwhelming

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effort on the part of the child who

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is now grown up to understand himself or

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herself, a great understanding of psychology

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and then enormous effort to get over the

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mental blocks and the mental models that

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the parenting

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loaded them with.

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So it is very, very important to under

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and now for a from a hiring perspective,

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it's not worth your while to hire somebody

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who is

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loaded negatively and try to cure that. That's

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not your job because you're not a you're

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not a unless you're running a counseling center

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or something. Otherwise, normally you are hiring people

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to do some work. You're not hiring to

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to change their way of thinking.

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So

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it's not doable. You can I I in

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any case, you might not even have the

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training training to do that? It's like it's

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like it's like medical I mean, it's like,

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you know, medical science. You are you are

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a doctor, you're not doctor. If you're not

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doctor, you can't go and say, I'll have

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a person. I'll cure him. No. We will

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kill him.

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So it's,

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therefore, we say that it is possible to

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change values, but it is possible like it

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is possible to change the shape of your

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nose.

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It takes surgery.

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There's no other way. Or maybe, you know,

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a boxing glove in a very hard hand.

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Otherwise, there is no other way. Shame of

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the nose, the shame of the nose. You

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want to you don't like you want to

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change it? You say, you know, I how

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do I make my nose like the like

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Barbara Streisand's nose or or

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Arnold Schwarzenegger's nose. It doesn't you have to

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go in surgery. So similarly,

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values can rarely be changed and even if

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they can be changed, it's a very very

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painful

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process. That's the reason why it's very important

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to raise children

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correctly with the right values.

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Literally, I tell parents, you are literally programming

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their success or failure.

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It is as serious as that. You are

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really programming

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their success and most parents will do that.

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They have no clue. They don't even know

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that. Obviously, no parent will consciously

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program failure for their child. Right? This is

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not possible. But you don't know.

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So it's like a bull in a China

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shop. You know, you don't understand what you

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are doing.

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And by the time you understand or if

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you ever understand that, the damage is done.

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Now value

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values incidentally have nothing to do with with

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what passes,

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for education, what we call what what we

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like to call education. That's nothing to do

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with values.

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Our education is literally different levels

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of literacy and numeracy.

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That's it. Right?

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All education can be collected into that. Different

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levels of literacy and,

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numeracy.

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Real education

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literally begins and end with values.

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So give children the right value and they

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will learn the rest on their own.

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Now what are some right values? I think

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this

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almost give

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it. Number 1 truthfulness, number 2 reliability.

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And that is why Rasool al Saram's title

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was

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truthful and reliable.

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Truthful and reliability. Then of course, value for

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your word.

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A sense of pride of identity to say

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that I don't lie.

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Value for your word.

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Kindness, compassion, bravery, nobility and a host of

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others are all values. They're not learned in

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schools

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but they are learned

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watching parents and elders

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and that is why the loss of the

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joint family system is such a huge loss

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of potential value demonstrating people in the lives

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of children.

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And that is why adab is where it

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all starts and that's what's missing in our

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society.

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Now

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since we don't live in a society with

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the joint family,

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one of the things that you can do

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and you should do is expose children to

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positive and good adults in your circle. So

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by bringing them to the budget, take them

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somewhere else, take if you have friends who

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are and then everyone doesn't need to be

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a Muslim. Please understand this.

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You have some people who are not Muslim,

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but they are absolutely fantastic people in terms

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of their values and so on, by all

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means take them there, let the children be

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exposed to

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those people Muslim or not, it doesn't matter,

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it's you're looking at the values of the

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children. Now, the question somebody asked me was,

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one of my good friends who's, he specialises

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in asking good questions, so he asked me,

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he said after listening to all this, he

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tells me, what about the values of Rasool

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Allah,

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Where did they come from?

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So do you think this was divine intervention?

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Did Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala teach him or

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did they come also from his environment? That's

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my my contention comes from environment, comes from

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family.

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For Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul

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Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul

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Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul

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Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul

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Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul

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Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul

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Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul Rasul of

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course, what Allah gave him, Allah gave him,

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but also you can clearly see if you

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read the that

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the values came from his environment.

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First of all, the reason the Arabs used

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to send their children out into

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the desert with the

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was to teach them values, to teach them

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the Arab culture,

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the Arab society,

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pure Arabic language,

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also, of course, for health reasons, but main

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thing was this,

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imbibing

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of the

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all the noble values of the Arab culture,

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hospitality,

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bravery,

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honor. Right?

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All of this. So they used to send

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them out. Specifically,

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they used to send them out for that

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reason. That's one one place where he would

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have picked up this. Second thing is if

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you again in the,

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just take the one story of his grandfather

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Abdul Muttalib

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going to meet Abraha,

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the king of Yemen

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to

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ask for his camels which Abraha soldiers had,

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stolen. Right? Kidnapped.

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The the the the the, account of a

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historical account says that when Abdul Muttalib walked

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into the tent of Abraha. And who's Abraha?

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Abraha is the Yemeni king. First of all,

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he's a king. Abdulmutall is not a king.

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Secondly, Abraha

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is coming there as a conquering or potentially

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with the intention of conquering Makkah.

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He's at the head of an army,

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he's in this tent obviously with all the

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pomp and splendor of that and he's sitting

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on a throne and so on. When Abdul

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Mutali walks in, Abraha

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spontaneously

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stands up and comes down to welcome him.

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He does not even know who the man

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is.

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Right? He stands up and comes. Now what

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does it tell you? It tells you that

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here was a man whose presence was so

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strong.

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Right? His his, the.

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The presence of the man, the the look

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of the man, how he was dressed and

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whatnot and how he walked, everything. I mean,

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all of this

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was so strong, so powerful

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that it spontaneously

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influenced the king who came with the evil

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intention.

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Right? So

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now this man, Abdul Mutaleb was the man

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that Rasool

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was exposed to on a daily basis because

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he lived with him when he was at

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a young and impressionable age of maybe about

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say between the age of about 6

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to 10 or so.

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So, values come on there. So, I want

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to close with this to say that this

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is a very very important thing that I

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remind myself and you all to think about

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and say, ask yourself what are the values

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that we are giving our children?

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Now in this process, think about this one

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line, we always say, children listen with their

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eyes,

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not with ears. Children listen with their eyes.

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They don't care what you say until they

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see what you do.

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Now many times parents don't realise you say

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things supposedly

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like a joke,

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you behave in a certain way in the

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house,

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right?

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You may use some language which is not

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so great to use,

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bad language and what not and so on.

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Children pick up every single thing.

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Children pick up everything.

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And that is how the values get created.

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I want to end with this.

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In 2020, we had,

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I was they asked me to here to

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speak at

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the Martin Luther King,

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you know, the Martin Luther King Day and,

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we're talking about racism.

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And I somebody sent me

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a little video clip,

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just about a minute or so

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of this

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small white girl, she must have been about

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2,

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in Australia

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because of the accent I could make out

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that it was Australia.

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So this little girl, she is obviously gone

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into the cookie jar and she's, you know,

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oh, eats her cookies. So the mother catches

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her and the mother says, who took the

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cookies?

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So the girl says, not me.

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Then the girl says, the boss says, no.

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You not you, then who?

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The mother says, do you mean a a

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robber came into the house? She says, yes.

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So the mother says, the robber came. He

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did not take the stereo. He did not

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take the TV. He did not take anything.

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He only took the cookies? She says yes.

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And then she says,

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he was a black man.

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Now think about that. How does a 2

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year old

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little girl in Australia

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who who I not even probably she's definitely

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never seen a black man in her life.

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How does she say black man?

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Why does she say black man?

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Obvious answer, right? So this is the this

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is how values get inculcated

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and that is how early values get inculcated.

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I always say values get inculcated with mother's

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milk,

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literally.

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In the nursery, in your lap

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and that is why it is so critically

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important to inculcate the right values in children.

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The value of

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the hashat of Allah,

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the value of the hope of Rasool Allah

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SWAN,

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the accountability fellow Swamalu Taala, the value of

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the love of Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, the

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value

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of the honor of honoring the sunnah, the

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value of love for the kalam of Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala, value for respect for elders.

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We have the Hadith, he said, the one

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who does not respect elders and does not

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show kindness to to youngsters is not from

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us.

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All of these and more, I don't want

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to go into a list of that but

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I'm saying that please give it some thought,

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children,

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your children are your creation, that is the

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reason why they are your sadaqa jariyah

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and what you create, believe me apart from

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Sada Khajaria, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala shows that

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in this life itself and I have had

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the

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pleasure and the pain of seeing both.

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I've seen peep I've seen children who are

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with their parents

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so fabulously beautifully

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that,

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you know, you feel as well. I wish

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my children are like this. And on the

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opposite side, you have children who are

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literally a curse

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to those parents. I feel sorry for the

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for the old parents but then you go

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back in history and say how did the

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child become like this? Answer is clear.

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So I request

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you and I myself and you let us

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focus on values

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and inculcate those in our children. Let's not

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simply think that you know, throwing enough money

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at them is enough, yes doctor.

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The question that doctor Saad asked was,

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he mentioned

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hadith where the meaning of it,

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said it is more difficult to change the

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nature the fitra of a person than to

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move a mountain

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and he's saying this fitra is it when

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from the late from childhood we are it's

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like building an a mountain inside your child

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What is that kind amount you are? Is

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it a mountain of gold or is it

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a mountain of coal

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or or or iron or, you know, we

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don't know what, right?

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So and that is very true, this is

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exactly what

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the meaning of the hadith,

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what Nabi Shastal meant, which is to show

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how difficult it is, it is not easy,

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it's very, very, very tough

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and that is why the entire,

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if you look at the dawah of Rabi

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sallam,

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it's not just a matter of changing your

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point of view or changing your mind about

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something, right? It's not saying I'm cheering for

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Arsenal, now I'll cheer for

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Manchester United. No. It is a lot more

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than that. It's a

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it's internal. When when when you have people

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who are

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operating in the world in a way where

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the world is important and nothing else to

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change them to the is important and the

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world is a way of earning the it's

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a complete spin,

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right? Completely, that's why I always say that

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that means that Allah has changed the meaning

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of

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net worth.

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A high net worth individual HNI

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in the pre Islamic times in Mecca was

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exactly what it is today, which is how

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much money do you have?

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And the changed the the the the definition

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of high net worth individual

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from.

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So networks became your character, network became your

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value, network became your actions,

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not how much money you have.

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So, this is and believe me that was

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not easy, but that

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was one of the most difficult things that

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you can possibly manage.

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And how difficult it is, I mean, it's

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a tragic thing to reflect on that,

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literally about

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less than 30 years

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after the passing away of Rasool Allah, we

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almost went back to went back to the

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original.

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Right? And there were people there. I'm not

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I'm not now criticizing Saab or anything, but

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there were people who saw Rasool Rasool, the

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people who spent time in the company of

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Rasool Rasool,

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There are people who

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in the next generation,

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who are in the company of Sahaba

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and we know, you know what they need,

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we know what they need. So it's very,

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very important to understand this is not easy,

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it takes time, it takes energy, it takes

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a lot of effort,

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but it is something which is worth doing

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and this is what really

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differentiates

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us from animals

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because end of the day we are mammals

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and you know, a cow is a mammal,

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a horse is a mammal or dog is

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a mammal, what's the differentiation? Differentiation is value,

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differentiation is thinking beyond

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food, clothing, shelter and physical need, it's thinking

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of something better,

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what is virtue, what is vice, what is

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something, what is kindness, what is compassion? Animals

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don't have kindness and compassion except to their

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own children, except to their own young which

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is something which is instinctive, it is not

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something which is thought about and so on.

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It

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is the potential of the human being to

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be kind to someone

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to whom is not related,

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to suffer far or

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to be strong and to fight for someone

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who they are not related to. What we

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are seeing today, for example, in all of

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these universities and so on, students standing up,

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these are people who

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have absolutely

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nothing to lose

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They're fighting against what's happening in Palestine,

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right? These students who are fighting, they will

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lose absolutely nothing

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no matter what happens if I say this

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like the moon for them. What does it

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matter to them?

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They don't know, they are not related to

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those people. They are not even the same

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religion, they have nothing in common with the

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people of Palestine, whether the people of Palestine

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live or die makes no difference to them

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but they are putting their own lives and

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their own careers and their own happiness

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and their own health and safety

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on the line for people

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they have never seen, people who they will

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probably never see.

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Why?

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Value.

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For an ideal

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to uphold something. They say, no, it is

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not true that I will not I will

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lose because I was alive. This was happening

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and I remain silent, that will not happen.

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I will speak out, majority

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of those people are not Muslim, majority, big

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majority of them are not even Muslim and

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we are Muslim,

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what must we do?

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So I don't I remind myself when you

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let us not put ourselves in a situation

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where when we stand before Allah others

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will stand there and say, you're up, we

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did not know you, but we did this.

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These people knew you, see what it

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May Allah save us from ourselves and may

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala help us to do

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that which is pleasing to him and

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which does not anger him and we ask

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not please him.

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not please him.