Khateeb and the Khutba

Mirza Yawar Baig

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Learn another human hungry lay of the land. Amina Salatu, Salam ala, mousseline, Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam just Lehman.

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Brothers and sisters, I want to talk to you about the issue of the drama.

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The Jamal footbaww is perhaps the most powerful opportunity to address our brothers and sisters to address tomorrow veterans the world in general, but which is mostly squandered.

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The purpose of this short video and this lecture is to try to help us to make the Juma football as effective as we can possibly do. inshallah. So let's begin by

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looking at who are your constituents, you meaning the party, who are your constituents.

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If you see the slide, which I made for this, you will find I have put Muslim men and women schools and universities this lecture is being done in UMass Amherst. So it's your own university. Plus, this is a city of colleges, in Northampton, you have others and so on. So it's schools and colleges, universities, Muslim women, children, media, government, Muslim scholars who are resident here as well as Muslim scholars globally.

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Any jamya and Doris that might be here. And of course, everyone else in the community, the whole purpose of the of the Juma homepage is to address everyone in the community. And that's why all of these people are your constituents. Now what I mean by constituents I mean, that these people, their welfare, their issues, what's important to them, interaction issues between Muslims and others. All of these are things that are the concern of the hottie, and the hottie must think about them and where necessary, the hottie must address them in the light of the Quran and Sunnah.

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What are the competencies for success? How can you What do you need in order to become an effective hottie language issue, obviously, so fluency in Arabic and English and whichever other language because here in America, we are talking about English, but you might be doing a foot by in Malaysia, for example. So Bahasa Melayu would be an important thing to have a foot by an Indian subcontinent, where Urdu might be an important language to have or or Bangla. For example, if you are in Bangladesh, in Sri Lanka, it would be Tamil, which is the predominantly spoken language with the Muslims in Sri Lanka and so on and so forth.

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Social Skills very important your manners, a smile on the face of approachability, all of these are extremely important knowledge and style of of speaking. So public speaking would be a very important

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skill to acquire. And with this video, I have also given you my series of lectures on making powerful presentations, which I advise you to listen to those and to practice the whole point of public speaking is that it's not a it's not a spectator sport. It's a contact contact sport. So you had you need to actually practice public speaking, in the words of, in the in the book of a book called outliers. Malcolm Gladwell, the the author of one of outliers, he talks about the 10,000 hour rule, he says that you cannot become expert in anything until you have done that for 10,000 hours. So if you are if you want to be a great team, I suggest to start now and stand in front of a mirror

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and do it.

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Then of course, networking with Muslims, wide reading technology, some level of technology savvy, and very, very important is to be open to change and, and be willing to learn. So listen to other footballers watch the footballs of there are so many wonderful speakers on the internet, watch them see what they do. But remember, at the end of the day, you are the message so your own personal behavior, your manners, you're walking, the talk is more powerful than anything and everything else.

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The whole by itself. As I mentioned earlier, it's often the only occasion for the alim.

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What you need to focus on is the primary issue of the day. See how you can interpret that for your audience in the light of Islam and suggest some solution

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variable

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And to always, always, always give people something to walk away with, what do you want them to do after this is over, you are going to be repeating this over and over again. Because it's such an important thing to do. So remember that whatever that ends, without a clear course of action is a wasted opportunity. So don't squander this wonderful opportunity that Allah subhanaw taala has given you.

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What kind of topics now three things must always be there and enough about the greatness of Allah subhanho wa Taala, glorifying him and talking about his glory and majesty, his generosity and forgiveness, His mercy, all of these things and look at our relationship with Allah subhanaw taala Allah subhanho wa Taala is all of this and the reason this is important is because I worship only Allah subhanaw taala Allah Illallah Muhammad Rasul Allah, which is the second element which is the importance of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam and the importance of his sera. So, third one is the importance of focusing on the archaea. So Allah, the Nabi sallallahu, Alayhi Salam and the ashira

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why these three because Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one we worship rasulillah salam is the one we follow. And through him we learned about a las panatela and the Acura because of the Day of Judgment we are going to be meeting Allah subhana wa tada gelato, so to prepare for that day. In addition to that suggested topics could be current events. The homebuyer is not a place for tafsir operand is not a place for

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foreign discussing masala and so on and so forth. The homebuyer is a ongoing current conversation with your congregation, so focus on issues which are important to them. But the issues of the day political issues might be general issues in society for example, drug addiction is an issue. upbringing of children is an issue. Dealing with teenagers is an issue. Parenting is an issue teaching is an issue.

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interpersonal relationships are issue there's so many different issues which relate to family, communities, society, and so on. And also very important interfaith issues because we live by large in a connected world we live in a world which is multi multicultural pluralistic, and so therefore, the hottie must also at some point in time address those issues which relate to our our relationships with other cultures and other people of other faiths and other religions focus continuously on what I call applied Islam. Therefore, what must I do and that's the bottom line the punch line of every single football should be therefore what must I do this should be clear and it

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is your job as a team to make this clear inshallah.

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Now, preparation is the key the football is only as good as the preparation and the preparation begins with connecting with Allah subhanaw taala and checking out o ne we know the Hadassah hospital seldom narrated by Omar Catalano, which is the first edition Bukhari Muslim where he heard he said I have heard summers Rasulullah sallallaahu Selim, who said in our llama Albania were in equilibrium an hour, which means the reward of deeds depends upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he or she intended. So therefore very important to start with this thought to make is the far and ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make this law of Armenia to make our near

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full of sincerity, and not something which is corrupted by our Ria which is showing off or corrupted by anything else, seeking benefit from others trying to impress people or whatever the case might be. The Nia must be pure and purified from all of these things. It must be the Nia is your only and only for the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala which is why to continuously make a stefarr while you are speaking also is very, very important inshallah.

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Now what are the sources of information when you are preparing a callback number one source is Allah subhanaw taala himself and that means to pray to God and ask Allah subhanaw taala for his help.

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I recommend this sequence for you make this a sequence in your whole life, not only on the day you're doing, but definitely on that day, which is start with agile. Britta has made a lot of work on this Renata asking Allah subhanaw taala to give you the words to reach the hearts of people before your voice reaches their ears. Tell us Martha give me these words. the hearts of people are in the end of

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their visa doesn't upset the hearts of people are between the fingers of Allah Subhana Allah and Allah can change the hearts as he wants. So ask Allah Subhana Allah

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Let's change the hearts before I even speak to them. Change the hearts connect them with yourself and make them fill their hearts with your majesty and glory make this door and do this in the huddle introduce insha Allah and ask Allah then spend after you finished praying to add to that spend time in reading for an until salata further go to the masjid place a lot of Azerbaijan a dragon sit there is thicker than the time of

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aficionado of zato de Brito rocket and touriga asked for the help of Allah subhanho wa sallam said the one who does this, who prays the Serato her mantra becomes his Kafeel becomes his sponsor and his protector for the whole of the day. We need that so ask Allah subhanaw taala. So the first source of information is Allah subhanaw taala himself. Then of course, everything else, which is the Koran itself, I had these explanations of their hobbies, zero to be zero of the sahabas biographies in general are a very good source of information and source of inspiration for what you want to say in

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science, nature, you know, literature,

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the internet, footbath and hotties, news and current events, all of these things, very important for you to use all of these. Always, always ensure that you're using authentic sources always ensure that what you speak is is backed with empirical evidence to show that what you're seeing is right and correct. Don't just pick up some report from somewhere some WhatsApp thing which is rumor or something and speak it in the foot by eight detracts from your, from your credibility.

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The basic structure of the hotbar is as follows. I'm trying to obviously, I'm sure you understand and notice that there will be some changes in difference in structure, depending on the matchup of the place where you are speaking. But what I am suggesting to you is something which will work with all the ones so you are safe as long as you do that. Number one starts with Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim started the football with that, as you come on to the member, say Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh when sidda then the was it we'll call the other and after you call the other you stand up and you say Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim, Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen. And

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then you remind people to have Taqwa. The simplest thing is to memorize the Muslim football, the Football Club, which is very easy, which has the two or three is relating to taqwa in that. So say that and after that, give your message whatever football you have prepared, you talk about that. Give you a message. And then usually I suggest give half the message that sit down, make a step far and stand up again. Start again with Bismillah R Rahman Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen. And then certain salutations and salatu salam, Salam and the Sahaba Saba. And after that, give the rest of your message and then make dua and after the dua, user Aki masala and the Salah has been

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established, and then come down from the member and the magazine will call the cover and then you lead Salah, this is the structure

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of the hotbox. Now, keep this structure in mind this is very important for you to keep the structure in mind as you go forward. However, one point I want to make is remember, that the structure which I mentioned to you is the structure that is used generally in the Shafi Muslim Muslim and in most countries in the Middle East and in America and Malaysia and so on so forth. In the ohana with the with the followers of Abu hanifa Talalay, which is would be most of the Indian subcontinent would be mostly in South Africa. in Sri Lanka, Sri Lanka depends on Basilicata Shafi

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sometimes some places in the UK and some of the Hanafi masajid in America also the structure is slightly different, which is that your super meaning the lecture that you prepared is not given on the member. So before the other of the member, they will ask you to speak so you speak for that time you deliver your whole lecture completely fully standing on the on the floor or maybe sitting in a chair if you like whatever you finish that after that you get up on the member says Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. The Muslim will call the other and then you do the Arabic football alone in two parts between the two parts of sit down and then you finish with a simple salad and you come

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down and you leave the salad. So this is the these are the two ways in which the food was delivered. Now before you

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Begin I am sure you will do this but I'm just I just want to cover all the points before you go into any budget before you begin that ask the Imam of the masjid. What their norm is, either of these methods is fine Alhamdulillah and you can follow whichever it is but follow the method for that Masjid so that there is no unnecessary confusion in the minds of people. One more very important thing, try to learn something about the congregation try to learn something about what they do in that place for Juma I have found the safest thing to do in whichever must use you are is to do the ban which is the football in the half massages when you stand on the floor and you give the target

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is called the ban. So but it's obviously it is a football

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or in the other case where you are on the member. Either way, just do that alone. Don't lead Salah if you can get away with that you are lucky tell the man let him let him do the salah and you do the hotbar alone. The reason I'm saying that is in many cases

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masajid have communities have different things they do after the Salah in some cases after the Salah the Imam will will make dua bill Shahar would make dua loudly in their local language. So in India for example, it is done and so forth. So this is one thing which they do in some other cases I've seen in many Malaysia, massages in Malaysia and so on. They do the does refer to me the vicar, which is the Muslim the Coronavirus, Allah, they do that loudly, the man will lead that sucker and they do that they care loudly and so on. So, now you depending on whatever massage you are following, you may or may not want to do all of that. So the best thing is don't get into any of that controversy.

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Don't get into the issue of you know, is it permissible or not permissible, that's not your role there. So just go do the hotbar tell the man please do whatever you need to do. Now if the Imam does not agree to that sometimes they don't sometimes they will insist on asking you to leave the salon. This is an honor for you. I'm the lead and nothing wrong with you. Please leave this Alhamdulillah they are honoring you. So accept it and then tell the man as soon as I finish the Salah, I'm going to move aside and I will follow whatever you do. So please continue whatever you do normally in your budget. The reason I'm saying that is because

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the congregation does not know you the congregation does not know your mother the congregation does not know what you follow what you don't follow. And the congregation does not need to know that also the as I said that's not your job there to convince them for one thing or the other. So, if you get involved in all of this if you do something which you wished with a variation does not know or if you don't do something with the normally do it creates confusion. Also for those of you who who know the different ways styles of recitation and so on, please understand that the Juma Salah is not the place where you want to suddenly demonstrate a way of recitation that people will not be familiar

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with because you will cause endless confusion you are right in reciting in that way. But people don't know that most people don't know that and they will think that you have made a mistake. They will think that the Salah has gone bad because the mama decided hold on wrongly, and it creates a lot of confusion. Don't do that do the recitation in the normal way which is which is what we always hear everywhere and whatever is done in that place. Don't try and experimentations in the in that place. That is the Juma is not the time for all that. Finally, very, very important.

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dress in a dignified way and the dignified me way means to cover your head rasulillah salam used to the the Hadees of a number of Ilan Omar and others. Rami Sana Sana always gave the hopper with a turban on his head. The terminal is sometimes tied in over a cap or over a helmet or just the turban by itself on his blessed head. But restaurant did not give the hotbar with a bear with his head bear. So please don't do that wear a topi wear, wear a cap wear a turban is the best hamdulillah This is because this is the beauty of Islamic dress. Always do that don't do not go on to the member. It's not the member is not just you know another place to sit right. So don't go there

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wearing some jeans and T shirt or something and put your hoodie up or something. Please don't do any of this stuff. Take the travel time and travel to prepare for the football, which includes your appearance. If you don't want to do that, then don't give the hub as simple as that.

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Now, I call this the three R's, the pre work that you need to do research, record, rehearse.

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Good research is critical to impact. If you as I mentioned earlier, don't say anything without a theory. Right? This is not the place for you to tell stories. If you have

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I have a story to tell there should be a record of that there should be a deli for this mentioned the book mentioned the place from where you got the story. Number two is record write down your foot bus, I have given you and I will give you a list of four of my four of my football books, each one has 52 football in it, the fifth book is being getting ready. So that will be another 52. So totally, you will get a set of 250 or 160 of us right now, for you, the students here and my friends here, all you need to do is start with the first foot by the first book, go to the end of the fifth book, and by then it is 252 foot buzz meaning five years and you would have graduated and gone off

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from here. You know, even if you were bastard, so I think it's a

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good resource for you, inshallah. And Angela, these books are used in different countries in the world for the training of cadets, the reason I am saying mentioning this to you is because the reason I have five books and inshallah as long as I live, they will continue and as long as I give God but the reason I have that is because I write them down. Please write for us there are there are literally hundreds of 1000s, maybe even millions of teams all over the world giving beautiful hot baths, with beautiful thoughts and so on and so forth. But they are not recorded so they are lost. So we nobody knows who said what, that's a terrible tragedy. Don't do that. Write down your

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homework. Another big reason for writing down the hookah is because you also want to record what you said. So that you can go back to it and you can you can you can reframe it, you can, you can use it and so on and so forth. Third thing is you have done all the research, it makes eminent sense to record that research in a place where it is available for you to refer to it where you need. And then finally the third are rehearse, rehearse, rehearse, rehearse, even for the world's greatest expert, rehearsing is absolutely critical, absolutely essential. Because impact is directly proportional to preparation. If you didn't prepare your impact will not be there. As simple as that

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there's no magic. It's just a matter of correct practice. Standing in front of a mirror today it is so easy. Just pick up a phone with you get a get one of these phone tripods. stick up your phone and record yourself played back and you will realize what you're doing. No, you don't need anyone to train you. You can train yourself. The simplest thing is that record yourself laid back and listen to yourself, watch yourself on on the on the video, and you will know what you're doing right you will know what you're doing wrong. And you can correct yourself. It has technology has made these things so easy for us today.

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Now, delivering the hotbar

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rehearse, revise, record, revisit for hours, rehearse, revise, record, and revisit. I'm not talking about the actual football. Always, always, always rehearse before you get to the football. Then you revise that after you rehearse, revise it, and so on. And so make sure it's perfect. And then when you are actually delivering the recording, get your phone, put it in your pocket, have a mic attach it. It's very simple. The technology costs nothing you already have it in your pocket. But record your recorded No need to have a video recording of the footage if you if it is arranged by the budget, that's fine. But don't worry about that. Just have an audio record and play it back when you

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get back home. See what you did see what you said and correct it the way you want it. Understand the audio recording is also a very good safety measure in today's world. Because sometimes people misunderstand what you're saying. Or maybe somebody is being mischievous that they want to corrupt or they want to you know turn around what you are what you have said and and create some negativity out of it. If you have a recording audio recording then that puts paid to any of the any of those attempts, you can simply play it back and people know exactly what you said. So always record your football it's not a matter of showing off to anybody after you want if you want to throw the record,

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but always record your foot by it's a safety issue. I recommend this to all massages as well record the hotbar of everyone who speaks in your budget. This is good for your own safety. Now, in the home, nobody is going to be doing you are going to be giving solutions from an Islamic perspective here is an issue here is Islamic perspective. How must I do that? We have issues with the with the raising of children. We have the issues with employment, we have issues with people getting stressed out with their work, we have issues with people falling into haram transactions in order to make money or in order to buy a house or whatnot. We have issues with manners with the club with Mr.

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millet with with our dealings with each other. Whatever might be the issues. Here's the issue and here is the solution. Don't talk about the problem alone continuously. Go

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on talking about the problem complaining, complaining, complaining only gets people depressed. There's nothing beneficial out of that. So don't do that. Avoid all negativity, never give negative messages. Always, always, always focus on the positive. Because we believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala Jenna Dillon, who, whose power is unlimited, whose treasures are unlimited, whose ability to do things is unlimited. And we asked him now What on earth is there to be negative about Tell me, I mean, if if we don't have hope, then Who in the world should have hope? This is a this would be absolutely tragic if we projected ourselves that way. So please don't do that no negativity, talk

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about the issue. It is difficult Alhamdulillah it's like the weights in a gym. The weight is heavy Alhamdulillah. When I lift, that heavy weight is going to pay, it's going to hurt. But every pain is building muscle. It's building my strength. So Alhamdulillah that's the approach to take. I keep saying it again. And I would say it again, focus on the takeaway focus on the action. At the end of this hook bow. What do you want people to do?

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As I mentioned, again, the hotbar is not storytelling, the whole pie is not a intellectual discussion of a theological point, the hope is not a fear of the horror, the hotbar is a call to action. And therefore it must be clear to people what they are calling what you are calling them to, and what is it that you want them to do. So always keep the structure in mind. And keep your notes in your hand. You don't need to you don't need to refer to the notes if you don't want to, but keep them in your hand or keep putting them on the lectern in front of you in a way that is easily accessible, right? Be careful, don't have the notes unpinned. And then you have the papers get

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interchanged. And now you are searching around for papers on the on the lectern looks, everything looks very bad. Please don't do that. clip them. Make sure that the pages are always numbered when you print them. If you don't want to print them, put it on your on your device, whatever it is, but ensure the pages on our number. And new follow that script.

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three stages in the hood, get attention, keep attention punch line, get the attention by defining the topic, I am here to talk to you about how to give a great hope. straightaway. This is my topic. This is what I'm here to talk to you about. Keep attention. Give me attention. Remember, everyone listens to the to this particular FM channel. What's that channel? It's called wi I FM? What's in it for me? Imagine that everyone in front of you is asking you this question. What's in it for me? Why must I listen to you? Why must I pay attention to you? Obviously people won't ask you that question because it's impolite. But believe me, it's a safe assumption to make that they have this question

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in their minds. So address that question. answer that question for them. Why should they pay attention to you? Why should they look at you? Why should they listen to you? Very important to understand is W III FM. What's the FM station that everybody listens to W III FM this applies to the hotbar this applies to every human communication, whatever it is, when you are talking to people keep this in your mind and you will find you will become a very effective communicator because you are addressing that unspoken, but very powerful need in the mind and heart of everyone. Why should I listen to you? So get their attention by stating the topic upfront. keep their attention by

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addressing what's in it for them. And third line, the third thing, the punch line, what do you want me to do? I have listened to you. I believe you. I accept it. I accept what you say. I like what you're saying. Now what do you want me to do? This is the message that you need to give them so give them something to take away something to do after they get back home or get back to work or wherever they're getting back to. That is very critically important. three stages, get attention, keep attention, punchline.

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My brothers and sisters here is a picture of the member of Rasulullah sallallahu.

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If you see that that is the mirror that is where he used to stand to give the hotbar

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if you are facing that that mirror up on your left is the Rosa mobarak May Allah subhanaw taala grant us all the privilege of praying in the space between his house and his Rola between his mother and his member, which he called ariados. Jana, he said this is the garden of Jana. Pray in that garden of Jana and then make door to Allah you permitted me into Jana. Now do not send me away out of jail because Allah subhanaw taala said the one who was entered into Jenna will remain that Alhamdulillah we pray in the

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Rather generalized message and who Sharif with this belief that this is the one of the gardens of Jenga, as I mentioned this and make this drop, and I make this door for you that may Allah subhanaw taala grant you to Ricardo Salah at least in a rather famous shape and consider this as your entry into Jannah in the AFA Allah that Allah will not send you out of the agenda, that now that he has allowed you into his gender. My reason I'm saying all these numbers, sisters is that you Mr. karate, when you are standing on the member, you are standing in the place of mohammadu Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, do not disgrace that position, by how you appear by what you say. And

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by how you say it. Remember that you are standing in the place of self respect that honor that and ensure that you do not do anything to bring disrepute or disgrace to the position of the number of the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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fulfill the right of the member, what is what is the right of the member number one is that you speak only the truth. Don't try to please anybody. Continuously seek the forgiveness of Allah subhanaw taala speak only to please Allah subhanho wa Taala and nobody else fear only Allah and nobody else and very important, never take money to do the hot. Please understand, if you can't do that, if you cannot speak the truth, if you are afraid of people and you are not afraid of Allah, and if you are taking money to the hopper, please don't do that do not do the hot buy if you cannot follow these three rules of mine do not do that. Because understand, to pray Juma is for to do the

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haka is not fun, do not do something which is not even fun. And do it in a way where you become culpable before Allah subhanaw taala and you are Allah protect you and forgive you. If he does not forgive you that allies will can punish you. Don't put yourself in that position makes no sense whatsoever. So understand that to listen to the goodbyes for to give the hope is not for if you can't do it with the integrity of the haka, which means you speak only the truth, you fear only Allah and you take no money for the hook, but under any pretext. If you can't do that, don't do that. As simple as that, right. Continuously make as far as you are speaking in your heart,

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continuously make a stefarr. Continuously check your class, continuously ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to forgive you, and to save you from saying something which is harmful for yourself and the people and with displeases Allah subhanaw taala as a law to protect you or to ask Allah to protect your heart. This connection is extremely important, right through the footpath and event of Mr. Farr. Once again, now on the member, please understand people listen with their eyes. People listen with their eyes, they don't care what you say, until they see what you do. So three things that you need to do in order to build your confidence, one, prepare, do your homework to do your homework, three,

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do your homework, there is no substitute for homework, if you did not do your homework, nobody can save you. So make very sure that you have done your homework. Now,

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culture is very important the culture of the place and the culture of the audience and in the culture, what not to say is more important than what to say. It doesn't matter if you didn't say something, but if you say the wrong thing, it can have all kinds of bad effects. So ensure that you know the audience ensure that you learn about the audience ensure that you understand if there are any taboos, if there are things that the that in that particular country that you should say or you shouldn't say, the first time I spoke in Malaysia, for example,

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the Mamma Mia, Allah bless him. He told me that in Malaysia, we send salatu salam on rasuna sasana in both parts of the footman, the first one, and the second one both, the usual thing is that we do that in the second one only. But he said here we do it on both after sending salatu salam and Osasuna, more of the better for us. So therefore, I was able to do that. But that's because I first listened to the mom and I requested him and I asked him to advise me so as I talk to the local people, they will tell you, if there is what is in their culture, what should you speak, how should you speak? Find out if there are women also in the masjid in some cases they may not be but if they

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are then ensure that in your in your address, you are also addressing the women who say my brothers and sisters

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If there are no sisters there, then of course, you don't need to do that. But don't ignore the women if there are women also there and you just keep saying my brother, my brothers, then the women will feel that they are being ignored, which is what they're being taught. So don't do that.

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Talk about even your giving examples and so on. Talk about gifts, similes, give examples, which makes sense in that culture. Don't give an example from whichever country you come from, which does not make sense in the culture of the people that you are speaking. Please understand, especially for those of you who give hot buzz in America, and so on and so forth. Just because the person looks like you doesn't mean they are like you meaning that, for example, somebody of my generation, I'm India, I am very comfortable living in America, I speak English fluently. I have lived here for many years, but I am Indian, my soul is Indian, my I'm busy. And that's my soul. But children were born

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and grown up in America, children from from people of my race, they will look like me, but they are inside. They are completely different. They are American, their culture is different. Their understanding is different, their thinking is different. So if I speak to them the same way that I speak to my congregation, back home, back home, it won't work. I have to speak to them in the context of their culture. Please understand, don't sit in judgment on any culture. There's no such thing as a good culture and a bad culture and villa. Islam is wide open, as long as any culture satisfies the basic principles of Islam, of truthfulness, of dignity, of mutual respect of non

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discrimination, and these things Alhamdulillah every single culture is good. It is not necessary to alibis, Islam in order to make it acceptable to people please understand this is not necessary to alibies Islam. It's not that Arab Islam is superior to some other Islam. No, it is not. Islam is Islam. Islam is not Arab Islam or Indian Islam or Pakistani Islam, or American Islam or Australian Islam. Islam is Islam. The basic principles of Islam as I mentioned to is tawheed. It is the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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It is the following are Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa he was Abu Salah, it is practicing truthfulness, and compassion and integrity and, and brotherhood and, and mutual respect, and total and complete non discrimination, non racism in everything we say. And in every speech and every time we speak in every interaction of ours is to practice all this, that is Islam, whether it is done in Arabic or in English, or in French, or German or in Swedish makes no difference. Islam is Islam no matter where it is. So keep your mind open, keep your heart open, every culture is welcome. Every way of life is welcome, as long as it is within the purview of the boundaries of Islam.

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Alhamdulillah don't impose your mother or your understanding of Islam on other people. And make them feel that as that if they don't confirm exactly to what you are, then somehow they are bad Muslims or they are weaker Muslims or they are not Muslims at all. This is not from Islam, please understand this. Know the audience know the culture, use language which is acceptable to that audience. And don't say something which will, which is which has the potential of causing a controversy or causing people to be offended? Be very, very clear, in that that's why I say that knowing what not to say is even more important than knowing what to say.

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Hands now these are funny things. You know, many people when they stand up on a platform to speak is when they discover that they have hands and then they don't know what to do with them. Definitely don't keep them together because they become they are very good friends and then you will start find your gesturing with two hands, which looks very funny.

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Don't have them by all sides as if they don't belong to you as if they are their sleeves or something. best thing to do is bring your hands up in this space between your chin and your belly. What the middle of your body, bring the hands there, leave them they will do the right thing. It is a very natural, instinctive reaction where our spirit our hands follow our speech. So even people there's research done even with people who are blind, that when they speak their hands gesture. So gestures are the most the most natural thing. Bring the hands up in the around the middle of your body. Leave them there, keep them visible. Don't put them behind your back. Definitely don't put

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them in your pockets, keep them here visible and leave them and they will make the right gestures. When you get more and more practice then you can consciously make gestures which

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Make sense, like counting out things, 123, and so forth, and other kinds of gestures you can make. But don't worry too much about that.

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Stand in front of a mirror or practice until you become comfortable with your hands. Now with the voice,

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speak from the heart. So let the emotion come through, right. If you feel strongly about something, let it come through. If it brings tears to your eyes, no problem, let the tears let the tears flow. Don't try to cry that that's real. That is hypocrisy. Don't Don't do that. But if you are saying something, because of the glory and majesty of Allah subhanaw taala or because of the nature of whatever you're saying, just come to your eyes Alhamdulillah there is no problem. Just wipe them like this and you're done. Right. Uh, modulate your voice use inflection. Don't speak in the same flat tone throughout. For this you have to also

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practice the vocal cords are muscles. So the vocal cords need to practice. One of the ways of practicing is to practice the scale. If you go to go on YouTube and look at

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a vocal vocal singing and look for scales in English.

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In Western music, it is doremi faso allottee do and in Indian classical it is saregama pata Nisa. So practice those scales up and down, up and down, up or down, so that your vocal cords get strengthened. This will help you also to project your voice, it led you to speak at the right volume. The volume at which I am speaking to you now in this room with the number of people is perhaps on a scale of one to 10 is perhaps perhaps at say five or so which is appropriate or maybe at seven, it can be a little louder. But anything which is louder than that becomes very unusual and acceptable and very painful. So no matter how passionate you are about something, don't shop, do not

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shop, especially where there are bikes and you will always have a bike, do not shop, there is nothing more painful than your voice blasting at people from all over the place. Sometimes you will get very passionate and they're screaming into the mic. Please do not do that final point speed of speech. I won't tell you speak at the speed of so many words per minute, because there is no way you can you can measure that as you speak. The best way to modulate your speech in terms of speed is to pronounce all the words as simple as that just pronounce all the words and you will be doing good. If you as long as you pronounce all the words, you will find that you are speaking at an appropriate

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speed. If you run your words into one another, you're speaking too fast that become too fast and impossible to answer. Now, this is what Don't, don't, don't, don't go Don't go there. And if you are speaking very slowly, then people will go to sleep. So don't do that. Either way, speak at the right pace and what is the right pace? What is the right speed for rounds? All the words right? So please be very sure.

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And that you do this

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on the member. I always remember the advice that was given to me by one of my shoe for how to lay

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out how to lay down he said to me asked him I said tell me he was a beautiful Fantasticks be very powerful speaker. I told him Jeffries how do you do that? How is it that you speak so powerfully? He said to me I'll say to you what he said to me though because he's spoken and then I will translate it for for the others. He said to me Allah tala k heart may bursary

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to fear Allah ke ours Nicolay Allah ke kapa hum ham manotick budget. Now battery is a flute. Now those of you if you know what a flute is actually do what is inside of root, nothing. A flute is a tube, it's a it's an empty tube, right it has a holes, and the flute player then blows into the float and where he puts his fingers. That kind of that tone comes out that is the the sound was a flute that comes out is decided not by the flute, not because of anything in the flute, but by the one who is playing the flute.

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Now he said to me, become a flute in the hand of Allah subhanho that empty yourself. remove yourself from between the word of Allah and the people, empty yourself. Then Allah subhanaw taala will cause you to say that which he wants the

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slaves to hear what he wants the people to hear. Allah will cause you to say that if you put yourself in the middle, then that message will get corrupted with your ego with your with your own.

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Personal ulterior motives, and so on and so forth. So he said, remove yourself from the middle. I think that's the most beautiful advice that I ever got. And I'm sharing that with you. Let the message flow, empty yourself, remove yourself, make do and see Allah remove me, let your word get to your people make eye contact, over hand gestures speak to people. Now when you are standing with a member, because depending on what kind of member sometimes I have spoken and massage member was high up in the air, and really you can't see anybody because you are up there somewhere. And you are speaking that case, just speak to the audience. But usually the member will be at a reasonable

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height and you can see people who can talk to people. So talk to people don't try to talk to the whole room. Because you can't do that talk to the people sitting in front of you talk to people on either side. But talk to actual people look at them at their face buyer at them and talk to them. That is what will make your football you know something which they will be they will pay attention to that. Don't scan the room. There is nothing written on the walls. If you forgot you forgot, just move on. Right stands straight. And while it is not your funeral, it is not yet. So smile. It's a mix a big big difference. Don't stand up there like death warmed up. Don't scowl don't have a

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dissatisfied expression on the face. You will be surprised many many people do that. And the reason they do that these are unconscious things. They're not doing it deliberately. That's why I say record yourself and playback. That's the best way to find out then there is no you can't blame anybody for for for saying anything to you because you see for yourself. And always be soft spoken. Don't shout Don't scream.

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Don't get angry with people and speak from the heart. speak from the heart. Many of you who have

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who have endured me over the many years you will say that you know you're saying Don't be angry with people who sometimes you are angry. Believe me I am when I'm angry. I'm angry only with people who I love very much and they love me and I know them and they told me never, never not anywhere else. So

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they have been suffering me for many years and May Allah subhanaw taala reward them for that general rule. Don't do that. Be kind be nice, be soft poker. That is the

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that's the safest thing to do.

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Now,

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that's good enough for the law class. There is nothing that supersedes that before you come to the member. It's like being in a

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in a in a martial arts tournament. Whether you win in that tournament or not depends on what you did before the tournament. As somebody said, I can't recall who said it, but it's a very beautiful, beautiful quote, not mine. He said if you want to look good before 1000s of people

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that depends on what you did for 1000s of hours when nobody was watching. Right? If you want to visit as he said, if you want to look good before 1000s of people, whether you whether you can succeed or not depends on what you did for 1000s of hours, but nobody was watching. So tuska and tarbiyah your own heart, we need to purify our hearts, free them from hatred, free them from greed, free them from all forms of negativity, and fill them with the door of Allah subhanaw taala filled them with the hope and habit of Ahmed Mustafa sallallahu alayhi wa sallam filled them with doc or Allah subhanaw taala alone and relying only on an only Allah subhanaw taala. purify the heart does

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not appear to laugh, laugh, always be nice and be polite and be kind and be compassionate and be generous. This is the this is important because you are the message and very, very, very important. humility, be humble. Because Allah subhanaw taala only supports the humble.

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Allah does not support those who are not humble unless marital and mentioned in the martial law, mini body heal Allah Allah. Allah said that the people the people who have knowledge of Allah, Allah, the people who have knowledge are people with Harsha Inuyasha la minima de Allah, Allah said that

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the people who

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have among the bad among the slaves of Allah subhanaw taala those who have questions are the people who are Allah. So therefore, humility, for the protection of Allah subhanho wa. Those who are arrogant Allah will test Allah subhanaw taala will put you into difficulties. If you show arrogance. And if Allah puts you into difficulty, believe me, there is no one who can save so never

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have always monitor your heart for kibber and Rhea, I always say kibber arrogance is the is a personal illness of two kinds of people, O'Meara and orama, the kings and the rulers and people with authority and the Oliver people with knowledge of people who think they have knowledge. This is cable, which is arrogance is their personal problem that is their personal illness of the heart, to which they are most susceptible. So kibber Andrea is the other big problem because Rhea ashik, to show off is sick. Imagine what a tragedy that would be that you are giving this beautiful hot bath, which everybody loves. And it is actually doing good to a lot to a lot of people in the in the

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congregation, but you are doing it to show off you are doing it to, to appear to be this great scholar with before the people. And so you are committing shift. So at the end of the day, when the tally is done by Allah subhanaw taala you get a zero when other people benefit, because of what you have said, how tragic is that? Don't do that yourself. Always monitor your heart, for Ria and for kibber. And continuously make stefarr.

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I have said this 1000 times I'll say it 1000 times more make that joke for on yourself. If you want the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The way to get that is to

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now I'm going to do some quick recapping What must you do regulating of visual input, it's very important because what happens is that nervousness happens when you stand before an audience, people looking at you. It's almost like the rays coming out of the eyes of people impacting on your eyes. And when that happens, you become very nervous. The more people watching looking at you, the more nervous you become. Now I'm going to teach you a trick. The trick is look at people but Lord look directly to their eyes, look at about this level at their forehead, it will appear as if you are looking at them. But you will avoid this direct eye contact, which can create a lot of nervousness

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in you unless you are extremely experienced in this in this case. But always do that. So look there, but don't look away. Don't look at us at the sky. Don't look at the ceiling. Don't look down. Don't look at the walls. Look at the people but don't look directly into their eyes. Now, when you're speaking, lock your eyes with one person, complete that thought which you are going which you are doing. Take a deep breath. And then go to another person, complete a thought with that person. Pause Take a deep breath, go to a third person, complete a thought with that person. Take a deep breath. This is how you cover the people in the audience. It's not a tennis match, don't keep don't talk and

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go up and down like this. Don't do that. And don't get stuck with one person because you have this person with a friendly face sitting right in front of you who's nodding and so on. And you get stuck with one person. Don't do that. Look at a person lock your eyes with one person and lock your eyes doesn't mean you know deep gaze deeply into their soul. I mean, just look at them. Look at them. Complete the thought. Take a deep breath and then go to another person.

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Don't shut your eyes well speak. I mean there is some some people who have good speakers, but they shut their eyes while they're speaking. And it looks very, very odd. You are It looks as if you've forgotten something you're trying to concentrate. Because your eyes are sharp. See how bad it looks. Don't do that. Do not do that yourself. By all means be be cheerful. But don't be frivolous. Don't make jokes. Some humor coming as a as a consequence of the natural part of the flow of your conversation is fine. But don't tell jokes. The hotbar is not a place for frivolousness. And for joking.

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I mentioned gestures already. Let your gestures emphasize key points. I want you to remember three things 123. So you're emphasizing key points, right? So be be very clear about the gestures. Don't make purposeless gestures don't keep moving around. I tell people usually don't carry anything in your hand because if you have something in your hand, you will keep fidgeting with it and then it will drop and you will drop it and all that similarly anyone who was wearing a ring and so forth, I sometimes tell people remove the ring put it in your pocket because the ring is there then the tendency is to keep playing with the ring. Don't do that. Keep your hands free the hands are

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necessary for gestures. Understand everybody is nervous. Anybody is people are nervous. Two things to do with or about nervousness, the more you rehearse, the more you prepare the less nervous you will be and secondly, stand straight smile, look at people and inshallah your nervousness will not be there continuously make dua to Allah subhanaw taala final point on this on the on the matter of gestures. Please understand that gestures are culture specific. There are some

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features which are peculiar to some cultures that are the same gesture done in another culture can be offensive. So, be clear about the culture the people who are talking, for example, in this culture in America, if I if I want to agree with you, I will say fantastic, great job brilliant, right. So, this gesture is a positive gesture in this culture, but in some other cultures, this gesture means, you know, you are useless, go away, get out a worthless, you know, a metallic hat I imagine the same guy, same gesture, in some other culture, it can become negative. So, be very clear about that about what you do with gestures.

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Now,

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cheerful, sincere speak the language of

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togetherness, join hearts, do not speak the language of divisiveness, right? Be very, very clear in your mind, do not speak the language of divisiveness do not give any traction to anyone who speaks the language of divisiveness. The quota is not and the member is not the place divisiveness. In any case, there's no place for divisiveness in Islam anyway. So please don't do that. Be careful of nationalities. Be careful of gender. Be careful of ethnicity of people, and ensure that you are not universally something which is offensive to anybody in the audience. And finally, I repeat myself, deliberately give people something to do. Don't just leave there without giving a clear message of

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what you want people to do after they go home.

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reminder about dogs never speak without preparation. If you have not prepared don't do if you are going to do a full bath, always prepared. Number two, never use the member to attack people doesn't matter what your justification is. Do not criticize people from the member they will use the member to attack people. Number three, the member is not the place for you to speak about controversial issues. So never speak about controversial issues. Never say anything without it's really very important to have your dialogue clear. And never say something which is discriminatory, which is divisive or defamatory. Always Always remember these things.

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We are coming to a close the ending of our of our lecture just a few more points I want to make. Use the language of the Quran, right? recite the IR learn to recite it properly and recite the app the Torah. Don't just give the translation. Use the words of the Quran. For example, say I don't say verse. The Quran is not a book of verses not a book of poetry. It's a book of if it's a book of science, say Allah don't say God, because Allah is the proper noun and is the name of Allah subhanaw taala. God is a generic term. So don't say God, say Allah. Don't say, Silva don't say Lord, because people interpret Lord in their own way. Right? Not Ganesha, Lord Krishna and so on, so forth. Lord

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Rama, we are not talking a lot we sing Allah subhanho wa Taala Buddha, Allah me. He is the rub, say Jana and Jana don't say paradise and hell say taqwa don't say fear Allah. The reason is many times people say oh, but you see, they don't understand. If they don't understand they will ask you a question that opens the door for power for you. The fact is that they will not add they will not understand they will understand it in their own way, which is wrong and which is different from your perspective. So when you are using a term in your over anxiety to for people to understand, you're actually using terms which the meaning of which is completely different from the way that term means

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in in, in Islam. So therefore, use the actual language of the Quran and understand that when you say that people it will prompt people to ask you questions, which is the best thing for you as far as the power of Islam is concerned. So quick recap. 10 points. First of all, check your class and ask Allah subhanaw taala for it. Number two, stand straight, smile and cover your head. Number three, keep your notes handy. And speak with other say Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say Abubakar Cydia, Fabiola cuando se

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la se la favela. No. See I live in avatar libro de la Jose Ayesha Siddiqa, viola da da da da da, da, da da da da da da Don't say no more said this. Rasulullah said this. No. Always, always, always addressed them with respect that is their view.

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That shows your own other anybody who speaks without other on the member is not fit to be on the member anyone who is on the member and he simply says Muhammad and Abu Bakr and Omar and I aspire and so forth is unfit to be a hottie. So don't do that speak with other because it is their right and it is a mark of your own

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belonging to the omata Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, speak from the heart and speak only to please Allah number five, recite Quran and give a lot of power to the congregation. It is your it is their right that you should make dua for them and it is your duty as a hottie to do that. Please understand, it is not a performance. So substance over style. Very important.

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be optimistic numbers point number six be optimistic and be positive never complain. If we don't have optimism if we Muslims don't have positivity then Believe me Who on earth should have it. Number seven, be cheerful, sincere, genuine smile. Number eight never speak about controversial issues. Number nine never say anything which is divisive, discriminatory, or nasty, or defamatory in any way. And number 10 give them a takeaway some action to do back home. always speak kindly, and always speak the language of togetherness. ask Allah subhanaw taala general Jalla Delano to be pleased with you to inspire you to say things that will please him to inspire you and give you the

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words which will reach the hearts of people. ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to accept orders and to give you in keeping with his majesty and grace, and to reward you with the best of the best ask Allah subhanaw taala to make your hotbars a witness for you in your favor and a means of increasing the weight of Asana on your scales. On the day of judgment was Salalah hora Nabeel curry while he was iph by b Rama Tikka hamara Hemi now al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen