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Mirza Yawar Baig

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah

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in Alhamdulillah. Wa Salatu was Salam ala ashrafi ambia. vida Allah He was happy he will Manuela.

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My dear brothers and sisters.

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There are two kinds of people in the world,

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the sheep and the shepherds.

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So the first thing that you need to do is to decide which one you are.

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Because if you want to be a sheep,

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then I suggest to go to sleep. Because I do not know the language of sheep.

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And then when the goodbyes over, I'll wake you up.

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But if you are one of the shepherds or you want to be one of the shepherds, then listen carefully. Because this is a football about shepherds

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and the title of the hallway his friends, why they are important and what to do about them.

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The first thing I want to say to you is that being a leader means to take hard decisions, and to like being alone.

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Being a leader means to take hard decisions, and to like being alone to like your own company.

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Because the tiger walks alone,

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sheep have plenty of company.

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You never see a lonely Shiva.

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The biggest reason and pool of friendship is the need for company which in psychology we call by many names, we call it affiliation need and we call it need for approval, we call it affirmation confirmation and so on.

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This is a natural need.

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And it's a very powerful internal need of human beings.

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And in tribal societies,

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this was something that was very essential because the man without a tribe was dead.

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And that's why when the chorus

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effectively banished the soldiers or asylum from their tribe.

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And when he made his era

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they were doing something which was against their own tribal norms for centuries. No one ever put a man outside his tribe, because without the support of the tribe, effectively It was like a death sentence.

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But this need to belong

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is an insidious need which seeks to manipulate you and make you conform to the acceptable norms of the group that you wish to belong to.

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So, listen very carefully and think in terms of all the groups that you belong to

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and reflect on what acceptability norms of that group you have agreed to subscribe to, maybe consciously, maybe unconsciously in some cases, we do it unconsciously, but effectively, you have to subscribe to those

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acceptability norms, you have to pass those tests before you are accepted into that group as a member of the group.

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In simple words,

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what any group,

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any organization, any company, any club, any society, any association,

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what any grouping of people says to you is,

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if you want to be one of us, be like us.

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If you want to be one of us, be like us, this is interestingly, what the server is wildlife management used to say to people also is to say kuno Mitra be like us?

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How do I become a Muslim be like us.

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So this is nothing new.

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The acceptability now of any group is you want to be one of us, be like us, do what we do, like what we like dislike what we dislike, approve what we approve of disapprove what we disapprove of walk on our path and reach our destination.

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And that's why I think it's very important for us to choose very carefully not do it by default. Because the path you walk on every path leads to a destination.

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And you want to be very sure that you actually want to reach that destination if you want to take that path.

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But even in tribal times, and even today, we see people

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Want to differentiate want to make a difference to lead their people and they are people who refuse to go with the flow

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because only a dead fish goes with the flow.

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live fish swim against the current

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several of my friends oh no fishing.

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The only a dead fish goes with the flow

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to swim against the current is a sign that you are alive and that you are capable of charting your own course.

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So the second thing I want to say to you now is

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anyone who is driven by a need is someone who is at the mercy of the one who fulfills that need.

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He or she is a hostage in the hands of the one who fulfills that need. Anyone who's driven by a need is a slave of the one who fulfills that need. If I want to belong to your club, then I necessarily have insert myself to you. And the only way I will belong to your club is if I fulfill your entry noms.

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So be very clear in your mind. What do you want to be?

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I want you to think about Islam in this context and see how how it sets you free from the slavery of the world. Because you acknowledge the only one Allah Allah Allah who can fulfill all our needs. And when you make sudo it makes sense that Allah subhanaw taala it frees you from bowing to anyone else.

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And that is why Allah wa Taala said we're excited to gira so much di has are such a data add mucuna jack

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was that the one such that which you consider to be so difficult

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gearan has many different meanings. Iran means also expensive it also means difficult. So it was said that the one such that the ones who dealt with you find so difficult to do actually frees you from making sudoeste to 1000 people are

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gonna

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love what I was called para la casa de la casa de Carnage ruin karrakatta para la de la SCO, her beard gasm Harry Potter examiner Kuta examiner building examiner guy goes, I'm nervous because I'm going

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to show his power and to make us real before the novolog.

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So when you seek the company of people, it doesn't come free. Of course.

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Each group that you want to belong to has its own boundary conditions, its own entry rules, its own rules and conditions for inclusion, and for staying included.

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Some of these are formally stated, and you have to attend an interview and subject yourself to the examination of the group and be accepted to become a member. In other cases, the conditions are not formally stated but they are equally compelling.

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One common rule, as I said, for all boundary conditions for inclusion is if you want to be one of us, be like us.

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So what's the implication of B of this statement of saying if you want to be one of us be like us, what is the implication of this? To understand this we must carefully consider each set of entry rules and see what they are and what they mean. For example, there are some entry rules which demand that we deliberately do things which are against the laws of Islam,

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that we participate in them directly or tacitly.

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After all as a Muslim, if you are a former member of a group and they are doing something which is haram, you have only two choices.

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As a Muslim you have only two choices, stop them or leave them there is no third choice. If you are in a group which is doing something haram as a Muslim you have only two choices, stop them or leave them. You don't have the choice of being a silent spectator

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or these people who deliberately do haram

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They not only demand that you comply with them, but they also

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demand that you spend large amounts of money to support institutions, which they have created, which exist to propagate Haram, like gambling, like drinking alcohol and music and dancing and so on is over. institution has been set up for that purpose. And when you pay a membership fee, you are supporting that institution. Don't fool yourself. Do not fool yourself. That's precisely what you're doing.

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When we agree and we pay huge sums of money, entry fees, membership fees, whatever else. We demonstrate our willingness to commit haram by participating in these

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Activities wholeheartedly, as I said either directly or passively

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and only then are we admitted as members. There's even a probation period to see if we demonstrate our commitment to harm. And only then is our membership confirmed.

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That's why I said truly to enter the jahannam is not is not difficult to enter the Johanna is not easier. And agenda is easy. To enter the jahannam is not difficult. It is not easy to enter jahannam it takes money it takes desire, it takes time it takes commitment it takes having to go there again and again.

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subjugate subjugate yourself, humiliate yourself before this committee that committee approved to them. If you don't believe me, apply to membership of cigar club, club, club or any other club and when you come for the interview, you say that I am against alcohol I am against gambling say that.

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You don't believe me say it. You know exactly what will happen. I know exactly what will happen. Yes.

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So if you want to fool yourself, go ahead, except that you don't fool me. As I told you, I've been down that road.

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So we know exactly what we're talking about.

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My brothers and sisters Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned those sheep, that in the clutches of self induced blindness and delusion, enter such company and then when their eyes are open on the Day of Judgment, they realize what it meant to be in that company. Allah subhanaw taala described the scene, see the Quran how Allah subhanaw taala describes things because and he is describing things with only he knows

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how to love Elijah Muth only Allah does not die. And so only Allah knows what happens after death.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala describes the scene where the person who used to follow his bad friends will deeply regret that and on the Day of Judgment, they will actually bite their hands in regret. You know, it's such a it's such a human gesture that you bite your finger or something if somebody who bought or you bought a lottery ticket. I'm not promoting lottery tickets, that's also Haram. But I'm saying you bought a lottery ticket and you found that you missed the jackpot by one number. What do you do you bite that tick, you bite your finger you want to eat your finger you want to eat the ticket or something like

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that people will bite their hands and chew up their hands up to the elbows

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because the regret will be so severe. You can't even obviously these things are things where Allah never helped me Allah never put us in a situation where we have to actually experiences

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Serrano's Allah Subhan Allah subhanaw taala described the scene and he said of the Day of Judgment, they will bite their hands in regret.

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And they will say Oh, I wish I had not taken such and such a person as a friend. He indeed led me away from Allah from the remainder of the Quran. after it had come to me, clearly, this is directed towards the Muslims as well because who else will say led me away from the Quran after it had come to me?

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needless to say, by then it is clearly too late to change.

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Allah subhanaw taala said further work on

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ours will initiate Ana rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim.

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need to Mara Zhu Li sabi LA, ya la la la la la la

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la la, la la la casa lucado balani Vickery bada is

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Ernie Wakana shaitan olisa Neha zu Allah, Allah said, and remember the day when the xilin the wrongdoer will bite his hands. And he will say Oh, hold that I had taken a path with the messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wore to me that I had never taken so and so as a friend, you will actually name the person

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did not happen that we named somebody else and made not happen that somebody has to name us.

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He indeed led me astray from the remainder the Quran, after it had come to me and shaitan is ever desert of men in the hour of need.

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We know today that all these

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people, such people who lead others astray, they consider themselves in this life to be very cool and trendy and hip.

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And they look down on others who they call square and traditional and drunk and dull and dragon, stick in the mud and so on.

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Remember all of these titles.

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And actually, for people whose reason for meeting and partying is self indulgence.

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The displeasure and anger of Allah,

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those who love Allah, and whose need to please Him outweighs every other. Such people will look strange to them, and they will be dragged on their lifestyle. So they call them strangers. Or interestingly sorted rasulillah salam, Salam

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Alaikum Salam in the Hadees in hypnagogia

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in kita boo fitten

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Rasul Allah is Allah Sallam said Baba Elisa mcgarrybowen

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was a yo v ban Kama Baba for Toba lil Baba.

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Oh c'mon call oakmark Allah alayhi salatu was Salam ala rasulillah salam said, Islam began as something strange, and it will return to being something strange. So give glad tidings to the strangers.

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So I say to you, my friends, decide who do you want to be called a stranger by

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by a cool friend in this world. Obi rasulillah salam Salam on the Day of Judgment.

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Way to be stranger to somebody.

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So who do you want to be called a stranger by

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by all the cool friends in this world, who would be very hot on the Day of Judgment.

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Or by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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Allah subhanaw taala also mentioned the fate of those who consider themselves to be very clever and who refuse to listen to Him and who refuse to be led by them.

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The people who refuse to be led by them

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on that day of judgment, they will be vindicated. And Allah subhanaw taala said that they will have a light running before them and by their right hands. While the cool and smart of the world are in darkness.

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They the cool and smart of the world today will call out to the Mata Khan, who they used to laugh at in this world, who they used to mock and make fun of, and who they used to call by different titles which they used to give them. They will call out to them and they will remind them and they will say we used to be with you.

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But of no consequence will that company be to them on the day of judgment because in the world, they did not benefit from the company of good friends. Instead they laughed at them and they mocked at them.

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On the day of judgment, they will call out to the believers and they will say why are we not with you? The believers will say yes, but you lead yourselves into temptations. You look forward to our destruction. you doubted in faith. And you were deceived by false desires till the command of Allah came to pass. And the chief deceiver deceived you in respect of Allah. The beautiful Ayat of Surah towheaded Allah subhanho wa Taala said

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Come fall damage. Oh Nora foto de babbino Mizzou hooba bottineau v rahmatullah wa hero mill Kiba de la

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Yoona

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Paulo Bella wanna Qin

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Toma Vasa

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tomorrow double

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toe como la Manny

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wah wah wah wah, Bill Hill.

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Let us look at another kind of friend which also Allah describes. And Allah subhanaw taala said Allah He la uyama is in bad Oh homely bad in

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addo lol

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Illa routine. Allah said

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Allah Hello

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Yama is in biodome. Allah.

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Allah Hello, Yama is in bad only bad in Urdu Illa.

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Allah said on the Day of Judgment, the Akela akhila is the plural of Helene. In Arabic there are many levels of friendship.

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And khaleel is a friend who is Allah Subhana Allah Allah, Allah, Allah. Allah Azza wa sallam said if I could take somebody as my Achilles heel, I would take a walk or be alone. So Holly Hill is somebody who is very close. very dear friend was from home there are no secrets. A friend who is a complete and total confident in everything. Allah says on the Day of Judgment such friends who are so close in this world will become enemies to each other.

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They will become they won't just forget the friendship they will actually become enemies to each other. In lol Mota keen, except the motorhome except the people who have Taqwa.

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My brothers and sisters, I remind myself when you one of the qualities of good friends, friends who are moutoku is that they will not abandon you even on the Day of Judgment. And this is because they will be in a state where the horrors of the day will not trust them, and they will be protected from the terror by Allah.

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In a hurry is narrated by Abu hora de la Han Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said there are seven who Allah subhanho wa Taala will shade in his shade on the day when there is no shade except the shade.

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Number one, adjust ruler. Number two, a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, cherish this youth there is this time, once this time is gone.

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You are deleted from this list. Maybe you will make it in another way.

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Allah subhanaw taala gives the doors open, but obviously makes no sense to lose an opportunity and then wait for another opportunity which may never come because we might die before that.

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So just ruler, a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, a man whose heart is attached to the masjid.

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In all these ideas when you say man, it means a man or a woman because in the sense of the Hadees, Islam is equal the rewards are equal for the men and the women.

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So a person whose her heart is attached to the masjid to people who love each other for Allah sake to men who meet each other. For Allah sake meeting for that and partying upon that. When they meet, they make the vicar of Allah, when they meet the talk about the glorification of a loss rather than and when they part the part with those words remind of each other.

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A person who's called by a person of another sex, another gender, a man who's called by a woman of beauty, a woman is called by a man who is handsome, about beauty, beauty and position for Xena, but says I fear Allah,

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someone who was invited by another person

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to do to come at something which is haram and the person says, Sorry, I cannot do that. If you are

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a man or woman who gives charity and hides, it gives it secretly quietly in a way such that the left hand does not know what the right hand has given. And finally a man or woman who remembers Allah in private, and his his or her eyes, shed tears for the glory and majesty of Allah.

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Seven who will be given the shade of the earth of Allah, on the day when there will be no shade except to shade jell O Allah, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to include us among those and to enable us to do the deeds which will lead us to being included among the people who will be granted the shade of the ash of Allah subhanaw taala.

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So, let us ask ourselves which of these categories we fit into

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the time to make amends my brothers and sisters, and to change ourselves is now not when we see molecule mouth and realize the truth of our lives. Also lies Allah Allah mentioned the criteria of a good friend. And he mentioned four qualities. Number one,

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number one quality of a good friend as mentioned my name is Allah Sallam he said the first quality is when you see him He reminds you about Allah.

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Number two, when you sit with him your Eman increases. Number three, when he speaks, it increases your knowledge. And number four, when you see his actions, you remember your Acura

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who is a good friend, a good friend is a man or a woman who when you see them, they remind you of Allah. When you sit with them, your human increases when they speak, it increases your knowledge. And when you see their actions, you remember your own Acura

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May Allah help us to choose friends who fit this

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Standard And may Allah subhanaw taala help us to make ourselves friends have such a standard for those who choose us.

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So as I said, all groups have their entry criteria. And groups are moutoku also have their entry criteria groups of people who have Tacoma also have their entry criteria. These entry criteria are that you should love Allah subhanho wa Taala and that you should love Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that you should love his Deen Islam, that you should be interested in learning and practicing and conveying this Deen to everyone in the world that you should not fear anyone in the practice of this Deen that you should stand for this Deen even if you stand alone, but then who is alone

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who is alone when the one who makes him stand is Allah.

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There is another aspect of being in the company of those who obey Allah and those who don't. When you are in the company of those who obey Allah, when you are in the company of the moroccon it becomes easy for you to obey Allah and difficult to disobey Him company influences so when you are in the company or moroccon when it is time for Salah It is natural that you join them in Salah. You will feel comfortable dressed like them you will feel comfortable looking like them you will feel uncomfortable dressed in ways or looking in ways that Islam does not permit you activities be there formal or informal business or pleasure will not violate the laws of the Sharia. You will not have

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celebrations that are in any way an Islamic you will not indulge in ostentation and his wrath which is haram. You will not do anything that is displeasing to Allah or is in violation of the Sunnah of His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Their talk will loop back over and over to the Acura and to the fact that one day we will be we will die and be called to account their role models will be the heroes of Islam.

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The criterion of intelligence that they will quote will be the criterion that the Quran prescribed that the person first recognizes Allah and worships Him alone. They will quote examples of people who are global leaders in in a worldly sense, yet adhered to Islam totally and completely inward and spirit. They will seek to bring about change in themselves so that they can improve knowledge and practice and get closer to Allah. They will talk about Jana and Jana massive they could see them because they believe them to be real. And you will find yourself beginning to see the vision that they have before their eyes and will want to achieve what they want to achieve the pleasure of our

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hub about such people. Allah subhanho wa Taala said while minuman almina Tabasco Malia Oba Yeah, maroon Avi Maru, Viva La Neeleman Kar Wai okay Mona Sala as well you to an a la una una casa ha Momo law in the law has his own highkey Allah said the believers, men and women are Alia. They have close friends and protectors of one another. They enjoy in and they remind each other about Alma roof, all that Islam orders and they forbid ulmann car all disobedience of Allah, they establish a salah and they give Zakat and they obey Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah will have his mercy on them. Surely Allah is all mighty all wise.

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On the other hand, when you are in the company of the vast sukoon of those who disobey Allah subhanho wa Taala disobedience becomes easy and obedience becomes difficult. Your friends and social pressure and atmosphere will collude to prevent you even from making Salah at its right time. If you dress like a Muslim, they will laugh at you, they will pressurize you to break the rules of the Sharia in the name of freedom or modernity or being moderate or some other similar rubbish. Their business will violate the Sharia, so will their entertainment and relaxation they will eat and drink haram and joke about and laugh at the laws of Allah. They will promote Vastu and feng shui and Rahu

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Kalam all forms of shirk, make no mistake was to is open shirk, to build houses and to believe in was to is like going and worshipping and making such that to an idol in a temple. There is no difference whatsoever. Stop fooling yourself until otherwise, when you read molekule mouth you will understand where your own words towards.

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So these people will promote things like Vastu and feng shui and Rahu Kalam and other forms of open shurkin superstition while speaking in the same breath, about the importance of scientific reasoning and logic. It always amazes me how the machinery can live in two worlds. On the one hand, the missionary talks about scientific reasoning and logic and on the other hand, he finds nothing contradictory

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about believing in complete and total superstition. mythology is the study of myths. a myth is a lie.

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a myth is a thriller is a four letter form of the three letter word called life. There is, what is the myth,

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the horror of what a level. The dichotomy of these stances will escape them because shaitan, who is a member of their meetings, covers their sight and hearing and understanding their talk will exclusively be of the dounia and will take you more and more away from any thought of the fact that one day you will die and be called to account they will make fun of your religion and of the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu. They will laugh derisively at those who seek to follow the Sunnah and they will call them names.

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Right if you keep a beard, our hydrological our Hydra bodies will answer to Allah subhanaw taala like nobody else. Well, I may Allah protect us from that.

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One of the young brothers he kept a beard and one of his elders told him dlqi colleague movie

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in Allah when Allah Raja rasuna Salah salami tarapoto Takata

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in Allah when Allah Raja I won't even translate this for my Arab brothers let us keep our shame within ourselves.

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But the ones who said it they know what they are saying. And voila you meet Ramallah cool mouth in that condition. And you will understand what is a dilemma collective suffering.

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tobacco.

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Such people cast doubts about the promises of Allah.

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General wilga velana Coachella Chaya,

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I will go sorry. They will cause doubts about the promises of Allah. And they will use clever arguments and misguided logic to within quotes prove to you that Jana and Jana Mar figurative illusionary and unreal. They will deny the provisions of the Sharia and will make halaal what Allah made haram and they will make haram what Allah made halal, they will make vice easy and virtue difficult. They will spread falsehood and confuse you with false proofs to legitimize what Rasul Allah Salah made Haram, they will seek to deny the teachings of Rasul Allah Salah Salem, and they will try to separate Allah from his messenger salasar. The role models will be rocket scientists who

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worship mythological figures, the so called intelligence unable to distinguish between reality and a fairy tale.

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Or they will be there their role models will be so called men who feel no shame to live off the earnings of their wives and daughters who exhibit their bodies in the film screen for money.

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Believe me, my brothers and sisters, there is a difference between a man and a pimp.

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They will quote examples as worthy of emulation people who have become so lost in the dunya that they have lost their Deen and are busy preparing their road to jahannam. their desires which they seek to fulfill at all costs, will all be of the dunya objects and things and food and sensations and possessions.

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Such people cannot distinguish between halal and haram. They cannot distinguish between janma or not.

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The idea of fun is to go blindly from sensation to sensation, seeking to reach a new high each time ever seeking more ways to please shaitan and displease Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned such people in social work and he said are Imani Takada illa Huwa. of Antara Taku alayhi wa keila m de bon Aqsa whom, yes ma Yaki loon in Houma, la kalyanam Bal home Adele loose Nabila

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Allah subhanaw taala said have you all Mohammed Salah Salem, seen him who takes as his illa modex as his God, His own vain desire? Will you then be ever killed? Will you make dua for him? Will you be over keel over him?

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Or do you think that most of them hear and understand? They are only cattle? Nay, they are even further a stray from the path that even worse than cattle because the cattle remember Allah subhanaw taala

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Subhana Allah is Allah to Milan, everything in the creation

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of Allah subhanaw taala except human beings like this.

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So they are even worse than cattle. They're worse than cockroaches, they're worse than snakes there was the any creature that we look down upon. Because that creature, we will look down upon it but it's a creature of Allah, and it remembers Allah because we are creatures of Allah. And we deliberately choose to defy Allah Subhana Allah

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and about such people, Allah

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anoter also told us what he does with them when they exceed our limits, listen very carefully to this ayat of the Quran. So

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this does Allah subhanaw taala say that when they exceed all limits of disobedience that Allah subhanaw taala will catch them, that He will punish them. See what Allah says? Allah subhanaw taala said fala mana Suma de que Ruby Fatah henna la him Ababa coup de chez Hata is a fairy who Bhima Otto, aka Xena whom Totten for Isa who movie soon. Allah subhanaw taala said and when they had forgotten all that they had been told to take to heart when they exceeded all bounds of disobedience of Allah, when they openly mocked the laws of Allah when they openly made fun of Rasulullah Salah when they openly committed Haram. Allah said we threw open to them the gates of all good things.

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Ziva,

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when somebody disobeys Allah, Allah is not restricting His provision Allah say we gave them more and more. They became more and more popular. More and more people came to their parties more and more people wanted to be on their party list. They got more money, they got more fame, they got more friends.

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They became cooler and cooler until the turn into blocks. eisah

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Allah says Allah Allah said that we threw open to them, the gates of all good things until even as they were rejoicing in what they had been granted, we suddenly took them to task. Suddenly molecule mode was sent. And they were broken in spirits, because they were not even given the chance to make Toba.

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They were not even given the chance to make Toba because Allah subhanaw taala forgives if you make Toba even the minute before you die before the door open before the curtains part and you see the molecule make Toba Allah Allah will accept but for such people, that door also is closed. The door of Toba, the door of Hidayat is closed.

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Allah subhanaw taala warned us against being with such people and said that if we did not heed this warning, then we would be included among them on the Day of Judgment.

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Make up your mind people who you want to be on with on the Day of Judgment, when there will be no one to help us. Allah subhanaw taala and Surah Nisa he said wickedness Allah Allah config kitabi and Isa semitone Ayah Tila he you follow me? How will you start? That will be her follow up although my home

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auto my home had di o fi Hades invading in calm is a Muslim in aloha jameelah Muna Filipina welcome Irina v Johanna Jamia Allah subhanaw taala sir and it has already been revealed to you in the book, that when you hear the ayatollah being denied and mocked at then don't sit with them, until they change the topic until they talk about something else. But if you do not do that, if you stay with them, then you will be counted among them.

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Remember, what is Allah saying? Allah is not saying you are engaging with them in that talk, you are simply there you are physically present. What did I tell you? What is the what are the two choices of the Muslim? If he is in a place where disobedience is happening? What are the only two choices, stop it or leave? There is no third choice. This is a detail from the Quran. I am not giving you my fourth I'm telling you Allah Subhana

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Allah subhanaw taala said stop them. Otherwise leave. If you don't do either of that. If you sit there because you want to be part of that cool group, then you will be counted among them. And surely Allah will Allah subhanho wa Taala will collect the hypocrites and disbelievers together in jahannam. Allah subhanho wa Taala warned us against taking those who deny him as friends and remember denying Allah is to deny Allah subhanho wa Taala. bizarrely he was if it were of Allah, he was sorry to deny Allah subhanho wa Taala by his in his solo here and is that by his efforts, by his deeds which he does, and by his science, to deny him Allah in any of these is to deny Allah subhanaw

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taala inshallah next Saturday, not this one next Saturday, September the first notice on the noticeboard take a look at that and those who are on the group would have got the email also. We are starting once again our every year we begin with the lecture series on C on aqidah. We are starting the series on aqeedah September 1.

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Every Saturday and Sunday. There is no repetition every every time it'd be a new one in Charlotte takes four weeks. So come for that Akita series because the reality of people today and I won't ask you to show your hands if I ask you a simple question. What do you believe? I can bet you 90% of you don't even know what you believe.

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And you will tell me some dumb thing like we believe in Allah What does it mean? believe in Allah means what? You have no clue

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yes or no. So learn.

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Ignorance is not an option. Learn

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lessons are given here. It's completely free of cost, which has nobody nothing. So please come there's arrangements for ladies and so on so forth. Please understand if you say I'm a Muslim, what does it mean? What does it mean? What do you actually believe in? What should you believe in? What beliefs you might already have from somewhere which are false, which may take you out of Islam, so very important for you to learn that please come and learn.

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We can do more than this. Then we can do more than give you these lessons for free. Yes, anyone here wants to be paid to come? Not gonna happen not with me anyway.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala warned us against taking as friends people who deny him, and he said, Yeah, he was in Amano, la de la Vina Alia mean, do we need to re Dona Ana de la la Sultana movie, Allah said oh believe do not take for Alia do not take for close friends and protect us disbelievers instead of believers. Do you wish to offer Allah subhanho wa Taala clear proof against yourself? Please read the Quran please understand the Quran.

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Very simple rule, what should you apply? How do you choose a good friend? And how do you choose the right situation that you should be in? And how do you choose a friend with whom you should not spend time?

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I have a very simple rule. And my rule is with regard to a friend who should I choose as a friend My role is ask myself one question. Is this somebody that I want to lead my salon as

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simple as that?

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Is this friend someone that I want to lead my salon?

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If the answer is no, then that's not a friend I want to have.

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And as far as situation, what situation should I be in? And what should the situation should I avoid?

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Again, a very simple rule.

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Is this situations a place where I want to die?

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Very simple. Is this place a place I want to die?

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If I'm in a movie theater, is that a place I want to die in? Because that can come at any time and also Rosa Selim said you will be resurrected the way you die. So ask you these two questions. One, is this person, someone that I want to lead my salado janazah and number two, is this a place that I want to die?

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And if the answer is no to either of them, leave that person leave that place. Do yourself a favor.

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A man asked rasulillah salam. I'm talking about choosing friends. A man came to rasulillah salam Hadees narrated by Anna's with Malik in Bukhari.

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He gained Rosaura Salah Salam and he said when is the hour when is the day of judgment? Rasul Allah is Allah Salim said what have you prepared for it? He said nothing jasola except that I love Allah and His Messenger Salaam Salaam rasulillah salam said you will be with those whom you love.

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And as with Malaga Dela Rosa we have we had never been so glad as we were on that day, hearing the saying of Rasulullah sallallahu you will be with those whom you love.

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And then as mallet says, Therefore I love Rasul Allah, I love a worker and Omar rajala on home, and I hope that I will be with them because of my love for them, though my deeds are not similar to this, who is saying this, and has been Monica Delano, who was the Harlem of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam for 10 years in Medina.

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And who was who used to see after ostracism passed away and has been Malik was the Xavi, who was to see Rasul Allah is Allah sallallahu wasallam in his dream every single night,

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every night he would see clearly that,

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that this is the this is the humility of the Sahaba. They were humble people. When when Osiris says I have no deeds, it doesn't mean that they are like me are you

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there are no deeds is a different level.

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So pick your friends, because on the Day of Judgment, you will be with those you love. Please understand this. A final reminder my brothers or sisters, before we close, this lecture is not about not for and not about your children alone. It is even more about you, but the parents, remember children listen with their eyes, and they will do what they see you doing. Not what you tell them to do. They will make friends like your friends. Please understand very clearly. Who will your children's friends we like your friends. If you have drinking friends or children will have drinking friends And make no mistake. Don't think that you can sit and drink alcohol with your friends and

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you want your child to be hustle and bustle he will not be

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he will not be

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please be very clear in your mind. Don't Don't fool yourself right there friends will be like your friends. They will have relationships with their parents yourselves. Like you have with your parents. They will have relationship with their brothers and sisters. Like you have relations with your brothers.

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Don't be in a situation where you don't talk to your brother and you expect that your children will be the greatest friends amongst themselves, they will not, they will not. Your son will sue you of your other son, your daughter will sue your son, your son will sue your daughter, they will spend the times in the court because that is how you train them. That is how you train them. Don't fool yourself. Do not fool yourself. If you respect your parents and are beautiful to them, they will be beautiful to you. If not, then be prepared to be rejected by them when you are old.

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They will eat and drink and smoke and what they see you eating and drinking and smoking. Be prepared for the reward and punishment of that to come into your grave when you die. They will give importance to what they see you giving importance to if they see you praying, they will pray. If they see you leaving the Salah they will leave Salah

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if you make dua for your parents and for your elders, they will make dua for you one day when you are gone.

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Otherwise, you will not get it from them, just as you didn't give it to those who are with you. And that's why I say Don't worry about the atmosphere outside. Don't worry about the external atmosphere that they are exposed to worry about the internal atmosphere in your own home that they are exposed to. Because the external atmosphere is not in your control anyway. But the internal atmosphere is in your control. So use that control, change that internal atmosphere and let the atmosphere the values the ethics and morals of your home be a benchmark against which they can measure whatever they see in the outside world that let them get used to hearing your voice reading the Koran and miss it when

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they are away from you. Don't let them get used to the nonsense you shamelessly watch on television with them sitting by their side. Because you have lost all sense of shame. La hawla wala quwata illa Allah, give them memories or people give them good memories, which will guide them to the right path. And if you deliberately failed to do all this, then be prepared to suffer in this world. And the next don't fool yourself. No, the law of anyone will help you if you don't change your lives and continue to live a life of open disobedience to Allah. Allah even prohibited rasulillah salam from making dua for the openly rebellious so how can anyone elses do I help you? Ask yourself, stop lying

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to yourself and to your children. And remember what I told you and start practicing now, if you are serious about the upbringing of your children, remember that I have no stake in this. This is purely for you and your children. It's entirely your call, and you will face the consequences of taking it or leaving it. Make up your mind and start immediately because molekule mouth is waiting.

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