Happiness is a function of gratitude

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Deliver without me not another one I started over one I stopped at one we will be here for a while now

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we

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want to show the world

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azza wa jal darada fever she you know when he died

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he was

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a mother

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yeah you

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hola

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yeah

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hola hola hola and Sadie, usually hella Kuma

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Oh my

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wife

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in the end

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my dear respected scholars

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brothers and sisters and that is a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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I want to make a statement to you.

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And that statement is

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that happiness is a product of gratitude.

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Grateful people are happy

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and grateful people are unhappy.

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It's not the other way around. It's not that happy people become grateful.

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But

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not the others. This, obviously, centuries before science discovered it. But today, there is actually evidence in psychology to show

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that being grateful, produces happiness.

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Because gratitude is a product of awareness of what we have.

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And then our appreciation of that.

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So one is I become aware of what I have. And when I appreciate that, and that is what makes me happy.

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So I want to ask you, how many of you came here for the masses, and you're sitting here, but

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I'm really

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hungry. And I'm assuming that those who did not raise their hands, they did not get their hands because I believe in the method of photography, as somebody might

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say, everybody is happening.

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The issue is,

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if you are happy, then do we express this happiness? Do we express this happiness in terms of gratitude to the one that we request? And that is why it is

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all of us are familiar with what

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specifically said, the one who is grateful, I will increase my idea for this person.

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The interior of the now I can be obviously getting more of what it is that makes us happy.

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But even before that,

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if you just reflect on it, just being aware, this is what I have.

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That it says an increase in the back office now.

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How many of you remember the first new car that we want

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to get somebody says they were publishing some research about the illnesses of children of the super rich

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illnesses of the children of the super rich.

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And they actually published an interview of this girl

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who is in a state of depression, clinical depression, and she's being treated for that.

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And the counselor is asking her why what why is what happened? What's up what's wrong, why?

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And she said, You know, my father bought me a 350 Sports Mercedes.

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Sounds like

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your father bought you a sports car, a Mercedes 350

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I knew

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when I hope there is no one here.

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But I wouldn't be surprised if there was and you just get noticed.

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I'm giving you actual evidence. I mean, people are happy. But remember I asked one last question How many of you remember your first car and for most of us, the first car that we bought,

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you would probably today

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probably be feel slightly embarrassed.

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It was 100 cc or something like this. I have. The first one was a Garmin, the ambassador in India those my Indian friends will remember that it's almost an antique car.

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And

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I was in the showroom with the guy who has been the the seller, the agent of the seller with some orders, he tells me when you go out of here, take a writer and there is a welder. He says go and get the entire chassis, all the joints to be welded.

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I said you are sitting in the garden. You're telling me I must get off the journey. Well, this is actually your choice. You want to get to people who get all the joints, rewelded and get it painted with rubber coated with with rubberized paint, otherwise, it will rust and it will follow a

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brand new car, I was so thrilled to get

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why? because for the first time I had fallen under the sort of

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awareness of that.

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So let me ask you,

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when we are talking about happiness, and we are talking about gratitude,

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what is our attitude towards Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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To whom we work with,

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to whom we owe everything.

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And that awareness that happiness comes from awareness of what we get from others.

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And out of that awareness also comes trust, which we call the workload.

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Tell me who is your best friend, think of your best friend.

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Invariably, it will be somebody, not just someone you have known for a long time, you know many people for a long time, but they're not necessarily our best.

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Our best friends are those people who know even though we may not have known them for a long time, they are people who stood with us and stuck with us through thick and thin

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people who are there for us when we need it.

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To do the same got a friend in need is a friend indeed. And somebody said a friend in need is no friend of mine.

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So the question is that somebody who sticks with me stand by me, support me Help me when I'm in need this person is the best man. And we built our record of this, of having stood by you in times of need this person is the one who got the most Yes.

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What do we get?

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Even though unless bio data has been with us, before we were born.

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And today in the lecture on deputy architecture, I will hear some of those details.

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Even though Allah has been with us before we were born and others

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will be with us even after we were one after we die.

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All of us can safely say that Allah has been with me

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my oldest player,

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but we have the same level of customer service.

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There was a wise man

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in the range of harness sheep

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and his name was battle.

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And he was born

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by hand on the wise man actually

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matter. So it is a symbolic name of married man whose wife

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was great. It was

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great.

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So what

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says I he said,

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okay, you have no money and so on. And I don't want you to have any hardship. So I'm ready to settle a pension on it.

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We should get so many dinner every month from the Treasury.

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So why don't we just said I don't want anything from him.

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He got a bit upset. He said to me that, you know, you did ask me I'm giving you as a gift.

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So what's wrong? He asked me.

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He said, I don't want anything from you. He said, Why?

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He says,

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You're not in my language. I said, No.

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He didn't find anybody.

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He said,

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You're not going to say, he didn't find you. So believe me.

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So where does this

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happen? This is a product of gratitude.

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So let me draw your attention to what Allah subhanaw taala what we get from understand.

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And I want to take you on a tour of the universe.

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And I want to tell you about birds and bees and so on and so forth.

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until some other things,

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things that we see and experience every single day.

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With a surah I decided every record of every song without recourse is not valid.

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And that's

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why it is needed.

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Bismillah Rahim hamdulillah your bail me out?

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A Maliki omit the

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brothers and sisters reflect on this

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and also began in his name.

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And he introduced himself and said to me

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and then what did he say?

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Who is

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it that I have a choice of using any of his other attributes?

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Because he is referring to the next guy and after that is, he is referring to that day when you and I will stand before Him?

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What do you say to the

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before he reminds you that one day you will come before me?

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He chooses to put your heart at rest

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by saying goodbye slips. I am

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Don't worry,

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you will come before me.

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But I

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my brothers and sisters and as I asked you this question,

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when this

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realization occurred to me,

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I thought to myself

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that if Allah Subhana Allah had set

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me

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up for how what

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what are these? All of which I

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mentioned Liberty folio.

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Allah did not say

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no, he said

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if I had used those attributes

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as well as ease of

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use these attributes and he had said to me, what would be the state of the boosting who is reading that with understanding

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what would be state?

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I am going before the one who is why

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I am going to

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ask

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what will happen

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what will happen to me?

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How do you take the raw

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I asked you ask myself, if I had said that, why would you have one answer?

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I give up the scientists color with the self with the fear that puts in me please change the words. Could we have said that?

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Would you have said that?

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How to thank those

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who did not leave us this medieval cluster?

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And he said molecule

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magic?

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And then unless

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What do you say to the syrup? Who taught us how to make

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the

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gas very

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reflect on this?

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What is he saying to me?

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I wasn't only you, I asked him quoting from you. So what?

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So what, what is really being said, but I love

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what,

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what is really being said,

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my brothers and sisters and reflect on this.

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This imagine,

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imagine

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that we have some of the brothers here we have our brothers who are not with Indian and Pakistani and so on. Imagine if two of you 121

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goes into the court of the Malik was under the court of the Emir of Kuwait.

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And both of them have something they want to ask me for something.

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The man who was not quitting, he says I'm torn. So I'm from India. I need your help recently.

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But what is the point?

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The good news is it was

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better than yours.

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I had one of your subjects. So give me

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to the Indian maybe you can say go and ask for comments. But to the point, the one thing I will say when

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he says

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if the enemy turns away, who came and said I am yours?

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If the immune cells go somewhere else?

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What would you say to that? Will that ever happen?

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It's a matter of the ISA of the Amelie. It's not as communicate.

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But one of the one of my people comes to me and asserts himself and says, I am one of yours.

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And then he says give me and I said how can I?

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How can I possibly send him somewhere? Even if there was competition?

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What is he?

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worse?

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Yeah.

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I don't want to ask anyone else.

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I don't worship anyone else.

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I worship.

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And I asked only probably when you're gonna die

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unless you've taught us how to connect to him.

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Alaska has taught us how to connect.

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And he said before you ask the fact

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that he

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emphasized your connection with me.

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He can understand and not anybody.

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So give me

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and give what is

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the one thing which only unlike me If

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it was up to a scepter as a man in a way of putting his heart at rest, and he said Do not be agree with the vision to because it is not in your hands. Only Allah can give you that. Another ask us ask me

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to re emphasize who you are with respect

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To me and asked me and I will lead

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the way and the state

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court authority has put a lot of money savings in cost of zero in Nevada.

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Allah

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wa sallahu wa salatu

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wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa

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ala facade

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in de la Veronica ko me yeah you

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know it was early Buddhist

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Lama

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Allah.

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Allah and Rahim Allah Allah Hi

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my dear brothers and sisters and elders

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gratitude, being grateful is the route to happiness

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and therefore I advise myself and remind myself that advisor remind you, less consciously become aware of enamels that Allah subhanho wa Taala has given us

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and then it is time subhanaw taala for those numbers

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each one of you I want to by request to do this as your homework for HR when you go home

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and today it's a holiday for you when you go back home actually sit down with a piece of paper sit down with a sheet of paper and a pen

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and write down

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don't

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do that actually sit with a sheet of paper and write down

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the things that you have which Allah has given you.

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For which you need to tack on

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one by one so both things have names

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like the name of your wife for example.

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Like the name of your children for example, like the names of your parents for example the name of your teachers and your family and your friends and so on and so on.

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Time to

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list them down

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and one by one

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that Allah subhanaw taala for them

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time goes people because

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you're the one who was not the people has not time allowed

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so time those people

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reflect on what does the fact

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that then when I want to go for tomorrow

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when I'm at home

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I don't have to worry about finding my clothes

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because my wife

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decided I gave when she's not with me.

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So wherever

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Tom is not

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what is the

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what is the value of that we absorbed in our house will be gone without a thought in the mind is the height how many of us I mean some of the bachelors or maybe one

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of your management can give you why it will make you very happy

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when we go home we don't even think it would be

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good for less food that we want to eat.

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And if we lose you need to lose weight food and food and you know what I mean? But it's good for you and you know with a good intention

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being grateful

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in his car

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he mentioned in many places things that we need to be grateful for.

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And see the examples are gonna give

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common examples of what we encounter on a day to day basis

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and that's one of the reasons

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why

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was

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mentioned was watching

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Allah mentioned sleep

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as people who have insomnia what is the value of being able to sleep peacefully?

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What

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why they're on

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TV?

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What

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is the rain across

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the mountain the space

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to regulate tectonic plates activity.

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small and large, small and big signs of the NEMA parameter.

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And that's gonna describe all of these things bother me.

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We need to have this gratitude for a reason. First reason makes you happy. Second reason we're just

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reflecting on all that Allah has given us. And ask yourself this question.

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When was the last time that Allah subhanaw taala.

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Even if you have something in your life, which you regret, which you don't, which is giving you trouble, believe me online, there is the hikma data behind it,

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which you may not be able to see. But Allah Subhana, Allah knows and he sees and he gives.

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There is the

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wisdom extends beyond our understanding.

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Many times people are elderly parents, or some other person in the family who's not well.

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And believe me, you have

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I've been through this myself. If there is somebody who is sick in the family,

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many times you feel more than that person is feeling well.

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My husband was in coma before he passed away for several weeks.

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And he wasn't

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sure if he was feeling anything or not. He wasn't a complete total over the darkness game. And destiny says this is in a deep coma, you can't feel anything, the doctor would pinch his finger or something talk very hard to look at the mark of the of the nail of the doctor.

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But

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in that moment, he would sleep.

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The first time he said that he thought, his comeback and God he was dead.

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Dead to the word complete coma but when it's needed.

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Now, obviously, he was feeling anything or not but at least as far as we do, because not feeling anything. But we and the people around my sister and others take care of him.

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It was very painful.

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Very painful to see the father in that situation very painful to see you know what he was undergoing. But

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May Allah bless my sister my children

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they took care of me physically because in a minute

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so beautifully that our two months of being in coma where there was not a sick not even when we have a pencil on it, nothing nothing.

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Fantastic here.

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Now on the face of it, it is a karate on the face of it, it's a problem. But imagine what are the rights in the account of those who beat this one.

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So unless one is showing us and telling us about these things that he gives us

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to draw our attention to that time I began with that, yeah, and the way I can explain why he does not

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a

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man of God because we have to stand with one

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another

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showed us about this they

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ordered us to be grateful why because of the safety.

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So in this chapter describing the now that has given us that this life

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informs us in Iowa

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They got me

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yo my own movie story.

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Mills da da, da

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da da ba

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ba

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in now,

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I say now as a

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follow on

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and what for people like you may like good on you in their

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lives now.

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From where we

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live

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lock on us how

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to

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be

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better protect us from the fate of this class higher even though

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yo maya

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May Allah protect us.

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My brothers and sisters and as I remind myself knew that Allah subhanho wa Taala has wanted us to be grateful

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and that is something that we do not only because of the modernists but out of our love for Allah.

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at

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a low price is really

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sticky and whatever we did

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a year

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ago, but I mean, yeah, Mulla Mulla Mulla.

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We're at a

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very

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high level, who's going to law is going to go for the lawyers to develop

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one law just now