Channel: Mirza Yawar Baig
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Sinhala Hello Amanda Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Shafi Don't be evil mousseline Muhammad also lie some of our highly violent he was have you sent them to Sleeman cathedral Katya
from my brother, my brothers and sisters, as you are aware, we have started our after school program and Alhamdulillah we have received a wonderful response much more than what we had expected and that shows that people are concerned about their children. And this is a very important thing. This is an excellent thing given that our children are our investment in this life and in the ACA.
Therefore, let me speak to you about some essentials to raising and growing your investments that is your children.
The first and most important instruction is from Allah subhanho wa Taala who said I will be leaving a shutdown the regime is below him and Rahim Yeah, are you I live in I'm a no coup and Musa Khumba Helicon now Akoto Hannah so one hijab I lay my cotton blouse on Rashida to lie Asuna Allah Hama, a lot of whom were for I don't know my you maroon a lot that I said which means or you will believe Save yourselves and your families from a fire of that piece of the fire of Johanna, whose fuel is men and stones people and stones over which are appointed angels, stern and severe, who do not disobey
the commands they receive from Allah subhanaw taala
but do what they are commanded.
Now this is our primary responsibility as parents
which supersedes everything else to protect our children from the fire of Johanna.
That responsibility is so important that Allah subhanaw taala call children a test a fitna and wonders the loss of our data set why level and I'm why lucuma hola to confit Anna, what and Allah in the who do Nazim Allah della said which means and so let's run via and know that your wealth, your possessions, and your children are but a trial they are only a trial they are a test for you. And that surely, with Allah subhanaw taala is a mighty reward. And then he said also in the one in our Ambala Khumba Allah confit Anna will love her in the whole digital Nazim your wealth and your children are only a trial whereas Allah subhanaw taala with him is a great reward.
Allah subhanho data even called our spouses and children our enemies and he said yeah, you Aleta Ave in I mean as YG Kuma Allah decom are the well local fire hazard room. We're in Tower fortress for hotel a federal for in Allaha. For all Rahim, Allah is around the desert or you will believe very among your spouses and your children that are enemies for you. That is those who may try to compel you to disobey Allah subhanaw taala therefore beware of them.
But if you pardon them and overlook and forgive their faults, then Verily Allah Subhana Allah is oft Forgiving and most Merciful.
The most important thing to understand here is that Allah subhanaw taala is saying to us, that your children and of course this the overall meaning of this, Allah has also mentioned our wealth and less mentioned our spouses and so on.
They are not simply a blessing, whether they are a blessing or they will be the opposite of that depends on what we do with them. And that is where
we have to understand right people think that children are a blessing and they beg and plead ALLAH SubhanA yella give me generally Allah give me children. Yes, sure, may Allah subhanaw taala grant you and give you beautiful children, who will be a means of sadaqa jariya for you and who will be something that you that will be a legacy of honor for you. But that depends on you. The child who is which is born is born innocent, it is born on its fitrah is born on the nature with which Allah created it and the child is innocent, what happens to that child depends on what the parents do with it. And therefore, it is very important for us to take parenting as a very serious responsibility
and not do it just like we you know, be we raised some pets or something. There is a difference between a kitten and a child. So please understand this very clearly. And let us think about it. Now all of these ayat, underline the importance of raising piles
Children who are a credit to their parents and a mean of means of sadaqa jariya. For them, if we raise children who are highly successful in this life and Beloved of Allah subhanho wa taala, then we have done our job as parents, well, and can will, and we can then look forward to sadaqa jariya of that when our life ends here, the contrary is equally true, which means that if it is children who are not like this, then there is a problem. And we will face this problem when we die. And when we meet Allah subhanaw taala. Let us ask what we are doing, and where our focus and emphasis is, with respect to our children.
If we want the best for our children, which every parent does, then let's ask ourselves, if our choices and decisions reflect that there is no mystery in Islam, we have been told what is good and what is not the choice is ours, and we will pay our children are potentially our sadaqa jariya
so, the first thing that Imam to do so, therefore, I thought, let me share with you some
some some important things. And for that, I thought let me take and share with you some very important advice in this matter, which Mr. Kozar mentioned in his
in his wonderful book, and they have
the researchers and the of the sciences of Islam
email was early, you see, he talks about two very important things. First thing he says is one he warns us against feeding our children from haram. As he says it becomes
he because it becomes a part of them as they grow and become permeated into the very fiber of the child. And then this affects negatively it has a very, very negative effect on this child, both physically as well as psychologically as well as spiritually. So eating Halal is a very critical part of our lives. Eating alcohol in our religion is a matter of our Aqeedah it's a matter of our belief, right? If you don't do this, because of the health benefits and so on, even though those are those are also the the relationship between what we consume and our spiritual health is a very well established relationship. Today we live in a world
which is so materialistic, that we don't see this relationship but that doesn't mean just because you're blind to something doesn't mean that that thing disappears, that thing is very much there. And therefore we need to be clear about in our minds, there is a spiritual relationship between our actions and the conditions that come upon us. There is no direct personal relationship with that for example, he will say I live by salah I don't pray I don't do this I tell lies and cheat and so on so forth. What does that have to do with an earthquake or what does that have to do with with with with a tornado, but it does Allah subhanaw taala himself said this to us and sort of rule I'm not about
that I said the whole facade of a battery well battery Bhima Casa but it Nancy Lee use eco bag madula The Amaroo Nyla home yo yo ultramarathon has said that all the trials and tribulations and difficulties and calamities and and pandemics and the tornadoes and the earthquakes of the storms and you know the wars and the
collapse of the economy or take all of this stuff, and let's say all of the trials and tribulations and difficulties that that happened on the face of the earth in the face of the of the oceans are the result of the of the actions of people be my customer readiness, this is because you have earned this with with your with your hands.
And therefore, we have to understand that there is a spiritual relationship between our actions and what happens in the world. If we lead a clean life which is obedient to Allah subhanaw taala we will have a clean environment which is conducive to our to our own welfare. But if we if we
corrupt that life by making Halal what Allah made haram by imagining that something which is intrinsically harmful is okay.
It does not save us from the harm that thing causes.
So it's very important for us to understand this. In the if you just take the video stick the number just the statistics. The number of people who died because of COVID in these two years
is less than the number of people who died because of alcohol related illnesses or accidents in the same period. Two more people died because of alcohol than people who died
As of COVID, how much of
focus have we seen on COVID? And how much of focus on the CRO ALPA?
Fully ourselves does not change reality, let us understand this. So eating Halal is a very, very critical part of this. And it's a very critical part of our religion of our religion. This relationship between what we consume and our spiritual health is, is well established.
And of course, of course, at the grid aisle in the great scholar Alico shady, in his book, I'll do sal Allahu Surya. He says that the companions the Sahaba so Allah Azza wa sallam were more concerned about their food their about their Malay. And he said, The reason is that if they were eating food that was not good are lawful, there would be no tabulate that it will not they will not be able to get up okay, I'm late last month and I will not
accept family from them. Same thing, of course applies to us. It's not that the religion was different from the sahaba.
There is a widespread misunderstanding among the people that we need not check.
Whether what we are eating is halal or not if a Muslim gives it to us. Now, people sometime sometimes called opinions of different scholars to support this. The first thing to remember is that we are personally responsible for our actions. What goes into this mouth is my responsibility. Nothing can go into this mouth without my intention and without my knowledge, and unless I want it to go into my mouth, right? In normal circumstances, if I'm forced Fed is a different thing, but normal circumstances only what I want to put in my mouth can go into my mouth, this is something that I have to understand very clearly. And I cannot blame somebody else. If I put something in
about a revised something.
The second thing is that an opinion does not change the law. The fatwa is an opinion. The rule or the problem is the law.
The fatwa does not change the haka
to eat what you do not know is against the hadith of Rasul Allah as a result, so if somebody says, You don't need to ask, if there is no need to check, this is completely and totally false. That whole
argument doesn't work. Because it goes against the Hadees. Also, as I said on the first one is on the authority of Abu Mohammed Al has an even that even that I will tell you about the Allah Allah, the grandson of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, I memorized from Rasul Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam, leave that which makes you doubt for what does not make you doubt, leave that for leave that which makes you doubt for that, which does not make you doubt. So leave the doubtful for that, which is not doubtful.
As soon as the resume is not saying,
if it is doubtful, but it is given to you by a Muslim, no problem, you know, he's a if, if you have a doubt, leave it. And this is in the remedy. And let's say, and this is a Hassan sahih Hadith. And this statement of to say that if a Muslim gives it you can eat it goes against another Hadith, which is one of the very fundamental I had these in the entire collection of the teachings of Rasul Allah Azza wa sallam, and that had this is narrated by a Norman Bashir or the Alon who reported that Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said, the law of fool is clear, and the unlawful is clear, and between the two of them are doubtful matters, about which many people do not know. Thus, He who avoids
doubtful matters, clears himself in regard to his religion and his honor. And he who falls into doubtful matters will fall into the unlawful which is which is involved into the Hara.
As a shepherd, who pastures grazes his sheep near a sanctuary, all but grazing dairy, so the shepherd is getting grazing his flock right at the boundary of the sanctuary.
So what happens? What is the likelihood of that? The likelihood is at some of at some point, some of those sheep are going to go into the sanctuary, and the shepherd will be in trouble. So I'm not
saying Verily every king has a Sanctum which is the
what the format the word The King has, what is sacred to the king, what is only for the kingdom
sanctity of the king, every verily everything has a Sanctum and the sanctum of Allah subhanaw taala his prohibitions,
right the sanctum of Allah subhanaw taala is his prohibitions. Verily in the in the body is a piece of flesh, which is sound, the entire body is sound and if corrupt, the entire body is corrupt. Truly, it is the heart. And this hadith is motiva gonna lay agreed upon, say Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim. Now,
please understand this and think about is very clear. As soon as Salam is not saying there are doubtful matters, and no, no problem go into it, he's saying if you go into the doubtful matters, you are actually going to harm because there are two to two problems here. One is when you were to the doubtful matter, it might actually be haram. So you're going in there. But the bigger problem is that when you are choosing the doubtful, it means that you are disregarding the
danger of disobeying Allah subhanaw taala you're saying it doesn't matter, even if it's disobeyed Allah, I don't care. This is what we are saying by our actions.
The thing about is a basic Islamic and logical principle about what to do when in doubt is to clarify the doubt before you act, it is totally illogical to act on something about which you have a doubt to tell somebody that they must not question something about which they are doubtful and but to go ahead and act on the doubtful matter. Without clarification is total nonsense, is complete garbage. Only someone who is deficient in intelligence will believe that or act on it to apply that to something like dietary laws, which are a part of our tea that is to play with our mind itself.
Only what has been slaughtered in the prescribed manner which is by a Muslim number two, by cutting the carotid arteries, the jugular vein, the esophagus and the windpipe. So out of these four, at least three must be cut and saying Bismillah, Allahu Akbar or at least Bismillah is halal.
Everything else is halal. The basic principle in Islam is that
other than meat, everything is halal, except that which is prohibited with meat everything is haram except that which is permitted and the what makes it permitted is this methodology of slaughter.
This is a matter of Akira because it is very important to understand this that it is only this particular method which makes this router Hara
it is our job before eating to ascertain that this has been done. Meaning this meat with which we're eating has been slaughtered. In this way, I
have no hesitation to ask anyone whether the meat they are offering you is we have hand slaughtered by a Muslim.
If you don't want to ask, then don't eat the meat. If your email is dear to become best criteria, which means fish eating or vegetarian.
eat eggs and fish and seafood and vegetables, all that is better than red meat for you anyway. And remember that Brahmins were Hindus, they do it all their lives. If as Muslims, we cannot do this for one meal, I don't know what more to say.
Please remember that food is critical for both our physical and spiritual health. And it is critical for us in terms of how we raise our children.
You know early
again in say in the in his book, The revival, the revival of religious sciences, here along with Dean, he says the real secret of the proper upbringing of children is in protecting them from bad company. So one is feeding them halal. Secondly, ensuring they are in good company.
The quality of the habits of a child's companions and friends will necessarily have an impression on their own way of thinking and behavior. So finding good friends for our children is one of the best kept secrets to raising good children.
That is why the mcta is such an amazing opportunity for children to make good friends in an Islamic atmosphere, learning Islam, given what they are exposed to with their schools, both what they are taught, as well as the culture that they are exposed to. Having a daily detox after school is critical to survival.
The second most important thing to teach our children is good manners. I'm delivering Lovara the hunter Lally said
I spend 30
yours, I spent 30 years studying other, only then I opened the book.
The famous story also about Malik, Ben Anna's, how to Lally one of the greatest scholars of all time. His mother when he was a little boy and used to go too much and who to study with Ravi SRI is teacher. His mother used to dress him properly. She used to tie his travel men how much care they took their India send the kid wearing whatever the whatever he was wearing, right? He was put into formal clothes, because all of this adds to the Azova. To the to the importance of learning. You don't just sit anywhere and talk some talk something No. So she used to dress it. She used to tie his turn. And then she would send him little kid little boy with his with a turban and you know,
wearing clean clothes.
And she would tell him, she would say take from the other take from the matters of Rubio to right before you take from his knowledge
to learn from your house from his sabalan Watch him, observe him and see what he does.
Right? This is what she's saying due to a little sun.
Whatever the alarm was it
that also Eliza Salam said what has good manners, one may attain the same level of merit as those who spend their nights in prayer in Salah and other Hadees or whatever the Law No, he said, I heard I will cause him salatu salam Salam saying the best among you, in Islam are those with the best manners. Malik banana sobre la No.
Malik Alderaan reported. So as salam said, I have been sent to perfect good character
and you buy myself a new values cannot be legislated. They must be inculcated. Children listen with their eyes. They don't care what you say until they see what you do. I never felt we were astonished at how early in life, children start picking up behaviors and manners and start emulating them. We must be extremely careful with what we say or do because the child may be watching. I recall a story. A friend of mine told me he was in Japan in a small town and his Japanese friend and he were driving back to his hotel late at night. The road was deserted. They came to a traffic signal which turned red and his friend stopped the car. My friend jokingly said to him go on. There's nobody on
the road. His Japanese friend said you never know maybe your child is watching him your child is watching.
I always thought that was a such an amazing response. As myself, are we really so conscious.
In all my life having lived on three continents working with multiple races, nationalities, ages, cultures and religions. If you asked me to name the most important element of success, I will say it is good manners. Good manners help us to get along with people. It doesn't matter what else you have. If you don't have good manners, if you don't have social skills,
if you cannot get along with people
I have seen this time and time again. Talented people getting frustrated because they can't succeed in their career, in their marriages in their politics. The reason is always the same.
They can't get along with others. They have no manners.
When I was growing up in India,
people used to say that Muslim children have the best manners. Sadly, not anymore.
If you see the life of Rasul Allah is on Salah and seek the secret of success in inspiring a leading and amazing diversity of people and being able to change their beliefs and behavior, which was the result of centuries of tribalism and mutual suspicion, cultural racism, and he had successfully turning them around. It was his affability, his social skills, his softness and good manners. Allah subhanaw taala bore witness to this in the gala Hello para de la said you are on the best of manners
and in total I have learned a lot
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Allah said and by the mercy of Allah, you dealt with them
and had you been severe and harsh hearted they would have broken away from you.
They would have broken away from about you or around you. So pass over their faults, all their faults and ask lots of other tellers forgiveness for them and conserve them in in the matters. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah subhanaw taala. Certainly Allah subhanaw taala loves those who put their trust in Him.
Allah subhanaw taala is telling us the secret of good relations, overlook people's fourth, catch them doing right not catch them doing wrong. Be soft with them, not harsh, forgive them, and make dua for them. And then consult them that is take them into confidence for your decisions.
This doesn't mean that you hide the truth or change it to suit people or you
just say things that
make you popular. It means that you speak the truth. But you do that in a nice way. To treat people with respect. You disagree without being disagreeable.
To tip you treat people with respect, especially the ones you don't need to
who don't have power. As soon as SLM did not need to seek anyone's advice. He was receiving the heat from Allah subhanaw taala. Yet Allah subhanaw taala is telling him to consult with his companions.
Now, this is to show his respect for them, which would bind them to him and be the cohesive force to keep the brotherhood of faith intact. The key is to ask yourself, Do I want people to consider what I tell them? Or do I want to force my view on them?
I want to end with a story a true story, which shows how small children learn when they have thoughtful adults who are willing to teach them, Salomon Abdullah and to study, the great scholar he said, When I was three years old,
when I was three years old, I would wake up at night and watch my maternal uncle, Mohammed bin Siva Lally pray
one day he said to me, Do you not remember Allah Who created you? He said no to remember Allah don't make the good of Allah subhanaw taala anything that to a three year old boy. I think about this. What is the conversation we have with our children?
So Mohammed Mitzvah or the dalai saying to Sal we have Dylan to study artillery
when he was three years old, don't you remember allow you to do
so so when Abdullah he says, How should I do that? How should I remember?
And he replied, his uncle replied every night when you are getting changed. Instead when you're getting ready or your mother's getting you ready to go to bed. He said, say in your heart, without moving your tongue. Allah is with me. Allah is watching me. Allah is witnessing me so watching is watching witnessing is a record.
Imagine this is a three year old why advice being given to three or wising? That a Why is ignored with your tongue because it becomes a ritual language as well as well know, in your heart.
With the lips of your heart,
in your heart, can this awareness get this SRS?
Allah is with me.
Allah is watching me. Allah is witnessing me.
So Zalman Abdullah, he says I did this for some nights. And then I told my uncle, I've been doing it.
He then instructed me to say it seven times each night.
I started doing that. Then informed him again, he said, after some time passed, and he told me to increase that to 11 times.
He said, I did this, and the sweetness of it impacted my heart.
After a year, my uncle said to me now he's How old is he? Now He's four years old. He said, after a year, my uncle said to me, remember what I taught you, and persist in it until you enter your grave? For it will benefit you in this life and the hereafter.
Right, he didn't tell him he didn't teach him some great, complicated martial arts.
He is teaching one thing, the awareness of ALLAH SubhanA Huhtala. Today, this is our tragedy.
We have made our beloved are all based on different interpretations of Messiah.
We can each other for this.
But the actual thing for which Allah greeted us, which is to know Him.
We have no
Oh hello mashallah we have no focus on that.
This is what is teaching.
Within maintain this, Allah is watching me.
Allah is Allah is with me. Allah is watching me. Allah is witnessing
terms of the level of analysis I maintain his practice and I found its sweetness in the inner in my innermost soul.
Then one day
Michael said to me, also, if Allah is with someone,
if Allah is with someone watching him, and would missing him, can he disobey Him?
Can such a person disobey Allah?
He said, Beware of disobedience.
I say to you and myself. Obedience is Islam.
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