Ramadan Reset #08 Return to Allah – Maryam Amir

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Welcome to Ramadan reset with me Your host Lauren booth. This podcast series is sponsored by what handled org.uk delivering services to Syrians in need. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu. So without further ado, we've got an amazing, amazing blessing of a guest with us today Mashallah. All Star that Maryam Amir is with us today. She holds a bachelor's degree in Islamic Studies through as her she studied in Egypt. She is a half of the of Quran and has researched a variety of religious sciences, including Islamic jurisprudence, prophetic narrations and commentary and women's rights within Islamic law. For the past 15 years, or start the meriam has been an instructor with Al hikmah

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Institute's and she's an author with virtual mask and algebra online. By the grace of Allah, her focus in the fields of spiritual connection, social justice, and women's studies have seen her invited to lecture around the world, including in Jerusalem, Mecca, Medina, Stockholm, and she holds up to black belt of second degree black belt in Taekwondo and speaks multiple languages. I'm so in awe as salaam alaikum, warahmatullahi, wabarakatuh, snetor, hunting hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen ocelots Islam, why there has to be that right now I have to do what I can to thank you so much for having me. Tell us about your journey to memorizing the Quran and studying and as I please, yes,

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Pamela, this is actually a very long, long process. I think that so many of us when we want to study, our goal is to memorize the plan and a year, or our goal is to study and then inshallah we're going to be done, we're just going to go for a year, we're going to go for three years, four years, and then we're finished. And the path to knowledge is literally lifelong. And you're going to hear that from everyone. But I think a lot of times when you begin, you feel very hopeful that you are going to do it. And then as life comes up as as, as global situations happen, you find yourself more and more stuck. And at times you feel like it's a reflection on your own self and process of

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memorizing for and the practice of studying. It comes with so much

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purification. And it doesn't mean that necessarily a person who's sitting is pure, and you accept the process and journey, purifying so much of what you might have thought is the right way for you. And sometimes Allah panatela puts you in a place that you never expected would be the place that you could connect to him the most. And you actually might quite the fact that you're right. But sometimes he puts you in a place so that you can find the best way to start and in your circumstance. And that's specifically as an author interaction Manuel talks about is that school is really what we're what she comes about. Because when he puts priorities into your life, and you see

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them, and I hear this from a lot of people, like mothers, for example, who feel like they don't have time, because they are mothers, and they weren't planning to spend so many years studying, and now they have even more to do anything harder with kids, or, you know, individuals like we're taking care of their elderly parents are so many different.

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Sometimes a lot puts in front of your life. These things are called cultural glia toolbox, which is the priorities of your time. And so we're opening at worship is what you have in that time period, what you have in that time to do what Allah has put in front of your life in that moment, and what is working, and everything else you try to do within what he has put into your life. So definitely, it's so it's such a long journey to get to the goals that you have. For me, for example, I knew that I wanted to go into memorizing the court. And when I was a senior in high school, I wanted to become a scholar, I want to memorize the Quran. And panela the process of memorizing the Quran took seven

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years for the

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test of actually studying comes in, I went to Egypt, and then I came back, I was supposed to go back and then there was the Egyptian revolution. And then there was the the coup and there was there's so many things that just kept happening in my life. And for me each part, it was a reset to really look at my life and think like why does Allah subhanaw taala want me to be here right now is in this journey that I need to look at and see why do I need these parts of this journey for right now? So it's certainly a long process, but I will say that over and over. Every time I made the Hata which is this prayer of asking for guidance. There were times that I felt like the answer is not

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you know

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Just stay here. I don't want to do that. But it just, this is the way that a look at my life. And I have to be accepting of that. And looking back at those points in my life where I was trying to make major decisions about my journey of knowledge, and at the same time, my responsibilities of life, I look and see that every time I felt frustrated with my lack of growth, Allah had will for something else to open up for me to put me on a path where you open other doors of knowledge 20, that were more important to me at that time. But I know that, because I just got so frustrated with where I wish I could be. So I think the journey is a very long one. But when you realize that, it's

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lifelong, and you continually pray to Allah to open those doors for you, he will sometimes put you in places that are better than the ones that you imagine being in, even if in the moment, it's very difficult to see. Because I think so many people, all they want to do is just study in the masjid all day long, and the countries and just stay there for years and years and years. And that is such an honor and a gift if that's possible for so many people. But it's not the reality for so so so many people because of their personal circumstances or just global circumstances. So looking at what has Allah placed in your particular particular life? And how can you use what he has given you to

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draw close to him? Mashallah, I'm sure we're going to get lots of questions and brothers and sisters, I'm going to be, although sister, Marian has got a wonderful presentation to give us, which we'll be sharing in the next 30 minutes in Charlotte, about gratitude. please do feel free as well, to ask questions about that journey to Islam, even if you're starting out. I mean, for example, I'm kind of easily defeated on learning Arabic, there's something in me that is relating Arabic to language, and I got an F in my French because oh, yeah, at a level, it's kind of traumatize me for languages. But is it? Is it is there a mindset of treating this completely differently? When you sit

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down? That helps inshallah? Yes. So I'm not Arab. I totally understand I didn't grow up knowing Arabic. And when I tried to study Arabic, here in California, I kept taking classes. And of course, you know, I'm in California, I'm taking like a one hour class a week. It's extremely slow. I'm trying to memorize vocabulary throughout the week in the middle of all the things I'm trying to do. And it was just very difficult because, you know, you open the plan, and you're like, Oh, I can point out one word. And I don't know what that one word means. But I will tell you that what I would do is specifically look at language people ask me about wanting to know Arabic, for the sake of the

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for end, they just want to be able to understand the format. And absolutely, knowing Arabic fluently will impact your understanding of before and to a level that is way beyond just the English translation. But I will also tell you that I spent maybe about five years before I moved to Egypt to study Arabic, just reading the translation of the Quran. So I would spend

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every day reading five pages a day of English and Arabic, and then I would listen to the Arabic while reading the translation. And then they will also memorize keywords like popping up. Over time, by the time I moved to Egypt, I didn't know that you can speak to me, and I knew me.

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And sometimes maybe himself. But that's about

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anything else. I knew what we want no, no, no.

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I'm at that level, that's me. Really, when I tested in the Arabic program, they actually put me

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into the third level. So I wasn't a beginner. I was like an intermediate beginner. And then when I actually started my classes, my teacher looked at me and she said, I only need you placed into a level three, you should be in a level zero, you have no SQL skills. You have no you, you have nothing. Why would you please at this level, and I remember that was the first conversation we had. And over time, she realized that all my vocab comes from the heart. I couldn't understand anything else. Yeah.

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And so the process of simply reading the translation every day, listening and reading, translating, and memorizing key words had gotten me to a point where, you know, with every year that I hit this over a period of five years, I couldn't tell you that that lamb meant that some you know this particular or that in meant that, you know, this, this, this this. The person who left when I was quoting is emphasizing what they're saying. What I do not understand is the general message. I just want to general apply to me. So what I would recommend for any person who feels like I just can't learn

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Whether you can't learn Arabic or want to know all of it, your goal doesn't need to be I need to know Arabic In and out right now, you're going to be, I just want to be able to connect with your friend. And you can do that by listening to the Arabic reading the translation, and then also being able to memorize the key words, because there are so many words that are repetitive in a breath. And Allah has made it so easy for us to keep finding those repetitive words so that we can really connect to his words when we don't even know the language. So being able to memorize those keywords helps us process what the words are to us, even when we don't speak Arabic. And it's a mercy for him

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because he knows that his book came down and the language is going to be open until the end of time. For us. Sometimes we feel like, Oh, it's not good enough. If I'm not reading the Arabic, and I get this question a lot, and I'll move on, you know, I want to finish reading before at one entire time, all of them. And I and I share about because I've completed just a day, and they don't understand anything that they're reading, which is still beautiful, they'll put any topic working at almost half just looking at

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just looking at it with love, that is worship.

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Simply

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love it, it's worship to have the most out of your love for it. I've had a lot before the ad itself brings healing, it brings blessings into your life. without you even

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your attention of it. There are angels that roam the earth, looking for people who are leaving before at when you read the Quran, angels come into your home, they come into your life, and with them come to blessings and mercy on the answer of God. So there is every blessing possible when you read the for Allah, you don't understand it. And in addition to that, imagine how much more when you do understand what you're reading in a translation

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was revealed in Arabic to Europe. It wasn't revealed in Farsi, it wasn't revealed in Japanese. It wasn't revealed in Spanish, it was revealed in Arabic. And so the point is that a lot use the language that they know so intimately. And it challenged them because all kinds of before and is really a miracle forced upon has scientific miracles. Of course, the Quran has miracles in so many different ways. But once you do know the Arabic and the linguistic miracles, you can do nothing, when I'm sure that you yourself have read the Quran and meeting or read the covers, you know, your body just kept

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talking to you like how did you know that you're open, there must have been all of us.

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So that's really, that is such a real experience because Allah truly watches us and we appreciate our connection with his book in any language. But then imagine if you're witnessing the revelation, and the words that you're using are the words that you use in your daily life, never even attempt eloquence in the power of those words. So was knowing that language is so powerful for your deeper connection, your understanding our ability to look at the troposphere in Arabic, and Arabic and understand what they mean. But panela that just begins with the language that you speak. And in terms of if you embark on a full blown journey to memorize or learn Arabic so that you could like,

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fully understand and accept all of these texts. Because unfortunately, so much of our history is written in. I mean, it's not unfortunately, wonderful. Granted, it's unfortunate, it's not translated. So we don't have as much good work as you in here. But before being able to access all of that is just very exciting. But

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I remember when I went to Egypt, for me, I was thinking of people, and it seems like you do too, it seems like that's something that you enjoy. And I tried to make every opportunity of being outside in Egypt itself and opportunity to practice my language. And I knew that

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I knew I was gonna make a fool of myself, but that's okay. Because my goal is to run the home. And so what I would do is, I would try to fly to Kathmandu and I remember when I was trying to move apartments and I had a

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suitcase. And so I went like

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and I was like I have this thing and it's like a square and you

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know, from one place to another? Oh yeah.

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Perfect.

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For that, good luck.

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Next time he comes and it's just this this process where you don't look at how it's, you know, this over, you know, this unsurmountable winwick. You look at his nection with a lot. It's his connection, which is this connection with people. When you focus on what drives you. You seem like you're someone who is driven by a connection with people. People don't have that for people. They do not

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I enjoy speaking with random people on the street. That's okay. So now you find what drives you. What is it that drives you? Is it writing? Is it reading time? What drives you? And then use that point as a driving point? What's the point of access into being able to look at language because one of the things when you're studying Arabic, I remember, and I was still here before I would love to go to Egypt, I had a very incredible friend of mine. She's a chef and her husband, as a chef. They studied in Assad, and they had gone a year before me. And so I remember one, I was speaking with her a mom, and she was like, it's just so hard. And it's, it's not an RD man is not feeling strong. And,

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and I'm here like, in my room in California, they're living my dream. And I'm like,

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you're like everyone, right now.

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But then I got here. And I realized that you're not studying the poor animal thing. you're wanting to pebble assess your learning this, this man used to go to the bank, and then he goes to the hotel, and it's like, what's his use of have anything to do with the end. But then as you study those very dry basic words, you start recognizing the vocabulary, the syntax, the grammar,

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the rhetoric, all of that goes back to what you're really going for. And that is, and so it's a very long journey. being patient is definitely important. Making a lot of dialogue and always reminding yourself like why you're doing why going back to your access point for yourself to motivate you.

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Not 100 pound gorilla helpline means lots of some other way that normal blaan especially I hear a lot about how they

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people who haven't felt emotionally connected to Alon this month. So struggling with feeling like the sweetness of thank those tears falling from your eyes. And that's a very common feeling that sometimes leads people to feel like they haven't been successful this term a lot. This from Milan wasn't good enough, they didn't do good enough. And almost anytime I hear this, I asked what is going on in your life, because the way that you are feeling from an emotional level, the stresses you have in your life, whatever is going on with your family, or your job, or your depression, or whatever it is. Sometimes we take those things, and we think this all of this difficulty, and the

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fact that I don't feel an emotional connection with Allah is a sign that I am not close to him, or I am not accepted by him. When in reality, those are our own insecurities. Those are our own things that we are processing in our tests. And then what we do is we start projecting them onto a lot. So we struggle with our own selves, we feel like we're not putting up we struggle with our own religious insecurities. And then we project that all into Allah subhanaw taala. And then we think, if this is the way I feel about myself, if I am struggling with feeling apathetic towards myself, or self loathing, or any type of struggle internally, then that must mean that that's how Allah

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subhanaw taala views me. And we can never say that the way that a lot of users that the way that we see ourselves, instead, what we should know is that Allah subhanaw taala is the Most Merciful, the most loving, that he sees all the pain that we're going through, or the confusion that we're going through the stresses that we're going through a loss that we're facing, he sees all of that, well, this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us that even the prick of a foreign is a means of our forgiveness is a means of our drawing closer to him. Because all of these types of trials in our lives, they all are a form of our own closeness to him in this life, and when it

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really matters for eternity in the next. So whenever we are going through a very difficult space and we start to view ourselves in a deficit. It's important to re evaluate the way that we that we that we are looking at ourselves and start thinking about ourselves from a place of gratitude of what we have. And we see in our own muscle Ching emphasis on this in our global

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conversation when we talk about, for example, people with disabilities, even the term itself is a disability, it doesn't have the ability of someone else. But really, which is, of course, a totally perfectly fine term. I'm not trying to say that that's someone this is this is a term that someone who's disabled identifies with, that is amazing.

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Another way that we can look at that is that, you know, those who have a disability also have varying abilities, because they can do things in ways that those who are typically able, like someone who doesn't have a struggle with maybe eyesight, or hearing or arms, or whatever it is, they can do things in ways that other people can't. So their abilities are varied. And one of the things that we continuously see in our religion is that there isn't a highlight on people who don't have the same necessarily necessarily abilities, as those who have typical, were typically abled, but they are still critical for the community or are in a place of gratitude. So give you an example.

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For example, I'll give you an example. I happen to live in a film who is known as a company who's a blind man of the profits, and all of a sudden,

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you know, we today, you know, we know someone who is blind or here who's blind and sometimes people think, Oh, you know, that's so sad that they don't have eyesight and of course not having eyesight. I mean, it is an enormous blessing of course. I can't say thank you enough for that blessing. But that doesn't mean we don't have other blessings. And just like we might not have the same currently and when we came up in the community of the prophet SAW Lamar they he had any men who know everything that the man do have the name in mind when you hear the abandoned excuse me the weapon so who was the event? our listeners want to hear someone who will see event who think that the person

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who made the event at the time of the pocket so a lot more I think he's gonna have to fill out

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we're gonna say a lot more slowly. We're selling Marlin have you know have you been in Mohamed for three seconds along with Sony we're selling Marlin and you know, having a love Muslim you with them Island have you know, have you never had that? Mashallah informing, is just too many people. So

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normally, people think, you know,

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um, and he is an incredible modern apartment, some of them are on a list. And the second living with a little love is on what's up.

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And what's incredible about this one is gonna put him in a position where people are not only being called to the floor, which is the most, you know, important daily action of a Muslim, but not only is, is he in a visible position, but people coming into the community who don't know the Muslim community, people who are coming in and wondering about religion are seeing a blind man as a representative for the most important aspect of our daily rituals. So what we see is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the way they set up the policies of his community, he's reminding every believer that no matter what the circumstances are, you are not just welcome into

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the community, you're not just here in the community, you are critical, you're integral with the way their community functions. And that is a place that recognition that I have a purpose, that is a is the beginning of where we start to feel a sense of gratitude. Because when we look at our life, when we feel like we have a reason for our day to day, that in and of itself is enough to fill our hearts with this feeling of humility, because so many people have so much time and have absolutely no idea what to do with it.

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People have every single blessing, but they don't know where to go. And that is really difficult. It's really not have any idea what to do with yourself.

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So many of you might be in that circumstance where you know, you you know, you do pray and you do all these things, but you don't know what your major goals are, you might not feel happy with where you are on your life. That's okay, that's a plus test. But if you still know that in the end of the day, in the metal vignette, with your intention, everything can become an act of worship, then you to turn that you know, hours of practice to figure out who you are on your laptop into a form of worship, because you're trying to find out how you best serve. All those times when you feel like you don't know how the data path is looking and, you know, cleaning for all of that purpose. You

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have something around you. And remember that he he's a scholar of our past narration of amending Abdullah who was walking on a hill and he came across a 10th where someone was living. And he approached the chance he asked one sir,

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who's paralyzed, he's blind, and he doesn't have his arms. And so he called out to him because he

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Here's one of this test I'm having to the level of baloney I like to hear

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Thank you a lot to the one who had given me some of this lesson was over so many other people. And I'm listening to this old man, and he's thinking, This man is paralyzed. He's lying. And he doesn't have arms. And he's saying, I have so much. And so the men, Abdullah asked about this older man, how are you?

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Why you're raising, I have more than 20 people. And he said, am I not mine?

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And I said, Yes. And he said, how many people don't have? How many people are not able to think for themselves? Do I not have the ability to hear of the lesson? Yes. And how many people don't have the ability to hear, I mean, this man isn't focusing on what of the last off, which is everything he doesn't have. He is focusing on what Allah has given him and how to use what was given.

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And I'll tell you once I was in the grocery store with my two kids. And at the time, my son was about maybe three, and my baby was maybe like a year. And there were they're very little curious or asking questions without filtering. So we're checking out and here is caching, you're loading up working on trees, and has a very visible disability, very visible variability, I noticed it immediately. And that's what I think that we noticed each of those differences, and we celebrate them and we recognize them. And we recognize that even with our differences, all of us are using the skills that Allah has given us in those different ways. And we are, we are just in all of us power

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through them. And my son, my my freedom over time, he, he was speaking to me, he said, Mommy, why he's like that. And so I know that the man heard why he's like that. And the way I interpreted this is just Okay, now he's recognizing very visibly that this man has a disability, and how am I going to explain this to my son, and all in? Okay, I'm going to tell him that this man is so incredible, because this is all How long? This man has so much tenacity, because regardless of his circumstances, he is doing so much that I couldn't do in the way that he's doing it. And I tried to think of all these things, and then I was like, you know, what I want to allow for my son to be able

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to ask this man, if he was self feels comfortable explaining this part of his identity. And I didn't know what that company would feel. I just felt like maybe this would be something that I could ask for that he himself didn't feel like he could on the voice.

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And so I asked him, I asked my son, my baby, what do you mean, why he's like that. And the grocer, the employee who is helping us

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listening, and my son said, while putting all the things in our cart,

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he was just wondering why we're putting things in our cart. And

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in so many different ways, when all we said was, what was the action? And so the man told us, oh, I work here. That's my job, and then went away.

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But I think the point of what I'm doing on this was that Allah, what's better action, just like that three year old, who doesn't know what we are looking to things as we just see, it almost fatalities, our activities. Beyond that, we also see our emotions.

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And sometimes, when we look at who a lot is, we struggle because we think, Oh, I'm not good enough. We shouldn't look at how we feel, or how we don't feel like we measure up to a lot. Don't look at your smallness, look at what was greatness, he has a repeating of what he is observing, even though

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he was so low winner, you know, you might be aware of where you're going with, that. You might be aware of where you're, you're aware of what you need, what you love, is watched over his servants, he knows what they're doing what they need. So instead of feeling like I can't connect to him because of my smallness, because of my sins, because of my mistakes, I can't have this emotional connection. Let's look at almost a telltale sign tighten up as my servant thinks I am.

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Always to make a diet and the whole thing I was thinking a lot to answer this graph the whole time I was making that draw. I was thinking Allah is going to give me the opposite of what I'm asking for because he wants to test me. Why would Allah? Yeah. Thinking of the worst things about Allah May Allah forgive me, so many of us are trained a lot in that way. And some of that comes from our own trauma of our own self healing self, the process, but that process is called to healing religion.

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Allah. So instead, look, look at your relationship with Allah, I started changing. And I realized Wait a second, I as my servant thinks, I'm going to have a job. And I'm going to have certainty in that draw as a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us make a lot, and you are affirming your beliefs. So you make a dua to Allah knowing that Allah will answer you. And that answer might come in different ways, but he will answer you, maybe you don't see the exact answer, but he will come in in different ways. So I started making a lightning pact with the certainty of who he is. And was watching me and the Mooji, who will answer and Allah subhanaw taala answer. And sometimes for

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meeting those guys that I made, they would take two years, seven years, 10 years until they

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cannot okay. It's a journey. That's part of the process of that die. Yes. Oh, Stata Habibi, FMT, a question on gratitude. We should focus on people who are who are on ourselves when we're not doing well, when the question is this, we seem to know how to ask Allah. But regarding gratitude, do we know how to thank him? Because sometimes the distance comes when the prayer has been answered, and you're like, I'm okay now. And we slip into a dangerous, disconnected zone. I wonder with the little time we have left with he could touch on that. Thank you. That's a perfect segue to the next portion, which is how to inculcate that. So we hear about people who have gratitude, like the ones I

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mentioned, we look at who Allah is. That's where gratitude stems from auto royalty. He's the one who still watchable that he loves you. And he cares for you. So, so much so that when your drive is not answered, last week, two years, I've been praying for something, I thought that day it was going to be answered, I was supposed to get information about whether or not I was going to be wizard, I was so helpful, and it wasn't answered. And I was going to state it. But of course, I trusted that Allah has the best plan. And then later on in that day, I just really wanted these cookies that my friend bakes. And so Pamela out of nowhere, she called me and she said, I'm dropping these particular

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cookies on. Why did that happen? Allah knows your circumstance, when he doesn't answer the big, he still gives you the comfort of a small, because he knows the big, is that a better time. But that small, out of his love for you, he continues to still give me so to inculcate this gratitude, stop looking at the big you don't have sweat looking at the small you do. Take a moment every day psychologists say that for 21 days, if you just write down three things at the end of your day, and you're grateful for from that day 100 in that I found a purpose today. And Hamdulillah, I have a toothbrush to brush my teeth, on handling that I was able to sleep without rain pouring upon me, oh

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my god, so many people don't have these blessings, but they might have a lot. So we think about those three things a day that Allah has blessed us with for 21 days, if you write this down in the journal, you're added to will psychological your neurons will start shifting to look at us from a place a place of gratitude and a attitude of gratitude. And for an emotional connection in these days, what I recommend is you take some quiet time to just sit and just say Alhamdulillah. And with every single one that you say, you think about a blessing, take time for yourself every day, even if it's just five minutes, and just focus on giving things to Allah. And in that moment, think of what

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you're giving things for it can be as huge as the fact that you are able to close your eyes at night because some people do not have what is needed for their I suppose they have to keep it shut. Or it could be as small as me.

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I'm so glad that I have a set, which is still not so small, really, there's no small boss. So you say anything about handling that I have nails to cover the painful area underneath. And having to do that I can I can see the sky. And if you can't see this guy 100 in that, then I can bring you whatever that blessing is. You just need 100 enough for each blessing over and over and over. And instead of approaching from this deficit, overlying need this

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is a form of worship.

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Begging is a form of worship your need is a form of worship. You also merge that with the gratitude of what you have. Oh a lot. Thank you for the blessings you have given me. Center someone

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Oh, a lot. I would have given me this in the past. As you have given this in the past. Please answer me I didn't get a lot more generous. We could ask. You could ask every single person who's listening can ask. can ask an election give every single one of us what we need and it's nothing more than dipping a needle into the ocean and how the noodle is practically dry.

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That's all the way from almost 2 million. So when we asked, we asked, and we asked, but when we asked him for what we don't have, we recognize that it's not from a deficit, because I don't

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know. And that's okay. We feel like I'm in a deficit. But the differences I'm coming to along knowing that it's not what I'm asking for, it's who I'm asking a lot is the most generous, even when we don't deserve the generosity. He's the most merciful, even we don't deserve the mercy. It doesn't matter what you are asking for, because you're never going to be hitting me up. But he, it's not about whether or not you're good enough. It's about who he is. He just is. Ramadan is a time of the Torah has been pulling on the back of his head, you're gonna break next week outside of the law, but

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not a lot. It's the same action, but the timing is.

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So the same, the same thing that you're asking for the smallest of it is not small again. And I get this question all the time. Like, I feel that a lot. I want to ask them, but I'm not really asking again, when you ask, Who loves to listen, he loves to listen to the sound of your voice. So when you sit in that, listening,

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after that time, when your heart is full of gratitude, when you recognize that it doesn't matter, your mistakes he still has continually given you. In that moment. You look at the whole

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Mother, what a baby into a basket, her baby was taken straight to the palace of apparel, anyone else she was trying to protect them.

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And what happens in the end, he has her baby come back, what happens in the end, he has state protection to have her son, and for the rest of humanity, he has to be put in that place to create the legacy of the freedom of the venue

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and the establishment of this worship of Allah subhanaw taala, which I

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have made an impact for the entire world. So sometimes you're in a place and we feel stuck, you're taking into the palace with the Pharaoh and you don't know why. Remember, she knows her here. He knows your full time story. And those tears that you mean, when you are hugging him in the circle, maybe those tears are the ones that will fertilize the earth in which a tree which has flowers bloom and while you will be in your grave 300 years from now, birds and butterflies and bees are taking from the fruit of your tears and you're still getting the reward that you planted from your sadness in that moment. So recognize that even

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when you're fertilizing, you might not see the light but maybe what comes after it is through that you are being rewarded for it when you have nothing but your this tiny space in the earth instead of being on top of it. Coming from a place of gratitude or my father has told us that when you're grateful I want to lose you so being grateful to him and inshallah he will increase you in the blessings that

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Allah, Masha Allah, we've all benefited. Thank you so much. Thank you so much for the honor of being with you and thank you so much for your kindness. If you've enjoyed this podcast, please take a moment to visit well ten.org. UK to support Syrians in need