Obedience To Parents

Yaser Birjas


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This lecture was given at the Valley Ranch Islamic Center on Feb 10, 2017.

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viral Heidi. Heidi Mohammedan sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Mashallah Marina de tu Hakuna Matata, Hakuna Matata, Malala, Bakula La la la la la la vida de la MADI brothers and sisters, probably by now, most of you know that my father, my beloved father, Allah subhana wa, merci numerable al Ameen passed away last week. And Hanalei was a, although it's a very personal thing, but there is so much so much higher and so much hikmah. So much wisdom, can be learned from personal experience when it comes to dealing with your parents. My father is a father, of course of a family of eight Mashallah raised eight children. And if you look at him is one of those typical in a family man who knew that

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their role is to make sure that their family's been secured by taking care of all of this while long he's taken care of his own religious duties with his Lord subhanho wa Taala. And my father, when he passed away, he was 75 years old. But some hannula

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until the last almost, you could say three months of his life, he was very active, will handle it with full faculties, even independent, going to the masjid, and walking. And many years before that he lost sight in one of his eyes. And he still would go to the museum.

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And then how many people are much younger, with full site, full energy, they feel extremely hot and difficult to wake up for failure, or even come and walk to them as

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my father came few days few few times here to the community. Some of you probably have met him. And when he came here to Hell, I remember the first thing he would ask me when he comes into the house after he settles down he goes, do you have a big must have?

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Because again, he struggles with his sight at that age, even with one eye, the first thing he would care about, he would say, do you have a big Muslim, I said how big.

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So he was asking the biggest you have to holla. So I had to bring him I have to offer him a very special massage, which we still have at home, big enough for someone of his age, and at that level, to read the Quran. And every single day, he would have his assignment with the Quran.

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He continued doing that until once again, he's kind of like reaching that age, you're unable to recognize and see and probably hear so panela it was just an unbelievable how a lot of hunters plants would work. He lived here for almost 19 years. And the last two years, I decided just to take a break and go to their hometown, where they lived in Jordan. And just the last three months, for whatever reason. My mom, she said, You know what, we need to move back to the US. And they did.

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And like that right after they arrived over here a month after they arrived here. Pamela his conditions start deteriorating. He went to the hospital. And the doctor said there isn't much really that can be done.

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As of how long the plan is that allows so Joel wanted him to die among his own family members, his children.

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And we're just like something to think about. It's just unbelievable, how Allah subhana wa tada planned things.

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And with this, I would like to dedicate the hood

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for our parents, for the

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kindness of to our to our parents, regardless of the circumstances of our life will lie. Some things Pamela just kind of like, bothered me a lot. Because the week, the last weekend, before my father passed away, I was there.

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And I was there for three days and was taken on him and children, the family and my other brothers and my mom, she kept telling me, that's enough you go. If anything would happen, we'll call you back. And then you just look around in your life. You have to do other things and other duties to take care of, which is nothing we could get away with without doing it in our lives. But then I when I left. It was just five days. It was just five days where I'm just teaching in another community. My brother who came to visit me in the hotel, he said you know, how is the situation there? I said listen, book a flight and go

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You need to book a flight ago because it's a matter of time.

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Although my other family members telling him You don't have to go there, so just go. And he went, the next day, it was him who called me and he says, My father just passed away.

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This panela many things would happen on a lab lands things in a very miraculous world and unbelievable ways. I wonder for the other after the burial. I'm very grateful for many brothers and sisters and community members and leaders and an Imam who came and joined us actually for the funeral. Hanalei when I met another member of our family,

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whose brother was a friend of my father, and he told me that, that was his brother actually died the exact same day, my father passed away. Now, the irony is that his brother also had the same name for my father hasn't.

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And he told me that they used to be classmates, and they were best friends.

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And they died on the exact same days of Panama, one in the morning, one in the afternoon.

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And just when I think about all these stories, it's not Illa Allah, how Allah azza wa jal plan plans things beruwala then when we say burel worry, then being beautiful to your parents and kind to your parents, a lot of people, they just kind of think of it as a title. We started this, you know, in our, our, our lectures and our Islamic education in the masjid and weekend school, and we learn about it so much, we have just even memorize the term guru wallet and to the extent that we no longer understand what does exactly mean, either just being a formal title,

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just a formal title that you're required to do. Little validation, being beautiful to your parents. But to know, what does it exactly mean, to practice every day? That is a struggle that many of us who are going through, I don't even know how to do my provider and people they ask. So what does it mean? Does it mean I have to give this I have to give that up? What is it exactly? neural validation is a great thing is one of the ibadat one of the greatest acts of worship.

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And I know many people when we asked them when we told them to do build, validate, they don't think of it they don't think of it as an act of worship. They don't think of it as an act of worship, we think of it as a responsibility as a social duty, probably as a cultural obligation. Now, it's not a cultural obligation. It is not a cultural obligation at all. It is acted its religious duty, and it's a human duty as well. Before being culture or tradition

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rasulillah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said follow the huddle Jenna. As was mentioned Muslim Mohammed Rahim Allah tala. He said the hulten Jenna he has a vision salatu wa salam O Allah, in which he entered the agenda. Kala semitruck Ratan I heard the recitation there somewhere in Jenna. Coco Touma nada. I asked who, who's this person who's deciding how to hire this man. This man was hard to ignore man probably most of us never heard of that Sahabi before. The name is unknown to us probably heard of Norman takala Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So the Prophet when he heard his name, he says, Gary komondor catalytic converter. This is the meaning of being beautiful

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to parents. This is the meaning of being dutiful to your parents. And then and the commentary on the Hadith the Sahaba they said who narrated the Hadith Carlo wacana Barbara nasty to me, he was the most beautiful to his mom.

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He was very famous and very well known how he was treating his mom in the best way possible. Subaru Holiday Inn Allah subhana wa tada mentioned it right after mentioning his a vida de bout of Allah azzawajal Allah subhanho wa Taala even mentioned this not just to us, to the people who are way before us, Allah to Allah was 100 mitaka Bani Israel Isla la buena illallah wa vulvodynia Sana Allah subhana wa has taken the covenant upon the people who brought Venezuela in

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the people of Masada Salam from way before us. You have taken the covenant the word from them a lotta Buddha, Allah Allah that you worship number Allah subhanho wa Taala second to that right away, he said, what we wanted in a Sunnah and you treat your parents with son. What's the meaning of a son? That's what we call a barrel every day. That's what we call bird warden. Allah subhanho wa Taala also said to us, why Buddha Allah wa salatu salam, ala you worship Allah and only Allah associate no partners with him and worship subhana wa Taala and then he said what will validate the Sunnah and then with your, about your parents, feed them with a son. A son has been perfection. And

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when will people be asked? What's the meaning of bedroom validation for the dutifulness towards your parents? The word bear comes from

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The Arabic word borrow.

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And borrow is actually the space. Those who understand Arabic They know that Burmese actually space, it means the desert, the open the open space. When you say open space, what is exactly so significant about open space, it has no boundaries.

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Wherever you look, it's open space. There are no walls that restrict your site, or restrict your vision, nothing. It's all open space. So when it comes to better, that's what it means it's open, there are no boundaries to it. Allah subhana wa tada called the people of agenda. He called them abroad, and you call the angels Bharara. And though they both come from the word better, and better as well, why abroad, because abroad means they have the perfection in terms of their higher and goodness is so perfect has no limits, no boundaries of of goodness, similarly to the angels as well. And when it comes to beruwala, then it's all about that beruwala then has no boundaries. So when

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people ask, Does it mean that I have to obey my parents, which yesterday to be your parents? Okay, that doesn't mean to take care of them financially? Absolutely. Does it mean to take care of them this way or that way in any possible way that you can think of, as long as it does not contradict with any of the rules of Allah subhanho wa Taala and of the commands of a Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam that should be an act of better an act of goodness to your parents. The known one of the righteous people, one of the side of him, he said, Carla Salah, determine Allah Melbourne, three things are sign of goodness sign of dutifulness per mineral Valley then First of

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all, to be beautiful to your parents with personal piety. lahoma how he mentioned two things by obey them kindly, which means you only wear your parents you don't obey your parents would show them you know, kind of like that you do resisting it or just kind of like disgruntled about it and upset and you don't show any kind of sign of that nature. You obey with full handler with full gratitude and satisfaction, personal tantalum, kala Wadi, Wali, Jana, little Jana, he means by that as the last powder mentioned in the Quran, Allah wa lahoma Jenna has the lemon aroma, that you lower the wings of mercy to parents. Now that's an Arabic expression to lower the wings of humility for your

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parents. And that means that when you lower the wings of humility, never ever try to soar above them in whatever status you can imagine so better than your parents in knowledge, and finances, being smart, or they're less smart strength, power, whatever that is. Never ever try to elevate yourself, or try to fly or try to soar in any way above your parents. To that extent, kinda worried

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that you kind of like lower your wings, the learning of humility for your parents, Karla was a little man. Little Man means giving your parents generously.

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You give them generously. So your wealth is basically they have the right they have a right in your wealth as well as parents. And then he said the second kind of better call overruled wallet as your dutifulness towards your children per rehearsal DB long by you treat them you educate them properly, meaning you raise your children with good manners, good luck. So they learn the best etiquette in this life. What data to hire, and you guide them to that which is good. You guide your children to that which is good always be a guide for them. And then he said we're better than Jimmy and NASA as for the people in general. As for people of general he says you show them better and kindness with

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allapattah which wasn't mine, Marcia smiling in their faces. You smile in the face of strangers, neighbors, friends, people around you will hostile Mashallah. And the best treatment, best and best interaction with them. Which means with good manners again, and good luck Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He was the best example for us in that although we don't know many stories from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam about purely them because to Allah His father died before he was even born. And his mom died when he was a child. So to LA to LA was lmra. But some of that bird that we have seen from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is when the prophets Allah said, you know, parents

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when he asked Allah azza wa jal to allow him to visit the grave of his mother, and he was allowed to do that. So he visited the grave, sort of Atilla ceremony. Upon standing on that grave, he cried,

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can imagine a man in his 50s so don't want to lie with somebody standing at the grave of his mother, and he cries.

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So how about the London home they look at the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and they cried as well.

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sympathize because they know that's human. It's very natural. It's okay. If people do good emotions holla at that moment when you remember, these are your parents. And why is that? For us Muslims? We know that a prophet sallallahu sallam, he instructed us, if you looking for Jenna,

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you'll find that they're

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your parents are two gates origin.

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Your parents, these are two gates, the agenda, these are just green tickets, basically green lights for you and tickets to agenda. As long as they're alive. You make sure that you take care of them, make sure that you take care of them.

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And if either, if one of them passed away, that means one door is closing, you're going to catch up before the other one is actually closes as well. Now the last thing, Prophet sallallahu wasallam instructed us also to take care of our parents, even long after they're gone to the Sahaba the law of the land whom they were curious about it, that some of them they missed the opportunity, probably taking care of their parents, they died. And they also sort of La hasta la silla Miata sort of law. Is there anyway. Is there any way that we can take care of our parents or do beruwala day and after our parents are gone from this life? Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Nam de sala de la Hema, well

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is still far Allahumma why in fact the idema member the Hema wa Salatu Rahim Allah, Allah to Allah, Allah subhana wa ekra Masada to him. He says sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a Salah to Allah him, that means you pray to Allah to janaza. And you make dua for them,

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Jenna's and da,

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which means doesn't matter how busy you are, doesn't matter what schedule you have. If that was a moment for them, you have to be there, have to interrupt everything, and go and be there. Because these are your parents now.

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That he said, Well, I still follow lahoma that you seek forgiveness for them, particularly from the advice that you give to seek forgiveness for your parents. And then he said, Well, in fact, do it Mom and Dad him that whatever pledges they've given, make sure to fulfill that is the promised people with anything, you're going to try to fulfill that. And that's why a tradition and tradition people they do at the grave site before the person is actually put into the grave. They ask, does anyone has anyone you know, know that they this person or the disease owes them anything?

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If they obliged anything for you, if you promised with anything, please let us know. We'll take care of it for you. Because we want to make sure that when their diseases actually lead and put them under the grave, they'll handle everything will be covered for them. And that is part of her validation as well. WOC Allah sallallahu wasallam pasilla to Rahim, Allah, Allah to Allah, Allah Bhima and maintain the type of kinship, that type that kinship that cannot be maintained without you being linked to them through the person who died, your parents, your mom and your dad. So whether your uncle's, your cousins, their uncles, grandparents and so on, you make sure to maintain that

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beautifulness through the relatives that you have around you. Then he sets out a law that will sell them while crom Masada, Oklahoma, and now you go to the bigger circle, not just their relatives, even their friends, even their friends, their neighbors, their co workers, people they knew from before. So whenever you see them somewhere, you go and you maintain that relationship with them. And you're making sure that Allah subhanho wa Taala. Right, their legacy long after they're gone through you as being a beautiful child, and beautiful actually, you know, a kid of their own parents, Allah subhanho wa Taala has given our parents another opportunity after they're gone through us.

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Therefore, I urge each and every one of us if your parents are gone from this world, that you take the opportunity that you fulfill these obligations or the duty towards your parents, Allah Subhana whether forgive our parents or have been given genital for those with Allah manual Rahim Allah. Allah Allah Allah will come

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through, Rahim

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al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa salam salovaara can you know Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman kathira

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are the brothers and sisters. I know many people they might have this question in their minds right now, saying but that's in the ideal relationship between parents and children.

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But what about if the parents maybe they would be difficult if they asked you for things that might not be in accordance to the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam

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Now if they ask you and command you to do whatever that is that will display the loss of Hannah hautala palapa Terra mahalo conferma, settle holla, there is no obedience to any creature, if that entails that this obedience to the creators of Hana hautala, not even parents.

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But when it comes to other issues, other issues, obviously, as human beings, we have our own handler, desire to become independent, and moving on with life, making sure that you fulfill our duties to other people, other people in our lives as well, spouse, and children and others and so on. Sometimes it's come in conflict with our parents, you know, maybe requests and desires. How do you handle these issues? Now, that's a difficult situation. It can't be answered in a football and it's a case by case scenario. But what will be required to do even when times is difficult when time is difficult dealing with parents, still, you are command and you are being ordered to make sure

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that you maintain the best of art and manners with your parents. It doesn't matter.

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So they asked you something that is out of your league out of your hand. You still need to respond in that which is best as much as you can.

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