Some Advice To The Muslim Women

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Khalid Yasin

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call

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a motion

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to adjourn, yo,

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yo channel,

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Fiero.

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Muslim brothers and sisters. Our advice this morning is to our Muslim sisters. And it is only just advice in sha Allah.

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Originally, we discussed the possibility of addressing the topic, the role of the special role of the Muslim woman.

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in my estimation, this

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would take a little bit more time, or requires a little more time and preparation than what we have this morning. Because it's a more comprehensive subject.

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And we don't want to approach a comprehensive and sensitive subject like that

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in a short amount of time, and we also understand that we have some breakfast arranged. And so also that food has some right over us. And so what we want to do this morning is just to address the issue of advice to the Muslim sisters.

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And in doing so, we want to just touch upon some, some issues relative to the sensitivity of the woman.

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And, and in doing so I want the sisters to know that I am not addressing this matter conclusively. I'm not issuing any fatawa or I'm not making any type of token upon them about these matters. But I'm just going to discuss some issues which from my background and experience, I know

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constantly come up relative to

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the behavior, responsibility and the rights

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of the Muslim sisters, the behavior,

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the responsibility

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and the rights

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of the Muslim sisters.

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First of all, I like to commend our Muslim sisters that in this age of fitna

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and provocation and immorality

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and liberalism

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and confusion, may Allah subhanaw taala reward those sisters who are part who are part of the shadow to

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the good literary,

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those who have made the commitment

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to keep their hijab

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to keep themselves pure,

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to fulfill their obligation to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala

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to study the Quran among themselves

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to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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to face their non Muslim families or their non practicing families

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to stay quietly and dignified in their houses.

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and rehearse from the verses of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the guidance of His Messenger Salatu was Salam

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and to serve their husbands

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without complaints,

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and to raise their children upon the arcada of Islam

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and to impart to the children and their families, the adverb of Islam

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and to engage as much as they can in remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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and to engage in Ischia,

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purging

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their home environment from the fitna of the dogen,

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the immorality

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and I'd like to remind our brothers

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that none of us if we were given the awesome responsibility,

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could do what the women do.

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Psychologically, you cannot do it, your mind is not prepared to do what they do, day in and day out.

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If a man

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had to get pregnant and have a baby, he would die.

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And then on top of that, if he had to look forward to taking care of that child for the next

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10 1520 years, and some time the mother, she's taking care of a grown child,

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men who still live with their mothers,

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you couldn't do it.

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And still, she's taking care of herself. But she's taking care of her husband.

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Mere loss upon the reward those sisters

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and male law cover their false

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male law cause their husbands and brothers and sons to appreciate them, because they are the godly trees that bear the goodly fruit Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran.

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Medina Muslim sisters, understand clearly that

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you have issues.

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And we want to talk about some of those issues. And I'm going to mention those issues as they come to me on a regular basis. And keep this in mind. I have a mother,

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I have a wife,

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I have a sister.

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And I am not always fulfilling my duties and rights to them.

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So I am hearing the complaints from time to time. And then I am hearing

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the complaints of the Muslim women all over every place. But when the messenger of a loss of last name

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was frequently complained to by women, his answer was these are not the best from among you.

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When the woman came complaining to the Prophet ciloxan, about their husbands, he said these are not the best for among you.

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The scholars, they said this is the very essence of Heckman from the prophets, a lot of them because when he said these are not the best from among you, we can gather two things either either these women who is complaining, these are not the best.

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Or those men that they are complaining about. These are not the best. Or the scholars they said both these men and the woman, the woman who is complaining, and the men they're complaining about these are not the best.

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So we know that

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the woman who is complaining even when she has legitimate complaint,

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a lot doesn't like it in the profits or loss and doesn't like it meaning that

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not that the woman doesn't have recourse she should.

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If she must

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go to the go to the wall, he will

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go to the person who is holding authority among the Muslims. Even if he's only holding the authority of a small group of people that means he is holding the power of the collection of five or six people. Only power he has is there consensus or he is holding a larger power goes to those who are holding some knowledge and those who are holding some power among the Muslims. And take your complaint to that person and don't take it to the other people. Don't go in and out in and out in and out in and out of the Muslims in and out of the sisters in and out of the ranks, discussing the bad qualities of your husband. Don't do that.

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Don't spread. What happens in your house was the other Muslims don't do that.

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Don't sit down with other women

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and complain about the men or complain about your house or complain about the children or complain about your food or complain about this. Don't do that.

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The other the other of the Muslim woman is to control herself

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and to keep the secrets of her home and to keep the secrets of her husband and never to divulge his faults to anyone.

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We remember that woman who came to the messenger have a laughs a lot of them and she said jasola

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so and so is one of the best Muslims in Medina. She's talking about her husband. He's one of the best Muslims of Medina. But by Allah, I see if I remain married to him.

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I will damage my religion

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panel. This was the first woman who asked for Hola.

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Hola, the backdoor divorce, we call it the backdoor divorce, meaning the divorce has two doors. One demand he holds in his hand.

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He has the right to give to pay he have the right the obligation to pay the dowry. And he have the right also to divorce. This is called the front door divorce. But the whole

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is the backdoor divorce the one in which the woman has the right to what to the one that the Prophet tell us and warn them about. But she has that right. The first woman to get hola in Islam was this woman. But what did she say about her husband? Did she complain about him?

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This he revealed his fault? Did she say why? No, she said O Messenger of a loss a loss and he's one of the best Muslims. But I think if I remain with him,

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I will damage my religion.

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So the messenger of a loss loss and said, Will you give him back the dowry which he gave you? She said yes. Then he told that brother

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take back that dowry from her. Which means what?

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He didn't even consult that brother to say

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this or that.

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He said take back that diary. And then he told her observe the idea of one month.

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Some of the other method, this was a special audit of the profits loss and for her because then we know it's three. But in that particular Hadeeth he told her to observe the end of one month.

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So even in this situation, we saw that that woman was what

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she was not complaining. And she was not revealing. Even her reasons she was blaming she was saying something about herself.

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So sisters,

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one regarding your behavior.

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You are the mothers of the future generation.

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You have your children's eyes on you 24 hours a day.

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More than they see their father.

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They are looking at you listening to your voice, looking at your face, looking what you do in the morning. If you don't pray, do you think your children will pray?

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If you are cursing and complaining?

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What do you think your children will do?

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If you are watching television all day, what do you think your children will be raised up thinking?

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If you are always demanding give me this Give me that. Why don't you do this? Why don't you do that? What do you think your daughters will do? when they grow up?

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If you are uncovering yourself

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this disrespecting yourself

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showing your outer outside to the people. And what is the outer of the Muslim woman? The nakedness of the Muslim woman? What is her outer?

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her entire body.

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All of the woman is out.

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But specifically,

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she has the right to to show what Allah subhanaw taala

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Mather, I mean,

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what ordinarily appears there of. And there's just small disagreement among the older man about what may ordinarily appear, what may ordinarily appear, her face

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and her hands, some allamah said, face and hands, not even the feet,

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the face and the hands, then some polymer they said no, not even the face. And the majority of them they said that, not even the face

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because they said the face itself is a place of beauty.

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So, if the Muslim lady has the ability and the courage and the commitment to even cover her face,

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Mashallah, she is also doing herself a favor. And she's also doing the Muslims a favor because she removes another level of the fitna. But minimally, she must cover her entire body except for her hands and her face.

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And some of the olema even went further and said, if she will cover her hands, this even will still be better, because the gloved hand will distinguish her from the open hand of domain.

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So we cannot say every system must absolutely cover her face and wear the gloves on her hands. We cannot say that. We say who those who do it is Mr. Harbor, it's good for her

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is a blessing for her. But we don't force the sisters to do that, especially in the kofod country where maybe they will feel constrained to even go out and they will develop a psychosis for themselves. We don't force the sisters to do that and make them create a psychosis.

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No, but you Muslim sisters should minimally cover your entire body.

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Separate your face and hands minimally. And covering the body doesn't mean wearing jeans and wearing a scarf on your head.

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No, this is not the body because they are conditions of the clothing. The clothing should not reveal the shape of any part of you.

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Nor should the clothing

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be transparent so that your skin can be seen through it

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is very clear. The more conditions nor should that closely resemble the clothing of the woman of je Leah. So that means the sisters who's wearing the niqab and say

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these designer names Gloria Vanderbilt. ck one

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what's the other one Christian Christian deal?

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You wearing a niqab with a cross on it.

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If you weren't a Christian Dior, they're selling them in Mecca. The sisters they like it because it has Christian Dior. I mean, it's designer. The niqab is costing 30 pounds $50 and it has a cross on it. Christian Dior cross so they weren't niqab inside the huddle with a cross on it.

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No sisters.

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No, don't imitate the kuffar. Why are you wearing this designer? What's it? What's the design for what's the difference between the wives of the Prophet so awesome to Omaha to remote meaning when the idea came from Allah subhanho wa Taala the ire

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of hijab when they heard it, they tore their aprons and they covered their faces, they tore their aprons, aprons mean they took apart of their clothing, their outer garments, and they covered their faces. So we know that what they did the prophet SAW some approved of it so that means that what they did was correct.

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So sisters, don't be

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Don't be don't spend money unnecessarily

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and don't imitate the kuffaar.

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Secondly, do not imitate the men.

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Allah He cursed the women who imitate the men and encourage the men to imitate the women.

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And also the sisters is wearing hijab, but they are plucking the eyebrows and designing the eyebrows. This is haram

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the plucker and the one who is plucked both of them is cursed by Allah subhana wa tada because why is the woman plucking the eyebrows? They are doing this from J Leah a culture

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because they are wanting to make their eyebrows more attractive to be looked at. Secondly,

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Allah subhanaw taala he cursed a woman she was perfume outside of a home Why? Because when she's wearing the perfect

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When she passes by somebody, the man he will he will he will turn his head look around and say

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she smells good.

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So you cause him to do what fascia?

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You cause him to do fact share because if you didn't pass by smelling like that he would not thought like that.

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So God yourself

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God yourself

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What do you think your what you think your daughters how they will dress if you dress loosely

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and also the elder of the woman is also her voice. We know this

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because our insurer the law.

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After the profits are lost and passed away, the companions used to come to her door to take lessons from her to take a hadith from her to take cam from her.

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And when they used to come and speak to her she used to put her finger in her mouth to disguise her voice.

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Because she was 18 years old when the prophet SAW son passed away and she was a beautiful woman.

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So even she did not want her voice, her natural voice

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to cause fitna for any man behind the door behind behind the curtain.

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So the sisters should not be talking on the phone. salaam aleikum Aki Kev Hanukkah ki hamdulillah Mashallah, how's your wife? How's your family? Now? My husband is not here Mashallah. Salam Alaikum No, no sister.

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A law said Do not be decorative in your speech but do your speech which is what straightforward Somali comm

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knows No, brother, my husband is not here. No, I don't know. inshallah. Somebody

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See, you see the difference? The brother, he will not want to talk more with her.

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And she's being straightforward. And she's guarding herself. And she's not leaving any room for any fooling around. This is the kind of system was guarding herself guarding her husband guarding her morals. Because she's doing what? She's controlling even her speech.

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Also, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one time he passed

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through his Masjid.

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And he passed by some women and he said to them, oh, women. Verily, Allah subhanaw taala allowed me to see into the hellfire. And I saw that many of its inhabitants was women.

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And they said, You're so welcome. He said because, one,

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they are given to cursing,

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complaining

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and spreading gossip.

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And they are also ungrateful to their husbands. So that if the husband gives them everything, when they become angry with him, they say

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you never give me nothing. You are no good. See.

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So one,

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they are given to gossip and loose talk.

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Secondly, they are ungrateful to their husbands

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and they are complaining too much.

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And we know that Barbara De La Hoya and although the profits and losses used to let the women come to the masjid to pray, isn't it in the time of Rama, when he used to give the football in the Prophet's Masjid? He used to keep by him a bucket of some small stones, maybe some dead stones.

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And he used to reach down while he was given the football and take those stones and throw them at the woman

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and chase them from the message and they complain to Asia. The law

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was

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chasing us from the mouse. Why is he acting like that? We used to come into town with the profits or lost them but he showed the law on her. She said yes. But you will not dressing that way. And you will not talking that way. And you will not wearing the lipstick and the decorations on your faces that way. panela you see. So

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our sisters should guard themselves and control themselves and understand that they are the flowers of Islam. They are also the handmaidens of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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and they are the front line. They are the front line of the home.

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Defense. As I joke sometimes and I tell brothers I have to go.

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The Minister of the Interior she told me be home. Don't stay too long. Yes, it's true. The sisters have the right inside the home they are in charge. Don't come home with your chest poked out. Where's the food? What's going on? Blah, blah. Go get this while you didn't Be quiet. Leave the system alone. Don't tell her what kind of curtains Don't tell her what to do. Don't tell her what to fix. Don't tell her so she don't have to do nothing for you. Nothing.

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You, Allah subhanaw taala says our regional COVID Muna Allen Nisa. These don't mean that you are the commander of the woman. No, you have responsibility to them.

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She don't even have to work. She don't have to lift the cup.

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She don't have to do any work. She don't have to. You don't have to clean your clothes. You don't have to iron your clothes. You don't have to wash no dishes. You don't have to cook no food for you. You don't have to do anything. This is not her job. If you want somebody to do that, go hire a servant.

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But if she does that,

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this would be a blessing for her in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala. When you marry her, this doesn't mean

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you have a slave, you got a servant.

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If she does it for you, this is enough for her. This is good for her. She should do that to want to serve her husband to obtain his pleasure, because the pleasure of the husband is next to what the pleasure of Allah, the displeasure of the husband is next to the displeasure of Allah. The prophets have asked him said that the husband that goes to sleep, while he is displeased with her husband, what happens? The melodica cursor all of the night.

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So she should always want her husband to be pleased. And she does these things to please you. But it is not her obligation because of the marriage, to earn your clothes, to wash your clothes, to fix your food to sew your clothes, because the Messenger of Allah ciloxan What did he do? Did he do those things himself

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to reliever because he was grateful.

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So the man when he comes to the house, he should be grateful if his wife should fix the food for him. She cleaned the house for him. She's taking care of the children. She's taking care of herself. She take care of the house, she take care of your honor, your reputation.

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She's a Homeland Defense.

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And this is not an easy job.

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So brothers, don't put more responsibility on her

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by your demands. And at the same token, be grateful from time to time. Give her relief by her gifts, say nice things to her. compliment her show your gratitude towards her.

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Because she's also the mother of your children.

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And if she's not if you're if your wife is stressed out, if she's full of anxiety all the time and depressed.

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But you think the children will be

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there will be also stressed out and anxiety because she will pass it right down.

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So my sisters, inside of your homes, keep your home clean. Keep yourself clean. Keep your children clean.

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Make your husband feel good and relaxed when he comes home. don't meet him at the door badgering him. Where have you been?

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Where is the groceries? Where's the money? what you promised me? Who you talking to? What is this? What is that? You said the song song so you blah, blah, blah, blah, this kind of woman.

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She may wander by herself.

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She may wind up by herself especially in the age we live in today. The man he doesn't have to too many women. There's too many fish in the sea.

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I don't care what you provide him with how beautiful that you are and what fresher you think you represent too many fish in the sea. If you want to know let me give you the statistics sisters. This is another subject I'm going to talk to you about later on. But let me just tell you

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already in the Western world that is 2.5 women,

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to every man

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just add with me.

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If you take away the men who are homosexuals, now you come to what 3.5 right.

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Now this is the truth. Then if you take the men who wants to be playboy, they don't want to get married now it's what 4.5 isn't it?

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Then you take the men who are on drugs and alcohol. What do you get? 5.5

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Because now we're talking about 2.5. Women to every male, not men. Male. So we're at 2.5 with 5.5. Now, what about the men who's in the jail? They will not come out 1015 years. Now you got what? 6.5? What about the man who's at war? Maybe they will not come back. Where are we at? Now? We had 7.5.

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What about the men who is confused?

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They don't know whether they want to be a male or female.

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They don't know what they want to be they just floating around. Now yet 8.5 What about the derelict men, their bums? They irresponsible, that living and eating off their mother that 30 years old? What about them? Now you had 9.5

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so if all the women was able to marry a man for themselves, what will happen to all the other sisters? A man we said, who is a man, a man who is responsible? A man who can fulfill what she needs, physically, and, and mentally, psychologically and economically. If all the women got a husband, what will all the other sisters do?

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For they become lesbians?

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Or they become all maids all their life rest of their life. No, there's a Hickman from Allah subhanho wa Taala. We will talk about that hikma but the issue is sisters. If you have a man, even if you think he's a half of a man

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take care of him.

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Take care of him inshallah. And be grateful to Allah subhanaw taala especially if he's a believer, and he is praying. Be thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala because maybe you don't miss the water until when until the world goes dry.

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See, then you will be as many sisters all over the world. They are 20 years old and 25 years old. And they will never marry.

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See in the West sisters are deluded into thinking that if they are divorced, if they get rid of this one here, they will get another one.

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Because they see so many brothers and Mashallah,

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if you're like me, I get another one. This is the delusion of the West.

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And this is why so many women there are dumping the man

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three months, dumped him get married, get the dowry, dumped him getting married another one. This only in the West, this happens in the Muslim lands that don't happen like that.

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When a woman who gets divorced in the Muslim lands, usually what is the case? She will not get married again.

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Isn't it?

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So the Muslim woman in the Muslim lands, she grew up appreciating demand more so than a woman here.

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Because here we got the woman can go to the machine and put the money in and pull out a man.

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They can go to the club, you go to the computer and you can date you all kinds of ways you can meet a man.

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Just put your name inside that they shake it up and pull them out and send it to you.

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This is the delusion.

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So sisters, treat your husband decent.

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If he's a decent brother and if he's if he's not so decent, he's not so good. Polish him up. fix him up.

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Don't complain about him. Help him out.

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Make him better than he is.

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Serve him. Talk nice to him. Tell him wake him up for pleasure. See ya Habibi. Salam aleikum? I'm going to prefer to you want to provide you with me.

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You'd like to go to the mosque why you don't go to the masjid.

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I have coffee for you. I have food for you. Come drink some tea, eat some food inshallah. Go to the masjid and pray.

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May Allah reward you you get so much reward if you go to the masjid. You don't want to go to the masjid. Okay, come please pray with me.

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How long do you think if you plead with him like that? And you talk to him nice like that. Soon he will pray with you. He will feel embarrassed.

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But most of the time when a man he doesn't go to the masjid and pray or he doesn't get up and pray. Guess what?

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He's in the bed with a woman who doesn't pray either.

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Most of the time.

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Sisters, encourage your husband to pray. Encourage your husband to read code and encourage your husband

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to be involved as a Muslim. encourage him to sit with the family 30 minutes a day.

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And don't complain. If he gives you water and biscuits.

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It water in biscuits

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and don't complain

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And when he brings you something sweet besides the water in the biscuits, be surprised like is the big party subhana wa hamdulillah he brought some fruit, he brought home some chopped beef or something like that Mashallah

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this this, you will get so much reward from Allah subhanho wa Taala so much reward because

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on him there will be the responsibility of the treatment and upon you will be the reward of your satisfaction. This is the behavior issue.

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Sisters, now in regards to the

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the responsibility of the woman, the responsibility of the woman is to guard in the husband's absence for the law would have them God.

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God in the husband's absence for the law would have them God, what is that?

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guard their home,

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guard the children.

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God has secrets. God herself

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You are the guardian. You are the harissa You are the Prophet lost him said all of you is what right, didn't he,

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Shepherd are shepherdess.

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And Allah will hold all of you accountable for what that which is under your responsibility. The Amir, he is the right of what

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of the drama of the group

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and the father or the husband, he is the right of what the family

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and the mother she is right here of what

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of herself and her family and her husband's absence. And the law will ask all of you about that which under your responsibility.

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My sisters

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You are the frontline.

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You are the frontline.

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Allah subhanaw taala mentioned to us

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that he created the man and the woman from what a single soul and certainly said, Yeah, you heard a lot near you. Hola, Deena.

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Taku, the Calico minasi wahida

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crazy from a single soul. So this whole idea, this whole idea that

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that the woman has created from from the rib

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in the Quran and didn't say the rib.

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Nothing was

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created from one single soul.

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That's the first part of the creation. Now, how, how our own house she was extracted from Adam is something different. But Originally there was created how from what

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one single soul that means what?

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From the same glass of water.

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Now you can take this glass of water and pour out half and make tea and coffee. But originally what it all came from

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one single soul. Yes, a lot made the male doctor and woman what on and they are not the same.

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They are similar, but they are not the same. Therefore their rights and their responsibilities are not the same.

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This whole delusion of the equality of women is a bunch of foolishness.

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There's no such thing, they are equal in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala in the UK Rama comb in the law at kakum. They are equal in the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala they are saying in the sight of Allah regarding their taqwa,

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but they are different in their responsibilities, they are different in their anatomy, they are different in their psychology, they are different in their social responsibility. And when you forget that, you forget your role. And when you forget your role then you want to change the

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you want to say

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Anissa kawamori una cama Muna Allah Raja

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they want the woman and we this is what has happened in the society now. The women have become

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guardians and over the men.

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Especially in the West, we find a phenomenon

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among immigrants

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that they migrate to the west and the West. They are very clever. What they do when they migrate, they give the woman all the rights.

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They give her the house.

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They give her the stamps, they give her the Medicaid card, they give her the money and they give the man less than that.

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So if that man does not actually

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The way she likes you will tell him what you get out. There's my house.

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Don't tell me what to do is my children.

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And if you speak like that, to me again, I'll go to the court and have you locked up.

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So what happens?

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If the man divorced that woman what happens? He loses the family, he loses the children. He is threatened by the court. So the women, they wind up with the leverage over the men. And so what happens the man becomes demoralized and destabilized. And this is the aim of the West, this is what they do.

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Sisters Don't be a part of this conspiracy.

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Take the role that you have been designated from Allah subhanho wa Taala. What is that role? It is the chief role of raising the children.

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The role of

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culture cultivating the home. But greater responsibility is that

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raising the children cultivating the home, preparing the next generation who will be what the leaders of the next generation, this is your responsibility.

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Don't want to be like the men because what will happen, the woman wants to be like the man she wants to own money. She wants to own car, she want to own property, she wants to own time, does she want her own apartment.

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Then once you get married,

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she wants her own time, she want everything divided equally. And she has to go, she's leaving out the door when he's leaving out the door in the morning.

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She's fixing her clothes up.

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While he fixes his clothes, they make an arrangement to drop the children off with somebody else. Then she's asking him who's gonna pick the children up at night. I think I'm getting in from the job a little bit late. He had to pick up the children, she's still late. So on the way she picked up some Burger King and she picked up something else to feed the children cuz she's late. When she gets in, she's tired. He's tired.

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The Burger King, they eat McDonald's, the intake out whatever the case might be who has taught the children all day.

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This because she wants her own money.

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She wants her own car. She wants her own family. She wants to own this and that. I don't say the woman cannot work again. If that work does not compromise her responsibility.

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If that work doesn't put her in jeopardy, if that work doesn't compromise her hijab,

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if that work doesn't compromise and undermine her family,

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her family

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better for a woman to stay home and be denied comforts that she wants. But to teach her children called an indecent behavior and to guard herself and to guard her family and to prepare an atmosphere for her husband and for herself better for her.

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The assist is your responsibility

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is to pursue knowledge. Because if you do not have proper knowledge, who will teach your children

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how you will pray? The men is not in the home. Most men that don't have the time. Sometimes they don't have the knowledge themselves. But even when they do, they don't have the time to do what to really teach the sisters. So sister don't blame your husband. Oh, he never has time for me. He doesn't teach me anything. He doesn't he doesn't recycle. And he doesn't he never taught me when I uh, he never taught me one. How do you get the whole sorry body in your house?

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You have the most half in your house? What's the problem with you?

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There are sisters in Sydney. Who knows the Quran very well. Instead of gossiping inside the mosque with other sisters talking about the shopping and talking about the children talk about your home and talk about this. He talks about demand. Find out a sister who is knowledgeable in the deen she's a student of knowledge. She's happy to have the Quran she knows her teeth and she's she knows the look and the Tafseer and the seal of the prophets. A lot of them go to that sister and spend one hour or two hours a week.

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Have her to straighten out your salon.

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Your massage of the Quran,

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then have to read from you the Syrah the issues of Adam

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so that when your husband comes home, when your children come home, you can do what maybe you can advise him. You can also teach them because you are the teacher of the home. You know your husband, he should provide the atmosphere, but you are the teacher and the home. The husband should provide the atmosphere but you are the school teacher.

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My dear Muslim sisters,

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also

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you are the first support for the Muslim community. I said the community if you think that the masjid is not clean, if you think that the area for the woman is not proper, if you think that the men don't give you your rights, if you think whatever it is, maybe your complaints are correct, but what can you do about it? What can you do about it?

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form a committee,

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not a complaint committee.

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But a pro active committee.

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Animal come to the Imam or come to the Amir

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through his wife and say, we are 10 or 15 sisters who are the the helpers of the Jamaat. Mmm, what can we do? Can we put some nice curtains on the windows?

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Mmm. Can we every month make sure that there's enough toilet paper? There's enough stuff to aerosol and disinfectant. Brother. Mm. Can we come to the masjid? Once a week? Maybe or the night Thursday night or Friday morning? Can we vacuum? Can we mop? Can we clean? Can we relieve the brothers of this responsibility? In man?

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the area where the sisters are? Can we buy a rug for it? Can we put it and make it nice the way we like it? Mmm, can we put some nice plants and stuff to make the place look good? Mm, can we clean on the outside? Mm, can we spend something from ourselves to make it look nice? So we make our contribution by the man? What can we do? Can we have a lecture every week for ourselves?

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By the man what can we do to raise money?

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There are 150 of us. Each one of us is willing to give $5 a week in ma'am what can we do with this? So panela what do you think a group of sisters can do to make a change in a Gema like that, instead of complaining?

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So sisters, you are also the frontline of the Jamaat, give to the Imam give to your husband and give to the amount of support

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and among yourselves,

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advise each other when a sister comes to you complain to you about her husband, tell us a sister.

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Sister, please.

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I don't want to hear this kind of talk.

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I have no responsibility to tell her what the prophet SAW since it is part of being a good Muslim To do what?

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To leave alone that which doesn't concern you. And it's just that this don't concern me Not that I'm not insensitive about your situation. But I'm not. I'm not a lawyer. I'm not a guidance counselor. I'm not a marriage counselor. And I'm not a garbage can.

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The place where you put your trash in your garbage don't put that in my ear. Your husband is my brother in Islam. I don't want my heart or my mind to be changed or prejudiced against my brother. This is what the prophets lost him told the other Muslims when they came to him complaining about another Muslim What did he say? I don't want any of you saying something to me negative about another Muslim. So that when I see that Muslim, my heart has changed about him You see, don't do it. Tell the sister to fear loss upon what Allah

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tells you. There's a way for her to resolve that situation and say, sister inshallah, if there's something I can help you with, I will help you but I don't want to hear this kind of talk. Let's read called ancestor giving us see about Quran given us here from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And tell her this is not the manners and the adept of the believers.

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The sisters, not only should you engage yourself in knowledge, but you should also engage yourselves in dour, dour. We talked about the issue of so many women

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60% of all the new Muslim 65% maybe even 70% of the new Muslims, what do you think there are women, women who is teaching them?

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And in the society, so many women?

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The sisters should give Dawa to the women

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the pair group of sisters who train them to get training and our

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so that this organization here you have a committee of sisters who are dying.

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Every week they have some platform to go to some University and do what discuss affairs of Islam with the women. So whatever the unbelievers is thinking about women, misconceptions about Islam, misconceptions about women that Islam is repressive. Islam is oppressive, that women are second class citizens. All of these lies in this filth, who are the ones who can display

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That

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the women

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this lie that some unbeliever is saying about the Prophet sallallahu cems marriage Who do you think is best to say to speak about that issue? The men or the woman?

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The woman

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but if the women are ignorant, or they're not involved in dour they think that the Imam or they think we're the Holocaust scene are immense Raja Abdullah Hakim, quick Malala so Amina or shake fires, or this one or that one, or they are the ones giving Dawa. And this is not true. Everyone should give Dawa

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and some of you sisters should develop a dowel committee to do what learn the dour. After that execute the dour.

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Reform and inform the Muslims clarify and invite non Muslims and propagate the Islamic message.

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Sisters be aware of deviation.

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Be aware of chauvinism. Be aware of personal interests, be aware of rebellion. And on this issue of rebellion sisters, let me say this to you.

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And let me be straightforward. And I hope that I don't become unpopular to you because of saying this to you.

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The sister who speaks against zodat

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the sister who speaks against plural marriage,

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she says to people, I don't like it. It's not right. That part of Islam I don't understand it. And ain't for me.

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My husband better not.

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If he does our bla bla bla bla bla, and sister don't take that from him. These brothers is all they think about all the time and blah, blah, blah. This is not right. The sister who's talking like that. She is causing fitna and she is deviating and undermining the wisdom of Allah subhanho wa Taala. She is acting rebellious, and she's engaged in fiscal. Now I didn't say that the Muslim sisters should not be jealous. She is she is right. Jealousy is a part of our nature is a part of a beauty. It's a part of a character. But she has to keep it in check and keep it in balance. the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they did not hold a party. They did not jump it down and

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clap when he took a wife. They did not. They didn't like it. And you know, in the end, we have an example.

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Where when he took a wife on one occasion,

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two of them did what

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they played a trick or conspire.

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I think this wife he took was her name was Sophia.

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And so two of the wives of the Prophet SAW Sam tola, I'm not sure if it was Sophia or another one. They said, when the prophet SAW Sam come to your house, say I want to be led

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to in the process and came to her house. She said I want to be led to the process and he left he loves to have than a loss upon what Allah sent to Al Quran Oh prophet SOS them?

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Do you turn with that turn away from that which Allah made lawful to you in order to please your wives? See how Allah sent the ayah?

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Do you turn away from that which Allah made lawful to you in order to please your wives? Now the Prophet he understood something happened

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jabril Allah Islam came and told him what happened.

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He's turning away from this system, in order to do what to please his wives, he know that something happened. So then Allah subhanaw taala advise those women if all of you give problem to the prophet SAW Sam, and back each other up to give him problems, then the law will cause him to divorce all of you and do what? And give him better wives in place of view. So those women they feel the loss upon $1. They love the profits last name. They had their jealousy, but they feel a lot. And so what did they do? They made Toba and they reformed themselves.

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So jealousy is a part of the woman's nature. The profits allows them said,

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the woman who is able to control her jealousy, will receive the same reward as the man who controls his fear of jihad. It means that the woman that controls her jealousy regarding the issue of plural marriage, when her husband takes another wife, she's jealous that she shouldn't be. But if she controls this, Allah will give her the same reward as demand that is able to go to Jihad and control his fear. Because the loss upon Allah has placed jealousy upon the woman and he has put Jihad upon the men.

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So brothers don't say to the Sister, why are you jealous? What's your problem? What you think she should not be jealous?

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She shouldn't be. It's our nature, but she needs to control that because sisters think

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to yourself, did Allah say that the prophet SAW sins that none of you is truly believers into your love for your brother with your love for yourself? Did he say that? Did he say that? Yes, he said that. So let's switch it. Sisters, none of you truly believe until you love your sister what you love for yourself. Now let's talk about that part.

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Let's go back to the issue, you understand me the 2.5 up to the 8.5. Let's go back to that.

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So if all the Muslim women in Sydney, Australia, let's not do talk about the whole world, if all the Muslim sisters of Sydney, Australia, Allah bless them to have a husband,

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how many sisters they will be without husbands?

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to be at least

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for every one sister that will find a nice husband. There'll be at least another six sisters, they will not have a husband.

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So sister, ask yourself so panela what do you think about that Muslim sister? What should she be?

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She should be a lesbian.

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She should be by herself.

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She should not have children. She should not have her desires fulfilled.

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She should not have a home, somebody to take care of her. Because you want one husband for you. And you don't want nobody else. I want mine. For me. That's it. So what do you think the wisdom of Allah subhanho wa Taala. He said, If you don't have the ability to give justice to the women, then do what? married women of your choice that he said, huh? metabolism didn't he? must know how to Lhasa Aruba? Did he say one? And that I? Did he say one?

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No, he said makna. Which means what?

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To alfalfa. Three out robot four. He didn't say one in that because he already ordered us to have one.

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But in regards to the justice, he said nothing at all. So that's a robot. So the injustice is what one of the injustice is. And the imbalance is what is evident in front of you.

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That if every sister have a husband for herself, this will leave at least six sisters without the possibility of a man if you want for your sister, what you want for yourself. So panelist, is this what you're talking about?

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Now sisters, look, let me tell you this statistic,

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only two out of every 10 men is going to take another wife anyway.

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Anyway, even though the choice is there, only two out of 10 is going to take another wife anyway.

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Only one out of 20 is going to take a third wife, maybe one out of 30.

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And maybe only one out of 200 is going to take

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a fourth wife, how many brothers you know, got four wives

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that he can buy for refrigerators and play for phone bills and pay your semi for like bills and for phone bills and for rent. And also he got to deal with four different sisters. So panela No, it's very unlikely this will happen.

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very unlikely. And how many you know this got three

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unlikely

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persistence think? If you are patient, and you tell him, Brother, listen, I don't like it. I'll be honest with you. I'm jealous. I don't want you to do that.

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But this is your responsibility in front of Allah Subhana Allah, Allah and Allah will ask you about your responsibility.

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If you think you must do it.

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Of course I don't like it, but I would bear with it inshallah.

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Why? Because of my sister.

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Especially your husband, maybe he will marry some sisters, she has children already, or to the children to

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put she have children

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who will guide them who take care of them. Your husband is working, he has knowledge, he's healthy.

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And if you are intelligent, really sisters, if you're really intelligent, sometimes you won't want to be bothered with your husband.

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Sometimes you need help with those children. If you are intelligent, and you allow your mind and your practicality to rise above your jealousy. You may see that there's some benefit in social benefit and you're having a co wife

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because you can do things together.

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Sometimes she can watch your children sometimes you can watch your children. Sometimes you don't get to bother cooking cleaning for your husband and nothing you have to be bothered with him. Sometimes you get tired of him. It's good for you. You have time for yourself.

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There are some sisters who have a co wife

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and is a good relationship. You should talk to some of those sisters, not to the ones who is greedy and jealous.

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And even they don't appreciate the one husband. They don't appreciate the fact that they are the only and I'll give you another statistic sisters. Do you know most of the marriage counseling? Most of the marriage problems is not in the house with his two wives. Do you know where it is?

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Most of the problems and the marriage counseling comes from where there's only one wife.

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This is a statistic. So this is about the time to dissolve judge you should not I'm not telling you to be happy. Don't Dance and don't expect the system to dance and the whole party because you take another wife hamdulillah brother Mashallah this invite everybody don't expect that from the sister.

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But sisters, be patient about this matter and don't speak against the wisdom of Allah subhana wa Tada. Don't speak against the prop the wisdom of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Don't undermine the welfare of the of the of the of the community. And don't be selfish and don't be greedy. And don't be unwise.

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Just be careful about this matter.

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Speak to your husband as you need to speak to him, beg him plead with him, please don't do it. I don't like it. But if he does, bear with it, be patient. Loss upon what Allah will give you better after all, Allah Hiram Robert call, isn't it? The Africa is better for you than what is present.

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We ask Allah subhana wa Taala to help us inshallah we Escalades upon God to guide us. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to bless to bless our sisters, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to guide our sisters, we ask Allah subhanaw taala that he make, give our sisters, good men who appreciate them. We ask Allah subhanaw taala that we appreciate the fruits that we take from the chatroom to play you back. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala that our sisters accept this advice in the context in which it was given. We asked Allah subhanaw taala that we men give to them fully what is their rights and that we are appreciative of them? We ask Allah subhanaw taala that he gives them the patience which they need

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and the insight that they need. We ask Allah subhanaw taala that he raised him up with good knowledge so they pass this knowledge on to their children. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala that he makes them women of taqwa. And women have Jenna We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala that our sisters become the component of the community which we expect them to be the backbone of the community. So particular home will be undergoing a shadow in the center. Want to stop Furukawa to blue lake supply North Dakota. Merci foon wa salam Ala Moana singer hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Ameen. So our brothers and sisters will take some questions, but I will take questions first from the sisters.

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Because actually the brothers are here because they brought the sisters and the brothers are here because we came for the pleasure. But inshallah we'll take the question from the sisters first.

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Citizens What is your definition of idea of a Muslim man who would be capable to marry more than one wife?

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First of all, Allah subhanho wa Taala did not place in the heart of any man or in a chest of any man two hearts.

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So when the law says Be fair, he doesn't mean split the heart and half.

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The man can be fair and regards to what his time, his money,

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his time and his money.

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This one he can be fed. As for his desire, as to his love or his feeling. There's no way he can be exactly fair in the law. He said, You can never be fair as between women even if it is your ardent desire. This is what the law said. What does it mean? The woman will never let you be fair in regard to that they will always say you like her better than me.

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If you go out and you buy your wives to roses, some two flowers two dozen roses, you give her the red roses and you give the other one the red roses, you know one of them will say why do you give her the same thing you give me?

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So, you see you cannot be exactly you cannot satisfy them exactly from the heart. But what you can do is you can be fair in regards to your money and your time. So family regarding the money and time means what does it mean? To give each one of them have exactly know if one sister she has three children? And the other one she has one child?

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Do you give to them exactly the same? No, you don't you give it to them according to ratio. Secondly, if one woman if one sister

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like Souder

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Raja lawanna, she was an old woman married to the profits and loss of them right. What did she do? out of a love for the profits and losses and her love

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For our sister Sheila for herself, what does she do? She gave to insurer de la her days. She said jasola Isha is a young woman, and she requires more time than me. So sudo last last time, please, I give to her one of my days. So panela

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this is showing what wisdom

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that from woman to woman from situation to situation. There's a difference, different application. But who is the judge of that the woman herself? No, is the man he is

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on him as a responsibility of that judgment. Now, if he's unfair, the prophet SAW him said what? The man who was unfair with it between his wives, what did the prophet SAW him say? He would come on Yama kill him with what? One side hanging down.

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So when he goes over the CRR, if he had one side hanging down, what will happen? He will fall off the bridge.

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He will be unbalanced. Because he was unfair, he was unbalanced in this life, he will be unbalanced in the hereafter. But whose job is it to be co on demand?

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Not for the woman to tell him you're not being fair. You're not being just a song song. So no, she can say to him, brother, please be careful about the time.

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Brother Be careful about the rights.

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But it's not fair for you to come in the house at 11 o'clock at night. This is my night.

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So look to the sisters and know your rights, but also at the same token be fair.

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No Muslim government can set a standard for polygamy. If this is part of the question.

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There is no morality to say whether a brother has the right to take another wife. This is a choice he can make. You have the amount, you have his family, and you have his own determination. No one can say to him, you don't make enough money. No one can say to him, your occupation doesn't provide you nobody can say to him, your condition doesn't want it. And the system cannot say to him, you do not have enough money. You don't have enough time. You don't have enough so and so for me, how can you take another wife? That's not for her to say?

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This is the judgment Allah subhanaw taala he gave to the man himself, but the man should take into consideration his situation. And maybe a question will come should demand consult his wife

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before he takes another wife?

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Yes, that's almost a habit for him to do. But is it Rajat? No.

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Is it binding? No, absolutely not. He doesn't have to ask her permission, nor does he have to tell her he will do it. But should he? Yes.

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He should. He should consult him. Because it's a matter of respecting her feelings. If he's wise, he will do so.

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But there's nothing to say he must

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say sister says Does your husband have to ask your permission? Oh, SubhanAllah. Look at that. Well, it says that I didn't know this was what I was holding in my hand. I answered that question already.

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Does your husband have to ask your permission if he wants to marry the second or the third? No, he doesn't. But he should.

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Because

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you are part of him.

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You are part of him. He should consult you how he spends the money. How he spent his time.

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What decisions he's going to make in his life. He should talk to you about it.

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But sister if you are threatening him all the time. You better not. I hear you talking with them brothers who got another wife. If you do it, I'll do this. I will do that. I will throw your clothes out. I will take you to the court. I will blah blah blah blah blah and then you want him to come and talk to you bought it

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what is it is it how long Why is it haram to pluck the eyebrows because the prophets last him said it is haram doesn't it say in the Quran that if you just tidy them that it is okay. No No sister look, you can prepare yourself for your husband. But the plucking of the eyebrows is not for your husband.

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This is a culture from the kuffaar so the women appear when they go outside better than they are inside. Even let me go a little further sisters.

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So sister, you can prepare yourself. You can wear real nice you can put on all you can go get what does that lady they call it jinshi Are they a Victoria's Secret

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or whatever you can go and get all of that. Make yourself real nice and looking real passionate and exotic and everything for your husband. So when he comes home, he just wants to drop everything. You can

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Do that

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you can burn the candles sister You can make put the silk sheets and you can cook the food and make her exotic. You can even belly dance whatever you want to do for your husband.

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But sister, if you are getting yourself ready and going outside and putting your you know like that, and fixing your key mind everything looking in the mirror and everything who you're doing that for, not for your husband's sister.

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A loss upon what Allah the prophet SAW said a lot of curse the women who are fully dressed, but they are naked.

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They are fully dressed, but they are naked. How is that? That means they got on all the clothes, but the way they talk, the way they walk, they're wearing certain sets, they pluck their eyebrows, they do this, they do that for whom, for other men to see them.

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No sisters, prepare yourself any way you like for your husband, and spend your time to do that. A loss upon that will bless you for that.

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If the Prophet lost him said, Don't pluck the eyebrows, don't pluck the eyebrows. And don't try to try to find a way around that because you want to pluck your eyebrows don't do it.

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What obligation Do we have towards those sisters who do not cover in Islamic way?

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Let their brothers and let their fathers and let their guardians or the Imam advise them or let other sisters advise them? And don't speak bad about them. And the sisters who see sisters who are not dressed properly? Find a nice way. Maybe you invite that sister to your home. Don't talk about her clothes. Don't say to her in the masjid or why you dress like that. You know, you know songs. But sister why you don't come to my house, I got some clothes for you. It's not the way.

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Don't say anything to her.

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Be nice to her. Don't even mention it issue to her. invite her to your house. Invite their sister to your house. And in your house. Show her films of other sisters. Invite her with other sisters. She will see how they're dressed and she will see how you're dressing. And then you might say to her sister, do you need to overcome it? Sister? Do you need to see mom? Sister? Do you need this sister? Do you need that? And you advise her if she begins to like you? What will she do? She will begin to modify herself sometimes from the advice.

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So be patient with those sisters because they are Muslim sisters. Don't run them away. Because if you run them away, where will they be?

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They will be able to go far. So don't do that inshallah Be patient. Somebody said, Is it true that if a husband wants to take a second wife, he doesn't have to inform his first wife? If this is true, isn't this a form of deception? No, this is not a form of deception. I said and I just reiterate myself again. It is good Mr. Haba recommended for the man to discuss this matter, not only the issue of a second wife, but how he spends his money, how he spends his time, what his major decisions are going to be. He wants to go he wants to travel to hedge he wants to go to a class he anything he should do he should make it the harder he should talk to his wife about it but

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doesn't mean that it's wise upon him doesn't mean it's not on him doesn't mean he has to.

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And sister if you make yourself open minded

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towards what Allah and his messages so a lot of them said

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the chances are your husband will discuss everything with you.

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But just as I mentioned, if you are talking very bad and cursing and threatening and and rebelling. Do you think do you think that your husband will will announce to you what he will do so you can set a trap for him?

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No. Sister, think about this fear loss upon Allah to Allah.

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And have also done think the best thing don't think the worst thing don't preoccupy yourself about what you think your husband will do.

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This is his right. This is decision. You take care of your rights and you take care your decision and loss upon the will to give you the best in Sharla if a woman marries a non Muslim, if a Muslim man marries a non Muslim woman, is he responsible if she does not wear hijab?

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First of all, the Muslim should not marry a non Muslim woman. That's number one. That's number one. Let's make this issue clear.

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where Allah gave us the permission to marry a woman of the Al Khattab and to eat their food.

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There are conditions of that. And let me tell the brothers what the condition is that that non Muslim woman should be a woman who herself was never penetrated, and she never engaged in any power moves ever. And she cannot be a Muslim cat. Three things

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She was not penetrated before. So that means that she's virgin. That's number one. Secondly, she never engaged in the power malls with any man's that means what? She's completely innocent, pure. And thirdly, she's not mushrik at Mr. Cat means what? She's not associated in the partners with a loss upon more data.

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So now, how many, how many non Muslim women you will find fit that category?

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So the Muslim men should know first, that if they marry a non Muslim woman, she had to fit some conditions. The other thing is, brothers, be careful. If you marry a non Muslim woman

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in the non Muslim country, she has priority over your children.

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And if something happens

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to that marriage 90% the chances what what do you think the children will go with her?

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So if she's if she's a Christian, and she's a non Muslim, and you are Muslim,

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so, on Sunday, she wants to go to church. So she will take the children to the church on Friday, you go to you want to take them to Juma? She said, No, I don't think you should take them to Juma because I'm taking them to the church. So what will happen now? So now you're in a trap. You should have thought about that. before you dive into that situation. You was looking at her. He was thinking about her, but she wasn't thinking about the children. He wasn't thinking about the complications. So don't put yourself in that situation. Seven out of 10 of the marriages where the man marries the non Muslim, he will lose the children.

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The children will wind up becoming Kaffirs.

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This is the record. So we don't recommend for the man to marry a non Muslim woman. That's number one. But if they do, this is their right to dive into that trap. But I'm telling you brothers, when you jump into it, it is a trap.

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Now if you marry a non Muslim woman, but she's not going to church, she don't associate no partners with the law. She is a clean woman. She is listening to you. And you believe there's a good chance for her to become a Muslim man, then it's hard for you to do it. But my advice if you think maybe she should become a Muslim man, you should wait a little while and see if she will.

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Because if she becomes a Muslim, most of your problems have been solved. But if she's not, she's a Kaffir. And she has her support of her cafa family.

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Brother You're in for some problems.

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You're in for some problems. Tie your seatbelt on that's all I can tell you.

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Shake you said a co wife may be beneficial should the woman then choose or help choose a second wife? This is wonderful.

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This is absolutely wonderful.

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If a sister if a sister can say to her husband, brother look Habibi. I don't want you to marry again. I don't really like it. But if I think you will, or you think you must, or because of the condition of other sisters, please let me help you.

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Let me make sure that it's a sister that I can get along with. I know what you like, and I know what you dislike. Let me Please help you so before you select somebody, please let me help you please. If a brother has a sister like that, he's really foolish.

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If he does not allow the sister to help him in this manner, may Allah bless the sister inshallah, who thinks that way.

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Okay, okay. This is a

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this is the says Allah subhanaw taala says we're going to do Murphy unphysical out to fool you have a sip of coffee laughs First of all, brothers, please. Let me get patience, please. First of all this ayah we're in to do McAfee and fusi come out to fool you have sivakumar Hilah. First of all, this ayah

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has been subject to NASA.

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This is Mansoor.

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the companions of the Prophet SAW some complained that this verse was too strict. But the prophet SAW Selim said that they are not to be like the Jews and to say we heard and we Oh, we hear and we obey. two verses later, Allah abrogated that verse, just a couple of Hadith hamdulillah was something far lighter. So this means that the previous verse was to test their faith. And once they passed the test, it was removed. Could the verses have multiple marriages?

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also be a test like that to women. That is, even though it may never happen to them, they are still to be tested to see the level of obedience, they have Michelle law. This is good hamdulillah if they want to take it as a test, they can take it as a test. But the bottom line is a welcome.

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It is not just a test, it is a hukam.

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Allah has made hukam that the men can marry two, three or four. And in certain cases, it becomes whadjuk on demand to do so.

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Mr. harbor in some cases and wajib in other cases, so it is not just an issue of testing the woman. It is a test. But it is also a hokum from Allah subhana wa Taala. It is from the outcome of Allah subhanaw taala that men have this right. And the sisters again, I say to you, may Allah reward you. May Allah help you. And your ability to negotiate this particular issue. And I know it's a difficult issue. No man can say I understand what a woman goes through in pregnancy, you don't understand.

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And no man can say I know where the sister goes, just I know how you feel. Since I know how you feel I'm gonna take another wife, I know how you feel, Brother, you don't know how she feels.

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So don't say that you don't really know how you she feels. The bottom line is sisters. Don't be angry with your husband. And don't be angry with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And don't be angry with the prophets, a lot of them that he

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enacted this

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this token from Allah subhanho wa Taala. He taught us the profit loss and taught us how to deal with the multiple marriage. He said

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the best of you is he that is best to what? Their families and I'm the best of you to his family. But let's look at this situation. Did it mean that he gave his family the best of materials for that house? The best of clothes, the best of food? No, it doesn't mean that. Because when the prophet SAW son passed away, he wrote the letter and he said, verily, when the prophet SAW seven passed away, he had only in his house these possessions, a white mule, which used to ride on

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a cloak which used to cover himself with

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and a wooden bowl which he used to eat his food from. And he ordered that all of that be given away to ethnicity. So if that's all the prophets are awesome head, he evidently didn't mean give them the best of the world. Secondly, when the prophet SAW sin was on his deathbed,

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and he was falling in and out of coma.

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He woke up and he asked Asia or Asia because he was in the house of Asia delana where he passed away when he became ill when he passed away. He was in the house of Isla de la. He said, Oh,

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what property is in the house of Mohammed's A lot of us alone. She said Yasuda la we have some dinar on or we have some de la ham. That is some some money.

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The promises and said oh Isha collect this money together and give it to him.

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Give it away.

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So she's thinking like all women think?

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Maybe the Prophet he's ill. You see? Maybe he's talking out of his head.

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I'm gonna give away the only money I got in the house. So she did not give it away.

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When the Prophet sallallaahu sam came back to consciousness, what do you think he asked her? Oh, Ayesha. What did you do with this money? She said, Yasuo love ally, I did not give it away. I was afraid that so and so and so and so he said, Oh I Isha. What will Muhammad sallallahu alayhi Salaam do

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when he goes in front of his Lord and he left in this world some property.

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So the prophet SAW said he passed away, not leaving any dead. No dinar on and even when the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam came to Abu Bakar and came to Amman demanding that some of the beta male should come to them. They said no,

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no no no.

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The prophets lesson did not order that anything from debate to the male will come to his wives but you are the mothers of You are our mothers we will take care of you but you don't have any special rights to receive anything from the beta man so panela

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sisters inshallah, I just want to remind you take the wives of the prophets and a lot of them to Omaha meaning as your examples inshallah. And sometimes you are lost upon that did not give you the best of husbands but sometimes he did not give the husbands the best of wives.

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Be careful fear loss of planning with Allah and Escalade for all of your needs, and shot

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Look to your behavior, look to your behavior, look to your behavior, and inshallah is the last $1 to

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to forgive me for anything I may have said excessive anything I may have said that was my own opinion or anything I may have said that was wrong. And if I said something, and I had deleted for it, you take it.

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If I said something which I had no proof for, and you have evidence of it, throw it away. Don't worry about it. And don't be angry with your brother harlot. If he said something, to the best of his intention. I didn't mean to say anything wrong to anybody in Sharla.

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That's think there's one more from the city, the food is on the table. So we will take the last one in Sharla.

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Was it revealed of Khadija delana the prophets wife's death, that it was permissible to marry more than one wife?

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Was it revealed because of Khadija his death that it was permissible to marry more than one wife? No, I don't think that the occasion of Khadija death had anything to do with the permission of Allah subhanaw taala. I didn't read that. As somebody they have some delille for that they can share it with us in sha Allah. But I did not realize that the verbal nozzle of the eye or giving permission to the prophet SAW stem into the believers that was on the occasion of the death of Khadija jello and I did not read that in sha Allah. And Allah He knows the best in sha Allah sulphonic Allahumma Kona Chateau La La Land, want to stop for the corner to be like supanova Mr. foon wa salam, O Allah,

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an army army?

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What is the purpose of life of life?

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Why is it that when we ask the simple question,

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what is the purpose of our lives?

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Why do we get so many different answers?

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Is because people haven't really thought about it.

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It's too frightening.

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Not the question itself is frightening. But what's frightening is that if we answer it, clearly, it may change our lives. indelibly and we are afraid of change.

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And now we have discovered that every part of creation that has been discovered is inside of a drop of water.

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Or the Quran already said that to us 1500 years ago, that we created everything and every single thing from water to Quran said that.

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We want to talk this evening about

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Jesus, the son of Mary,

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and his phenomenal birth.

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A birth

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that very few human beings, whether Muslims or Christians have any argument about

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we believe, and our Koran makes it clear for us and confirms for us that Jesus Christ in fact, he was born without the intervention of sperm.

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that his mother Mary, that bless it woman, she became pregnant by the word of God.

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No man touched her.

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Eight murders

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or homicides are committed every 19 minutes.

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And two rapes are committed every seven minutes

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and there are three robberies

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every 59 seconds.

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There are 257,000 children that are legally or illegally aborted. That is 257,000 children are killed in the womb.

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By license

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21 million children

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are born every year out of wedlock, who do not know their mothers and fathers

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or who do not know whom they are fathered by

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2.8 million suicides every year of human beings who find no reason to live with these kinds of social problems inside of their own boundaries and

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have their own governments and their own institutions. How can they

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bring peace to the world?

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It doesn't make sense.

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All Muslims

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are lost subhanho wa Taala reminds you and me that whatever good happens, it is from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And if something else happens, this is from our own hands.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala he has ordered you and I to enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong.

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And when we cease to do that, we don't enjoy the right. We don't enjoy enjoying it, we don't enjoy the right we don't forbid the wrong then Allah subhanho wa Taala promise that he will visit us a calamity from himself.

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So that

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when the calamity happens, or you are punished, and the receiver comes upon you and you call upon Allah, He will not answer.

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What do the Muslims of today expect?

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The character of the Muslim is the most important part of the Muslim,

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not what he or she says, not only what he or she wears,

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not where they come from, or who their mother or father is or grandfather, not the country they live in, or for that matter if they live next to the Kava

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is not important at all.

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It is the character because the character is the actual fruit.

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And we can remember, on the occasion, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam invited his companions to make a sacrifice in the way of Allah subhana wa Tada.

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And their own model Amnon called Bob.

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He brought half of his wealth.

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And he considered this to have been

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a major sacrifice.

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And he was very proud of that.

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But when Abu Bakar de la and came, Abu Bakar

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he brought all of his wealth.

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And when the prophets on the long lines and asked aboubaker

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what he had left for his family, what was the response of abubaker odilon. He said, a love of

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a lion is messengers a lot of sin. And it was by the suggestion or the order of the prophets have lost them that Abu Bakr took back some of his wealth for his family.

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And this is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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mentioned

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that there was no one from among the Muslims,

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who displayed his loyalty to a lot of his messages to him similar to that of Abu Bakar.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala. He said, yes, definitely, who, who is better, who is more excellent

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than the one that calls towards the loss of power dialer, not just calling, not just shouting, not just arguing?

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Well, I'm sorry, but they are acting upon what they are calling. They are setting a precedent for what they are calling to.

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They have established a behavior, a paradigm and example to what they are calling to. And they openly say, announce, I am Muslim.

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We're oceans and rivers meet does the ocean take over the river? It doesn't, although the ocean might be five times six times, eight times 10 times larger than a river.

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And, you know, if you took two bodies of water,

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and you put a funnel in between them,

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what would happen the larger body would absorb the smaller body, wouldn't they?

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But in the case of the ocean in the river, it doesn't happen because a LA City put a bus up so they do not overcome each other. And one of our

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Jacques Cousteau who passed away now he was a marine biologist.

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He was able to film

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under the ocean where the rivers meet the ocean and the river meets the ocean and the ocean.

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Mr. River and they go back.

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They meet and they go back. So therefore the rivers returned back to itself and the ocean returns back to itself. They do not overcome each other. How's the Prophet know that?

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Islam has five fundamental pillars, the first of which is to bear witness that there's none of you worship except Almighty God, consistent with

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the first commandment given to Moses, consistent with

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the first commandment that Jesus Christ also said, is the greatest of the commandments. Here yo Israel, the Lord that God is one. Absolutely one, not the number one.

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Not the number one that could be divided into 123.

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Not the number one that could be multiplied.

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When absolutely one, having no one Besides, no other God Besides, he or Israel, the Lord that God is one. And that's your love the Lord thy God with all the heart and all the mind and all thy soul, and thou shalt not worship anyone except the Lord that God, no bow down to any graven images in the heavens of the earth or the sea below.

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Such said Moses, and said confirm Jesus Christ, and such says the Quran.

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This is what we bear witness. And this is the first pillar of Islam and the most important

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if war erupts in Iraq, more than 3000 missiles will be rained upon Iraq in the course of 66 hours, and more than a half a million people will be killed.

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Can you tell me

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how the lives of a half a million people

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are equal to a leader Saddam Hussein if America was able to go into South America and pull out what was the guy's name general

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Noriega.

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America was selling drugs with Noriega, but then Noriega flicked on them.

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So they went in and took this man from his country, brought them out and put them in jail for life in their country. So why didn't you just go into Iraq and pull out saddam? No, they need to go into Iraq.

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Why? Because you will find that in a matter of six months after the war, the prices in the oil will go down. And as we speak, right now, there are 27 mega companies, mega companies who are bidding for contracts for the reconstruction of Iraq, what does have to do with Saddam Hussein, and democracy.

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If a man

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had to get pregnant and have a baby, he would die.

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And then on top of that, if he had to look forward to taking care of that child for the next

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10 1520 years, and sometime the mother, she's taking care of a grown child,

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men who still live with their mothers,

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you couldn't do it.

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And still, she's taking care of herself. And she's taking care of her husband.

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Male loss upon the reward those sisters

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and their law cover their false

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male law cause their husbands and brothers and sons to appreciate them, because they are the godly trees that bear the goodly fruit, Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran,

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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam he made brotherhood, very sacred, very important is the whole basis of the Muslim society brotherhood. And when there is no brotherhood, believe it, there is no substance among the Muslims.

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No substance.

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The first principle and characteristics of Tao is that the die has to have knowledge.

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Not just ambition,

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not just emotional drive, and not just a reaction to some insult that somebody has said, and not just a feeling to want to give down because you know, it's obligation. All those things are good, and it's all necessary. But without knowledge, what are you going to do, but always show your composure and your willingness to talk to anybody? Because why?

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