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Lecture 8 _ Preserving Chastity

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ilaha illa ma Hua who la sharika y shadow Anna Mohammedan Abu who was rasuluh Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi as well as will move money while man was hobby he will as well as he Omaha to move money in wala Manitoba home de la ami Dean. My dear respected brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh I'm your host, Kareem Abu Zaid and this is the makeup

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virtual right believe see it is lecture number eight.

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And before I begin, because we received a lot of concerns about the sound that it was not

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very good law last lectures last three four lectures. So I would like to get your feedback whether on a text message or somebody maybe can call call us 303-500-5101 and let us know that you hear us will the brothers and the sisters who are on the broadcast right now can you please

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go ahead and

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and text us about the sound is it better?

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Or not? Let me see here a Solomonic rocket

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or a coma Salam then how are you doing?

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So can you hear me well and then today

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and the sound is coming out right and hamdulillah

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Okay, everyone else please please.

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I see loud and clear.

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I sister Emily, I hear you good. Sound is okay from the dog shirt off from Sri Lanka Bonjour Basha from New Jersey. So hopefully we fix the I got somebody working in this and hopefully Antonio sisters are Muhammad and door and we have Abubakar Mohammed. Our dear brother from Houston the straight path that brother is married

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Tony likes the sound

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tauheed Oba Deena sounds okay Shay

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Ali, from Ohio waalaikumsalam Okay, I guess we got a consensus that the sound is good. So we can move on in Sharla with me later other

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brothers and sisters in Islam like we ended up last lecture.

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A lot of you wanted me to finish up the methodology of

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understanding the names and the attributes of Allah subhana wa Taala

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between the affirmation and the negation and the

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refraining from accepting

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names or terminologies related to the names and the attributes of Allah without verifying and

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finding out what they mean by it and trying to correct the people and and make them

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adopt the

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terminologies which were mentioned in the Quran and the Sunnah in state Alhamdulillah were able to complete this but we had to take away the CLR lecture on Tuesday and

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we decided to make it up today inshallah. So that's why we're here on Friday.

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I have a couple of announcements but maybe we'll do this later inshallah.

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But so far we we can actually begin our lecture know your messenger

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lecture series, which is right here

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and this is lecture number eight no your messenger Lecture Series

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the virtual CLR of the prophets Allah salah and this is lecture number eight Alhamdulillah we do have like a playlist on my YouTube channel, where you can actually 12345

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in that order inshallah.

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I'm going to remind you of how I'm structuring the Ceylon inshallah This is going to be a book, I'm really

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offering it in that fashion to

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to be taught at Edelman health Academy here in Colorado and other schools who may be interested, because I'm really turning the seerah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam into lessons which we really need to learn in order to bring back the oma beetelite Allah. Basically, I'm trying to detect the contemporary issues like today brothers and sisters in Islam, you will find are spoken about how can you keep yourself chased that chastity and

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here is the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was in a very similar environment to our environment now. very wicked environment.

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Adultery is there

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yet, he never committed adultery. He never

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was found and in a situation with you know, he's around flirting or, or you know, mixing with with with the opposite gender or doing all this haram stuff. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he was not a prophet yet he was not

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a messenger yet we know that we still studying the the time. So now we're gonna bring that side of the life of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to our life now, to me a new life now, and that's the whole thing, inshallah. But let me first introduce to you how I'm structuring the car so you know where we're going. We still at the very beginning of it, but inshallah, one day we'll finish, we divided the zero of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam geography of the prophet SAW Salam into 63 years,

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we divided the 63 years into

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two main categories 40 and 2340 years before prophet hood and the 23, after prophet who,

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then talking about the before prophet who we had the first stage, his childhood. And we cover this in three chapters already that side we covered.

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We are dealing now with the second stage, which is his youth. And we're covering this also in three chapters in every stage there is there are three chapters, I'm trying to hit, you know, limited. This is the second chapter actually. And we happen to talk about the second chapter in three lectures, one lecture before Ramadan, another lecture, we came in just to refresh the memory, and we could not finish. So we have to finish it up today in sha Allah. So we're still doing dealing with the second lecture of that second stage, which is the use of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Then the third stage, which is the revelation like the five years before revelation, and, you know,

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the and then the, during the revolution and what happened until, you know, the first reaction of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, and, of course, his wife Khadija, and all of this. And what happened after the revelation of the prophets of Allah after the Rasul, Salah Salim received the first set of revelations in sha Allah, then we're gonna move to the

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the after prophet who that 23 that 23 also, we divided it into

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two main categories based on the categorization of the chapters of the Quran, the Maquis 13 years, the madonie 10 years, the Maquis 15 years 10 the madonie 3010 years and each one we divided into three and in each one of these three, there are three chapters just to let you know also, like here inshallah we

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the secret stage, that's the Maquis we have three chapters there, the public stage

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Seven years we have three chapters there. And the third stage which is the bridge, last stage, we have three chapters there, inshallah, we have three chapters there in sha Allah. Then moving to the madonie

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moving to the Madani moving to the madonie we have also the first stage of the madonie which is establishing the the

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Muslim community establishing the Muslim community which took three, six years, six years and then the stage of the truce of equilibria which is two years and then the stage of the universal of the of the message that's you know, that's a very interesting division inshallah we'll maybe we'll talk about it as we go inshallah.

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And we covered why this year, why this era we cover that, why should we study the seal of the prophets of Solomon, we talked about this many times. Today inshallah, we Okay, section one is the Bri Prophethood. We talked about the first three chapters the first stage, this is what we covered.

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inshallah, and we're dealing with chapter two today, Allah placed her love in my heart, I'm just trying to bring you because Sierra is really a sequence of, of events and I want you to get there inshallah. So today inshallah we're dealing with this chapter which is his youth, Allah has placed her love in my heart.

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Who made that statement brothers and sisters in Islam, I shall have the Allah on her, when she was asked about her jealousy from the Prophet made that statement when I love your loved one ha, kept asking the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam regarding

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His love and His mention of Khadija villafana. All the time, in spite of Khadija being sick, I'm sorry, in spite of Khadija being dead at this time, are at the stage

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Rasul Salamanca by saying Allah has placed her love in my heart. And we spoke about the concept of love You see, that's where we'll bring in in the

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Sierra to become a contemporary.

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You know, we have an issue now in the oma regarding the, the approach of the youth regarding marriage and regarding that word, love and all of that, and what is love

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a lot of the people by the way, they are under the impression love is just the last the last global bbbb and all that stuff, you know, that know, the relationship between a man and a woman is way more than that, way more than that, and

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and why are we seeing a lot of divorce and a lot of family breaking up. Because they think that this if this substance is not there in the relationship, that means

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that they should they shouldn't be together.

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Know, that substance may disappear from the relationship. For some reasons, Allah knows best. That is why there are other common objectives between the men and the women in that relationship, which tie them together. Like the children, for example. Like having kids, you know, having kids brothers and sisters in Islam is one of the most challenging aspect of life now.

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Why? Because when you break up with your spouse, even though you may have enough reason, or enough excuse to do it, but who pays the price?

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Who pays the price the

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children, you see that women will go and find another man hopefully to match her. The man will find another woman hopefully to match him

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you know, but But who will pay the price? And this is why a lot of the schoolers understood howdy jabber for Salima Muslim, that when

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when

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shaitan sends every day his helpers from the jinn he will give them the incentive man of Allah Allah oma muslimin Albus to attach whosoever does the

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a good job basically in misguiding Muslims today I will crown you I will crown you and we need to hurry that at night. The the gin at sunset the gin comes back again with with the with with less than

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their achievements. And one of them that if you read the Hadith carefully, one of them will stand up and say, Well, today, Mr. Iblees

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Mr. Satan, I was able to whisper to this Muslim and I got him to drink alcohol. Good job. Sit down, please. I got him to, to kill. Good job, sit down. We're not belittling these are major sense.

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These are heinous

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sins in Islam, but one of them will stand up and he will say, I did not leave a man and a woman until I separated my husband and wife until I separated them

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until I separated them

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Subhan Allah shaitan a police will pick up this journey, man.

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And then basically like we say here in America, you are my man come out. Why? And by the way, the schoolers some of them will say and I hope I'm not encouraging you to divorce your wife

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divorce is not haram that you know that statement divorces if you actually divorce somebody a divorce your wife and and and keep up the I'm not hopefully encouraging me to do this. But I'm just trying you to understand this in context of the Hadith. But drinking is haram killing is haram. But divorce can be a solution to some marriages sometimes.

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And as long as you fulfill the rights of the other individual Alhamdulillah Allah subhana wa tada

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waited for Raka ugni la coolamon Sati as it is mentioned in the Quran, and and will not like that the Christians will say no divorce at all? No.

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No, there are some marriages that the only way out of the of the situation is divorce. And if you do it properly without violating the rights of others, that is permissible. But again, we go back, I want you to understand what I'm saying in that context. Hopefully nobody is not going to take this out and say the chef is asking everybody for the vote. Is everybody here? No, I'm actually warning you again is that Schaefer now is becoming more excited about the divorce of brothers and sisters in Islam. Why? Because

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he tells you because he's strategic, because who will suffer out of out of that diversity children, then he is going to end up with weak generations,

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very weak generations. And these weak generations will be a good target for him, he can get them to the ground and that's why, again, brothers and sisters in Islam, I go back to the point.

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Look at that relationship between the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Hadid.

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There is an age difference. Khadija was married before, imagine this twice.

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And there is an age difference between them.

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Yet Allah subhanho wa Taala placed her love in the heart of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Why? Because she's a good woman.

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Like I said before, that approach of love in Hollywood and Bollywood in the movies, which we watch day in and day night, and and they contaminate the minds of our youth. No, it's not about the figure is not about law. Though, it's not about that. No, it's about having common goals.

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And that is why brothers and sisters in Islam, the Prophet says, a woman is seeked in marriage for four don't compromise the religion because this is the common goal.

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I said this before in the previous talk that marriage is an institution where you join another

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person another spouse, yani, if you're a woman, another man if you're if you're a man or another woman, and the end result of this project is to be together and gender.

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Imagine this, that you you're going to be together in general when I deal with you in general, you know?

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Now let's do what it takes. I'm going to help you. That is why we don't end up with these questions. Oh, his family wants me to do that. Help him be beautiful to his family. Her family wants help your wife to be nice to her family. Because if she is nice to her family, this could be her way to Jenna and she can take you with you. They can take you with her.

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You see it's about that you don't you don't know cherry pick what to do.

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Once again we used that relationship between the Prophet sallallahu Solomon and Khadija and and we address the subject of, of love and we covered this before, in a way this was a revision, but today that the part that I want to cover brothers and sisters in Islam is

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the the port that

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here it is okay the prophets chastity

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when man attains maturity, or the age of puberty,

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youngsters suddenly find themselves in a critical period of their lives, various kinds of deviations. seditions moral determinations and forms of heedlessness threaten Diane and their future life.

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Unless they are properly directed, they will so fall into the terrible episodes of misery and immortality that they can hardly attain happiness and prosperity for the rest of their lives. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam lived in a severely polluted environment, the atmosphere of which was darkened with all kinds of moral deteriorations. And since not only the youth, but also the aged, had become most shamefully involved in sexual deviations. And in chastity, Jani, even the old people that he will of age, they are involved in adultery. And imagine they used to have flags, like their red flags, if a house has red flags he can walk in and, and

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it's very similar to this environment. Now we live in that environment. It's even for married people,

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even for married people.

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And this is one of the causes of divorce these days that

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you know, the lifestyle.

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You see your wife at home in a way and when you go at work, you see your co worker

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in another way she saw Pamela and so it's it's chaotic. It's chaotic. Now, that environment, brothers and sisters in Islam

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is very similar. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was saved from it. And not only the Prophet because some of you may say, Well, because he's a messenger of Allah on left. There are other companions

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of matter of law, a fan of your loved one who

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would the Hawaii bridge, the ripples came to assassinate him in his house.

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He said to them, limit up to loony. Why are you killing me?

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I heard the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam says that the blood of another Muslim is unlawful

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accept in in three

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ways.

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And then he said zinnen back the axon

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that you you Muslim commits adultery and then after he is married while he's married, you know the

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and this was established by the way by the by the judge and all of that or and there is a court and all of this if they if there is an Islamic law.

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But here's what I'm looking for. For law e mesentery. To fija helia wanna Islam.

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By Allah I have not found that the landowner is the one who married the two daughters of Rasulullah. By a law I did not commit adultery, whether I was in jail helia or after I became a Muslim

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man or the loved one.

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We need to address this issue of brothers and sisters in Islam today of guarding your chastity. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam grew up in such a foul society, but through

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but though he remained and married until the age of 25,

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the prophet married at the age of 25. The sorted environment could not affect him the least bit, nor did anybody observe any immoral action springing from him. Both his friends his enemies, regarded him as the best model for of chastity and virtue in the society.

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Let's talk about the youth

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How can we, and this is, by the way, quite challenging? Yeah, you know, I sit here and I'm gonna, you know,

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I'm in that situation too. I have boys and girls who teenagers are about to teenage and, and, you know, and and they see and they hear

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what can we do

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to help

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our youth as parents to begin with?

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First of all, I think and allow me brothers and sisters Islam to be straightforward with you

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that

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approach of sexual education.

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My generation and a lot of generations before the people who came from certain parts of the world, we were the bride from it, we didn't know what is that we really had to

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discover this in our own. And,

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you know, and that was hard. And that's boys and girls, by the way, not just I'm not, because the way it should be done that, when you teenage, then your father should take you as a as a male and explain certain things to you, that now you have that urge that desire, and

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here's what we need to do about it, and actually talk to them, the girl, the mother will talk to the girl, this is we didn't have that.

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So we ended up exploring discovering on our own and I'm talking about, I don't know now, but now they you know, the out there the way they do with sexual education and all that stuff. I mean, there is some, but they do it here in America or in the West, in order to prevent diseases and, but you know, your approach, as a teacher, as an educator is different, you're really trying

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to help your children control that desire.

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We know that the ultimate and absolute solution

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for this particular desire is to marry is to have a wife to have a husband.

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That's the lawful way, Allah subhana wa Tada.

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But until this happens, because we know marriage in particular, they tell you, for you to get married, you have to qualify three ways.

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Three ways, first of all, physically, that you can fulfill the intimacy of your partner of your journey, your wife or your husband, Jani, you're physically able.

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So you have to be physically able and fit this is one

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financially, that you're able to support the family. But again, we have an issue here with that, you know, where we're not talking about having a balance before you get married. Unfortunately, a lot of people they end up wanting to have a wanting to, you know, to build a palace to have no, you can marry in a small room,

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you don't have to have a big mansion to get married, like they, and this is one of the ways that they split adultery, that they delay marriage, the family demands that the daughter would get so much and the guy goes working in order to get that money. And during that time, he has that desire, and there is temptation out there. It's chaotic.

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So financially here should be also build my roof it shouldn't be according to the erratic and the societal norms, which is

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in a way, you know, defeat

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makes it impossible for a young man to get married. But the third which is a lot of us don't pay attention to unfortunately, you have to be also psychologically and mentally ready. You know, ending up with another person sharing bed with them is really takes a lot of mental ability.

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By all of a sudden you find yourself in the room with somebody that you know, who's this guy, you know, as like, okay, now are you mentally able to handle another person and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and you get to know that the most secrets of those individuals, you get to know them you get, you know, and so you have to be mentally prepared to, to team up with another person. So those are the three things

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So until this these three things are in place, what can we do?

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I think that's the because the ultimate look at here what can we do here marriage, marriage and marriage, a physically mentally financially able marriage that's the first solution to this problem. The first solution to this problem

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the second solution brothers and sisters in Islam I'm sorry I did not listed here. I did not listed here

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but but I'm telling you in this environment, in this society we live now. If you don't get allies protection, forget it.

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If you if you don't if, if Allah because Yusuf Ali Salam made it crystal clear

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when all the women in Egypt went after him

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he made this

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call or besieging a hub boo Elijah, Maria de una de la de

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O Allah jheel is a lot better for me. To go to jail is a lot better before because he knew that if he doesn't respond to these women, he's going to go to jail.

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Because the wife of ours is already

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already she decided the punishment for refusing her.

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Mirza Oman arada the alakazoo illa use Jana our other banally she already decided

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this guy didn't

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hurt your family he should be jailed or he should be chastised. A painful chastisement I'd have an alley.

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Then he said, Oh Allah I prefer to jail over that. Look at this. What Illa here is what I'm looking for. What Illa tosser if I need Qaeda hood now

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and if you don't keep the fitna away from me

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I'm gonna fall into that fitna.

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Yes marriage and and all these means and fasting and, and sexual education and all these things are means. But brothers and sisters in Islam, and my asumu men now sama hula the protected is the one a law protects.

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What is the fee? fee? Howdy Phyllis aletheia. How do you feel? You know that the three individuals who found themselves in the Keith

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Holly subnormal and a huge rock block their way out. Each one of them came up with a three with a story like the schoolers debated who was

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the most. They said the second one.

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They say the second one. Remember the first one was about what being dutiful to the parents that the shepherd who came late and then he insisted that he would stand by the bed of his parent until they wake up to give them a drink while his own children are, are crying, wanting their drink. The second one is the one who

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he ended up with that loss for love.

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He loved his cousin in a way that no man would love a woman and he really wanted her and lots of harmala he was a demand tequila, fear of law. You know, and because Allah protected them, they tell you Allah protecting him because he must have a special status with a law so peinado dad and honey, Mama. Another evidence for this is that the young man who came to the prophet and he said yeah Rasul Allah, give me

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permission to commit adultery for the Prophet sallahu wa salam asked him series of questions would you like this to be your mother would you do to your daughter, your sister?

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So at the end, the young man by the way, some of you may not be aware of this edition of the Hadith that he said to the prophet SAW Selim Allah so Allah make dua for me.

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I love him Watashi

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wa sinharaja and there is a third one I forgot here. A llama for them de la palma wa sinharaja faraja three Allahumma ALLAH forgive him for

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thinking or considering to do this by her caliber purify his heart because that's a fitna in the heart fit in the fitness in the fitness of the of the opposite gender. The women in particular is the worst fitness a man may experience matter up to fitness and a shadow Allah really mean and he said I have not lived the fitness

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Which is very hard on men then then the women

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fair. It gets to the heart when it gets to the heart, that your heart requires the purification What are her caliber waha sinharaja and make him chased

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them man said after I left the brothel salam, I did not have any thoughts about this anymore. Again.

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We need also to make dua for ourselves to make dua for our children to make dua for that Allah would protect them from falling into the traps of adultery, the traps of fornication, the traps of morality and morality, brothers and sisters in Islam, but the second mean is fasting.

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Fasting, how do you think maybe sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was addressing the youth. Yeah, Mashallah Shabaab or youth minister amin Komal, data Valley as a word, woman lamea Stata family he was sown in the who love Uija if you're able to get married, then that's a solution. That's why the first solutions work marriage, marriage, marriage. And please brothers and sisters in Islam if your parents help your children get married if they are mentally, financially, physically fit. And again, don't you know look at the marriages in the in the Muslim world. Now you go on Provos, okay, do you have a flat, they have a house how much dowry

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so by the time you get married, you're 40 and 50 years old, if you really want to,

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and they refuse and during that time that the girl is in fitna, the boys in fitna there we shouldn't do that we shouldn't do that we should facilitate, we should facilitate brothers and sisters in Islam. The last thing brothers and sisters in Islam, which we consider that number four, if we add number to that, why, and asking Allah to protect you, number three is fasting. Number four, is following the Islamic guidelines. You see Islam is a beautiful religion.

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Stay away from the areas of haram

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stay away from

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what triggers that desire, what tickle your desire to stay away from mixing as they are lowering your gaze, especially now with with the internet with the computer with the

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easy access to this, and a lot of the brothers and a lot of the sisters and I'm talking to the youth brothers and sisters them do not realize that these materials online are addictions, addictions they I have actually a couple of lectures in on pornography on the danger of pornography on marriages.

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A lot of marriages are breaking up because of pornography. Why? And this by the way, both sides women and men Why? Because the man sees these models and on the on the internet or on TV or whatever they watch it or magazines and his wife doesn't you see for you to get the for the arousal and I'm sorry, I'm being you know,

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out of line today, but the subject is straightforward really.

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You must be triggered they call the dopamine something in the head which triggers you to you know, to to be ready to go. Now you compare your wife who's been working whole day taking care of the kids cleaning the kitchen. Hmm. to the to the model that you're watching on the video. You see this lady is paid to actually do this, huh?

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to shoot this for but but this woman is working for you working for the family. So

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that's a big issue here brothers and sisters in Islam, following the guidelines of Islam.

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Especially I advise the parents that do not allow your children easy access to Wi Fi.

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If they are to be online, let them be online on a living room where the computer is out there was we could see what they are doing the screen big screens

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and so forth are following the guidelines brothers and sisters in Islam. Okay, carrying on a hottie jab into hoilett, the one who triggered all of this. She was a successful and steamed businesswoman.

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Upon her father's death, she took over the business

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and traded goods through the primary commerce centers at the time from

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Makkah to Syria and to Yemen, hiring the most trustworthy men of character to be to brave

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the dangerous trade routes. Her business was larger than all the Qureshi traders combined, and the most acclaimed with a reputation of fair dealing,

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and high quality goods. She had a keen eye and was highly intuitive earning

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to the extent that they called her, Amira Christ, the princes of Christ was a pure one. Due to the her reputation. Her teacher knew what she was doing. Business wise, never compromising her modesty or integrity, to succeed in the male dominated trades, hiring only those that could meet the standards. Again, we come up with a contemporary issue here. I think I should have paid attention to it. A lot of females during our our time here, they want to be pioneers, businesswoman. And now, they think that the only way for her to be a successful businesswoman, if she gives off the hijab, and she she uses a language, you know, that basically use temptation to get business transactions in

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place. Khadija didn't do that Viola Juana

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so and we're talking about the Arabian

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culture, where they look upon woman to begin with, they used to bury them alive that the little girls I mean by that for

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right now look at the movies now and the culture now they they show you these women that they're successful. Why because she she dresses in a certain way and and she temps is not about that fear business dealing or is that no. So she uses her body or her voice or her

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female

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component and the business capacity

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for Khadija did not do that. Even though she was a successful woman.

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She was very successful. But she did not have to do that brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Khadija was one of the history's most remarkable women. Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once said that the four Greatest Women of mankind were Campbell Amina and Nisa, Alba, for women attain perfection in the sight of Yani Allah Subhana Allah Allah Khadija been to Hawaii 14 I've been to Mohammed his youngest daughter,

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Maria been to Emraan the Virgin Mary, and as you have been to Musa him the wife of the field, imagine Khadija comes on that list

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of people

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because of her

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moral standard. Khadija continues to inspire people to this day, who revere her for taking great care of the Prophet of Islam, and for showing the world through her behavior. What a pious, modest and courageous women can accomplish the example she left for mankind remains timeless.

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Khadija brothers and sisters in Islam that we that she handled the Prophet sallallahu wasallam when he came back from the kief

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outstanding,

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outstanding You know, it just shows you the caliber of a woman

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hanabi

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because you need to realize that the culture of angels in the Arabian Peninsula was not

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the culture of genius

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that is why one of the allegations they had against the Prophet was his process by geni because they knew about gene even in in Mecca there is a validator called the value of the gene and and I think anyone who's eloquent he has a genie who actually feeds him the the words we know that the Arab used to compete and poetry and so forth

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I wouldn't the Prophet came down he said that was a genie I'm afraid that no, you're not that type.

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But But let me help you I will help you I'll take you to my my relative Warlock and we're gonna talk about this in more details when we come to it, but look at that. And this is the reason why brothers and sisters in Islam

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that marriage, Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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Yani, willed it to happen this way.

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Because the Prophet needed somebody to take care of him

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because the task of the prophet who then was tough was tough.

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She asked the prophet to marry her. That's also something that is unheard of in that society.

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Even nowadays, I mean

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you know, you asking

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let's let's take for example the story of madeon with with Prophet musataha salatu salam when he ended up in medicine,

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even though the verses and sort of castles do not indicate that the one of the daughters asked the father

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but hinting call it the Houma yeah I bet is that God who in the higher minister Just tell me one of them said, Father, can you hire him? The father was sparked, he understood. He understood that this girl is interested in this man.

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Here he is, he goes and he he proposes in new Lido, unki, Hakka and we have other students that Omar, their loved one went to Abu Bakar winter of man before the prophet SAW Salah marrying half saw his daughter

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for

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heat is Khadija she's the one who initiated the marriage proposal.

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But again, why brothers, there are certain circumstances where

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you know, you may find yourself both in that position. The Prophet was not financially ready

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for marriage. So he lacked this, he knew that he's not well off. And especially if you go and marry someone that used to work for

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you know, there is a mismatch financially here.

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She may assume that

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you are after my own wealth, you're getting the point. So there are certain the point I'm trying to make it there are certain situations with whether the female, or whether the guardian of the female may hint

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to the man if he's qualified if he's well qualified. And if he's a noble guy, he's not gonna abuse this, or you know, that this girl want me to marry? And I said, No, you know, and he's gonna go around the field. If he's of that type, no, don't do it. Don't do it. Oh, her father, talk to me and

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No, don't do that.

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You know, there are people who will appreciate that even if they refuse, even if they don't go for for the proposal. But they are honorable people they are people have standard who will not defame the individual or defame that his daughter.

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That's again another issue that we have now. being the most successful woman around rich and worldly attainment as well as character. It seems Khadija faced a consistent campaign of men asking her secret around the marriage. She was married twice before her woodlock to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam both marriages produce children and both left her wouldwould

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widowed, she was not looking nor eager to marry again. Khadija learned of the stellar

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learn of the stellar character of Rasulullah sallallahu when when, you know when she hired them, and she heard all these things about him.

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trustworthy fear dealing, Carnage and noble character right away she became interested. She hired them into her.

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And finally she ended up marrying him brothers and sisters in Islam. Like I said Khadija did not need a husband to take care of her financially. And Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam did not have the means to seek a wife. She fell in love with him. She fell in love with him and through a friend asked him to marry her. He said yes.

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This is the part inshallah that I wanted to cover with you today inshallah.

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In the later Let me see if we have any questions Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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How you name stated question, please.

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Yeah, I have christian i don't know if you are on live.

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nation. Okay, we are live. So if you want to call me and then I'm gonna call you another face, okay.

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Okay, just

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ecological model of Somalia.

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Okay, brothers and sisters in Islam called me please 303-500-5101 inshallah we still have maybe another five minutes or so let me see if I have any questions here online. But maybe until I get these questions, let me make these announcements, very important announcements. What about that?

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Okay.

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Yes, name, state and question, please.

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My name is Iran. And I'm from Canada. And my question is, I was wondering why you said before in a previous video that we were allowed to protest for the Black Lives Matter movement.

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Why are What again?

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Like why you're not allowed to protest for the black lives matter?

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systems. I never said that. You're not allowed. You could protest it, it's up to you. But you know, protest system, Eman is not the solution.

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For our problems, our problems are, are far beyond protesting. And

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our our problems are our structural problems, you know, it's in the foundation.

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My take on on protesting that a lot of people see it the only way and the way to solve our problems, and that's very dangerous. Because after, you know, these politicians, I'm telling you right now, they will accommodate your protest, and they will put you to sleep and back again to the same circle, because the problem is not solved.

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My approach to this is focus. And I think I was asked the question in a heady manner and maybe I need to clarify this.

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protesting is a solution as long as it is conducted in an Islamic way that you don't go out there and mix with them with the men in order to protest you don't go out there and don't we have proper clause in order to protest

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as long as it is done in a

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proper way. And also, you know, nobody's gonna chase you out there and you're gonna end up in harm's way and all of that,

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it is a solution, but it is a big mistake system and to consider this, the solution because when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us the way to change societies and communities he

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focused on education, focus in on educating people.

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I tell you something, which you know, I I have seen with my own eyes,

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people who go and shout in the streets for hours, they don't pray five times a day. They don't

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even when they come back home, they don't even pray the Salah they don't make up the Salah, even you know, let's say that they were out there but they don't meet because they are tired, they are shouting and there.

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It is a way to make a change, but is not the way to make a change. The way to make a change is to educate people about justice to educate people about the proper conduct to educate people about you know the right thing to do.

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And this is the way to do it. To make a change inshallah does ecological system and Baraka Luffy

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Salama so 303-500-5101 Let me make these announcements as I take your phone calls inshallah.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam, please if you're even if you're a faraway land, you still can sign up for that summer camp which is going to start next Solomonic.

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I am very sorry to interrupt the announcement of

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eco Salah

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This is concerning sudo soft if I forget to resize or to start

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awkwardly loud, for example, memorable Isha. Does this call for me to do sudo song? No.

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It's one of the recommended things regarding the Salah that you articulate

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as loud as you make yourself feel yourself

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least or more

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solidly fragile memory by nature, of course, but it does not nullify the salaat if you do not do it just like a local coffee

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So, here's the announcements brothers and sisters in Islam. So this Sunday inshallah Jacques Lacan for supporting cmcc First of all, we have to say that still we will also panel are supporting us May Allah give you agenda.

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Myself and Dr. Bilal Philips will talk about the five necessities in Islam. Islam protects which is the Sunday at 12 noon inshallah 1pm, Pacific 11am, Pacific 1pm, central 2pm. Eastern 6pm. That is GMT, in sha Allah,

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please,

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we're gonna have the form 303-500-5101 open so that you can ask your questions. You can call us and ask your questions be in the LIDAR.

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The summer camp brothers and sisters in Islam right here.

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Three hours a day from 10 till one these are Mountain Standard Time I will be teaching Islamic Studies chef mercy will be teaching Quran.

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And don't forget Mondays we're going to have the right belief series, we're going to have those 12 golden rules, which structure our understanding of the names and the attributes of Allah. I'm looking forward to this class. I was working on the slides today and inshallah you're going to enjoy that. And Tuesday we're going to have the next chapter which is Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam being

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activist, you know,

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he grown up now but he sees the problems and he tried to solve the problems you know the in the society in the community and he became an active

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social Sushil light activist in his capacity, and this is the last chapter by the way, in that

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stage of us and then we're gonna move to the next stage which is the stage prior to the revelation and we're gonna study three chapters did inshallah and

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Wednesday inshallah, of course we're going to have the higher aim and brothers I'm done with the introduction, I, I was advised that the rest of the stuff you can read it in the book I'm working on inshallah, but next Wednesday, we're gonna be studying solar power. The higher aim of Surah Taha in sha Allah, which is chapter number 20. The second law Hello, so carnac along Madame de La La Land, Africa to lay well hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen toto

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