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Lecture 7_ True Love in Islam

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Wai shadow Allah ilaha illa Allah Who are the who lash Erica was shadow a number of Ramadan Abu who wore a pseudo

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Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayidina Muhammad in was early he was hired he was well he he Omaha to me while I Manitoba home BSN in LA and within

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my respective brothers and sisters in Islam. I'm your host Kareem Abu Zaid and I come live from Denver, Colorado.

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Today is Tuesday. And today brothers and sisters in Islam we have no your messenger no your messenger virtual Sierra and this is lecture number seven insha Allah

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brothers and sisters in Islam

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know your messenger because you will be asked about him in the grave. One of the three questions in the grave. What do you know about the man who was sent to you?

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A lot of the people assume the question is about the name or know

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the knowledge of this messenger

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and inshallah I will wait a little bit until all of you come to the broadcast the delay tada and I have a presentation

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then inshallah I will take your questions like we promised, but meanwhile Can I kindly ask somebody to call the number 303-500-5101 just to make sure the phone connection is working before we begin inshallah. So if I can kindly get somebody to call the number insha Allah tarde.

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All right.

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A salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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y de como. Salam, and then can you hear me?

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Yes.

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Alhamdulillah then Jackalope failand. So it's working Baraka Luffy. Are you ready to learn about the sealer today?

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Yes, yes in sha Allah Jackalope a la said I'm only going to LA salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Okay, is working Jackalope hidden Baraka Luffy.

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Solomonic.

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Okay, my next is in sha Allah is

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to welcome

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those who showed up early on the broadcast and signed

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letting us know that they are here, Brother sharjeel. All the way London still a week Alhamdulillah that is knowledge. Sister Halima

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Gemma Ibrahim, I think the sister is local. If I'm not mistaken. Abdullah Cardinal Alberni, St. Louis shift I've met Bilal while he comes along from St. Louis. System Silva from Seattle. walaikum salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato. But she'll get the Polycom Salam

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Dear brother Abdul Rahman boonie our local brother here, sister ammunition Lee, Jackalope, felon sister, Amina inshallah, whatever we can do shala is my job we get your message in Charlottesville humble everybody's happy now we're going to send the 250 to the brother in Malaysia and you're getting the camera but you have to wait now until they open up for the ombre.

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inshallah soon I'm hearing that they are opening up the masjid Abdullah Al Benny. One traveling the other McLean Alhamdulillah. Two brothers from St. Louis just to listen to shift Kadeem and hamdulillah That's nice. You do like Omar Abdullah Juan and his neighbor right.

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They used to alternate

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Antonio from Kuwait. Salam aleikum Antonio mzr to La consola Mahabharata to chef Mati Jan walaikum salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Our sister Nora from

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Saudi Arabia welcome Sarah more Mandala yo Baraka to welcome sister Nora. Tara, sister Tara, our local sister here. Our brother is Maui. Maria

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Sara suru Sharon civile Ronnie I'm sorry, Sarah, I have a hard time civil Ronnie civil Ronnie, our dear sister Sarah, or brother siete yaku from North Carolina walaikum salam Yaqoob

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Ali hallowee walaikum salam Ali, of a Huck Maruyama warlow from pdma

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inshallah let's begin brothers and sisters in Islam

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what is the CLR today because I have quite a

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long presentation today. If I'm unable to finish it inshallah I will continue next week with the lighter body you know, I

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we have a cooler here Santa Monica live rocket

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while

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I'm calling from London, basically brother

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Can I speak in

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Mr. McClain? Yes, go ahead. Go ahead. You're speaking to him? Yes, go ahead. Okay.

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Yeah,

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I have a one issue call my son

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article

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six and a half years old and

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a few days I had like an issue came suddenly he was alright.

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And because I always when I pray I tried to do it

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every time but in Ramadan in last few

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like 28 Ramadan suddenly in my brief time when we have thought

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that time sudden means you work in different rooms and change suddenly and he was doing something different. Which one is he and my wife University then my wife is care a lot because he's autism I can understand the behavior but then I pray I try to do our to Allah

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and after that, I try to

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say my signage on some door then after half an hour it was alright. But till now in today from that differentiate on bounty now he was killed in the way this afternoon time coming, changing lot. You don't want to twist stressful

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or release scared I don't know what to do. And

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the story that I saw for your your debate and your conversations about autism versus a call you can say something which one I can do for my son

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always like to sum to

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something because you always call on your

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Jackalope hidden. Brother May Allah Subhana Allah grant your son

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quick recovery.

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I do believe personally that there is an association between

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you know, Gene possession and what they call autism. So, inshallah what what you can do is send an email to info at our cmcc.org hopefully you have that info at our cmcc.org and I will see what I can do inshallah, to help you with the later

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Or

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instant message or email

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info at our CMC. That's email info inf o at our cmcc.org. Maybe I'll just have it written here. Yeah, info at our cmcc.org

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info at our cmcc that

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yes, yeah, I'll write it for you. Okay. And I'll show it to you hold on. Okay. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Okay, so it's right there brothers and sisters in Islam that's where you can send emails info at our cmcc.org inshallah ecological India brother salaam aleikum.

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Thank you.

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So, let's begin our broadcast our lecture, inshallah, without any delay, even later, Allah brothers and sisters in Islam,

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because the way that I structured the Sierra

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is to have practical lessons from now, for now, and that's the, you see the seal of the prophets of Allah how to sell them is not a story that you tell? No, it's a lifestyle which you're supposed to live again. But of course, you're gonna live it now and here, not there. And this time, there is variables that you have to consider. inshallah,

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let me just show you because we, we stopped teaching the sealer during Ramadan, and some of you may have blanked out. So I'll show you how I broke the Sierra into certain lessons that at the end of the day, you will, you will get

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certain lessons from each stage of the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Here's what I have for you

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know your messenger. Now the hero of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Bibliography is totaling 63 years 40 before Prophethood 23 after Prophethood.

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As you could see brothers and sisters in Islam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lived for 63 years, we divided it into before being a prophet, that is 40 years. And after being a prophet that is 13 years, 23 years, I'm sorry. So that's total 63 years.

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Look at that Bri Prophethood.

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The 40 years, we started with that, and we're still in that area. You haven't missed a lot, even though this is seven, lecture number seven, but you have not missed a lot.

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But we divided every

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you know,

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this particular stage of the life of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam into three stages, his birth and childhood, his youth, and we're still at his youth. And you know, the time prior to receiving the revelation and after. So prior and the initial revelation stage, and with each one of these stages, three chapters, that's all, we already covered the childhood

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and we are at the second stage the youth at the second chapter, if you want to know where we are really like the other brothers and sisters in Islam, so you haven't missed a whole lot inshallah. But you look the after Prophethood. So before the Prophet would birth, childhood, then youth, then and we're still at that stage. We're actually chapter two. We have one more chapter to cover. And then after that is the period of the revolution now, after revolution that 23 years, we talked about Mackey and Madonna Look at this, after Prophethood 23 years, Mackey and Madonna and also the Maquis we divided into three chapters and the madonie into three chapters 13 years and 10 years. All right.

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The mucky period, the 13 years the first stage was the secret stage for three years the public stage for seven years. And the Hydra stage debris Hydra stage, what happened before the Hydra and those are three chapters and each one of those will have three chapters in

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Allah. So that is nine chapters, by the madonie stage six years of building, establishing the Muslim community and facing the challenges better.

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And then an idea and then the crucible for the idea was for two years and then the conquest of Makkah and the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam taking that message, the message of Islam outside

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Medina

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why the Sierra we said, we mentioned seven reasons why we must study the Sierra why you know your messenger? Why the biography of the Prophet, it's a must.

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Number one, you will be asked about the prophets of Allah sentiment in the grave. You're supposed to love the prophet SAW Selim, how do you love someone you don't know. The Koran is connected to the Sierra, if you carefully look at the higher aim, sometimes the seerah define the higher aim of a chapter.

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Like, remember when I talk to you about Yusuf Yunus, who's a news of

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really the period of revelation decided

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the higher aims of these chapters, because looking at the condition of the Muslims,

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which the stage of oppression and injustice being

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carried out against them, so

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it's a source of steadfastness, how did the Sahaba and the prophets Allah, Allah, Allah more steadfast in the face of we face Islamophobia now, and this is the reason why brothers and sisters in Islam, Allah Subhana, wa Taala, revealed third of the Quran about the messenger and the messengers. And obviously, you should study the biography of your messenger and the 23 years and and see how they were steadfast. Hey, Sierra is an evidence for his prophethood because of his character sallallahu wasallam. His Sierra is a blueprint for the oma until the end of time. Why, because of these stages, secret stage public stage, persecution, okay, let's find a place where we can build a

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community that challenges

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then the let's have peace, and it's a templates.

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Basically, you have to choose and select the right time and apply it and live it as a community or as individuals. That's why it's a blueprint. It's a it's a template

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templates, you know, like when you go in, you want to design something on you know, and they give you a template and you just have to, you know, change some areas and you produce reproduce something that you reproduce again. So we need to do that we need to look at the criteria of our time and see which one applies and reproduce, so that we can move to the next stage of we are getting that

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and getting to know the best of people, the Sahaba of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam This is all revision By the way, I'm only reviewing so I haven't even got into my subject today inshallah. So, we still had section one, which is the B Prophethood. And we covered his birth, we covered his birth,

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the first stage, which is his childhood and birth, we know that the second stage which is the youth which is recovering, now, and the third stage, which we will cover in the future. So remember, in the first stage, what did we cover?

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chapter one, how Earth was in dire need of a messenger?

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Remember when I shared with you this hadith that Allah looked at the people in earth, right before sending the prophets of Allah this element he resented them except

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some left remnants of the People of the Book who still own the religion of the true religion of Asia. And of course some Arabs and some

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non Arabs likes hell man, and and I live this with you. Then the Euro, the elephant, the fact that the Prophet Salam was born in in a year which is very unique and

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memorable in history.

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And so Pamela, chapter three how Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was an orphan but yet imagine we're talking about an orphan sister Amina Allah so Allah Allah, Allah, and Allah subhana wa tada made him the reformer, the one who will, the most influential human being in history. According to non Muslims, of course, for us, He is the Rasul Allah

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Rasul Allah, Allah, Allah. So he was an orphan.

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And in that chapter it was really a message to people who,

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you know, they call them misfortune. But I would like do that because there is no such thing that never underestimate yourself. Allah subhanho wa Taala can make the best out of you, you just have to qualify yourself in sha Allah. Then we move to the second stage, which is his youth. And this is the longest, from 12 years old, all the way until the revolution and we chose three chapters

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as they recognize their sons and the chapter one and if you remember

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the trip, which the Prophet did to Syria, and he met the monk by euro, the hero, I'm sorry, the healer, the healer, that's the name. And he recognized the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and we mentioned that the People of the Book know about Rasulullah, Salah Solomon, we spent a whole chapter on this the second chapter, which we are dealing with today, brothers and sisters in Islam, and we dealt with before but we're gonna deal with it again today, because we were not able to finish it last time is Allah placed her love in my heart in reference to her deja radi Allahu Allah, Allah blessed and later the third chapter in sha Allah will be the social activist here so solemn, was a

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social activist, activist, and we'll explain this as we go.

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So all of this was a review. I haven't started yet. So you know, take this time out. Now you can tie me from now. Chapter to Allah placed her love in my heart.

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Why did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made that statement? And to whom did he make it? So Pamela is what

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he needed to eyeshadow, viola Juan.

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Ayesha was, at the time the wife of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam and the most favorite.

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She said, I have never been jealous from any of the wives of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam my jealousy from Khadija.

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Imagine that.

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Now, Khadija is not alive. Imagine she is jealous of a dead woman.

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Now the Prophet sallallahu wasallam made that statement. Her love was placed in my heart. I can't help it. I can't help it.

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And we know brothers and sisters in Islam that the age is not there. So let's utilize this. Let's benefit from this to address the subject of marriage.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam.

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divorce rates is

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the highest ever, in some Muslim countries. 60%

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imagine every 100 marriages, we have 60 divorces. Imagine that. Why? Because quite frankly, we do not understand the true concept of marriage. What is marriage? Why marriage, all of that we don't understand it yet. That's why we need to visit it. And we're gonna utilize

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that part of the Sierra to teach that

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in light of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam love

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to have to have deja.

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So that is the purpose of the sila. You see the Sierra is not a story that you tell no. The Sierra is

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events that you can live brothers and sisters in Islam. So let's see what I have in mind for you here today. Here's my agenda.

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differentiate between lust for love and true love.

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lustful love?

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It will pay him called it in Arabic, LS LS

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lust it has to do with your sexual desire.

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That's all.

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The true love is the love which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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referred to in answering our Isha when she rebuked him sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what are the mahana Isha read because she's a woman and you know jealousy is one thing that sisters have tested with.

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So, Shadow The important thing is, there is a difference. Big difference brothers and sisters in Islam between the two

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Unfortunately, a lot of the marriages which take place now are on the basis of that loss for love.

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Not the love which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is referring to.

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What do you mean?

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brothers and sisters in Islam?

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We love with a limb in our body, which we do not control.

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We love with the heart

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and the heart is in the hands of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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in nikolova Benny oedema they know us more IE min or saw the man

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the hearts of the children of Adam are between two between two fingers of Allah subhana wa. Now don't try to visualize the fingers of a larger See, he has fingers in a way the truth is majesty and leave it at that and if I'm pleased with your head, that you visualize them say Subhan Allah Allah has above that for you.

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Now, brothers and sisters in Islam,

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if you are righteous and pious, do you think a loss of Hannah with IRA will direct your heart to love somebody who is not righteous and pious? No way.

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No way.

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Because Allah is the one who believes he said what the prophet said. Love God. That's how we set it exactly in Arabi. laqad Rosie aku forbear her love was placed in my heart. I can tell it.

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And what confirms this? How did you breed freestyle Buhari? When Allah loves an individual he calls a bone Jubilee, Isla de salami, gibreel I love so and so. So love him. So jabril Ali Salam will call upon the angels. Yeah, MLA aka Allah love so and social love him as well. Look at this flow manual that hula, hula kaaboo Phil. avi, then His love will be placed in the hearts of the believers.

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You're getting that. Likewise your wife.

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Likewise, your wife. That's the love the prophets, Allah Selim has refeeding too. But unfortunately, our heads are contaminated, are polluted with the Hollywood Baby, baby blue hair, black I

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figure and all of that. But by the way, I'm not dismissing any of that this is still important. But there is a balance between the two. Why the divorce rate is spiking is high. Because the focus is on this side. unexplained. Let me just walk the second area that I want to address chestatee

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we have sisters and we have brothers who goes through teenage aging and go through

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the sexual desire and they are not married. And they live in this society where it's so easy to fall into her arm.

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How can you guard your chestatee the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam guarded his chest city in a corrupt

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polluted society like ours.

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This is the second subject that I want to those two subjects I want to address inshallah, in light of that stage of hydrogen, let's address the first one.

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lustful love versus true love, or true love versus lust for love. Again, that term for lust for love, lust is the desire the sexual desire that somebody that you attracted to physically that said no more, no more. So, Muslims are influenced by what is propagated by media movies and TV series, they in and day out, they think that a marriage will not be successful unless it is based on a pre marital relationship you that you must have a relationship. A lot of Muslims Oh, I must we must try one another. So you know we have that compatibility. urogen Muslim, some Muslims they think like that now.

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And they are justifying the approach of boyfriend and girlfriend on that basis that Oh, we got to figure out one another. Do we match or no? Imagine that. Imagine that.

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They think that a marriage will not be successful unless it is based on a premarital relationship because between the uncouple to achieve perfect

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harmony between them and to secure a successful and that shaitan right here. Not only this brothers and sisters in Islam, many people are also influenced by the call to intermixing between the two sexes, that lewdness, as well as many other moral deviations. This leads to a great corruption and a grave and grave crimes as well as the violation of the sanctities. And the honor. The

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marriage brothers and sisters in Islam is the only institution where a man and women can fulfill their desire. That's the only way.

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The only way

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other than that corruption. And this is why our sherea identified one higher aim, have Lula Lee, have luminously have one sad Look at this.

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Helpful Ellie, have Vanessa Nestle have been sad. And so Pamela, the only aim, which is named after three names, and each one of them refers to something have been Nestle, the protection of the progeny. What does it mean? A child is entitled to be born into this world in a house where there is a husband and a wife committed.

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They have a common goal.

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Not a boyfriend or a girlfriend, not a man who desires a woman and want to sleep with her, or vice versa know that they married

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for that reason to have a child and

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because who pays the price when there is a divorce brothers and sisters in Islam, the children

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imagine just to show you every single day shaitan Iblees grounds a genie who separates a husband and wife every day. There is hottie jabber, Muslim, every day. Why? Why? Because it's a strategic damage.

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When children, you know live in a house

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where divorce took place between the fathers and the mothers.

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They are psychologically broken,

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easy to sway by shaitan. That's the point that, again, brothers and sisters in Islam, this is absolutely wrong. True Love is this means sharing the concerns of daily life and cooperation for it to continue. Within the framework of this cooperation, one can achieve his human needs, that we have common goals, not only bed goals, no other common goals.

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Imagine marriage is an institution where you want you and your wife you want to be together in gender. Imagine this is an everlasting goal. Okay, I want to take my wife, I want to take your hand to gender and you take my hand to gender Help me please help me Let's help one another. So we can be together in general. Imagine this not only in this world, but you know is that imagine the goal is beyond that. Besides you want to leave behind us people who will carry on Islam after us. You know, like that money in the last surah that we addressed. You know, the wife of Emraan or the courier when he saw the corrupt community around him and Jerusalem and and and he was old

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99 years old his wife is bad and and then he calls upon Allah I want to hear so that he can carry on the message after me. You're getting that that the common goal

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or development of new photography a loved one who and this statement is authentic.

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He said while la he in Nila aqui Hoon FC islandica had Raja min Buhari nessa Mattoon to set the hola by Allah. Sometimes I forced myself to have intercourse with my spouse so that I will have a child who will come out and he will say la ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah imagine this is the goal.

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And this is your goal brothers and sisters in Islam. The choice of a spouse, the way that you go about it is totally different. And Khadija and Rasulullah are the Alon Khadija and Rasulullah is our example here. You know there was an age difference. The 15 years never been established, but there was an age difference but yet the relationship was extremely successful because there were common goals. Beside that

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physical attraction, brothers and sisters in Islam

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for you, let's move forward.

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The relationship between spouses is based on affection and mercy, not on lust for love, desire and passion. It is a relationship which is based on quite love, affection and mutual mercy, not illusions of love, which fail to withstand reality or remand or romantic fantasies which feel to create a successful marriage. So, panela This concept is a foreign concept. Woman, T and Gianna come in

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as

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a school, Eli he

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was in a coma,

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in feed legal

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and have the signs of Allah. Look at this verse sort of room and off his signs that he has created spouses for you from your own kind, that you may find two things mawatha love wahama love and mercy.

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When love disappears, then mercy comes in place. This is my wife, my sister, she is my companion when you know when to help one another love Buddhists together. You know we have a common agenda we have children.

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That's a key brothers and sisters in Islam moving forward. how knowledgeable was oma imagine this statement also by Omar brothers and sisters in Islam when he addressed women and he said, I really love that statement. Look at this. If one of you doesn't love her husband, the last four love the last four love.

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She should not tell him about that. Because only a few homes are based on love. Rather, people live together by virtue of good morals and Islam. You need to understand that brothers and sisters in Islam Wake up. Wake up that Hollywood that Bollywood that movie which polluted the minds of our youth is not true. That's why the voices are increasing because not realistic. You're not realistic. You're not realistic. Brothers and sisters in Islam. I will just just hang in there. Hang in there. Ah, don't be negligent strike a balance. Okay, because some of you may assume now Okay, so sure if you want me just to go and marry somebody that I'm not even at No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I

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shouldn't romance with my spouse. No, no, no, no, no, no, I shouldn't flirt with no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, I'm sorry. I didn't say that. But this is not everything. And if it is not there, that means your marriage is not there, your marriage is still alive. Your marriage there are moments in the marriage where you may not have the luxury of of having this. That's the point. That's why you need to strike a balance.

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Nevertheless, this does not mean that we call to neglect emotions between spouses or bury feelings and sentiments between them. Look at our messenger sallallahu Sallam and how he loved his wife. Khadija

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also look at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he asked Maria Abu shorba Well, how do you facilitate necessity when Hebrew bows to a women from an unsolved he said go look at her. Make sure that you're attracted physically to her, this is still important

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that she's attracted physically to him. That's still important. still important is still a variable, which will make the marriage survive, but it is a variable. It has to come in and context with other variables, not just one variable. And this is why brothers and sisters in Islam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, look at this. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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said, women

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is seeked in marriage for four things. Her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, hair, religious commitment, seek the one who is religiously committed.

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And that applies what why brothers and sisters in Islam. Why?

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Because before you choose a wife for yourself, you're practically choosing a mother for your kids.

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And the sisters and your guardians, before you choosing a husband for you, you choosing a father for your children.

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So you got to be extremely careful that what is your agenda now? If you go after a woman who's really beauty is the figure, you know, that's not gonna work. You must you see compromise beauty, compromise wealth, compromise lineage but not the religion This is what is meant by the prophet sallallahu Sallam statement

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also was also Our solemn address the guardians of the sisters, because we know that sisters cannot give them themselves in marriage that

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either j accom and Tara Luna who Luca who were Dina who feza we do if someone comes to you

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proposing to your daughters or whoever your sisters whoever is under your guardianship, look for two things character and religion.

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That's a key brothers and sisters in Islam. Why marriage is a vital institution. Like I said, there are three basic reasons for getting married. Why do we marry

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number one to enable a man and a woman to live together and experience love and happiness within the Islamic law because that's the way to fulfill that desire. The emotional to produce children provide a stable and righteous environment for their upbringing

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to provide a legal union which safeguards society because look at us now look at adultery, all over the place, all over the place, brothers and sisters in Islam, because of this, marriages for men and women to share a spiritual physical journey, a journey which will continue together in the next life inshallah imagine this. Imagine your goals is to be together imagine, imagine that.

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You know, imagine this city is to create a pious and a safe environment to raise their children and protect and develop taqwa in them in sha Allah. Unfortunately, challenges

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why also brothers and sisters is so this is the positive side. But But why the institution of marriage is vital because it faces a lot of challenges. I just said a minute ago, that every day based on howdy jabber Salamat Muslim shaitan crowns a genie who separates a husband and wife. There is a verse in the Quran called at the verge of sorcery.

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Fair to Allah Muna min Houma Matthew ferry, una de banda. Look at the human devils. They use something called

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notional our tuna to separate the husband and wife to make a husband and wife resent one another sorcery.

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Sadly, brothers and sisters in Islam we have a lot of broken homes. Now, these days a lot of marriages are breaking up and ending in divorce.

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Why because people do not have the right perspective in marriage.

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You know, the

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it's all about materialistic desires and all of that and that is not what is meant by it.

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What parents can do because you know, right now, you know, you know parents must play a role.

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And

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I use the example of Omar

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you know, and Omar was

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going around at night in Medina and checking on his oma, the people Allah subhana wa tada placed

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him responsible for

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and he heard this conversation between the mother and the daughter.

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The mother is asking the daughter to cheat and the daughter is reminding her of the consciousness of Allah subhana wa Tada. Omar did not notice this girl. By the way, if you read the he just mark the house and he went home and he woke up one of his children, his three sons. There is a girl out there. This is a good mother.

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This is a good mother. And he said he threatened them if none of you will marry her, I will marry her because this is this is a good model for your children.

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Likewise,

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even at one time, Omar actually asked the live Norma to divorce his wife. Some of you may not be aware of that.

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And Omar Abdullah used to love her. He used to have the floss for love for her. And he went to the office and Solomon said My father is asking me to divorce her after I back Abdullah over your father Abdullah.

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And we know Prophet Ibrahim Ali Salam. If you live

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The story of love for him when he went and visited Israel and he was not at home and he asked his wife Kay for a shoe Kuma How was your life? They said, Oh, she said awful. Terrible.

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said You know, when your husband comes back, tell him that to change his doorstep or your latte but

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he actually asked his mom if you divorce this woman because this is not our right wife, she's not grateful. She's not you know, she's not grateful.

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By the way, a lot of the people they use those two Hadith are normal and, and, and especially fathers and the story of Prophet Ibrahim are dismayed. And they interfere into the marriages and and they you know, they sometimes they asked their children to divorce their wives, I tell them listen, if you have that caliber, the knowledge, the taqwa and the Eman of both of these, then insha Allah or closer, nobody can attain the rank but

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don't be somebody who doesn't even pray or doesn't even know anything about the Quran and then you love. Parents should play a role brothers and sisters in Islam, and helping and guiding their children to get married, they should use their wisdom and experience to guide them through the hard times to support them when needed. But at the end of the day, they need to realize that it's not their marriage, it's their children marriage, it's not for them to interfere with unreasonable demands. And I use the example of Omar like I explained here right here.

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The second subject brothers and sisters in Islam that I wish to address here is when one attains maturity or the age of puberty.

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Young sir, some, you know, they find themselves you know, in that environment of

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you know, the polluted environment. I'm looking at the clock here and I only have 10 minutes left. So inshallah You know what, now we covered this, the side of marriage and all of that, let's deal with the chastity and the rest of it Next, inshallah. So, be nice if you have questions, please give me a call 303-500-5101 inshallah, I still have like, 15 minutes inshallah, I will take your calls, but we will finish this next inshallah in the later so three to three 505 101 Give us a call in Sharla. Let me see if I have anything on the screen here.

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very beneficial, just like allow for marriage help produce healthy communities along those but yes, yes. You need to understand this.

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The problems that we have as an oma starts at home. You know, home is not,

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you know,

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is not straight, we don't have

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you know, we don't have

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you know, the

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the love at all.

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Okay, Santa Monica la barakato.

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Yes, namesti? No.

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So I come from a Maliki area, I guess, identify the bulevar identify to be Maliki. I do not. I am, I believe in the Shahada, and I believe that

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messenger. So my question today is related to obtaining a child out of wedlock. So please, this has been tormenting me for so many years, hopefully you can provide me with the answer. So where I came from, and binomial my input is denied.

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So if a child is born out of wedlock

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child is not to inherit from the Father. And the only time I know about this was that the demands is a feature that less than one time a cousin of mine passed away that unbeknownst to be, he had an adult daughter. So when they were distributing this property, they thought I was around. And this was a very simple time to show it to the end of

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the what Gina can do to a community. So he has everybody respectable members of the community, and they're distributed as well. And this eldest daughter, who apparently was born out of wedlock, never inherited anything from this person. So now I really understand what the amount of times that the child is born out of wedlock. He can never inherit from the Father and some of the demands of

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I didn't know to the extent that they will say this child will not enter gender, and well as a little average, but you are the knowledgeable person in this regard, I would like you to help me out if a child is born outside of wedlock,

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to date inherit from the parent or not. Now, if they add in with the mother, sorry, the father and the mother passed away condition inherited from the Father or not, and this child that they've condemned the child to be held, is that correct? Or no? And the last part of this question,

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this child can never be

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a neighbor slaughter for the Muslims to

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kill off he just got lucky. So that is that is brothers and sisters in Islam.

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You know, win, win, win.

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Win Win, we talk about marriage, and the institution of marriage

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is to prevent all these things which we're living.

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You know, here you are you brought a child into this world out of wedlock, meaning through adultery.

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Now look at the serious consequences.

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What is the sin of this child not to inherit?

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What is the sin of this child?

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Not to become an Imam, if he is qualified to be an Imam.

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What is the sin of the child that he's not to intergender?

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You know, this is what you call top of the line of injustices and Islam focuses on prevention, you know, there is the prevention measures.

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And so panelizer there is a chapter in the Quran which we're approaching very soon in sha Allah, the higher aim called the North.

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From Pamela chapter note begins with that alarming

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hug designer.

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It's alarming to non Muslims.

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That, you know, the

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the adulterous, what is the punishment and the adulterer, what is his punishment and so forth. But So how long have you need the rest of the surah? It talks about how to prevent that.

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How to prevent this from happening to begin with Santa Monica slobberknocker.

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Flour, hot lava. This is Fatima calling from Maryland. Yes.

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Question about fasting and fasting. Study my female dead. Now can I have Thursday and Friday because I want to skip the weekend or can I can't fast the Friday.

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You see sister of sister Fatima Thursday and Friday, not Friday and Saturday? Yes, that's my question. I don't know. I will. I will. I will answer your

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sister Fatima.

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You could fast Fridays and Saturdays with the intention of fasting the six days of Chihuahua.

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I just want to remove this misconception from a lot of you from a lot of the minds here that people you see what we're banned from doing.

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Aluminum aloha aloha Eonni. It is dislike that we single out Friday with a fast meaning new fast because it's Friday. But let's say if the ninth of the ledger happens on a Friday. So you're fasting because it's the ninth of the ledger.

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Let's say that Ashura falls on a Saturday. So you're fasting because not because it's a Saturday, because it is Ashura likewise if you're sick of chawan or Vir go ahead and and fast them in sha Allah. But in general to answer your question, dear sister, you can choose any days from shall Well, you don't have to do the days of shall well. One after another. You can do Mondays Thursdays Mondays Thursdays and skip. So my daddy says then you follow Ramadan be sitting six days from shower, any six days from shower. So you can do that you can do Mondays Thursdays skip and back Monday's salaam aleikum wa barakato.

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Jersey. I have a question. My son is 16 years old, and he taught

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sex education in the school and the teacher explained to us covering like a condom.

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Stuff like that. I told my son, I didn't know what else to tell him. Me and my husband told him like if you pass if you have desires, but I didn't know what else to explain to him.

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You see, that's the panela. Brothers and sisters. Okay, I'll answer you the system shall

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barakato

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calling from Colorado, your sister Noah, do you have a question tonight?

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Yes, I was wondering, for example, like two people that say that they're praying. And email goes up for a four drop at does the person following him stay in that same position and wait for that? to come down?

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Well, first of all, first of all, this is your sister. Now you have to correct that. Mm. So if you're a sister, you have to clap. So hopefully he realizes that he made a mistake. And hopefully he will see you from or see the owner or the there is a brother in the Salah. He says so pan Allah Subhana Allah. And yeah, but you should do that. But if he insists, then you stay until and you're certain that this is three records. You stay until he comes back. You sit until he comes back. Yes. Does Michael O'Hara but you don't do the sleep until he does. The sleep before you.

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So you follow him?

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Yeah, when he comes back, yes. When he comes back, okay. Yes. Baraka Luffy saramonic.

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So, brothers and sisters in Islam, let me just go back to I answer sister Fatima with with her from Maryland. I think I answered sister Noel, so I have half saw, and the brother who. So what I'm trying to say is,

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you see, we can prevent all these in justices. First of all, what you said have no basis the issue of the inheritance, there are difference of opinion and Sharla I will maybe one day furnish the the views of this group and the views of this group. And why the Maliki show is say so but regarding the issue of that he's not going to be an Imam, nobody can tell him that what is what did he do wrong?

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that parents, I'm sorry that

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those who fornicated committed that sin

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why he cannot you know intergender who decides who enters the agenda, but Allah subhanho wa Taala So,

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in Gianni all these are heretical harus, his

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brother, TJ

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sister on hafsa You know, this is the issue that we have with with the public school system and the sexual education and all of that. So panela brothers and sisters in Islam, there is

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something in our religion called taharah

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you know, the fifth of taharah talking about semen and illimani and desire and you know, the lifting of the major ritual impurity and the purification the physical purification You know, when you teach your children

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how to purify themselves physically,

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you will cover

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sexual education

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when do you have to do was look at this now when do you have to do

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when do you When do you have to do that?

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And is met the many all of this but not the way they do it in public school system where you know, they they basically encourage you

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to go and and

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for negate

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and not only this they teach you abnormal

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you know,

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I hate to use the world the word abnormal

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sexual relationship you know, the

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the point here brothers and sisters in Islam, dear parents, if you're sending your children to public schools, that's what you're gonna get. And that is why we advise you to promote Islamic schools when we will teach in Islamic schools in the minhang Academy inshallah we're gonna teach them to cook the hora and gradually taharah as they grow up, then they discover yes

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There is a semen there is a discharge and what is that? And when do you have to do that also and, and what happened and all of that brothers and sisters, then you come in fit what was that marriage, marriage, the sexual relationship and garden, your chastity and all of this, which we will cover in the next lecture inshallah, but unfortunately we live at a time. It's disastrous, it's disastrous. So, that is the best that you can do I have so I asked you kindly to, to

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maybe listen to the next lecture in Sharla as we

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try to address the subject of guarding the chastity because we know that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and some of his companions never committed adultery even though they were living in a very wicked

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society. Adultery was promoted right or left, but yet he has never ever

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fornicated of madness and are the one who

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when the people came to stab and kill him,

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and

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you know, he said to the people who are about to kill him Lima Dr. Looney, why are you killing me?

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I heard the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam says that

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the blood of another Muslim is not lawful to

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kill or another Muslim is not lawful to kill, except in three situations and, and one of them is zinnen son that you commit adultery after marriage. Look at this photo, a law he marries and a to fija helia whether Islam by a law, I have never committed adultery with a during generally or after I became a Muslim. Imagine this. So how and hopefully this will address this inshallah and as we progress with our virtual learning, maybe one day we'll we'll talk about

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support taharah and hopefully this will help you parents in Sharla. But quite frankly, the Assistant on hafsa if you have a way that you can send your children to Islamic schools, this is a solution in sha Allah

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per year. Let me see here if I have any questions here.

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Hassan Ali is asking the Prophet used to fast the first Monday and to Thursdays of every lunar month. Can I combine the intention of fasting the 60? Yes, I answered this question yesterday that you may combine multiple multiple

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voluntary acts together like the six days of chawan with Mondays and Thursdays in sha Allah Hello brothers and sisters in Islam. In sha Allah tomorrow we have the higher aim.

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