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Who want to start a new one?

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When

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fusina woman Surya Marina Marina who Fela

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Fela de la,

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la La, who who luxury car wash Mohammedan Aveda who was one of

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my brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

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This is the third lecture of the series, love marriage and divorce.

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This is the name but practically we're talking about the Muslim family

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and the means to reform our Muslim families

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and to have a good start for

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establishing the Muslim home.

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last lecture we covered the subject of

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proposing

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to a woman.

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And we mentioned that there are certain women to whom you cannot propose

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a woman who is engaged

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a woman who was knowing to be engaged,

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you cannot go and propose to her.

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If you do so, you're violating the rights of your Muslim brother

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yesterday who are Raja Lu Allah, but he he cannot call enemy salvare Salah

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a Muslim should not propose to a woman who is engaged by a Muslim brother until he let go or grants your permission.

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And we mentioned also a woman who is divorced

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and she's going through her head.

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You cannot propose to her.

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If the divorce is revocable meaning talaq rajae

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first Toluca second palca the first divorce the second divorce and the woman is spending the three months in the house of her husband. It is haram for you to propose to this woman.

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It is permissible, so to hint to a woman who is divorced, and her divorce is irrevocable. Meaning that his her third divorce, and she's spending that there still are a woman whose husband passed away and she's spending the idea of a widow. You could hint you could hint but explicit proposal is haraam.

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And we detail this last lecture and we kind of

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mentioned also who you should propose to

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is Melanie and in summing up and today inshallah we promised to detail this beat Mila Heaton. But before I go there, there is a statement that the Arabs actually used to say, used to advise the children

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when they are about to see a woman for marriage. They used to tell them, let it as a word, mineral man, Nana, and

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I said

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do not seek to marry a woman who is known to be a Nana.

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And the anana is the woman who whines a lot

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for a simple reason. She overdoes it once she is sick.

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If she has headaches, then she overdo it.

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She could fake sickness. do not seek marriage from such a woman, because such one will give you a hard time.

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And this by the way applies to the men I I don't want the sister to leave with the impression we're talking about the man because the man who initiates

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Men are like this too. These days, they whine because they have headache and stuff like that. And simple things. Or sometimes they fake sickness a woman should not. So this applies by the way to the woman as well as a man and a woman who will do stuff for you. And then she will remind you of what she did.

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When there is some trouble or something, she will say I did this and this and this and this to you. Now the question is, how can you figure this out? The family, the mother, look at the family.

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See the mother, watch, observe the family, you will find normally this is the trait or the something that is passed on from parents to children.

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Number three, do not marry el Han Nana, a woman who was married before. And she always talks about her husband and her previous marriages to you. That is not something good. By the way. A woman who was married before she would remind you how beautiful her life was. With her previous husband, this is something that you don't want.

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And it had

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a terminal had a woman when she walks around, she just keeps staring at things. So she want to buy them. She just walks around. And then she looks at things around her. Basically she wants to buy these things. Regardless if this is going to affect the budget of the family or not. And she will be willing to do whatever it takes to buy this thing in spite of being maybe a decoration in the house or something and driving your budget to zero or driving you broke. As shut down. Do not marry from a shutdown aka minissha tiny the woman who speaks excessively all the time.

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All the time.

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This is going to be hated for you. I'm telling you. I'm talking about excessive speaking.

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carelessly, needlessly. She just speaks all the time.

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As shad dakka dakka al Baraka

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al Baraka is a woman who always sits in front of the mirror, half of the day, making sure that her face her body, her figure, she's just so concerned about this all the time. I'm talking about excessive now I'm not talking about women should be negligent of their the way that they look but overdoing it some women are like this. She would spend all her day in Kmart or

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these tools where she buys these

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makeup things just to make sure that she is beautiful. And the last one do not marry a woman who is like EMA. Well Lumia FYI Annie being ungrateful,

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ungrateful. This is a big issue. And I want to remind you that Nebula Ibrahim alayhis salam commanded his son Ismail actually to divorce his wife because of this hadith of Noah bass fish a moment to hurry. When Nebula Ibrahim Ali Salam went to visit his son Ismail in Mecca, and he found him out hunting. His wife did not recognize him. He did not recognize that this is the father of his nine Nebula Ibrahim Salim Ali. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah. He said Salam aleikum to her. She said Roku Salam and then Brahim asked will about a smile. What is this Mary? She said he went out to seek revision for our sadness man used to be a hunter. He used to go in the desert for weeks and months

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sometimes to hunt and he would bring back what he hunted to feed the family for the wife said the corridor catallena he went out to get us provision. The Nebula Ibrahim Ali Salam asked the wife K phi sukumar How is your livelihood? how things going? Look bishal awful, terrible, miserable.

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Women like this will bring disaster cure homes.

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Right away and have you live with him said to her when your husband returns stills tell him that

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An old man sets alarm to you, and he's telling you to change your doorstep or you are Tabitha Derek.

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Once a nice smile Ali Salam returned. He asked who was here?

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When say this man returned, he asked who was here? She described him to Him. And He said to her, this is my father. And he's telling me to divorce you for how having a woman was not grateful. Well, the cuckoo may remind you also that Hadith ignore this is Al Bukhari as well. When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on the day of aid went and delivered actually a sermon a football to the women. What did he say to them?

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A woman does or does not give a lot of sada for in Neeraj, a token x.

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I have seen you the majority of the winners of the Hellfire, and he said

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one of the women she ran after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam In fact, and she asked him why almost a year of Allah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said well, that foreign Elashi

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what a cardinal so

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you are ungrateful to your husband's local accent. He couldn't run Hulu or akula tomorrow, I mean, who shy and the Khurana lacuna ma aina min can run.

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The code de toda

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la gente

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de mer is going by the book.

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The first bad thing that you see from him. He will say what I haven't seen a good day at all with you at all with you.

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And it already

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halifa McBurney

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is one of the leaders of very large bets and

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he married the prestigious women from a hi

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hi fi family.

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And he soon so she was she was she was walking on on the road and she saw the farmers you know stepping on the mud.

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They are going on the mud with the feet. Sometimes farmers do this to make the land the earth soft for the seat that she liked that she she wished she can do this. For she went back home and she said to her husband Lenny.

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And I saw these people going with their feet in in the mud and I really want to do this.

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The wife of every morning go out there goes out there in the crowd and does this. He said don't worry about it. He collected for her slow and some mud. And he actually mixed it with musk shoe he made for her some sort of a farm at home small farmer tomia

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so she doesn't go outside and she exposes her feet and so forth. So she went in, she enjoyed herself

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with the stepping on the mountain.

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And

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later on he upset at her

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face she said to him I have not even seen one good day with you.

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assalamo Suleiman while you clean

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not even the muddy day What happened to the muddy day you don't even remember you remember the mud and the mosque? How can

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having a woman who was not grateful is a disaster because she will never be happy with what you provide. These are just some of the characteristics without delay inshallah, let's go into who should you seek for wives. Who should you propose to? The first and foremost the echo? At the the religion? Yeah, honey, no Seuss katella

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Tonka Hola, Julie Alba. This is one a woman is asked in marriage because of four things.

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Her physical beauty.

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Her money. She has a good paying job. Her lineage

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And in America, we could say with her lineage, her green card.

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Because she's American, she's going to give you a green card.

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Right?

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And her religion

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for

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fall for be that Dini. 30. But

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when

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not say marry,

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he said what when? When, as if you have to fight for this one,

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you're not gonna find them just out there in the walks you have to look for them.

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Righteous women are not everywhere.

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Righteous women are hidden.

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You have to find them. Father Furby. Daddy, Dini Teddy Bhatia, you better go with the one for the one with the religion, otherwise you're gonna be in trouble. Well, how do you feel after the second howdy? Howdy sub live number of the last of the Allahumma Well howdy, Muslim Kala sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says at dunya Mata.

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This world is a temporary enjoyment

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and the best of its enjoyment alnor azada. Righteous wife. Why are rasulillah Wyomissing eufaula worlding felina Vanessa

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la So what?

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If you look at her she will please you.

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I want to stress here that it's just not meant the physical beauty here.

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I stress in Hulu

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is not a woman with good good character.

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Sometimes you see a Barbie

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so beautiful, physical wise, but her manners turns you off her character

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Jani imagine a beautiful woman and she uses profanity for example. Man, what is that?

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s that s word. Sh

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stuff like that.

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That turns you off? Even through what?

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When you look at her, you don't really have to understand this. Yeah, physical is what is there it can be Salalah Santa Monica de

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Vaca.

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The application what is the application which

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you should say when you look at the mirror? What?

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Allah who McKenna senthil P.

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Hulu

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hacker can frnd solo Alison Ola. So when you look at the mirror and you admire yourself, you admire your face say Oh Allah, like you have made my face beautiful and handsome, attractive, make my manners also handsome and attractive, because this is what will make people like you.

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I want to stress what is meant here, if you look at her, she will please you. It does not just mean the physical beauty. It means actually the good character, either.

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We're either

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half your vodka fee, naziha Malik. And when you leave her at home by herself, you're sure that she's gonna guard herself her chastity, she's not gonna allow somebody in your absence into your house. She's not gonna go around men, you will never even have that thought about her.

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And is a big problem. If you develop doubt about your wife and your her behavior in your absence. shaitan is going to play games football and soccer and basketball and baseball with you.

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If you actually develop that tote, that's actually a key that when you leave the house, you know your wife is

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chaste.

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She's not going to have a relationship

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in the side.

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And when you command her, she will obey you. Or when you take an oath on her. She will not basically cause you to commit will Hannah that you have to be fast for breaking that oath.

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Before I carry on talking about this, I want the sisters because I know sisters will be listening to this watching this or maybe they are here tonight with us. I really do want to say that the issue here is not just being slaves to the husbands

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No, actually the sisters can do this out of selfishness and listen to the study, and I will make you I'll help you understand what I'm trying to say here. How do you feel bad?

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And with the Lima Mathematica brahmanic Now, look at the select to Hamza.

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If the woman graze her five daily prayers

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was sama Chara, and she fast the month of Ramadan. Were happy about Farrugia and she kept herself chaste

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and she obeyed her husband. Three letter hi oh malkia oh the holy Min genetti AMRC Yeah.

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It will be set to her in the day for selection. There are eight gates from Jana choose one of them.

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Oh, so I want to say to the sisters if your agenda is that you're after your husband can be the way

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Jani we know the only man in this oma so far, who will get to choose which gate of the agenda will he enter from his room? Abu Bakr so these are the 11 every single Muslim women have she fulfills these requirements in the day for selection also she will choose which gate of Jannah she would like to enter from we know Jenna had eight gates, right? Yeah, the Salah sada

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the woman will choose because of this.

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Yani we're talking about the women obeying their husbands and so forth. We're not trying to enslave the woman here, okay, we're talking about the hereafter. And we're talking about sisters who would like to go to guru Jin sisters who want to get to Jenna, I want to tell you my sisters in Islam your husbands is the way to go. But again I want to stress apply here the obedience here does not mean that you command her more than what she can be.

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You have to obey me and then you you commander to jump to the moon.

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Tata

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Tata, if you want to be obeyed, then command the person whom you're you're wanting him to do. What he they can do what they can be, but don't command them to do weird stuff. haram stuff also law limit, floofy, Masha, Allah, if the husband commands the sisters, the wives to do something that is haram, the sister does not have to obey Him for example, and the

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Hadith.

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He didn't. Well howdy Fisher, Lehman. Howdy

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idioma una, Albania, viola Juan and Nevis Allah wa sallam one day he said to me,

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Jamar Boone Shakira, a grateful heart while he said on deck He attended remembers Allah all the time. In the morning, you wake up Alhamdulillah the piano, you go to the bathroom.

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Before you may go to Bismillah after him a coup a shadow Allah.

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Abu Dhabi No,

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you do before you get off the house Bismillah Khan Allah Allah Allah Allah, Allah Subhana Allah is Allah Elisa chakra deck it all was all attended remembers Allah all the time. Here it is one Ratan sada

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Masada and the righteous women to Okada, Emily dounia Cava Dini, who will help you with your dunya matters with your dunya business and your deen you religion. When you slack in the morning you do wake up for failure wake up for failure, she will wake you up. When you don't pray on time. Why don't you pray? She will remind you of your the acts of worship which you have to pray you have to observe how you McKenna's and natural minute dunia is the best thing that a person can get from the dunya

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these are also the most ethical hacking Hadith sounded natgeo cos are the Allah one. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says Salah satin Masada three things are marks or signs of happiness. Three things which can indicate that you're happy, Alma Tara to evoke

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Wife you look at you like to look at her

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What did he want half

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island?

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And when you leave the house, you trust her regarding herself and your wealth. What dad

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and having a good car

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with animal Yeah.

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They're cool.

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Yeah, nice.

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Yeah, when you have a car that breaks all the time, that's not a sign of happiness.

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You have to take it to the mechanic all the time is not a sign of happiness. What the USA and you get you have a house that has bathrooms as a place where you can sit has a place where you can pray. And it doesn't have to be any huge, but the house has worked.

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Good facilities. Yeah, not good.

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Just to let you know

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ultrasonographer and you probably heard it so many times, but we remind you

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when he used to be me, I mean, one day, he had

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one he used to say if an animal if a cow. An era does not have a route to walk on. Omar will be asked about this cow in the day for selection for he used to spend his night going around the streets making sure that the people are fed making sure that everybody is okay. So he got tired. So he sat next to all

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in the morning. And he heard that conversation between a mother and her daughter.

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The mother is telling her daughter

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maybe mix the milk would

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you know when you sell milk

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and you add water to it. You're gonna end up with more milk. Father daughter tells her mother Yeah, Mama mother me Amina and Eric.

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The Commander of the Faithful banned us from doing this. Oh,

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look what the mother tells her daughter.

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But I mean we need is not with us. He's not here now say normal is listening. She doesn't know that. ameerul momineen doesn't hear us.

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Look what the doctor said. But the Lord of annual momineen is with us.

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Well, I can

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imagine

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Remember, a woman is asked in marriage because of four things.

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First,

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when the one with the religion runs Oh, ran home. wakes up his three children. I'd love the rough man Ross.

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One of you has to marry this woman otherwise and marrying her.

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Schaffer he did not give it Did you see her? Did you see her face? He did not?

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He did not.

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But what he worried about she has the consciousness of Allah the law the former

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will see us when we mix the milk would would

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say Edna Ahmadi what he used to say this. He's looking at the offspring here. He is to say Allahu Allah, I force myself to have intercourse with my spouse, with my wife, in order to have children who say lay the law.

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How many of us when we go and have that relationship, we want to have those children who come out and see La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah, we don't even think about that. Oh,

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Allah. He wants offspring from this door from this woman from this little girl or the girl who, Jani. He heard her speaking with her mother. Awesome.

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His son said and as

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he said, I will marry her Commander of the Faithful. So awesome. married her. Look at this now. She had a daughter, whose name is Laila. Laila is the grandmother of who? Oh

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yeah, and a lot of

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scholars consider him a fifth likely guided and you remind me

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enough that he compiled the tsunami of novel Aziz. He was very easy. Now the Arab the Shabbat zorich Allah ignatian collect combined the soon enough fisherman he landed in touch Why? Because of our

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righteous mother like this pipe. We're talking about the man here. What about the women?

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The same exact thing. Rather, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on

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hora de la Juan Carlos Allah wa sallam addressing the guardians,

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either Jackman carbona Deena, hula, hula aka faza. We do a lot of fitna to fill out all the warfare said

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if someone comes to you,

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you're pleased with what two things. So, you have to check what two things what Dean and man's character it tells you also that whether there is a relationship between the two,

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the law there is a relationship between the religion and the matter.

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It like

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sometimes you you find a brother who 24 seven, and then as best Celia Torah.

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He does not even think before backbiting gossiping or being mean Oh, hello, blacks, the contrary to this, if you have religion, that religion should produce a good character out of you, what is our righteous predecessors they used to say this menza the ankle hula foccacia danka Dean,

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if you want to compare the quality of the religion of someone with the with the quality of your religion, if he is better than you character wise, then rest assured that Who are they in? He has he is more religious than you he has more consciousness of Allah than you. So the issue is manner here the issue is manner. So you have to check the manner of this person, and you have to check his religion as well. And why the question here? Why did the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam address the guardians?

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Why? in Marbella,

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a woman you see once it comes to the sisters getting married, it's a mutual decision between the father and the girl or the woman.

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A woman cannot give herself in marriage without the agreement without the permission of her father. Period. We'll have this water, Hadith Rama, Buddha Buddha tirmidhi Listen to this. I knew mamora NACA nafsa min de Nueva de Seneca

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Federica

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fennica.

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Any woman who gives himself in marriage, and I say this to the brothers who who find the sister let's go to the man and the man doesn't know the Sharia, marry, marry, marry without the father even knowing without the father even knowing. Yanni, sometimes brothers, they come to me like this. And the Father, for example is overseas. And then I tell him listen, I have to talk to this father.

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If you want to get married today, I have to talk to him. He gets upset. I tell him Yes. How would you like your daughter to get married without her fathers? No and annoying. If you have a daughter, how would you feel about your daughter getting married behind your back to

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your daughter comes to you tells your father I got married? Yes, Ella got married?

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Hmm. How do you feel about this, that a woman cannot give herself in marriage. I tell the brothers one of the conditions for the marriage contract to be valid in LA in LA and the permission of the Guardian will only hold up they will have the lamb the father if the father is dead, or he left Islam, they will have the brother the elder brother first, then the lamb then the uncle then any of her Muharram but now the decision also. This does not mean that in Islam, the father dictates who the girl should get married. Let let us think your whole aim had to step out to start more

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women who's a widow or been married before she does not get married until she says yes, I would like to get married to this person for you. Well, I

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had to step then. And the virgin cannot get married without her permission.

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harbor mission as a hobby.

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as a hobby aka the companion said to the Prophet sallallahu alliums

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lm jasola a virgin girl a girl who's never been married before normally if you go to her as a father would you like to marry this person he shy she shies away

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she's shy Jani

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she shot his new hair suku to have

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the will of a super talented a rainbow color

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silence is a sign of acceptance. I'm not trying to say that the Father is going to dictate who the girl should get married to because we have an issue to that fathers now are parents now when somebody righteous somebody comes with a Masha Allah and Allah is soon now there was

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a there was

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this tourists coming to marry my daughter

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in the southern hemisphere fruit Nadella badass why

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this is not wealthy, he's he's not he has the religion but he's not wealthy.

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It's a mutual decision once it comes to the sisters. And by the way the marriage contract I wouldn't stress the marriage contract is invalid if the father forces the daughter to get married to somebody.

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Without her will without hear acceptance, the daughter must agree. And this is the responsibility of those who get these girls get to get the woman married. As as any man as soon as rajul as a person of Sharia. You must ask her.

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Before I get anybody married. I asked that the women Okay, this is usually he's usually right. He's gonna speak on your behalf, right? He's gonna say yes to the husband. You're okay with that. If she tells me No, I'm not gonna get her mad it period because it's invalid

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led to stank a whole a

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whole big step then, and the virgin cannot be basically given in marriage until she gives a permission by the shed is a resource allowance and in this study, address the Guardian because he is the one at the end of the day, who has to basically seek that husband

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or accept this husband. One as soon as

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we finish waxiness sakata vajilla sala de madeon. When he went to la sala he went to moussaka in new Reed, one key Hakka Yani, I just want to let you know that how important it is that you choose a righteous husband, for your daughters, to the extent that you come up with something that is not normal, and allegedly adorable after that you go to another man and you tell him would you like to marry my daughter?

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To achieve this? This is not normal. This is not something normal linearly.

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When you offer your daughter to people, people may especially if you're offering it to somebody who's a fee,

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to the barrier Jani, his daughter is not any good do something there's something wrong with her. But I want to tell you that if you find a man who's righteous and pious out,

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this righteous man said to musala you set up a new redo an own key haka cabinet, a tiny Atlanta Juanita Manya

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Subhana Allah

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syedna Omar Omar, La La Motta Yama Casa Min honasan Nevada semi well hallettsville Bukhari muhaddith Norma Sedna Omar when to have mad if not fan of man would you like to marry hafsa

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and then later on of man setelah Hi jelly. Then he said to Abu Bakr Saudi Arabia, Oman, would you like to marry hafsa say Nova did not answer him. Say now Omar got a little bit upset. But at the end say now we're back robiola explained to him that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned have saw in front of him

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that

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he showed some interest in front of Abu Bakr so deep that he would like to marry hafsa first I did not want to reveal the secret of the profits are low sell them and at the same time did not want to tell Omar no at the end the Rasul sallallahu alayhi wa sallam zawada

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Why network? diva young lady Daddy, Daddy just to let you know that whenever a sister goes for a righteous man, she is always a winner.

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July be Janya Sahabi a companion

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who did not have that physical attraction.

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He was not attracted physically, he was not handsome then

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notice that he hangs around him

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and he was around the profit or loss element. So sort of notice that he's looking at you and he would look at the woman is Iron Man. And then he said to me, he likes to get married.

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Would you like me? I mean, I can tell that you're interested in women. Would you like to get married? He said, sure. But who are you know who's gonna give me his daughter who's gonna marry me? He understands that is not attractive. He's not only handsome, he's not good looking.

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feminized.

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The customer of Lancer, when someone has a daughter for marriage, the father would come to the prophets Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah or messenger of Allah. I have a daughter for marriage. If you have a husband, I would

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like to you to find the husband for her.

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SubhanAllah a wonderful answer came to the Prophet sallallahu taala I have a husband for your daughter.

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Immediately the father gets so excited because he thought that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam would marry her

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sockeye salmon. He said he's not no it's not me parliament.

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Real ID he actually did like this.

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July he

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The man was really smart. He said let me talk with his with her mother.

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And I have to consult with her mother

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says she went he went to the doctor was standing behind a curtain and listening to the conversation between the father and the mother.

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The father is telling the mother that Rasul Allah wa sallam has a husband for our daughter.

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She said

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what a good thing Rasul Salah chose this

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correct man.

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She said who call the lady call it Whoa, whoa.

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No way.

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Impossible.

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Impossible. So panel I look and I'm addressing the systems. I'm talking to the systems. The girl came from behind the curtain. Call it will law man do manual tava Julio Rasulullah

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I will marry to a deep by Allah I will not reject the one whom the Prophet sallallahu wasallam chose for me.

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Is it nomadic or

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should

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she get married to him?

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maybe a week later time to go out for Jihad

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Subhana Allah at the end of the battle

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the companions are looking for the decision of the Muslims everywhere

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and then also Salim is asking the companions Did you find every Muslim who's being killed in this battle? They said yes or messenger of Allah. Allah Allah Allah kidney, if they do Jul Viva. But I do not see a beep

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he went and he found him. Killed next to seven disbelievers

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Carla patella Hamza makalu.

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He killed them then they killed him. He raised him in his hand like this all along.

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And he buried him with his hand. And he said that Schedule A b this is July be who I mean no one I mean, who am in new and I mean, who I mean no one I mean, he's from me and I'm from him.

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And he may draw from and he buried him.

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Sofia de nada. This woman this girl. Yes, ganas and as waves by a law. The rich the wealthiest of Medina were standing in line trying to get married to her after she's been dead. Why? Because she knew they knew that she obeyed the Messenger of Allah.

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Allah

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she

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Looking for a husband just a husband. Now the wealthiest of the people in Medina are standing in line,

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waiting to marry her when she is a widow nockberge. Why? Because of the obedience to her, to her obedience to Allah and His messenger. She went for what Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam choosing for her.

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Danny an alum, I know that

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pantalon

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ally something breaks the hearts a law he breaks the heart

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in a Tesla, that you hear a Muslim women,

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Muslim women marrying a non Muslim.

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Of course it's not called marriage.

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The contract is not a marriage contract. This is called adultery.

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This is called adultery.

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By the way, mussalam was giving lots of gentlemen

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Yanni what a theory tennis when they say ns fee Muslim Sunni, say Sunil Cobra was I had done Rasul salatu salam says the hulten agenda. First Samia to Harsha Fulton, Heather sakala, whom I saw been to mill Han.

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I entered Jana and I heard some noise. And I said who this they said our room I saw in Tamil Han Leon,

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Mussolini, Nigeria.

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She is the mother of nomadic lavonne she became a Muslim. When Moses came to Medina and started talking to the people in Medina about Islam.

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Her husband Malik did not like this.

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So he became upset and he left town that she became a Muslim and she would talk to analysts about Islam. She would actually when she began breastfeeding anastasiya Annecy La ilaha illAllah anus as if she's breathing anus. Yeah, and he followed the mission for Ross banner heard her saying this lower Malik the father of ns and she said to her, you're spoiling my son for me. And he went away so Panama he got killed Metallica

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for she became a she's over do

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the best. the wealthiest of people in Medina came to her. His name is Abu tell Helen sorry, who was not a Muslim yet? asking her in marriage.

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Listen what she said. What law he by Allah. Yeah.

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By Allah. Yeah. And this goes to the women to the Muslim women who gave up their Deen because she falls in love with a non Muslim or because the non Muslim is wealthy is gonna give her the dunya or is gonna give her a green card to wherever it is. We find Muslim women now many non Muslims are Muslim right here a role model for the Muslim women until the day for the reaction while La Jolla by Allah Baba Misook la hora Somali like you know women who is saying we'll say no to him when I can Nicaraguan careful

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but you are a disbeliever we're an American Muslim. I

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am a Muslim woman. Wallah Hello Lee and as our jamming and it is not helpful for me to marry from you say NACA into slim if you become a Muslim.

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Further kamari this is Midori

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Luca Yura

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I will not ask you anything else. You become a Muslim I marry you.

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He came a couple of times he bought one of the wording you bought gold and silver in front of her the same thing.

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Someone like you no way that a woman can say no to a knockout Rajan careful. You're a disbeliever and I'm a Muslim.

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And I'm not to marry or Rodriquez as slim become a Muslim This is my diary, saying

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sorry about the law one accepted Islam pilot Yes, confessor will be

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a little when he said a shadow Allah Hello

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La

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Jolla she said you're gonna stand up and give me an marriage to a bottle. And in some of the people may say she was the reason she was the reason for that marriage. Yes, but

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just to show you that Subhanallah Sometimes a person would become a Muslim because of this. But his his Islam becomes a quality Islam

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becomes a quality Islam

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when this verse was revealed, and surah Allah Amman Lenten Allah will

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matter metal a boon you know the Hadith, you will never attain gender until you spend from that which you love most.

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Well, the Novotel has a Yara Salalah overseer of Allah in

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de la de oro by Johan.

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The most beloved of my wealth is the will of biohack your Rasul Allah, I want to give it for Allah.

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He came out of his wealth, just to show you that his Islam, yes was triggered by this righteous woman. But yet he ended up with equality, Islam.

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We I want to conclude by saying, we as guardians, we as men, we must seek righteousness in our spouses we must otherwise like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says for me that he Dini 30 But yeah, that inshallah we stopped here, maybe like Allah tonight, we continue next week inshallah with the rest of the attributes, which which you should seek in a husband, as a guardian of a woman, or you should seek in a woman if you are a male who seek in marriage, and after that inshallah we go into the conditions for the marriage contract, and how the marriage contract should be brought together. subhanak Allahumma handig A Chateau La La Land estafa Luca, today was Salam alaykum

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warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.