Pardoning One Another

Kamal El-Mekki

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brothers and sisters in Islam today we're going to speak about an APU which is pardoning one another. And we're going to look at how that is a basic and or essential part of dealing with one another, and the effects of forgiving one another in this dunya on our era in the next life.

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But we want to begin by mentioning that this is one of the attributes of Allah azza wa jal that He is Allah Fuu He is the one who pardons and the difference between an apple and a mug for pardoning and forgiving is that an awful lot

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gloveman in Baku, Sara Abu pardoning is greater than just forgiving, and it means linguistically jawas which means to overlook or to look past something. So when Allah subhanaw taala forgive someone in Madeira the sin might be forgiven, but it still might be in the record that so and so committed this sin and Allah forgive him for it. It's still in their record, but Allahu the sin, its traces and its record, the record of it all gone. And that's why I showed the Allaha on her. When she asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam if it's later to cuddle, what should I say? And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam tells her say Allahumma inaka alpha 12510 Allah, you are the one who

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is our fool, who always pardons and you love to pardon, so Pardon me. So you see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam gave it Chateau de la to the instructions to ask for the higher level, not just mcguffie era, but after which is even greater. And so then the sin, its traces record of it will all be gone. And essentially, the person would come with a clean slate on the Day of Judgment.

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We wanted to begin with mentioning that Allah subhanaw taala is awful. Because this is a quality that we're supposed to try to emulate as well. And we're supposed to try our best to pardon one another.

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And incidentally, tirmidhi, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, min unless you harlowton us, the believer who mingles with people interacts with people will spur on other home, and he's patient upon their harm

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of a john middle movement, la de la hollowness what is

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the believer who interacts with people and is patient of one their harm is greater in reward than the one who does not interact with people and is not patient upon their heart. So the first thing is, why is it assumed that there will be other there will be harm? If you interact with people in the community? Why is it assumed they will be harmed? There has to be it's inevitable, because people they miss communicate, they misunderstand each other. So these things will happen. So there will be harm happening amongst brothers and sisters in the community.

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So the problem then said to be patient with that, and someone might argue, but this hadith doesn't mention a foo or mother of two sama, pardoning or forgiving. It doesn't mention that it mentions being patient with that, well, how else would you be patient? Meaning if I don't forgive, and I don't pardon my brother, does that qualify as me being patient with them. But being patient means pardoning, forgiving, overlooking and advising one another. That's all part of being patient. So the secret to dealing with people is pardoning and forgiving, no matter what they do to you, that's the secret to dealing with people will book curricula on who he used to give money to one of his

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relatives by the name of Mr.

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And Miss came emigrated from Medina and he was poor and related to boubakeur. So I will book rich to give him a huge continuous stipend who would give him continuous money. And then this man who's his relative, that Obama is doing good to him, he speaks against Russia, and he accuses her explicitly of committing a major sin. So then, when the verses came down and sort of the North showing the innocence of Arusha, Abu Bakar then said, well, law he I will never give any money after this. And he, I'm his relative, and I've been giving him money since we moved, and he goes and slanders my daughter, and Allah subhanaw taala proved her innocence I will never give him any money after that,

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then I must have had to other immediately reveals when utterly old Ford Lincoln was sad. So when I tell you

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a funny story, you should those of you who have been given from the graces and the bounty of Allah should not swear yesterday to not give

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you any flamenco massage I used to own in Cordoba Misaki in one mahadji Nafisa Bella, well, yeah, who was your spouse, they should not swear to give their relatives and the poor it's all describing Mr. And those who immigrate for the sake of Allah, rather, they should Pardon? What Yes, is the side literally. So stuff is to turn it's as if you turn away from it. You forget that it ever happened. The higher level, not just party, but forget that ever happened. Many times we forgive one another. But we always remember it. You see the person and you frown in their face or your smile disappears, because you're not forgetting. But the higher level is to forgive and forget. So

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Allah Subhana Allah says

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Well Yahoo will Yahoo Allah buena yup Pharaoh Allahu Allahu Allah who are for Rahim, do you not love that allowed forgive you and Allah is the most forgiving and the Most Merciful. And when this verse was revealed because it asked that question, so abubaker responded to it out loud, he said, Well, Ah, yes, I would love that allowed Forgive me, and he continued giving my spy and in the narration by Toby Ronnie, he doubled the amount that he used to give Mr. rhodiola Han, this is pardoning and another story of pardoning one of the O'Meara, one of the leaders from the last of the bunny, from bunny omiya. His name is Ibrahim Suleiman, Abdel Malik, Abdul Malik Marwan the famous halifa. This

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is his grandson, so about him, so they might have not been married. And this was right when the ambassador overthrew the roommates. And they would look for anyone from domains any male and they would execute them out of fear that they might rally people and troops and then revolt against herbicides again. So this man, Abraham understood a man if not then Malik, he was in a, he had a hot house that was far in the desert. But one day he was out on the roof of the house and he saw the army of the ambassadors and needs to have blood standards. So when he saw that they thought they were coming for him, so he feared and he ran to escape to a Kufa and he doesn't know anyone in Kufa.

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And he says, I was so afraid, I was disguised and so afraid, I saw this big gate to this big house. So I walked in, the owner of the home was extremely generous, he immediately took me in, and he stayed with him for six months. He says, I just told him that I'm afraid that I need protection. So he gave me protection. And he told the servants to take good care of me. So I was always eating, I was wearing good clothing. And he said, for six months, the man never once asked me, who are you? What's your name? None of the nodes in us that the Arabs have today. So so then

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he stayed there for for six months. He said, I would notice that the man would leave early in the morning with his servants and his horses, and he would come back or after the horse. And every day he would do this for six months. So I asked him, he says, I see that you always leave and you stay for a long part of the day on your horse. What are you doing? He says I am looking for a man by the name of Ibrahim Abu Sulayman. McNabb did Malik. He says, which is him? He says, Why are you looking for that man? Because he killed my father unjustly. So I go out every morning looking for him so that I can take revenge and kill him. So at this point, the man said, I just gave up on on running

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away, give up on life. I said, Just let me tell him who I am. So he can kill me. Because everyone's trying to kill me. And even now the place I took refuge, the guy is the one looking for me. So it says I told him I'm about to have nabbed in money. If

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he told him, it seems that you're just sick and tired of life, and you're just making up this slide because you want me to kill you. He says no. And he gave him the details of when he killed his father, the date, the time, the reason everything. So the man became convinced. So he tells him

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as for my father, he will take his right from you on the Day of Judgment. But as for me, I can't keep as a host keep you in my home and then kill you. This is not honorable from the side of the host. So I'm going to pardon you. And he says he gave me 500 Gold dinners and told me that you're going to need this on your trip. So take it and leave. But don't stay here because I don't know if I have the patience to keep seeing you every day on I might be tempted to kill you and he pardoned him. This is the essence of the relationship between individuals pardoning each other because we will always earn against one another. In a narration as an Hadith in incident Buddhahood A man came

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to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and he said, Come now, and you heard him Jani. how much or how often should I pardon the servant at home when he makes a mistake? For some for some individuals? He didn't answer him he remained quiet. Tomorrow daddy Hill column for summit he repeated the question and remain quiet. So then for them mechanically thoroughly thought when he asked him the third time. The problem said or an O v Coolio min Sabina marva pardon him 70 times every single day. In another generation, a man come the man came to the problem and said, I have a servant who always insults and always harms how many times you like pardon him and the person who tells him pardon him 70 times a

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day. And as Connor said, Danny, this is hyperbole. This is an exaggeration. Because what kind of servant or anybody who will offend you and make a mistake.

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70 times a day. But even if he were to pardon him that many times, this is the essence of the relationship between individuals parting and forgiving one another. A note the scholars say it is, the more painful the offense, the more reward you get for pardoning and the you do it now rather than later. Yeah. And if someone insults you, and you don't see him again for two years, when you see him after two years of a colossal pardon, no, you've forgotten it at this point. But the more instant it is, the closer it is to the incident, the more reward you get, like so then what does this have? And how is what is the effect of pardoning one another in this world, on the day of

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judgment, and a sort of a long line who says we were sitting with the profits of the law, they said them, and he laughed until we saw his molars, so under the law and who says what makes you laugh? You're the sort of law man my father and mother be sacrificed for you. So then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam tells them of an event that will take place on the Day of Judgment between two people that a man will say to Allah, yo, Rob hood, Lima llama t manaphy. O Allah, take my rights from this brother, Yanni. This man has harmed me or done me some injustice. So take my rights from him. So Allah subhanaw taala then tells the other man of the Mahabharata, so give your brother, any

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gift, repay him for whatever you offended him and so forth, which means you give him from your good deeds. So that man said, yo, let me come in as an attache. Oh Allah, I don't have any good deeds left. I don't have anything to give them. So then the other man who wants his rights, he says Yo, Foley, Amina folia, Amina Honeyman, oh, sorry. Oh Allah, they let him take some of my sins. He doesn't have good deeds to give me your Allah let him take some of my sins, and then the processor lump. He remained quiet, and his eyes started to overflow with tears. And then he cried Salalah Hardison, yeah. And he began the Hadith laughing, and then the lamb cried. And he said, That day is

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great when people need someone to take away their sins. So then Allah subhanaw taala says to the one making the demands of funds or energy none, he says, lift up your head, raise your head, and look at these gardens look at paradise. So the man raises his head and he sees how palaces of silver palaces of pure gold, adorned with pearls. So he says, to which prophet do these, these gardens belong? He assumed, it's got to be a prophet who gets something this beautiful, or then he says, to which sudip or to which martyr? Who gets something so great. So then allows me to tell him that Lehman pania Thurman, this is for whoever gives me the price. So he said, Yeah, Rob fermium liquid Alec, oh,

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Allah, then who? Who has that? And who has this price of something so magnificent. So Allah subhanaw taala tells him and

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Antietam liko you have that price, you have the price.

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He tells him be mother European. How do I have this price? He says behalf we can speak by pardoning your brother. If you pardon your brother, you've got the price to get these, this paradise. So then the man says, could afford to Unruh I've forgiven him, I've pardoned him. And Allah subhanaw taala. And it's so beautiful, allows audiences who will be at The Hague, for agenda. Take your brother by the hand, and both of you intelligently and it's so beautiful that Allah subhanaw taala told him to hold hands and walk together into a journal. This is the effect of pardoning people on the Day of Judgment. This is now what's the effect of when I pardoned someone today what happens on the Day of

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Judgment, as we saw in the verse that was in sort of the North for Abu Bakr radiallahu anhu.

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Allah azza wa jal said Allah to

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Allah Allah. So you pardon, don't you would Don't you love that Allah with pardon you. So then the equation is, if you pardon people, Allah pardons you, brothers and sisters in Islam, every single one of us, we are going to on the Day of Judgment stand in front of Allah subhanaw taala. And Allah azzawajal is going to go through our records and ask us about every detail of our life. Who in this room is looking forward to Allah subhanaw taala going through your sins one by one and asking you about them. We would be embarrassed just in front of the Imam or for the community to see these sins. Allah subhanaw taala is going to ask you the problem said les Sabina, who have been a Hutu

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man, with no translator between you and Allah. And your feet will not move until Allah asks you these questions. So the secret to forgiving people in this dunya is to remember that moment and to forgive people the same way you would love a lot

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forgive you. You want Allah azzawajal when you stand in front of him to say there's nothing to discuss, goes straight to Jenna. So forgive everybody in the exact same way. Some people would come and say, I've forgiven everyone in this earth, except so and so I will never forgive them. And I ask Allah to unite us in front of him and to judge between us, Hey, would you rather that are being generous eating grapes? Which one would you rather be doing? So what is then just like you say, I'll forgive everybody except it's one person. What if you stand in front of Allah azzawajal. Allah subhanaw taala tells you I forgiven everything you've done, you start to walk away, except for one

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thing, let's discuss it, who wants to come back and talk about one thing. So the same way you would love Allah subhanaw taala to tell you go, I forgiven everything, forgive, and pardon everyone.

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But what happens after you say this, people will come to you and say, I was abused, or I was molested? Or our someone did something, you know, atrocious to me, as a child, and so on and so forth. Should I even forgive such an evil person? And the answer is, yes. You don't forgive them for them. You don't forgive them, because what they did is okay, but you forgive them for you, as any psychologist and they tell you so you can move forward, you need to forgive people who have harmed you, in the past, your heart is about the size of your fist. So this is a very small area. And this is very valuable real estate. And you have to fill it with important things. You have to fill it

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with love of Allah azza wa jal of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam of the prophets, of the companions of the Quran of your loved ones. But then you're going to save some space in your heart this valuable real estate, just for hating so and so it is absolutely not worth it. And one of the ways to move forward is to forgive and to pardon. The last thing remains when what is the guideline? When do I forgive someone? versus when do I ask for any recompense or retaliation, whatever it is, and the scholars say, if someone made a mistake, or harmed you, and it was accidental, or they forgot, or they don't commonly do this, here, it's encouraged to forgive him. But if someone is always doing

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it, it's encouraged to not forgive him. So the example, let's say, a young man, a teenager, he stole this was the first time he ever stoled he was pressured into it, whatever it is, the first time he ever did it, here, forgive him, and forgiving him would be better than getting him punished. versus someone who is a seasoned veteran, a known thief who was always robbing people. If he robs you, and you forgive him. There's no benefit here for him, nor for society, this type of person, you don't forgive.

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But the scholars do say that those who harm you are not all on the same level. akula cola was stopped for a la la de Mola menjamin festival fair fosun Mr. Varian, ask Allah Subhana Allah for his forgiveness, indeed those who ask for his forgiveness you'll prosper

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from the law horrible alameen wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. Meanwhile, he was a big mind about

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so we want to discuss the difference between this higher level of forgiveness that we sometimes hear or read about in the biographies of the righteous Imam Ahmed Rahim, Allah was jailed for many years, and he was beaten and whipped. And then after he was released, people would come and visit him in his home. And they would tell him,

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at least make the up against those who punished you and did all this injustice to you. And he would tell them, laser besonderen Mandara was the one who makes the against 100 is not patient. But so so we don't misunderstand this. He's talking about a higher level here. So he has chosen this high level and you want it to forgive this immense injustice that was done to him. But the scholars mentioned that you do have the right to not pardon someone if you don't want to. And they mentioned that even in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala made it optional, made it optional. So from an AFA was law or the law, it wasn't a command. So whoever pardons and rectifies then his reward is with Allah

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it was made as an option. Even the verse uncertain nor for Abercrombie alone, I know that we saw same thing was given an option What do you got for what they should Pardon? They should forgive and forget, but it was not made as a command. So the scholars say if someone doesn't want to forgive and they want to take their rights on the Day of Judgment, they absolutely have the right to do that. But the prophet Lem does mention what the higher level is and in one Howdy, and we saw Selim said Mazda de la abdon bf when Illa Allah subhanaw taala does not increase any servant who pardoned someone else except in dignity and in honor

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and we see this from the example of the righteous use of alayhi salam. When his brothers did everything that they did to him. Not only did they take him away from his father, but the scholar said they took them away from his father who is a prophet. Yeah, and he could have learned from a prophet one on one, but untold into slavery and all imprisoned, thrown into prison. But he tells his brothers latter three ballet pumilio pardons them immediately, or any sort of law system after conquering Mecca, he tells them is horrible for Antonio Toluca, he sets them all three examples of righteous people and profits pardoning. So it is the higher level to pardon, but it's completely

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within your right if you do not want to pardon someone for something they have done to you.

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A Haleakala moon, he used to be known for pardoning a lot. He's the partner and so much that he used to say a hafele. And now you see Bonilla hora de the

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min muhabba. He says, I'm afraid that Allah will not even reward me for all the pardoning that I do to people, because they do it out of love. And he says, I love pardoning so much that I don't know if I'm doing it because I love to pardon or I'm doing it for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. But that is the way of the believers in the end, the last thing we'll say is that, pardoning one another is very important also, especially between the husband and wife. Many times, people, when they're married, they are against each other, they do injustice to each other. So each one keeps it in their heart, the man has a list

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of the mistakes, and the woman has a list of the mistakes as well.

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But the only way to move forward, you cannot move forward in any relationship by looking backwards. So the scholars talk about the importance of forgiving each other. So this is an invitation to all of us right now, as we're sitting here that we intend and nobody's perfect to forgive our spouses for whatever they've done. Brothers, forgive your wives and wives please, for Allah sake, forgive your husbands because this situation cannot move forward. If this is not done with that last Allah subhanaw taala to make use of those who recognize the truth as clear truth and follow the best of it, and to make use of those who recognize falsehood as clear falsehood and abstain from it. For

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we ask Allah Subhana Allah to grant victory to Islam and to the Muslims. We ask Allah to grant freedom to all the Muslims who are being held and dealt with unjustly around the world. And we ask Allah to grant ease and freedom and victory to the Muslims in Iraq, and in Syria, and in Afghanistan, and in Kashmir, and in Burma, and in Yemen. And in all parts of the world yada yada mean for lahoma Abdullah Hello Matamoros Didn't you ask Sophie Hello, Patrick. Duffy,

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