Fiqh Of Cell Phones 1

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Kamal El-Mekki

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Alright, but Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam Mata Seville MBI mostly Allah Allah He was over here Jemaine.

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So the topic as you have all heard is the cell phone, the cell phone of using a cell phone. And I want to begin by saying that technology is a blessing from Allah subhanaw taala. And as we have all learned there is a way to use the blessing in obedience of Allah azza wa jal or sometimes people use blessings in the disobedience of a loss of Hano Donna. But the way we're supposed to regard any blessing is that we are thankful to Allah azza wa jal for the blessing we thank him. And the second thing is that we use it in the obedience of Allah subhanaw taala. And that goes for any busting we get from Allah azza wa jal, we thank Him, we use it in the obedience of Allah, because it's, it's

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shameful that Allah gives you a blessing. He gives it to you as a gift, and you use it to disobey Him.

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And so with that, then before we move past that point, how many people remember to thank Allah for having a cell phone?

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We always talk about the blessings that people take for granted. Yeah, people take for granted certain blessings. They think a lot of what after they have a meal, Al Hamdulillah they see a blind person they say 100 they see someone ill they say hamdulillah for my heart, but certain things we'd never rarely Remember to thank Allah azza wa jal for because we take them for granted, such as having good hair, for example, having good skin, some people have you know, bad skin, irritable skin, discolored skin, having, you know, teeth, good teeth, either in good condition, how many people think a lover they take it for granted? Yeah, I've got to say what, but it's a blessing from

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Allah. And only when one gives you a problem or breaks or you have the two things, then you realize what a blessing it was, when they were no problems. So remember to thank Allah, for this blessing allows him to give you this blessing thank him for it. Now, some people might argue when they hear the topic of the lecture, the cell phone felt, they might see what is Islam have to have a say in everything. Now, even with cell phones, you're gonna tell us McGraw Hill and do this and don't do that. Why does Islam have to have the say in everything?

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And the answer simply, is if it Islam teaches you how to wash yourself, after using the restaurant, what wouldn't have to say on how to use the restaurant? I mean, and how to use the cell phones.

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So it's every little detail is discussed in Islam. Why wouldn't the use of the cell phone be discussed? Why wouldn't there be guidelines for that? Because

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if you look, you'll see that Allah and the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they went into the rules of visitation in great detail in the Quran. And in the suit another Hadith, they went to the rules of visitation in very great detail. Why? Because visitation deals with a very important aspect of Islam, which is the aspect of a lot of dealings and dealing with one another, which is something very important in Islam. Because what happens when you earn in the way you deal with people, you get hatred between the believers, you get jealousy, you get envy, these misunderstandings that lead to backbiting that lead to rumors that that that lead to fighting and people not speaking to each other

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for days. All this happens when people make mistakes and how they interact with one another. And so a lot ago, delta officers had them they told they showed us the ways of how to interact with one another. And no Delta cell phone is one of the means by which we interact with one another. So no doubt there have to be some guidelines on how to use or how not to use this instrument. Now I want to begin by saying also that the cell phone is it's a small electronic instrument that's linked to another small but dangerous instrument. What is the other dangerous instrument that's linked to the cell phone? The tongue that looks like the tongue? No doubt. No, the tongue is an interesting a very

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interesting organ. It's very small, and some muscle but it doesn't get tired. True or false. Muscle never gets tired. Tongue just keeps going going gone. You ever hear someone say I've been talking too much my tongue hurts. No they say My throat hurts right? Sometimes your job if you're if you're eating you know your jaw might hurt you a lot your throat my hurts you from swallowing too much, but tongue doesn't get tired. So now this is a recipe for disaster because

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One it's an instrument that never never tires. Too few people control their tongue. Few people control their tongue. And not only that it's it's a dangerous instrument as indicated by many Heidi, for example, Raja lavon when he asked the Prophet sallallahu Sallam what the thing is mostly people into the Hellfire, and the promiseland responded the tongue and the sexual organs. So the tongue is one of the things that most takes people into the Hellfire, mostly people into the Hellfire the tongue.

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And also the person said to Marvin devil were highly acceptable NASA scenario in the Senate to him. So is there anything that topples people on their faces, into the Hellfire other than their tongues? So he's saying that the tongue is one of the things that most experiments allow for and people fall on their face into the Hellfire because of their tongue because of what they say. So the thing is that we a lot of people are talking and they're talking more because they have cell phones. And they're talking without much control. Just in the year 2005, which is about four or almost five years ago, there were 2 billion people on earth who had cell phones, 2 billion people. And those of

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you who've gone overseas, you've seen in certain countries, even beggars have a cell phone. Yeah, they're begging you. Can you hold on a second? Okay. So they're spread, and they're everywhere. So let me start by, you know, some and a whimsical look at cell phones. There was a brother and he will tell us about how he had 2000 minutes. This was the plan that gave him 2000 daytime minutes, not counting nights and weekends. And he said that he would expire. It finished the whole 2000 minutes. So they gave him another offer of 3000 minutes. And he said I would finish though, all 3000 minutes. This is the data. We're not counting nights, and weekends, but he would finish 3000 daytime minutes.

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What does that mean? That is two days and two hours, two full days of speaking. Imagine that. And if you count nights and weekends, maybe he speaks for three days and a half non stop every month speaking for three days and a half non stop. You know, a lot of times, the conversations are not really that important. Now a lot of them people call you Hey, what's going on, buddy, you're eating?

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Okay, do you have anything important to tell me how maybe Are you just wasting my time, but a lot of times, it's just useless conversations. So he said he started to do something every time he finished a phone call. And most calls were like one minute, one minute and a half, two minutes. He said when I finished the phone call, I saw how long it took. And then I'll start to make Victrola for that the same duration. So if I spoke for four days, a month, and then at least I made the crapola for four straight days, a month. But after a while he gave up Why? Too much talking couldn't keep up with it.

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So we use this device for a lot of talk. And rarely do people watch what they say. And rarely Are they aware of what are the proper ways to use a device. So the thing is, people could be gathering a lot of sins from the incorrect usage of the cell phone. So that's kind of sad, because you're paying money to get since you can get them for free, or better. Don't get any right. But you're paying money. And you're getting bills. And you're getting since that's not a good thing.

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There was actually one study that was done in one of the Muslim lands, and they found that people who have cell phones were prone to lying more. So that doesn't mean that if you have a cell phone, you're a liar. I know. You can see that guy, he's a liar. He's got a cell phone. That's not what it means. What it means to explain is that they found that we know before, let's say you had an appointment with someone at six o'clock. So if you called his home, this is before they invented cell phones, if you call that person at home at 545. And they answered, you know where they are right? You don't have to ask them. Where are you? You know, because you called the landline he

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called his house and he answered, but after they invented phones, people could like easily so you've called someone. Where are you? Yeah, I'm on the 401. And he's still in his bedroom. Yeah. Or it will tell you like, I'm just getting on the highway, but he's actually just getting into his car. But the highway is close to the car. And it's not that far from his house on just getting on the highway, but he's just getting into the car, you know, so. So a lot of people you know, have lied because they have the phone, they can tell you they're in this place or that place. Friend of mine was telling me in one of the Muslim countries he was he was riding a bus in the middle of the city. And

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some guy got a call on the phone. He started speaking out loud. Everyone can hear him. He's like, yeah, I'm at the border right now. I'm really really far. Everybody started laughing at him and he felt the shame. Because you hear your blatant liar here in the middle of town. You're like I'm at the border at the edge of the country and so

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and there are other issues where sometimes people they buy a certain phone to kind of try to

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To show certain status right?

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Now the scholar is making an exception. If the phone, your suit your car, the way you dress is part of, you know, the business persona, let's call it that you're trying to, you know, make clients feel that you're a professional, you have a professional business or you dress well, you have a nice car, and you have a phone, that's a PDA that shows you're organized. They say that's not a problem. But sometimes people just try to show off and try to make some kind of a statement using other objects or objects that they that they own. So you find someone who has an iPhone, which is supposedly the coolest phone, right? Yeah. So then the guy has an iPhone, but he just wants to pull you out of his

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pocket put in the table for no reason just to show people. I've got the iPhone. No. And usually this happens when someone is kind of weak, you know, they like look, people you see in the streets now who played very, very loud music, right? These people, they don't have hearing problems. They're actually doing it for you. They're making it really loud because they want to get attention. And they want people to look at them as they as they pass by or so people can pay attention to their vehicle, because they don't have anything maybe up here or enough to a man so they feel nothing is great about them except what they have, what they own what they possess.

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And this like the example one time we're going to jump up, so are four brothers for big grown men. And we're going to Juma prayer. And three of us have our cars parked this way one of us even had a minivan. And there was this fourth, the fourth guy, we were just introduced to him, so we don't know him very well. He insisted we go all the way to the back of the building to take his car to the masjid. You see. So for grown men, we're walking all the way back to the back of the building. And when we get there, his car is a two seater Mercedes.

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And we're four.

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And then when we get there, he does this. He does this fake thing. He's like, oh, it won't fit.

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What do you think? It's a two CD and we're four What do you think

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three of us will cram into the front seat or something you didn't notice you don't have a back seat. But this poor guy. He he felt that he had to show us who he was by showing us his vehicle. So he brought us all the way to a two seater just to show us look. This is my car so we can look at him differently now like we will respect him more because he had a two seater Mercedes joking. I have a Ford Pinto man you kidding me?

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So

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so and you know when phones first came out those people who had cell phones when they first came out, especially in the Muslim man, these were the coolest people on earth. Even though the phones were big and ugly these people there are some people who were sick and they were just every time they saw human being they pretended they were on the phone closing a serious business deal. Yeah, okay, so I'll worry the 30,000 tomorrow inshallah. And there was me every time he will be impressed by they did this. Some people were sick like that. But the the phone said told people who they were they didn't have anything else to show for themselves. It has to be their phone. So there's some

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some of the things that people do. But I do want to say it's not all going to be just negative about the phones we all know that you can use the phone for a lot of good. Some examples of that. You can use the phone can remind you of prayer times the alarm can wake you up for failure. I know a lot of times have brothers who in one locality they would all call each other up procedure in this person wake that person up, they all call each other that's a good use of the phone.

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Like I said wake you up for pleasure using the alarm itself. Or you can use it for circle or harm to kind of tie their relations with the wounds keep in contact with your family. And they can keep in contact with you. Also you can organize your life organize your time through the different kinds of reminders and calendars and the phone is awesome the good of course you can also put the poor and now you can put it in audio form in the phone. And you can even put it in in legible form like the written Arabic on the screen for those of us who have any the better phones. You can read through the Koran wherever you are. So all that is good. And you can also use it for download.

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One of the one of the people that I know and very nice brother, we don't overpraise him in the sight of Allah.

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He tells me his story when he starts to become practicing. He said, I was sitting one day and I got a text from a friend I wanted it wasn't one of those forwarded texts or what have you. He said, I opened it and it was written specifically for me. The brother said, this is all it said he said the athlete go to the masjid free up some time, go to the masjid read sort of Zimmer and contemplates autism. That's all it said. He said I took it seriously. I freed up myself when pred Margaret msgid sat down and started to contemplate to to Zuma. He said when I reached a certain verse that was it. He started to become a practicing any better practicing and put effort into a club an act of worship

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and honor. And that person who said this was two years ago that person doesn't even know that I've changed I haven't met him or seen him again since then. So it can be used for that well and it can be used for

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A lot of good. So now we want to talk about some of the etiquettes of making calls and the etiquettes of receiving phone calls. The first thing I want to talk about is the hours right? Don't call people late at night, or at times when you know that they're going to be asleep. The exception would be someone that has already let you know what their sleeping schedule looks like. So if someone tells you call me anytime I sleep at 2am then you can call him and talk to him You can call him at 130 or any other time because he gave you the green light. And you know their their schedule now their sleep pattern, but we know the Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to dislike talking after

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Isha prayer, right. And he also would sleep early sometimes after Isha and there are a few people who sleep immediately after Isha prayer. So

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call only call people if you know that this is what they do. They gave me the green light to call them late at night, or they gave me the green light to call them very early in the morning. Some people call you at 7am. But if they know you're awake after fudger, some people after they they remain awake, so you can receive a call at seven is no problem. They've been awake since five, seven is quite late for them actually have been awake for two hours. But some families and some people, they look to get that sweet nap up to fetch it, you know what I'm talking about? Right? That sweet, sweet nap, right. And these people, when you call them, it's very distracting. Some of them their

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children are sleeping or their parents might be asleep. And you call them at that time only do it if you're aware that that person doesn't mind it or that it's okay with them. But unfortunately, a lot of people know this, do we really need the lecture to say don't call people late at night? We don't put people call late at night. And they think they're smart. So they do things like they throw in a disclaimer or like a quick apology. They'll do things like they'll call you at 1am your answers. I hope I'm not disturbing you. What do you think it's 1am? If you wouldn't expect that you're disturbing, but you can you say that to someone? And that's where they ask you things that you know,

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am I bothering you? Well, you don't ask a question where the person can never answer in the affirmative. Tell someone Am I bothering you? Even he knows you quite well to think he will say yes, you're bothering me. It's difficult to say that. So don't ask someone a question that they couldn't answer you. Especially when you in they can't answer you in the affirmative. And I remember one time this guy came to my house and his daughter was tearing up the house. I mean, she was just tearing things down is pulling them like this. And he's not stopping her, you know, and he's telling me about politics and stuff. And I'm just looking at him. And then I'm looking at her acquitting focus

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with him. So then he noticed that I was so distraught. So then he looked at her, he saw what she was doing. Finally, he noticed she was actually making a design. And she really wasn't making a design all over the house, with furniture and with pieces of furniture. So then suddenly, he noticed what he was doing. He looked at me and he said, it's okay.

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How do you answer that?

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He's already smiling. He's saying it's okay. Then he's nodding already. He's not even letting me answer. It's okay. What do I tell him? No. He's the guest. It's difficult. So don't ask people questions where they couldn't answer you, honestly, anyway, you know, I like the guy who call you up. I'm sorry, we were asleep. Well, when I said,

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you should have guessed it. But then he told you, oh, well, I need to ask you this question. So it doesn't care. And it really is concerned for when you sleep, and then will tell me the answer to this question. So I don't really care. So that's the thing. Don't call people when it's very late at night. And don't call people when a very early in the morning unless you know, or they've given you the green light to call them at these times.

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Second thing, let's talk about the number of times that you can call someone and doesn't mean how many times you let the phone ring, it means how many times can you call someone, let it go into voicemail and then call them back again until it goes into voicemail. One guy actually called me about 38 or 34 times for the beginning, I was in the shower. And then when I came out, I saw that he called me like 14 times in a row, then it became a challenge between me and him. I'm like, I'm not gonna pick up and I'm gonna see how long you're gonna keep doing this. And he's like, I'm gonna keep doing this until you pick up so he called me about 38 different times. You know, one guy was

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boasting to me that he called someone 54 times in a row, going to voicemail hang up, sent, going to voicemail hang up, set 54 times in a row. And he's proud of this.

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So let's make let's make a comparison.

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someone visits your house they come to visit you and we're talking physically now. So physically whatever that entails. They take they put on their coat their boots, they take the bus they take their drive their own car all the way to your house across town. They walk up the stairs, they come and knock on your doorbell or knock on your door. So if you if you heard the first knock, you don't answer the knock again. You heard the second one you don't answer. The third one you don't answer what are they supposed to do?

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supposed to go back right? Or what if you open the door and say to them

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I'm alcoholic and everything, but I suppose I'm so sorry. But it's actually not a good time. What should he do? Or she

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leave? Should they get angry, they don't have the right to get angry. See, Allah teaches us here who has more rights, and the person who's in their home, they have more rights. So Allah says in the Quran was a commercial PR guru who

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said, if it's said to you to return, if it's told to you go back or return, return, it is better for you. This is this is this is the rule here. When someone if someone tells you go and this is not a good time, when you go back, you go back. Or if you do not three times, and no one answers, you start to go back. And meaning that it's enough to believe that they heard the first and second and third, and no one answers when it's time for you to turn around and go back. Then you all know the narration of Omar Delano, when the man knocked on his door three times he didn't open. But he opened a while later, when he opened the door, the man was way over there, because he was following the

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sooner so you don't get angry with someone. One, they were being very honest with you, you should appreciate the fact that they're that honest with you. And which means that there's some level of closeness between you because most people now if you were a stranger that be too embarrassed to tell you that but the fact that they told you that they're honest with you, the fact that they're the two of you now are doing as soon as it's a forgotten sooner. So you don't get angry whatsoever. A lot as audiences go back, it's better for you. That means it's better. So this is what's supposed to happen. So this is someone who is physically make me physically all the way God got to your house,

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and you have the right to not answer them. And you have the right to turn them back. What about someone who just simply hits a few buttons, and he enters into the middle of your home, your phone is in your living room, your bedroom, it's ringing this person by pushing these buttons, makes this noise in the middle of your house, not just at your door, he might be with his family with his children. And now you're disturbing him in the middle of his home, if he decides to not pick up. It's totally up to them. You didn't even go through the effort of changing and driving over to the house. If you went through the effort. You don't have the right to get angry, let alone if you just

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put push a few buttons. If they don't answer, that's the right. You don't have the right to get angry. And you can make excuses for people, maybe the person who was sick, and it happened. Maybe he's in the restroom. Maybe he forgot the phone in his car. Anyone here forget your phone in the car. happens so many times you leave your phone in the car, you go upstairs, someone calls you, you come back you find like five, six missed calls. It's possible. So maybe he left the phone in his car, or maybe his battery died and he left the charger at work so he won't have it for another 12 hours or what have you. It's all possible. Maybe he lost the phone. Seek excuses for people. But

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most people, they they don't make excuses for you and they start to get upset. So you find if you lose your phone or you leave it in your car and you come back you find like four or five messages from the same person. And you listen to the voicemail message. And every time you see the message you keep getting angrier and angrier. first message that I'm always making pilot gets me highly give me a call. Okay, second message. Hey, it's me either. Give me a call. I called you man. Give me a call back. Third message. Yes, I've been calling you for the last three minutes, you still haven't answered my call, type, wait a little bit, leave one voicemail and then state your message. And

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that's it. But people just keep getting angry and angry. And then they accuse you. Maybe you hate them. Maybe this and that if you ignore them. But actually, maybe I did ignore you have the right to ignore you if I want to. I'm not forced or compelled religiously to answer your phone call. But you know, people sometimes they lost these mannerisms of visitation. And I'll tell you in certain countries,

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you when someone doesn't answer the door after three knocks or rings, what happens? You start to become creative. No, you don't go back. You start to become creative now. So then they start to find little stones, and you start to throw them at your windows. Yeah, this is well known in certain countries, Sudan where I'm from originally, you know, the person doesn't answer it. First. You knock like that. Maybe there's a power outage or electricity, you know, blackout or what have you. So you hit the doorbell. No one answers hit the knock on the door. They won't answer. Then you take a rock and you hit the door with a rock it's much louder, and then they don't answer then you can be

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creative. You can be hitting the door both knocking on the door, calling them on the phone and throwing stones at the same time.

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Because I'm trying to I need to get you out of bed. You know,

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one of my friends he said he was sleeping in his home and it's a Hot Country, the windows open, sleeping, taking a nap fast asleep. He's sleeping like this. He says a rock smashes on his forehead.

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Imagine

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Imagine you're nothing and suddenly a rock hits your forehead. He said I got so mad. I didn't even want to know who the person was. He said I just put my head my head out the window without opening my eyes. I said whatever it is, you better leave. I'm gonna come down

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kill you.

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He says two weeks later, this guy comes up to you with you the other day you were threatening us. Yeah, take a look at this guy conceal his identity and he exposes himself.

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But you know, people lost

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the rules of visitation and they just become more aggressive in trying to get you to answer and more creative.

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And it also could be that someone might not like your childhood, this doesn't apply to any of you. But there was one guy in our area. In here, the very, very dangerous tongue, this guy who always either speak about this man's wife, or this man's mother, just always trying to expose people's faults, and who would call you and insult you first and then tell you about other people. So who wants to talk to someone like this?

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You want to talk to anyone like that? So just ignore him? A whole year I'm ignoring the guy he doesn't get a clue. So why don't you What am I gonna tell him? That's the best way I can tell him. I don't want to talk to you, but I don't want to tell it to his face, you know? So, but they keep pushing it. He would never enter my house. Never in a whole year. What does that tell you Habibi. A whole year you didn't get the clue. Anyway, so we spoke now about the hours that you can call people the number of times you can keep calling someone. Now I want to talk about the greeting.

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And the greeting very simply is

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it's very simple. First it says Salaam Alaikum. And then whatever else you want to say you can say if you want to say hi how are you? what's up what's happening? Say whatever you want to say. But the first thing you say is Salaam Alaikum. And we know very well from the Hadith The Prophet said them was sitting in the masjid man entered. He said the salaam aleikum wa sallam said 1010 rewards for saying saramonic another man entered he said the silmarillion Mashallah, the process lm said 23rd men enter the Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh said 30. So we're looking at other 10 or 20 or 30 rewards from saying a salon article. How many do you get from saying hi?

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Or what's up? Zero? The brother said negative 10. What's up should be negative 10. So

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you get that reward? I mean, and how many phone calls Do you get per day? Who gets over 10 calls a day? Yeah, some people get over 10 calls a day. Some people get up to 25 phone calls a day, as salaam aleikum wa Taala, the beginning of each of these phone calls, then you have 10 or 20 times another 10 or 15 even. And then that's how much reward you get per day and then multiply that by 365 days a year and multiply that by how many years you use your cell phone, you see that it adds up a lot of reward comes up to 1000s or hundreds of 1000s.

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So the first thing is you say Salaam Alaikum. And then there's a guy called I call it the mystery man. So the mystery man, basically. Saira, Malik, Malik, Sarah, you know who this is? And you know, generally when it's embarrassing for someone when they don't remember who you are, because it's almost like telling you, you're so insignificant. I forgot who you are. It's embarrassing. So but some people don't. They don't mind embarrassing you like that. So the guy calls you and says, you know, this is loud, I apologize. You don't remember me. I was like, I don't remember you. You don't recognize my voice. It's like home. I don't think about it. Think about it.

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Then as you can remember, so I met you in 2008

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Miramar of people in 2008. He was the journey of faith conference. About 5000 people at the conference. I don't remember you. And the brother had the beard and the hat.

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Oh, I know who you are now. But they keep this going on and on and on. So this is not the proper way. The proper way is very simply a salon article. If a person doesn't know you, or you got the number from someone else, this is the first time that you're in contact with them. So this is so and so. And then you can keep going on with Hi, how are you? How's the family? How's everything like that? So if let's say Ali gives me husband's phone number when I call husband, I don't keep him in suspense. Salaam Alaikum. My name is Kumar, I'm calling you I got your number from Ali. And this is concerning such and such. Oh, how are you? How's the family and then we get into our topic, but

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there's some people who do it the other way around. So you're in suspense the whole time. So you see the strange number you answer some icons, so don't get hung up on the

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higher Kala

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Cavalia. Hello,

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Mark. Hello, Mark. Hello. How are you? Man? You're killing me. You know? So. So nice way to do it.

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Salaam Alaikum. My name is so and so if they don't know who you are, I don't recognize you. And then you go into the Hi, how are you? How's it and everything? And then you might ask a very nice and important question. Is this a good time? Is this a good time and it helps people and it gives you a way out. So you might tell you no, actually I'm just in the middle of dinner. Just give me 10 minutes and I'll be free or I'm actually

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Driving Just give me a few minutes in or about to drive. Yeah. So is this a good time is a good question to ask people, you know, and it's to your benefit. Because when you ask someone, is this a good time? And they told you? No. If you don't ask them that question, they're, they're busy with something else, they're not going to give you their full attention, right? And I'm going to give you their full attention because they're busy. So ask them if they're busy. And if they're busy, and they let you know, you'd better call them at a time when they're free. They'll pay more attention to what you're saying.

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So we have what is the evidence then for what we're saying? Introduce yourself, let the person know who you are. We have a hudy by jabiru de la he says, I came to the profit some loss and then about a debt concerning my father. He says, I think the who potato Fedayeen kind of a hobby I came to the porcelain about a debt of my father's so call Amanda. He said Who is that? Who is it? Is he knocked him said Who is it? He says to Anna? I said, It's me. So the prophets of Allah said lampasas when Carla and Anna me me What does that mean? He says Paula Anna Anna Anna who carry haha he said me me as if he disliked that the person and dislike that answer. someone knocks on the door, you say Who

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was that? He said, It's me. What is that? How does that help me at all? I don't know who you are. Who is me? The President disliked it. And he showed his dislike of saying just me. And so the best thing then and the etiquette is to introduce yourself and say, you know, my name you did My name is so and so. Or I got your number from this place also, because it makes people you know, relax and feel comfortable. And, you know, especially a lot of Muslims are paranoid. I can speak for the United States. A lot of Muslims are very paranoid if if you know you call them. Yeah, my name is

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I will work.

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Okay, now what did they think SPI? Were we call them here? CSUs. EMI five, what have they get scared immediately? It must be how did they get my number? I got your number from brother so and so because I want to talk to you about an issue. They feel comfortable. People are paranoid. So just make everyone relaxed and comfortable. So you introduce yourself after we give the Salaam then you can go on to the asking about their their situation and all that.

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You know, sometimes you get these people who call you and then they ask you who's this?

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Who gets annoyed from that? It's very annoying. someone calling?

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You called me you don't know who you call generally, you just dial random numbers. So

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what if then what if someone you call them someone and someone else answers their parents answer or someone like that? Also greet them cylinder icon? How are you how's everything I'm actually calling for so and so is here here, as you can see there? I speak to but don't just, you know, go somewhere, you know, is so and so here

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and greet that person a little bit, especially if it's, you know, your friend's parents or someone like that. How about picking up someone else's phone? You know, there's some if it's a friend and you have that relationship? Yeah, it's okay. Where you know, you all have the same friends and he's not married and what have you and, and he tells you, you can pick up my phone. It's not an issue. You can pick it up. But generally, it's not. It's not the rule. Yeah, don't pick up someone's phone. And sometimes your friend is over here. And his phone is over here. And the phone rings and he says, could you pass me the phone? Please? What do most people do? 95% of them do this on

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your phone? Who cares? Who's calling them but most people they just can't pass the phone without?

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Most people do that. Don't do that. It's not your concern. Who is calling them? It's their phone? It's private. Yeah.

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There was another guy that that every time this is true, true person in our area every time we got off the phone, who was bad? Who was it?

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What do you want to know? By the way, this is not good manners. When any one time this guy came to my house, every time I opened the drawer, he was sitting down every time I open the door he did this.

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What do you try to be looking for? What are you trying to do? I'm opening a drawer in my house. You don't appear into it. Some people are like that. They got to put their nose into things and know what's going on. control it don't read people's look into their phone, don't answer their calls, unless they allow you to do that. I want to talk a little bit about pranks and scaring people over the phone. We know very well but when you scare a believer Allah will cause you to be scared on the Day of Judgment. I'm not going to tell you you know don't have fun with the phone and don't have fun with your friends but don't scare the believers. It's not good. And the states you know, some of the

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things we do with people would call each other pretender immigration, you know, Mr. So and So. Yeah. When did you leave the country within 24 hours. The guy starts thinking about packing and getting his family already in. He's scared. I know some people that pretend to be that

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Police and they really scare people. Okay, we have video of you murdering this man. You know.

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So it's not good to scare people like that. Other things that are that are wrong that people do with the phone is that for example, though, they'll record phone calls, especially about sensitive issues, you know, you talking about something and they're recorded the court record the conversation, and then they either joking jokingly blackmail you with what they have recorded from you, or they will do next time that group of friends were in someone's house drinking tea, they will play without your permission, you don't even know this. And they're all laughing at the things that you're saying this, besides being very rude. It's also betraying the art and the trust of the

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majority and a conversation. And you're not in whatever happens between you and a brother is actually like a secret. You're not supposed to disclose it. And I know when we're children, in order to give a secret, you say, I'm telling you the secrets were about I won't tell anyone and then the person swears then it's a secret. But when you grow up, anything that happens between you and an individual, it stays with you. There's no need for you to spread it around. Just like when the professor said them whispered something into the ear of faulty model below. He did it in front of his other ones. So then I

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can tell you. So first of all, she told her what he specifically, if he wanted you to know he wouldn't have said it in my ear. True or false? Make sense? Right? throws at him wanted everyone to know what he would have said it out loud. He said it in your ear. That means it's a secret. So that's that's how it is. Everything you see in your brother's home. It's a secret, right? If you go to your friend's house, and you know, the mother yells at him a lot, you know, or it's a dirty house, you don't have to disclose this to anyone I want to buy the song. Now, by the way, his mother yells at him embarrassing, she insults him no to secret, you don't disclose any of that. So you

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don't record people's conversations without letting them know. And it's also illegal in most countries in the West, it's illegal. And that's why when you call companies, they tell you your call may be recorded. They let you know, because it's illegal to record your voice without giving you

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like the warning in advance.

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You want to talk about the use of the speakerphone. A lot of times people will, without warning you put you on speakerphone, and they're supposed to warn you especially if they're people around them. So they tell you when you call them, you tell them on speakerphone, because a lot of times people will put someone on speakerphone and ask them to do something silly. You know. So brother, I told you, I think I have a nice voice for machine but I'm a little shy and so on. You're good. So then you're on the phone, you've got your friends with you in the car, like yeah, I give you some of that in a sheet of material on the back. Singing

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and everybody else is giggling and laughing at him. Because he's horrible. He should have asked his permission, you should let him know you're on speakerphone and there are people here, you know, and I know one one brother and he would always look to make his friends look bad in front of his wife. So he would always call them as the same tell that joke or imitate so and so and then he'll put on speakerphone in front of his wife always always. I think maybe the guy's plan was to try to show his wife that he's better than his friends. So she'll feel like you know, all his friends are idiots but Mashallah married a great guy, you know? Maybe

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maybe that wasn't her plan.

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So

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so you know, especially if you know someone want to prove it don't put them on speakerphone without permission. So whenever you put someone as proof and let them know I'm putting you on speakerphone, and any any of you get headaches from using the phone.

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How many strangers I get severe headaches from the book earaches jaw aches, nobody.

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Okay, but a lot of people get headaches from using the putting the phone close to the head. So they use speaker phones always let people know to turn on speakerphone, speakerphone. So one of the things the pranks the other problems is that people will will call and sometimes we'll pretend to be women. I know I had a friend in one of the Muslim countries and he loves to pretend to be a woman. And he's quite young.

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His His voice is good at a two and he'll call and pretend to be a woman. And you know these things. The President said that the men who resemble a woman occurs women who resemble men, of course you want to stay away from things where you hear the word curse. But this guy would call people up he one time he told me he tells me himself that he called his own father up and he pretended to be a woman. Okay. And he said it got so far that I actually arranged the date with my own father.

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He says

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he says that, you know, we agreed to meet at a certain place at a certain time. I said, Did you tell him it's you at the end? He said no, I couldn't. We went too far. You know, I can tell Hey, it's me, your son. It's like, he's a married man. He's got grown children. And now he's setting up a date. But you see what happened?

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what the problem is here is that this man, this poor man could have had a normal day had breakfast and gone to work with no sins. But now by doing this, you pulled him into getting a sense. You pulled him into arranging a date to meet with a strange woman who's not related to him in some street while he's a married man, you you pull him into that thing that he otherwise wouldn't have fallen into, if you didn't call him in prank. So another story, this in the least case, it might cause embarrassment in real situations. It was a friend of mine used to call also, this is a mistake, and he would pretend to be a sister.

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And he he had a terrible sister voice. I mean, nobody would be convinced at all, that it's a sister because he had a very horrible sister voice. And I would see his name I know it's him, and he pretends that he's a sister and everything. One day, I get a call from a sister, real sister who sounds just like him.

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And she wants to schedule a lecture, she wants me to come to the state and schedule a lecture. And I think it's him. And here I am fooling around with this system that I don't know. I'm like, Oh, yeah, sister. You want me to come and give a lecture. Cecilia? Where do you live system.

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And Jesus kept being very serious. Suddenly, I realized that this is a real person is not my friend. Now, how do I even apologize to her? Well, you sound like a brother, friend of mine. You can't even apologize to someone like that. So the least case is that it puts people into an embarrassing situations. So just be careful. Generally, what we're saying, Be careful. And, you know, we're not saying you can't have any fun at all with your friends, and, but just be careful what you know, what this might pull people into. And the other things where people show up with a conversation. So they'll start dropping names or mentioning figures just to show people that I'm a businessman, or I

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have, you know, this kind of money for the sake of showing off. And you said, This is not how the believer behaves, the believer is humble, and they have higher and they don't try to show off. And while showing off about your business transaction, someone might give you that you don't know might give you a certain blow the whole transaction for you. So it's not wise to do something like that. advice for students. Don't answer your cell phone. In class. Don't do that. It's very disrespectful. You know, a lot of young kids, sometimes they answer their phone in class, especially if it's like Islamic class in school, maybe they don't do that. But I remember I used to teach at this Islamic

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school over the weekend. And I used to never answer my phone in class, out of respect for the topic and out of respect for the students, even though they were like young teenagers and stuff. One time, I'm getting this very important call that I really want to answer this call. But I see that the phone ring, I don't answer it because I'm teaching Islamic Studies and our respect for these people. I mean, also, we have to show them that this is serious, because when they go to the regular school, their science teacher doesn't pick up the phone in class, because it's a serious school. Now I'm teaching the Hadith, or I'm teaching Islamic studies or al Qaeda, and I answer my phone. What does

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that tell the kids? So out of respect, I don't answer the phone. 10 minutes later, one of these kids gets a phone call. And he immediately answers starts talking and getting up and walking out and he does this to me while he's walking out.

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I wonder what what emergency a 14 year old has to hear about in the middle of my class and he used to walk out. I was imagine what what's the phone call golden. Okay, I see. I see his picture. Okay.

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All right. Let me know if anything else happens.

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What did this kid need to know me that's so urgently. What are we going to talk about?

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I remember when I taught this class at this high school after class after school, I would go and teach these kids who had played the class. And you know, they would answer the phone the kids answering the phones for and it was disrespectful. So one of the girls she said to me, she said, My phone is my life. I said you need a new phone.

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Get a lifetime there.

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Anyways, let's, let's keep going here.

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We won't talk about the ringtone. Can you use music as a ringtone?

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Why not?

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Because it's Haram. It's not permissible. So don't use it as a ringtone. And the worst thing is that now people put music as a ringtone and it rings when they're in the masjid, during Salah. And so, so many times now in the Salah, we hear music and it's not like the how it used to be before the simple beats now, you know, just full blown music now and very loud and these phones, and there's some people who never turn off the phone, you know, it's okay. everyone forgets if you forget to turn off your phone or something. There's some people who never turn off their phone and so on. And it just keeps ringing. And it's probably that guy who calls you 34 times who's calling you and it just

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doesn't stop ringing. You know, you know, in one of the Muslim countries they were saying in one of the silent prayers like gohara so this phone kept going on and on just playing music. It was blaring and they said at the end of the Salah, they found an old man in the front row. He was crying

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In real tears, and he said, Well, luckily I never heard music outside of. Now I have to listen to it in the masjid and in the middle of Salah. So don't put music as your ringtone. But why do some people not? Why don't they turn off the phone. Because those people, they believe that making an unnecessary movement insula is macro. And that's true, right? Making an unnecessary movement in Salah is macro. But this is not an unnecessary movement. This is a very necessary movement. Because when you don't turn it off, it's distracting you. And it's distracting many other people as well. In some cases, everybody in the message is distracted. So this is actually now a very necessary

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movement and permissible for you to put your hand in your pocket or do whatever you need to do to turn off that phone is absolutely necessary. Because the whole idea is that you're not supposed to be distracted in your salon. We'll look some of the evidence was of that, for example, this is headed to all of us know and love very much. I should have raised the profits are allowed. Selim said, if the farmer for Asia prayer is given, and dinner is ready, what happens? Start with dinner. We all know this is our favorite idea, right? So you start with dinner. Why? Because if you don't, and dinner is on the table, how is that solid going to be? It's all going to be you're going to be

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taking focusing over there that's the focus will be on dinner and it might be rushed or not very well focused because it's dinner. And and Allah forbid that you can smell dinner now a lot of us

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who have encouraged

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Oh, I smell something I just no focus now. So another narration by the medical biller, and he said we used to pray with the Prophet sallallahu Sentinel, when it was intensely hot, when one of us could not bear to press his forehead on the ground. And to do it because of the heat. He would spread his garment and prostrate on it. So whatever garment you have a shuttle or whatever, they would spread that and mix it up on top of the garment, then they sit back then in going down suit again, they put the garment every time it goes down procedure, they spread the garment, that's a lot of action, but it's a necessary action. Because if you don't make that if you don't do that, it's

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going to be very difficult for you to make sure you I know maybe some of you in Canada, you're like how hard can it be, believe me, it can get very, very hot. If it's like 50 degrees Celsius, and the sun is hitting those like rocks or pebbles and you stand on an Omega udana it's very, very hot. So this is a necessary action so you can turn off your phone and this hadith narrated by Bukhari and Muslim.

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So then, you can't use music as a ringtone just use whatever regular ring or ring tone that doesn't involve any music or musical instruments or or like a rhythm or tone. A lot of times these tones get stuck in people's heads, you know? So just use something very simple. How about the Quran? Can you use the Quran as a ringtone? No, and this is a this was asked to the American Muslim jurist Association and they were asked about this. And they said no, it's not permissible to use the Quran as a ringtone. Because first and foremost, the Koran is a book of guidance, right? allowed to get sent it to you as a book of guidance to give you a certain message. Allah did you send down the

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Quran to tell you hey, you have a call from Allah. Hey, you have a call from pasa. That's not why I listened to the Koran. So when you put the Quran as a ringtone, you bring it down to the level of being just a reminder that someone's calling you. You see, bring it down to that level. The second thing is that you might get a call in the bathroom to while you're in the restroom, the horror and the act of Allah azzawajal are praying or playing now in the middle of the restaurant. A third thing is that you also might answer the call because now it becomes just a ringtone to you. You don't listen to what the verses saying. So you might cut off the ayah in the middle of a bad place. Yes.

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Yeah, you live in La Jolla, you answer not want to secara don't answer the prayer. Or Do not come near Salah. You cut it off before it says while you're intoxicated, so you can cut off the I also at a bad place. So that's the reason you don't use a pronoun as a ringtone allows you just sent it as a book of guidance not as a reminder that you have someone calling you. Also you will not you can't use derogatory sounds to indicate that someone is calling True story. There is a guy whenever anyone calls him it's a regular ring. When his wife calls him it's a dog bark.

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So

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so he's sitting and

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he answers the phone.

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And there's another guy he has a police siren is when the wife called the police on another guy. There's a sound effect of a volcano erupting whenever his wife calls volcano erupts and the whole office knows

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Hence the wife in the old life.

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What do you think this poor woman would feel? Like? If she discovered that the dog bark? means she's calling? How do you think she would feel? I can imagine that guy one day he loses his phone in the house, where do I put my phone where I put my phone? She'll tell him, I'll call you. He'll say, No.

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Cuz you hear the dog barks. You know, that's what? So, Alright, that's enough. With that, let's talk about the cell phone, camera. And most phones, now they come with a camera. And there's this, there's this belief amongst Muslims and non Muslims, that if I have a camera in my hand, I have the right to capture your image. Most people feel that way. Most people believe that there is an event happening. I take pictures of people from a distance, and I can come in front of your face and take your picture. Because I'm the I'm the cameraman. So it's like they don't need to ask you permission. Now we know one of the purposes of the Sharia is that it came to protect your reputation, right? It

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came to protect your reputation and

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your image. So I have more rights to my image than you have to capture. And this is something that's not really provided for by the law in the West. But this is something in Islam. So I can't just take a picture of you, without asking your permission, I might get you in a bad position, or you're not dressed properly, or you have a bad hair day. And then this picture is on Facebook, and it spreads and it's all over the place. People don't ask your permission, you know. So, and most people think that that's what they can do. I remember I went to one conference in one of the states, and I'd be standing speaking to a brother and a sister would just come right in our face with the phone, take a

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picture and walk away. Now the sister would come and walk away. One time you're giving it to my

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sister, what do you think you're doing? It's the Juma football, what do you think you just stand up and take a picture. And it's not it's not a joke. And first of all, you don't do things like that. But who tells you that you have the right to just come and take my picture anytime, anywhere. People you need to ask someone's permission, before taking their picture, whether you have a digital camera or cell phone, camera, it's very important.

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As a general advice for sisters, that if you if you're at an event, and there may be sisters who are not religious and people that you don't know, even if it's a woman only event, it's it's good to these days to be extra careful and not remove your hijab, if necessary, unless you really need to. Because you know, these days, people have week a man and there's so many stories of women in these events, pretend to be on the phone, and they'll take pictures of woman, a woman will come she wants her son to get married, he's looking to get married, she will come and take photographs of all the girls and without their hijab and all that. And then she goes and gives the catalog His Highness and

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this guy.

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He gets his

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he gets his free pick of the litter now is going through images of women and they don't know that. They're actually and this is some of the problems we don't have in the West. But in some Muslim countries, these are huge problems. Like people, they using Bluetooth technology, they'll stand next to you in a market or what have you and steal your family's photos. And then they pass it around. There's one blogger he is one one man he came to complain young man came to complain to the chef he said we used to, you know, steal pictures of people's families, children and women and, and daughters. And we pass it around to each other. He said one day, they passed me a photograph of a

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girl. And it was my own system. So it came back to him.

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And that's why you know, the film said at the bar, I mean, that's a bad

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joke debated that whoever seeks out there out here, it really means private parts. But here it means anything that's private or secret, or from the affairs of the believers, whoever seeks to expose that and seek those things, Allah subhanaw taala will expose him, even if he's in the middle of his home. So so these are some of the things also need to keep in mind and to ask people for permission, whenever you're going to take their photo or something like that. Then there's the issue of spying. A lot of times you'll find spouses, they spy on each other. And sometimes it leads to problems where they shouldn't have been a problem. True story, there was a shift. And he's telling the story

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himself. He said I gave a lecture at the masjid. The lecture was entitled my mother. So it's a lecture about the mother, the excellence of the mother. So instead, we finished the lecture, we pray the Asia and went home. One of them was so mean, he sent me a text message. He said the chef, what do you think we do another lecture next week, and let's call it my brother, right? And so the chef sent him an answer a text saying, What do you think of my sister? And that man was married? Yeah. And his wife came to spy on him to read his text with which you really shouldn't be her business. She opened up his text messages and she saw the chef telling him what do you think of my sister?

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So she thought the same thing or do you think you're married, my sister got a second wife. And she became irate and she started crying.

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Sing and curse from the shear what kind of a shift is this? He knows you're married. And he tells you what do you think of my sister, and then has to explain to her we have these like, these are lecture titles. But if you weren't spying, I wouldn't be in this condition. And you wouldn't have cursed me and curse the chef for no reason. So no spine. There's some problems or cases we don't have here in the West, like some phones, in some countries, like they have these chat rooms that you enter through your phone, and people start to chat with one another. I visited one country, the Muslim population was totally taken by this thing. They're all chatting on the phones, the whole

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family, everyone's in a different corner chatting with other people. And

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excuse me, the man was telling me that a man came to a grown man came to me said I was on these chat rooms on the phone. I was chatting to this lady for a while. And then we finally agreed to meet and he discovered it was his own daughter.

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That got that bad. Yeah. See, the thing is, most people, they think that, you know, I can chat over the phone with a woman and she's in Australia, or in Houston, or some other part of the world. Nothing, nothing's gonna happen. Because she's far We can't commit sin or touch or anything like that. But see, the problem is these, these things can be worse sometimes. Because

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when you don't see the person in front of your face, it lowers your inhibitions. And you'll find people you're able to see things that they wouldn't say, brother wouldn't say to a sister in front of his face, but she's, you know, somewhere else to say x rated or R rated things to her. And she'll think oh, he doesn't know who I am. There's no my family, there's no my community can embarrass me. So they go to they go very far. And they go into the Haram because of that. So we should actually be more careful, not less careful, even

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even through texting through chat through email, because it can lead to a lot of harm.

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And we're actually at the end, I would just like to say that any four sisters especially, they should be a little bit careful about how they speak on the phone, they should try to keep their tongue somewhat straight, you know, not to up and down and soft, and especially brothers who are not married these guys, they melt very quickly. Yeah. And there was there was one brother who was saying that this woman called for a job interview. And he said from from her voice, I knew that we were going to get married.

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He said from the second phone call, I knew why I never was able to get married because I was saving money for this woman. He just kept thinking about her voice and all that when he went to interview her she was 60 years old.

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She just had a nice voice, you know, but the guy melted so quickly, because especially these brothers who are not married, you know, watch out for those guys. So a sister might be speaking to what she thinks is normal, and you know.

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So yeah, whatever. They say that that's normal, the brothers receiving it in a different way entirely on the other end.

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So be careful with that it's okay in the end, and the law that they passed law that you don't use your cell phone while driving. Right. And for those who live in countries where you still drive and use your cell phone, don't do it. Because it just really puts you at greater risk of getting into a crash, you know, it shows you that using your phone, while driving, it puts you at a risk of four times more likely to get into an accident. Imagine now after the lecture, I pull one of you aside, brother, put this in your pocket, and shala on your way back home, you'll be four times as likely to get into an accident, you'll be very upset with that, why would you give me something like that, but

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that's what the phone does to you. And to those who are with you and your family, your children puts you at that risk four times as likely to get into an accident 25% of car accidents caused by cell phones. And you know, and a lot of people like 19% of motorists, these numbers are from the States, they text while driving. And that means they spend 400% more time with their eyes off the road, you know, so then if it's not you, it's someone else that could be coming at you and putting you and your family at risk. But like you said, Because Angela, they passed this law. And by the way, the fact that they passed the law doesn't mean you check that there are no officers and then you can

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just get on the phone, it just means you have to obey that law.

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Okay, and I want to close with a quick note on the dangers of cell phones. When asked me first how many people feel that the cell phone itself is dangerous to you use of the cell phone is dangerous. It's not good. Put your hands up.

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Okay, and how many people feel that it might be dangerous? Okay, and how many think that it's not a dangerous device? It's just just from making phone calls? Yeah. Okay.

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I want to tell you, I want I would like to to encourage you to do your own research. But I would like to also encourage you to move towards where you feel that it's actually not a very safe device. And I always tell people, the only one who cares about you is you. That's it. No one else cares about you. You know, big industry, they don't care about you. And I'll give you a something that happened four or five years ago one of the leaders of the cellphone industry in an interview with us

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Have you done any tests to see what kind of harm cellphones do to human beings? He said, No. He said, why not? Should because he 10 years will know exactly what what they do to people. And they don't care. And if in 10 years people's eyeballs start falling, then we'll know that's what it does to people, they don't care, they just want to make money. And if you don't, if you find that hard to believe, what popular industry doesn't care about your health, cigarettes, the tobacco industry, they don't care at all about your health, actually, their product tells you, this will kill you, and they still sell it to you. Because it's all about the money. In the States. It's all about whoever

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lobbies and pays enough money to keep the whatever poisoned, it can be an actual poison, or something actually harmful and known to be harmful. But they'll pay enough money. And they'll, you know, they'll pass enough laws so that it's still available to people. So no one really cares about you except you. So in the end it because cell phones you see are relatively new cell phones or new technology. And it's just in the 90s, people started to have phones, it's not like older things like radio or television, it's new technology. So still, there are not enough tests for us to be able to say 100%, that this device is dangerous. But there are many tests to make you think that it could be

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actually very dangerous. University in Sweden, they, they found out that people who use a cell phone for 10 years for one decade, were twice as likely to develop a tumor in a nerve between the brain and the ear. The thing about the cell phone is that they use electromagnetic radiation in the microwave range, because you know, you have x ray range gamma rays mixed into the hope you've got the microwave range as well. And so what happens, some of the energy is transferred into your brain and brain, the brain doesn't really have like blood circulation flowing through it. So they tell you this energy is transferred into the brain. Some studies show that it transfers 400% more energy

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transfers into the brain, or the head of the child because they have a thinner cranium and their skull is not that thick. So 400%, more energy goes in and up to a 16 year old about 200% more than an adult. So and then the other studies that have looked at direct has improved and established a direct link between cell phone usage and brain tumors, others and even and this was in Sweden also, they established that even people who keep the phone on their hips, they develop testicular cancer. So the so I would encourage you to do your own research and see and make up your own mind. But in the end, just try to be a bit more careful with it. They recommend sometimes some experts and you

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can find a lot of interviews on the internet on YouTube. The cellphone industry hired this guy to say that to do research and say that phones are safe. He's actually now one of the number one people in the world against cell phones because his research concluded they're not safe. Some people recommend some experts recommend that you put your finger between your head and the phone, they see just that distance is good enough to decrease a lot of energy. Some say you know use the speakerphone other say use the you know the either the wireless one or the even the wired one they say still transfers energy. So you have to coil put some coil around it to spread out that energy.

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So anyways, in the end, just do your own research. But I'd like to move you away from thinking it's safe technology. I'll end by saying that the World Health Organization sometimes says there's no problem with phones. But in another time, we'll put out what is known as a precautionary principle, which basically means that we don't have enough scientific evidence to say it's dangerous. But we also have enough to assume there is potential risk or severe potential risk. And so they put out a precautionary principle. So take precaution for yourself and for your families. inshallah, I'd like to end by asking you

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what happens if you put the whole mishap into your phone, like written form? When you walk into the restaurant? Can you take the phone into the restaurant if it has in store the homeless? No, yes, because it's stored in digital form. Once you close the screen, the writing is not on the screen anymore. It's stored in digital form, not like written on paper, so you can carry it into the restaurant? How about the greetings that are always constant always show up on the screen? What if it says the name of Allah? Can you take it into the restroom? No. So it's good to not do that, even though there's a discussion of what is exactly the restaurant but to be on the safe side. Don't put

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a last name on the greeting where it's always on the screen because you walk into the restroom and other places. How about charging the phone in the message? We think that's permissible. Put your hand up.

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Who says you know maybe not.

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Okay, some of the scholars said you get permission to be on the safe side get permission before you plug your phone in. Others have said it's not a very big deal because, you know, for one, it doesn't draw that much energy and sometimes the massage will put a lot of outlets or whatever wants to study with their laptop. So they assume that you might also have usage from these

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plugs. If you want to be on the safe side you can ask windows specifically in a hadith narrated by Muslim that you're not supposed to in the hook but you don't play with pebbles which is what a domestic that the time the pebbles Don't play with them. And even now like the carpeting you can rub images and draw things on the carpeting. They said whoever does that he has engaged in idle action. So if your phone rings in the middle of the football, can you turn it off?

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Yes, because it's a necessary action. We know it's a specific idea that you don't move when you're introduced. What if your phone rings while your institute and your mom you're following an alarm? Can you turn it off? Yes, because also it's a needed action it's going to distract you it's going to distract others. So without end here in Sharla like to thank you for your attentive listening so long robotic Allah Mohammed

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