Channel: Kamal El-Mekki
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to hear about. So the title of the talk is the cell phone.
And some people might, you know, become a little confused why this topic, why the cell phone isn't related to using the phone, and other more important to talk about and establish, right? And this is a complaint a lot of times whenever whatever topic you mentioned, someone will say, well, it's more important to talk about something else talk about some someone will tell you what about solid, it's more important. Why did you talk to us about some? But the truth is, we all have phones, more or less, all of us have phones true. And we all use these funds, and we use them, you know, over 10 times a day or from anywhere from 10 to 30 times a day. And what if we're making mistakes while
using these phones, then we're getting sins or something's being recorded against us every single day. So if we fix that we learn the what are the do's and don'ts of using a phone? I want to begin by saying technology is a blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we all know that there are ways to use technology in obedience to Allah to Allah, or you can use it in disobedience to Allah subhanaw taala and the thing with blessings any blessing from Allah is that we get it you're supposed to use it in obedience to Allah. And you think about a new thankful to Allah subhanaw taala for that blessing.
Anyone remember to thank Allah for having so far?
We haven't we have been for so long that we don't remember that. How many times have we made a love for having a phone, it's one of those things that we take for granted. Because it like the phone, the your hair, your skin, your teeth. Few people remember these as blessings. People usually think about first fruit in this environment, thank Allah for their eyesight, if a few people remember things like that, so the phone is a blessing.
So if someone hears the title of the cellphone filter, they might say, why does this man have to have a say in everything? Even the phone? Now, you're going to tell us this is this is how long is a lecture where everything is now? And the answer is that if Islam teaches you how to wash yourself, after using the restroom, then for sure it's going to have a say in other aspects of life as well. If it went into the fine details of lepen, for sure everything will have some kind of ruling in Islam.
Plus, using the cell phone, it's it goes into one of the most important aspects of Islam, a very, very important aspect, which is the aspect of Mohammed had dealings or interactions with your fellow human beings. And this is a very important part of Islam or false. That's what a lot of the prophets have a bias and then they went into great detail concerning the rules of visitation, how you behave going into someone's home, you know, your gaze, where do you look? And how do you have? What time do you come? How many times do not all these details are covered in great detail. These things are covered in great detail why? Because when you make an error in interaction or you make a mistake or
you occur, what will happen is that it's going to lead to problems between people, right? You don't if you make a mistake in how you interact with someone, you offend them, what's going to happen, it could be jealousy could be NP can be backbiting it could lead to you know, all kinds of miscommunications will lead to rumors that lead to less hearts having friction between you and your brother or sisters between sisters. It can lead to fighting and verbal and cursing and cussing. And it can lead to things worse than that true or false. That means interactions are very important. And the phone is something that we use to interact with one another. Now.
And for that reason, it's important for us to discuss the thoughts related to the use of the cell phone. And some of us might notice as we go along in the lecture that we do commit a lot of mistakes while using the phone.
I'll just start off by saying that the cell phone is a small electronic instrument. But this instrument is linked to another small and dangerous instrument. What is this other small but dangerous instrument?
The tongue, the tongue, very small and dangerous instrument and some interesting things about the tongue. A tongue the tongue is one muscle that never ever ties. True or false. Never types. And you got you know your Jones who's heard maybe chewing gum too much or anything like that. Right? cheeky cheeky cheek muscles. They heard me laughing too much. Your throat my
hurts. Anyone ever complained from the tongue being tired. Ever heard someone loved the odd brother.
never happens. powerful, powerful muscle. Biggest muscles in the body get tired but the tongue never ever tires. And you see the problem is that is that it's a recipe for disaster.
Time isn't tight. It's a recipe for disaster, because few people control the time. Few people control the time. And when you don't control the time it leads to major, major problems. As
he asked the prophets of Allah said, What what are the things that most take people into the Hellfire most people to the fire, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, the tongue and essential organs. So it's one of the top two things that take people to the Hellfire, when we add them into the process. They will
is there anything that will talk to people on their faces into the health plan, except with the exception of their tongues, he's saying anything else that will cause them to fall on their face, besides the tongue. So the tongue is actually very dangerous. And we're talking and we're talking more now, because of cell phones and people, a lot of people are talking without any control over what they say. But in the year 2005, and now it's
2009. But the 2005, they were 2 billion people worldwide, that's 2 billion. And you've seen some countries, even veterans will have a cell phone.
And simple people selling industries have one of them has a cell phone,
I wanted to start by something a little whimsical about the phone, there was a brother he had had a phone in the time that gave him 2000 minutes, these daytime minutes to use time coding the nights and weekends. And
he said I would use up all the 2000 minutes, then they gave me another 3000 minutes a month, 3000 minutes, that's two days and two hours of talking. This is just the data, not counting weekends and nights, weekends, people
call everybody. But 3000 that's two days and two full hours of straight talk per month. He said then he will still finish and complete those 3000
minutes, and he said it was mostly was used was useless talking people just
And it just used the stuff he's getting. He's paying extra for it and all that. He said one thing he tried to do is that every time a conversation ended in like a minute and a half or two minutes, he makes dinner for as long as that conversation. So the two minutes. And then
at the end of the month, as we spoke for 4000 4000. But he said
he couldn't make an update for two weeks, balance all of that. So you know, a lot of it is used this talk and we use the device, his cell phone very much. And few people watch what they say. So that means you could either be gathering a lot of sins, or you can of course use it to gather rewards.
Why should you pay the good citizen you can get those for free. Now you paying and you're getting
one study that was done in a Muslim country, it showed that people who have a cell phone were more prone to live where they live more than those who didn't. I'm not saying that if you see something in the phone
as our means explain. what they said was that they found the
example before, if you have a six o'clock meeting with someone, before cellphones were invented, and you call the house and they picked up, you know where they're right there at home, you know exactly where they are. But after cellphones were hard were invented. So someone you'd call someone, okay, it's almost it's about worrying.
And whereas he's in his living room, or he's just getting in his car as I'm just getting on the highway. And what it means is like I was just there so almost about to get on the highway, almost getting into his car. So it helped people in being able to look
for lecture. And sometimes also the phone is used to for people to show off. It's a sign of status and social status somehow. So someone will walk in and they just want to for somebody to show you the kind of fun that they have. What's the fancy phone that
not sure something else came up. So
I've got an iPhone. So and this is of course,
like there's a distinction but if the PDA or the fancy phone and fancy suit in the car is part of the image quality that can be acceptable. But if you some guys want me just want to show you that he's got an iPhone and this is kind of a weakness.
The believer in what makes the believer special is not the car or the possession, right. But we live in a society where what you own determines who you are. So a lot of times you find people trying to show what they have and what they possess, or trying to get attention to something else besides themselves, it's about their intelligence or the mind, it's just something else until you find like the guy who plays very, very loud music. Industry, you've probably all seen those. They don't have their own problems, these people, they just want to attract attention to themselves. So they're playing the music very loud, not for themselves. For you. They might even be getting a headache, but
they want to show you, hey, look at me,
look at my car, and want to get turn attention to them. And then this is the weak person who is not like that. And I always tell the story of
this man, we were four of us four grown men, three of us had our cars parked on this side of the building. This guy had his car all the way in the back of the building, and we're going to jump there were four grown men. So in the three of us, we know each other and he was introducing himself to us, and we got to know him. So he said, one of us, certainly I've got to
take my car. So it takes us all the way to the back of the building. And when we get there is a two seater Mercedes.
He just wanted to show us his car. So he brought us all the way back, just so you can see his car when we got there. He said, Look,
it won't fit.
What do you think?
He told me, he never noticed there's no back seat and
what's gonna happen exactly. So, but he just wanted to show us that I have this car. So it's like, we won't recognize the place that this individual until we know that, oh, he hasn't considered mistakes. But so what? So but this is the kind of weakness with people. And for those of you who are in the Muslim lands, when the phone first came out, the people who had the first cell phones, but they thought they were so cool these people. And you know, the phones were big and ugly, and everything. And there was this guy who was sick, and he every time he picked up his phone and pretended to be talking about Sure, I worry the 30,000 tomorrow.
Very, very weak every time he wanted to be on the phone, I never want to do it that he's not really on the phone. But it's so special because of a device, something external outside of themselves. But it's not all going to be negative, you know, the phone, the cell phone can be used for a lot of good, right? Because it can you can remind you of pair times, it can wake you up for failure with the alarm, or some brothers will have like a small network, they all wake each other up. That's a good use of the phone. Right. And it also it can be used
to call the title religion to the woman's family members and people are accessible now they can contact you at any time. And
as well as you can use it to organize your time organize your life, whatever software reminders, these kinds of programs in it, you can put it you can put the audio listen to it, or you can put it in written form, you can you can read the Arabic letters and get rewarded for that. So this is all benefit good from the phone, at least one of the one of them.
That I know, we don't want to praise him. But he told me, he said I was and one day just got a text message from someone that I know I know well enough.
That said, free up your time, sit down and contemplate.
Instead, I took it seriously. And he wouldn't let the chain kind of forward into a text message. It was just for him.
So and so
He said I went
night and that was it. His life changed. And he started to
improve, and worship and everything like that. And he says that this was two years ago and that guy doesn't even know that I changed because of his text. I never got to meet him again. So it can be used without it can be used for a lot of goodness, not just all negative.
So I want to start off with a little bit about the advocates of making calls and advocates or receiving phone calls.
First thing we'll talk about the hours in when can you call people do not call people.
And the advice is to not call people at a time when you know that they might be asleep. The province didn't like to talk after Asia and he would go to sleep and many people sleep immediately.
They're few and far between but there's some of us who sleep right after. Right or at least that you
It might be put to bed early or the wife will go to bed early. So if you if you have a friend and you notice the pattern, they tell you, for example, at 2am, so call me anytime. So you can call them at 130. At night, it's not a problem, because they already gave you the Go ahead, or you know that they have to project on sleep. So if they wake up at five, seven o'clock is late, but two hours after two hours, you can call them at 7am. But some people love to get that sweet nap differently, right?
it's a problem for them. Maybe the wife is sleeping, other people are sleeping. So if you know that if you don't have the green light that it's okay, then avoid calling people late at night and calling people very early in the morning. Unless it's someone that you don't have parents who told you it's okay, come anytime you want. And the thing is that is to call late. And they'll call and then they'll pretend they think they're smart. So they'll throw in a disclaimer
Well, what do you think? What do you think you're doing? That is why am
we did you notice what I said?
My voice was clunky and slow. Not cheerful and excited as I usually did you notice that? And then so then
another thing is when you ask someone a question that they couldn't possibly answer in the affirmative, because bothering you, what do you expect the person to say? Yes, you're bothering me. It's very difficult to say that. So once you ask that question, if you can answer it, honestly. Am I bothering you? How many people do you know that you can tell them? Hey, you're bothering me? and still be good friends with them? It's difficult. Yeah. So always never asked people questions like that. I remember this one guy came to my house and he had this little daughter. She was tearing up the house, tearing up the house. And she was building a bridge with parts of my furniture. And I'm
just watching. I never thought of something about politics and conspiracies. I'm just looking at
her. And then after a while he notices. And so when he told me, it's okay.
How do you answer that? He's smiling and nodding. And he asked me this. Okay. What do I know?
What did you tell him? Okay.
people think they're smarter than you think.
Sorry, but it was
really clear that they woke you up. So be careful hours, you call people with time? How would the number of times you can call them I don't need the number of rings. So I call someone the first time until it goes into voicemail. Or call again, until it goes to voicemail? How many times can I keep going this? One time I was I was in the shower, this guy called me like 3438 times in a row. You know, actually, when I came out of the shower, it was like 1214. But then when I saw that aggressive, I'm not gonna answer and they became untalented between the two of us. He just kept calling and I kept refusing to answer. He called him 3438 times. And one guy told me I call this guy
64 times. And he's probably just kept going to voicemail. Rita,
Rita Mayer, you know,
just keeps calling this guy. But let's make some comparisons.
Let's say someone visits you, comes to your house physically comes to your house. So wherever they had to go through to make your home, they took the bus, they got dressed on your coat, they're good. They drove across town, and they came all the way up to apartment and knocked on the door, the first knock or the ring a doorbell and it was well enough that you could have heard it. The first time you didn't have a second time. You didn't answer. The third time you didn't answer what happens,
is supposed to leave. This is easier this time. They're supposed to leave, despite, you know, in the narration where the man came to ask for advice and knocked on the door three times. But the third time he started to leave open the man was way over there.
Because now if someone doesn't answer you three times, this is now physically coming to their home, all that effort. They have the right to not answer they have more rights than you because it's their home. So give them more rights than you the guest. So if he doesn't answer, you don't get angry. Or he might open the door and smile to everything and tell you
what happens. You don't get angry. I will never come down again and you start telling me
this is what it says to me because a lot of
yo, if it said to go back all the time, then go back, it's better for you. So this is telling us how to behave in a situation that is totally okay, go back home, then you go, you don't get angry, it's better for you. This is the right that allows me to give the owner of the home, maybe not a good time, maybe
he's doing something with his family with his children. Maybe in the middle of a meeting, his wife is beating him yelling at him, he can't have you, when you see the blood on the carpet and stuff, he can invite you into the house. So
and that was the case, by the way.
His wife was yelling at him. And then he walked away. And then he came to complain about my wife yelling at me. So you have a bigger problem here.
So, so there are a number of things that we're talking about the number of calls, need excuses for people, and few people do this make excuses for people, maybe someone is sick, someone might be sick.
Or maybe sometimes, you know, maybe they're in the bathroom taking a shower, you called four or five times they were taking a shower. And you know, some people take long showers, it's very possible. Or maybe they forgot their phone in their car. And when you forget your phone in your car before, yeah, plenty of time to get your phone in the car. And you go and some people have called the meantime. Or sometimes you maybe the battery died and you left your charger at work, and you just have no way of answering that phone. Or you lost the phone. All these things happen to people. So seek excuses, don't get angry and assume that they didn't ask me to return me even though they have the right to
ignore him. Because if he physically came to your house, and you have the right to not answer the door, what about
one button? Is there too much?
No, it's because it came all the way across town doesn't have the right to get angry? What do you have to get angry? Because you just move your thumb a little bit
from four places and this guy doesn't answer me. No big deal. So with the phone, you actually coming into their living room, or into his bedroom, he might be sleeping over here, you coming into his house with his knocking, you know, so you don't have the right to get upset if you don't have the right to not answer but also make excuses for the person. And I know in certain countries like you when someone doesn't answer the third time, instead of leaving, they become now creative. And you start to do all kinds of other things. And I know that from originally from Sudan, the people's Five Stones and throwing them at you window, they become very creative. Sometimes they'll call you on the
phone and hit the door with the stone and ring the doorbell and throw things at
you trying to get you out.
There was one of my friends who was sleeping in his room, hot day windows open sleeping fast asleep taking a nap. And
imagine sleeping in a rock smashes into your forehead. He said I was so mad. He said I just poked my head out the window and even look to see what was I said
Two weeks later, this guy comes to
conceal your identity and now you come in exposures through the rock into your home kind of behavior is that?
And then of course there are certain cases where it might be that someone doesn't like an individual. And that's why they don't answer them. So the first one is want to get a clue. It was a guy in our area, very bad tongue just to call to insult you. Or to tell you someone else or to tell you about someone's wife always expose the believers. You want to talk to
anybody? For sure. Right? He's always called me I've never answered him. He never got the glue.
It's hard for me to tell you listen, I don't want to talk to you Don't call me anymore. So
that's not the case for any of you. And the people that don't answer your calls.
So we talked about the hours when you can call and when you cannot call the number of times that you can call someone. We want to now talk about the greeting and the greeting very simply is
right? He says whatever happens after that must be Hi, how are you going? What's going on what's up whatever people say that's fine, but first start off with the setup. We know very well. The
10 in 10 rewards
and then another
And the third method is
how to, because we haven't said 3030 rewards for the simple greeting. So if you have rewards, do you ever say hi? And what's your word for that?
So let me say, so say hi, how are you, whatever you want to say after that. And if you get 10 phone calls a day, you don't get more than 10 calls a day. Yeah, I've met some people, they get about 25 phone calls a day, you know, 20, anywhere from 10 to 25 is each one exchange.
That's 10 or 20. And you multiply by 10 calls a day or your 15 calls a day, you multiply that by 365 days a year, how many years ago that allow you to have your phone, it goes on, it's rewarded. So do not do any of the good deeds and start with.
there is a guy who after industry, man, and this is the guy that you call it.
You know, this is
I don't know who this is. And you know, it's embarrassing. You don't know who someone is, because it's like telling the person, you're so not important, insignificant.
It's hard when someone doesn't remember who you are. But some people just keep doing it. And it's bad enough. When you don't remember someone's face. But voice is not so good. Cause you
recognize you, you don't remember me.
I don't remember you. You can recognize my voice.
But think about it.
Okay, if I apologize when I met you in 2008.
Lot of people in 2008. It was the you know, this journey of hate conference, there were 5000 attendees.
I was the brother with the beard and the hat. Oh, I know where you are now.
What is that supposed to mean? So none of that mystery thing you call?
Especially if the person doesn't have his phone number or anything like that
number from this guy.
And then you say how are you how's everything like that? Some people they do the call you you don't know who they are, you didn't recognize their number. And you want to know who this person is.
They just keep going.
He said to call it five calls
to talk to you about this issue.
And then you start already you can also ask someone, is this a good time?
Which is a very nice question. And if it's not a good time, we went to the woods, in the middle of dinner, whatever, just call me in about 10 minutes. Is this a good time for you? It's a nice question. And it is also any phrase in the positive sense. And you might be afraid what if I just give them an avenue to say no. And well, if they're busy, and that's that you just made it easier for them? It's also better for you, especially those of you who are businessmen in cold climates, it's better to frame it in the positive and the negative and Is this a bad time? Or is a good time? If they say yes, okay, if they say not, then when's a good time to call you. And then that's it. So
it's very simple.
Introduce yourself as much as you like, and then ask if this is a good time for the call or not, is to your advantage if they ask if it's a good time to call because if the the person is busy or preoccupied, they won't give you the attention that you want them to give you true or false. They won't pay attention to you that much in the middle of something. I'm just gonna take a minute
to show okay.
I'm focusing on something else. So ask the questions for your own benefit as well. And we want to want to see like what can we base this on? What's the evidence that we can base it on that you introduce who you are?
He says I came to the front and sat down about the debt of my dad.
Can I be
prescriptive who is not? Who is that when the call to Anna? I said it's me. So the
He said maybe we work he hated he disliked what I said. It makes sense. Right? And what does it mean? It's me.
Who is it? It's me
explain anything to me, me me. What does that mean? to them? I understood the president dislike that. And it doesn't make much sense to
me. But no, no, I mean.
So, so we talked about them the hours, number of times, number of calls
someone to greeting. And we'll talk a little bit about things related to pranks and pranking individuals, and scaring people. And we're going to make use of the phones in an extremely boring, but beware of scaring the bleeding men
scares the believer, a lot will cause them to be scared on the Day of Judgment. So don't do that. And those who like to scare the sisters and brothers and hide in the closet. Don't do that love to be scared. So some people you know, they call
minister, so we need you to leave the country within 24 hours. The guy knows, packing and getting the wife together. And he went through so much here. One thing that I know a lot of people call the police investigating the murder of Mr. Johnson, we have video of you killing
me. Yes, Johnson and keep scaring the person.
So don't scare people. And don't also from from the editors here, do not record conversations, especially about sensitive issues. A lot of times we can record a conversation. And what will happen is that someone will be speaking to someone and then we start to record what they're saying. And then what will happen to play it in a gathering where there's like a few friends who play and publicly embarrass that person or go play for them threaten him with the audio. And then you have to do this or you know, so the tickets for the fundraising dinner, or investing here's the way you said. So it's not it's first of all, it's rude. And it's a it's, it's betraying the trust of the
Magennis when you're talking to people is betraying that trust. Because generally any conversation you have between you and your brother
is like a secret. It's not like when when we were children, you have to tell someone swear? Well, I won't tell anyone and then he swears. And then you can tell how people are grown up whenever you say to someone whenever they see in your home, that's the secret you keep it to yourself. They don't have to tell you don't tell anyone.
In front of people, you whisper something in her ear.
didn't tell it's a secret? But how did she know what was the secret? She said, if you wanted you to have whispered in my ear, makes sense or not. Makes a lot of sense. So wherever you see
anything you see, that happens.
You don't go and spread
so much from the other room.
don't expose that you saw something a fault or
don't expose it. It's like a secret. Other things people do is that they'll put someone on speakerphone without warning.
sometimes on purpose as a prank. And sometimes just because they just don't have the etiquette to tell by the way, you're on speakerphone. They might be talking to people in the car. And then, you know, they're they're laughing at what he's saying. Or we'll do it on purpose. We'll have next to him a transcript of what do you think of SNMP. And then you start saying, nice weather, but he just needs to start doing this show. Another thing that has been interesting to everything. And because lm forbade that you get two animals to fight, let alone get two human beings to find each other.
And things like you know, a brother, I told you secretly that he wants to be a
to agenda so that
I know one relates to love doing that in front of
Easter loving rescue people in front of his wife. I don't know what his goal was. But he would always try to imitate his own. So for me,
in front of his wife, and I think maybe he's trying to prove to his wife that he married a good guy.
My husband is the best of his friends. And maybe that's one of his goals.
and by the way, he was called also besides the trailer and
it's also illegal.
And that's why when you call a company that always told you this call may be recorded because it's illegal to record your voice in advance. So if things get out of hand at first
could put your legal problems in legal trouble as well.
So it's only mentioned the person knows that they're pregnant on speakerphone, are they giving you pointers on what I'm going to record this call because I can't write these lines where the phone number you're about to give me things like that.
Okay, and, of course,
other things that happened over the phone is that sometimes people will call and going on the price, they'll pretend to to be a woman, for example, and to trick you into something. I had one friend, this was a Muslim man, he loves to call people pretend he was alone. Of course, it's not appropriate for a man because he said that the imitator woman is cursed, and the woman cursed as well. When you hear the word curse, you want to stay away from things like that. But this guy love to call people.
So he one time called his own father, look at the addiction. He called his own father. And he kept talking to his father and that sweet voice and stuff. He said, my father kept going along with it. And then I actually set a date up with my father was supposed to meet somewhere at a specific time. I said, Did you tell him it was
too far and went out of hand. And it couldn't have a
hiccup too far out. So it was he couldn't tell him that it was, it was him. But look, this poor man, he might have had a normal day to have breakfast and go to work.
pulled him into a sin, He put him into a sin Have a great evening, as a married man with children agreed to meet some strange woman in the street somewhere. So you put him into that sin you wouldn't have had otherwise. Or at least case it might cause embarrassment in real situations. I used to have one friend, and he used to call and pretend to be assistant, you know, and, and I knew with him his what his sister was was horrible. And his phone number, so he couldn't trick me. So it's just
so. So one day, a sister called me to schedule a lecture in another state. And she saw the dislike of the horrible sister course.
And she's calling me and here I am thinking it's him. And here I'm talking with a strange woman that I don't know.
Where do you live in Atlanta, and I'm thinking
that this is a, this is a real person.
You sound like a brother, a friend of mine.
It was very difficult.
Some of the things and investments that people might fall into. And also, you know, sometimes people don't want to show up for the conversation. So they'll drop names, big names, and they were meeting with the mayor this weekend, or the you know, dimension amounts of money just to show off to others. And of course, we said this is not the way of the believer and you don't make your compensation known just for the sake of showing up. For our students don't answer your phone. In class. Don't do that. It's very disrespectful to teacher you have so far.
Anyways, but you know, a lot of students sometimes will answer the phone in class and enterprise data for the weekend. And I will sometimes be expecting important calls, but I wouldn't answer the phone. I'd respect for the subject.
And I respect for the students. It's very disrespectful when the teacher has
respect for the topic. And for these teenagers, I wouldn't answer my phone. One time I'm expecting a really important call. I don't answer and leave it because of the students. And 10 minutes later, one of my students gets a call, he immediately answers and he starts walking out.
What does this phone call
13 to 14 versus emergency? And I just want to know when things
speaking to Okay.
Thanks for calling. When
I went to
high school, I used to go to the after school, we do classes as well. And these kids always answered
And one of the girls told me my phone is my wife. I told her I needed a new phone.
So as soon as I answer the phone in class is very disrespectful. Okay, what is that what the ringtone is now because this is becoming an issue now. The ring tones don't use music as a ringtone or
music as a ringtone and multiple
And before when the phones first came out, they, they had whatever song but in a different type of beat, like, simplified to me, they call that, but now it's like, you know, has instruments voice everything. And people will just play it and just be blaring in the mystery. And there's one true story.
It was like this.
And this man has music and it was blaring out loud, he doesn't turn it off. And it just keeps playing and playing and playing. And at the end, they said, when the solo was over, we found this old man who was crying real tears. What he said, I never listen to music outsiders. Now first, let's do an install on listening to music.
So we're gonna talk about why some people don't turn off their their cell phone. Because, you know, we're not saying you can't forget about it. Forget. So it's okay, you forgot to turn off your phone at random. And so you turn it off. But some people don't turn it off, and it keeps ringing. And some people, you know, they heard the first guy's phone go off. And then the second guy's phone go off, and they still don't remember to turn off mine. And they the third phone goes off and become a source of distraction for people in the soul. The reason some people don't turn off their phone, is that they think that you're not supposed to make an unnecessary movement. And that's true, yes. But
turning off the phone is this an unnecessary movement is very necessary now. Because it's distracting you. It's distracting many other people besides you. So this is not an unnecessary movement in salon. It's unnecessary movement. And you can make this movement will give some examples, for example, because you know that the whole point is you're not supposed to be distracted and follow up. Right? And this was our favorite
said that if the Panama for Asia prayer is given and dinner is ready, then what? Start within he, he happens
to point to be distracted by something. Because now when you start praying and dinner's ready
on the table.
And what? How focused Are you in trying to finish that, so a lot of saving to the dinner. Worst thing is if you can smell it in
the courier smell it.
Think about your focus now. So that I get
to be distracted by something.
He said that we used to play with the profit center. And when it was intensely hot, so one of us couldn't bear to put his face on the ground, the presence on the ground was really, really hot. So he would spread his garment and prostrate on it, spread piece of cloth and mix it to the end from his clothing. So every time we go to school, he spreads the garment and comes back next time is going into Sunni spreads. This is a lot of movement, right? But it's unnecessary movement. Really, really hot.
So is it okay to leave the movement and Bernier for it? And that's not going to be a focus prayer whatsoever. And if you ever pray like really hot Yeah.
Ever pray like in the hot Florida, we can get really, really hot on time we prayed out
like 60 degrees Celsius, very, very hot. And these rocks was baking in the sun all day there are no clouds, no rain. And it was it was so fun standing. Standing on a
very, very hot, you can focus. So so you can turn off your phone. It's not an unnecessary move. It's actually a very necessary movement at the time. But also
a ringtone like that is embarrassing as well. And I think for the most part, most phones have just a regular ring and then not have to be something musical.
So even spraying the garden was good bye. Bye.
How about using a coronary as a ringtone? Is that permissible?
Okay, so under the association, they said that is not permissible because of a number of things. First of all, go for an alarm to you as a book of guidance, right? There is a message that was sent to you as
an incentive to tell you how
to become a ringtone to bring it down to a level of being just another ringtone. So for instead of being a message in a guidance, guidance from Allah is just there to tell you, hey, by the way, I just call it a person's calling. Hey, you have a call. That's not
that's not the purpose of the program. So that's the first thing. The second thing is
That, that you might, it might rain in the bathroom. So it might be in the bathroom or installed and then
it will start to play inside the restroom. And that's not appropriate either. or in another case, you might want to answer the phone, you might cut the place. Yeah.
Because it is no one.
Do not approach prayer while you're intoxicated. But you might not approach prayer God come near prayer. She might cut off at a bad place or a bad meeting. So it for this reason is we don't put as a ringtone. That's not why.
Just to let you know that someone is calling you or a migraine in the bathroom, or you might just cut it off at a bad place.
Do not also do not use derogatory sounds to indicate the specific person is calling. There's one guy whenever someone calls him into normal ring when his wife calls a dog barking.
There's another guy in the police siren. Office knows when the police siren is his wife. So
now the guy has a volcano erupting sound effect. That means the wife is calling
What do you think this poor woman? How do you think she would feel if she found out that her husband has a dog bark to indicate that she's calling.
And imagine this guy loses his phone one time at the house. So it's
our calling to find your phone.
All right. Another thing I want to talk about today is very important. This cell phone camera, cell phone, camera, phones, now they come with a camera. And they have this belief of these people are Muslims or non Muslims, that if you have a camera in your hand, whether your phone or a digital camera, that means you have the right to capture people's. Most people think that if I have a camera, I have the right to capture your image.
I want to take pictures, I just take the camera problem, I suppose
I have more rights to my image, then you have to capture it. Because one of the purposes of this video is that it came to protect my image to can to protect my reputation is important. as well. You can slander people, you can spread rumors about protecting your image. So this
means I have a right to this image. You can't just because you have a camera, I think you have the right to take my photo, you might get a bad you might get me in a bad position. Or I'm not dressed properly or dressed in a garment. I don't want to be photographed and or I might be having a bad hair day. So you take my picture without my permission. And then where does it go? It goes on Facebook goes all over the place. But you didn't ask my permission for that. Most people just have to take people's photos and you don't need to ask permission.
Sometimes we go to places and people just think,
especially if you're doing from the public house, I can take your picture. I went to this one conference, I'll be speaking to brothers to come. sticker on my face. Take a picture.
What do you think this is?
What are you doing? Exactly?
What are you doing? Sit down?
What are you doing?
So people do all kinds of things. And they take pictures
and take pictures of women at the event without asking permission. So So it's important to have you need to ask people first. And also like general advice for sisters and 200 dyani. Here in the West, we don't really have these things as big problems. But like sometimes you go to
your sister's might go to an event and now people might pretend to be on their phone and then capture image. And it might be a sister's only event to take off your job and then people start to take pictures. It's happened before so in general advice and if you don't know everyone at the gathering of their if there are people who are not an instant but not no religious or anything like that don't take off their hijab, chances are they could be taking your photo and then they'll spread it around to their brother okay. A mother would take this happened in most countries. A mother would go to event many women and young women. They take up a job she takes pictures then she goes and
shows to her son wants to get married. How about this one?
Shall I get the catalog now to pick and choose? So be careful of that. And, and it happens about and
there are no laws, especially in the West, you know, laws, strong laws against, you know, taking a picture of somebody, and someone takes your picture, go into my picture, call the police, are you crazy?
So, so be careful with that. And, and it's part of like seeking like the folds and the flows of the Muslims, the President said
that whoever seeks out means the privates. But it also means that whatever is
private parts, whatever is private or secrets and of the affairs of the Muslims, Allah will expose him even if he's in the middle of his home. So, spying and things like that, be aware of doing that. And a lot of times, you'll find spouses, they read each other's messages despite knowing each other. And there's a true story, the chef was telling the story. He said, I gave a lecture in the masjid. And I called the lecture my mother, mother, mother. So the time I gave the lecture was my mother.
This is after the presidential election was over, I went home, one of them sent me a text, he says, Sure.
Why don't we do a lecture next week? And let's call it my brother. So the shift says in the text back saying that he's married, it takes him a text back saying, What do you think of my sister?
What do you think my sister
is married, his wife comes to spy on when she picks up his text, he finds a chef asking him, what do you think my sister, which means you want to marry my sister, we think it's a good idea for you. And she starts cursing him.
He knows you when he tells you what do you think consistent.
So and then he turns around if you weren't, if you didn't put yourself in that position, if you weren't spine, you wouldn't be in this situation now. And he wouldn't Of course, everyone, Bishop and everyone, everyone does. So, so no spine, on each other's phones for the spouses. And we don't know what the problem is, with texting and Bluetooth, at least not in North America. But Bluetooth in some of the Muslim countries, it's a nightmare. And people will stand next to you and through through the Bluetooth and pull out your family photos and pass each other's numbers and things like that. And then he's wanting to spread one guy who's saying, he's complaining to a ship, he said, my
friend, my circle of friends will always pass we steal pictures of women, and we pass it to each other. Just one time it has been a pitcher's mound system.
And even if it comes from his own household,
and also there is a there are some countries where they have this type of chat room through your phone, you go in and chat with people. And I went to one country when he was telling me how what a big problem it was, everyone's chatting, we'll find the man after he's married. He's chatting on the side and his daughters and sons. Everyone's on that side. chit chatting, just really went through the Muslim community there. And then he told me that a man came to me complaining, told him that he was chatting on that site for a long time will just grow when fun and he's married and he has children. When he finally agreed to meet her, historically amongst himself. When he finally agreed
to meet her, he discovered with his own daughter
that extent so we don't have some of that, but see the problem with these things. And most people feel like
she's far away from
Australia or Houston, Texas. I can't do anything. She's over there. And I'm over here. What happens is these things, these kinds of conversations, they become worse than meeting a sister and in some aspect, meaning that it lowers your inhibitions because
if a sister is in front of you, it's hard for you to say some R rated and rude things. But over the phone, some people have gone overboard with saying very very bad things to each other because they feel there is no danger. You know, there are 1000s of miles away. So what's what's the harm, and so you find so many people with texting and chatting, they are more prone to lying and using and talking about things that are very inappropriate between a man and a woman. So we should be more careful rather than less careful with these kinds of things. And generally, it's good for them to to be kind of straight on the phone, and not
The voice doesn't go up and down too much and doesn't sound too soft. Because most men have problems, you know, and especially the ones who are not
within two seconds into a phone conversation, I know one guy, he, he got a call from this guy for work, it was supposed to be a job interview, and his sister. And
he said, I knew I
was keeping me for this system. The interviewer, she was in the 60s,
a young voice,
how quickly his heart melted and all that because of this issue. So for the sisters, just be careful with things like administrator speaking, normally, they're not trying to speak in a normal voice and on the other side.
So be careful with those things. But so, I think we've ended, I just wanted to mention a few things. In the end, I understand that now the law has been passed that cellphones, it's illegal to use your cell phone, right? while you're driving. And as good as because you know, the cell phone, it's, it's, for example, we say if you use your cell phone, while driving, increased your chances of getting to spend four times more and imagine an extra salary. Brother, give me something, if you take it with you, you will be four times as likely to get to a crash and shop. If it goes from you know, why would I want to do that. But that's what happens when you use the phone. So it's something
that really puts you at risk, then. And if you have children in the backseat, it's putting that risk is pulling your wife and your family at risk. So don't do it, you know, and they say, so 25% of all car accidents are caused by cell phones. Instead, the 19% of these are statistics from the states that 90% of drivers, they will actually text Also, while they're on their phones, is that when you text while driving, you your eyesight is your eyes are 400% more distant, off the road 400% more than if
your eyes are off the road. And then your ability to stop quickly slowed down by 18%. Even your ability to pick up speed again, by 70% when you're on the phone is destructive. So it's a distraction. And it's dangerous that can put you in potential harm's way. So and by the way, the law of not using the cell phone doesn't mean what you do is
feel free to invest in getting that device or that and it doesn't mean you just if there's no one watching, go ahead and use it. I want to end with a quick mention of the dangers of cell phones. As a show of hands, who thinks so far too dangerous? Put your hands up?
Who thinks that they could be dangerous? Maybe Yeah. And we think they're not dangerous at all.
Okay, that's good. I want to encourage you to do your own research. And I also want to encourage you to to move towards thinking that phones are possibly dangerous.
The thing is that it's relatively new technology. So there is not a definite definite study that will tell you cell phones, yes, they are dangerous. It's new technology. We need to understand this. The cell phone industry, they don't care about, okay, they don't. Some years ago, maybe four or five years ago, they interviewed some of the leaders in the cell phone industry. They asked him this question. He said, Have you done any studies to show if cellphones are dangerous or not? And the guy said no. He said, why not? He said, he said because in 10 years, we'll know exactly when it goes to people.
And they don't care that it continues to be discovered your eyeballs pop out,
we're gonna know that problem. And once we know it, then so we don't care about you. And if you ever surprised by how large the industry not care about you, the best example is
tobacco industry. So that the industry doesn't care about you at all. They just want your money, they rent on their product that is gonna kill you. They don't care.
They write it themselves. It's gonna cause you know, arteries and heart problems and
they don't care. They just care about the money. Same thing with the surf industry, the food industry, many of them don't really care. What happens in the long run in America is programming. You know, it was certainly industry can push enough money to politicians and then
unknown to the answer to people but the lobbying and so no one cares about you except you.
You're the only one who cares about you.
Participate, do your own research, but let's move towards believing that there could be some
hope there is microwave brains.
So it uses that. And there are certain studies universities have in Sweden and other places that have made the link between cellphone usage. And one study said that those who use a cell phone for over 10 years were twice as likely to develop a tumor in America between the year and the brain. And the whole thing about the brain is it doesn't have blood flowing through it. So so it's effective when this energy is transferred into your head. And when you get a headache from using the phone.
Yeah, okay, one or two people. And we'll get an earache or jaw ache from using the phone too much.
Okay, because the light
only wiggling around here.
So, just because the energy transfer, they tell you that 400% more energy is transferred into children, because they have been cranium discovered in two
and 20%, more than an adult in a 16 year old. So it's good advice to not let your children play with the phone by the fake phone, or what have you. Come up with fun. I want to end by saying the World Health Organization, and 1.0 Tony, there's no problem with the cell phone. And another time will tell you the current something known as a precautionary principle, which basically means that
it means that we don't have enough scientific data to say it is dangerous. But there's enough to believe that it could be potentially very dangerous. So So pick up your mind, so and so forth. Industry, they hired someone to say that cell phones do study and say that cell phones are not dangerous. And now that man has been the number one person advocating against traditional cell phones. And if you go on the internet, you'll find many interviews with people who were studied in this field. And most of them don't even have a phone to tell you, I need it. I'm busy. But I don't have a phone, I don't want a phone. And if you do use the phone, they'll give you some advice where
for example, putting your finger between you and the phone you had in the phone that will decrease the energy transfer, using the cordless or the cordless one, it will form it's not like a book is The words are not there. It's just stored in digital form. So you don't see the words on the screen when you close it. There. So yes, you can walk
into the restaurant. However, when you have a buzz name on the greeting, and the green is always there on the screen. Can you walk into the restaurant?
On the greeting display anything else so that you don't take into the restaurant? What about charging the phone?
Yeah, okay, some scholars actually said get permission from the people in the masjid. And
because we're here because we will be drawing from the electricity. And other said, it's not a very big deal that draws very little. So it's to be on the safe side where you do get permission. And mostly because of the question regularly or wherever you go to regularly just find out what the policy is. But you could assume that because they put these plugs around, maybe they're intending that if you're studying the history, you can plug your laptop and plug your phone. But if you want to go into space where you can you can find out how about we know that in the 30s by Muslim touchpanels during the time of play with the pebbles you will be engaging on the carpet or
drawing on the carpet. This idol action What is your phone?
Can you turn it off? Yes, I will action so important. It's going to keep ringing distracting you and other people during the whole bus. Oh, yes, you can turn it off.
And last question. What about Institute is specific ideally don't move when you're in frustration
or if it rains?
So disclose that. Yes, you can turn it off. Because again, there's a reason it's important that you distract them, not just you, but others as well. So and here
was, there's a brother that's going to speak to you a little bit.
But he's going to talk to you a little bit about mercy mission and vision.