Our Character A Witness For Our Faith Part 1

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Jamal Zarabozo

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90s in 1970 so

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that all but it was an

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attempt some essential issues for the Muslims

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is currently

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the Director of answers question answers for the LG magazine.

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He is a respected by the United States of America

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and he answers many questions of thick

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entities in the USA

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Sheriff has also translated many books about the salon such as Islamic factors for women.

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This is a well needed book on essential issues

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and also he has translated the Muslim trade

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I believe he's also written a book called the Friday prayer

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in three volumes

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should be an example and give encouragement to all of us

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in the sense of his knowledge

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he has returned in the USA not from studying in an Islamic institution which many believe is the only way

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to talk to the sheriff is when you speak to a bank today is the qualities of a believer culture of a Muslim He will speak for about one hour

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in sha Allah

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after which there should be 15 minutes allocated approximately for questions and answers inshallah

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sisters I would request sincerely that you make your question questions on paper that will be passed around to you during the lecture is much preferable this way and this way I can I can select the questions and answers and for your balance you will you're answered inshallah

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okay brothers I now hand you over to share your now Zelda puzzle

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it's been that often the Rahim al hamdu lillahi Mehta who in a strain of hoonah so

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when we let him he should already um kusina What's the gamma Nina may be low for them or did Lola woman good little fella hurry Allah

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or Sharon Illa Hyndman la vida hula shady color or shadow one number how many add to who What

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about

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children today's lecture

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I want to discuss

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one of the most important aspects of Islam

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and in fact one of the most important aspects of of Eman

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However, for whatever reason,

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sometimes it is something

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that we neglect

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something that we fail to put into practice

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in the way that we are supposed to.

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And this is

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the topic of having the proper Islamic character and behavior

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when

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and why in general

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will go going to Yemen

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the former Hamas SLM

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gave them some

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words of advice.

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Some farewell or departing words of advice.

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The first of them was

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to have

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a fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala wherever

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you may be,

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or under whatever circumstances you may be

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and then the policy cillum to toe the toe them to

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In evil deed, with a good deed for certo erasing or removing

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and then the policy SLM told them to behave with the paper people had a nurse before looking

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with a good behavior.

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And this was, as I said, his

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advice

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to these teachers that he was sending to Yemen, to bring the people Islam

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to show them what Islam is,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala

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realize that you will make mistakes, but you follow up those mistakes with good deeds

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and

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in your behavior towards the people who should behave in a good fish.

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Now, this

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concept in the Arabic language, which is discussed as it

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comes from the same or is related to the same word, which describes creation itself, hello.

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And because of this,

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some people believe

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then a person's own accord a person's behavior is something ingrained in him.

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And he This is how he was, this is what he was born with, or this was how he was brought up.

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And so, therefore,

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the person cannot change his behavior. And he This is the way he is and this is the way he should remain.

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So from the beginning, you have to realize this understanding is not correct.

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misunderstanding is not correct, whatsoever.

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And if this understanding were correct,

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then our lesson Hana with data will not oblige us

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to have a good character.

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If we're all born with a specific character, I mean, Allah subhanho wa Taala does not oblige us to be black or Caucasian or Pakistani or Arab, whatever. Because these things are beyond our control.

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We have nothing to do about them.

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With respect to our behavior,

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and our actions, these are things that we can control.

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We can

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become or make ourself accustomed to behaving in specific ways until that action and that kind of behavior becomes natural for us, and it flows from us easily.

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And inshallah, in this lecture, I will try to do some points of how we can develop our behavior

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and our actions to be the correct behavior in general.

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However,

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one thing that we noticed about this study

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is that the policy seller mentioned a tough one.

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And then the policy SLM later mentioned having good behavior.

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Commenting on this headache,

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and ignoring this, some people may understand from this the top was one thing and having good behavior or something else.

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So as we said, with having good character is a characteristic of taqwa

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and temper cannot be complete without it.

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And it was mentioned here by itself then it was mentioned even though it is a part of the process, as I mentioned it separately,

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in order to emphasize it, explicitly, point out the importance of because

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and he paraphrase it for phrasing what he said when it comes to taqwa.

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Many people think that means fulfilling the rights of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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So they think that stuff was praying, and fasting, and so forth.

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However, this is just one part of tough work.

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This is not all there is to taqwa

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also includes behaving in the proper way with respect to your brothers and sisters in Islam.

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In fact, includes behaving in a proper way towards all human beings.

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In fact, suffer even in US behaving in the proper way towards animals.

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All of this

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all of this is part of

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the process and I mentioned it separately here

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to give it some emphasis

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in the same way that Allah Subhana without always talks about mentioned alladhina ermine, why Minnesota had those who believe in do good deeds, the doing of good deeds is part of the man.

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But to emphasize it and stress, it's important it is mentioned separately.

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So, in this Hadith,

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the prophet SAW Salem

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while in Abuja over there

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two characteristics

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that were will lead them to Jenna actually.

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Because in another Hadith,

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the prophet SAW Selim

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was one time asked, What is the behavior? What is it

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the most leads the people to agenda, the most needs the people to enter into agenda.

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And the provinces send them said, Look, we'll law we're hosting in

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the law,

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the theme of Allah subhanho wa Taala and

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grab consciousness and good behavior.

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And in fact, if we look in the Hadith, the prophet SAW Selim, and we look in the Quran, we see that the Quran and the Hadith stress,

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numerous occasions the proper behavior between

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Muslims between men plan, in fact,

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this port,

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as some of the alumni have pointed out, this is part of the shadow.

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any unnecessary or a consequence of the proper Shahada is the proper behavior is the behavior that corresponds to one's belief in Laila. Hello.

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And it is inconceivable that someone would say, Senator Layla Hilah. And really believe in it

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and really understand it.

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And then his behavior

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does not demonstrate that belief in that understanding.

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This means impact is not amplifying what is the divine

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as a shortcoming in his application.

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And in fact, even the process elements to this, it's one of the main reasons that he was sent

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was to complete or to fulfill the proper behavior.

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And if you show the correct improper behavior among men, and that was one of the main purposes for which the problem homosassa

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was sin.

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And the process Selim has said that he is, again guarantees the house in the highest part agenda and the highest part the paradise for the one of good behavior

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of good manners.

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Another headache, the Bible says lm says, meaning, meaning a man in whom

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the believers

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did have the most perfect and complete Eman are those that have the best behavior

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the best cater

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so this shows us right away how

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closely related Eman is to proper behavior. It is a sign the best the better a person's behavior and actions. This is a sign that his Eman is more complete and perfect.

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A man is not simply

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and is not a man is not simply just rattling off some principles and saying to read it divided into three categories and you must believe in this and you must believe in that and so forth. That is not the man

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That is part

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of the overall picture.

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But the man also includes believing that and putting that into practice and when that is put into practice the person who has the best behavior.

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So that is why the believer was the most complete Eman is the one with the best behavior.

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Another had a policy also told us

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Naumann chain a scholar film is Memphis Nicola.

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There is nothing heavier

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in the scales

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and judgments, there's nothing heavier on the scale.

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Then good behave in good manners and good conduct. good character.

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Well, let's have a look closer to the Rosa cillum and the Quran and how Allah subhanho wa Taala describes the believers. One of the main ways that Allah subhanho wa Taala describes the believers is by their actions, for example, how they fulfill their promises, how they keep their trust, and one of the main ways that the poet says them described the hypocrites is by their actions.

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That when he speaks he lies when he gives a promise he breaks his promise and so forth.

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And all of these actions or all of these aspects,

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they fall into the fall under the category of proper footwork or proper behavior

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and what is proper behavior?

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What is good hope

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and to understand that

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find out what is the source for how we behave return to the listener.

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We do not take our values from any non Islamic system or philosophy or anything like that we take our values from the Quran.

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The Quran and Sunnah praises some characteristic

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like hate,

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modesty

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then we know that that is a good characteristic regardless of what any other system

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may say about it.

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So we must turn to the Quran we must turn to the sooner the Prophet says lm to understand what our builders should be like.

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And the Quran and the Sunnah discuss many different aspects of behavior, we should turn to them

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and we should learn from them how we ought to behave in our lives.

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And the best example for us

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the best example for us of how to live by the Quran and how to have the behavior that the Quran asked the West

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is the problem Hamas or Salim as I should describe him kind of kind of hopeful on

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and he his behavior his actions was that of the Quran.

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So this once again emphasizes the importance

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of turning through the example of the promise SLM and turning through his sooner

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to learn what is this good behavior that all of us are supposed to have?

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Another heading

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the prophet SAW, Selim, said Alberto

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Alberto, Bushnell

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Albert

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and he

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has two meanings

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as two possible meanings.

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One is the behavior and how to behave towards other human beings.

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And the other is righteousness as a whole.

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So here are the prophets SLM is telling us

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that righteousness

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according to this interpretation, the second interpretation, righteousness is itself questioning, good behavior, proper behavior.

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And some of the commentators on this headache they said What this means is that

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part of righteousness is good behavior.

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But that doesn't seem to be the best interpretation.

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Because when a statement of this nature is made, like when the promises send them through this, the types of other Hydras are over this thing at the alpha.

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When a statement of this nature is made, what it means is that the most important and the most essential aspect

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of this thing is, as explained, in other words, the most essential aspects and the most important act and hence is alpha and simply the most essential and the most important aspect of a birth of righteousness is good conduct and good behavior

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and

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personal

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righteousness itself, the main and most important aspect of it is good and proper behavior.

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Now, of course,

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we have to understand

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what is holding?

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And what do we mean by hold?

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Because there is

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a very unfortunate

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misunderstanding of this concept. There is a misunderstanding of how all inclusive This concept is.

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The sometimes you will find, for example,

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a person doesn't pray, and you Muslim.

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I won't go into the discussion of whether someone who doesn't pray as a Muslim or not, that would take a few hours.

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Let's assume, okay, unless someone doesn't praise me,

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or doesn't fast or whatever.

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Sometimes you'll find for example, describing someone else describing that person said Oh, he doesn't pray but he has very good character.

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Very good behavior.

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And you can hear this a lot.

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And he this one doesn't play doesn't fast it doesn't come to Moscow doesn't do this. He doesn't do that.

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Oh, but he has very good character.

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And this is because we misunderstand the Islamic concept of a hula

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because of good behavior, good conduct, is not just good conduct with respect to other human beings.

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But good conduct is first and foremost with respect to Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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How can you behave well towards other human beings and you do not behave well towards your Creator?

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The one who has given you all of these bounces and is guided you and showing you the truth for you to forget if you want

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if your world throws any human beings but you do not behave well towards Allah Subhana with

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this lemon of good character.

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If you see for example, a son who is nice to his friends, but he's terrible to his parents.

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You say oh, this is a person of good character.

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Usually not maybe some of you I don't

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know when not the states.

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Of course the stage maybe let's not get into that.

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And this is usually any This is unacceptable. You will not call that person what a good kid. But if one behaves well towards human beings, but does not be a world towards Allah subhana wa tada then we say, Oh, he has good kids.

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And this is because we don't understand or don't take into consideration the all inclusive nature of hulak from the Islamic perspective.

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We will say that

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questioning and righteousness is good behavior you think it just means good behavior towards others and not towards Allah subhanaw taala

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you think a person will get a house in the highest part of gender just because he believes realtors errors when he doesn't behave well towards Allah subhanho wa Taala

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was no

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good behavior proper behavior

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has three or can be divided into three categories.

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proper behavior towards Allah subhana wa Taala

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proper behavior towards other human beings

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and proper behavior towards one's own self is the second category to say better, proper behavior towards other

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others other creatures,

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other parts of creation

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Oh creation in an environment you can include in there

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with respect to Allah subhana wa tada

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with respect to Allah subhanho wa Taala the proper behavior and this also would include proper behavior towards the form homosassa Lim ne this would be included in the second category, but there's an in some cases like your parents the program so cillum they might have special

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rights upon you But in general, they would fit the nursing category of proper behavior towards others of the creation

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with respect to proper behavior towards Allah subhana wa Tada. The first aspect of it is to believe sincerely and completely in wherever Allah subhanho wa Taala is revealed.

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This is part of one's proper behavior towards Allah subhanaw with that,

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that when Allah subhanho wa Taala has declared something has said something in the Quran, you believe in it completely without any doubt whatsoever.

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That is part of your proper behavior towards Allah subhanho wa Taala. And secondly, you must accept what Allah has commanded or prohibited and fulfill those commands or prohibitions in your life.

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This is how you should behave towards Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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This is how your homework should be with respect to your career.

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And if you don't have those aspects,

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then that means that you do not have the proper hulak towards Allah subhanho wa Taala you do not have the good the proper behavior towards Allah subhanaw taala you may claim as much as you want that you're a good person with good behavior and so forth.

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But if you do not have the proper behavior towards Allah subhanho wa Taala then you are having proper behavior towards others, but not with respect to the most important one that you must have propagated towards.

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inclusiveness also

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is to have patience and acceptance of whatever Allah subhana wa tada has decreed.

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And this also

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you can find, for example, sometimes

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that one human being is wrong by another human being

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the one there's something wrong to him.

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The second one, if he's a good behavior, so to speak,

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then he might forgive the other person, even though he's wrong.

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But when it comes to Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah subhanho wa Taala may have decreed something for the person that he doesn't like to this day.

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He hasn't wronged him in any way.

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Because if you imagine all the sins that is committed, I'm sure that Allah subhana wa tada is not wrong him in any way.

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And yet, he's very upset with what Allah subhanho wa Taala has decreed for him.

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If another human does something like that, he might forgive him and let it go. But if it comes from Allah subhanho wa Taala he becomes very obsessed with Allah subhanho wa Taala for what Allah subhanho wa Taala has decreed for him.

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And he This is again once again this is improper behavior and proper khaolak towards Allah subhana wa tada

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and then there is the proper hulak towards others of this creation.

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And this is the aspect that most people stress when talking about good, but as I said, this is not the first and most important as it is very important is an essential aspect of good work.

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And either we must behave towards one another in the proper manner.

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We should be kind with one another.

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We should respect one another's feelings.

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We should try to fulfill each other's needs and wants.

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When we see each other, we should greet each other. We should have a smiling face.

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We should give the greetings of peace to one another.

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We should refrain ourselves from harming our brothers in any way.

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This is all part of hoarseness.

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And especially in this day and age,

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when there is so much confusion among Muslims and so much division,

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they will have to remember this aspect. Because even with respect to your enemy,

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over the space, respect your enemy, you have to behave in the proper way.

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Even if you have a hatred towards someone, even if it is a hatred for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala, that doesn't give you the right to wrong that person, or to lie to that person and so forth in ways that are not sanctioned by the city.

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So this is true, even with your greatest enemy for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. What about with respect to your brother.

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And as I said, this is something that we must revive the proper behavior towards one another. We should not go around backbiting one another.

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We should not go around spreading stories about one another. spreading lies about one another.

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We should confirm everything that we hear and not spread these things.

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And I better came up to me just the other day. I know his uncle and I don't know his two brothers. I know his family. He just came United States. And he came up to me and he said, Oh, I heard that you're from Pakistan and you speak 16 languages.

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I said okay.

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I mean, this is not something of course, insulting or anything, or anything of that nature. But still it I mean, we should confirm.

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I can tell you the number of stories people tell me, the most of them are complimentary. But they're just I don't know where they came up with them.

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Can we should make sure that if we're going to say anything about our brother, we should make sure First of all, it is good. And it is true, this proper and correct.

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And you will behave in this way towards one another.

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Shall and this is part of the aspect of ourselves

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coming together as missiles and our hearts been brought together.

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As Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, as well as the story has an

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ability here

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to

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listen to what Allah says the good deeds and evil deeds are not equal.

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Then the university and a repair the evil with a deed it is better. And even if someone does something wrong to you, it is part of good behavior, proper behavior as taught to us by the Quran, that if someone does something wrong to you, your response should be something better.

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And then if you do that,

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the result will be that between the one and even before there was enmity and hatred between them, if you behaved that way towards him, then who will become as if you are your close friend.

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He will become your close friend.

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Those of you believe it towards him.

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He has any moral sense whatsoever. He has any men whatsoever. And every time and he's doing the wrong and you treat him in a better way. After a while he will say why am I running this person? Why am I having this person? Let me instead do good to him like he's been doing.

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And this is the guidance from the Quran.

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This is the driving force we have to behave.

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I mean we have this the guidance that we have to implement

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in our lives we

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also have to have proper behavior towards our own nuts are also on so.

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And you're listening subhanho wa Taala has created this for us.

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But there is a kind of trust.

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We don't have the right to do whatever he wants to do to ourselves.

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So we must have the proper behavior throws owns our own soul.

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We must do those things that will keep

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keep us away from harm.

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In this life, and in the course, most importantly,

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we must do those things that will keep us away from harm.

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Physically, even in this life,

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and spiritually.

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And one of the most important aspects inshallah that can help us in this is by striving and sacrificing, in order to get knowledge, the proper knowledge, and then striving and sacrifice to implement the known.

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This is how we should behave towards our own selves.

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If we are not doing this, roll your own selves,

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we are maybe being nice to others, and then we're forgetting about their own ups.

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And you find that also among those people who don't play fast, but they, they say that they have good character, there are many times often the same people who do not stand it again and again and apply the game properly.

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So they are wrong in their own selves.

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And this is not their rights,

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they don't have the right to do that.

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As I mentioned earlier,

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and it

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is not just something that you're born with.

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But instead what happens is sometimes some people are born an instinct, instinct, or by nature, they have good characteristics,

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proper characteristics.

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And if this is the case with you,

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then you should think Allah subhanho wa Taala, that He created you and gave you those characteristics. And you should continue to use

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those characteristics or behave in that fashion, for the sake of alyssum. And with that,

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but if you do, if you find yourself, if you don't have those good characteristics, then it is possible for you to change your characteristics.

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And what have you, for example, anger.

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And there's one thing that many, many people use as an excuse.

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And then they get angry, and then they do things. And then they say things

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that are improper. And they can really cause a lot of damage in the among the community, among the brothers and sisters.

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And excuse for all, you know, I get angry, and I get angry, you know, quickly, this is just my way.

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Okay, change your way.

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If you know how bad it is,

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and how harmful it is, then change your way.

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And then use that as an excuse.

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The polycephalum give that as an advice to a person and he didn't get angry.

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Yes, and for advice, he said, don't get out. Don't get angry.

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I know people

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that before they became Muslim, they used to get angry at the at the slightest thing.

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Like when they're playing basketball. And when my brother I mean when his brother, they suddenly throw.

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And before I became Muslim, I used to have the worst temper in the world, especially when it came to sports.

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But after I became after I became Muslim,

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and when I read all these things about how you supposed to behave and how you should not get angry, and you must control yourself.

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That's one aspect then everything started to change after that.

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So there are many ways or the aspects by which we can

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change our behavior in sha Allah

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to the proper and correct behavior, and we cannot use this as an excuse that oh, this is just the way I am. Please forgive me this is just the way I am no.

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This room may forgive you. But you have to realize that you have to change if you don't have the right code.

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And the steps that you can use You shall love to change. It's First of all,

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you should study the Quran and the hadith of all Salaam to realize how important it is to have the right behavior to have the right condoms.

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And if you read about the life you are you realize how important it is. So you pray when you read about Jihad and you realize how important

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Jad is so you go out and make your head. So you read all of these verses and all this hadith about proper behavior

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then you should change your behavior according to what

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these verses in his head is telling you.

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It's just like the other aspects.

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And when you study the Quran and the Hadith, this will make you realize how important

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this area is

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and how pleasing it is to Allah subhanho wa Taala for you to have the proper behavior

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when you realize how pleasing it is to Allah subhanho wa Taala this should drive you to sacrifice and work as hard as you can to get this characteristic.

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So first aspect inshallah,

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you should try to study the Quran, Hadith, and realize its stress on good character and do your best and shall lead to change accordingly.

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And secondly, also, you should be in the company of those people of good character.

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It's not surprising if someone hangs out with people with bad character that he picks up some other traits. And it is not surprising at all.

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But when you are in the company of good people of good character,

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there will be setting an example for you.

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You will see between the two of them, for example,

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this, the same thing could happen between two people, they have good character,

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they may just laugh it off and you know, say okay, I'm sorry, forgive one another and have no hard feelings towards them.

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And it happens between people of bad character, the first thing they say is Come on, let's step outside. I don't know if you have that expression in England or not.

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So, I mean, if you're around that all the time, you know, let's give us this. So the first time you get into fights, what are you going to do? I mean, first time you get into arguments, what do you do going to have the same behavior.

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Because that's what you've been stressed what you've seen, that's what you've shown you even think that's normal behavior.

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But if you're if you're around those people have good behavior.

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Then you learn from their examples. And this is now normal behavior for you. This is now how people should behave.

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And there's many Hadith the prophet SAW Selim that shows me the importance of being around good people. And we should choose especially for our close friends, we should choose this people have good kids.

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And in fact, last time I was here at this conference two years ago.

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Somehow I got into saying that Danny being a be an example and having an influence on others. And it should not be just with respect to for example, teaching and so forth. But we also need those examples

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that will guide us when it comes to proper behaviors. And I mentioned that my shift of

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weather wherever living in LA Provence here again this year. So if you want to know if you want me to point it funny, Matthew is probably leaving right now as I say this, you can just watch him and how he behaves and get some example from his behavior. Or you can ask anyone from Lovegrove.

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Finally, also,

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I guess not Finally,

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and you also person should realize what are the negative consequences of having bad character.

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Think about the negative consequences of having bad periods.

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This should also help you inshallah change.

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Think about what it does.

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For your personal relationship with others,

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between a husband and a wife, even between parents and children in between brothers.

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When you have bad character, bad behavior, think about the negative results that usually come up.

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When you lie to someone when you cheat someone.

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When you get angry someone and all these things, think about what are the results of

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if you are

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an intelligent human being

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an intelligent human being inshallah, when you realize is that the negative results of something that is doing shallow stuff.

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But if you are a believer especially, you claim to be a believer

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Then obviously, you will do that.

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And the negative results obviously, of course, they are not just with respect to this world.

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But you should think about what are the negative results of your bad character in the sight of Allah spend with that and what will happen to you in the hereafter because of your bedroom.

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And inshallah, if you do these three things, the three steps and studying the Quran was enough to realize the importance of proper behavior and being around the good people and concentrating and thinking about the main negative results. Jared is through we'll help you.

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We'll help you change your ways. And of course, it's also directly related to taqwa and you men.

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If you truly increase your amen of your study

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the religion correctly

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that should lead you to increase your Eman And as you increase your Eman, you will find your character changing.

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I can assure you that as you increase your Eman you will find your character improving and changing

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the policies selama told us that the one with the most complete Eman is the one with the best here and we should always keep in mind the problem Hamas are settling

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here was the excellent example for us.

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As Allah subhanho wa Taala is describing the TA and a full open IDM he has a great character good behavior and we should go back to read about his life and how he behaved and how we treated others and we should take that as an example

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and try our best to follow Java.

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Finally,

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before I end let me just

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as a word of advice.

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And it we should all go to the Quran and Sunnah.

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And we should see what are some of the kind of behaviors and actions that Allah subhanho wa Taala has encouraged us that the province of cinema has told us to do

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and let us compare it to our lives.

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And let us see whether or not in fact we are really people of good character

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and we'll find this where I'm missing in some of those aspects whether it is with respect to Allah subhanaw taala or with respect to others of creation or the specter allness.

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Enjoy yourselves inshallah and see and then inshallah do our best to correct ourselves and to have that proper character, which is righteousness in itself and which will lead us inshallah, to dinner.

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On that point, inshallah we'll and lecture and open the floor for questions or comments.