Inspirations From The Righteous – 3

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Lessons from the life of Ayesha

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something a bit more light, and something which inshallah is applicable to each of our lives. And that is we're going to analyze a few of the narrations about how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Ayesha Angelo and how they interacted with each other. And from there we can extract some lessons for our own lives and how we deal with each other. So inshallah last week's topic was a bit more heavy. As we are dealing with a very important our topic, this week's topic will inshallah be a lot more fun as we are looking at a different side of the Syrah because for many of us, when we talk about the Syrah of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam. When we studied in school, or in the

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madrasa, what we studied, for most of us is the woods, right, we learned after the hegira, we basically just go through Battle of other Battle of the Battle of the trench. And this 10 year period of Medina, is reduced to about six or seven battles. But this is 10 years of Islamic history. Between the battles, we have Rasulullah sallallahu, Alayhi, wasallam, living as a husband, as a father, as a counselor, as a teacher, as a statesman, as a scholar, as the leader of the community, as a, as an advisor, all of these different roles he plays. And very often we don't see this side of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam, when we fly through the history, just from a perspective of

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the mahasi of the battles, so when we zoom in, and we go deeper into the life of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And we look at how he dealt with his family members, how he dealt with his wives, most of the generations that we have, about how he dealt with his wives, with Aisha radiallahu anha. And they are two reasons for this idea two reasons why we have more narrations about how he dealt with Asia than his other wives that I can think of. The first is that Ayesha herself was the fourth highest Murrieta of Hades. So many of these narrations were narrated by Aisha herself. She narrated to us her story and her interaction with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi. Salaam,

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I'm sure the otherwise hadn't read it as much then just as much might have initially asked about them. But she was more involved in the narration of Heidi's so we see more narrations coming from her about her life. The second reason and so many people ask this about four D john, why don't we have as many generations about Khadija rajala

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as we have about Ayesha and it's if you look at it historically, it's very simple. Khadija radula, one ha was there in the very early part of Islam.

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Most of the Sahaba, who narrated headpieces, they came in in the later part of Islam. So they did not interact with Khadija, or they were not around when a DJ was around. Many of the Sahaba were alive at the time and for DJ was married to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Many of these Sahaba passed away during his lifetime. Many of them did not become additional readers. So we don't have as much narrations about the early part of Rasulullah sallallahu cems life as the later part. Furthermore, when Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was married to Khadija they were only around 100 Muslims in Makkah, probably less. While when he was married to Asia, they were 1000s of

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Muslims. So it's a very different situation. So that's why we have more narrations about Asia than any of the other wives.

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And in the regions of Asia, rajaraja are very, very fascinating. It really shows us a different side of the Syrah once Rasulullah Islam according to a narration by Ayesha herself. She says that once when they were returning from a journey, he told the rest of the group to continue, and he stayed back with Alicia. And when the group had moved on, they had gone further out of sight. Rasulullah sallallahu, Lisa in Asia, they had a race, and I shadowed her she won the race she beat Rasulullah Islam at Ronnie This is when she was really young. A few years later, she says they raised again, and I shall read that at this point in time, she had picked up weight and Rasulullah sallallahu

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Islam beat her the sang. And he told her, this is for that meaning this victory is a change of view between the earlier so this nation shows Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam racing with Aisha

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a second generation before we extract lessons when

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Similar is related about the day of eat. Once on the day of eat, they were some young girls who came into the house of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam to play with Aisha. Right. These are very young girls.

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Moses colisee, they will not. They will not pass puberty yet. And they came to the house, they were playing with Asia. They were playing with the deaf the drum, and they were singing a few songs, and Boubacar came in. And he scolded these girls. He told him not to do this, and Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam replied, and he told aboubaker leave them, leave them alone. So alberca went away. When these girls finished playing the finish thing, they also went away. And there were some Abyssinian Muslims who were playing in the masjid with their shields and their swords. They were basically having like a demonstration or a play in the masjid with the, with the shields and swords, and Ayesha

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Rasulullah saw some arsa do you want to go and watch? Do you want to watch the Indians playing with yet she was in salt? And she said yes. So they went out and she stood behind the Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam with her cheek touching his cheek and the watch the display. And every time Rasulullah saw some asked if she had watched enough if she was tired, she was done. She said no. Until finally she said yes. And she could see that he was getting tired. But he was standing there for her. And these narrations are both mentioned in Sahih al Bukhari these are the reactions from Bukhari. Right. So these are definitely authentic narrations. So the first thing I want to discuss

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from these two stories, is the concept of having fun in Islam. Because there is this misconception amongst Muslims today, that to be a practicing Muslim, you need to be serious all the time. Like many Muslims, they believe that to be a practicing Muslim, you can't have fun, right? You just got to be full time into a bada and the force this upon children and upon teenagers. And so you have some children whose parents will not allow them to do anything fun, because they believe an Islamic while on these stories, we see very clearly that the Rasulullah sallallahu, Alayhi, wasallam, and Ayesha as well as other Sahaba. They used to have fun, as long as it was helpful, but it did not in

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any way contradicting worshiping Allah, fulfilling the purpose of life.

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Now those Muslims who believe that you are not allowed to have fun, they call the Hadees where Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam said, every act of play and amusement is batting except for horse riding, swimming, and archery. needed ventilation mentions wrestling as well. Right? combat sports. So there is this narration that says every act of amusement is battle, except for archery, swimming, and horse riding. And so some Muslims going with this Hadees alone, they say that having fun is haram except for these three things. Mr. Al ghazali Rahim Allah is a Luma. Dean, he refutes this concept, and he refutes it by bringing the same generation about Ayesha will be mentioned now. And

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he says that this narration cannot mean that every other way of having fun is haram. Otherwise, how do we explain Rasulullah some racing with Ayesha the girls singing the boy demand everything is playing with this field. How do you explain that if you believe that every other form of entertainment or fun is haram. Right? So he says what is what the hell is he saying use the word bathroom. He doesn't use the word Haram. But it means no reward, any to play, there's no reward for it. It doesn't make it haram because there are many halau things in this world for which there is no reward. So the Hadees is saying there's no reward for any entertainment, except for those

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entertainments that benefit you like swimming and horse riding. And actually, those are beneficial things that train you to become stronger. So this is rewarding. If you're doing something else, paying soccer, playing basketball, something like that. There's no swab, there's no reward involved, but it's still held. That doesn't make it right. Not everything in this world is, is haram or rewarding. We have a large amount of things which are simply halaal. You do it or you don't do it, there's no sin or reward involved. And this takes us to a very important principle.

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And this principle of faith is stated in the books of pig and pig Maxim's as a Snoopy cache Alibaba. The original ruling for things of this world is permissibility I this is a maxim of believing by most of the scholars from most of the difference among hubs, that the original state of things of this world

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Is permissibility Hello, Baba Baba, right? Something being Hello. Meaning that according to the majority of scholars of Islam, when it comes to the things of this world, it is by default halaal unless you have proof for it to be Haram, that is the default Hello.

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So we do not need to bring evidence that using a microphone is Hello, or driving a car is Hello, or playing soccer is Hello, right or playing basketball you know, as long as it does not contradict any of the principles of the show do as long as it is not something which is explicitly Haram, as long as it is not something harmful, as long as it is not something that is part of another religion, as long as it does not in any way violate the Sharia, or B as long as it's not an innovation a religion or changing the religion. As long as he does not go into any of these areas, the things of this world are hollow. That is the general rule. And this is part of the more basic principle of Islam,

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one of the four fundamentals they make up and that is in the Dena use of the religion is easy or other the religion is practical. And this is a basic principle of quality. Most of the books have assumed that Islam is a practical and easy to implement way of life, meaning there are no obligations in Islam, which are beyond human ability. In other religions, there are a lot of things which you just can't do. You know, it's just not humanly possible to reach a state of piety in certain religions, right. For example, in some religions, you can't get married if you want to be righteous. This is something which is not in keeping with human nature. Islam doesn't have such

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impractical laws. Allah subhanho wa Taala TELLS US law you can leave Allahu Allah, Allah will never burden and so except to its capacity, he will never burden a soul except to its capacity. So that means whatever Allah has commanded us to do, it is practical and a human being can do it. And if you can't do it, the Sharia is such that Allah makes it easy for you. For example, if you can't stand in pray, you're allowed to sit and pray. If you can't find water for Who do you allow to pretend to make the yamo if you are traveling, you can shorten your prayer. This is part of the this the practical and easy nature of Islam. And part of this practical and easy nature of Islam is that the

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majority of things of this world are halal. The majority of things of this world A halal, you can do it. As long as there is no evidence for something to be Haram. People can call it haram very often people come to me and say that so and so told me what I'm doing is haram, how do I prove to them that it's halal? Emma response is very simple. If they are telling you it's Haram, they must produce the proof because the Haram is very clearly based on truth Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi Salaam has told us the authentic Hadees the Haram is clear and the halacha is clear. And whenever Allah has remained silent about it is permissible for you because Allah does not forget anything. So this

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hadith is very clear that the Allah does not mentioned something in the Quran no Hadees is possible. Right It is not mentioned under the Haram is permissible. For example, we love to be handled Allah talks about food, he says, Allah has made haram for you, swine, and Kalyan and wine and it gives a list of things which are haram and then the vs. Allah has made halaal for you, all good things. So that means everything else is not in the list in Quran the Hadith is haram. So this is a lesson we can take from this story that it is possible to have fun. As long as the fun is valid, as long as he does not make you neglect your obligations, whether it's your obligations for Allah or your

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obligations to people, whatever it is. You do it in a very practical way as I said Islam in a practical way of life. So it is part of our Deen that, especially if you have a family, you should make time to have fun with your family. Right Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, no, he was the busiest man. Today men claim to be too busy to have time for families. Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was the busiest man. I think about it. He had nine wives. He had children, yet stepchildren, he had grandchildren. He was the ruler of the community. He was the teacher and scholar of the community. He was the counsel of the community. He was the leader of the armies. And he still has time to reach

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with his wife and to watch people play with his peers and his wife. Why? Because he made the time. He understood that your wife has a right over you that you spend quality time with her. This is part of Islam. And this is why Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam had said that the best money you can spend is the money you spend on your back

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Of course this goes with the other Quranic verse in Hadith says of not going to extremes or becoming extravagant right. So if you know you can't tell your husband right, the best monies you spent what you spend on your family. So we're going shopping today, it has to be a balance, that the husband should not be miserly. At the same time, it should not be extravagant, right? Because a lot of people, a lot of men today have become very miserly in how this when it comes to their family members. And Islam says no, when you buy good things for your family members, halau things things which are not extravagant things which are beneficial things which are halal. If you buy this for

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your family members, this is sadaqa. This is a form of charity. The other one he says is the best charity. The best charity is what you spend on your own dependence. That's what he says those who are dependent on you, taking care of them is your first priority before anybody else. So spending time with the family is part of Islam. This is the way of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And we see in these additions that he made the time to spend with Ayesha raising with her and playing with her in his ways, we see that he had this relationship. And some of the scholars say that the reason why we see him doing these things more with Aisha the other wives is because she was

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much younger than them. Now the more younger person is, the more they are in need of entertainment and fun. So Rasulullah goes on with the wives way younger, he gave them more entertainment more fun. Those wives were older, you know, they were more engaged in other things. So we treated them according to their age level according to what was the need at that time. And he treated them accordingly. So these are some of the lessons that we can take from the story of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam racing with Ayesha and allowing her to, to view the amazonians playing with the swords on the day of eat.

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The next one, which I want to look at is actually the longest duration in Sahih. Bukhari according to many people who have read it is the longest duration. So he Bokhari, I'm not going to go through the full duration because it is very low. Just a point of that when we read the hadith of Rasulullah, sallAllahu sallam, the Hadees of Rasulullah sallallahu are very short, very short, they like one line, half a line, very short, and they have pages upon pages of explanation. You have a fine line, at least with a 200 page explanation. Because Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam way of talking was to say as much as possible, in as few words as possible. This was his way of talking. And so the

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Hadees is that you find in the books of Hadees are normally very short. So why is this hadith so long? Because it's not really a narration from Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, it's inhalation from Ayesha, it is her talking. And in the end, Rasulullah saw some say something and very shortly. So the longest narration in Sahih Bukhari is actually Ayesha rajala, and her telling Rasulullah, sallAllahu, Alayhi. Salaam, his story.

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And whether it's a true story or not, that is debated, hide, but she's telling him a story. And he's sitting and listening to the story, the story of 11 different women and how they interacted with their husbands. Right. So it's a very long duration, where she goes through the lives of 11 different women, and how their husbands were, and each husband had some false light, which the wife was complaining about. And then, towards the end of the long story, I mentioned a woman named Laura and ami adore.

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She was married to agregar. And the way that he he is mentioned, let me just read it for you rather. So I Sharon, he narrates the story of all these different women and their husbands, how they dealt with them and how their husbands had this fall to that fault. And then he she comes and she says the 11th one said, My husband is a Buddha.

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And what can explain to you who I was or is he gave me a lot of jewelry, and my ears are heavily loaded with him. And my arms have become fat, meaning that he's given me a lot of food to eat.

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And he was very happy with me. And I was really happy with him and I was very proud of myself. He found me with a family who were living in poverty. And he, he brought to me, he brought me into a respected family and gave me route. He never rebuked me. He never insulted me. If I wanted to sleep, I could sleep too late in the mornings. And when I should drink milk, I used to drink till I was full.

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So she praised Amazon a lot and she praised him even more. And then she said one day I will left her for another woman. And the story goes on. It's a very long story. At the end, this is the this is the interesting part of the giving this long story of 11 different women and how they

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With their husbands, and they giving this last like, perfect husband abogado. And then finally he leaves his wife just like that, you know, then Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he looks at Asia. And he says, I am to you, as abuser was to his wife, except I will never leave you.

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Right? And that's within the nation is. Now, this is an amazing nation. The explanation is very, very long, long, but I just want to focus on three aspects. Many times today, when a woman wants to speak to their husbands, the husband doesn't have time. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Despite being so busy, he could have told Ayesha, I don't have time to listen to a story about the woman or the woman or the aspects. Now what's that got to do with me? Right? He got important things to do. But he wasn't like that. He listened, because she wanted to talk. So he listened. Right? And it's narrated in a bookshop. Hadees. And this is very important for us to understand because very

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often when I'm counseling couples who are involved in marital problems are really often The problem is, the husband says the wife isn't giving me space. And the wife, we think the husband isn't talking to me. And this comes down to just simply understanding human nature. Human Nature is very simple. Men need space. They like the quiet time, they like to be alone for an hour a day and do nothing. That's why men like to play golf. That's why they like to go fishing. It gives them that quiet time. And women need to talk. They need someone to listen to them, they they enjoy conversation. Men and women are very different in that way, right, two men to go fishing together

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and not see a single word to each other. And the fishing ship was perfect. If two women are together, not talking, that means they don't like each other. It's a very different ages. When you understand this difference, your marriage will be fine. Because you understand your wife needs to talk or your husband needs time alone. She will make time each need. This is our time for talking. This is your alone time. And everyone gets what they need. Right? So if you know your husband comes home oil cranky from work, give me a long time. Let him relax. Let him come down. Talk later. If you know your wife needs to talk, take time out, listen to her. I definitely want to do that. So Sam is

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doing your he is listening to Ayesha. And by the way, Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam is not just listening to Ayesha, he's showing the signs of active listening is the difference between the husband where the wife is talking to him, and he's sitting on his phone going through Twitter and Facebook, right? That's not listening. That's God. Or the wife is talking to the husband saying yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, the whole time. Right, until he says yes, by mistake to the wrong thing. And then she realizes he is not listening, has not called listening. Right. Rasulullah saw me showing the signs of active listening. Firstly, we know when someone spoke to Rasulullah Islam, he would

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look him in the eye, he would face them and look them in the eye, showing that he's giving them his full attention. This was his signal to look someone in the eye and give him the full attention. Which means when someone is talking to us, the fear of using your cell phone is if someone is talking to you in person put their cell phone away. Take it out later. It's not. It's not polite to be on your phone. If someone is talking to you, this goes for all children as well. And I see very often that the children are trying to talk to their mother or father, the mother and father sitting on WhatsApp or Facebook, whatever it is, and the child you can see in their face that they feeling

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hurt if feeling neglected, right because the phone is more important in the child. That's how that's what comes across. It's the same with your spouse, if you're talking to your spouse and they are looking at their phone or their computer or watching TV or whatever it is, it does make them feel neglected. So rasuluh Laszlo, somebody used to talk to someone, he would look at them in the eye, and He will give him full attention.

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Another sign of active listening is at the end of Missoula Stouffer made a comment based on the story. When he told Ayesha, I am to you that her daughter was to his wife. This was to show her that I wasn't just sitting there with a blank face pretending to be listening. I was really listening. I heard the story, I understood the story. And he made a comment based on the story to show that he had understood it. So this is a very important lesson when it comes to marriage, that if we learn to deal with each other, the way Rasulullah sallallahu stomped out with his wives, and we don't just see it with Ayesha, we see it with all of his wives Rasulullah saw some would make time for them.

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Again, Rasulullah, some had nine wives, and he still made time for them. You have one wife, or at least I think you do.

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Make time for that. Why can't we do that it's not a matter of not having time, which is a matter of not making time. It's as simple as that. You know, if you're unable to make the time, go into a time management course learn time management, you will realize how

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It is to make time, the excuse of not having time is not a good excuse. Because each of us can make time and it doesn't have to be a lot of time. It has to be quality time. So if you give quality time to your children everyday quality time to your spouse every day, you can do what you want for the rest of the time. They happy to have that quality time, right? That's what's most important. So that is what Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam gave to Ayesha. He gave her quality time. And we see this with his other wives as well. He gave them that time when he felt loud when a parent appreciated when they felt that this man was taking care of us the way we need to be taken care of. And that's why I

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shall grew into such an amazing woman, because she had this love and affection for my husband.

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So we looked at three stories from the life of Ayesha thus far. Let's look at another two stories. And these two stories give us a very important issue with a lot of differences of opinion. The first story is that when Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was returning home from one of the battles, and he came home to the house of Ayesha, the wind blew the curtain that was behind the curtain was like the cupboard or the shelves of ice. He kept all her stuff. And in the shelves were huddled and toys. So when the wind blew and the curtain lifted up, Rasulullah selection, we're looking at the toys. And he asked her, What is this? Right? And she said, these are my dogs. These are my dogs, these are my

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toys. Then he looked at one they look like a horse and he asked what's this? She said, this is a horse. So he asked, what does this horse have on it? She said this horse got two wings. So Ross Wilson looked at me and said a horse with wings. And she said, Don't you know that Suliman, Elisa Lam had a horse with wings. And then Rasulullah saw some love so much that he could see his teeth. And this is again, a Hadees from Sahih Bukhari. She even says they when she married him at the age of nine, she took her dolls with her. So the point I'm trying to get to here this is become a huge issue of our children allowed to play with toys, which have animation on them, because we know the

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general rule take from another story of Asia. By the way, let's go to that story as well. I shall narrated that she had a cushion, which had on it, pictures of animals. And Rasulullah saw it and he did not enter the house. He got very angry. No, she saw the signs of anger on his face. So she said oh Rasulullah I repent what sin have I committed? And Rasulullah saw circumcision, what is the cushion? And she said I bought it for you so you can sit on it. And Rasulullah saw some toda that the people who make pictures like this will be punished on the day of judgment and told to give life to the pictures that you have created. So the proper Some said that the angels of mercy do not enter

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our house in which they are of interest. Now the dilemma here is the hadith of Ayesha having dolls and toys is narrated by Ayesha. And then the Hadith about not having animated pictures is narrated by Ayesha. And both. This is unrelated into Hebrew, honey. So is this a contradiction? We know many people follow one Hadees and say that all peaches are Haram. But they have been scholars throughout history who have taken both pieces into consideration. And this is really important. We are dealing with Heidi's very often when you study studies, you will come across Heidi's that seem to contradict each other. They don't. If you study the books of the commentary on Heidi's there's always a way,

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there is always a way to reconcile between her thesis. So this is one of those situations where the scholars look at both pieces, they analyze them together. And they came to a middle part where you can understand both hypothesis and there's no contradiction. And what the scholars have said don't have taken this opinion is that in general, particularly for adults, the usage of animation and pitches inherent. As adults, you shouldn't have pictures on your walls, you shouldn't have pictures lying around. You shouldn't have clothing, with pictures on even talking about animated pictures of people and animals. Adults shouldn't have these things. Why? What's the reason? What's the wisdom

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behind this? Because this is where I should have started. This is how people started idol worship by drew pictures and statues, right? Because if we had pictures today of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, Islam and the Sahaba as they were, I guarantee you somewhere in the world, somebody will be worshipping them, because that's just the nature of human beings. So to stop this rasulillah so some prohibited pitches. But the scholars say for every law, there is an exception. And so many of the scholars throughout history they have said that there is an exception to this ruling. And the exception is that pitches are haram unless the opportunity and they are beneficial to the children. And so from

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this many scholars have said that toys are cartoons

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Or games or anything like this for children, which is clean these content is permissible. Why? Because there is no fear of shirk. When a child is twice, you don't see children worshiping their toys, there is no fear of sherco the child in, you know, a good clean cartoon, because this is not the child's lead in childhood under pitra. And furthermore, they see that these toys in general help a child to develop to help a child to grow. That is part of being a normal child, you want toys. So this is the balanced opinion. In my view, here, those scholars who take the Heidi's from Asia having dolls and see all animation is Hello, there are those who go the other way you take the Hadees of

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her and the cushion saying all animation is haram. And then the other scholars will take both pieces together. And they come down to a middle part. And they say that in general animation and these type of pitches are Haram, except if it's for children, then it is permissible. And to me, that seems to be the strongest view because it takes all of these different opinions and all these different pieces into consideration and is also a very clear logic behind it.

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So for example, Shep Alberni Rahim Allah, he mentioned that these two pieces of eyeshadows they indicate the possibility of creating images and owning them, if there is an educational benefit in doing so. One that will help with the cultivation and development of the personality of Muslim children. So we did our benefit to the Muslims and Islam. This is permissible, otherwise, everything else is haram. So basically, it comes down to weighing the benefits and the harms like this is again a principle of right. We mentioned some principles I think about earlier. For example, we mentioned that everything is halal until proven to be Haram. We mentioned that earlier with the evidences. He

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mentioned that Islam is by its nature, a natural any practical religion is not a religion of things which are beyond human ability. Right. So another principle, I think that that we can take from here is that when it comes to things, which are gray areas, things which we have learned about we're not sure if it's permissible or not, the general norm is amongst the scholars is that they would weigh the harms the benefits, if the benefits outweigh the harms, it is possible. If the harms outweigh the benefits it is haram. Right? This is what the scholars do. And of course, it's the scholars who have to do this not just anybody. Right? So the same thing here, the chef is saying about pictures

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for children, that if it is a benefit for the children, it's permissible, if it is going to be harmful to the children, it is haram. Right? So this applies not just that this applies to many areas of our life. Very often, people ask, Can I do this? Right? And it just comes down to weighing the benefits in house. practical example, smoking cigarettes, right? People say mocking cigarettes is a challenge because no evidence for it to be wrong. Very simple question. Does the benefits outweigh the harms? Check the statistics. Now, look online. Look at the statistics. The harms of cigarettes are far more than these benefits, psychological harms, physical harms, financial harms,

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the harms are far more and the Hadees. clearly states do not harm yourself in any way. So when the harms outweigh the benefit, it falls into the category of Haram. Right? It's the same with drugs. Again, drugs are not mentioned in the Quran or Hadith. They're not. But the harms are there. And the harms far outweigh the benefits. So it is haram. Right? So this applies to anything in our life. So people will see what about driving a car, you can meet an accident, harmful. So you know, the benefits of driving a car outweigh the harms you meet in an accident rarely, rarely, unless you're a bad driver. And being a bad driver is haram. Because you are endangering people's lives. But if

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you're a good driver, it's Hello. Right? If anything happens there was federal law you go driver, Alaska, living life is not Haram. So it's always about being the hub the benefits. Now this is why there's also a difference of opinion among scholars on extreme sports. Can we go Bungee Jumping? Can we go skydiving and those corners the seats around the seat because the harms outweigh the benefits? I mean, what happens if something goes wrong and you fall to your debt? Do you have judgment on last year? What did you risk your life for? No, you didn't risk your life in the part of Allah wasn't jihad, rest your life to jump off a building for fun? No. Again, in Islam, one of the fundamental

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principles of this religion is the preservation of human life. So many scholars say that if what you are doing is putting your life at risk, and there is no benefit in doing so. Then you only put your life at risk when there is some benefit in doing so. For example, jihad, pride when you are fighting to defend and protect the Muslims, there is benefit you you are putting your life at risk to see somebody else or

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To predict a religion, this is beneficial, the benefit outweighs the harm here. But if you are bungee jumping, what is the benefit? The only benefit? Is You having fun. So does that outweigh the harm of putting your life at risk? When the life is one of the five fundamentals of the shalyah? Was it to preserve?

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Does anybody know? What are the five fundamentals that the Sharia was in to preserve?

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This is something in agreed upon by all must haves. There are five things some scholars add more, but they all agree upon five. There are five things that this Sharia was revealed to preserve the Sharia wasn't revealed for fun, by the way, it's not that Allah hunter wanted to make life difficult for us, or just give us a bunch of doors to follow. very logical is a very logical, very practical Sharia. And all of the laws revolve around preserving five things. I mentioned one now human life. Anyone know the other four?

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The family, preserving the family? Yes. What else?

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Okay, number one is Mr.

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Right. That's why we have solar. That's why we have a Quranic recitation. That's why we have Hajj. That's why we have fasting, this is all part of the preservation of our Eman. That's why seeking knowledge is obligatory part of the preservation of one's human. Right. So preservation of the mind. Number two is preservation of human life. Suicide is haram, harming yourself or anybody else is haram, you are allowed to drink alcohol or eat pork, if you are dying, it is nothing else available to preserve your life is all part of the preservation of human life. Murder is haram. All of this is part of the preservation of human life in Islam. Right? It is the second highest after the

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preservation of the religion. Why is preservation of the religion higher, because you can risk your life to save the religion. That's what martyrdom is all about. So that puts preservation of the religion higher. So preservation of the religion, the human life, the family, the classical scholars used to call it the lineage, right, your descendants lineage. Contemporary scholars call the preservation of the family, right? This is a fundamental about religion. Why did Islam prohibits Xena, or homosexuality? Why does Islam emphasize marriage? Why are the parents rights? Why are the rights of the spouses? Why the rights of children? No, why is divorce discourage all of these things

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I did for the preservation of the family. Because a community which has strong families, healthy produce children who are amazing, and who are well grounded in this world, and were able to go out and make a difference. If the families are strong, they are able to do more in the world, in the families are falling apart, you are so worried about your own problems, you are unable to benefit others. Right. So the preservation of the family is a fundamental part of our religion. It's a fundamental part of Islam. Right? And this is why every family member in Islam has rights. Every family member has rights. You know, even your neighbor has religious family, even your neighbor has

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rights and you know, that's almost like a family member's rights. So the preservation of the family. So we said preservation of human life, religion, family, there's two more things that Islam was revealed to preserve.

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Anyone know? give you a hint. Riba is harangue taking interest in Haram. Why tupiza work?

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Well, classical scholars call it devout. Contemporary scholars call it a just economy. That is Sharia was revealed to preserve a just economy. Right? Because the world today the capitalist world has a very unjust economy. The rich get richer, the poor get poorer. People are drowning in debt. Right? People are homeless, people have too much credit, people have too much rebar to pay, or countries have too much interest to pay off, that this system was designed in such a way it's based on greed and is destroying society. While the Islamic system is complete opposite. When the Sahaba and the righteous Muslim of the past ruled over the world parts of the world. There was economic

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justice, the rich got richer, yes, yes. But the poor got richer along with them. Right. It wasn't one person getting rich at the expense of the other people to other people along with them, the halifa will be very rich, but you'd be still giving money to others. Because we believe in South Africa, we believe in czaka. We believe in the middle mouse system. We believe in what we believe in all of these things, the reward of taking care of orphans, the reward of taking care of the widows and the divorces the reward of taking care of the poor, the reward of helping someone start a business and to look after themselves. All of this is part of our religion. Why to preserve a just

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economy because poverty, destroy society. Poverty destroy society. In just in our our community alone, we can see poverty drives people to crime right?

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Something that doesn't need to be explained. we see around us, poverty drives to crime. So Islam came to eradicate poverty, Islam this is this is one of the principles of Islam to eradicate poverty. So having money is not a bad thing in Islam. Some people think having money is a bad thing. Allah subhanho wa Taala in the Quran he calls money crail

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what a fairly

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good, the literal meaning of the word fail is good. Allah called money fail. But he says in in sand and the homebuilder highly loaded.

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People are too extreme in their love for good. People are too extreme in their love for this money. Meaning this money is hard. Look at the wording of the morality. See people are too extreme in their love for money. He said people are too extreme they love or hate for good things. Meaning in the sense that Allah is telling us this money is higher. This money is a good thing. You need it society needs its communities needed. The Muslim woman needs it. It's a good thing. The problem is not the money. The problem is you are too extreme in your love for money. too greedy, too capitalistic, too materialistic, that's the problem. So money is not a problem in Islam. Rather Islam came to preserve

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the economy. Islam came to preserve justice and and to eradicate poverty.

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And Islam came to help people become rich in a gallery and use their money to benefit others independent for the oma. We need money, the woman needs money, right? This is this is to help across all boards across all areas. If you study Islamic history, and you look at the things that the Muslim Ummah was able to do when it was financially strong, and that when these finances were in the hands of the righteous people, they were able to accomplish wonders. No, I mean, there are just so many examples of this throughout history. For example, Omar bin Abdulaziz, he was the holly one of the Omega colors, the best of the Omega callups. And in his time, the time of movement, Abdul Aziz,

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he was very hard to find for people because he had used the wealth of the human mind such a way that it was distributed throughout the oma if somebody had a problem, the government would help them. That was how it was. This is part of Islam. So we said Islam came to preserve the religion, human life, the family, the economy, adjust economy or wealth. What's the last thing Islam came to preserve?

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Again, a hint, why is alcohol haram?

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What does alcohol make you lose

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your mind, Islam came to preserve the occult, the human intellect, alcohol and drugs, heroin, because they corrupt your intellect. seeking knowledge is compulsory, because it grows your intellect. Right Islam is the intellectual religion. Muslims of the past, Asia alone is an example that Islam gave them this room to grow into intellectual giants. At the time when the rest of the world was still in the dark ages, many parts of the world was still in the dark ages. And we have people like Ayesha we have mastered poetry and,

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and Hades and Tafseer and medicine. And if you look at the early Muslims, compared to today, it was a different world. The world 1200 years ago was the opposite of the world today. 1200 years ago, the most scientifically advanced and civilized nation on Earth were the Muslim Empire, the Roman Empire in Spain and the Abbasid Empire ruling over the rest of the world. They were ruling at the same time, the Romanian empire in Spain started

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in Spain. This nation was the most civilized and sophisticated nation in Europe at the time. Right the rest of Europe was in the dark ages, but Muslim Spain, you know, it is it's even mentioned that the palace, the body it was the Hara Palace of the Umayyad Caliph. It had an elevating shown the children elevate, and it had mechanical lions, and

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this was the technology that the Muslims had 1200 years ago. Right. And you do the same in the in the rest of the Muslim world. Harun al Rashid, the famous abasi Caliph, he opened a research center in Baghdad, where Muslims, Jews, Christians, Hindus, or Austrians, they all got together and in research, and this is where science was developed. This is where mathematics was developed. This is where algebra was invented. algebra today called algebra was invented there. All of these things developed and grew in the Muslim world. Why? Because Islam thesis a lot of emphasis on the intellect. It was sent to preserve our intellects. Don't do things that the Sharia says don't do

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things that will calm your mind down. That's why we don't have alcohol. That's why we don't do drugs. That's why the Quran condemned the blind following these things will kill your intellect. They will make you

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The word would be stupid to say, and Islam says no, grow your intellect, study, learn research, learn about the world around you learn about your deen, let your mind expand, be the best you can be intellectually, Islam came to preserve the Internet, and show the scholars of Islam decode this the five day rule yet the five necessities of life, if you have these five things, you can live a functional and happy life. If you have a man, which you have your life force, if you have intellect, if you have a family, and if you have Halliwell, you can live a happy life. So these are the five necessities of life. Everybody needs it. Every society needs it, every community needs it. And so

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the entire surely I will look at any aspect of the show the majority of the Sharia laws fit into one of these five categories. So it's not just a random religion. It's not just laws for the sake of gods, it is a very logical system. And it's the most beneficial system in the world. Every other law system invented by human beings afterwards has been, you know, has flaws because human laws have laws. But the Divine Law revealed 1400 years ago, right to today is still the best thing for society. And very often non Muslims, they'll ask you how, how can you want to follow a law that's 1400 years old? You know why they asked these questions. Because understanding from their

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perspective, to the non Muslim, the laws that they said 50 years ago, outdated.

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law said 50 years ago, outdated, they can't imagine a law that's 1400 years old, being practical, right? But the difference is, and this is where we come in the differences that the law said 50 years ago, were set by human beings. And as long as human beings are making laws, whoever is in charge will make the laws to suit them. Right? Because that's what they do today. That's what's going on the world, the people in charge are making the laws that suit them. Right.

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But with Islam, the law is divine. It is the Sharia, it is from Allah subhana wa Taala. And so he has revealed such a law, that on one hand, it is it preserves the fundamentals of every human being needs throughout history. You could be living in the 21st century, you could be living in the 14th century, you could be living even before that, but the laws of the show VR, which don't change still apply to you, they still think that you need these five things, human life, intellect, wealth and family. It doesn't matter what century you're living in, you still need these five things. So this this aspect of the law doesn't change. Those parts which do change, like we mentioned last week

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about cultural issues, issues which have been left up to the community decide traffic laws, you know, these sort of things. The Shania has lifted open, changes with the community changes time to time, but the fundamental principles don't. So the Sharia is the best law review for humanity. And without 100 in depth, we come to the conclusion of this week's lecture, where I just want you to look at these generations about Ayesha radula, one ha, and extract some lessons that we can take home and can be a practical benefit to us. So just to recap, we looked at the stories of her and also some having fun together. And we spoke about how everything is halaal until proven to be Haram.

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And particularly about having fun and allowing something permissible, especially if it's with your wife and children, especially if it was your wife and children. We looked at the narration of her underrating, the story of 11 woman and their husbands. And we spoke about some marital tips from that story about spending time understanding the needs of the opposite gender and how to fulfill it. And then we looked at the story of Ayesha playing with her dolls. And from there we discussed fick. And we went on to discuss the fundamental principles that we could evolve around, so that we come to an end. And I'd like to have feedback from you all.

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Would you like to go deeper into the life of Ayesha or discuss the lives of others or the Sahaba instead, it's up to your neocons. Email us the feedback or you can write it out and leave it in the back. But if you if you want to discuss the lives of other Sahaba instead, what I will do is, every week we will talk about the difference of having one week of meal Sahabi one week of female zombie, right? That's what we do. And if you want to go deep and reliable Ayesha, I have studied her life deep enough to talk about it for another 10 hours under the law. So I'll leave it to you to decide inshallah, right? You can try it out, email it to us living who wanted to inshallah, let me know and

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from day we'll let you know during the week inshallah, what will be next week's topic and shall try and get other people to attend as well encourage your friends and family to come along. Before we end up any questions.

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And again, remember, you can email us the questions if you wish.

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Okay, yeah. Okay.

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Okay, the general rule is if it's for children and stuff, and it doesn't end, it's because your question was that if your children have toys, and they have children's books, whatever with animation features in it, and can you read pre salon in the same room as those pictures? Right? And because the children's pictures are permissible, you know, there's an exception to the rule to the scholars say it depends on whether it distracts you or not. If it distracts you push you out of the way. If it doesn't distract you, it's fine. It was for charity.

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The angel did not enter a house where they are prohibited pitches. Right? But the children's which is a handout, right, so that's the point to prohibit the future. So if you got a picture of somebody on your wall, you know, or something like that, you know, I'm talking about statute something that's around the internet on the internet, right? But the children and stuff that's perfectly fine, this halaal is part of the ease of Islam, and that wouldn't be a problem inshallah. Any other questions.

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Okay, so with that we will conclude

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and open inshallah We'll see you next week, which is going to Phaedra wah wah, he'll come to the large European alameen wa salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh