Dealing With Anxiety During Difficulty

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Ismail Kamdar

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Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Karim Allah Allah He was happy. He

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became a president Allah subhanho wa Taala ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon the final prophet, Muhammad bin Abdullah solo while he was so limited all those who follow his way with righteousness until the end of time. But Welcome to a nother virtual Juma

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for the third week in a row, as the country remains on level three lockdown, and we try our best to stay in isolation to protect ourselves and others, we will continue to run these footpaths from home online

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as a means of giving each other hope and giving each other some advice.

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And inshallah, soon we will be back together in our machines with our communities as we also dealing with. So today's topic is focused on a few Islamic tips on how to overcome anxiety at times of, of child and calamity.

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And I myself am not a psychologist, so

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I can't focus too much on the psychology side of it and the counseling related tips for dealing with this. But

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our religion does give us guidelines on how to deal with such thoughts. And it does give us certain acts of worships and to us because that can help us through difficult times. And that's really going to be the focus of this. So to begin, the reason why I've chosen this topic is over the past few weeks, there has been a increase in not just the number of people we know personally who have the virus, but in the number of people you know personally who have passed away.

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I myself know people my own age, who I went to school with who have passed away from this virus.

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And this is causing it to really hit home for a lot of people.

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Many people, you know, they complain to me in the city can't sleep at night, scared of debt. They worried what's going to happen to the wife, the kids, what's going to happen to their family, if they suddenly get the virus and passed away.

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The reality of debt has hit home. And it's not something we can push aside as we indulgent dunya not something we can ignore, as we go out and engage in all kinds of sin.

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Rather, the warnings that have been there for many, many decades, that death is a reality. And any of us can go at any time. Now more than ever, people are seeing this, and people are waking up to this. And then the question then remains is what do we do about this? So last week, we spoke about the reality of debt, and how to come to terms with it. And we spoke about some of the things we all should do like making a world and setting up sources of continuous reward for ourselves. These are things we should do asking people for forgiveness if you've harmed anyone. Today, I want to focus more on the psychological side of it, which is how do we deal with these emotions?

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How do we deal with this fear and this panic

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that keeps us up at night.

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Many people are worried about getting sick.

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Many people are worried about dying. Many people are worried about their loved ones dying. Many people are worried about losing their jobs losing their sources of income.

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We are living through a time of global tests and trials. And the reality is everybody. Everybody throughout their lives has faced trials. But for the most part, it's either been individual trials or localized strength. So as individuals, you may have to deal with the death of a loved one or losing a job or a health problem. As a community, some communities have to deal with droughts, some with floods and wood wars. But something on a global scale that affects almost every home in the world.

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This is something that hasn't happened in decades hasn't happened in our lifetime.

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And so

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this has caused a lot of people to just completely

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lose their minds. I mean, you have people saying what's the point in living if this world is going to be so full of childhood and calamities and difficulties

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and this comes from the idea that this world's

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supposed to be fun. This was supposed to be enjoyable. This was supposed to be entertainment, which is a false notion we have paid ourselves over the past few decades. Over the past few decades, mankind has deluded itself into thinking that this world is a world of fun, that this world is a world of entertainment, that this world is a place to fulfill all of our desires.

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While in reality Allah subhanho wa Taala has told us multiple times in the Quran, that this world is a test

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and not only that, but he promised to test us with exactly this one double one double B shaming a Hovey Will you are you an accent Mina um, while he was on foot, he was the Murata but she saw the loss of a handle that says, I will definitely definitely test you would feel hunger, loss of life, loss of wealth and loss of efforts, loss of fruit, right? Five things.

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The current pandemic is all five in one on a global scale. Field, there is global field, which is what we are talking about today, this anxiety This one is fear that I'm going to die or my family is going to die or something bad is going to happen to us. This is a test our promises he promised us in this world we will go through phases of fear.

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So when we do face such times,

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we are tuned in to the true believers saying such times that this is what Allah and His Messenger have promised Allah and His Messenger between the promised

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hunger. Not all of us have to deal with hunger Hamdulillah, many of us myself included, we are saved from this. Allah has blessed us with good, pure sources of income. But during this past year, many people have lost their jobs. Many people have lost their businesses. Many people have fallen into poverty. And so they are dealing with a test of hunger. May Allah alleviate this for everyone who is any Democrat, everyone, prosperity voters.

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loss of lives. Everyone's faced this in the past, your

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reality is this is something we face throughout our lives, it's just that the number we've had to deal with in a short period of time has been far more than what we are accustomed to, you know, maybe we lose a loved one once a year, once every two years, once every three years. But to lose, some families have lost four or five loved ones within a week. before they're able to complete one another one passes away.

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This is a huge test, I'll give everybody stripped.

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Loss of wealth I spoke about this, people have lost a business. You know, I took a drive yesterday to one of my favorite parts of town and at least six of my favorite stores were closed down during the lockdown, they couldn't manage to survive the lockdown closed down on, people have lost their wealth.

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What some are often now some are odd technically refers to float, because those days the farmers used to rely on the annual crop for the income. And if there was a drought, if there was a flood, that's it. They lost everything for the year.

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So this can be interpreted in our time to mean

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the fruit of our efforts that we are going to make efforts and we're not going to see anything in return. A lot of people have seen that and a lot of people had invested in opportunities that were going to bloom in the year 2020 or 2021. And because of what happened, it all fell apart.

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So Allah subhanaw taala has promised to test us.

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And what we see on a global level is simply the promise of Allah. So the believer doesn't lose faith. when these things happen. He simply sees it as this is what dunya is meant to be. This is not meant to be gender.

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Gender, is where we have pleasure, eternally.

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Gender is really is no fear, no debt, no sickness, no old age, nothing. Gender is where all our dreams and our desires come true.

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Dunya is the world of test dunya is the world of difficulty. Here is the world of China.

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And generally, for each and every one of us our child's are different. Our tests are different.

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But at the moment, we all share one correctives

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so what is the solution? The next verse says, what should we saw? Believe it or not? The next verse, the verse before by the next verse says,

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that give glad tidings to those who are patient on the inner Lila in ideology or when a calamity occurs. But the bus I wanted to quote it actually two verses before that were less martyrs if you hold the Xena monster is forbidden

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As salam O you who believe seek assistance through Ferber and Sala These are our two primary weapons against anxiety at times of difficulty when things go wrong, suffer when things go wrong for

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you really solid and sharp server should be there every step of the way our entire lives, these should be constants in our lives, we should be praying five times a day no matter how well we are doing, no matter how easy life is, it doesn't matter that that should be a constant. And solver in all of its forms should always be there. Whether it's restraining ourselves from evil, or promoting to do good deeds, or being patient with calamities, we should always have some type of solver in our lives.

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But at times of difficulty, we have to increase the times of difficulty you have to put extra solar, we have to have extra service. Why? Because this is where calmness comes from.

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If you look at the example of the HUD kiambu live,

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this is one of the most calming things you can do. When you are facing stress and anxiety when you can't sleep at night, because you worried what's going to happen to you during this pandemic, to wake up in the middle of the night.

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To perform hoodoo, to pray to Raghav sada to pour your heart out in such a way. This is one of the best ways to calm yourself. This is one of the best ways to reduce your anxiety. And if you haven't tried it, try to

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if you're having difficulty sleeping, because you're worried about everything that's going on in this world, all of these calamities, and all of these trials wake up every day.

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And you will see it will have a huge impact on the field, it will increase your tawakkol it will increase increase your trust and last quarter, it will increase your relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala it will come your heart

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sober, knowing that life is a test and we are rewarded for having suffered with these tests should get us through the test. Now someone doesn't mean it's going to be easy. So it doesn't mean we're going to be happy, sober doesn't mean everything's going to come right. sober simply means that we don't say anything that's displeasing to Allah. And we accept a lot further and we try to move forward with our lives. Despite all the pain and trauma that go to

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the server,

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we can still feel sad, you can still cry, you can still,

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you know help a few days to process what happens when Islam when someone passes away, you have three days to two more weeks to really sit there and process the entirety before you have to force yourself to get back to work and get back to life. So are we allowed to feel sad, you're allowed to cry.

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But our tongue should only say that makes it easy.

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So one of the ways in which we can deal with this anxiety is simply with accepting the reality of life,

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which is a life is a test.

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And this test includes losing those who may love.

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This test includes getting sick. This test includes loving two periods of intense fear.

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In all of these, we have sober and sola allies there for us, it will count in our favor to judgment. When you accept the reality of life, when you come to terms with the reality of this world being nothing more than one giant exam. This will help to come down.

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Because the heart now understands what is happening around it. It's not random. It's not evil. It is simply a gateway to gender, if we have silver.

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So we must face all of our tests in life with sober and with Sala

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remember the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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in which he stated that amazing is the affair of the believer, as nothing happens to him except that which is good for him

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when a calamity occurs, and he's patient that is good for him. And when the blessing occurs, and he's grateful that he's good.

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And that occurs only for the believer.

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And so we believe, based on this heaviness,

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that everything that happens for to us, is for us and it's good for us. If it is a calamity, to suffer that we show that calamity is good for us. And if it is a blessing, then the patient the sugar, the gratitude we have for that blessing is good for us.

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May Allah grant us all

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Above

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and Below replace what we lost with that which is better for us. And we cannot dissolve sugar and allow us to notice the good things in our lives and to remain grateful for all of these.

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Another method

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to help us deal with anxiety,

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the remembrance of Allah.

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And there are certain forms of zeker that calm the heart faster than others if you think about it.

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One of my favorites is the statement La hawla wala quwata illa Allah.

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But there is no will or ability, there is no power, there is no mic, except us.

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The hola Porter illa Billah essentially means that nothing happens, except what Allah wants to happen.

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So when you are lying at night, feeling scared, worried about what if this happens? What if that happens, because we still have to deal with our regular psi in South Africa, we still have to deal with our fears of crime, we still have to deal with our fears of other illnesses, we still have to worry about, you know, the economy and all the other things that that's wrong. But along with that, we now have to deal with the fear of COVID and and getting ill and losing our loved ones to this.

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So how do you deal with this, when that when it anxiety enters your heart, simply keep repeating the whole lot.

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And and reflect on this and think about a stink about the vet. Only what Allah wants can happen. Only what Allah wills can happen is no power except Allah there is no mic besides Allah, there is no Well besides Allah, only Qatar Allah is going to happen.

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The more you realize that everything is in the hands of Allah, the more calm your heart becomes, and the more you trust Allah, and the more you begin to just release that stress and that worry and leave it to Allah, then you are taking precautions, you are doing what is necessary. Now, you leave with everything else robots are.

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Another form of zip codes that can help us deal with anxiety is sugar gratitude.

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And it may seem strange, to recommend gratitude during a time of trial, but it works, it works for me, it will work for you as well.

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So this is what I do, and what I recommend you to do. So when you are feeling worried about all the tests in your life,

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take some time to sit and think about all the blessings.

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To sit back and think Alhamdulillah every blessing, so you're hungry. This is the important part, this is the kicker, you're

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stuck in a hungry lab, I am healthy hamdulillah I have a man of hungry for whatever it is. And for each of us, it's different. For some of us, it's financial stability. For others, it's nice home for others, it's a good family. For some, it's all of this, whatever it is, I can guarantee you that during the time of contemplation, you will come up with at least 10 if not 100 things to say Alhamdulillah for and as you focus on all the blessings in your life. And as you tackle love all the blessings in your life, you begin to worry less, you begin to obsess less about the what ifs. And you begin to realize that justice Allah has blessed you with all of this. He is the one who's going

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to take care of you. He's the one who's going to help you through your difficulties. And he's only going to allow it to happen to death, which is basically

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another form of liquor

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is not just the remembrance of Allah, but the remembrance of debt.

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And this may seem strange.

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How would the remembrance of debt

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help me overcome my anxiety?

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Well, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us to frequently remember that. And he told us to visit the graveyard so that we can remember that. If you look at the two hour we make when we enter the graveyard, you greet the people of the grave, and we tell them soon we will be joining you.

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What does all this mean?

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All of this means that we have to accept it as a reality. debt is not a bad thing. debt is not an evil. debt is not a punishment from Allah. debt is not a lot trying to harm you in any way. That is simply the inevitable end of the current phase of the journey of our soul.

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We have to sit and contemplate and think about the fact that our souls were not created for this world. We are in this world for but the blink of an eye and then we move on.

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The sooner we recognize that the sooner we realize that, the sooner we realize that death is not something bad.

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If we die from an illness, it could be martyrdom it could be an intrinsic agenda.

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Why is that a bad thing?

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So learn to embrace mortality, as we spoke about last week, as simply a fact of life and a necessary part of being on Earth.

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The sooner we learn to embrace that

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the next thing we can do to help us deal with this anxiety is to make the art

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and the pivotal to us. The Quran and Sunnah. They can help us to overcome anxiety.

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One of the most basic ones that all of us should know is hospital law when it Milwaukee has won a law when the Milwaukee Allah is sufficient for us and he's the best of protectors. What more can you get, you can ask.

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Anytime you are feeling anxiety and remind yourself that Allah is sufficient for me and he's the best to protect us.

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Every time you feel anxiety, just keep repeating this until it goes away. Until the reality of the statement enters your heart. Allah is my protector.

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Only a law can protect

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a stronger form of this phony for adobo, Husky Allahu Allahu alayhi wa kotoba, horrible as he

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Allah is sufficient for me in him at least my tawakkol at my place, my trust, and he's the Lord of the mighty troll, again, is the same to a hospital or hospital, it's the same door. But

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this one here is more. It's more words, in terms of you mentioned, what's the walkway, the walkway.

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So if you're having difficulty with the Walker, this is the door to make. And you remind yourself alive The Lord of the arches as in what is altruism is a mighty throne. It is the arch that is bigger, this entire universe, meaning that this universe is insignificant, it is really, really small. And it is easy for a lot, particularly within this universe, and only he can protect. It just says he's the Lord of the Throne. He's about the universe. And he says he's the one who's in control of the throne. He's the one who's in control of the universe. So this should put some calmness into our hearts.

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another hour that we can make is also below him in a Humvee what

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I seek a lot of protection from depression and anxiety. This is part of a longer too often in the center, we seek a lot of protection from depression, anxiety, fear, weakness, miserliness debt, and being overpowered by people and I highly recommend finding the food or memorizing it and reciting it daily. But nonetheless, just for this part of when you're feeling agitated when you're feeling depressed or anxious, or to be live in harmony with Krishna Siegel was protection from depression and anxiety. So this is a student that you are right.

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Another door that from the sooner that we can make is our old to be calling Mattila de Martini, Sheree mahalo, I seek Allah's protection.

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I seek protection in the complete word of Allah, from anything evil that he created.

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To everything out there that we perceive as evil is a creation of love. And the only one that can protect us from It is Allah. So we seek a lot of protection from

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there are many modules like this. Again, I highly recommend that everyone should have a copy of his no Muslim fortress of the believer is available as an app, it's available, websites available in book form, have a copy, memorize the two hours in depth for it for stress for anxiety for morning and evening to us, make them part of our daily habit, because these two hours go a long way for bringing about the protection of Allah, at the same time for calming our hearts because now we know the laws protecting us do us function on a variety of levels. On one hand, they bring about protection of Allah on another hand, because our hearts and you have a psychological impact on us.

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Another way is they work in liquor nearly mind us, we may not be thinking about the fact that Allah is a robot, you may not be thinking about the fact that Allah is the one in control of everything, but when you make these laws we are reminded. So it forms it may take some form of vigor as well. And most importantly, it is a form of the body. In fact, in fact, it is the greatest type of event

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and is the greatest type of event that this is the essence of Ebola coming to

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an end of this short discussion

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by reminding myself and yourself. The one of the purposes of the test of life is to turn us back to Allah

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Any test in this world that makes us more righteous, that makes us more connected to Allah, that makes us better Muslims is not a calamity. It is a blessing. Anything that opens the doors towards China is a blessing. Anything that leads down the path towards Allah and His love and His mercy and His compassion, and his eternal Paradise is the blessing. And so if this global event brings us all back to Allah, if this global event

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makes us all from those who are beloved to Allah, it is the best thing that could ever happen to us.

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So let's face this with optimism, it has faced us with trust in Allah. It has faced US armed sober, sugar, solar vigor and to

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let us face this has believed us trusting completely in our Creator has been a law along with Nick Milwaukee. Allah is sufficient for us and He is the best of protectors. Remember to take your precautions to social distance to do whatever you can to avoid the sickness. Beyond that it is called the ruler. However, Allah wills is best for us to the hanger of the user to use the phone seafood for salmon, Sabine with Hamden Illa propaganda mean for Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh