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AI: Summary © The conversation covers the history and cultural implications of the Sharia's legality laws in South Africa. The speakers emphasize the importance of understanding the Sharia's culture and avoiding harmful behavior. They also discuss the importance of acceptance of cultural practices and not harmful to society. The Sharia is the job of men in Congress community, and local culture is important in shaping behavior. Additionally, the speakers emphasize the need to apply the knowledge of Islam to daily life and not just to support a religion.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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inshallah will begin now. So, to begin on time and hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam wa rahmatullah al Ameen homophobia de nobilia, San Isla Yomi. Dean, we begin by creating a lot of $100. And asking him to send his peace and blessings upon the final prophet Mohammed, even Abdullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam and all those who follow his way with righteousness until the last day, like to thank all of you for attending, and like to thank the Islamic Guidance Center for hosting this event, without any extra charges that hamdulillah and

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want to begin by doing a quick recap of what we covered in the first lecture in the series last week for those who are not here. And as a reminder for the rest of us. Last week, we began this series by looking at what exactly are we looking at the life of Ayesha rajala on her Ayesha orange, yellow, and her was the wife of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and we said that nowadays we have a lot of resources on the male Sahaba. But in English, we don't really have that much resources on the female Sahaba Alhamdulillah. In Arabic, there is a lot of information available, right 1000s of pages of information available, but in the English language is not really there. And the question I

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asked you last week to think about is why? Why isn't there in the English language, that many resources on the lives of the female scholars of Islam are the female Sahaba or the early female Muslims? Because when you read the Arabic books of history, they played a major role in the field of Hadith in the field of fear. In the general life. There are many great Muslim woman. And we chose Ayesha because she was the one who seems to have the best resume, right she has the most accomplishments, and Aisha radiallahu anha.

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She also is a woman whose life has been documented in more details than any other woman whose biography I've studied. Even from the wives of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, you will not find that much details or many of his other wives as compared to Ayesha because of how much she accomplished in her life. Just to give you an idea of the rank she has in Islam, in the field of Hades, Ayesha rajala and how it has reached us from her 2210 authentic thesis 2210 authentic Jesus, making her the fourth highest profile Sahabi when it comes to Hades, number one is Abu huraira. Then Abdullah even Omar then unassailable Malik, and third, Ayesha rhodiola. So, in the field of Hades,

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you cannot study Hadees without studying the relations that generated by Sharia law, and how many of the Hadees which make up the fundamentals of our religion, the foundations of our faith we generated by her is the same in the field of Tafseer. You cannot study Tafseer without coming across her opinions, and her Hadees is explaining

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pushy coach Rasulullah sallallahu explaining the Quran is the same word, Vic, when it comes to fear, we see that as a regular on her, she has actually entire books dedicated to her, because that's that much has been narrated from her when it comes to pick. So I shall read up on how he said that she is one of the leading scholars amongst the Sahaba a very high ranking, so much so that Abu Musashi who was one of the senior Sahaba he said, whenever the companions the Sahaba of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had the dispute about the Hadees they would ask Ayesha about it. And every time they ask Ayesha about it, she had some knowledge about the topic. So this means that I shall regular

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on her was a source of knowledge for the other Sahaba. The others haba would actually use her as a reference point, right? So this is very different from the culture we live in today. Where the Sahaba after the death of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam if there was a dispute amongst the men, they will go to Ayesha who has a woman and asked her to clarify it for them. Right. So this really gives us a very different perspective into history.

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And our thought even Abby raba says about her that Ayesha was the best jurist amongst the people, and the most knowledgeable of people and the best of people in opinions in general. Right. This is his

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praise and his opinion on Ayesha Raja Raja. So the scholars of the past have a lot of praise for her. And she is held in very high regard in any field of Islamic studies which you look at

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You will find a name you will find her narrations you will have to study her life. She is one of the most amazing woman in the history of Islam. However, we live in a time where

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we have individuals who are trying to put her name down, right?

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If we look in the modern world today, those people who are bent on giving Islam a bad name, right, we call them the islamophobes.

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One of the recent attacks that they have been using for the past 100 years against Islam is that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married Ayesha when she was nine years old, and he was in his 50s at that time. So now to be largely accused of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam of pedophilia. And this becomes you know, like the main argument, you know, you can do our to an individual, prove to them the Quran is from Allah,

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and the prophet of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam prove to them that the Sharia is the best law ever invented for human beings are created for human beings. And at the end of the day, you might still have someone saying, but your prophet married a nine year old girl. Right? So this becomes an issue of,

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of dislike for many of us, we try to hide the issue, we stopped talking about Russia. And because we become ashamed of this issue, most of us don't even know how life threatening anybody who knows her life story will not be ashamed of her marriage, because it led to her becoming one of the most accomplished humans in the history of this world. So I shall rajala and her

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that issue which we want to discuss about her life today is the

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controversial and contemporary issue of her age at the time of getting married. What was her age? How do we explain it to people? And what lessons can we derive from this? Right The lessons is a very important part, because for many of us, we don't really look at this as a topic from which we can derive any specific lessons. Now. Firstly, I shall read the law. At what age did she marry Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam if we go by Hadees the Hadith in Sahih Bukhari from Aisha herself. She says that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi Salaam performed the niqab to me when I was six years old, and we consumated, the niqab when I was nine years old. This is the Hebrew honey, right. And of

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course, this is the generation which the non Muslims bring up to attack Islam. And because of this, we have two responses, which have developed amongst the Muslims to this attack. And the first response is what I believe to be a very weak response. And that is many Muslims today, including some do art and some scholars who I respect. A lot of them have said that Ayesha wasn't nine, she was 19. Right? This this is becoming very common across the internet. Many Muslims are saying she wasn't nine, she was 19. I believe this is a very weak opinion. This is a very apologetic opinion, this is the easy way out. But this is the way to skip the topic. Because if he was 19, no, no

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issues. Right.

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But again, you know, how do they justify this opinion? Well, they use two main arguments for justifying this opinion. The first argument is that there is an aeration in terracotta, Berry and Buddha and the higher that states that Ayesha's sister asthma was 10 years older than her. And asthma at the time of the hegira was 28. So that means Ayesha at the time of the heater was 18. And that means that I shot when she got married one year later was 19. So this is the first argument they bring up. Right there. They use calculations according to the age of asthma, and they compare to Ayesha and then they say that the Hadees inside Buhari, they say it was narrated by an old man

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who had a weak memory. So he remembered nine instead of 19.

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Right. So this is the other argument you bring up. Firstly, the problem I have with this argument is Firstly, we are contradicting a hadith in Sahih al Bukhari with our own logic, and with reconsiderations right because the ration of asthma being 10 years old in Asia, is found in the recovery and be dire when you hire. And as someone who loves these books, someone who reads these books all the time, I can tell you these books are full of weak and fabricated and doubtful narrations. While Sahih al Bukhari is the most authentic book of Hades on Earth. So when you have Sahiba hardy on one side, and you have these books on the other side, immediately, you should

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realize that there's something wrong here right that you cannot contradicts the Hebrew hardy with a weaker narration right now as within a nation that states that are small was 10 years old. In Asia, there is an authentic version of the Hadees and it states that asthma was 10 or more years old Elijah, but in some versions of the Hadees The words are more gloss over

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got lost in translation. So when we say she was 10 or more, it doesn't mean exactly 10. It could be 15. It could be 14, because remember something about the Arab culture at that time. They never had birth certificates. They never had birthdays. Right? They never even have, you know, the set calendar that we have today with the hegira calendar and that sort of thing. So it's, it wasn't a human to talk about people's birthdays and how old they were it wasn't exact. Right? So they say 10 or more, because they're not sure. Right. So to give a specific age, you know, it is something which is

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doubtful, right? Furthermore, those who say that she was 19, they say that a smile was 100 years old when she passed away. And when you do the mathematics, that means that you are 10 years older than Aisha, that means the Ayesha was 19 when she got married, and the issue here is that there is a difference of opinion on how old a smile was when she passed away. Some say 91, some say 95. Some say 100. Nobody knows, because they never used to have birthdays. They never had the birth certificate is someone's past 80. Can you forgotten how awkward that individually is? Because he's not going to be revealing the age. So this is a very weak argument. And to me, one of the strongest

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arguments against the idea of Ayesha being 19 at the age of marriage is if she was 19, at the age of marriage, how do we explain all the pieces in Sahih Bukhari that tell us that Ayesha, after being married to Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she used to play with dogs. And she used to play with toys. And she even had a horse with wings as a toy.

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And she used to get her friends together, some of whom were not even baliga. They weren't even past puberty yet. And they used to sing in the spring with the drum, you know?

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Is this the behavior of someone between the age of 10 and 15, or the behavior of someone between the age of 20 and 25? Right. So just the fact that she used to play with dolls after getting married. This is clear evidence that she can't have been 19 when she got married.

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So this is why I believe this is a very weak argument. Furthermore, the non Muslims don't buy this argument. The non Muslims, especially those who are knowledgeable about Islam, they will tell you, you contradicting the Hebrew coffee with your own logic on every other issue. Muslims quote Sahih Bukhari certainly on this issue, say Boko Haram is wrong. Even the non Muslim don't bite, they don't write because they know the inhalation of I shuffling with dogs. He knows that he boccardi is to ask the most authentic book after the Quran. They know this. So we are using a very weak argument. Right. So I do not believe that this is the right way to go. If you study the books of history,

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throughout history, the majority of historians In fact, I can see all of the classical historians whose books I have read, they all have quoted her age as nine. None of the classical books mentioned anything about 19. This has come about in our times as a response to this allegation. So we are literally trying to change our own history, just to get out of a sticky situation.

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So I don't believe that she was 19. I believe she was nine years old when she got married. So that leaves us with a very big and very important question. How do we explain this? A 50 year old man getting a nine year old girl, it seems very strange in our times. Now, how we explain it, of course, will depend on who you are explaining it.

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And from that, I want to mention a very important principle of our

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has told us that

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speak to people according to their level of understanding. So this means when you are talking to someone you need to understand their background, you need to understand where they are coming from, you need to understand what is their perspective, and then talk to them according to their level. Right? You talk to them according to their level. So when someone brings up this issue about the issue of Ayesha, there is a variety of different scenarios. If it's someone who is a practicing Muslim who believes in Islam from the bottom of the heart, the approach will be very different compared to a Muslim who is still learning about their religion, and still has some doubts. And the

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approach for such a person will be different from a non Muslim who may be sincere, but he can't understand this issue, right? Because generally, for a non Muslim,

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it's difficult to accept a 50 year old man marrying a nine year old girl you have to understand the perspective in order to discuss it with him clearly.

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And the fourth type of person is not those people who just want to spread hatred about Islam, and they just want to harp on this point. So of course, you get different types of

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individual individuals. So if you are dealing with someone who is a practicing Muslim, of course these easier these issues are far easier to adjust to a practicing Muslim right. We

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Go back to history. Let's look at this historical.

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When did Rasulullah sallallahu Elisa marry Ayesha?

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Does anybody know the time or the time in history, the point in history being married Ayesha?

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Anyone familiar with this?

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But just before the Hydra around that point in time, right? Basically what had happened, his wife or deja had passed away Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam his wife has passed away. He's now a single father. How many of us ever thought of Rasulullah son going through a time in his life? He was a single father, raising five daughters on his own while dealing with everything else in his life. Right? So he was a single father. So a woman came to Rasulullah saw and advise them, and she advised him, why don't you?

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Why don't you get married? So he asked, Who can I marry? And she said, if you want to marry someone who is older, marry soda Buddhism, or if you want to marry someone who is young marry Ayesha. Right. So that means the marriage to Aisha was actually suggested by other people meaning what mean this was the norm at that time, it wasn't something out of the ordinary for an older man to marry a younger woman at that time. The fact that a woman is the one telling you why you do marry Ayesha indicates this right? So Rasulullah follow Islam. He took the first opinion and he married soudha right to the first woman he married after the date of Khadija was Souder, right? After he married

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Zelda and he married her because she was an older woman, she could look after his daughters help him raise them. And after that, he had a dream in which Allah subhanaw taala to this dream, showed him Ayesha

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and it is from the principles of our religion, that the dreams of the prophets are revelation. I this is the principle of the dreams of the prophets or revelation. So when Allah subhanaw taala showed the Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam Ayesha in his dream. This means that Allah is revealing to him that Allah wants him to do the action. So this is now revelation. So Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam went ahead, he spoke to Abu Bakar.

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At first, it was a bit hesitant about the idea, because he and Rasulullah saw my very close friends, but neither one he accepted. I shall marry Malik Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, and she moved in with him three years later. And that's how the Niigata plays. Now when you're dealing with someone who is a practicing Muslim, already forming the belief, just the fact that Allah is the one commodity that was right for that type of audience. That is all you need to explain. Allah subhanho wa Taala

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who is Al Hakim, the most wise, he is the one who revealed that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam buryatia. And so if we accept that Islam is the religion of submission to the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala accepting that Allah is most knowledgeable, accepting that Allah is the most wise, if we accept this, and we understand this, and we believe in this, then we will have no problem accepting the knowledge of Ayesha Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, right? So that will be the perspective that we will take if you're talking to a strong believer. However, reality is today, most people are not on that level. Right. And she Dan is always trying to put doubt in in our

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hearts, we have to be aware of shaytans got shaytan will bring up issues into our hearts, you know, and try to shake our faith. This is part of the struggle. And so for the average Muslim today, we still learning our religion, we're still discovering the beauty of Islam. Many of us are not familiar with our history, what happens? someone tells you that your prophet married a nine year old girl, suddenly your * your faith is shaken. That doubt comes in. No. So when you're dealing with a person like this, your approach is going to be different. You now need to explain it logically. And all of us will get a bit hardcore and say, you know accepting the Hadees is enough and accepting

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what Allah said is enough, but when you're dealing with people Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam said, deal with them according to the level of understanding, dealing with a youngster who has a lot of doubts, you have to explain things to him logically, otherwise, the worst warsop shaytan without of shaytan to play in his mind, and these doubts can grow into Kufa. Right? And I mentioned this because a lot of us today have this approach, that when the youngsters bring up doubts when the youngsters when they ask us questions, which are difficult to answer, we tell them keep quiet, shut up and believe. Right? This is what many of us do. And I personally know youngsters who their

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parents took this approach. The doubts in their mind grew and grew until they became adults and they left the fold of Islam altogether.

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One young girl from Durban she told me that when she was young, she asked me

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These questions her mother didn't have any answers. She believed that Islam does not have dances. Right? This is what is very, very important. Don't push aside people's doubts. You have to clarify it, you have to clarify because doubts can lead to conflict. So, when you're dealing with a Muslim who has some doubts, are we dealing with a non Muslim who wants to understand this topic better, we sincere, you know, what we have to do is we then have to explain things to them logically. And in order to explain it logically, there's five different perspectives, which I take is five different angles from which I approach this topic, depending on who I'm talking to.

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The first is to understand that we are talking about a marriage that took place in a different era. We know that the norms of marriage change from time to time and place to place. What was unacceptable in USA 50 years ago is normal today. Right? What was normal in USA 100 years ago, is evil today, right? It's changing all the time. So if in 50 years or 100 years, the norms are changing so much, how can we judge a seventh century marriage by 21st century norms, the culture was different. The environment was different. The upbringing was different, you know, the, psychologically in the end, the mentality of the people that time was different. And,

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you know, so this wasn't an issue. And he really, if you look, historically, throughout history, from the very beginning, they have always been non Muslims, who have attacked Islam. But they never brought up the knowledge of Asia as a point of attack. This was never brought up. A Buddha has never had a problem with Rasulullah saw somebody and I know God, he had a problem with everything else. He never had a problem with this. Why? Because it was a norm at that time. Right? So throughout history, Christians, Jews, wherever it was, nobody has a problem with it. It's only in the past two centuries, when the marital norms have changed, and people only get married in the 20s. Now

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suddenly, we look back and seem strange, and now it becomes a point to be caught. So the first thing we need to understand is the time three different people mature a lot faster mentally, mentally. And we're not just talking about Ayesha, what about Ali rhodiola, the fourth person to convert to Islam, one of the first for people to accept Islam, Ali rajala, who at what age? Did he accept Islam?

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Anybody noticed that? We accepted Islam.

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Chen, approximately between eight, nine or 10. Right? How many eight year old nine year olds 18 year olds today can actually make a decision for themselves to change their religion? How many of them can be intellectually convinced a certain religion is correct, and then make their own independent decision to move from one religion to another? This means that Ali at that age was far more intellectually and

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mature, then the average eight, nine or 10 year old today.

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Right? So this shows us that people were different. It wasn't as it as it is today in terms of how fast people grew up. What about Osama bin Laden, Osama bin Zayed was a commander of the Muslim army when he was 15, or 16, which means he was he joined the army many years before that to make to go up the ranks and become a commander, if he joined the army many years before that, right? Probably when he was about 13, or 14, maybe even 12. Right, depending on how early he mature, right? He was working. He was married. At that age, he was already living a full life that people really only live in their late 20s, early 30s. He was already living like that by the age of 1516. So this shows us

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that this society was very different, right? Because, you know, today we have this concept of teenagers, right? We see a person's a child, then they become a teenager, then they become an adult.

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Technically, the term teenager didn't exist 100 years ago, throughout history, your child, the day you hit puberty, you're an adult. This was for all cultures across the globe. It's only for the past 100 years. And now we have this concept of the teenager, when you've got all the physical capabilities of an adult, but you still got a child's brain. Right? This is something new, this wasn't the norm. If you look throughout history, we've had people in their very young age people between the ages of 12 to 1415, this sort of age, leading nations, you know, kings and emperors and army leaders and all kinds of people at these ages. So it shows us that in the past people mature a

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lot faster. And that brings us to the second point that in Islam, the concept of physical maturity, right that was about mental maturity. In Islam, the concept of physical maturity is very different.

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From the same concept in the West, in the West, a person is regarded as an adult when

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a specific age is at what age

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some countries 18. Some say 16. Some say 21. Who comes up with these ages?

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It's just somebody's opinion. Some guy just left an age when you're 18. You know, you can start buying alcohol. Two minutes before that you can buy it two minutes after you can buy it right when we get these ages. Right. So this is something just made up. It is no system, there's no rationale behind it. One country says 61 countries is 18. In some parts of the USA, if a person is married to a 16 year old girl, it's legal in other parts of the same country is pedophilia.

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Even one country differs this much. So that means that the law does not make sense. The law is the one that doesn't make sense. Islam gives us a very natural way of looking at it. When you hit puberty, you know that simple as that. When you hit puberty, you adult if you are able to do things that only adults can do to an adult, right? Today we see that children are committing Zina in school. I see them committing Zina, they're not children anymore.

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How can a child do this, that's not a child islamically that's not a child. Just the fact that they're physically capable of doing it means they are adult, they are responsible for their actions, they are responsible for their sense, but because you treat them as a child, they don't think you're responsible for the actions. So they do these things, and they feel they're not gonna get any sin, because we call this walk mentality. So Islam says when a person is physically capable of these things, they are an adult. And for a woman, even today, they are still in the workplace, which is rare, but it happens. nine year old girls can reach puberty. If you just go online and look at a

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nine year old girls who got pregnant. I mean, if nine year old girls can't attend puberty, why is it just Africa? They want to handle condoms in our primary schools?

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Right? I mean, what is it that shows its tradition, it's okay for girls that age to commit Zina, but it's wrong for her to get married. Right? I mean, this, this brings us to the third point. And the third point is that when we have a community that has so much immorality, and so much of our own problems, you know, we dealing with every type of Xena, every type of immoral people of all different ages are caught up in all these things.

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And we weren't worried about a marriage, a proper, happy marriage. We everything is done aboveboard 1400 years ago, and not dealing with the problems of our time.

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So any society, which does not have a set standard of morals, when the morals are always changing? 50 years ago, homosexuality was evil today, today, it's the norm. Now they're trying to make

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insisting on going in a direction trying to make people lose this disgust towards insist they only started putting it in the movies. And in the TV series, some countries have already legalized it. In 10 years time, people will accept me as a normal. So their moral standards are always changing. So people who don't have a set standard of morality, have no right to make moral judgments about history.

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Right? Because today you're saying is each one, right? You don't have anything.

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So this isn't really a base that we can make moral judgments from.

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You know, it might be another issue. Right? You have a man cheating on his wife, and telling his mistress, nobody Muslim no two wives.

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Because for them, the mistress spine and polygamy is evil.

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Right? Where's the logic? So the nine year old girl in school getting

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up giving her condoms and stuff like that? Boys and girls in school, they see that's fine. Manage evil. Where's the logic? Right. So Islam gives us a natural and logical

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approach. When somebody hits puberty, they are an adult. The problem today is we are not raising our children with this understanding. So they stay children much longer. I know people who are 30 year old children,

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little children because we don't give them this. This understanding that when you eat an adult, you are responsible. You are responsible for their own actions. So the world today with all of its immoralities has no right to look back in history. Look back 1000 years in history and pick on someone's marriage right

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It doesn't make sense.

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The fourth approach, right, so we went through three approaches. Firstly, the three different

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people mature earlier mentally. Secondly, the

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the Islamic concept of maturity physically, that is when you become an adult is when you attain puberty. Thirdly, we look at the moral issues of our time, and people who don't have same models can have a model.

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let's look at it from a psychological perspective. And they claim that this is pedophilia. pedophilia, where a man abuses a female child, that child grows up eating that man, she grows up mentally disturbed, she grows up with low self esteem, she grows up with all kinds of mental issues and psychological issues.

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With Aisha her life was the complete opposite. She was so confident she was intelligent, she was accomplished. And she dedicated the rest of her life, the next 4050 years of her life, to spreading the message of her husband after he died. I mean, how many women are still talking about their husband 40 years after he dies, okay, the opposite of fealty that this is a woman who had a productive and beneficial marriage, a marriage and neither confident a marriage and how to grow a manage that helped to progress in life and to reach your full potential. So this doesn't make sense. If you look at psychologically, this is not the results of pedophilia, this is the result of a

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healthy and happy marriage. So even from a psychological perspective, this argument does not hold any weight.

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And the final point which are raised the first point is that

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why is it that the enemies of Islam at that time did not have any problem with this?

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Because they had a problem with everything else? Were Rasulullah sallallahu magaziner, his cousin, his adopted sons, ex wife, they are the problem. And they still have a problem with it today. Right? When

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when he preached whenever you preach all the different things which he preached, which were against a society when it was worship god alone, or not to oppress the people they had a problem with. And they would constantly look for things to have a problem with. But nobody objected to him at the age of nine. Not even,

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not even.

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Not even they don't even know the the hypocrite, somebody that nobody had a problem with this. Why? No. So she was happy. If you read her life, and we're going to go through a life in full detail over the next few weeks, we can see for sure, she was happily married. And with the kind of manager to make you jealous, literally feel she has that happily married, her parents were happy. Her husband was happy, her society was happy. So if you have a manager, the entire community is happy. Why is it 1500 years ago, we suddenly want to make it a problem.

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So these are some of the different approaches which I use to address this topic. Again, it depends who you're talking to, you're going to look at the individual, which of these five approaches works best for the person doing the background, knowing you know,

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the logic which they work with. And again, you will choose accordingly. Which point works best for which person? Right? So this is the marriage of the last advisor to Ayesha from a perspective of Dawa? How do we explain it to Muslims and non Muslims? How do we understand it? Of course, you know, once you accept that whatever, or once you have a handle that Allah has ordered for us is best, then you're not really going to worry too much about these types of issues. Right? So, for us, what is even more important, and this is something which very often we don't discuss, whenever the knowledge of Rasulullah source of Asia comes up. We only discuss that our perspective. But what's more

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important is what can we learn from this marriage? Right. So before we do that, let me ask you a question. Since we accept that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi zambelli Aisha when she was nine.

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Does this means that today we should not be our daughters of India nine.

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What do you think?

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Because what happened to Islam doesn't change.

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what do you think?

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Can we see that because the Times have changed. We can't do that.

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Can we see that?

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We can, we can, because there's two parts of Islam. We have the Sharia and we have. Can you tell me what's the difference between Sharia?

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right because in most of our English books, Sharia is translated as Islamic law.

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And Vic is translated as Islamic law.

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But they're not the same thing, the difference.

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The Sharia are those divinely revealed laws and universal principles that can never change

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those things which everyone agrees about, you know, like Xena, in Harare, that will never change the five pillars of Islam, those pillars never change, right.

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Which means understanding is the understanding of the of the, of the Sharia. And the big changes from alcohol to malham. from country to country, from time to time, from situation to situation, from culture to culture changes, right? The way Islam is practicing Durban is different from the way Islam is practicing Aikido.

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This difference is different cultures, you go to Malaysia insisted you go to Saudi, you go to the USA.

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As long as he all fits within the Sharia, as long as you're doing something he goes outside the Chilean science,

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when he comes to pick

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can change with the times. And this is based on the principle of Vic, which in Arabic is called Olaf, or in English, we'll call it culture.

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And this is among the five main Maxim's of where it is stated as an AI that will have come up, which means the local culture is the deciding factor. This principle of paper, which many of us are unaware of the local culture is the deciding factor is agreed upon by all must haves. And it is strongest and most dominant in which must have

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in the Hanafi muscle.

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This principle is strongest in the Hanafi madhhab. At least it was 1000 years ago. Unfortunately, we don't know much about it. But when you study classical hanapepe, I'm talking about the earlier use of hanapepe, you will find that this principle is used over and over again, by the students onwards, this is something accepted by scholars of faith from whatever must have come from that the local culture is the deciding factor. What this means is

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that when it comes to issues that change from time to time or place to place or culture to culture, you go with the local culture. That's what you go with.

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You go with the local culture, as long as four conditions are met.

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Number one,

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the local culture is not something Haram.

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So any cultural practice, which is haram, forget about it. You can't even think about it. You can't see this in my culture. We do that right? You tell people do

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cultural practices which are Haram, Haram, you can't justify it in the basis of culture. Number two, it's not a religious innovation, you're not changing the religion in any way. It's not a minute, right? So people can't justify behind the name of culture. Right?

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Number three. So we say number one is it's not Haram. Number two is not a bid. Number three is not part of another religion. If the local culture practice comes from another religion, we are not allowed to practice it. So just because Christmas is a part of the local culture doesn't give us a right to celebrate it.

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Because it comes from another religion, right? It's a celebration of the birth of what they regard as the Son of God, even though it's been commercialized, and it's been completely separate different religion and become a commercial thing. It's still got the roots, it's still not possible. And the

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condition for accepting a cultural practice is that it is not harmful to society. So any cultural practice, which is harmful to society is haram. Right? Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam said, da, da, da, da, da da, do not cause harm to yourself or anybody else. This is the principle of faith, which applies across the board to every single area of favor. If you are harming somebody else, it is so much easier than if you know if you get married to a woman, you're going to abuse it and hammer is haram to you.

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Because you're going to be abusing them and how many people is around. So any cultural practice which is haram on innovation are part of another religion or harmful to society. This becomes this is not permissible to follow. Otherwise, you follow the local culture

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and this principle

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primarily in the areas of marital law, marriage laws, and business laws, and then it helps us to solve many modern issues when it comes to these two areas. So, the topic of the marital age Elijah, again, the issue of culture comes in, at what age should our children get married? Well, the culture does play a role, because the culture decides, at what age is your child mentally ready for marriage? Right, because someone growing up in South Africa might mentally mature, depending on the family, the environment, the school, etc, at a later age and somebody growing up, perhaps the most the Arab countries, right, so you have to look at the culture we see the culture of our times, is

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that 99% of the time, a nine year old girl is not ready for manage.

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So we can accept

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a nine year old, at the same time, see that we don't want that in our lives. In order to gain your value, you can have both of these at the same time and you're not going against the sooner you're not going against the Sharia At any rate, because the Sharia is made in this way that these issues do change from culture to culture.

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Right. So this is the nature of interview. And this specific

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principle is really

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part of the universal nature of Islam. It's part of the universal nature of Islam, meaning that in Islam, whatever culture you come from, you can still follow the good parts of the culture. Right? And this is where we go off as a community, because our community to be frank, if a Caucasian or African converts to Islam, we convert them into Indians. Right?

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No, no, make them a Dakota, medium CG

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materials in the name of Islam, you're not supposed to do that. They have the freedom in Islam, to follow the visible parts of the culture. They don't have to just like Indians, they don't have proper Indians. They don't have to do this. This is not Islam, this is forcing a foreign culture. Rather, the local culture is supposed to be the determining factor.

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So let me give you some examples of how this works.

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Firstly, an example of unacceptable culture. It is the local culture in South Africa in most parts of the world today, to have a girlfriend or boyfriend to come and see now this is the no

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matter how long it gets in society, no matter how much it becomes a part of the local culture, Muslims can never accept this. Because it goes against the fundamental principles of our religion. It goes against the fundamental principles of our religion. So you can't see that's the culture, you can't see. That's the norm. You can't see that's how our society is. You can't see that everyone's doing it. That's the that's an excuse everyone's doing it. No.

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It is something clearly prohibited our religion. Right.

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Now, let's look at the concept of hijab. Because the concept of hijab is a good example, when we see both Sharia and cricket play. Right? Firstly,

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I hope you're all aware that hijab applies to both men and women.

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Right? There's only one difference between the job of men and women, and that's the owner which parts of the body have to be covered. Otherwise, both men and woman according to the Sharia, are not allowed to look at the opposite gender with lust. Both men and woman has to be modest in the speech and actions. Both men and women have to wear modest clothing. Both men and women cannot reach sexually attractive clothing in public, right? Both men and women have to be loose fitting clothing, both men and women are prohibited converting the clothing of the opposite gender.

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Both men and women are prohibited from banning clothing of other religions. Right? The only difference is that a man's around the private part of his body is from his navel to his knees. And a woman's is everything except the face and hats. That's the only difference. Otherwise, men also have to observe the job. Unfortunately, we live in times where most men don't notice. So you see a couple at the beach, the wife is in full the job and the man's wearing a speedo. Right.

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Men also have to dress modestly. And they also have to lower their gaze to the object, the more listen to speech and actual religion. So handjob applies to both men and women,

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both men and women. So this is a Sharia. So what changes from culture to culture,

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the style of the job.

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If you look at the job of Malaysia, and the hijab of India, and the job of North Africa, and the job of Arabia, they all look completely different. The colors are different, the material is different. The style of learning is different, but as long as it's full

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fulfills the criteria of a job which I just mentioned, it's fine. It's fine. It's the same with the men. Right? We many of us have this idea that men have to be a quota.

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quota is the Indian version of the job. For men, it is the job for men in Congress community to do this in a loose fitting manner. Right. So in a job for men, the Arab weather, so it does the same thing. In some countries, the way the loonie does the same thing, right? If you're wearing a loose fitting shirt and pants, it does the same thing. Right, as long as it fits the criteria of the job, it's fine. That's the main thing, it must fit the criteria of the job. So

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what happened to many of us is, we traveled overseas for the first time, we see Muslims just differently from us.

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She's wearing a pinky job. Now.

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He's not wearing a polo,

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what is available?

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Sometimes reality is what the brother or sister is wearing fulfills the criteria of the job, they are allowed to tailor that HR program to culture. So he job in colors, in its style, in each specific forms, that's changed from culture to culture, as long as he meets these criteria, right, as long as it meets these criteria. That's the meeting. So that is an example of how culture of extreme

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and I mean, this also many contemporary problems, really, you know, people are arguing in one signature scheme, the bionic the electric, although one thing and pupillary anatomy, one thing this gives a lecture in English, if you go by this principle, the local culture is the determining factor, which language will you give the lecture

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in English, because 90% of the audience understands English, right? I don't know how many times you know, local machines, I've seen a lecture in order to do or in Arabic, and 90% of the muscles are standing outside the masjid talking to each other because they don't understand the word that's going on. While if you just follow this principle, that the local culture is the deciding factor, the problem is solved. The lecture is given in the local language every day, you know, so So this principle of big needs to be divided by all of our times, it needs to be used to look at contemporary issues, and to see which issues of you know, liberal culture is acceptable, which part

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of the local culture not acceptable? We are we importing our culture of India to South Africa, or what is actually Islam? What is our culture? How do we separate between the two, we have to look at all of this, we have to analyze Islam in light of these principles. So this is a lesson we take from the marriage of Rasulullah. Ayesha? Yes, he married Aisha when she was nine years old. But that was culturally acceptable at that time. It's not acceptable in our culture. So we don't do it, we accept it, and we don't do anything. You can, you know, have this approach. It's not a problem.

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A second lesson

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that we take from this story, is an understanding of what does it mean to be an ally in other hockey?

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You see, many of us we know about

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the attributes, but we know of it in a very, very theoretical way.

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Just feel

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like I'm hockey. What does that mean to us? We see Allah is what does it mean to us? Does it have any practical application now like, because the names and attributes of Allah are supposed to change who we are as people, if you believe Allah is all seen that's supposed to impact your behavior? If you believe Allah, yours, everything that's supposed to impact your speech, right? So if we believe that Allah is the most wise, that should impact our understanding of Islam and our understanding of life itself.

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because Allah commanded, we believe that Allah is

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the most wise, what does that mean to us? That means that he allowed the most wise informed someone, in this case, Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam to marry someone else in a dream.

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This is based information in basically online wisdom is based on our knowledge of the future. It's based on 100% truth and therefore we must trust the decision of Allah. We must just decision. He knows even you know, if we can't see the logic behind something, Allah knows you, our CV. So

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you see historically today that because of this damage, Ayesha became one of the greatest woman in the history of Islam. In this marriage, nobody believes she wouldn't have this marriage led to her becoming one of the greatest woman in the history of Islam. So this shows us how Allah has wisdom manifests itself in her life. So how do we

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To our lives.

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Firstly, our approach to Islam. If we accept that Allah is most wise, if we accept that Allah knows best, then we will follow the laws of Islam, even when we don't understand it.

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Even if it goes against our own logic, if allowed to do that, I will follow it because I will not understand what he's most wise, he understands things I don't understand. For example,

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in Islam, it is this slight mockery to sleep on your stomach, right? Throughout history, Muslims follow this rule without question, unless it is we follow it. Now, scientists have discovered there are so many health issues that occur when you sleep on your stomach, if you put the charges deep on your stomach, right? Now, only scientists are discovering it, but useless throughout this hour, 1400 years, we just follow this law of Islam without question, he got the benefit without even knowing it, because they trusted a large wisdom. And they trusted that Allah knows better than them. So this means even though in Islam 90% of our laws, we can explain them rationally, we can explain them

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logically. You won't come across the

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mean, sometimes you can't explain it logically. Right? It doesn't have to you don't have to be that way. Because these laws exists as a test.

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To us, are we going to submit to Allah only when it makes sense? Are we going to submit to Allah in all things? For example? Why is the Muslim sell out three Raka and other sellers for our country? Raka? What's the logic?

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Only Allah knows. You see, because we don't know the logic, we don't need to combine the Salah. We don't bring logic into the picture, a lot of revealing we follow it with a lot of knowledge base. I This will be our approach. Because at the end of the day, or no, we can we can explain 90% of the goals, we will come across laws where you can't explain it. That is where your test of submission or when will you submit to that what you don't understand? Are you going to follow your own logic.

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So that we apply this principle of loving most right so understanding of Islam, how do we apply it to our daily life.

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Simply put, when things go wrong in our lives, when we face difficulties, we must just allow the wisdom and trust that Allah knows what is best for us. Allah subhanho wa Taala knows what is best for us. things going wrong in our life could be the best thing that ever happened to us. And lead the lead the biography of anybody in history, who made a difference in this world. Everybody needs human influence in the world. Where did it start? What was the turning point in your life when something went wrong? Allah subhanaw taala made something go wrong in their life, which led to that person reaching levels of, you know, success in victory which they never imagined. We see it in the

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lives of the Sahaba we see it in the lives of the prophets received throughout history. So even in our own lives, when things go wrong, understand Allah is most wise and the most wise has allowed this to happen to me. So there must be wisdom behind why this happened. So I must have been the one in Allah, I must trust Allah as wisdom, I must submit to Allah as wisdom, I must be patient, because later on, then only I will see the fruits of putting my trust in Allah. And

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so this is how we practice on the names of Allah. And this is a very important point, it's not just enough to know I was in attributes, they must affect our life, we must change our life. Right, we must live our life according to this knowledge of Allah.

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So with that,

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we conclude today's lecture on the Medical Medium, which we approach from a variety of different angles. We looked at Russia's age in terms of the difference of opinion on 19, and nine, and we clear data, we looked at how to explain it to the non Muslims. We looked at some of the lessons we derive from this. And I just want to end on the small note. And a lot of us we wonder, why is there so much hatred towards Islam in the world?

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Sometimes when you go online, and you leave the comments against Islam, and

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you don't see people making such hateful comments towards any other religion, the way to be towards Islam.

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And to me, this in of itself is proof that Islam is a religion. Because when the entire world is united against one religion, or religion,

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it's because they've been threatened by they know if people discover the truth about their religion, they will flock to it.

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So we need to understand

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ever since it believes refuse to bow to Adam, there has always been a clash between good and evil. There have always been people who

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spoke against Islam, we have always been people who are pressed and hard users. This is this is the nature of this world, there's a word in ETS, it will always be such people, we can change our complete, we can, it will always be people there to test us, you will always be able to fight against our job is to do the Tao defend Islam to propagate Islam, and need the guidance in the hands of Allah Subhana do not allow these evil elements to discourage us and to put doubt into our hearts because our duty is to propagate and defend our religion and to be invested in this religion. So they just embrace this duty, and almost have the right knowledge to do it properly. inshallah. So

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then, we come to the end of tonight's lecture, and I hope that this has given you a lot of things to think about. And every week, we will go deeper and deeper into Islam. The main focus is not just going to be on the lives of Ayesha, the Sahaba, but the main focusing on the lessons, things which we can take and apply to our times in our life. Next week, inshallah, we look at the marriage of Ayesha

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law, even Salam from a different angle, from the angle of how did they deal with each other, the love, the romance, the treatment they had for each other, how do you deal with domestic disputes, we will go into all of them because there's narration dealing with all of these aspects of our life. So inshallah that will be the topic which we'll cover in the next episode, and shout outs your next week to discuss them before we close up on any questions related to this topic.

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Any questions at all? Okay, if you have questions later, you can always email it to us inshallah, we can respond to your questions by email and

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inshallah hope to see you all next week. Again, try to encourage others to attend as well to mobile development and the recordings of this lecture will be made available online on my website. So you get people to download inshallah, and

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so, over time, we can get more people to attend. And next week, we look at the knowledge of isotope and after we move on to other aspects of Alright, so with that we will need for today