Riyadh Us Saliheen – 11-10-2022

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So, today inshallah we will continue from where we stopped. If you remember last time we were talking about hadith of Abu Huraira when he says an original and Khalid in the visa Allahu Allah whosoever el cine kala Tagalog foreign debt and Iran Karla talk about there was a hadith before this. I think we escaped it by mistake, which is narrated by Jabir ibn Abdullah Carlos and he rasool Allah, He said, Allahu alayhi wa sallam, I have all my you read your Rommel hiera column.

If you remember we talking about leniency and gentleness and giving down with wisdom. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam and this hadith to emphasize on the importance of leniency in all of our activities, it says, My you refer your caramel hierarchy Allah, if Allah smarter deprive you from a riff, leniency

to be gentle, to be soft, to be kind, you know, when you are talking to others, you are definitely deprived from a higher, good. So it is necessary to be gentle, if you really want people to adhere to that what you say, even if these people they are your family members, people who are under your custody, they need this Rifka, gentleness and softness. Actually, they need you more than more than anybody else. Because the first responsibility that Allah subhanaw taala put on your shoulder is that

of your family,

the responsibility that you have towards your family, you must make sure that they are placed in the better position.

And if you are not gentle, if you're not lenient, if you're not soft, in your eyes, in your commands, you will end up losing everyone.

Those people who are scared of you, they will obey what you're saying in your presence. But as soon as you leave the place, they go back to what they agree with. Yeah, it is really necessary for the parent to understand this correctly. Being a parent doesn't mean all the authority are given on your shoulder and the rest are just the subordinates who are acting as a slave under your control. But they're not like that is a heavy responsibility that should be based on how to convince my family members to believe in what I'm saying. That's the most important thing. And that's a resistance you will be given to your family in which Insha Allah, when they go out of the house, they will be

practicing that which you are teaching them, you know, even if you're not there,

because they agree with you before they left the house. But unfortunately, most of us cannot like that. Yeah, I'm the father and the mother. You just have to listen. Yeah, and the Son and the daughter they have they have no option. Because where are they going to eat where they're going to sleep if they don't come back to you? So they just have to say yes to you Subhan Allah when they go to their front, what exactly are they do it they do completely the opposite.

And unfortunately the time you realize this is a time when it is too late to rectify things. Many parents get into trouble because of this when it is too late to rectify, then they will realize that the kids are going in the wrong direction. But they have gone too far. Now we have to start another age of damage control

to try to restrict them going straight to the same level it is and try to see how to tackle the issue in the best way.

So at the very beginning, if you want to succeed you have to take that the way in the method of Rasulullah sallallahu in terms of tarbiyah Salah he was so soft. He was so kind he was so gentle. He was so merciful to to his family members. He was like this to everyone. But it's felt especially with the family members. That's why people in the house over

So let's allow some are very honest,

you know, do do our kids like us

a lot, a lot a lot. Why do you think your child is 90? Because he's afraid of punishment.

Try this by Allah, you know, try this when you are apparent, try this method, not to raise up your hand on your child for less, if it is really, really, really, really necessary and you cannot avoid it.

And that's after a very long period of time, you know, consultations and everything and believe me, the child will understand that my father, my mother, is not like this. Take this leniency let the child knows that there will be no punishment when he speaks the truth

they will not lie. They will speak what exactly in their mind and they will tell you exactly what is the truth in the case, which you ought to be looking for. So, take the money out of the props a lot. So on his method and his tarbiyah you will be loved by your family and they will adhere to what you are saying and they will make you happy at the end of the day. Yeah, they will make you happier than of the day. So as I said, leniency bring good always leniency bring good always the only time when leniency is not supposed to be applicable. Anyone is when somebody is going against the laws of Allah azza wa jal, he has been reminded so many times and the authority have to take drastic action,

serious matter to make sure that they bring him back to is consciousness. We don't go for harshness. First, we go for leniency first. You know, we go for leniency first Allah subhanaw taala talks about the revelations in Surah Al Hadith and he says that Santa Rosa and I will Vina to answer Nana Hamid Kitab will Misa Nydia Coleman Nelson the

Allah says We have sent Our Messengers bill by unit, but you know, these are, you know, signs that Allah subhanho wa Taala send and also the ayat of the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam, every prophet of Allah smart Allah has been sent to his people with by unit,

the book, the Sharia, and is the marriages that Allah subhanaw taala says.

Now, homily kitab. All means and Alia commonness will kiss and we have given them the signs and the book also, as the reference,

you know, he started with the more desert. And he started with the Kitab. And the later on, he says wonderful had it. And we also have had it

had it means iron metal, because you have two types of people in this life. There are some and these are the vast majority of the people, they listen, they understand and they will be used in the peaceful way. And you have other kinds of people who believe that they do have a right to do whatever they want in the society and to cause corruption and facade in the community. These are the ones that nobody works with them except the authority to use the power to make sure that they bring them to their consciousness so that the community will enjoy peace. But believing that there were sisters in the vast majority of the cases, you know, social illnesses that were suffering from in

any community Wallahi leniency is the best method to bring people back to Allah smell.

Leniency is the best method. Everyone likes to sweat even children, younger ones, you know, a fall in they realize you're arrogant. They turn to run away from you. If they see your humility, humbleness, they will listen they will come back to you.

And they always do what you say.

So the prophets Allah Azza wa send me your Hara Meridith cup your

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if you don't have the reference, which is leniency

you are deprived from good.

So please, I really advise all of us living in this community you know, you're going to see a lot of things which you don't agree with on which you believe that they are incorrect. The best way to fix it since alarm to that person first. You know how many times you pass people even learn to say salam and sometimes this is learn to you know, reply, you know, what a loss say salaam to him smile, you know, most of us we don't know how to smile.

We see the smiles when we're really excited with something of the dunya but it comes to given down when we don't know how to smile. You know?

We think we're always right. We're always righteous, we're earlier of Allah subhanaw taala and the rest. You know when we need them, we meet them with angry face.

tomorrow so I will sit with him. And then I discussed the matter of the OMA being in a state of loss. But I will sit down and talk

got all these people there? There's there's so much corruption, so much bad things are taking place in the community. But the question is, you have been in that community for quite a number of years.

What kind of contribution Have you given to the community to be fixed, other than sitting down and talking against what the people are doing, you know, in secret, but what is your contribution, in most instances is zero.

This is very dangerous, very dangerous. In this book, we have learned at the province of Allahu Allahu sama talked about the danger of living in the midst of the people who are going astray. And you will know how to guide them. But unfortunately, you refuse to tell them the guidance is very dangerous. You know, why is it dangerous? Because when the punishment comes, it will not just affect those people who are going against Allah, the perpetrators will never be in trouble alone. Whoever is found in that vicinity will get into trouble also.

You can only be saved when you engage in the data and people don't want to listen. When the punishment comes being eaten. Allah has doTERRA you will not be included.

Remember the scene of Alaska about us have served those people who are commanded by Allah subhanaw taala not to catch fish on Saturday.

Did they catch the fish? Yes. Many of them did.

But they they think they're playing game with Allah and the way we are doing nowadays, you know, so many transactions, so many business dealings, so many things that we're doing in this time of ours. We don't want to go straight forward to do the rebar.

We take a long journey.

The Suhaila the end of the day, we come back to the same ditch. We're trying to disguise ourselves but we can do that with human beings. You know, I can cheat you. You can cheat me. You can cheat others, they can cheat you. But can we cheat Allah? No. Allah knows what is in the heart, you know? So those people they thought they can cheat Allah. He told them do not catch fish on Saturday.

What did they do? They want and they put the nets on Friday.

Yeah, they put them on Friday.

On Saturday, on Friday, there's no fish. On Saturday, the fish came.

And the fish got trapped by the net.

Did they get it on Saturday? No.

They will come and pick it up on Sunday. You know, they think they're so smart. You know, Brandon Friday because the Command said do not catch the fish on Saturday. So they will put the net on Sunday to track the fish on Saturday. And they will come on Sunday and get the fish

is Hello. So because when the fish get trapped on Saturday, when did you catch the fish on Saturday?

That was your fault. You are late to come and pick it up. We will not call it catching the fish on Saturday, picking up the fish on Saturday on Sunday.

But when did you catch the fish on Saturday?

So Subhanallah so they were divided into three groups. One group is going against the law. The other group is advising the sinners and the criminals not to go against Allah subhanaw taala because the punishment is going to be severe.

And you have the third group

who did not do that sin directly. But they are demotivating those people who are engaged in giving the data to

the wrongdoers they were telling them why do you want to waste your time limited isn't a common Allahu likoma level mme and Chillida they were telling them why do you waste your time these guys are meant to be punishment last month and you're wasting your time for what you advising them for what?

Smart Allah? Do we have people like this?

Well, long we do have? We do have

I myself personally see is somebody who told us you're just wasting wasting your time when you're advising the people. Because if they don't listen,

people are thinking No, because they don't listen. You're wasting your time.

And it's not waste of time in the doubt. Even if nobody accepts that you please do understand this correctly. Your job and my job and everybody's job is to give the hour with wisdom and leniency and softness gentleness with smiling, you know and try your best to convince them if they don't get convinced. You are done. Your job has been done. If you say that people have to accept everyone has to accept what you're doing for you to be counted as the successful one. Then most of the prophets of Allah subhanaw taala we will call them what

their job is a failure because many of them

them have not been accepted by their people pursue lights Allah Sama, sweat prophet. Nobody accepted him, you know, he saw somebody who was accepted by only three. He was shocked. Is like throughout his time only three people accepted.

But then Jabril showed him okay, that is another one that so that one only two people accepted

only two only three, only two.

It wasn't there isn't a lot. He saw that one. Only one accepted. You know, throughout his life, only one person he's going to go to Jana with only one person.

And then Allah showed him the last one. Nobody accepted it, he finishes down and he went back to Allah subhanaw taala with with no one.

What do you call that success or failure? If you are going to use our own term that people have to accept, you have to have so many people following you, you know, it nobody if many people do not accept you, that means you don't know how to do it. If you're going to look at it in this way, that prophet should be somebody who fail.

But Allah subhanaw taala called them the most successful messengers and human beings that were ever created.

All of them succeeded in their mission.

Why? Because they understood the job which is given to them by Allah. And they conveyed to that people with wisdom and patience and patience, you know, they convey the message and they hold upon that one patiently until the time they meet Allah subhanho wa Taala regardless of the nature of who is accepted and who is not.

So, please get this correctly. Your job and my job is to do what to remind using the wisdom using the best way you believe that somebody will understand and accept you

making them convinced and making them accepting you this is the job of who parabola and

he cannot open the heart of somebody to make him convinced by force. Unless if Allah Swanton

so back to those people who are divided into three groups, some of them are given the doubt some of them are demotivated, others, you know, and the rest are committed.

Allah subhanaw taala says filamin suma de que Roby and JNL Medina and Hoda and so while hardenability Nevada Muda. Durban the ease in Dima, can we have support? Allah subhanaw taala says when they forgot that which they were reminded with, you know by the DUA, when they forgot that reminder. Allah subhanaw taala says we saved and I want you guys to pay attention to this. He said we saved those who are reminding others to stop committing the sin.

Who are the one who has saved those who are reminding others to stop committing the sin.

It says we are having a lead in Avila moody and urban by easing the mechanics of support. And those who oppressed themselves we got them in a very severe and strong punishment because of their evil attitude.

What happened to those who are silent? As Carl said the Quran mentioned that the only one who was saved are those who are reminded us

Allah subhanaw taala was silent about the one who was silent. They did not engage in giving the dower not just silent but they are demotivating the DUA

the scholar said, The best approach concerning the understanding of this idea is that anyone who is not engaged in given the data is included in the punishment also.

As the reason why I said it's very dangerous for you to live in a place where people are committing sin, and you have the ability to remind them but you don't remind them This is very dangerous. You have to do it according to your capacity. Some of us can fix it with their own hand. Some of unkept, some of us cannot fix it with their hand, but they can fix it with their speeches. They talk about it and people will stop. Some of us they cannot do this.

My job is to hate it. And let's not to be part of that commission of deceit. Everyone has something to do. And believe me, my Deborah sisters, in most instances, we can talk. We can

drop the Shaolin shyness down, talk to that person in a very nice way. Allah Hayden's with some of them that you are the first person whoever reminded them about that. Don't be surprised next to you. There are some people who are doing something wrong. You are the first person to tell him this is wrong. He never heard of it.

So if you are shy, he will get lost and he lost any word and he will keep on going like this and nobody reminded.

And believe me Malioboro sisters, they will come on Allah smart to hold him responsible. He might come and ask Allah subhanaw taala to call you back because he was living with you and you never told him.

Yeah, we can't hide the truth. If you know it, you know, it just up

huger conveyed with with a good idea. As I said, be gentle, be soft, swell, sit with the person, talk to him as an advisor, not as somebody who is commanded. Sometimes we shall witness of our voices or inappropriate approaches, if you want to succeed in the doubt, so always look at yourself as a trader, somebody who is selling something, if you open up a shop, and then somebody comes to your shop, and then he tells you all by this, you shouted at him, do you think he will continue? You go look for somebody else? Subhanallah in most instances, we're very smart. We train people how to advertise the product, you know, and promote it, you know, and invite people to come to us, you

know, we know all of these, but when it comes to the data, we don't care. We just give it any anyhow, and this is very, very wrong.

One we heard from the Aloha call, and Julian and Julian pilot in the beasts that Allahu alayhi wa sallam house in Palo Alto, para de Meuron, Kala taco. So this hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked to give an advice, you know, by one of his companions, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I told him later. And I guess last week, we talked about this hadith. So what is one of the main sources of shadows and evil in this life? Yeah, we really need to be very careful. Controlling your emotions is really important if you need to succeed in this life.

And it really puts you in a state of pressure in your life, you'll be depressed, you know, and you have a lot of stress in your life. If you have the attitude of God, all the time, whenever somebody did something, you get angry, you get annoyed, and then take it very seriously to the heart.

But it'd be my dear brothers, sisters, you don't need that in your life.

100 Versalles a lot. So that is the best of my knowledge to the hearts. I know it's very difficult. But believe me, my Deborah's Sisters is very, very simple man had an excellent to be practiced, especially in the life we live in.

Question, is it possible for you to live in this life? To go out of your house without having somebody making you angry?

Is there any possibility for you to go out of your house without having somebody making you angry?

That's impossible. There is no way for you to mix with others without being annoyed.

So that's part of the system. That's the reason why I emphasize so much on patients, patients patients, and also controlling all the emotions, the promise a lot. So I talk about this a lot.

But Deborah says is it gives you relief.

Sometimes you will see the traffic, you know, Soheila is spend 30 minutes, one hour in the traffic, trying to go out of it.

Only to go and see that what cause that traffic is just a car that stopped in the middle of the road. And people are just watching sometimes we we laugh, you know, nobody's there willing to help. And sometimes there's a example I'm looking for somebody's crashed another person and this crashes. Sometimes when we have to put the microscope to CT

they kept on crashing which costs so many delays, you know,

maybe somebody's they're in a rush, you know, to go to the hospital, you know, they have to struggle so much for them to have a passport, this little thing.

That's why if you take them on how to personalize a lot itself, I know this is your wealth. And this is your right? Yeah, when somebody tells you the patient, that means your right is being taken right. Nobody will come to you and Pastor you 10 $20,000 Until the patient

which patient eternally Be thankful right?

But one day when they hurt you, they will tell you the patient whenever you hear the word patients that's mean somebody's heart

to get an idea so the manager of the province Allah sama in this regard, is to forgive

and not to be angry.

That's why it's you're going to see inshallah in the near future. The next few Hadith, the prophets, Allah Salman never took revenge in his life.

Well, I see that waste of time, waste of energy, to think about others and to let them go to your house.

I wish you can try this and maintain it. By the time you reach home. Throw away every single person from your heart. Get inside your home with nobody thinking of nobody in your heart.

Believe me, you will enjoy life.

I always believe that nobody deserves to occupy your heart

In this life other than Allah subhanho wa Taala

free your heart from any revenge who did who did what? Just

believe me, you're going to be the front of everyone and at the end of the day people will be very careful in terms of hurting you.

Human beings sometimes they have these attitudes they tease you a lot if you mind

if you don't mind they do it that the first the second and then they stop.

I'm not saying you should just be careless you know, let people do whatever they want. No Rasul. Allah is Allah Allah is Allah was not like that. He puts a lot of precautions in the way people will not come and behave in the wrong way against him. To good idea, this is what should be doing. You put a lot of precautions, trying your best to stay away from anything that can convert invite harm to you,

whatsoever.

That's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said wala to valley she and he said what

garden is one of the behaviors and the good manners which most of us don't have

any excellent statement by the prophets a lot sooner he says let the VINCI and tattoo that have been forgotten, said Do not let yourself do something that you have to go to somebody and tell them. I'm sorry.

Try your best not to do something wrong. You know, try your best. Don't to ever do something which you have at the end of the day to go to somebody and tell them so I'm sorry. Please accept my apology. Apologize for doing this and that.

Sort of sola sola sama put a lot of precautions to make sure that people don't misbehave misbehave towards him. But at the same time if they do something, the prophets Allah sama usually close his eyes and and forgive.

The Imam Shafi says Lama photo while I'm headed to an FCM in hamdulillah

Imam Shafi says when i i take the attitude of Allah, Allah formins Forgiveness and I never hate anyone

he said I gave myself relief from the worry of the enmity

believe me you cannot relax if you have this revenge in your heart this one is doing this is why even have a lot in your file you're waiting for this you're waiting for that you're waiting for this put them in the garbage place you know all of those revenge revenge just put them in the garbage place just keep moving. Believe me you will never lose in your life. Allah subhanaw taala says it viability here as it viability he has always supply with with the best in the law, the vena cava who are doubting Kano while you so try your best My dear brothers sisters, don't you ever be angry? Try pull yourself down. When it happens you should know that this is from Shaytaan you know, this is

from Sherpa the prophets Allah sama so somebody very angry, saying a lot of words. The prophets Allah Azza wa said I know something in which if this person is to say it Allah is monitor will remove the the anger from his heart.

The man says no, I'm not mad. You know, I'm not an insane and he did not say

he left the province Allah sama wanted him to seek refuge with Allah azza wa jal from Chateau say, Oh, the Gila, because anger is from shaper.

But he did not do. So whenever you are angry, My dear brothers sisters out of your nature because you're going to be no matter how much you try, somebody is going to push you so much. But always understand that what is waiting for you with Allah's motto is far greater than executing you. Your anger cooldown.

Don't be negligent. But try forget, guide people remind them not to do it again and just forgive and ignore. They even lie, as though that person will not repeat the same mistake. Tomorrow. They might do something else but not. Not this, Phil. Phil. So if you're angry, what to do? Sit down.

Last month Allah forbid, if somebody come and hit you

very badly, very badly. I'm hitting.

Usually we hit them back

at the same time, and how do we hit them back?

He hit you with

one hand right? When you hit him you combine both get.

So now you're going beyond beyond the limit. That's why taking action at the moment. Somebody misbehave towards you. Usually you can. I mean usually cause you to go beyond the limit and you will regret at the end of the day. Because you're going to harm that person in the way you never expect it to happen.

I believe in my dear brothers sisters, this is what is happening. That's why the moment somebody angers you, it is always better not to react at that moment, cooldown. Delegates, because if you look at him, I'm telling you, I wanted everyone to take action, they look at it called

walk away, leave the place. If that doesn't work this one look for a place and try and sleep make is an old method given to us by the Sharia make.

Try to forget and avoid to not take revenge. And he will never forget that this is what Allah smarter is referring to when he says if you don't take action and you became patient, you know from the best behavior that you got from somebody, that person is going to act like your best friend or one of your in laws. Whenever he sees you you fisheye of looking at you and He will never forget that.

Give one example and then move to the next Hadith. You remember a man call Allah even Masuda.

One of the leaders of the operation. And in fact, he was the second proposal when the Quraysh were proposing, you know, not proposing even commanded Allah subhanaw taala not to accept Mohammed as a messenger. But he should take one of the two people from either Makkah or

they are referring to Aruba, and they are referring to and really dealing with Iran, according to them be submitted and Rasul Allah, Allah

at least I accepted Islam afterwards. But I believe that that's one of the criminals, the worst criminals against Islam.

But that was their proposal that the result should be given to one of them.

When the prophets Allah Sama, reach Makkah, during the Treaty of Arabia, you know, Makkah kept on sending people to come and negotiate with them. So let's Allah Salam, one of the people who went to the province the last time I was 11. And I saw that

when he went and he saw the way the companions of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, our respected Rasul Allah, he was so amazed. He never saw somebody like this. So when he went back to his people, he told them people have been to kestra and have been to Kaiser and I've been to the top leaders on earth. He said, I have never seen a person that is like Muhammad Sallallahu sallam.

He said, They respected him so much

of this story. Oh, I know Masuda. Takata. He said something that is very bad against the companions and the purpose

in which Abu Bakr got annoyed with him. Abu Bakr curse

when a boo boo can curse him, I look up and he saw that the one who was cursing me, cursing him if

he got very annoyed, because it was too much for him to handle. But then when he said that the one who is talking against him is Abu Bakar

he was biting his finger finger. It says, overcome it not because of a kindness that you have shown me before. I will definitely reply Subhan Allah who remember the past that Abu Bakr was so kind to him, he couldn't talk to him to reply, that because that came from Abu Bakr.

That what kindness is doing

May Allah subhanaw taala grant is good, I guess.

We're running out of time. So I will stop here.

In the next class, I will continue from this hadith and move forward in sha Allah BarakAllahu li Walakum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

Allah