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The Unforgivable Sin
Channel: Ibrahim Hindy
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All praise is due to Allah alone. In him we seek both aid and assistance into him we turn both in repentance and for forgiveness. Truly him Allah Subhana Allah to Allah guides and then can mislead and he whom Allah leaves to go astray, There is none who can guide and I bear witness that there is nothing worthy of worship, save Allah alone and then Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is both his servant and His messenger.
Inshallah, in today's clip,
I will discuss
a couple of the wisdoms that Allah subhanaw taala either blessed us with, through look man at his sternum, and as well later on through prophets, Allah has sent him and I've spoken before at length of the story of look man at his cinema, and the advice that he gives his son in the Quran.
Today, I'll speak about it and a little bit of a different angle,
or focusing a little bit more on one of his pieces of advice to his son. This story in general, gives us a lot of wisdom. It shows us the importance of the parent as a teacher,
the importance of the Father in particular, the importance of wisdom, and giving wisdom to our children. The importance of the educational standard, what is the standard of education the parent must be giving their children and finally the importance of companionship with their child
will speak in show a lot about about a few of these things as we go through this clips but Allah subhanaw taala begins with Tina Lachman and Hickman and the school Lilla one the school to fit in them is Scottoline FC woman kufr Rafa in Allaha Rani Yun Hamid, Allah says We certainly gave milkman wisdom.
And the scholars differ over the status of look man at his center, whether he was a prophet, or a man of
a very bad man of worship and man of wisdom.
And most scholars take the position that he was not a prophet, but a devout man of wisdom.
despite the fact that the Prophet sallallahu he was sending when he was asked about the number of prophets, he said, they are over 300 or 313, or 300, and an odd number.
And when he Sorry, I thought the messengers he said, 313 or so. And when he was asked about the prophets, he said, 124,000 they were in number.
And yet here Allah mentioned someone, who, according to most scholars, is neither a Prophet or a messenger.
And he did not mention hundreds and 1000s of the Prophets and Messengers. Yes, he mentions this one man, and his story and his advice to his child.
And Allah subhanaw taala when he introduces us to look, man, how does he introduce him? He says, What are the attina? lakanal hokhmah? That indeed We gave rock man wisdom?
We can imagine this figure Look, man,
was he a person of worship? Undoubtedly.
Was he a person of Taqwa for sure? Did he have other attributes to himself? Like being patient,
being kind and compassionate for sure. It's Allah chose this one characteristic, his wisdom
to emphasize when he brought us the story of look, man doing what? Speaking to his son.
It's as if Allah subhanaw taala is reminding us that one of the most important elements for a parent to have when they are parenting is the element of wisdom.
Well, may You send him off by the OTL Hi, Ron kathira. Allah says whoever has been given wisdom has been given a tremendous amount of good
through the story.
This person of wisdom has given to us it makes us reflect on the importance of wisdom. And no claim says and hikma fair alumium Bethany Island when she led the empathy for the walk dilithium Valley, he says wisdom is doing what is needed, in the way in which it is needed, and then the time in which it is needed.
This is wisdom.
And you can imagine how this comes to play as a parent.
Once I remember my own dog
she did badly in her tests. And she was crying because she did badly in her test.
These are the moments I'm thankful the school kids aren't here, she won't get embarrassed. She was crying.
And so as a father, what did I say to her, I told her something true. I said, You didn't really study, you didn't really put any time in it. I told you, if you want to get a good mark, you have to put more time and study in this. And she didn't.
Of course, she was already upset. So what happened? She got a lot more upset. When I said that to her. I said what needed to be said, but I didn't say it in the time in which it needed to be said, I should have waited till she calmed down.
And then given her that advice.
And so that's the importance of wisdom. As a parents utilize, this is incredibly important. I was speaking to a professor at the University of Toronto, it's not a Muslim, but he wrote a book on wisdom.
And he said something, and this is a quote, he says, you don't get wisdom by getting a lot of knowledge. Knowledge is irrelevant to wisdom, but it's like the relationship between intelligence and rationality. It's necessary, but it's not sufficient. Meaning
it's necessary to be intelligent in order to be rational, but does not mean that everybody who is intelligent is rational. No, of course not. And he talks about different kinds of knowledge in his book. So he talks about propositional knowledge, which is what it's facts, information. We know things we know places and people and things and facts about the world. He says, this is a type of knowledge. This isn't wisdom on its own. It's a type of knowledge. He said, there's another type of knowledge, which is procedural knowledge. So what does he mean by that? You can read a book about how to play catch the mechanics of picking up a ball holding it in your hand and throwing it, you
can read, you could read the propositional knowledge of playing catch. But do you know what it means to play catch, unless you throw the ball and somebody catches it, and they throw it back to you? You don't. So this is a type of knowledge you only acquire through what, through participating in it through action, through going through the procedure of it. So by experiencing it, you start to understand it. And you can never read about it enough to understand it without actually going through the procedure of it itself. Then he talks about perspective, perspectival knowledge.
And he says this is the knowledge of trying to understand the perspective of someone else.
And children do this all the time. Your children when they're playing, sometimes they decide, I'm a policeman, sometimes they decide, I'm a doctor, and they play these things out. Why do kids do this, they do it because they're they're trying to put themselves in the mind of these different people they understand in the world. And that gives them a perspective, they understand the perspective of what it's like to be a doctor, what it's like to be a fireman or a policeman. And he says that as we get older, sometimes we stop doing this. As we get older, we sometimes stop putting ourselves in the shoes of other people. But this is necessary to gain a type of knowledge and a type of understanding
of the world. Right? Because we get arrogance. So we stopped putting ourselves in other people's shoes. But we should do it in order to gain empathy and a type of understanding of people. And then he talks about relevance. The fourth knowledge and relevance is understanding what's important in this moment, and what's not important in this moment. What knowledge do I need to focus and he says, your mind is conceptualizing billions of data gigabytes of information at any moment, right. But what we do is our mind is able to focus on what is relevant to me right now.
And says this is connected to broader truths, greater truths. And that's what wisdom is, it's understanding all of these things. It's not just reading a book. It's being engaged, having experience when you have experienced and you gain more, more wisdom, right? It's also having the perspective of what other people are going through. You don't only see the world through your own eyes, but you see it through other people's eyes. And then it's the broader truths. And so the connection to Islam gives us the broader truths. But we also have to learn to gain knowledge, learn experiences, in order to be able to gain wisdom, and then give that wisdom to our children. So Allah
says, We gave Lockman wisdom and this Cordilla be grateful to Allah subhanaw taala so under the wisdom of look, man is gratitude, be grateful to Allah and this is really empowering
origin because we have to have this wisdom in order to give it to our children, our children learn things by seeing us. If we're always complaining day and night about things in our lives, then we tell our children, why are you grateful with the things they give you? Why do you expect your child to be grateful? When you've never exhibited gratitude in your life? Why do you expect them to be grateful when we're complaining all the time? Right? So gratitude is something we have to practice. And too often we think about gratitude. How do we think about it as either you have it or you don't have it? Either you are Shakib or you are not? Either you are grateful or you are not. But gratitude
is something that you do.
Allah says airmen who Allah dealt with the chakra, do family have dealt with gratitude? It's something we have to do. It's an action we have to do. It requires our engagement. It requires us to ask questions, what am I thankful for in my life? What would my life be without this? What do I have to do to take better care of the blessings I have in my life, it's incredibly important to do this.
We know in a university in the US, UC Berkeley, they did an experiment. They took students and they made them do an exercise, you wake up in the morning, you write 10, things you are grateful for 10 things you are grateful for every morning wake up, and you just write 10 things you're grateful for. And then they looked at this group that was doing this versus the group that was not doing it. And they noticed a huge change after a few months. In the state of depression, their state of anxiety, their contentment, their happiness was significantly different, different just by doing this exercise of being grateful. And so our children need to see us being grateful, in order for us to
impart this to them.
Look at the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam and he's praying and his feet are Subhanallah, full of bruises from his praying. And I he was telling the prophets of Allah out he said, Why are you doing this? She said, I'm your for Allahu metacoda women then become a meta aka didn't Allah already forgive your sins of the past and of the future? And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to her, ephedra Hakuna and then shakoora Should they not be grateful servant, should they not worship out of gratitude that ALLAH forgive my sins? This is showing gratitude to his family. So Allah who already has sent him that they see through him. So initially, the law be grateful to Allah when he
could fit in them as Coralina FCM. And whoever is grateful is only grateful for their own sake. Allah doesn't need our worship. We are the ones in need of worshipping Allah subhanaw taala. This in and of itself is an important question. I've mentioned this before. Too often we teach our children how to worship we don't teach them why to worship.
And here's Look, man, what is he saying? Well, my escort Nana Yes, go to the NFC.
Right. And it's unclear whether this is on the tongue of man or this is the statement of Allah subhanaw taala.
But still, Allah mentions it as he mentioned, Look, man, as this must have been of his wisdoms
that be grateful to Allah and whoever is grateful to Allah, it's for their own benefit. Our worship is for our own benefit. It gives us peace and clarity and strength. It does not benefit Allah subhanaw taala it benefits us
well, my escrow for in them is called on NFC one in Kufa. Rafa in the LA honeymoon Hamid and whoever kuffaar is ungrateful here. Cook means ingratitude. What about them? Fang Allah has been even Hamid indeed Allah is Rani. He doesn't need he has no need. He's not in need of our data. And he's Hamid He's worthy of praise whether we praise him or not whether we worship him or not, he's already worthy of praise.
Then we come to his next statement with all Look man, we'll have any heat Oh, yeah. And mentioned Well look, man said to his son while he was instructing him, he had when he had to stick a pillar in the shell of him, oh my son do not associate in the worship with Allah. Indeed, associating in the worship of Allah is a grave sin.
First of all, well, who will you know who Allah says mentioned? Look, man while he is admonishing his son, giving him advice, in order for our advice for our children to matter. You know, no matter if there is advice, it's at management, but it has the implication of emotional connection.
We can be absent from our children's life lives, and then show up and give them advice and expect them to take it. The advice comes when you build a connection with your children,
when you spend time with them, when you build a server, a companionship with your child. This is when they are prepared to
Listen to you. Too often parents come in, they're like, my children aren't listening to me. And one of the reasons for that is you are emotionally absent from your child's life for years. Now you show up when they're a teenager, getting involved in Haram, and you're like, hey, they're not listening to me. Doesn't work like that. You have to build an emotional connection with them a loving connection for a long time.
He says lead to sick biller do not associate in the worship of Allah.
It is imperative that we teach our children
the dangers of Schick and the importance of millions.
And technically, this is the first advice Allah mentions on the tongue of Lachman in the Surah. And this is really the topic I want to talk about today. Everything else was the prelude.
Many young people, even old people, they don't understand this question, and they suffer in their theology because of it. Why is shidduch the worst sin?
Why is shidduch the worst sin? First of all, I'll mention a point here, we have to differentiate between moral outrage and moral magnitudes. What do I mean by this? When you say Shahrukh is the worst sin? Undoubtedly, someone is going to ask you, well, what about murder? What about rape? What about theft?
The way we understand or the way we emotion we emotionally feel about things that are evil
is usually connected to how it affects us.
So if you talk to somebody about a serial killer, if you say there's a serial killer on the loose right now, in Mississauga, people would feel outrage. This person is plotting to kill people and taking joy in it. And they're going around killing people who are unsuspecting. If you told them, there's somebody who works for the military, and they press a button, and that button sends a drone, and that drone drops bombs and kills hundreds of people. A lot of people will feel like, yeah, that's bad. But
one person is killing hundreds of people every day by pressing a button. The other person's a serial killer. Maybe they killed five people. Which one's worse? Why don't we feel outrage at the serial killer and not really much at the drone operator.
So this is the difference between moral outrage and moral magnitude. We feel outrage at the thing that affects our sense of personal safety. Not necessarily the thing that is the worst.
That's important to understand. Some people will feel really upset when the flag is desecrated. The American flag is desecrated, and they're a military family. You tell them well, the military killed 1000 people, innocent people in this village. They don't feel any moral sensibility about that. Why? Because the flag means something personal to them. So it's about their personal feelings, their personal sense of safety and respect.
So why is shidduch the worst sin?
First of all, we already said Allah doesn't need our worship. So why does he care about should?
The real question is, what are we without a connection to Allah subhanaw taala and shift worshipping other than Allah or associating in that worship is a denial of the divine reality.
And without that connection, man is completely lost. Allah subhanaw taala gives us an example in the Quran, Allah, Tala K for a lot of Allah who method and KatiMorton Play Button Keisha Keisha Jonathan Paiva Austin who has beaten to have a summit? Allah says, don't you consider how Allah presents an example. The good word is like the good tree. Its roots are firmly fixed, and its branches are up in the sky. You talk to you Ocula call the Hainan be in Europe, Bihar Well, booty Bula hula and salad in naskila. Alia to the Koran. This tree produces its fruits all of the time, by the permission of its Lord. And Allah presents these examples so that people may be reminded what method will Kenny
Metzen hubby that's an Concha gelatin Kashia Ratan Sabetha. Allah says in the example of the evil word, the bad word is like the bad tree. It is uprooted from the surface of the earth and it has no stability. Man had an RR, it has no stability. The wind comes in it takes it away with a bit Allahu livina and who will call it savage dunya. Allah keeps firm those who believe with the firm word in the worldly life and in the hereafter. The good word is to heed the good word is La Ilaha illa Allah. It's like the firm tree. No matter what winds blow the firm tree remains in its place. The firm tree gives its fruits, good things come out of the firm tree, the evil word which is Kofoed
which is disbelief in Allah subhanaw taala
If that is the evil tree, and the evil tree has no roots, so when the wind comes, it takes it.
Many people say, Who cares who we worship, so long as we're good people. We hear this all the time, as long as I'm a good person who cares who I worship, but this is ignorance,
because it's causing us to pretend or to be blind to beliefs.
Right? Saying, as long as we do good things, who cares? But what is good?
What do you define as being good? How do we know what good things are to begin with? Our beliefs are what establish what good ultimately is. And as Muslims, the ultimate good is Allah subhanho wa taala. What is good is derived from His attributes and His will subhanaw taala. But the bad word disbelief and Allah subhanaw taala. That's like the rotten tree. The wind comes in it throws it wherever it wants to. This is why disbelief will change. What they considered good 20 years ago is now considered evil. What they considered evil 20 years ago is now considered good. And you'll see them change and change and change, like a tree that's being tossed around with the wind. Why?
Because they have no weights.
They're not like the good word that has its roots. Because I know how they he said, when he was on his deathbed, and he gave advice to his children. He said our mortal kombat 13 One How come only 13 He said, I command you to do too. And I forbid you from doing too. What is it? Who will come be? Ill Allah, I commend you with that, you know, in Allah. Why? And he says, For
for in the summer watch seven or will Alena sub la whoisguard fika
ilaha illa houfy CAFA la Roger had to be him. He said if if the heavens the seven heavens in the seven Earth's were placed in one hand
and La Ilaha illa Allah was placed in the other La Ilaha illa Allah without weights, it will be grander than it be greater than it gives you this weight. It holds you down you cannot outweigh the divine reality. You cannot outweigh let you know in the law. This is what holds us down. And notice this is the advice of Nora on his deathbed to his children. So we have to give this advice to our children constantly. To remind them of the dangers of Schick. We can also look at Schick from a value ethics perspective. shidduch is a betrayal of Allah subhanaw taala we understand betrayal in this world.
Somebody betrays in their marriage, they have relations outside of it, we consider this evil, someone betrays their country, they give their word to their country, then they betray it. We consider this treason.
Ship is a betrayal of your Creator subhanho wa Taala the betrayal of the One who created you, it is avoiding oppression. As look man says in this verse in the ship can avoid I'm gonna have him. It's a grave oppression. It's using your mind and your body and your soul for other than its purpose. You're dedicating it for other than its owner subhanho wa taala.
And when we do this, it takes us out of the order that we should be in.
You look at the creation of Allah. It's beautiful Allah, it's beautiful. Even when you look at the insects, and at first you're like, that's disgusting. But when you look at it in more detail, you Say Subhan Allah, they're beautiful. Why? Because they're acting as they shouldn't be acting as Allah created them to be. When we don't worship Allah alone, and we fall into Shiva, we're no longer in the order that we should be upon the fitrah that we should be. The next point is that * leads us to narcissism and self worship, or at least the attacker that Allahu Allah says, Have you considered the one who takes his God as his own desires?
The worship of idols is really the worship of the ego. The idols that pagans use, they're really a conscious or subconscious projection of their own ego, their own tribe, they put it onto an idol and they worship it
so it's really worship of the ego.
And here less Matt when some meet him or her into what about all commands that Allah will be having some time it's of your own in the lung will not attack will enforce. Allah says these are just names that you have named you and your forefathers Allah sent down no none of it from his authority, you follow nothing but assumptions will not attack will enforce and what your souls desire.
And this is, you know, today's day and age, they drop the pretense of the idols. They don't build the idol anymore. They just worship themselves immediately. The only thing that matters to them is self pleasure. You see this people sometimes
Push to legalize all drugs. You say why we know the social harms of drugs? We know how drugs can be destructive to people, to families to children. They say, look, it makes people happy, doesn't it? Of course, what does happiness mean for them? For them to understand happiness is by denying the hereafter saying all that matters is this world. Therefore if it makes you happy for the next five minutes, do it. That's their mentality. Right? Just pursue your ego and your self pleasure. What makes you happy is what's right. That's what's good. This is the worship of self pleasure. And there are deep psychological harms to Schick Fedorov Allahu Methoden. Fie Shoraka. Allah has given you the
example of a slave that is owned by different owners who are all fighting with each other. What are Jordan said? What are German Salim and the Rajan and a man who is a slave to just one man, and yesterday? And can they be equal, couldn't be equal, if you had five bosses, all of them are fighting with each other telling you what to do. Or if you had one boss, who told you what to do, who has an easier life? Obviously, the one was one boss. Likewise, you worship one God, your life is easy, it's clear. You worship different gods you're even if you worship your own self and your own desires. Do you even know what's right? If you have to choose between two sandwiches, you bought one
sandwich, you'll be thinking later maybe I should have chosen the other one. You don't know what's right. So you all constantly be living in confusion.
And this is what Allah subhanaw taala frees us from by calling us to to Hades. In Noma usually beloved, or called her Rama it hidden Jana on that, wow. Now, Allah tells us whoever worships other than Allah then indeed Allah has made haram for them paradise and their place shall be the Hellfire felt, quote, unquote, you know, stuff medulla comes through in all of crime.
Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. He was early, he was talking to his woman while
I wasn't even going to speak about this topic today. But the reason I woke up in the morning and decided no, I have to and I tried to scribble some things down was because obviously, we're coming to the, the holiday of Halloween, for the day of Halloween. And this is an important time for this conversation. We need to speak to our children about to Hayden should, we need to have this conversation with them, depending on their age, in a way that they will understand. So please make sure that you do this with your children, and speak to them about the origins of Halloween is based off of Celtic paganism, the idea that the dead would walk the earth on the stage, so they would
dress like the dead so that they could hide between them. And so its roots are in pagan ideas. Should key ideas. Ask your children when Allah looks on the world? And on that night? Do you want us to be with that group or not to be with that group. Of course, we don't want to be associated at all with Schick. And with paganism in any way, we want to be away from it. And then realize as well, your children are going to feel some feelings, right? Those of us who grew up in the West, we know this, when we were kids, we see the other kids wearing costumes, we see them getting candy, we kind of want to do it ourselves, right? So your kids are going to feel this feeling of deprivation, talk
to them about it, say I understand how you feel about this, right? But Inshallah, you're going to have the read, which is going to be even more fun and make sure that you're making fun for your kids. Right? Let them buy costumes, a couple of months from now far away from Halloween, let them buy costumes that they can wear around the house and that they can, you know, feel cool about and things like that. Give them a buddy in a halal replacement for these things that are haram in a way that is proper, and that keeps us away from *. But also speak to the more importantly about the value of being difference. Right? Allah subhanaw taala this is one extra benefit out of the Lord,
you will do cancer meet Allah. If you were to follow most of the people in this world if we just do what everybody else does, what's going to happen, we will be misguided away from the path of Allah subhanaw taala we see Prophet Ibrahim standing against every single person in his town in the city to stand up for tau hate every single persons around him and he was a young man, feta, Allah subhanaw taala mentions young men in his teens probably. And he's doing this, give them these examples. Standing up for the truth sometimes means being different. And so Subhanallah when I was a young kid, and I'm looking outside the window, and I see the kids going for Halloween, I'm not
allowed to participate. And I feel the feelings that I feel that I get older, I suppose panela I'm glad my parents did that to me. I'm glad my parents didn't let me be involved in it. You know why? It made me feel comfortable being difference. So that later down the road when the kids on my street came and they said he here's some cigarettes do you want to smoke cigarettes? I said no. And I was strong enough to do so because I was used to being different.
And this is an important thing to teach our children. But that is normal. God even will say Oh,
doesn't even come up at the snap begin a strange and it will become strange once again. And so let our children understand there's a value in being different and that whatever we give up for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala will always come back better than whatever we gave up for the sake of Allah azza wa jal and Allah whom Allah
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