Darling, You’re Beautiful!

Ibraheem Menk


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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Ashraf al Anbiya Emmanuel mousseline. Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Ultramarine Amma buried we thank Allah Allah Boulez that he will JLL for having gathered us here today. And we ask Allah subhanahu wa taala, to surround us with the mullah Iike, and to cause his mercy and his Sakina to descend upon us, and to raise us with the Ambia alayhi wa Salatu was Salam, and those whom he has mentioned with them, I mean,

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they have gone up. These are the words that Gibreel said to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the cave. And when he appeared to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then he was in his true form. It is said that his wingspan was so great that his wings his one wing would expand from the east to the west, and he had left who said to me it, Jana, and he had 600 wings. Imagine the fright that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam felt at this point. So he says, ma Anna Bukhari I am not a recite, I am not one who reads, I am am Unlimited, I cannot read and write. So Gibreel Allah has salatu salam hugs him and tells him it got up, Read, Recite, and he says ma Anna Bukhari and then

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for the third time he says, If Cora and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says MA and OB akari and then he says it called Bismillah be calory Haluk read in the Name of your Lord who created so Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was terrified. He was worried as to what he had seen. When he went down the mountain. He went trembling, and the first person that he went to was his wife Khadija Hello the Allahu anha and he says them Minoo Nizam Maloney cover me cover me. At this juncture we pause for a moment and look at the actions of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he went down the mountain trembling and who is it that he looks to for comfort? None other than his wife

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Khadija to been to Hawaii with all the Allahu Anhu why? Because he knew that this woman is someone who might find comfort in this woman is someone who will bring me a lot of comfort. So Allahu Bucha is that he will Jellal he caused that nawada That love that Rama that Sakeena to be amongst him and her. So the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam turned to his wife for comfort. The question is how many of us are willing to even admit that we can turn to our wives for comfort? How many of us can actually turn to our wives for comfort? How many of us have spouses that will provide comfort for us? You see, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had a beautiful relationship with his

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wife, and that was one of peace, comfort, love. This is the type of relationship that we should be cultivating in our marriages. Today, we have spouses that we cannot turn to. And at times we have made ourselves people that cannot be lived with in one home for a long period of time, the moment we enter the house, we begin to frown, we begin to become angry, we become this monster that we weren't out there. With the rest of the people. We can smile at them. We can treat them well. We can laugh with them. We can joke with them. The whole community knows us as good people, but the minute we are with those who are closest to us, we become these monsters, and we become angry and we shout and

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people fear us in the home. This is not the type of relationship that Islam encourages you to have. Allah who believes that you will general tells us I mean, it can mean for the income as well. Later school Elijah or John Beilein the cool um our data or and from his signs, the great signs of Allah horrible is that you will Jellal is that he created you

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Who are from you spouses, Lita schoolroom? Elaine? What is the primary reason for your marriage? It is so that you find Sikkim. In her. It is so that you find peace and comfort in your wife. Are you cultivating that type of a relationship? Do you compliment her? Do you say good things to you to her? Do you make her feel confident? Or is it that every time that you walk out of the home, your eyes are wandering and you're looking at everything out there, at least for the time that you are with your wife, you can control your gaze. That is not what is encouraged. What is encouraged in Islam is to control your gaze at all times. And today, it doesn't require for us to go out in order

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to see that which is in there in the world. It is in the palm of our hands on our mobile devices. If your wife constantly sees you looking at images of other women, imagine what it does to her inside it eats up do you think that's the type of spouse that you're going to find peace and comfort him?

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You see yet? The Messenger of Allah Allah Bula is that he will Jellal ran to his wife and he says cover me. He looked for peace in that relationship. And he found the peace as well. So Allah Allah bless that you will Jalil carries on Lita, schooner, Elijah, order Allah Boehner Kumar, what data no Rama and he made between you love and mercy. So first and foremost, the primary reason for you to be married to a person is to find peace, comfort, serenity. And then if there is that peace, we're gyla Unicode my word data, no drama, and Allah made for you, between you and amongst you, love and mercy, but only when you have that Sakina Can you have the love and the mercy between you if there is no

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Sakina if there is constantly fighting within the home, if there is constantly arguing within the home, how are you going to have that peace? And do you know what this is one of the signs of Allah horrible is that evil Jalil as he says, Amin it and it is from amongst his signs. So when you make the basis of your relationship, Allah bullies that you will Jellal then naturally, you find peace, you find comfort, you find serenity, you find happiness within your spouse, you tend not to look out of your home because primarily, you don't want to displease Allah Hara Boulez that you are Gera. So that is a sign that marriage of two people that were strangers the coming together of these two

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people is a sign for Allah Allah Bucha is that he will Gela that shows the power and the great Mr. magnanimity of Rumble is that he will Jellal Allah who believes that you are general tells us Yeah, a human mass in

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that case.

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Ilana doll awful. Oh, you, oh mankind. He doesn't address the believers alone. He says all mankind I created you from male and female. And I made you into nations and tribes and what is the purpose of this lead out of so that you may get to know each other. So you see the marriage of two people is actually the building unit. It is the building block of a community. When two parties get together we often say and we repeat it here that it is two families getting together. They are getting together and strengthening the bond of that community. Hence showing Pon becomes very happy when people become divorced. It is said in the Hadith that shaytan establishes His throne on the water

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and then he asked the people for the day at the end of the day he asked the devil that are gathered What have you achieved today? One of them says I made a man drink alcohol the other man says I made a man commit Zina the other one says that I made this man go to the nightclub and he says you have achieved nothing you have achieved much. And then someone says I managed to separate between a man and his wife. He says Anta Anta Anta you you you come here sit right next to me. You deserve a position in pole at the top right up the

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hierarchy of the devils. Why? Because he's achieved something and that is the splitting of the building block of a community when a marriage splits then the community becomes distant. Why? Because Allah subhanahu wa taala created us Meenu little mini Cal Bruneian yes should do ba boo bah bah. The movement is for the believer is like a building one for another is like a building each block strengthening the other and when that one block splits in a wall what happens not long after the entire wall comes crumbling down. Today Dear Brothers and Sisters in Islam

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Allah Allah Bula is that he will Jalan has given us Tallac as a last measure. But what do we do? The minute there is something wrong a man shouts out at the top of his voice in anger. Allah Tala Tala Hold on, hold on even in that divorce and the manner in which to do it. Allah has given you guidance. Allah has told you how to do it. There is a merciful way and a peaceful way for you to part we have seen some people that part on good terms, this is the ideal way if you cannot find any other recourse and you cannot repair that marriage. Allah subhanahu Attallah tells us then they should separate with goodness, they should separate with goodness Allah Allah believes that you will

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Joanne says to the man for insert can be mount roofing Otis three Ruby San, so he should hold on with goodness. He should hold his spouse with goodness. Oh let her go with the goodness as well. Even if you have parted into for Raka use me love who coulomb insight. If they are to part then Allah subhanahu wa taala will provide for each of them from his vast mercy. Do you think that Allah Hara Bullis that he will Jalil does not have enough yet he owns the dominion of the heavens and the earth. Allah subhanahu wa taala will provide for you and will provide for hurt if you made the basis of your marriage in the first place. The your relationship and your connection with Allah Allah

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believes that you will general Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says how Eurocom how you calmly Lee the best of you are the best who is to his family. The best of you are those who are best to his family. Well, Anna, you come early, and I am the best to my family. He is sallallahu alayhi wa sallam comes into the home and he asks, is there anything to eat? There is nothing to eat. He says even unassigned then I'm going to be fasting today. What is the reaction of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to there being no food in the home? Does he shouted at his wife does he become angry? I've been out all day addressing the concerns of the people helping the OMA and now I

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come back here and there's no food. Does he do that? Or does he just say simply in the morning, there is no food Alhamdulillah Vina will be fasting it is an opportunity to earn reward from Allah Allah, Allah is that you will Gera. We need to learn from this. We need to understand that the best of examples is in Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when we come home, there is no food prepared, or perhaps the food is too salty. Or perhaps there is something slightly not to our liking. We need to learn to dip our mouths and say Alhamdulillah Allah provided this for me. I'm going to eat it regardless. For 20 years I've been eating, everything's been okay. And today that

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the salt is more I will eat it and drink more water. It doesn't matter. But what we do we become angry. Hey, look at this, oh, I can't even eat this food. No, calm down. That is not the reaction of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that is not the way of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So we should cultivate a relationship of mercy a relationship of Sakina of peace. And this is done by communicating. Oftentimes I receive emails, I receive direct messages. Chef, I have a problem. You know, I can't communicate with my spouse. The minute I try to initiate any conversation, any communication, there is a barrage of swear words that come my way. I can't do

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this. I don't know how to approach Him. We need to open the doors of communication

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Shouldn't with our spouses. Today we can connect with the person in America and New Zealand and Saudi Arabia and in the rest of the world, but the person in front of us whom we wake up next to every day, we can't say a single word of goodness to. We can't say Darling, you look beautiful today. Do you know what that does to a woman? Do you know how it changes her heart, and it softens her heart towards you. This is the example of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. In fact, he gave his wife a nickname. And that nickname was hi ish, or Chroma era, and who made up because she would blush in her cheeks. So he should he would say, oh one who blushes Oh, one who blushes. You

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see the load. The kindness in the words of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Dear Brothers and Sisters in Islam. I remind you to recap, there are two recourses of action number one, which is to communicate and to speak with your spouse. And number two, is to make your relationship the basis of your relationship. The love of Allah Allah is that he will challenge the One who created love will place love within your marriage, but you've got to make him the basis of your marriage. First and foremost, we ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to grant us the ability to comprehend and we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us good marriages and the ability to communicate and be good to our

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spouses. I mean, well sal Allahu wa salam O Allah Carla, and abuna Mohammed while early he was me, he urged me