How Well Do You Know Your Children

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smilla rahmanir rahim

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al hamdu Lillah Allahu understanding of who understood the Pharaoh. When always been lemon surely an fusina woman say Dr. Molina, Mia de la Hui followed the law one minute a little further hi de la Chateau La la la de la sharika y shadow Anna Mohammedan a boo hoo water Sulu. o si como la olan with de la paz Alamo. tahune amakhala la Allahu taala Philip anila carry ons Billahi min ash shaytani r Rajim yeah yo holla Xena la porta potty. wallet mo illa Anta Muslim mono abajo salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Praise due to Allah, Allah, Allah mean as the creator of all things, the all knowing the all seeing all powerful, the provider for every one of us,

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may the blessing and the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The upon all the prophets and messengers,

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and the family of the prophets, the followers of the prophets did a day of judgment.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us people who are thankful to him grateful to Allah.

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Because the power of being grateful to Allah, Allah has said in the Quran, Allah insha Allah as he then

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whoever thankful and grateful to Allah, Allah will increase his blessing upon all what he have given us.

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And that's what we need from a lot. His blessing.

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Even the amount that we receive is very minimum, but with the blessing of Allah, there'll be a lot of good things

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a lot of good happening inshallah.

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And also, we asked a loss of Hannah who are tired as people who are prepared

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Muslim

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is being

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guided by Allah rubble al Amin. From the day Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed his book, The Holy Quran

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where Allah subhanho wa Taala said

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the Quran was revealed as a guide then

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the Zilla Quran, who deadliness Quran was revealed as a guidance for mankind.

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Whoever want to be successful here to the Hereafter,

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and very important for all of us, as Muslims,

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individually individuals

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or parents

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to understand what is our main responsibility, at least to ourselves.

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Okay, Islam is a complete way of life. We are always Allah who created all of us, He knows everything, he sees everything. And he know what is the best for all of us, not we

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because our knowledge is very limited so we can see our future, we only can plan and hope for the best.

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But the Almighty Allah who created all of us in the best form, and provide us the best provision and have taught us to be the best Omar

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to do so. Allah subhanho wa Taala just one all of us to follow one person is easy to follow 1% tend to follow so many people.

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And that person is what Allah subhanho wa Taala see in the Holy Quran, Prophet Mohammed Salah was on his last messenger

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who was a successful person as a youth when he was young, being honored beloved by everybody, because of his noble character. He never lie, he never cheat is very kind, respect the elders. He loved the young one. He helped the poor.

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He honored everybody that come to him.

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And then later on he became a businessman. Alhamdulillah a very successful businessman because he never lie and cheat very honest. And we know that honesty is the best policy and very sincere in whatever he committed into it.

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He

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A man when he was given a responsibility, he can prove to you that you can trust him.

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You then don't worry about him anymore.

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But today we do not know.

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We always fail

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to deliver.

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Because we don't have that commitment.

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Then as a husband Marsha

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is the best and most successful husband. No complaints from the wife's

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not one wife more than four wives no complaint.

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As a father Alhamdulillah as a leader of law.

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He's a leader for all types. nation raves, not only to the Arabs. So whoever wants to be a successful person, you just have to follow this one man.

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And I lost it luck. Cannella confy rasulillah. It was rotten Hassani indeed.

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In the profit, some awesome lifestyle, you can get all the example that you need.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala in the Quran commandos to follow him.

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But we feel to follow him until today.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling us that

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this religion of Islam don't belong to any one of us. And is now we're never follow any one of us.

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But everyone must learn how to follow Islam.

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Islam don't follow us but today the way we practice Islam, like we have the main adjustment, and we want Islam to follow our ways. That's why we've been wrong.

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Maybe the Chinese Muslim one Islam to follow according to Chinese we have

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lifestyle values, Pakistani have their own values, the Arab have their own values, the Turkish have their own value.

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We Malaysian and also English and have their own value. So we want Islam to follow us No, there is no way Islam to follow you.

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Because we all belong to Allah and Allah one has to obey Him and we have to follow him.

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And then Allah subhanho wa Taala when He created us,

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He is the one who encouraged us to settle down

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to have family

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and is part of allows ordain

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coder, that he may

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pass male and female,

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so that we can find peace and happiness

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and we can develop harmony within ourselves, then we hope that our generation also we become a righteous generation.

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So the first thing, Allah subhanho wa Taala remind us

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is about our responsibility towards Allah.

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We have from him and to Him we will return Monday and he is going to question us on every neck mud that He has given us.

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And our Prophet does say that if anybody who had the means to get married

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but refuse

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because this is problematic I don't want to have any extra problem.

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You have the means financially you okay physically you okay?

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Only mentally have some problem.

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We have these to have that.

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And he refused to get married the prophecy.

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And they come in so knotty from unknown events. Una de la Semin.

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Mika is part of my Sunnah and whoever abandoned this sooner, personally, he is not one of us. So when the chi is a very sacred

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move is something very holy.

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So the most important thing is, when we want to do something as Muslim, we must have faith in Allah.

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We must trust Allah. He's the best planner, the all knowing us and he knows what is in the heart of any one of us.

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We don't know the heart of our spouses.

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We fall in love with each other because of our parents, how we look

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how we talk to each other, but what is in the heart of each one of us, no one can say that I know what is in the heart. The hearts belong to Allah

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is in the knowledge of Allah.

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By Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us signs.

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If any one of you want to have a good

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feeling third generation

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offsprings, then you must make the right choice from the beginning.

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Choose the right partners, the right spouses.

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There is the first thing that we must

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look into ourselves.

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Now, to get a good wife, a good husband, you yourself must be good first.

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If you yourself are not good, I don't think you can have a good partner. Your person likes to spend most of the time in the pub nightclub then he'll get somebody from the nightclub

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a person a senior who get somebody who is also in the same profession.

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But if you want a good partner

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that's where the prophecy cool camera in what coloca masala Andhra, every one of you is a leader to yourself and you are responsible to your own leadership.

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You have to save your soul.

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You have to be righteous. And when you think that you're okay Alhamdulillah now you have the US Allah, Allah.

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Granny.

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grant me a good spouse, a good partner.

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Now the power of prayer, very important, while the zenia una robina have Lana Min. As well Gina was Maria Tina

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kurata Yoon la mattina Emma

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The first thing when we have

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all the means we are a good person Alhamdulillah we are obedient we are faithful to Allah. And now it's time for us to look for a partner.

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And this is the prayer or Allah grant us

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good partners not just a partner who look good.

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The other partner look good. The dress good.

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They have good thing with damn good car, good house. Good case. But whether they are good in their heart, no one knows.

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So if you are a righteous person,

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the first thing you must decide to look for a righteous wife

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or a righteous husband.

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How they look like

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is not that important, but for us. No, but my I know.

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I must feel good fair enough.

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But look at what is happening around the world today.

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The truth is their reality is there.

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Sometimes be surprised to see a beautiful girl lady Marcia and her husband. When you look at her husband.

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She made the wrong choice.

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I should be the guy

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but maybe that girl is looking from a different angle. It's not that the look is important for her anymore. Now that feeling is a gift from Allah. Not from us.

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We thought that we have a good husband be a handsome husband, you have happiness, you are be very

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satisfied. But then you see a lot of problem will come because of that. But He is so handsome. He thought that he can get anybody anytime.

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The same good to see so pretty easy. I don't get you don't love me.

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You can pass up me anytime I can pull anytime I have 10 men waiting for me.

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Problem.

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This way most of us have gray hair very fast.

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So no problem.

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You want the best and the best is what illustrate not what you think is the best what Allah says.

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And that's why in the Quran Allah said a true believer. A man should not get married except with another.

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believers.

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You're not supposed to get married with each

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With a different belief because there will be no peace.

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And the upbringing of the children will be more confused.

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So that's why Allah said, don't get married, except with the people who have the same belief like you.

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You pray the other party also pray, everybody must do things together.

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Alhamdulillah I believe all of us who are married here make the right choice, Shakur hamdulillah.

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Then after you have to make the right choice, you must make sure that your relationship is guided by Islam.

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And that's why the Prophet caught us after a cut nica.

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The husband should put his right hand on the forehead of the wife and make supplication a very important the power of da

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don't think that you know everything you can control everything.

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But you must still ask Allah for help.

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And what is the first dawn that the Prophet partners as husband to the wife, husband to the wife is not right wife need to offer the husband.

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Husband is a leader so leader must meet to take some responsibility

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Allahumma inni as a locum in Korea.

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While hiring manager burrata Allah is becoming Sharia or Sheree mucha, Berta Holly,

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a very short

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as a lot the best from her,

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and hope that everything that come from her

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is the best.

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And also as a lot to protect you from the bad thing that is in her that the bad thing that may come from her.

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And the wife said, what

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the wife just said, I mean,

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why does it I mean, you don't have to recite that though, or the husband recite. But when you say I mean also means you also hope the best from him.

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And whatever that will come from him will be the best. There is a meaning of this door.

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And now Alhamdulillah you have mixed application for Allah. And that's why immediately after that before you have any intimacy, any relationship then the Prophet said the men must lead his wife to perform prayer

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to recap

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you don't have to do immediately after the cat No, you don't do openly to show that people are learning something you're shy

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and some of the look I don't know I think he do know how to pray

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so fast if in history

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you don't have to just learn that this prayer is a very private prayer.

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You and your wife

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Yeah, in the room by yourself. It doesn't show a show to anybody is between you anyway.

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And then you ask Allah for guidance.

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This is what you said.

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How Blender mean as well Gina was zuri at dinner, we one good partner

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and then you also make the arm before you add together. So they give you good offsprings. You do not just want to have children.

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A lot of us love children.

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But we forget to even reset a dog before we get involved with our

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partner. You forget about that.

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A lot Medina straight up straight and Moroccan and short. You don't memorize in Arabic in English in Bahasa no problem.

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clo Allah de la comida de perdagangan shaitan and then you get a papaya and Cobra coming Zarya

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our offspring

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sometime because we are so happy, just have afternic Ghana.

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So and then the love is so strong that we forget to

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make the one shot

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then you're

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relationship with your partner become an act of worship

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Allah.

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And then we hope this is the number one the power of the law. And the Prophet did say

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that one of the prayer that will not be denied by Allah

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is the prayer of father to the children.

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The prayer the father also is very important.

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And also there is a saying, the child is the reflection of the father's character. Now, you'll become the hero now.

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And the mother become the hearing.

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And now children are the audience.

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You'd like to argue in front of children you see your children will learn how to be a good

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person in arguing with either of you. If you always raise up your voice with each other, your children worries housewife louder than both of you.

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If you show all the negative character your children will pick up all this negative and he will reflect it back to you.

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Because

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they learn from it children are good copycat

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mazing You don't even realize they can pick up a lot of things that you are talking. You told their children they know nothing. They're too young. Yeah, now they're young. But their memory Mashallah is so very fresh and they keep on accumulating.

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There, that's why you are not supposed to let your children

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after a certain age to be in the same room with you even you love them so much. Put them in their own room.

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Or you know,

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seeing you believing they see a lot happening.

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And now they are having a different feeling.

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That's why a lot of things get out of control because of the parent. And not a lot about what the children can do. Don't underestimate the children.

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They are so pure.

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So clean fitrah and that's where everything that they see will be recorded. Everything that they hear will be recorded.

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And they'll come a time they will

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read it out.

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They have then see what happens with him.

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So we have to ask, what have we done.

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We have not shown a good example. We should pray together and invite the child to pray with us.

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We eat together, remind each other Bismillah right use your right hand everything is very important because there is the upbringing.

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You cannot just make our law give me a righteous shooter. No law protects us from evil but in the center you are doing all the evil thing.

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It won't work.

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You must be committed with your doctor if you want the best you must follow the best

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and the best way is Islam. Don't waste

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don't throw thing here and there. Don't dirty things. Be tidy be clean. So that the children is grown is growing up with all this good value.

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Just show you a good example if you go to Japan from a young age, from the age of three years old.

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Japanese children is trained to be so tidy so clean,

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so respectful.

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Very quiet when they speak

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that's why we have problem living in Japan.

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All these foreigner who live in Japan especially Asian we allow people

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so when we came home and then at home we set the tone and our voice Zola Japanese house is not like no our houses you can hear

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so they start to make a report

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sound pollution

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so I have one that we love to speak English okay. But we are loud people. They are very loud.

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Chinese also loud, Indian louder.

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We the medium, Japanese quiet

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and at home that means time to rest.

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Don't they whisper you can hear them, not us.

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You have to show them good example.

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Because the

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best example should come from the father and the mother

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and your upbringing is very important after that is what you say the word that you use among yourself

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Make sure you use all the best what the thread the prophet SAW some statement can you know below human error? Only one who ever believe in a line a day of judgment you want to speak make sure that what you say is good.

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Or the word is good. I show you one simple word.

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There is haram English because

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we thought there is okay what is what?

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We don't use a Muslim don't use this word. Lucky Day. Lucky lucky No, there's no luck.

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When you use the word luck, that means you don't believe in Allah.

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anything good happen. contra la Masha.

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You talk about what Allah ordained for us, not La la la. That means you are saying that nothing to do with God.

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So the love the word lucky is not Islamic. is haram English.

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Only those who don't believe in Allah use this term. Anything happened or this is nature

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is very unusual.

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Nothing happened.

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Without Allah subhanho wa Taala spa La hawla wala quwata illa Billah

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this example what don't think that what is this is just a word but the word can destroy your Eman

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we used to say this word Lucky

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lucky.

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lucky number

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no we we should change Alhamdulillah Allah has ordained by is that that if something bad happened, contra la Masha.

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So remember the power of Donna.

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Remember that you should be sincere and be permitted and show good example.

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Remember to be careful with action and your word.

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If you want to have rice your children

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and then you know their environment, the profits and losses taught us Islam is so beautiful, from young how to educate our children the upbringing of our children.

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That is if you want your children to be righteous of God, we set a good example. Before we eat before we dream we say Bismillah and then always train them the right manners adapt.

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When we are talking about talking, don't let them interfere.

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Don't let them come cross discipline them we are talking.

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Be quiet for a while we'll come to you again.

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Designed to be tidy, teach them to cut their nails the fitrah

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they have to cut their knee one day to get long cut. You must make sure they're doing it. You must do it by yourself something we have problem the husband liked to have long finger

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not long finger long nails.

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And the mother also keep long nails.

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Something they do and they say oh Nepal will make a shot the last one we make along

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and now you are teaching the children to pick up something because you are doing it so that it is okay for them to do the same thing. But it's not right. Because we are supposed to eat and with our right hand. You seen by him.

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And I know that all the long nails you collect a lot of deaths. It's not clean. It's a healthy

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general example.

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When you pray, you pray Yama, you call Amazon. The husband is going to pray with the wife. The husband must call the Amazon. So let the children hear their son.

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And when the children pick up, you can train the children to call Asana.

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That's how you get the children close to Allah. If they always remember Allah, Allah will remember them. Allah protect them.

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This the upbringing, the environment,

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how you decorate the room of your child.

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Do you put all the photos of the animals

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or the singers? The footballer? No, no, no, no.

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You professors have a law. You can put environment

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waterfall for us, the sky The Galaxy wishes of Allah and all the dough so that the children Yeah, environment is full of

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related with the environment allow. Now the children is picking up most of the children today they memorize more than the parents

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and now the parent has a problem when the children forget is that

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why is that? Do I forgotten they

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asked Mama.

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And mama said

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Papa Papa used to teach me. Now you have brought the children now realize that a father and mother don't have that knowledge and that is not good.

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Good example you must teach the children to read the Quran because the Quran was revealed by Allah for us to read not for us to keep

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Alhamdulillah we have been reading Fatiha 1000s of times.

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So, we should not just keep on reading Fatiha all the time without understanding all of it. How many of us understand though if data?

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What will happen to you one day our children come mommy Allahu Akbar. Kabir Ah, well hamdulillah hickety Raja Suhana la hora. Where is the minimum?

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Do you

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want to ask money?

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Can you imagine we are reciting this every day?

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1000s of time without understanding without putting an effort to even to understand. Now how can you educate your children?

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So you must speak up

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and then teach your children when your children memorize it? Maybe in the school? Now you asked him Do you know the meaning my son didn't mean him my daughter? No, I'm going to tell them now you are going to help him and when he go to the school again. When the teacher asked you the I know the meaning Mashallah

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make the children or the children so proud of him. And also make the teacher proud of him. You see this boy?

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And they know

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where do they learn that from?

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They learn from their family.

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You feel that you have problem in talking to children, you can put a recorder.

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Now they have a lot of technology with all the high tech now with all this. You can even use that and play in front of them so that they get used to it. So they memorize the

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example.

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Then of course you want the best for your children. You invest so much on your children. It's time for you to make sure that his environment is good because the Prophet said and Marula Dini Khalili, Alianza de Mayo Kali. You see the guidance of Islam is there already. You don't have to open this book that book. Yeah, to have the best manual to guide your children just follow the Quran and Sunnah Serato masakan

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environment is important now

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because sometimes we give the best to our children at home but you forget his environment.

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Now he went out and he is exposed to so many negative things and he's picking up the negative and he's going to bring it home

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so duty

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as better and

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I believe that most of us

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do not really know and understand our children

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because we are busy we have our own job

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we have other commitments. So we thought that especially father and mother who are working I don't think you have time to see your children grow in front of you

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you rely on your main

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What can I make do to your to the children

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they may have so many other responsibility to take care of the to clean this and do this and do that

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the mainly the children cry is this give them anything you want to give it to them

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you're not there maybe they have giving them Coca Cola every time somebody yeah now the addicted the Coca Cola

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Is that good? is not good?

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And then it didn't get was you have a gadget for them PlayStation any problem now he just don't PlayStation call us. Why don't you say anybody now he is being controlled by this mortgage. And that's why we have

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problem today there are children today you're talking to them they don't talk to you anymore

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they are playing with the session

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no more communication

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The minute you take the exit from them they cry and we are so weak if you think

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see what is happening

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No, they are controlling you you fail to be a father and a mother You should be in control that now the children control you

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they know that when they cry they get what they want. So you keep on crying.

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You must tell the no whatever you do when I say No means no

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they must learn

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the chain of command when I say No means no

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when I say this is full time dinner time Come and eat

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this kind of exercise is very simple if you do it from young

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and that's why Islam said you should monitor your children make sure that they learn how to pray how to take evolution from year seven

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from year seven

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before that let them be with you

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children his children you call them to pray and stand beside you they send you see Allah Allah after two minutes they are gone

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suddenly there they are in front of you they may see in front of you not playing in front of you

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and what are you gonna do with him?

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No, no no no let them do that as children

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you pray they pray

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because their children what is better? Is better they are with you then they are not with you they see oh my father now is bowing down my and my father is down now my father is frustrating now is good. Let them see

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my grandchildren so the same is that when we pray we make sure the beside

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when we make our sushi is correct but this dude like that? No.

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Of course something you get.

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You don't know what the what the weather you get angry or your love, you love something you get our control you start to laugh.

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Guilty.

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They may suit you straight on the floor.

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Who are dominated

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by Midnight's Children, no bra then you remind them, teach them

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discipline them from a seven age span. No more.

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Just what if they do not follow? You have the right to discipline them by action. You even have the right to Canaan

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to the West cainy you'll be in prison.

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If they become disobedient, no problem.

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You have no right to discipline your child what kind of law is that?

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Don't we have right upon ourselves Do we have right upon our children.

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If you don't control them from young duty you can control them when they grow up is other

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you have the right to do what you must do but of course not to hurt them. Islamic discipline is not the torture your children but to discipline them to put the consciousness in them that what they do is wrong is so bad

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that they will not do it again.

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Today I've seen a lot of children

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I pity the parent I don't know what the parent feed the children with the jewelry is so great and challenge their parent in front their friend.

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They can even hold a glass and they can throw it now and break the glass in front of you children today.

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super active everything super

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ninja we give them all the Superman Spider Man kind of thing to read and then they thought that they also spider men

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do Superman.

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This is just an example. So don't forget to understand your children.

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And what you must be always one step ahead of them. Don't let them lie to you cheat you. You must know whether they're lying or not. You must be very alert about this one. They know that you're the father is very alert. The mother is very alert. They did not do this to you

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and your children to go to school from young age is very important to check. You must be a customs officer. Immigration Officer. You must be a police to your children.

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You have the right to check their back

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what they bring home we don't know you send them with one good back with some good books around things he come back with some haram thing

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it's not that he is a bad Charlie's got children but then vitamin outside is trying to corrupt our children

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and that's why you find children is six

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is doing thing that you cannot imagine.

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Girls and girls why and why is six is happening now.

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It's alarming is what happening now you cannot control them

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with the media. And you'll give a smartphone to a child five, six years old they have a smartphone.

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You know the smartphone what the smartphone can do to you and me

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while going to all the Hello

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program Hello Facebook.

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Sometimes hiromasa come in. You cannot control

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is like a warzone going on.

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Our children our children five six you don't give him all the the old kind of one button one the the one the one the swiping one.

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So smart.

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To get out when you scream at you.

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Something's very wrong.

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But nothing is too late brother and sister. It's time for us to wake up before it's too late. Because Allah is sure to ask you the minimum Allah is going to ask us brother and sister.

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Maybe Allah will not ask you about your country because you are not a politician.

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Maybe Allah know about what happened to shell because you are not the owner of shell.

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Maybe Allah will not ask you about

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ma s because you are not a shareholder. I mean, yes.

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But remember, the minimum that Allah is sure to ask every one of us to

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and that's why Allah said, Yeah, you know, and pusaka alikum, narrow. Yo yo who believe in Allah files. and foremost, you must say for yourself,

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about you about me, you cannot say or what can I do? A lot is true to us.

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You cannot excuse yourself.

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You yourself, must be honest, be responsible. And the second one was Polycom and your family. Save yourself from hell fire and save your family.

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If you can save your neighbor, you can save your sibling you can save your other neighbor or your friend might save your immediate family. Your children, you have a wife says your wife

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can the wife saved the husband?

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Sister duty you can save your husband?

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Yes, Allah says so when we

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did

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this believing men and believing woman they must help each other complement each other share with each other help each other.

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It's not any one way No.

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In Islam, there's no policy of the boss is always right. No.

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There is the men's policy.

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And they cannot argue you anymore. They don't have enough bullet to shoot you back.

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Because they say one you can't attend.

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They don't know what to say. The only power they have veto power.

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I'm the men

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I'm the boss here the boss's office right?

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Right in Islam know

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what Allah is right is right.

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And that's why the Prophet said Edina say her

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religion is based on good advice. The lovely Tommy Lee Valley, Metro Muslim in my team. And advice can come from both ways.

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from the top to the bottom or from the bottom to the top. Yes.

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There is what Islam says.

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So May Allah help us brother and sisters. We are good parents Alhamdulillah

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we have sacrificed a lot

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to make sure that we have the best to give the best or children.

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I think we have give the best or children more than we receive from our parents.

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Our parent is different. The upbringing is different. You train us to be tough.

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You do everything by ourselves

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and handle

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we survive.

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We are thankful to them too. So we must forget not forget to pray for your parent. And in the same thing, when you want to give to your children, make sure you give them the right thing.

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Because you want them to be righteous children.

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And then so you can rest in peace. If you die after giving the right education to your children, you know that Judah is praying now they read the Quran they memorize the DA Alhamdulillah you can rest in peace. If not

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grateful fit now we'll come

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this way one the prayer that the Prophet recommend is to recite in our daily prayer Allahumma in our own zoo, we come in as a bit jahannam woman as a woman pignatelli mahiya Well my man may

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Allah

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I see refuse review from the punishment of the grave

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and also from Hellfire and from the grid Phaeton

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when I am alive and when I die

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if your offspring of children is not being trained, educate properly

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why you are dead you don't know what can happen to you they can even leave Islam

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you've seen that I am involved in getting counseling for people who want to leave Islam

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there is part of my mission

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so pricing you have people who are even want to leave they have more than Muslim also want to leave

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this thing can happen to all of us if you're not careful.

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So this is the great pitner

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don't think that not hamdulillah I'm good No. And then my children do. Abdullah Abdul Rahman Fatima Katya good name. Good name is the name

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and name without spirit a name without values.

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And later on the exchange the new name

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and is happening is happening I'm telling you this is happening in front of me.

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And I feel is very alarming.

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But nothing is too late. We are now give up.

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What Allah wants to do we try our best to do and we believe in the power of the law.

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So brother and sister we hope Allah Subhana organise peace. Give us righteous house. I mean, partners, those who don't have a partner yet plan properly, you do not know how to plan you can come to us, let us help you to plan inshallah. Those who have a partner, if you see have problem, you must come to us. We will help you to see what is the problem. And we got both of you. And we send that problem for the children don't delay.

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Don't delay Alhamdulillah we have parent bringing children 22 years old, 23 years old.

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And when they come and see us What do they say?

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They say that I am a prophet.

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Muslim children yet telling their father and they're telling me now they are prophet.

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Why do you say that? That's how I feel.

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Probably mama is a human I'm a human so if he can be a prophet, I also can be a prophet.

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Now the father just cannot take it anymore.

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Oh because you feel you are a prophet.

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As a whole you don't say this when you go outside.

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Anybody will get upset they'll wreck you.

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They see you're crazy.

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And you cannot blame them. If you say why you beat me because I feel like that.

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You feel you want to say that you're a prophet. You said I feel I want to beat you I beat you.

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You don't follow your feeling. You must be responsible in what you say. You must know who you are.

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This is happening.

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So May Allah protect us brothers and sisters from this fitness

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and the fitness of that job. That job

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the fitness that people are going to twist and turn black become white white become black. The true become false, the false will become true.

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Liar, people respond to their word. But the people who speak the truth people don't listen to them anymore. This is the work of the job.

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haraam become halaal halaal become Adam. Everything turned upside down that is to work up that job that Jalla

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inshallah we still have about five minutes

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we have five minutes inshallah

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if there's any question and answer 10 minutes now we open for q&a to all the brothers and sisters in Sharla any question from the brothers

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down

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session but you know for seven years we had to be playful and just

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being strict to the seven seven years but we start seeing the signs like you know some of the things you mentioned that when you say no don't listen even before they're seven we respond in

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we

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know we have to discipline them already correct otherwise you must build up from very young

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I think you all of us, I can identify a naughty corner

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and not the corner. One they don't listen go there. sit there

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and my time I still remember if I say anything at this obey my mom. What my mom will order me to do because they are non Muslim before I was not a Muslim yet.

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We have all the idols at home or the diet is so the mama said go there and kneel in front of it.

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And do like them

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until you fall asleep

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sometimes the grandmother will be PTV no no no no no no live in

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Alhamdulillah we learn a lot of good thing after that

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mother before and father before very different they love the children and the discipline them we love our Judo we spoiled them

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there's a different today I think something went wrong the fear we had

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to run away let them run

00:52:19--> 00:52:27

my mom This to me is even though my soul I don't want to stay at home. I want to go now take the backend

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and after that we grow back

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You must be you must have faith in Allah Of course.

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My I think if you monitor from early age, they okay. Madness. Adapt is very important. When I say Sit Sit when I say time for food now is for you to eat

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that's how you do it

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don't hamper them too much you know the children today even tennis they don't even know how to clean the plate.

00:53:03--> 00:53:12

Because you have made everything the mate will do let them wash it yes bring their plate and wash their plate wash their hand wash their plate

00:53:13--> 00:53:17

please them from yeah I'm doing it I'm washing my plate and totally

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not see my wife can do everything well I love to do it

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What's wrong I'm washing my hand and wash the plate again

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is good make yourself clean

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just an example we must do things together collectively so that children pick up all this good value

00:53:38--> 00:53:39

not just order you know

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woman kitchen and then later on the son or so mommy and mommy

00:53:48--> 00:53:52

or you have the Auntie he become allergic with the

00:53:54--> 00:53:57

washing cleaning and I don't touch this this is not my job

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yeah, it's good. You got to discipline from young put some fear in them. They need to show respect they need to feel somebody know our time when our father staffer from us distant look at us. Alas, I'm de la Okay, Okay, ready?

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Just look at us. You see the power the aura.

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Now we become powerless.

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We have all the muscle but no power.

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No, we only have PowerPoint.

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Our bang

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but the Spirit is no more than me Allah help us by the sisters. And the last question from the sisters.

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No question for the sisters.

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Last question for the brothers again.

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And hamdulillah because we don't have problems so Mashallah hamdulillah so is important for the audience.

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education of children, so you all must be selected. Don't just send them to any school, make sure that the school that you want to send them is a school who the teacher committed, not that you give education. Because the tarbiyah Islamic is not just giving education, they must be more or be more A B means the teachers are committed to take care of your children, like how they take care of their own children, that kind of commitment. If just a teacher

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there, they cannot give the best, they just go on to the hours. But if a mirage be the monitor, everything that the children is doing, they feel for the children. So please, be more selective. Be more careful in your investment. Because this is your future investment. You have a righteous student that you leave behind a law will bless you. Because the Prophet did say that in the Day of Judgment, even the parent has failed themselves. They have not been righteous, but Alhamdulillah they managed to make their children righteous in the Day of Judgment. Gay no they are going to hell. Allah have informed that you are going to hell but later on Allah chain his sin

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is it now go to Paradise. We thought that Allah is joking with us, because we know where we are going.

00:56:31--> 00:56:33

We know how we end our life.

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Then Allah will say to us, you are going to paradise not because of your deeds now.

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your deeds will not qualify you to go to Paradise because of the prayer of your children.

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Your children have been begging me that they are not going to paradise without you

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and are my mercy to your children. I command you to go to Paradise be with them.

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So make sure that you give the best children the right education. May Allah protect all of us for some sister or brother who did call us about their Ramadan can please see us after that. It brought some of the Ramadan can because we always are trained to prepare for everything to prepare ourselves before married after married how to bring our children the Ramadan is closed how to prepare yourself for the best Ramadan in this coming year. Insha Allah May Allah accept all our prayers protect us from all Phaeton Subhana Allah home ob Ambika shadow Allah Allah in the sterile field kawakubo boy like salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.