Hussain Kamani – The Prophet Muhammad – The Teacher #23

Hussain Kamani
AI: Summary © The importance of giving children opportunities to learn and grow up in learning processes is emphasized, along with the need for parents to guide them through learning and provide opportunities for them to make their own decisions. The negative impact of Islam on women and the importance of educating people about their rights is discussed, along with the use of negative language to create negative thoughts and the importance of following the Prophet's command. The segment also touches on the loss of heart and the importance of civil law and finding a way to convince young people to uproot distraction from their heart. The segment ends with a recommendation to stop the class and a invitation to join a prayer.
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hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Ramona Eva anybody like the Mustafa

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Posada. So you did also do hot Milan via water Hill Ischia was hard hit a mother

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when you decide to teach someone something

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it's important that you give the other individual the opportunity to be a part of a process of learning.

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So they play a role of studying, but also teaching for themselves.

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Not only are they learning something new in this moment, but you're also empowering them.

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As an educator and teacher, I can sit in front of a student and plan out their whole future, that you're going to do this, then you're going to go here, then you're going to go there. And then you're going to do this online class and this physical activity and this extracurricular and this sports event.

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But the individual who was at the center of it, deep in the heart may be terrified that I don't know if I can do all of this.

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Because each person differs. One person can easily do it, another person may struggle with it.

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The problem is that a lot of money he was a part of His teaching was involving the person in front of him, asking them questions, not simply giving them the answer, but almost making them earn that answer. And it wasn't just a matter of making them earn it, making them struggle to get the answer. But in the process, the Prophet said a loved one, and we'll set them up, get those gears running in their brain, getting them to think

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when a person chooses and decides to do something, there is a high probability, they will then make that same choice. Again.

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If I choose something for a person, don't do this or do this. There's a 5050 chance whether they'll choose that same thing again, when they're alone, in the absence of their teacher, mentor parent. But on the other hand, if rather than telling them what to do, you have coached them and guided them to think in the right way. But ultimately, the decision was theirs.

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And they understand the reasoning behind it, you've given them a special moment. The chances are that when they are presented with that same scenario, they will choose right.

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Therefore, in parenting, the most important thing a parent can offer their child

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is the ability to choose wisely,

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that you guide them on how to make decisions, that you help them analyze options, that they're able to do a pro and con list in their mind. And when they choose wrong, they're able to admit that they chose wrong or if they decided right, they're also proud and happy that I'm humbled, I was able to make the right decision because knowing what's right and wrong for a person to admit that I made the wrong decision where I made the right decision requires for them to have a starting point a foundation, a metric something to measure by. So they're measuring what they're right or wrong.

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Whether they chose right or wrong, based off of higher principles. So in Islam our higher principles are the Quran and Sunnah. And fifth are higher principles are considered fifth, it's based on what will sort of fit whether you know whether you're 50 conclusions were sound or not the Voodoo must be connected to the suit. That your that your your simple answers must be based within the greater principles of the deen

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Surah Surah Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam engaged the students. And he asked them questions, getting them to think what might be the right answer. What is the right way of looking at this? Sometimes a person presents a question in a way. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would not accept the premise in which they have presented the question. So he would correct it. The Prime Minister is wrong. And this is an important point. When you speak to another person in your life. Anytime you're in a conversation with someone, and they pose a statement, you don't accept the statement and its premise just because someone said it. The first thing you need to do is analyze

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whether the premise is correct. And the statement is correct. You have to figure this out. And that's why you'll notice that you're more skilled and senior

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debaters. When you present a question to them, it's very likely they won't accept your question.

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They won't accept the premise, because they know that if they've accepted the premise, they're halfway to defeat.

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So how you avoid getting caught in someone's trap specifically, if someone's good with words is you challenge the premise that you've said that Islam is oppressive to women. Now, if I start seeing Islam, liberated women, I've already accepted their premise, which means I'm in trouble. Now this person is going to just tiptoe around me and keep knocking me from different quarters until I fall over. Or what I can do is ask them, let's understand what oppression and justices How about that. Then we can figure out whether you understand Islam or not because you

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be two statements you made two claims you make, there are two parts to your claim right? That Islam oppresses women. So first, let's understand what oppression means in, in this context, and let's understand what your understanding of Islam is, let's put these two together and then figure out whether you're right or wrong. But if I accept the premise and start defending women's rights in Islam, and halfling, the whole sort of sort of lost that along on a certain topic, companions to think that society will present something to you in a particular way. So as you're growing up in that community, you will accept those norms, that it's normal to call your dad by his name. Paul,

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what's going on?

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That it's normal for a person to speak back to their elders, that it's okay for you to come to the masjid and shout at people if things are not going your way. Because you would do that talk about and at the Apple Store, would you not? And then most of them say that why can we not hold? Why can we not deal with one another the meshing like we do with one another I talk about, because it's not talking about

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because this is not a restaurant. Because this is not a place where you're trying to feed your body. Here, you're coming to feed your soul, and you're coming into the house of Allah, and you will need to come on the terms of the most.

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You will need somebody here you will need patients here. That's a part of your growth. It's a part of your growth, to not be entitled. And understand that if the toilet paper is out that you don't go to the front desk and ask them to refill the toilet paper, you do it yourself. If you notice the shoes are out, you pick it up because you're in a machine. That isn't someone else's that you're visiting. It's your mission. This is our family. This is our team. This is our unit together.

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This was what Rasul Allah said along on a set and offered his students that at times, the visa Allahu Allah was sitting will offer them the simple outcome and answer, if that's what was needed. And on the other hand, sometimes the sort of loves that a lot, a lot able to sit them would take the student on a journey of thought

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that let's figure this out together. And most of this the problems that have already been said I'm already knew what was right and wrong. So figuring it out together, it wasn't so much figuring it out from the Prophet of Allah. Rather, it was for the other person. But nobody said Allah who it was said very

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eloquently, and with such amazing intelligence. If you're smiling, I'll tell you, if you wonder why I'm smiling, it's because of this with such eloquence and amazing intelligence, what asking the questions that would leave the mind of the student open up and opened up and open up. And at the end of the conversation, they have learned so much. Just through the way the Prophet said a long while he was sort of asked his questions.

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That what do you think about this? So what about this scenario? What about this situation? And we'll see a bunch of those examples today, as we read. But before we read the narrations, I wanted to lay this in Oklahoma, this introduction before you so you understand what the author analog data is teaching us from the narrations in this chapter of the book. Okay, go ahead.

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No, I'm below salatu salam ala, ala Palma long conversation in Rational comparison dallimore Bill Muhaddith 31 was a little atonia that how have you sort Allahu alayhi wa sallam educated his students been harder than what is much harder than mean.

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Conversation. One wasn't at the cochlea, and how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used rational reasoning to get people to understand what's right and wrong. And the reason why it would be said Allahu alayhi wa sallam use rationality when educating human beings is because Islam is irrational religion.

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People assume that religion, in its entirety, all religions, this the atheists claim right, that all religions are irrational. This is the picture they painted. And Muslims are told that your religion is irrational. There's no rationality to it. This is a false claim. Allah subhanaw taala the harlot of the occult, who is commanding people of intelligence to act upon His revelation would reveal that revelation in a way that it's not comprehensible by the author.

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make any sense? It unless you think that little of your heart and your Allah but our understanding of Allah subhanho wa Taala is very different. But Allah subhanaw taala is mono heme? Alima Obeah semi I don't know see, this is a loss of heart. So he reveals the revelation in a way that appeals to the human intellect. Now bear in mind there are aspects of our deen that rely on belief

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and if you

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To ask me what part of the deen requires belief and cannot be understood rationally, I would say it's these are matters related to the

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anything that Allah subhanaw taala has kept hidden from the eyes of the human being will require

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anything Allah subhanaw taala has kept hidden from the eyes of the human being. Yet Allah subhanaw taala is clearly speaking of in the Quran will require ima. Now if the atheist wants to mock that and make jokes out of it and you know, dedicate entire TV episodes to it, then they can go ahead and do their thing. Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran, in the linear algebra mukana

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or Ruby and then FileOpen Lilina monomial

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that have your life today, tomorrow, you will be laughed at hustled in this room enough in namaskar woman can come and have your life enjoy yourself because tomorrow you will be laughed at. So you can go ahead and make fun of the AKA, if a Muslim was asked rationally explain the description of gender to me. You can see it and say I can't. Because what description or have a gender was informed to me by the loss of

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the Creator. But if someone says that explain why is it that Muslims pray five times a day? Our first answer would be because it's a command of Allah and we are happy with that. That's the answer of odia. That's the answer of what did I say?

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Whoo, Whoo, yeah. Which means servitude to Allah, that I'm happy with the command of Allah without any reason at all. That's it.

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But once we're done with that answer, now let's start the part of shooting.

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What's your question asked me? And let's answer it.

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And the whole amount of the past took on this challenge of understanding deep and intellectually because you have to understand once something reaches a heart and intellect of a person, they will then be committed

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until the message doesn't reach their mind and their heart, there won't be anything.

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So chiffon makes it make does all the hard work, to first keep your heart engaged, so no revelation enters into it. And then he confuses your mind. So what ne ye comes to your mind and you misunderstand it, or you reject it altogether. But once the person clears, they're in there

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and they accept revelation six in these two places. You will have no choice but to follow it because you won't accept anything other than that.

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You will demand that and desire that of yourself. Any ambitious human being would want that.

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Yes, God. So when wasn't happening.

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Among us when Allah Allah Allah He was FMCG methods was to engage in Rational cross questioning. He saw a love it was an would pose a question and ask for an answer. He did so to remove falsehood from the heart of one

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who considered evil to be good or to establish the truth in the heart of one considered the truth to be far fetched or unlikely. The following are examples of removing falsehood from the heart of one who consider evil to be good.

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Follow on unary on the authority of a moral mana, and Becky all the alumni who said a young man came to us on the loss of a loved one. He was an older Summa permit me to commit to commit adultery. The people turned to him review continued and said keep quiet, keep quiet. So the loss of Allah Allah wa sallam said bring him closer. When people heard it. Can you imagine the American saying to the Prophet Allah whining or Salam,

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then the Zina give me permission to commit Zina so far from Allah He for surgery who are called Bama people came to him and they said Ma Ma, book for Hoback quiet. What are you saying? In front of the Prophet Allah who today was sitting here talking about something immoral and filthy like Zina? I mean, any person will say that if someone went to your parent or an elder in the community and said, I want to commit Zina, you push that person what you're saying? If you're gonna do it, then why are you talking about it like this in front of the elders, but the prophets of Allah while he was selling this hubba for his students, and non judgmental environment,

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open to every person that was sincere in order to learn. This person had sincerity, but his sincerity unfortunately was connected to sin. So nobody said Allahu Allah, he immediately saw the potential in him and understood that all we needed to do was redirect the water. It was just flowing in the wrong place. So the pumps that Allahu Allah was sent to everyone saying Ma Ma, what does that mean?

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Like Sheesh,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam What is he said in ordinary

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For that I've been hooked but even so he came close to the promise that a lot of money was sitting, but jealous, and he sat down next to the popsicle logs.

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And now it'd be sort of long line he was sort of starts the Debian

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here sort of loss of a lot of audios and upstarts that that mean, he doesn't say no, because people don't respond good to that.

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Don't play games, human beings don't respond well to negatives. Remember this?

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Don't eat unhealthy. They don't respond good to that. They don't respond the two negatives and, and prohibition.

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For some there is that way.

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In order we see a lot, okay, good bottles, anything. But there are some people who need that prohibition and they need that sternness. But for majority of the people, they're happy with positivity and incentives. So the purpose that a lot of us that are brings into your body begins to speak to

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go head

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to head the holy comic, that's the statement of the process of lies. That would you like for this Zina to occur with your mother

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Because no matter how much you tell people not to do something, they will do it. The only way they stop is if you change their perspective.

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In the 80s, and 70s, America had a very big tobacco problem. Big Tobacco was pumping a lot of money into marketing. And unfortunately, people were smoking their lungs into ashes.

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So many campaigns came into existence to cut back smoking. One of the more effective campaigns was created by a group of psychologists. And they're they're the the center the theme of their camp, their campaign was, rather than just telling people not to smoke, let's change their perspective and tell them why it's bad to smoke.

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You guys understand that? So we can say don't do it. Or we can tell them what's the harm of doing it.

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So I can say go to sleep. Or I can say you'll be late for school, if you don't stay down. The reason it is time to change your wording.

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So therefore, on packets of cigarettes, they started printing, smoking kills.

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You know, and I don't know what other messages they have, but similar messages how it causes cancer or destroy your lungs and a variation of that. At some, I think, I'm not sure if this is an American thing, but I think in England, they actually have pictures of charred lungs. Do they have that in America?

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In Buxton, they do.

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They actually have a picture on the cigarette packet of

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charred lungs, swear when you see it. First, you think it's a bad print job. And then you look at it carefully, you're like, Oh, my God, that's another human beings lungs. And when you see that again and again and again, a change occurs in your mind, your persuasion changes. This is what we refer to as

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positive and positive and negative associations

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that you have to shaytaan will create positive associations to set.

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The way for you to leave sin is taught in this hadith, actually, that you will need to change that association that SharePoint has made. You will need to learn to see hobbies so

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Why drink beer and wine when it's such a horrible kick? It smells bad. It just smells bad. This off of the merit of its smell.

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Why would someone want to engage with something that smells bad when you have amazing strawberry juice and pomegranate juice and grape juice and

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follow that? You guys know the formula, the famous Persian drink that was brought over to the subcontinent. And then as normal, we know how to spice things up. Or in this case, sweeten them further.

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Have a funnel that designer

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one of the students the amount of money from the lobby was his students are the abuser.

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He was one of the very close students at the moment of honey funnel.

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One day Imams, I'd love to log out I noticed he wasn't in class.

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So he asked where is he? So the students said that his father has sent him to work because their family is struggling financially. So they called him to work a job. He won't be attending your desk anymore.

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Mom Honey from Denali.

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Do another one that I can or he could see far.

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So he went to the parents and he said to them

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How much is the earnings so he told them this is how much he's earning every day. He said, I will pay that much to him to study that

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sent him

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by him not studying a great harm will come to a big loss work.

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And as he was taking email mobile usage from Denali from the home to go and study, he said to his parents,

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how amazing will that day be, that your son will drink follow that from their hands, and luckily for half the time

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that they will also come.

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So are the abuse of later on because of their ways of not just a hobby of yours about the first person in the history of Islam to hold the title supreme judge first person was probably at least.

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So he then becomes that person. And he served under out on the machine during Gobustan period. And when 100 other shoes would have been served him this photo that he began to cry.

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And he said that I remember the day that my parents pulled me out of prison, but in Abu Hanifa saw the talent and he saw something in me and then he made to offer you more money than

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500 That's a lot. Yeah.

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So at the hippo holy Omnikey Is that what you want? So by associations that you must take something that has a negative association and flip it around something that has positive association, why would someone drink a foul drink that alters your state of mind when you can have all these amazing drinks of the world? What do you want? You can have it all

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okay, God

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would you like it for your mother? He replied, No, I swear by Allah was a little lunch May Allah ransom me for your safety. Also the most on the low audio listen them said, people also do not like it for their mothers seem to suggest as you wouldn't like this for your mother. While unless you can put a hole in Matthew.

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Think of this from the perspective of other people. They would also dislike this for their mothers continue to hit bully epileptic. What about your daughter lie on a sort of line said no. So what a mess we will live by 19 and similarly people wouldn't want this for their daughters to hear well, what about your sister law Well, law era sort of large island you'll love feedback on what we are collecting. And people wouldn't want this for their sisters either.

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paternal aunt

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know what a nurse we know who they are mad at him. And neither were people like this for their aunts

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to his maternal hunt

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lauhala yellow sort of like a darker color within us we bought a woolly for that thing, then neither were people like this for their us. Now this next part

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is beautiful. For the auto so like I said, a lot of money was sitting together why

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and then they'll be sent a monologue and you will send them placed his hand on him.

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There is without doubt a buck a factor.

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If you think a dead battery is charged by connecting cables to it,

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you don't know when a heart or experienced once the Prophet of Allah touches that human being

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for a while the auto su Allah has said a lot a lot and he was selling

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a dead battery. No matter how much you crank the key, it just keeps making the output noise. And when you carry cables, what happens? It roars back to life.

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Sort of sort of loss and a lot he puts his hand on

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at any therapist will tell you by the way, that this touch of intimacy is a big deal for people when they feel not just that physical contact

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with God, Allah Who created them but who taught her caliber who was intelligent.

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So then there is a one on one he was

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passed on the energy that he needed when making law for him or law Parkinson's. What the * elbow, purify his heart. Watson photo has seen photo and protect him from engaging in harm with his private area. Father for them, you can

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forget about it directly is definitely lashing out after that day. That young man never had this temptation again.

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I mean, on one side, he benefited from the blob was sort of off the wall. It was sort of so that's the spiritual element of it. But then there's an intellectual therapeutical element to this, which is the conversation that he had with the profits the loss. Yes. So he says

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from Sunday funday Rama he says funding case is solid and the BU said Allahu Allah. He was

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seldom men nevsun Fattah Taluka hooba. Zina, untreated MHADA 31 Harca. But in sia T one was an ugly and I'm reading the statement because of the verb used. I really liked this verb funbook A solid, maybe some of you notice their silence

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to uproot something.

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What is Salming?

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Literally something's planted in the ground, like a shuffle up planted in the heart. It's deep in there, but we're sort of lost sort of grabbed it and pulled it right out. It's not sort of an abuse of the law while you're Salam mean, Nuff said Fatah. Taluka hope is

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his desire for Zina was yanked out of his heart. You see those big cranes that come there like crane like machines, I'm sure they have a better name that grabbed the tree and they just pull it out of the ground. They have videos on YouTube, each one has a gajillion views because they're so satisfying to watch.

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It's against the bottle cap, imagine something being pulled out of the ground like that, suddenly sort of a hobby. So how did your civil law civil law how to sort of yank it out? It wasn't to brute force in our culture. If you don't get you tell your child

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you are going to Kumaon here's the example.

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You tell your child you are going to Kumar the kid says, No Bob, I'm not. And the parent says you are going to come on the third time when the kid says No What do you do? How do you how do you uproot this distraction from the heart and get them to go to Kuhmo?

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Exactly Abdullah he made the gesture he didn't say it he said come on.

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At the coffee is gone. Why come on the face? And now you're going to come on? No. Well, you got one you're gonna get another one. That'll be two. You're definitely going to come on.

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But Rasulullah sallallahu it was set on didn't need to use force there was no need for hitting or shouting. He used force but it was a different force. It was a force from one angle to another from one time to another time along the sun Yeah.

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Go ahead.

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So the loss of Aloha USL and did all this without putting any of the verses with regard to the prohibition

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don't oversell your cylinder in evidence. Look at his command. I had an amazing teacher. He did all of this doing the AF Corolla will tell why did the pitot even Zina one way the design was

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without putting 100 without quoting one IR regarding the punishment of sin.

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He could have said we know you commit Zina, I'm giving you 80 lashes. I'll see you tomorrow, buddy.

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I'll give you 100 lashes. Firstly, to

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100 lashes. You're not at 100 you want you're gonna come into our job.

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I'll see you tomorrow. You go knock yourself up. I'll deal with you tomorrow. But no, it'd be some of us didn't do that.

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Some of the things I really wish for myself and for you guys. Secondly, but I'm a little greedy here. But I wish I had this.

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I wish I had worse like this.

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Imagine if we all understood the teaching method of sort of last month's. How happy would our children be?

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How empowered what our students be?

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Because we don't know how to do it right. We're doing it all wrong. And kids are growing up in pain.

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I once saw a father.

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He was seeing his son off the highchair. You know how people go for heights all the fans come to see their kids off. So I was passing by the TSA TSA area and there's a father, he was abusing his son. And he was whispering to his son as crying as was crying. Yeah, just fair. All right, seeing him. So he was crying and whispering in his ears. He said, I apologize for not being a good father.

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So old mad reality was hitting. someone reads it as the welder that maybe he was being humbled by I don't know who this guy was. So I don't know the story.

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But I can see it being a truthful statement, not just a humble statement. I can see this father feeling that man I could have done it better. could have had better words when I was dealing with you could have been kinder. I always knew I needed to love You with my heart but I'm not sure if I was able to express it.

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Rather, I kept talking down and kept talking down kept talking about

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how many times that we quoted ye than either the Quran

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when we reload.

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Every time my father wanted us to do something you would just say put on

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the finish approximately

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how much is going on Medicare quarterly. It's an update on what I was put on a super detailed, how's all that written in this book?

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And I was sitting at home when they were eating. This was a few years ago, one or two years ago. And we were eating together and the kids were talking. And my dad was how much is the grandmother can

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eat quietly some o'clock?

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I said this. It's actually not a

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sit back check.

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And then I said to him, rather than football have actually suggested that a person should not be quietly you should actually talk about eating this is what suggested by the football. But rather than talking about random stuff, they encourage talking about Dini things, because eating in silence is the Shabaab in the soil. So they actually need it to be blameworthy. Well, I'm Salam Salam Chanukah, everyone starting

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May Allah subhanaw taala give us this

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walkie I don't want to read anymore. After reading this new I just feel like

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letting everyone sit here and just soak that in this passage is

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the promise that alone while he was in change this man without quoting one item

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this is his Hickman wisdom.

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Allah subhana wa Tada chemists this to gender binary

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muscle the muscle law it was LM did all this without coding any of the verses with regard to the prohibition of adultery and the warnings of the punishment, warnings of punishment that have been issued against an adultery, and adulterous he's on the Levant he was selected. So at this particular time, because he knew that this approach would be most effective in removing the evil from the heart of the young man in accordance with his particular perception and understanding. And this is there is a lesson for those who are engaged in problem propagation, to resort to the intellect at times, and with some people if the situation demands, as was the case with this young man whose heart was a

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little masala body was cleansed of adultery progressional cross questioning. The following is an example of establishing the truth and the harder one considers the truth to be far fetched, or unlikely. Maybe one more point to reflect over one five that from this narration. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam didn't just end by establishing and thoroughly proving that his desire was faulty. And it was a bad idea all around as the Hadith shows right? If you look at it from outside of your own shoes, you will realize how horrible it is not only can you do that, but what makes us so beautiful and neutered Allah alone like beauty upon beauty Light upon light. What makes

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it even more amazing is the prophets that along one day was Saddam also made to heart Allah subhanaw taala at the end,

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it wasn't just a rational exercise. That's one thing we have to remember. That sometimes you may convince someone through your words and then give it a comes into your heart that Oh, look how smart I am that I was able to convince someone to do something. But no, that's not when they're at the end. He packaged the whole thing together with Allahumma Mo.

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Huston folgen he packed it all together with dua teaching us that all of your words and all of your rationality and all your convincing ultimately only carry any weight or meaning. If Allah Subhana Allah grants Cambodia

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will probably wasn't married on the authority of Ragusa. He

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said, also the laws, the law and he went out to them, some of them for a little or even on top. He some of Isaac narration that we're about to read it will be a long one is a phenomenal example of how some Muslims

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have misunder have have, unfortunately, jump all the steps and jump all the path that existed for us to learn and understand that who the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was, and allowed for people to force upon us a false understanding of the prophets of Allah Juana he was sent an accusation, a bold accusation made against the prophet that a lot of sin. If you're wondering what all that gibberish that I just said, means here's what it means.

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In sha Allah, everyone here can say that there's a path in your life that you've walked on, that has led you to understanding the prophets of Allah. So

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is that correct? And I see a path because no one learns about the Prophet of Allah in one lecture. You read one book, you listen to some poetry. You either attended a lecture you then read a second book, your parents told you a story, your Sunday School

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story, your story. And then one thing common about all these stories hopefully was the personality and sort of most of

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the stories that Eli asked me differ in alpha than detail but they will never differ when it comes to the essence of what's happening that someone is experiencing the character and a lot of the offset a lot of you said a lot of sun was not a big hit. The props that a lot of money was set on was not a racist. It'd be sort of La La they was set on was always the most loving and compassionate person in the room.

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In this case, we can see the room referring to the whole dunya and everything.

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I'm not understanding Mattel anatomy.

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So right

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now this would be wire right here.

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This new wire right here is one that you know the non Muslims they read it and they say Oh look how oppressive the practice of law to send the most to women and how abusive he was to women. The Muslim Nepali Rama puts this narration

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to show how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam engaged with his crowd to help them rationally understand that claim that he made some Allamani.

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But before I even go into that, I want to take a moment to address this issue

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of people saying that oh look, Sue Lawson Allahu alayhi wa sallam said that I saw

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I saw you to be majority of the inhabitants of the fire of healthwell address while addressing women. And then the purpose of the law money was to them said that you are deficient in your intelligence and in your religion. So look, how Islam belittles women and talks down to them. How can this Islam be for women then?

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Right when it discriminates against women. So I asked people, before we even talk about the love of the Hadith. Before we even talk about the actual wording of that why I speak to Muslims. We'll talk about in some later. Let's talk to Muslims verse is that the Prophet of Allah that You know,

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your path to the prophets of Allah and instead of every Hadith, you've studied, every story you've heard, have you come across and they're, you know, a moment in the Prophet's life where he discriminated against a group of people, or he belittled them. He talked down to them, he broke someone's confidence, he abandoned them. He left he left words set against them that can be held against them till the end of times. No, every statement I'm gonna be sort of La holiday was said it was about empowering others. It was about bringing confidence in other human beings. Now we come to the city WIA, I can legitimately spend two days discussing this narration legitimately I could

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understand explaining it, but the honest truth is that I looked for those of you who are studying Muscat and wasabi hook me this year, we literally just did that a few days ago. This week. We spent two or three days covering this exact narration because it's incredible Imani Moscato Mazovia that will say that he called it the alone one narration but I will explain one or two things just to explain that why otherwise we'll move on. So he says, I will say the holy grail of the Allah line says follows suit Allah He said Allah Allah, he was summoned up hot or fitted.

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Either either masala

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so when we spent a lot of money with Saddam wiener for prayer with the Companions, either it was either fitter or either one of the aides. So bear in mind is another gathering, or is it an occasion?

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it's an occasion, right? So a large group of people are gathered to see the loss of a loved one and listen up to the opportunity. So some of you said a lot of he was sitting specifically went to speak to the women. And one narration that says he took a companion with him. So they went to the women's side of the gathering, and the prophets of Allah when he was speaking to them. Because there were a large group of women selling on them. I also point out here that this incident occurred at a time where sort of lesson law audio system was in general raising funds for campaigns for battles for travel for the companions. So in that fundraising spirit, the province that Allahu Allah He was sent

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in came to the women after prayer, who were all dressed very nicely, and they were you know, they're in large numbers. And he starts off by saying, Yeah, ma Shalom, the Saudi the Sunnah, that give Saba

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he's telling them to give suddenly, the whole rewire must be understood in the light of truth realities in this heavy. The first reality is the prophecy that among It was sort of speaking to women. If I was speaking to a group of men and I highlighted deficiencies in that group of men that would be rational, thoughtful, mindful and wisdom itself. Why would I talk about another group of people when I'm sitting in front of a group of men?

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Do you guys understand? If a person was speaking

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To everyone and then singled out one group, then you can say that someone is picking on another person saying, but if I'm only speaking to seminary students and I say you guys have a lot of hassles in your heart, people have knowledge. And that's not picking on anyone. I'm just addressing a message to a people that I'm talking to, that people have knowledge tend to be very jealousness The truth is the reality.

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Second thing,

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the second reality that you must keep in mind when studying this idea, the second point is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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is encouraging them to give up. So all statements thereafter are a part of motivating them to an outcome which is sellable.

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You guys understand this, everything after is to motivate them to give some input. Therefore, when Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, in order to connect, I see majority of you to be for the people that will fire pal. Some scholars say there are different interpretations. Again, this is a lengthy discussion. I'm just giving you guys some drops to hold on to to understand this narration. Somehow Am I said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was speaking of the women in front of her.

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The out of the congregation in front of me men and women, I saw more women in the fire of *. And this can be substantiated through the fact that the prophets of Allah Adi was Saddam had raised awareness among the women on the saw the women of Medina because there were certain things that they had, that they did that was different to other words.

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So for example, aluminum and solder were very outspoken.

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The province that Allamani was trying to not blame them for being outspoken in wondering why he actually praised them for being outspoken. He said, How beautiful are the women of the unsought that modesty does not hold him back from seeking knowledge?

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Did he did he hold that he shut their voice down? Did you hush them?

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But no, but on the other hand, when the Muslim said, however, in this context, he tells us that you are ungrateful to your spouse and you curse abundantly. In that case, being outspoken is wrong. And because you're speaking to women to point that out that when you're dealing with your husbands if you're ungrateful, and you use foul language when talking to them, that's wrong. And this can easily be flipped on the other side to men as well. In this statement, there isn't a lot of cinemas not addressing them logically. But if I were to speak to a group of men, and if you were to say to them, that you should not be ungrateful to your spouse, and you should not curse them, would that be a

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sound statement?

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Would anyone object to it and you will slip no

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rational statement or telling one group of people you're telling another group of people, as far as the loss of money was sent them, saying that, again, we're going to do and then there are better translations that could be offered but we'll just go with the one that's commonly use model at the Atlanta Medina and have a look that Roger hasn't made that

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that deficiency in, in religion and intelligence, deficiency in religion and also in intelligence.

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Sheikh Hamza Bukhari, Allah subhanaw taala bless him in increasing the knowledge. While explaining this narration he explained that when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that

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women were deficient in intelligence,

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and also in their religion, it wasn't. It's, let's talk about the first one first, when he said that the women were deficient in their intelligence. This was not in comparison to men.

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This was in comparison to women themselves. That there are two traits that human beings struggle to balance. One is their compassion to others their intelligence. Now women among themselves, women as a gents, among themselves tend to be stronger with their compassion rather than being rationally driven.

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Right the the love of a mother you guys heard of that before? Yes or no? The love of a mother that they're they're willing to be more compassionate driven. And therefore a sort of laws that allow it was set up missing, that your intelligence is there, your compassion is there, you have the ability to have to have a little bit Rajan hasn't been in a coma, you have the ability to give it insulins, your own spouses to give something not only can you give, but you can influence anyone to give. So use that influence for good. Use that influence for this cause. And then from there that Elijah continues, this is where the author right, no low dollar. This is why he raised the narration

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because this next part, and then this next part, the woman has explained to us what does it mean that there's a deficiency in our deen and also in our intelligence, so that are sort of that sort of audio set of talks about experiential deficiency and intelligence. And then there is a lot is also talks about the issue of how a person

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A woman may not pray or fast due to her highs, or due to her menstruation. Now that not that it's a fault to have high either not prayer, to have faith or not prayer fast. But in that moment there isn't a Baba that you missed out on. Now there's a difference of opinion among the jurists that if a lady does not praying due to hate, does she gets a reward for that that prayer or not? Many of us say yes, others say no. But regardless, that's not the point here. The point here is what sort of loss of Allah honey was cinnamon, saying that because of your natural haev menstruation, you miss out on an opportunity you can make up for that by giving you some so the whole Hadith connects back

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to one

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that gets up

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now, anyway, I mean, I can raise questions and engage with this narration further, and I think we'll stop here. And with that The chapter ends as well. So that's a perfect place for us to stop today's class. We pray that Allah subhanaw taala accepts and grants us the fuel to the almond and Margaret we learned that Allah kind of without blesses us with the wisdom of democracy Obama will sit alone without

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