Channel: Hussain Kamani
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While discussing the type of educator and teacher Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was,
she was sharing some narrations regarding the Shema, 11 visa, Allahu Allah, he was the personal life of the prophet of Allah. We covered the WIAA Hyndman have you had in the previous class? And today we move forward with the same discussion? Yes.
So now we'll have a little level slot for someone else
to be the narrative Shanaya on the authority body and said, it looks anything it says I asked my father, I didn't even have to bother about the law, about muscle loss on the law. It was Evans manner with those who are sitting with him. He said most of the loss of love on either side of them was always had an easygoing nature and was soft hearted. He was not stirred in hard hearted, did not shout was not obscene, did not find fault with anything and did not joke excessively. So there's a thing here that he points out that if you said Allahu Allah He was sillens default position was that email bishop, and a happy jolly state that he was smiling at people say hello. We said a lot of
money and sort of had very good character lejana, John and Lisa before then we'll have a lead in well as a hub. He wasn't loud and obnoxious. Whenever harsh now there wasn't a visa law while he was still in decent weather. Yep. So the loss of the law, how it was set him was not one who constantly hoped faults in others.
Sometimes you have a person who's highly intelligent, but they keep pulling, they keep pointing out mistakes and faults and other people.
What they're saying may actually be true, but they do it over the top, it's excessive.
There are moments in your life where you must learn to just overlook and not say anything, some things are categorically wrong. So you should correct them. But then there are other things that may not be to your liking. But objectively speaking, they're not crimes. These are just decisions of human beings. It may be it may be the inefficient way of doing something, not the best way of doing something, you have to learn when is the right time to speak and when is it best to let it go. And as a teacher, that's a big lesson that you don't correct every mistake of your student on day one, all that once you slowly ease them into it. Today, we point out this issue. And the day after we
point out that issue. And then from there, we point out this issue, and you guide them to the point where their mistakes, if pointed out all at once will overwhelm them. And in return, they will lose confidence. And one of the greatest responsibilities of the teacher is to build confidence in the student to be a student. It's to build confidence in the student to see a dream that one day they can be a teacher. But if you keep down talking them, if you keep pointing out their flaws, you will destroy them. You'll you'll break them and they will be of no good.
Usually when I'm giving advice in the context of marriage to young folks that are about to get married, this is the one of the first things I tell them. That in your marriage, if you encounter something that you dislike,
the first thing is to overlook it. It's not to bring it up, it's not to talk about it. It's not to write it down. It's not to talk to a counselor, a therapist, that's not the first thing you do. The first thing in any meaningful relationship, when someone does something that bothers you, you have to overlook it.
And this is that this is best for your own mental health and for the other person. However, if something persists, and if it's a big issue, something that's bothering you, and it's not just a one off thing, when you talk about it, you then have to use wisdom and talk at the right time in the right place with the right words, ensuring that you are making dua while you're talking to them. And even before and after. Like you know you're putting everything into it, hoping that the best comes out of it. In some cases, it won't pan out the way you want it to. And then you try again and try again. And that is your sincerity. Because a sincere person doesn't get exhausted from trying.
Because the reward is in the effort itself.
They understand that results. were never given to us by Allah from the get go.
Results are always and will only be in the hands of Allah
So how to hold on I believe a person can develop Kulia comes from Allah, the Your job is to try and put effort into it. So as an educator and teacher, you do your best to embody these characters, these characters characteristics and resources. So they say
earlier the Allah one, while describing the visa lottery system, he said, last Harbin he was an obnoxious and loud, whatever harsh and the businessman was not indecent. What I have and let me say hello, while they were sitting did not excessively point out faults and defects and other that this is wrong. That's wrong. This is wrong. That's wrong, everything. Everything's wrong.
This is an issue because in the Muslim community, this is common people come to the masjid they have 100 point 100 faults to point out about the mission. You know, the board didn't do this. They didn't do that. They didn't do this. They didn't do that. People feel overwhelmed. And then unfortunately, they just stopped listening. Because there's not there's there's nothing they can do that will satisfy you.
He continues it after saying well, I Yep. And the next line, the next word he uses is well, I met Dan,
did they on one side and if he said Aloha, it was sudden was not someone who excessively pointed out the flaws and things. But on the other hand, maybe said Allahu alayhi wa sallam was not one to also, over the top praise things too.
Right? It's good to tell people they're doing well. It's good to encourage them, motivate them. But false praise shouldn't exist, shouldn't offer false praise. Because that can lead a person to then becoming delusional.
So say what you believe, and cap it at that. And the beautiful thing that we're taught in our deen is that after you praise him, after you praise someone, it's a common statement for a person to say, but I'm sick, yada, yada, that Allah knows the state of this person. This is what I have observed. This is what I have seen, this is what I know. But what a person's true state is and what their true outcome will be. Whether they'll live up to this potential that we see in them today or not, that's in the hands of Allah subhanaw taala. Sometimes he turns a heart towards his mama, and other times with one command, that heart turns away, and will never find its way back. We ask that Allah
subhanaw taala protects us? Yes.
He would display a lack of interest in those things which he did not like or did not promote. He did not disappoint any person who hope to receive something from him. Nor did he refuse and totally lie you used to mean who Raji, what that means is that someone came to the visa lottery cinema to hope, with a desire, the puffs that allowed is sort of wouldn't leave that person hopeless.
Yes, or yes means to become hopeless. Let me sort of not leave that person feeling that man, there was nothing that came out of there. Sometimes you go to a parent, a friend, a teacher, a mentor, with hopes that you can talk about something and they just shut you out.
And you feel hopeless in that moment.
I was really hoping that I would get something out of here. And I thought I was going to come to a solution to something that I was puzzled about. Whether you is whether you use it or you use depending on how you wish to read it. Men who Rajaiah who the one who had hoped from the results of them. What are you thankful for him? Yes.
He himself abstaining from greetings argumentations and excessive talk, and things which did not concern him. He saved the people from three things. He did not criticize anyone, he did not insult anyone. And he did not search for the faults.
He only spoke that for which there was hope of a holdover award. When he spoke, all those words present lower their heads. It was as it was as if words were sitting on them. This was the end of the Sahaba heifers sort of lost.
That when they would listen to the Prophet of Allah, they would lower their gaze and listen attentively, very carefully with every word that he was saying they would listen among our teachers.
There were those who promoted that in a lecture you should write.
I was one of those people. I used to love writing, taking notes. Now keep going, don't stop. I'm just sharing the different, different sort of perspectives that existed on the issue. I was one of those that I liked writing things down. It helped just in retaining the information and if there was something that you know, touches your heart in that moment, you don't want it to be a temporary emotion. You want to preserve that. So you note it down. But then there were other teachers I sat with to who want to get really angry of someone who wrote I was one sitting in a lecture of a chef that was visiting us in Chicago.
very senior scholar
She means teacher. So he was visiting us in Chicago, and he was giving a desk and we were sitting with him.
And I was taking notes,
And he laid it. He said, All you guys with notebooks put them away. You're all lazy people. Only lazy people take notes. I had never heard this perspective before. I thought it was the lazy people who didn't take notes.
But he was saying it's the lazy people that take notes.
Allah Muhammad Muhammad SAW by the way, he said this to us. So
he then explained, he said, Well, when you're in front of a teacher, you should give the teacher your undivided attention. And listen, your job is to listen and internalize. And as soon as the lecture is over, now it's time to take notes. Lazy people don't take time to make take notes afterwards. So they take it during that was his perspective. It's a beautiful perspective of Hanalei is a great scholar, Chief Justice of the Supreme Court in a Muslim country. This is not a joke, guys. He's a true genius. Unfortunately, many of his works are in the original language, otherwise, if his
what is it called?
Here's a series of books that were transcribed from lectures he gave in a university in Luxan, maybe in Punjab or Lahore. There were a series of lectures he gave. And they were written in a book. I think they were called, I thought, I thought of Tenzin. I thought of it like this, I think that's what they were called the FF series. Beautiful books, amazing books to read. Anyway.
So the Sahaba, when they would listen to the sort of loss of the lottery system, they would listen attentively, I would say that, as a student, sometimes it's good to try to figure out where the teacher is on this point. Some teachers prefer that you write it's their way of knowing that you're paying attention. Some teachers prefer that you listen, because when you're writing, you're not able to give that eye contact and they kind of feed off of that. That's where they get their energy and their response from that they need and there are others that are impartial, like they don't mind either way. So a good edit would be it maybe gauge that over time, where is it?
How they feel about it.
I've actually had this habit, it adekola arthropod Julissa, and Nima Allah will see hematite, they will lower their heads down and listen carefully to the sort of loss of a loved one.
Yes. And this whole idea that as if there were birds sitting on their heads, because then the narration says they would lower their heads and stay there as if birds were sitting on their heads. What that means is that there would be still there would be no fidgeting moving around. noises made because a bird sits on a branch that still sits on a so a stone that still so it's as if there was a bird sitting on their head in a very still position. Yes, goon from school. And Academy. Hey button, Allahu Allah and water Aloma Mustafa. Yes.
ganda Allah roussy McLay. Can I add to an under Article security was secured a term that the statement that as if there was a bird on the bird sitting on their head, this is what this means is that it's it's an example. It's a statement of their silence and calmness, while also the one that overall by Fr. O Allah Rasool Berea for El punto, minhang, Quran Fanad, Huckleberry Rufina in the alliance is continued language could continue.
They only spoke when he had stopped speaking, they did not speak at all. They did not speak all at once, because this is other for the student. That sometimes while the teacher is speaking, there's an idea that jumps into your mind and you feel the urge to say it right away. Or a question comes into your mind. And you feel the urge that I need to say this right now. The other for the student is to hold it, to wait for the right time to wait for the opportunity. And sometimes, in all honesty, the honor of opportunity may not present itself.
We live in a world of quick and very fast, you know, responses and people have this aptitude and they have this desire for instant gratification. But for those of you who have been around for a minute, we'll know sometimes you'll reach out to a teacher, or you'll have a question and you may not get an answer answered for months or weeks.
There were questions that I had for my teachers that I held on to for years, the opportunity didn't present itself. It's not that he wasn't there. He was there physically, but the opportunity wasn't right. The moment wasn't there. So you would just wait it out. We would just smile say Saddam and move on and wait for that chance and then maybe one day, you were too
and no one else was there. Or there was a moment where there was silence. And you felt that there's an opening here to ask your question, and then you would seek permission. Because it doesn't talk to anyone. If I have permission, may I ask a question? And then at that point, the teacher would say yes or no. And if they would say, yes, they would answer if they would say no, then that was that wasn't the right time. That wasn't the right time, and then you would look for it again.
Alright, so you search for those moments. The beauty is that, first of all, there is an other being displayed here, which is that knowledge is sought on the convenience of the teacher, not that of the student, as we learned from the new iPad, not a bus with your loved one that he will go to the Companions homes and wait outside. If you recall, from the Mothma Malik, we covered that narration. And then the second thing is that when there is a journey involved with having a question answered, that answer will mean so much more to you.
There are some answers in life that will stick out to you and others that won't. You'll forget them. They'll just pass by. It's the answers that had a journey involved with them. That will stick with you that you'll remember that man i i went far above and beyond to find this particular answer.
So he says you're either stuck at that caliber, when the resource went silent and they found their opportunity. Then they spoke lie at another owner in the hole, Hadith Monticola Miranda who Ensenada who had died. Yes.
When anyone when anyone from among them small, they remained silent until the person who completed whatever he had to say he's the one who was supposed to arrest or continue speaking until he had finished, he would join them in their language and their expression of surprise.
He would tolerate the rudeness and
incessant questioning of a stranger, just such an expense that his Sahaba on the lawn would hope that a stranger would come and converse with him. He had that encounter Assad who is allegedly Buddha who is that dilemma means to to almost desire for something to come. So the Companions they say that, as residents of Medina, they had so much added for the purpose of a lot of them that with hope to not inconvenience him, they would not even ask him questions.
They would wait for a suitor loss that alone is something to speak. One of my teachers shift.
Use of Rahim Allah, he had a student. And he was one of his most dear students, one of his earliest students, someone who spent more or less from the earliest days with CF use of when she left, he still was young. From that time they were together.
I had the opportunity of doing hydrogen. So I once said to him, that out of all of shift use of students, you're the one person who I've rarely seen with him at the same time,
like a shift use of speaking or if he's walking, I never see you next to him. And never see you're close to him. And this is me speaking after seeing the two of you for eight, nine years. I don't know if I've seen you guys next to each other even once in those nine years. But yet everyone knows how dear you are to him, and how much you mean to him. So why is it that everyone is by him and everyone's doing for the man, everyone's with him? But here you are, I never see you.
So he said that shift loves me a lot. And because he was older and age two, I said that, you know, he started to shift when Schiff was young, and he was young, so they're not too far apart in age. So he said, When I'm whenever I go to visit your face, if he loves me so much, and he respects me, so he'll usually set up properly. And he'll, you know, be a little bit more formal. And the truth is that I don't want to even cause him that much inconvenience. He's someone that I love a lot. I am a hedonist. And whenever he feels he needs me, he's more than welcome to call me and I'm there for his service. But I never want to impose on him.
And that's a perspective. Do you guys understand? That's a perspective. Why is it that the Sahaba weren't speaking? Is it because they didn't understand the value of value? Is it because they didn't understand the value of the fountain of knowledge that was sitting in front of them? No. It was because they understood that a sort of loss of the law and your system was now towards the end of his life.
And he had given his life teaching the OMA and they were happy with him sharing whatever he felt needed to be shared. And they would stay silent for the remainder of the time. But they also knew that if someone came to the Prophet of Allah and he asked a lot of questions, and kept pushing the Prophet of Allah, the Prophet said a lot is that he was not one to throw people out. So he would listen.
So secretly, they would wait. Let's hope a better one comes one of these days. Those guys are ruining their roof and they'll just say there, but do business and they'll say whatever they have to say and they'll leave and the process
We'll learn something.
most of these statements that you hear someone saying
In most cases, these were bedouins who said that statement, the Sahaba from Madina, Munawwara would not refer to the prophet by his name.
The other among them was higher
Latvija Allah dua Rasool availa Concur dua about the combat.
They were told about Allah to use respected language, respectful language, when addressing Rasul Allah, so Allah.
So that's why it's puzzling. These days, I see it less humble, and maybe it's the people that I surround myself with. But I feel like 1015 years ago, people would just feel more comfortable referring to their Imams by their names.
But over the years, I feel like that's cut down and I'm happy that's happened. It's a good thing. Referring to a chef as a chef, calling them, calling them half calling them whatever title is more appropriate for them, based off their studies and what the Alama recognize them as, that's a good thing. It's a good start. It's a good thing. The argument was that all wood they're they're human beings, we're human beings. We're all Muslims. We're all one. So we should all be equal.
very dumb argument.
Called polyester, when the DNA and the moon, well Latina lie on the moon. And, you know, NASA, NASA? I mean, where do you start with this one.
So the loss of the license teaches us that every person has their own status and rank, by age by seniority knowledge,
their participation in battles, but it gave us a habit seniority, because of their sacrifice. Right? Those who say those who spent prior to migration versus those who spent after migration, they weren't the same. The Quran tells us that there's there are Marathi, among human beings, and even among the prophets that got us to the football about Allah Humala above, yes.
He used to say to them, when you see a person in need, should help and guide them. He never accepted any praise. If you went beyond what he actually was. He did not interrupt the conversation as a person unless the letter would be on the balance or digresses from the truth. If anyone did this, or someone
would either stop him or walk away.
Was it was awesome. It was. So the kindness of the sort of loss and a lot of sudden his soft nature did not allow people to take advantage of him. So if someone said something that I was that was out of line, you would stop them. This is wrong.
This is not okay. We can't talk like this. We can't speak like this. Yes.
What's what was awesome avantigas gave each of those who were sitting within the attention he deserved. In fact, each of them would think that was the most common of all people in the cycle. So most of my money, so he says,
Your article about him Angeles, I was happy as Hakuho middle is the fatty lady will NITV. So effectively, the visa Allahu Allah He was sitting with, give the due right to every person that he was sitting with, if it was inside me,
to turn towards someone, right, like, sometimes you're talking and you may not look in this corner, it's possible in that moment, that person will feel left out. So there's definitely a deficit gymea Ibiza ceremony, we're trying to get that person's attention, look at them for a moment and then go to the next person and then go to the next person. So everyone feels Beloved.
When I was studying, there was one of our teachers.
He was very rough, very rough, very intelligent teacher amazing. In my humble opinion, and many of Allah, Allah subhanaw taala. Without I give him a long life.
in our class, the students would sit in accordance to how they performed in the test.
So those who did excellent would sit in the front of the class. And then there was the been man or someone sitting at the end of the class. It was really humiliating,
because everyone that walked into medicine knew exactly how you performed in the test. And it was up for display.
one of the students and the first three, the first three students, one of them didn't come to class. I don't know what it was maybe family issue, health issue or something.
So the chef came to class.
And he said, where is he?
So he said
So I will teach me
some other students that have been a chef were here. He's, I don't teach to you guys, these guys, these guys understand what I'm teaching, you guys don't understand anything.
He was right to be honest with you, but it didn't hurt.
I'm not gonna lie to you guys it did hurt.
And as a student, many of the students felt were hurt by that. And they talked about that they said that, you know, we feel that we aren't seen by the chef.
No one ever spoke to the chef about it. I don't think we had the courage to talk about it. But as a student, I have observed this. And what I learned that day was that
I mean, the chef May Allah shower has infinite mercy on him. He was an amazing man, he still is a great teacher and a great writer, an amazing individual. But that one statement of his had an impact on many of the students. Because they felt unheard. They felt unseen.
Right? In the example of a sort of loss that a lot is said, and what we see is the profit that a lot of sort of included everyone.
One advice that I give to teachers is that throughout your class, it's common to give examples. You'll give an example about a particular masala. Okay, so we talked about the fried of blue. So for example, Zaid Baqarah, Ahmed are doing Google whatever, you know, you give an example. It's good to cycle through the names of everyone in the class.
It's a small thing. It's not really a big deal, is it? Whether I say mme na Isha Sajid Sajida, it makes no difference in terms of the example. But in that moment, there is someone in the gathering who will feel their name that I was mentioned, how many of you feel like you're that person who in a public gathering never gets called out by name.
And if you guys
have this workout machine at home, it's called total.
So they have these live workouts. And so it's common for the instructor to say the names of the people who are participating. And if they hit a goal, if you have a greater competency, you lift lifted wild. So there'll be these, it'll come up that this person is lifting, like crazy. And then he'll kind of give you a shout out in the class. And hey, Hussein, great lift. That was just hit a new record. Right? Today, the class lifted, like, you know, half a million pounds collectively. That was great. That was a great class. So you'll certainly see names. So he said,
he wants said my name for something. And one of the kids that I thought we made it.
So what do you mean, we made it? He said, he said your name on TV?
Some of us
are those people who don't get called out. And then when your teacher calls you out, there's a little bit of mother that have come Did you know that that person acknowledged me, and I feel loved in that moment. This is a good simple practice to bring into your life. Right? Easy, simple, low hanging fruit. Don't always joke with one person in the classroom. Don't always call out one person in the classroom. If you have extra merhaba for someone in the class,
But when you show too much affection to one individual in the class, it's possible
that others will feel left out. As a teacher, your responsibility is to teach everyone. But I think this is where, you know, seniority comes in, and the higher caliber mentors come in. They're able to pick pick everyone with them. Everyone, if you were to ask at the end of the class, so who was shifts? favorite student? What would your answer be?
Asking this question, think about your life and think about the different classes you took. And were there scenarios where at the end of the class, you felt that you could say that this was a favorite student. And there were other there were other cases where you're like, I don't really know, I feel like
maybe it was me.
You know, I had my favorite student means performance and not not me. But if it means that the chef's showed love and respect and was kind to and call me out and give me a chance to do FISMA, then I might be that person because I have that opportunity as well.
Right? So that's, that's the sort of thing that you're thinking about. That's where your top tier mentors come into place. Like that.
Really prestigious League of individuals. That's where they come in, and they have this great wisdom. So he says,
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As a result of this, every individual felt that they were the most
spillover to the Prophet of Allah.
little muscle alive, affection, kindness, gentleness, forbearance, patience, forgiveness, softness, mercy and noble character, all of which are essential core teacher who desires to follow in the footsteps of
give me the narrates edition and on the authority of Milan, in his description also, almost
he says that he used to give his attention to each of those sitting with him, not among those who were sitting, ever thought that the that the other was being given more attention, mazzucco sauce, you know, I think that's the first thing that needs to occur. You have to be just
in a classroom, in a family, at work, the people around you need to believe that you are a just person. They need to believe that I want to some years back I started talking to some youth and I was asking this question everyone that I spoke to, I asked this specific question, then when was the first time you felt anger or resentment towards your parent.
And most of them said it was when I saw them give preference to my sibling over me.
It was that favoritism that broke me. That was the first time that I felt left out. from other people, it's common to feel that but from your own parents, it's very hard. Similarly, from your own teacher, it's very hard on the heart. Because you open yourself up, you make yourself vulnerable to them. You allow them to access your heart and you give them a piece of your heart. Right. And then if for you to feel left out, it hurts a little extra. I always share that analogy. That one day.
iron and gold were speaking to one another. And iron said to gold. So gold said to iron that when he hits you with a hammer when the blacksmith hits you with a hammer, why do you make so much noise? You know, the blacksmith is beating metal. So he had gold there and he had iron there. So the gold was complaining to the iron that why do you make so much noise because as you know, if you hit gold, what happens?
It doesn't make noise because it's a very soft metal right? So it kind of almost observes it. You know, it takes it in. So gold said to iron How do you make so much noise when he when he hits you be like me quiet. So iron said, when your own hit you it hurts more.
When your own hit you, it hurts a little bit more It stings a little bit.
You sort of sort of lost that alone is sort of would give everyone
that favoritism that's what breaks people where they feel that someone else was given a half that they weren't. It's the beginning of the collapse of almost all relationships where someone feels Luton was among them, spouse marriage. The mother feels that you know she was done wrong, the wife feels she was done wrong. An employee feels they were done wrong. That's what it is. So justice,
you try your best. At the end of the day, you have to realize that you can't solve the
I feel like saying garbage compactor but that would be to me.
You can't. I said it already though. So
Zack, like I didn't say it. You can't solve whatever is processing in the minds of people. And I thought of the word garbage compactor because it almost fits.
Like all that was obvious of shaytaan that's going into the occult of the human being. They're just churning that again and again and again and again. And the place the mines have become filthy. So no matter how Just you try to be to an individual, sometimes no matter how clever you are, there are people who won't see it. They'll just because they are unfortunately victims in their own mind. So eternally in a loop. Their loss kind of went out to protect us. So he says, kind of you're equally generous or even a CVS
also lost a little audio says students questioners who desire to learn something and people who have difficulty understanding would be almost human. That's the hard part, man. When you're dealing with people who don't understand what you're saying, it's a process. It takes patience, you got to learn to grow and you got to grow into it.
Sometimes teach someone a masala and they say, Chef, can you explain it again? And the second time you're like, you know what, okay, this is a cute thing. And hamdulillah get a chance to follow the Sunnah and if it's all said and let me repeat it a second time. And the third and fourth time you're like, okay, buddy, you're annoying me now.
Listen to the recordings.
May Allah subhanaw taala give us the Saba and humble of movies.
walking in reality man, if they didn't tell us, if so many Sahaba didn't narrate all of this, who of us would even believe that he was such a perfect human being?
That all these software gathered in one person, sort of honestly.
I for sure can never say and I don't think I'll ever be able to claim that I never broke the heart of another person.
But who can say that the Prophet broke their heart?
how many times it happened that as a teacher, you have students, your own students, they're not happy with you, it happens. Sometimes you don't explain a muscle right? Sometimes you didn't. Maybe you were too harsh in a moment. But no one can say that about our sort of loss of a medicine.
It's as if it's not real.
Like how, how does this come on? Come on one person.
No matter how hard you try, no matter how hard you try, your flaws always catch up to you.
But for the puffs that a lot is sort of everyone that saw his smile equally saw the beauty everyone experienced
the same server and the humbler possible last.
Maybe we should stop here seems like a good place to stop. And if Allah wills will continue from this because here he starts giving examples of how to sort of lost a lot of time interacting and dealt with
questioners and students. So we can cover that if Allah wills in our next class.
Well sort of love with Allah Allah serum Hamid ceremony.