Channel: Hussain Kamani
Ramadan 2015 – Day 24 – Etiquettes Of Making Duah
Jul 12, 2015
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Over the past two days, we covered the importance of making dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala.
And in particular we talked about the different virtues they are and how Allah subhana wa tada encourages us in the Quran how the Prophet said a long while he was still encourages us in the Hadith to establish a solid and firm connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah azza wa jal in the Quran, he says, and when my servants ask you regarding me, tell them I am close, what you as a body and knee for anybody. And this is very interesting because when Allah subhana wa tada poses questions to the prophets that along with some of the companions, he usually uses the third person yes aluna and somebody will mace it. Yes aluna cannon. Mohit. Yes. Luna kanayama? Yes, alumina?
kamada. Yes, aluna a healer. They ask you regarding this. So say to them, so say to them, but when it comes when the companions asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
the companions are a messenger of Allah. Is our Lord close by that we should call on Him quietly? Or is our Lord far away that we should scream out to him? You guys understand the question? There's a dispute amongst the companions, when you make law should make it very loud, or should you make it silently, you know, and they came to the Prophet sallallahu when he was seven, they said a messenger of Allah, is our Lord close by or is he far away? So then the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam he said to this haba that we are waiting, and then because the Protestants don't have the answer, but he wants the answer to come from Allah. And the answer comes from Allah subhana wa tada that when
your servants asked, or my servants asked you regarding me, he doesn't say say I am close. Directly Allah gives the answer himself and he says, for Indian curry, indeed I am close. And the scholars they see that this verse shows so much love, that every other time the companions asked something to the prophets that allamani was sent him, Allah subhanho wa Taala use the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a mediator to answer but when it comes to the companions asking the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam regarding Allah subhana wa tada Allah subhana wa tada answers himself and this is the great love of Allah subhanho wa Taala and then again and again Allah subhana wa tada he
encourages us to call on to him alone, in one beautiful, versatile planada lesson how to hunt down and he says to us, he says to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam could say Oh,
yeah, anybody, oh my service and Latina sort of Allah and foresee him who have wronged themselves or who had transgressed themselves. latoken atoma Rahmatullah Do not be despondent of the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala don't think that Allah subhanaw taala as Mercy is beyond you, why is that in the La Jolla Nova Jamia philosophy Allah what Allah wills he can forgive all of the sins in the who who will have a photo Rahim Allah subhanaw taala is all forgiving Allah subhanaw taala merciful and then the next verse is actually very powerful. Allah subhanho wa Taala says we're unable ihlara Kumasi Madhu min como la semana Tucson, turn back to Allah, submit yourself to Allah before death
comes. Because if you delay then you will be helped by Allah subhana wa tada thermadata very powerful. Allah azzawajal again and again in the Quran. Today we read a very beautiful verse of sort of,
well, lots of hands on with Ana says yeah, you and levena amanu who Elahi towboatus Haha, that repent to Allah a very, very sincere repentance, such as sincere repentance, you know, why is this such a powerful effect?
musala Salah Salam during his time they say there was a person, you know, during musanze time.
I'm trying remember the story property. There were there was a time with his people that came to him and they said to him, that we don't have rain. So make dua to Allah. So when they came in front of Allah subhana wa tada to make them all of them. Allah would have said I'm willing to accept your law. But there's one person amongst you who has sinned abundantly, have him removed and we will accept your law, we will have the rain come down. So musasa makes announcement that Allah subhanho wa Taala is willing to send the rain down. But there's one person amongst us who has sinned so much that because of him the rain isn't coming down from the story itself before we finish on we learn
that sins, prevent the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala and a sinner being in the community. Many times is the reason why Allah subhanho wa Taala has mercy does not come down upon that community.
huddle up, look at that, but so that's so detailed, that's so deep. What if we are the reason why Allah subhana wa tada mercy isn't coming down on our community. What if we are those people that Allah subhanaw taala is angry at someone Sally
He says to the person leave, and everyone's looking at who's going to leave, who's going to leave. That person thinks to himself that if I leave the community right now, if I leave the gathering, I'm going to be shamed.
So he raises his hands and he makes a lot of a lot. He says a lot. You showered Your mercy on me by not exposing by my name. But if I walk out of here, I'm going to be exposed. I would rather than being exposed, turn myself to you and ask you for forgiveness. And sorry, Sam is waiting for the person to leave and he's begging a line is hard for forgiveness. And within a few moments to shut the rain start showering down. So Sally Salaam says, Oh Allah, I didn't see anyone leave. So Allah subhana wa tada said, We gave the rain because of the person that you asked to leave.
You guys understand that the rain came down because of that person still, but because of that person's mercy. So no person is away from the mercy of Allah subhana wa Tada. All it takes is a sincerity of the heart. All it takes is the turning of the heart. All it takes is sincere repentance. And our entire lives can turn upside down. That's the power of law. And I quoted one very beautiful tradition earlier. And I wanted to reiterate that before we move forward to today's discussion, the prophets of Allah while he was sent him said, a DA Silla.
That supplication in law is actually the weapon of the believer. Now, one thing that's very important for us to know, before we move forward, that today, I wanted to cover some etiquettes of the law, some etiquettes that we should abide by while doing law. Now, etiquettes, are not obligatory. Does everyone understand that first thing, okay. So for example, if I said to you, it is from the etiquettes, of law that you perform to the court in the state of Oulu, Facebook, bla, bla, and then make the law.
That's correct, is that obligatory, you can make the law while you're driving, you can make the law while you're in a surgery you can make while you're fixing a car, you can make law while you're walking while you're sitting. You know, you can make the law wherever you want to however you want, you can make a lot of us have had on without it. But yet etiquettes are also very important. Sometimes people that come in the budget, wearing clothes that are not appropriate. They're wearing you know, sleeveless shirts that you know, something that you would wear on a basketball court or jersey, and very short shirts, very short shorts, and they come in. Now obviously, as a community
leaders or community members, we should be careful on how we approach people because maybe that was the first time in this person's life, he's ever come to the budget period. So at times like that we shouldn't reprimand them on their clothing, we should welcome them in, let them settle in and then maybe at another time, kind of bring the situation up regarding more appropriate dressing in the machine. But at times when I have seen that this person is regular to the machines, I'll go to them and I'll say Brother, why are you dressed like this? So you'll say brother, Chef, I'm covering my
big fat one Mashallah. Very, very smart guy, right? I'm covering my Southern from the naval to my knees, I've done it. That's it brother. Mashallah, that's very good. But you may have covered what's necessary for you to cover. But does that mean that you have fulfilled the etiquette of the budget?
Would you go dressed like this, your brother's wedding, your mother would slap you on the face, she would get mad at you, she just own you as a child, if you came to your son's your brother's wedding like this. And here you find it, you know, rightful that you come to the masjid the house of Allah dress like this. So there are certain things that are etiquettes. Now, etiquettes are something that's very unfortunate. But the reality of the matter is that in America, there is very little focus on etiquettes. We focus mainly on the five, the YG, but the Muhammad, those things that are obligatory, those things that are prohibited, but very few people actually talk about the etiquettes
of when we were students and mothers, our teachers didn't even bother talking about the obligatory matters. Because if you didn't know the obligatory matters, you should slap yourself in the face, you should figure that figure that out yourself. What they were teaching us was the etiquettes that when you're walking in the hallway, you never walk in front of your teacher. When your teacher comes to the door, you open the door for your teacher, our teacher would order water and if he would give water to our teacher, he would refuse to drink it if we weren't holding it the right way. One hand holding it in the middle of a cup, the other hand placed right beneath the cup, and you're
respectfully giving that cup of water to your teacher. You guys understand what I'm trying to say? So there are so many things that relate to etiquettes that are lost. And the reason why they're lost with time it's because today we are debating about this is bizarre This is this this is her arm this is part of this is what we're talking about things that are an obvious level. We're not talking about the details underneath the obvious. That's why the r&b poet he says something very beautiful. He says at the blue enforcer, can you help us hub? At the blue enforcer? Can you help us have Toro college colada? He says Oh my dear friends, embody in yourself good character. Because every pathway
to love must go through the pathway of good character. You must have good etiquettes If you wish to love someone without good etiquettes Your love has no meaning at all. So when we sit down to make while when we're sitting down to this for this very intimate, a badass very intimate community
The last one hunting with data, we need to make sure that we are abiding to the etiquettes of the law inshallah, I won't be gathering all the etiquettes or go over all of them just a few of them some major things I thought we've covered today, inshallah, and hopefully we can try to implement them. And whatever nights we have left in the month of Ramadan in our law,
the first thing when we make law, we should always start off by, you know, being ready for the law, making sure our mind is clear of worldly matter, cutting ourselves off from the world. So possibly a good idea to turn your phone off, you know, close your computer, turn your TV off, go to a place that's nice and quiet that no one will distract you. Obviously the best place to go to law would be the the masjid No one's going to distract you know, really discussion here. If you bring a phone inside this machine, you get charged with the with the tariffs there. Okay, so people are terrified of ringing their phones inside this machine. And you know, you you're here in a place where you're
not going to be attached to the world at all first thing. The second thing when you come to the budget, you should always obviously always make little before you sit down for the law. This is a very powerful thing. When a person sits down and does a little bit for making law. Allah subhanho wa Taala gives a lot of Baraka. The third thing, when you sit down to make the law, you should try to face the killer. There's a very famous narration the Prophet sallallahu the companions came in this sort of messenger of Allah, there has never been there has been no rain in Madina munawwara make dua, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam performable he then faced the Qibla and he prayed what
we call Salatu is describe the prayer of seeking rain from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So he faced the Qibla while making dua, you know, and also while praying, obviously, there was a prayer involved, he was facing the Qibla for that, but even after the prayer of the Prophet that allowed he was sitting continued to face transitive law and make his law. So we should face the Qibla while making dua as well inshallah.
Now when we sit down to make the law, it is most appropriate that you sit in a manner that is respectful, get will allow you to focus in your law. So you don't want to make yourself absolutely uncomfortable. But at the same time, you don't want to sit disrespectfully as well. So if someone's sitting with their legs extended while leaning back on a cushion, and kind of like they're reading a magazine, but they have their hands raised for the law, that's not suitable either. But at the same time, you don't want to put yourself in a very uncomfortable position that because of your seating, now you're inconvenience in reading your law, the best position to sit in is
that the shadow position because we know what's comfortable, and we know what's respectful as well. That's what lots of kind of without it has prescribed this method of seating while praying Salah, okay, when we sit down to make a DA, we should also raise our hands. The purpose of raising the hands is to kind of imitate the raising hand the raise the hand raising of a beggar, the raising of the hands of a beggar. So some people decision our hands be touching or should there be a wider part shoulder length. So the thing that the reality of the matter is that you can keep your hands however you want. What's more appropriate is that they're in front of your chest and there is maybe, you
know, just a slight gap between them and you're raising your hands and you're banging away. You can even have them touch it's not like it's hot on but you're supposed to be imitating the raising of the hands of a beggar you're begging in front of Allah subhana wa Tada. Now when you start your blog, you should always start with
praise for Allah subhanho wa Taala hunt. And then after praising Allah, then you send Salatin, the purpose of the law of audio instead of there's a very, very beautiful tradition of the prophets that Allahu alayhi wa sallam that a person came to the mosque of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam and while performed what after performing his prayer, he raised his hands to make the water Allah subhana wa Tada. Now when he sat down to make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala, he didn't glorify when he didn't glorify Allah. He didn't send so often the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said regarding the person agenda, this person is being hasty.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then said he does Allah hadoken Felipe de la with an irony that when one of you decides to make dua, he should start off by praising Allah subhanho wa Taala. somewhere you suddenly Alan nebby and then he should send Salatin the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam soon later, oh Babu be Masha, then after that, he can make dua for whatever he wants. So start off by praising Allah sending so often the Prophet said a lot of money was sent him and then you can move forward with making whatever the why you like this honey, this narrated by Emma was the law honey, and also narrated by mom didn't even have to lie on it. There's also another very
beautiful narration that amantha Veronica de la Holly narratives and also it stated it's actually a statement of I don't know the last one that I needed the last one said kulula in module hotta, Allah Allah Muhammad wha wha wha Alabama, very powerful. He's in every single law is stopped.
It's kind of like it comes in it stops there until it only goes higher until you send follow up on the prophets that allamani was sent him and the family of the prophets that allow it to settle. He said that's kind of like a barrier between your the law it's just comes in it stops. So sending sort of out in the province of allamani. lucidum is also a very powerful form of having your law accepted. Now when you send someone from the province to the law audio center
Ideally, if you wish to send it at the beginning and also either and the reason is because we know that Allah subhanho wa Taala loves his profits so much that he is definitely going to accept any law we make first profit, yes or no. So if we make the offer is profit at the beginning and end then we have high hopes that everything in the middle will also be accepted by Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we always start an end art law with Salatin, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now when we make up if we're going to make the offer anyone first we should start by making the law for ourselves, showing Allah subhana wa tada that we are in most need of Allah subhanaw taala
forgiveness and his mercy. And then obviously also the mother prophets have a long way to sit on the family members, and so on so forth, you can make whatever the hell you want. Now, when you make the law many people they are confused Should I make do I know how to be Should I make do on English? Should I make divine policy should I make do I can? Oh, well, the best way you can make is by using the exact words that were once upon a time on the tongue of the Beloved, have you seen
any of the other prophets that allamani was sort of made with his own tongue can never be matched by the by the words of other people, you can add all the Maluku Tiguan to all the tongue twister words you want to but if they didn't come from the tongue of the province that allamani was to them, they could never have the same buttock. So whenever we make dua, we should try to start off with making law with the laws of the Quran. And also the laws from the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Okay. Ideally, we should learn the Arabic and memorize them. But if for example, we can't learn the Arabic laws, for whatever reason, then it is absolutely permissible to also make the law
and whatever language you wish. Now, while making the law, there are certain things that we shouldn't make the law for. Okay, this is also very important from the etiquettes of the law. The first thing is that we should never make the offer anything wrong. If something is haram philosophy, Allah has made it prohibited, then why would you even ask for that? You should ask for the exact opposite. My teacher used to say that a person whose mother has made to offer him will never ever win the lottery. He says you win the lottery is a sign that your mother never made the law for you. So I said why is that she? He said because it's the first law every mother makes for a child that oh
law, give my child halaal in parameters.
Oh, Allah give my child pure and, and helot and permitted risk, you know, that which is permissible, give that kind of this to my child. And if you're getting harmed is probably you made your mother angry. That's why she didn't make this law for you. Okay, so we should do the exact opposite. Rather than asking for the harder you know how yesterday, rather than asking for the harm yesterday, I told you guys about Amazon, if you guys remember, someone saw him in the budget, he said, What are you doing here? It's not your place. He said I ran out of wine. So I thought I'd come to LA and ask for stuff.
Okay, so it shouldn't ask for hold on this is not permissible. Another thing is that we should never make dua against anyone, unless there was severe oppression involved. And even that we should be very, very careful. So, sometimes As parents, we are very loose with our tongue, when it comes to cursing our children, we say bad things that are satyananda this is very common in our language, we say this a lot. You know, that means May you be destroyed, may you be disrupted, the province that allamani was sent on said lateral unphysical one after the other. One after the rule and walakum what are the logical meet Allah has certain use a roofie her own face the javelin, the purpose of
allamani and this is this idea the narrative about Muslim lady, authentic narration. The Prophet sallallahu said do not make dua against yourself. So don't say bad things to yourself Firstly, do not say bad things when not that the rules are that illogical do not pray against your children. The third thing what after the rule
and do not pray against your wealth Don't curse your possessions your belongings? Why? Because there is a time that if your law matches that time a law will accept it and if you make law against yourself in that time comes that exact moment well as exceptions to the law. Now you're going to be crushed. You guys understand that? I'll give you guys an example. There was a very famous scholar in Islamic history by the name of Imam arch. If you guys ever heard of his name, very famous scholar Mamata. Rahim Allah.
Anyone know what outage means?
limp. Someone who can walk properly, who's a limp? You know, in Ireland in Ireland, New Zealand, someone who can't walk properly, you cause an outage. Now why was he called limp? There's a story said regarding him that when he was young,
he was one day playing with a bird. And what he did was he took a rope he tied it to the birds leg and the bird when it would fly in the air. He would pull it on right away. You guys understand that? The bird of fly he pulled it down. Then the bird and fly he pull it down. He was a little kid playing. Says mother said to him stop this. He said Why? You know kids, they don't think their mom, their parents. They always think the parents are wrong. He said Why? I know what I'm doing. I have control as mother. I said, Look, you don't have control over anything. If the bird flies with a lot of energy and you yank
You're gonna mess this leg up. So he said, Mom, don't worry about it, I got it all under control. You guys ever heard of him before? I got it all under control. Don't worry about it. I know better than you. So the brain, the bird was in the air and he pulled it hard. And just like his mother said, he broke the leg of the birth. So his mother said, a lot do the same to you.
And then from there, an outage became a blip. And for the rest of his life, he used to walk like a live because of the law of his mother. Okay. So you should be very careful of the doors that you make. Use them for the right thing, do not use them for the wrong thing. Okay, now just a few other advocates of making the law then we can close off in shallow disease while making the law we should always try to cry in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala except our sins doing out of the sins, you know, accepting the sins that you've done in the past is also a very good thing. We find this in the Quran and also we find this in the in the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam the
prophets that along while he was still unwell making the law many times he would do it off of his sins, okay.
Was it after off of the sins means he would accept he would confess to a sins to Allah subhanaw taala I am a sinner Oh Allah, I'm a criminal. I'm a bad person. Oh Allah, I am so bad that only you know of how bad I am and how evil I am. So these sort of statements accepting your reality in front of Allah subhana wa Tada. This also calls on the mercy of Allah subhana wa Tada. The prophets of Allah Lottie was sent him he said it right. Abou lacob idiomatic la Abu la COVID Mb he's once again confessing accepting his sins in front of Allah subhana wa Tada. Okay.
Let me see what else was there. I think we covered everything for today for the for the etiquettes of law. And when we're making the law, you should not hate and you shouldn't Hurry, trust me, there is nothing else that's more important than you making dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So while making law, take your time, be easy, be relaxed, you know, be focused, make all the other you want. Allah subhanho wa Taala isn't going anywhere. So we shouldn't be running off anywhere either. We should take our time, raise your hand in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala and make dua and if we can bring these basic etiquettes into our law, inshallah Aziz, we will also be very successful in our
glass will hold a lot of weight in Sharla and they will have great effects. So we pray that Allah subhana wa tada accepts all of what we've said last night accepts all of what we learned in the last panel that allows us to implement it all. So kind of like the Houston Chronicle, long handed, Li and stuff that we're going to really after the