Women Inspired By The Beloved 01

Hesham Al-Awadi


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smilla rahmanir rahim salatu salam ala chef mo selling say Mohammed Al al your Sufi commentary, I will be assigning elomi Deen

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sisters and brothers Salaam Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. This course has been a source of agony for me, because

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I am perhaps the least the least. And I'm not saying this to make a

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pretentious, honest, modest statement, I am the least qualified to talk about women, inspired by the beloved. I am the least qualified to talk about women full stop the women in my life or my mother and my wife. And that's it. No sisters, no female associates, even in my very limited members of my family.

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But I'm a historian. So

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my friends are my books, my mother, my wife, discuss things with them and the scholars. So for this course, I had to talk to a lot. I had to understand mentalities. There were things in history that

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as a man, I wouldn't understand why a woman would do, unless I understand that this who does this thing is a woman. So I learned a lot from what I read. And I am extremely grateful to Islamic courses.com. I am grateful to my beuth I'm grateful to everyone who made this occasion benefit,

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even after tomorrow,

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you will not benefit much than myself. I know it's a very self selfish statement. But no way. Am I going to be able in a couple of days to tell you all what I've read, and all what I thought about. Sometimes you shed tears when you listen to stories, sometimes you close your eyes and visualize this woman and how she moved in society.

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It goes beyond male stereotypes about even the most decent women in our Islamic history.

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So I have benefited a lot. And I hope that you will get some glimpses from what I have learned.

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In the past, I spoke about men in order to humanize them, so the four great Imams, and then I wanted to give a message to Muslim people who feel a little bit frustrated when they read about

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great men. And think that Imam Shafi was born great, or Imam and humble was born great, or amalgam cattier was born a scholar No. So I wanted to defy that logic by saying, No, they were children. And therefore, the second course was about children around the Prophet. Men are not born great. Men are born children. And then through a process which women is part of, they become great.

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And then I said to myself, and no sister came to say to me that which is a shame, but I said to myself, and you might smile, and I don't care.

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If I was a sister

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attending talks for last 10 years, I don't want to say longer than that, because you're quite young, 10 years, five years

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old. What I'm reading and hearing is

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with all respect to those people,

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Omar Ali earthman

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Shafi met

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over 1000 years old, these great people, women.

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What a boring stuff. You know, I see, I see men everywhere. He's my husband, he's my father. He's my bullying little or younger or older brother.

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Even Islamic history is like that. So hence, this was the logic for women inspired by the prophet.

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I think that this course should be given by a woman.

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Think about the scenario. Think about a sister, giving a series of talks on great heroes in Islam, all of them are male.

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Think about what will happen to the male audience immediately. They might not say to you in front of your face, but they will certainly say it even to themselves. You know, what does she know about all these, you know, men? What gave her the right to talk about these men?

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So why do you accept a man talking to you about great woman? Have you ever thought about this, or this is the norm. And now I'm used to it. I'm not trying to create rebellious movement here. All what I'm trying to say to you is that this course has a function. This course has a role. This course wants to set a turning point and a precedence in educating men and women, yes. But women primarily so that next time

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you come on stage, you come on stage, as a mother, you come on stage as a sister, you come on stage as a wife, and teach

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the male audience how to treat their wives properly, how to treat their mothers properly, how to treat their sisters properly. Because no,

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it doesn't matter how eloquent the Male Speaker is, I assure you, and I'll speak about myself, I will never be able to appreciate the pain that a mother goes through when she is delivering a baby. I can talk to you pain pa i n.

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But I will never feel it. Never.

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So you feel it, it will show in your in your words, it will show in the way that you speak. And you will have greater impact and effect to make on your audience. All what you need might be a little bit of knowledge. And knowledge is not a closet that has a key that is controlled by male no you can go to any good bookshop, yes, the author might be a male at the end of the day, you can't escape from them. But at least you can have access to the knowledge, at least you can read and then begin to think about these themes and about these subjects in the same way that I that.

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I've written some aims here to do with this course. But I don't have to read all of them to you they are in your handouts. But my major theme my major aim, is to make you male and female. Have confidence in your Islamic history, have confidence in the human beings that made this history and also believe deep heartedly that women have been a major maker of that history. And if we were to omit women from history, there would not be Islamic history. How can you understand and appreciate the revelation without Khadija? How can you understand and appreciate the fifth and the son of over 2000 hadiths without Arusha? How can you appreciate Abu hanifa Shafi, Ahmed Malik Eben Ennis, or

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BIA, etc, etc, without the mothers that decided when the husband died when they were at their mid 20s. Not to remarry, although they had the right to do so. But to live, because I'm not sure if they had this vision or not, because they felt that this person, this young boy, this teenager is great. He deserves that I commit my entire life full. Before you are grateful to Ahmed,

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or Malik, or Shafi be grateful to the mothers who have decided to invest in them because without them,

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I think they would be selling things on the streets simply because it was the mother that cared for them, and protected them. We're not just talking about genius people although they were but we were talking about a normal, logical process that was taking place.

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They say that women is half of the society after reading a lot of these books, I began to think that women is the entire society, they constitute the half and they make the rest of the society.

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How did I organize this course I was eager to make it unique. And I'm not sure if I succeeded in this or not. I am aware that there are tapes and there are books and there is literature on women in Islam.

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So the first thing I said to myself,

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I am not going to do this course according to chronological order. I'm not interested as a historian would be in dates. And in centuries. I am off to a woman. Wherever the woman is, wherever the great woman is. I look for her. I register her story. And I feel that there is a story there is a value that should be articulated. That is the story that I want. I came across loads of other stories but I felt this is not compatible with people living in London or in the West that might be compatible in the Middle East. This is good story but it's not powerful enough. I need a very powerful story.

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So, this is quite a selection of the various women that I came across. Now, how did I organize therefore my narrative, I organized my narrative according to titles.

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And I wanted to be as attractive perhaps as the commercial market when naming perfumes, names such as envy,

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desire, just captions titles, so I said,

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I'm not interested in names of woman, I'm interested in values, and under each value comes, whoever serves that value.

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So, energy is one value,

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you turn is another value Connect. These are not perfume titles, this is women inspired by the beloved. So Connect is one title, and they will make sense in due course, I hope made men and this is deliberate made men IE men were made by them. Success,

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impact impact not as mothers on their children not impact on society, that society is useless, worthless, without women. Not not practically speaking, realistically, and I'll prove it. Excel, Excel, in knowledge, in aspiration, in ambition and everything that you need to excel upon. aspiration, or him or tomo.

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And finally love, which I'm not ashamed of articulating, and you will be shocked to see stories of great lovers greater than

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Titanic if you want.

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But great lovers,

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honest lovers, decent lovers, genuine lovers

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and lovers before getting married,

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and don't stone me for that, just be patient and listen. Okay, so these are our perfume titles,

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which will make sense in due course.

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But before I dwell into these titles, I wanted to situate or set the scene for the rest of the lectures by talking to you on women during the time of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And here I'm not interested in fact, I'm not interested on whether it's permissible that women traveled alone or I'm not interested in that. Go and ask scholars about these things. What I am interested in is to give you

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an overall picture

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of how women used to move in society

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visualize yourself okay, you wake up early in the morning, I don't know what you have conflicts or whatever. And then you dress up if you are student you go to university, this is the central line Metropolitan, you wait a minute, that gap, you know, etc, etc. This is your daily so you can visualize that. If I was to live 200 years and I read your diaries Oh, she used to live in London our commute from this oh and this sort of things off the 11th of September her job became problematic, oh, teenagers, yes, drug addict, etc etc. I can visualize I can imagine this is exactly what I would like you to get out of this lecture. How did women visualize women during the time of

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the Prophet salario? Sir.

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by way of an introduction to the overall picture, these three elements is what I think constitute women during the time of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.

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Three points one is that Islam considers women to be a last Vice journet on earth or Allah Khalifa. We always tend to think especially the male Oh, Allah Khalifa on earth is Adam know, Eve as well. So when Allah said to Allah, I'm going to create a Khalifa it's Adam and Eve. Have you ever thought about this? attach a man. Yes, we could demand someone who would shed blood a woman. Yes, murderer. Killer. You know shedding blood a woman? Yes. No. In the Alamo. mala tala mono. So you will create people who are decent, decent women, yes. Etc, etc. I'm just trying to humanize the way that we read this verse. So Islam considers women to be a last halifa on earth, and that this role therefore is

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not just restricted to man. Number two, Islam recognizes the

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Women's needs for worship,

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knowledge, work, and therefore does not restrict the role of women to home or to the private sphere.

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Number three, Islam respects women's potentials and talents and welcomes their contribution and service of the religion and society at large. Now, this is not philosophizing or trying to make Islam look appealing to the intellectuals. No, this is inspired from what I read regarding stories of women at the time of the prophet SAW Selim. Okay, where do we see this at the time of the Prophet

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sallallahu wasallam.

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First of all, we see it in

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women's, all girls right to choose who she wants to marry.

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based on love, or otherwise, I'll leave it to you, but based on a conscious decision that this is the one that I want, or this is the one that I am sure I don't want.

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And most of the Hadith that I will be reading from Bukhari and Muslim

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I might not have time to read it in both Arabic and English. But let's talk about the right to choose a spouse. And that is seen in this Hadith, where in Bukhari, it says a woman from the offspring of Jaffa, Jaffa, Eben Abbe tala, a woman from the offspring of Jaffa was afraid

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lest her guardian, marry her to somebody against her will. It's not that then it was conducted. No, she just had this idea, terrible idea that her guardian one day might marry her to this person from I don't know where, because he happens to be her cousin. Okay, so she was afraid. So she sent for two elderly men from the answer. And they said to her, those two elderly men, don't be afraid

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for cancer Binta Damn, another girl, who was called concert been cut down, was given by her father in marriage against her will, then the Prophet cancelled that marriage.

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You might not know about consult in tandem, but she is famous for that story. The story was that her father wanted her to marry someone that she did not love. Or at least she never envisaged that one day she will love him.

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And she went toe to toe service also Salim canceled

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the marriage so unsub said, Oh, sister or all girl or daughter of Jaffa Don't worry. Nothing will happen to you because you have a precedence.

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Two things. Two comments that I have on this Hadeeth one is that the girl whom we don't know her name, she didn't keep quiet. She didn't commit suicide. She didn't run away with her boyfriend.

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She didn't contact the police.

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She didn't go weeping under her pillow and said

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but that allow Masha file.

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She went and actively pursued her case to two trustworthy elderly men and expressed her fear and this is what you should be doing. Not automatic about everything in life. Men and women by the way. I like the signs in hospital do not suffer in silence. Okay, do not suffer in silence doesn't mean that you you know talk about everything and complain about nagging about it. No, we are talking about genuine sources of pain here. Okay, you don't want to end up marrying and then being divorced, becoming a single mother.

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So she went and she spoke and she was concerned about how her life number two society supported, recognized, respected her desire, her fear her concern. And this respect was not rhetorical. It was realistic. It was not based on tradition by saying to her No, no respect your father, he's your cousin. At the end of the day he speaks or do or he speaks Arabic or he speaks Punjabi. You know, we have to retain our culture, obey your mother, etc, etc.

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They said Oh, don't worry, because it happened that are also salon canceled a similar marriage. That means what it means that we have a society that is supportive, but a society that takes as its reference point, Islam and the actions of others are seldom not

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Tradition, if tradition conflicts with religion, incidentally, these are two elderly and firemen, meaning that they were far before they were not born Muslims. It's amazing. Maybe they became Muslims last year or two years ago. It's amazing how now, they are beginning to think in new terms even in very sensitive, culturally related issues such as marriage. Fascinating. That is, to me, at least.

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Okay, look at this other girl, that her story is narrated in the book of Eben Marja. The story says, A girl came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and complained that her father had married her to his nephew, against her wish. The Prophet gave her the choice of rejecting the marriage. But she said to the Prophet

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sallallahu wasallam look at what she said, this is I think this girl

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should be giving this lecture here. This girl said, I endorse what my father did. But I just wanted to show women

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that parents have nothing to do in that matter.

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I wanted to show women look at this woman who is thinking about women who might not be hearing her during that point, that instant, talking to our Auto Salon privately, but feeling that she is responsible to setting a precedent for women during her life. And for women. 2006, Birkbeck college, it's amazing. So the only comment I say in relation to this is look at this woman who says girl by the way, jharia are bent, not a woman, girl. I'm not sure maybe teen teen or 20s but look at how she feels that she is responsible for teaching men and women are in those what my father

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Don't ask me what I love my nephew or not, but I accept the marriage. But I just wanted to make that point. That no way in the future should someone accept marriage despite her will.

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setting a precedent of theoretical precedence. You might say, oh, being troublemaker. Why do you have to go and complain? You have already agreed to the marriage? No. It's a principle.

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Okay, so Islam also seldom can maybe maybe you can now visualize women in prophetic society, women. She talks, she goes, she gets out of her house. She goes to two elderly men discusses marriage. And then she goes on. So silenzioso Allah, by the way, you're invited to my marriage ceremony. I just wanted to make a point. He's my nephew. Initially, I had problems with it, it says, but inshallah I'm agreeing. You know, come and visit us next time. Sharla we will have a wedding and maybe a few years. You're also Allah. You remember my nephew. Now he's a father I brought him Hassan or Layla, amazing.

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To see this progression,

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similar to this girl that wakes up conflicts and then Mind the Gap and takes the Metropolitan line. So she is not minding the gap. She wants men to mind their own business when her future is something of concern. So in the same way that a sister, and Islam recognizes that in the same way that a sister chooses her future spouse, she can choose to divorce. She can choose to end her relation with her current spouse for all sorts of reasons.

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And the classic example is the budget or the wife of Sabbath a bill pace, incidentally, sometimes, and I asked some of the shields on this, why do they say the wife of Sabbath? Why don't they mention her name?

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This woman that committed adultery and came to a central source of them, I committed adultery. Why don't we know her name?

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And so she said to me

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that because the narrator

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is so sensitive to mentioning names of women in context of embarrassment.

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And that's why in contexts of pride, the woman's name is mentioned in context of embarrassment. It's disguised to protect her honor.

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The life of Tabitha will taste came to the prophet SAW Selim and said, I have a problem. I don't blame her but for defects in his character or his religion, or I can see some problems now. But I being a Muslim, disliked to behave in an Islamic manner, if I continue to remain with him.

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On that Allah, apostle or messenger said to her, will you give back the garden which your husband has given you as a dowry? She said yes. Then the Prophet said to Sabbath Oh fabric except your garden and divorce her at once.

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Two points. One is that ourselves?

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Never enters into a discussion with her trying to say to her.

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Why? What's the nature of the problem? You have any children? What will you do after your divorce? What what what will society say about you? He didn't look that he doesn't say anything. The Hadith says, Would you be prepared to return his garden for him? He's actually engaging in the procedure of divorce immediately.

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So he respects her feelings, he respects her emotions. He respects that this is a decision that she has thought about day and night, perhaps for months, until she was able to pronounce it. Torah saw Salah. And when the moment comes for a woman to come and speak, that means she had enough. And when a woman says jarocin, Allah, I feel that in your household copper, that's what she says, last year, or I fear that I might become an Islamic in manners. I don't know what this means. I shout a lot. I lose my temper. I swear at him, I commit sins basically, by continuing to be with him. He's good. submittable case was a fascinating companion. He doesn't beat her or do anything bad, but it's just

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he has problems. As far as she's concerned. Incidentally.

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He had physical problems.

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And she didn't find him attractive.

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And also, something never discussed that never said Haha, how dare you talk about looks. Of course, we're not talking about exaggerations that he has to be I don't know, too tall or muscular. No, but he has to retain the minimum the basic qualities that will make him acceptable. And third, is a great companion to a woman was not like that. Sometimes I say to myself

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sabbat mo pace. Abdullah Hardman Massoud,

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as zubayr ebenen, our fascinating companions, I would like to do anything to make them happy. And then you

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read their stories and you see that the wife of Zubaydah Balaam, wanted to divorce.

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You know what it tells you, it tells you that when a woman wants a divorce, she wouldn't care whether this is a companion or not, because well, obviously, whoever she marries afterwards is a companion by default. But the point is, oh, this is a debate, you know, fascinating. A warrior, I have to be with him so that people remember me in history as the wife of a Superman. Ah, no, no, no, no, no. Zubaydah was a little bit harsh on women. And she could not being beaten by a supernova. Isabella is a great warrior. But maybe he turns the household into a battlefield. And that's why she wants to divorce.

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It's just there a remark of trying to separate between our admiration to this human being, and between those who are close to him, and how they perceived him in a way that was totally different than the way that we perceived them. Number two, comment on this hadith is that the woman is willing to

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compromise a garden lot, not a Mercedes or not, I don't know. 2000 pounds, a garden big garden, Missouri,

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willing to return this garden. Why? Because she respects her feeling.

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I'm not going to live with him. I'm not going to cheat on him. Because I am. You know, I want the god I'm not going to say Allah bless him with martyrdom, so that I can inherit the garden. No. Are you prepared to buy your happiness in this life? by returning a garden? Yes.

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Are you sure? Yes.

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Simple as that.

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This is with regards to intimacy and intimate relationship. Okay, what about knowledge?

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So Salim gives Friday semones Cottbus, he gives public talks in the mosque. And of course, rest assure that men and women used to attend

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and without a segregation, but anyway, I don't want to enter into that it will create problems. The most was small, and there were no segregation.

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Until I woke up that came and he undertook some procedures afterwards. But this is what

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the point I'm trying to make is that women was part and parcel of the daily ceremonies and hot ones that were taking place.

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Nonetheless, a woman thought that we deserve more time of Alsace lm and more talks now directed

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towards women.

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So a woman came to him and said, look at that, look at that. A woman could could come to us and said jasola, please, you know, spare us five minutes if you don't mind just for the woman.

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Look at the statement. She says, Yeah, Rasul Allah, Allah. Yara Salalah men men

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have taken all your time. Men have taken all of your focus in your talks. This is a critical statement isn't.

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Can you visualize women? Now? That woman was bold? Woman spoke her mind. not rude in the western sense. No, she had courtesy. She was honest. She was modest. She lowered her gaze. I don't want you to understand here that I'm a feminist in the radical sense, in the Marxist sense, that you know, to hell with all men, this patriarchal society? No, no, no, no.

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I am cautious to set the scene for you, women and how they moved in society. At the end of the day woman complained to a man

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But this man was not talking on his male chauvinistic sentiments. He was a prophet and she was realizing that she was talking to someone who is inspired.

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So she said yeah, Rasul Allah, Allah will be hygienic.

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So men has taken most of your time. So please dedicate two hours a day where you sit with us alone without my husband, my brother, and without my father in law even.

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So Salim said it's Tammy and effiong. Kava waka fi McCarney, Kava Kava. He said, gather on that day in that place. So holla no posters. No, I'll check my schedule. I'll let you know. I'll text you will email me and I'll see my time. Immediately. I sometimes think as if the prophet SAW Selim was one day expecting that to happen, but he was just waiting for it to come. He was just waiting to see have I really produced good women that are active enough now to come and demand their rights for me rather than me coming a sister would you like inshallah Wednesday after Maghrib sit with you? No, I'm busy. No, she will come she will demand and this woman by the way was representing hundreds of

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woman behind

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this woman is moving Can you now have a you know, I'm trying to just jot some you know, in this complete the the jigsaw for you some some pieces here and there about marriage about knowledge, etc.

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Two points. One is that women did not feel satisfied with what our saw Selim was saying, because they thought that this was General, but they wanted more specific talk in relation to women, which if anything shows that women were eager to learn more and more. Number two, aerosol cell lamp is so respective. So receptive, immediate, receptive pneus to this demand, these are two points about knowledge.

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Another aspect which is participation in congregational public worships.

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And this of course includes the Salah in the mosque, I shall have the Allah and has said in a Hadith, the believing women. Look at this Hadith, the believing women covered with the veiling sheets used to attend the federal prayer with Allah's Messenger. And after finishing the prayer, they would return to their home and nobody could recognize them because of darkness. This is in Buhari kita salaat walk till such such a prayer.

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Now two points. One is that Ayesha Eliana does not need to say this hadith to an audience that already are aware that woman attends the prayers without also saying she said used to attend that means that Ayesha is actually talking to tap in is not talking to companions.

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Number two, that means that Ayesha is making a statement about a previous practice that is not anymore there. So she wants to tell them by the way,

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the fact that we don't see women in federal prayer

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is something that was different than the time of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. So if you want to be proper selfies, we should see women in fudger and in a short prayer number three, she could have said the believing woman covered with the veiling sheets used to attend the prayer with Allah's Messenger. But the fact is that she deliberately said the fudger prayer which is in addition to Isha amazing

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dominated time a male dominated prayer. Four o'clock in the morning would you see a woman in a mosque? You hardly see men even but a woman knocking on the door of the oven excuse me brother open the door What? What are you doing what? You know what, where did you come from?

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I would like to pray for God prayer. What? Yes because I shadowline has said canon Minato Shama Rasulullah, saw Salaam Salaam, Nutella Fatima Moodle to him through my collaborator boo to him. He Neff Lina Salah lady foreigner had a marvelous What? I don't understand a word of what you said. And actually, I don't care.

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This is this is the situation. Okay? It's not that sarcastic. But this is the real situation is that women are upset, not just from Nigeria, but from Asia.

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And then I sometimes think about that and say, Well,

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maybe women don't want to attend the prayer because she's asleep.

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Because yesterday she was watching friends are not being harsh now on women. But I'm trying to say to you that this hadith also tells us that women used to pray fudger because they used to

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sleep early.

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And pray fudger in JAMA that means wake up an hour before and those women by the way, they were not losers. They were not sad people. They were not unemployed. They were not on pension. They were mothers busy mothers have a you know have to feed their child have to wake them up for school.

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But it's fragile. It's my Dean.

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They understand okay.

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Look at this another Heidi

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is also fascinating and shows the struggle between male desire for control and between male respect for Sharia. And Omar, the son of our law says one of the wives of Omar Abdul Khattab used to offer

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the ledger and the Isha prayer in congregation in the mosque. She was asked why she had come out for the prayer, as she knew that Omar disliked it. Look here, as she Why do you attend to pleasure knowing that armor dislike it not a companion who didn't say why do you attend fragile prayer because women are not supposed to attend? Third, you see, the logic is different. The logic is different.

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Which shows that it's taken for granted that women can go and pray for federal if the husband has no problems. But here the husband has a problem, as we will come to know now. So she was asked why she had come out for the prayer, as she knew that Omar disliked it. And he has great gala, or self respect, or he's jealous that to see his wife coming in and out, in and out in and out, in and out, in contrast to those that says that women should not go except on two occasions when she leaves the household of her father for marriage. And when she leaves her house to be buried.

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This is this is a well known saying among some of the narrow minded folk Aha, on two occasions only so forget about it. Forget about whatever. Forget about University, of course.

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So she says, she replied, what prevents him she's saying to me, Norma the sun, not her son, because this is

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the son of another another woman article was another wife.

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So she said what prevents him from stopping me from this act? Look at this fascinating question. If the question was not yet I would say please, please ask this question. So that we understand why or did not prevent you. Because then we will have he had maybe he was busy. Maybe she went behind his back. But look at the answer. It sets aside everything else. He said, this, what stops him stopping you is the statement of Allah His Messenger do not stop allows woman servants from going to allows mosques.

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So now

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making it known that he dislikes the fact that his wife and this is emotion. This is sentiment. But practically he is not taking any action because there is a hadith

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it's amazing to note that these people had feelings like us. They liked and disliked. They sometimes were violent, sometimes lost their temper. They were human beings. But when you said to them, Allah says this, and also says this. They take off their hat and say seminar. They don't say which method which color. Maybe there is a different intent. Maybe it's men suit. Maybe it's abrogated.

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Semi I know Atlanta.

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famous Hadith scholar, he said when herb Nakata was stopped and died in the mosque. His wife artica was there. That means that armor never attempted to stop his wife until he died.

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It's a fascinating quote by Eben hajra fella Caterina Omar,

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it is as if they story on registered Omar was stopped. Number two his wife was in the mosque

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and she witnessed him stopping.

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Therefore, number three,

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his wife continued to attend the mosque even till the last day of our month life 123

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Please, please, please understand history like this understand your deen like this. There is no point of getting social Buhari and reading day and night and reading, stop

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and think

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and when you read al Bukhari, this is just attending congregational prayers. She used to attend salata. janaza funeral prayer, she used to of course attend

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what is more interesting is that they used to make Atticus a teacup. Could you imagine going to the mosque and seeing a woman with a sleeping bag?

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look at this hadith and I shall the Allah and she said the Prophet used to practice the calf and the last 10 days of Ramadan till he died and then his wife used to practice it calf after him.

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Okay, this is a religious context. What about non religious or social context where there is maybe an element of temptation an element of a mixture an element of looking at this girl or looking at this? Boy, I don't know what well, it happens all the time that you've been there in university and conferences in camps.

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Women used to also participate in communal celebrations.

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And as the Alliance said, the prophet SAW women and children coming forward

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they were returning from a wedding party the Prophet stood up and said, By Allah you are the most beloved people answer to my heart imaginable so seldom you know sometimes when I read these Hadith I imagined them I'm imagining children in five years you know with lollipops and ice cream I don't know if they had ice cream but running running Yes mother yes my sister. Oh, look at this handsome man. Oh, he's also sell them also sell a PC. You know? He doesn't say Oh Come Come my boy Come and sit on my lap. No, no, no, he stands up and says oh Mohammed the Muhammad Ali Come Come on. Sister. Amina sister Alia one law you are the most beloved people for me.

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Could you imagine that? Why are you saying that? You know, what's the context? The context is that these are decent human beings. They gave me protection. These are my future sons and daughters. These are my life in the age of my mothers and you know aunts and and I do love them.

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The problem with us today is that we don't we are embarrassed to mention the word love because unfortunately the word has been hijacked by everyone, including gays and lesbians and sorry to say this except Muslim people who would say love Yes, love of Allah. Yes, I know love of Allah, love of my mother love of Islam. What about love of women? What about love of children? What about a woman loving her husband? And what about the husband loving a woman? You don't have to? I'm sorry to say this do everything in public, like what others do know, but at least retain the emotion and respected recognize its existence and don't feel embarrassed to

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not articulated but to at least recognize that it's legitimate to have it at least legitimate to have it. So our saw Selim stands up and says and to have banarsi la

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ansara of Medina, Ababa Casa de in another Hadith he says when we came migrating from Mecca to Medina and we arrived at night, usually we think that they arrived at daytime. When we arrived at night, we saw men and women stand on the tops of the houses when they should be in bed. No, they were when we were at night, it was dark, and I could see women,

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women and men standing on the top of the waterfall.

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And the children and the servants were in the Butte and we're in the houses and outside the houses you know dounia Mohammad Rasool Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah and also sell them with Abu Bakar coming and you know what, what did you imagine brother? Don't smile, Brother, what do you say Mohammed? You know what I'm talking about? You know, you should respect the Prophet no till

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Women men, it's a lively community in the middle of the night You don't have to be Saturday night or Friday night. In the middle of the night people are celebrating, not soccer or not the World Cup celebrating the coming of a Savior from Makati. Everyone was celebrating. There wasn't a generational gap. You know, the young were saying, oh look these elders, you know, who is this old man, you know, I should I be happy about him. Everyone was celebrating, because they knew that this person was great, and he deserves to be celebrated.

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You know, it's really fascinating. They not only used to participate in congregational occasions, they used to even participate in places where you would not expect women to be and you are aware of this. And these are classic examples in battle fields. And one of the well known female companions is albir bent. Why would she says we were in the company of the Prophet during battlefields doing lot shouting and, and yelling and be careful. No, no, don't get don't don't die. Don't you know be Shaheed No, no, no, they were not yelling. They were they're doing a constructive job that without it, even war would be impossible. We were in the company of the Prophet providing the wounded with

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water, treating them and bringing the killed to Medina. Look at that, look at that, bringing water. Imagine Khalid Meanwhile, he is fighting while he is dying out to first who will bring in the water a woman he drinks the water and continues to fight you cannot appreciate Harley knowledge strength without appreciating avion or whatever. But it's not the VR and it's not the water. It's the sister that brought it to him in the midst of the battlefield, Brother, take some water you need it. It's good for you.

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Okay, forget about the water, someone who is wounded.

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Someone who's bleeding, but he can fight but not now, tomorrow. That is if he was to be treated.

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So if you are 50 people fighting 10 are wounded. Tomorrow you will be 60 provided that those 10 are treated. If they are not treated, you will be 50. You understand? So who contributes to the power of the Muslim army women? You know what I'm trying to tell you, I'm trying to tell you that even you cannot appreciate victory of Muslims in or or in better without women bringing waters without women providing men with first aid. And what else third, carrying the killed to Medina, those killed could be buried in wherever when a beggar in Ohio wherever they are. No, I will carry them. And I will bury them in Medina

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where they will die in a Muslim man who is doing this.

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Another thing which women did with also defies stereotype was talking about politics. This is not a male issue. This is politics is not I understand now today in the West. This is an irrelevant point. But really it strikes me as a revolutionary point.

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Even Omar says hafsa, my sister entered one day and said to me, Alan abarca. Mr. Cliff, do you know that your father, harmonica pub

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have not named a successor yet to him?

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had been hammered said Really? He didn't? She said no. He said, Well, ah he I will have to speak to him about that. I will have to advise him to name a successor because of the problems of not naming a successor. Okay, few points. Let's have 1234 comments. Number one, a woman is informing a man who is well connected to the elites and to the policymakers and be normal that is about something that this male elite doesn't know about.

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So we're not talking about CIA or FBI, but we are talking about a well informed women that knows what is going to happen to the oma

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after a few days FFR that was to be killed or to be diseased. Number one, number two, we have a woman who cares about and don't be offended. This is just a Catholic. We have a woman who cares about other than cooking, sorry, or nursery or bringing children or even getting a job and getting married and being pregnant and having children. We care about a women. We are talking about women who is discussing whether we should vote for the conservative or for the labor or we shouldn't be voting for either because of their policies towards Iraq for example. Okay, so a woman is lobbying. A woman is informing

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look at something else. Third point, look at Rama, Rama when he narrates this Hadith, he could have said to the historians and to you one day I was informed,

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trustworthy sources that my father have not name a successor. But look what he does. The Haleakala hafsa

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have my sister, and he is not ashamed to mention her name. She came to me once and told me something that I was ignorant of. He's not a male chauvinistic, you know, not suppressing his mother, suppressing his sister suppressing his wife. I know everything, no, hustle. Although, incidentally, this is not this Hadeeth hustle, the hustle bit.

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It's not relevant to the to the Heidi, is it? I mean, I can understand that there is a problem that Omar is not have not been the same. I can understand it doesn't matter who told you. But it is as if an alien armor feels that it's important to promote his sister, and not to be ashamed that he's promoting a woman and not to be ashamed of naming that woman. The fourth and final point.

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Actually, the fourth and there is a small fifth point. The fourth is that he didn't say to her, that's not your business. Whether he has named the successor or not.

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What Why do you care about these things? How dare you care about he knows best his armor?

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Are you going to be better than him? Know, he said to her, our cattle enough I really like a system brother to really, my father is not has not been said yes, here on La Hillel kalamunda. And this is my final point that

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Omar has been talked to by his son about a political issue because of the system. Now, if the system did not inform her brother, her brother would not have spoken to Omar and Omar would not have named the successor.

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Isn't this an impact on politics? is it telling me Yes or no? Yes. It's an impact. And I'm not talking to you about a party. I'm not talking about a counselor. I'm talking to you about a halifa about a prime minister about a king about a ruler, the top of the political ladder, finally, mentioning the name of woman.

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And I thought this is also interesting and has to be wrote up to understand women and how they used to be visualized in society. First of all, they were visual. They will not disguised.

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Sometimes, and you might laugh at this. Have you ever watched programs on fish in the sea?

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Do you see how they travel in communities? Okay, do you see suddenly how they move away from big fish? Did you see how suddenly this is what I sometimes see and witnessed before my eyes when I look at brothers when they see sisters or sisters when they see brothers?

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And I say to myself, you know would if a sister was walking in the streets of Mecca, and she saw the lameness. Oh, let's let's move this way.

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Or no no, he Yeah, he's nice. Let's let's you know, come and talk to him and chat. No, no, no, no. I'll just walk alone my gaze and walk my way.

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Okay, this person over there? Does he know me? Yes, he knows you. Because you're his sister. He sees you five times a day. He doesn't see on occasions. Islam exposure on when there is some are tools Oh, yes. Long time no. See. Are you still alive? I thought you were dead. No. They saw each other's five times a day. They know

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that this is me.

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That this is this is earlier. This is a men. This is more as they knew. Okay, when they called me What did they say? Sister Alia know.

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Listen to two brothers when they talk. And if the brother wants to make a point that he deals with that sister in a very professional way and there is nothing in between them.

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Yes, I did you speak to sister Samia. Yes, I spoke to sister Samia and sister Samia said to me that the room is booked and sister Samia also said to me and and Sister Sister Sister, and perhaps Sonia is once or the sister sometimes this sister and Samia is disguised. You know, I know she's dead or something. But the sister is there.

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When I need Buhari and Ayesha

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I'm Sophia. It isn't

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an OT Alisha, Sr. I she said, Go everybody.

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Listen to this Heidi Mirage phenomenal.

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Sir, this is the Hadith in Arabic and it's quite long so read it in English Sophia the wife of the Prophet told me that she went to Allah messenger to visit him in the mosque. So she visited him in the mosque and she spoke with us or Salah

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then when Sophia and also sell them when they reached the gate of the mosque opposite the door of Salah because I'm selling my wife also Selim lived you know next to the mosque to Ansari men were passing

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by and they greeted Allah messenger. Look, this is not fish now moving, no bleeding. Yes, he's talking to but still women and a man in private is a little bit suspicious. So they run away a little bit after greeting they run away Santa Monica I think, you know, it's like sometimes when,

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when you are I don't know in Russell Square Saturday night and you are walking and you see a brother, Salam Alaikum alaikum Salaam, and you know, you are greeting to recognize that you've seen him but something you know, what the hell are you doing here? Not at this time of the hour.

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So also, Selim said to them don't turn away. And Subhanallah he addressed this emotional concern and said she is Sophia.

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She's not old Sophia. She's not your mother, mother of the believer. She's not no come and if she said if also someone said, Oh come here would be right, because they are a Muslim woman. But she is Sophia ninja here. And another Hadith actually, which is more perhaps direct than that, that the wife of Abdullah bin Massoud is called Zainab. She wanted to ask him a question in relation to her giving Zakat to her husband, because he was extremely poor. And she said taboo and so I would go and ask her, so Selim said, No, no, it's very embarrassing. You go and ask and so she went.

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And below the line, so solemn, he was standing outside the house, also, Selim just giving permission to whoever wants to ask a question. He will take the question, come inside and ask it, bring the answer, and come out to the questioner and deliver the answer to him. So the woman says, When I arrived at the house of prophets of Salaam isobella, and I saw a woman that had the same question as my question anyway, so I said to Bill I'll go and ask her also Salim if you would, about this question, can I give the cat to my husband had it is too long, but the point I'm trying to get at is that undersuit sallallahu wasallam said to him.

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Bilal said there are two women outside Mr. Amin. I'm sorry, Mr. From outside, because I know all that Mr. Milan is it's fascinating. Bilal knows every woman from Mecca. So she's not from a kid therefore she's from Elsa, but that's not the point. The point is the other girl the other woman and Xena

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not systems.

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Look at look at what

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okay said Oh, could have said okay, what's the question? No. He said what are you say?

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Which Xena

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number one, there are many signups in Medina.

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Number two, so Santa knows the moon.

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Number three, when he said to him,

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it is designer who is the wife of Abdullah. So that means biller not only knows the women and their names, he even knows who is married and to who

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he knows who is from MK he knows who's from Medina, he knows their names, and he knows whether she is married or not. And if she is married, married to who

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it's not just below it's also sell them as well. Because he says Ah, Xena, the wife of a glamorous old tell her that it's halaal and it's permissible to give Zakat to Abdullah in messenger massaged. The final thing with regards to names is that what's your name? My name is a sham even Abdullah

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Hamad bin Ardell

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What's your name? u u

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u u Sergeant a been

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the son of

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severe Okay, I want a sister who is willing to volunteer her name. You can say sis I'm sister whatever. Yes. I have a son of a daughter who her if the car okay what what is common here? Okay The uncommon is that female names. The common is that you are the son or the daughter of a male

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Can you be the son or a daughter of a female?

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You know that our lead Navy pilot had a a well known son called Mohammed you know what was his name is Mohammed was he

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I would say Tim Brother Mohammed, please introduce yourself. You say Assalamu alaikum.

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My name is Mohammed Nana fear

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and Hanafi as his mother.

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You don't have to love Mr.

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Barroso, Selim says if you want to listen to the Quran as if it was revealed to me listen to

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it been on Had it been on listen to the son of the mother of an adolescent.

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And who was the more than oversaw cell and VLAN. But there was another memo added a ban on Mac to have you heard of this companion Eben on not even Mac to even own Mac? What is fascinating now what is fascinating is that those men never felt ashamed to be cold like this. In a male dominated society if we suppose that this was a male dominated society.

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He never felt embarrassed before his daughter or his son, or his colleagues or his friends in the mosque.

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He never felt embarrassed before his wife to be identified with his mother. Because to him, his mother is a source of pride, not a source of embarrassment.

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This is the introduction for women inspired by the beloved. It's not women inspired by the beloved. It's setting the scene situating the topic I haven't introduced any women yet. I haven't zoomed the camera on any woman yet. I haven't attempted to establish a relationship between you and any woman yet.

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This would need you to wake up, put some water on your face and sit back, relax and enjoy what is yet to come.

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All the other stuff through lolly welcome. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.