Roots of Disagreement

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to proceed,

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the concept of respect and the management of disagreement,

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the proper management of disagreement proper conduct that the Muslim should exhibit concerning disagreements that is basically

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a big issue that we need to address in our communities, because it has caused a lot of dissension has caused the love frustration on the part of the younger Muslims. This agreements are not limited to disagreements because of religious or ideological differences. We have various forms of disagreements, and various causes of dissension. We have a generational gap, the so called generational gap. So we have a difficulty of communication between those that are called the elders of the community and the youth. We have also difficulty in communication between management of organizations, and the general membership, or the General Assembly of those organizations. Sometimes

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we have issues between the boards of the massage and the mouths of those massage. Sometimes we have issues between our disagreements and

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infighting between the different organizations and the different massage within the same community. So we we have

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manifestations of this problem, and it gets to be oftentimes frustrating for a lot of us to know the root cause is the first step towards identifying the treatment for this problem identifying the treatment of this problem. But before we get into analyzing the root cause of this problem, the problem of this respect, or the problem of the sanction the problem of

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failure of managing the disagreements, not just the disagreement per se, because this agreement is part and parcel of the human experience. It is part and parcel. It's a constant of

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you know, human behavior, humans will never cease to disagree. Allah subhanaw taala said the

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word

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Runa macduffie illa Mara Mara, Bucharest, Erica Fela calm. So how do your Lord wanted the last seven sort of who'd had your Lord wanted, he would have made of them one nation, one as a monetary fee and and they will not cease to disagree in lama rahima book set for those upon whom Allah bestowed His mercy while evatik A holla calm and for that, did he create for to disagree? Because the whole life is a test. You know, I love the follicle Motorhead a Diablo acumen surah Tabarak Allah subhanaw taala tells us he who created life and death to test you as a try and for you. So if life is a trial, our relationships in this life also will be a trial also will be a test Allah says in Surah

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Furqan was on Nevada, Nevada and fitness Bureau in Canada, bookable Sierra, we have made you a fitna and try it for one another. So the father is a trial for the son the son is a test and trial for the Father, the neighbor is a trial for his fellow neighbor, coworkers, classmates, you know, different members of the organization of the minister of the master the board is a trial for the amendment, the amendment and trial for the board. And the general community is a trial for the mammies a trial for them, everybody is a trial for the other, certainly the spouses the wife is a trial for the husband and the husband is a trial for the wife, basically allies testing us through those

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relationships, those relationships or tests and trials for us, Allah wants to then

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watch how we will conduct ourselves concerning those relationships or concerning you know, the various situations that arise

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you know, incidents of friction of disagreement, that that arise between the spouses between you know, the neighbors and between the co workers, business partners, and through these incidents Allah subhanaw taala will be testing us he will see how we will behave.

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So, since this is

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A constant, not a variable of the human experience rather a constant of the human experience this agreement, then this agreement is not the problem. The problem is the management of this agreement, this agreement conflict is not a problem, the conflict is our failure to resolve the conflict because conflict will happen, because a very, like mired of reasons. Some of them are personal, and some of them are I ideological, some of them are circumstantial, so conflict will happen, this agreement will happen. Our problem is in fact, the failure to resolve the conflict and to properly manage the disagreement in the proper Islamic advocate, so that we make the best out of it so that

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the outcome would be the best possible outcome. Keep in mind that we have two major objectives because we before we embark on analyzing the issue and the root cause of the disagreements and trying to figure out how we navigate through the disagreements and how we ensure that the disagreement does not result in dissension because there is a difference between Philadelphia and Chicago pilaf is this agreement, and this agreement does not necessarily need to result in Shekhar, which is the sensation or this unity. So, before we delve into the analysis, and so on, we want to have like a bird's eye view of the subject when it comes to this agreements within the Muslim

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community.

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And most of those disagreements of the within the Muslim community

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are also related to lack of proper advice or lack of proper etiquette.

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They put on different tires, sometimes they put on the tire of ideology, sometimes they put on the tire of,

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you know, I am doing the sun you're doing the better, I'm doing it right, you're doing it wrong, I'm doing

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you know, I want good for the community. You You do not or I know how to run, like the organization, how to run the mustard, how to run this program, you don't know how to. So that those are different tires that the disagreement or that we try to put on to hide the the basically the dominant cause of this agreements, which is egotism, which is self centeredness, which is problems with, you know, pride and arrogance. That does not mean that all the time it is because of pride and arrogance. Sometimes, this disagreement is substantive, sometimes it's substantive. So when we're addressing the issue of disagreement within the Muslim community, we have to be mindful of two objectives that

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are very essential to preserve and to promote one of the these two objectives is the unity of them. The other one is the purity of the religion. So the unity of Dharma is extremely important. It is also extremely important to maintain the purity of the religion. Otherwise, we do know that the Sahaba used to condemn the evil and the Sahaba used to exchange advice with each other and the Sahaba sometimes used to reprimand one another for different positions that they had taken. This did not result in disrespect. But this was basically because this was not caused by pride and arrogance. It was caused by their sincere sincere eagerness to protect and preserve and promote the purity of

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the religion. So they wanted the religion to remain pure, and they do not did not allow anyone to corrupt that purity. Keep you know, we have to be

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mindful of the fact that nations before us

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caused so much damage to the religions by interpolating things into the religions, manipulating the religion and misinterpreting their holy texts. So it Elian trusted this oma with preserving the religion and preserving the purity of the religion and suppressing elevation and maintaining the sun. So, this is an extremely important objective, that should not be sidelined in the discussion. We should keep this in you know, as a primary objective, because after all, what is this oma without the religion? Nothing. Really nothing. There is no man without concern.

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Listen, if we if you corrupt the religion, then what's the worth of them that corrupted its religion, if you

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basically are not

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trustworthy with the sun that the legacy Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, then how do we claim allegiance to the Prophet sallallahu is

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on the other side, we have to maintain the unity of them. Keep in mind that the Sahaba did do all of this, but the the the the always respected one another. Do you know that the Sahaba even when the father against one other at one point, the Sahaba did fight against one another, and someone may bring this up. And he may say, he keeps on talking about this harbor respecting one another's our respecting one another. But you guys are hiding from us? How about that fight? What another one point? You know, that's a long story. It's a long story. But the Sahaba who fought one another, they did still respect one another. It's not not just the three respected one another but they loved one

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another. And they are on the low end after they were killed in the battle in the bath of mocha, German

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for the Battle of the camel

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on a, you know, wept over them on he was very

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much in pain. Because of them, he buried them, he prayed for them. And he

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rebuked to the person who told them Why are you so

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you know, saddened by the death of people that fought against you. And he said to the south, I wish that you that your father and I will be one another's company will be brothers facing one another in the gym. So despite the fact that the fitness that happened, that was incited

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by

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some of the rebels out from outside of the Sahaba, and the Gaza Sahaba into this clash, keep in mind, all the way up to that, you know, day of the battle. The Sahaba in did not intend to fight against one another. The the there were talks there were basically tons of a lot about surrender those people who killed off men and how they felt that, you know, trying to punish the killers of men at this point would create so much feminine chaos. And we may it may result in bloodshed that will cause the cost of the life of many of the companions of the Prophet. Those are the ones that we want to save to teach them. So

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they wanted because they want retribution for the servicemen. And then people you know that some of the rebels and some of the fitna makers in the middle, they started the war between the two camps without the you know, the knowledge or the approval of the Sahaba and the main Sahaba on both sides. And then once the war starts, everything is, is complete chaos war, you know, people are fighting as well, you don't know what is happening. And then when the dust settled, and pumpkins were killed, and the lawn fell, you know, extreme sadness extreme page for what happened. So even when the founding and they still respected and loved one another, so don't tell me that the fight against

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another because that's a whole different issue that that needs.

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Like, you know, a whole seminar workshop to understand the causes behind that. And what happened.

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And this incident or this basically interruption of the general atmosphere that is harbor maintain of respect and love. It didn't even interrupt the respecting the lovely they have for one another. But that incident should not be used to

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basically refuse the foundation that we're trying to build on here. The foundation that we're trying to build on here is that the sahabas interest in maintaining the purity of the religion did not make them

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not compromise the unity of dogma during their time. So they were able to skillfully and

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strike this balance between preserving the purity of the religion

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and maintaining the unity of them. How do we do this? How do we do this as a Muslim

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Nowadays, then we will have to look at why, why? Why do we have so much dissension? And why do we have so much this unity? And why do we have so much hard feelings? And why do we have so much disrespect? And why do we have so much frustration with one another, we have enough frustration with one another. It's not just you and me, it is like organizations and massage, and boards and emails and

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various levels. And I'm not talking about your community, maybe you don't have any of the problems. I'm just talking in general about Muslim communities in general, particularly where Muslims live in already. But it is not even limited to that even where Muslims live as a majority, we're still having the same issues. The root cause of this is one of two things, one of two things, it is gentlemen for Allah

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in and who cannot,

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we have offered the amount of the trust we offer the two are similar that happens.

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You know, what is the trust is the capacity of choice that you know, of having options, choosing to obey or disobey, that capacity is the trust, I will trust you, when you make the right decision. The seminar and urban development all the creation said no, we want to be subdued, we do not want to have a choice. We want to be completely subdued

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by yoga, and we don't want to have a choice, well, how many how to incense but men took it on.

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And now we can have a woman's a hula, he was meaning transgressor, jehol ignorant. So, these are the two root causes of all of these problems that we have one hand

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them and so they may or may not have law said that the treatment is two things.

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If the if the cause of all problems is government does the treatment is

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the opposite of long, long, you get traded long by our justice, he gets traded generally by knowledge. So these are the two treatments in summary. And if we stop here, we have done a good job. Because from Iran, it is about your commitment to practicing what we will talk about more than it is about the knowledge of it. Because most of what we will say from Iran is known to everybody.

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It is our failure of implementing that which we know and that we don't only know that which we are safe enough, because of our biases. And because of our weaknesses, because of our spiritual weakness, because of our moral weakness, we are unable to live up to that which we know and that which we are sending out,

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you know, justice.

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So here in America, they say that most of our problems are related to failure of intent or failure of judgment, right.

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Basically, if you don't have a hunger, then it is failure of intent. And if you don't have any knowledge, then you have failure of judgment.

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I would add to the failure of intent failure of

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so we will have two different groups, failure of intent and conduct, configure of judgment, failure of intent and conduct and failure of judgment. The failure of intent and conduct is the injustice that is related to vote that is related, that you know that can be basically cheated by just

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some of the causes of this and manifestations of this. Think about it whenever we have this agreement and it is related to our lack of

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you no sincerity, lack of devotion. A treatment certainly is an outlet and justice is not a matter of the mind. It's not a matter of the intellect. It's a matter of the heart that requires a lot of purity of the heart. So the purity of the heart is the answer to the problems with intent and convert the purity of the heart. Otherwise, most of the disagreements between us and the heart second style of the heart.

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Are straighten, then we will not have them

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you may call them we are disagreeing because of you know issues, the transcends over management differences over fifth position differences over a PETA position, but at the end of the day if you look at the root cause most of the time, it will have to do with the hearts being

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you know had

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not been reconciled your heart in my heart, but if our hearts reconciled, then we will be able to work through our differences in a beautiful manner with a beautiful comeback. And even if we did not agree at the end of the day, we will still be able to go exist with respect and cooperate and that which we can agree on.

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So,

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look at where does this come from it comes from our you know egotism, that is why prescription number one is to crush your ego. Prescription number one is to crush your ego, after understand that crying is a huge problem. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said

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and this was reported by me that would from

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the variety

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the prophet SAW a lot of sentiment It was also reported from

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others. He said that in Korea or in that he was an alpha metal is very feminine czar and he may concern to or tighten up the title for now, different wordings and different keyboard. So I'll Kibriya is pride pride is my cloak.

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And azama Majesty is my lower garment, whoever it competes with me for them. Wherever competes with me for them. I will break him for some break and I'll try to open now I will throw him into the Hellfire or persons who are breaking meaning out, destroy him, whatever belly and I don't care for him at all. Whoever it competes with a love for pride and majesty. Because as a human being full of faults full of weaknesses.

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Full of shortcomings full upon readability, full of error. You should not this is not your department. Pride you should not get there is this I have no business to do with pride and majesty. You know, look at yourself. Look at your weakness. Look at yourself when you get sick. Look at yourself when you get a little bit of heavy pride, a little bit of constipation, or this or that. Look at yourself when you hallucinate because of a little fever. Look at yourself in the bathroom. Look at your what how could How could you be proud? What What business do you have with majesty and arrogance and pride and all of that?

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So you should not you should read it. That's why

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it's so important for

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said no matter how high labor and

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profits are sold themselves, Allah revealed to me or inspired me that you should

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Humble yourselves.

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no one, no one whatsoever boasts over anyone Will I ever be able to do

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and until no one oppresses or transgressors? Anyone. so humble yourself, humble yourself. That requires crushing your ego crushing and getting used to it basically, by training. You know,

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you feel that you want to win an argument that you yourself, lose it for the purpose of crushing your ego, just lose it walk away, at the point where you feel that you lost the argument. You know, certainly if you're defending the truth, you do not want to betray the truth of the truth now. But if you're not sure, then you could very easily say, I believe that this is the truth, but I don't have enough knowledge about the matter. Then I'll stop the arguments here. And then you get the prize, the big prize that the prophets

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promised you and as I'm debating

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live in Pelican Mira Academy, Hector, I am the guarantor of a house in the outskirts of paradise for he who abandons the debate, even if he was right, even if he was right, or if he was on the right side.

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I will guarantee I am the guarantor, the prophet is telling you is promising you and the guarantor of the house in paradise for he who abandons the bait,

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even if he was on the right side when of government.

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So, that

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was Natasha when he describes the believers he says a village in

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Calgary,

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a village, we

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want our village

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that if you if you turn away from the dean alone prank about a people that he loves, and they loved him, what were the characteristics of the people that Allah loves, and they love Allah has been looking for many, they show humility with the believers, not just humbleness, the humility, you show humility to the believers is acknowledged Caffery mighty with the disbelievers and mighty whether this believers

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that can affect them, then we have to understand is complex, it does not mean that you will be mighty with those that are very polite and courteous to you. Because you will not be outdone in kindness, Allah, Allah says

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you're free to come in the room. La Milan is not for video concerning the people who did not fight against you, because of your religion did not drive you out of your homes that you showed this. to them. What is bit, what is test test is justice, he showed justice. But what is the bedroom is kindness. And Petra in particular was mentioned in a context that we all know. And we're all familiar with, which is federal one in a kindness to the parents. So the same word that was used in with regard to treating the parents who was used to was regard to treating non Muslims that are not offensive to us. And they do not

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try to misguide us, or they will not try to dissuade us from our religion. So you put things in the right context. But the point that I'm trying to make here is the comma. When one talks about the people, he loves a lot of people that show humility to the believers, humility, to the believers, not just humbleness, but even humility to the believers. So try to practice this. And it does take a little bit of fun and a little bit of effort to just come down a little bit, you know,

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tone it down.

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When you speak, when you talk, when you walk.

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Try to act like a humble person, even if you're not a humble person, and this will not be the forbidden act in the process of Socrates spoke about when he said

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he will pretend to be other than what who he is, is like what someone who wears two garments of false for someone who wears covers himself in two garments, two layers of falsehood.

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But this will not be that. It you're just training yourself because you know that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said a number of Harlem, Harlem, or many,

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many activities

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for being knowledgeable is by learning. The Prophet saying be knowledgeable or act the acquisition of knowledge is through learning. And the acquisition of forbearance held for Barents is through practice of Four Bears to handle

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so beautiful because the professor Southern hero combined, both of them heard them up ahead of him and him. Oh, people agree that our enemies through learning, you know, you acquire knowledge through learning. And all people know that this is a matter. It is it is an acquired thing is acquired. But a lot of people argue that helmore forbearance is inherent in nature. If you don't have it, when you're born, you're not going to ever have it. So that's why people will keep on saying, you know, I'm just like, I can't say I'm a little bit on the nervous side, I have a short fuse. This is just my nature and they just give in to this. So the Prophet is saying is your fault, there is no thing

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no such thing like this. Maybe you have that inclination. Yes, I agree. You may have that inclination. You may be

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In with those qualities be born, you may have been born with those qualities, but it does not mean you cannot change them, you can change them. So the Prophet is say forbearance becoming forbearance. forbearance is through the practice of forbearance, or money at the heart of

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whoever seeks goodness will be granted goodness or money or Turkish or Luca and whoever

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you know tries to escape or run away or avoid suffering or evil will be spared of that evil will be spirit of that

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crushing your ego.

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This is, this is number one and we

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were talking a lot about this particular one because this is at the root at the root of all evil. This is the first sin right or wrong.

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Hill and Lisa are stackable macadam and Catherine except for elease. Everybody frustrated except for at least half our stack bar Academy cafe. However he rejected the defied the order was backed by the newest crowd Academy Caffery so he deserved to be of the cavalry.

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He was proud, he was arrogant. So that is why he refused to prostrate before add class to the man Filipina he said Should I prostrate the for someone that you made out of mud

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merican to the US Diversity

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Committee was known not to prostrate before a man that he created the play.

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He said I am better than him, me create me on fire and you create a poem of mine. So, this was the first sin. So if you look at most of our troubles, it will trace back to that first sip, it will trace back to that first sip. So crushing your ego is prescription number one second thing

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is

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and it is also related because we're still talking about the failure of intent instead of talking about purifying our hearts from certain defects, certain faults that result in this dissension this you know dissension, this this unity, this disrespect between us.

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The second thing is to

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avoid competition, avoid competition. Avoid ostentation, avoid sawn off, don't compete for positions of leadership. Because at the end of the day, the profits of a lot of Southern southern Arizona Halima

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Tiana, tiziana Dharma, Ala Moana.

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Ha, funny Amata no Da Vinci

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you will be eager to have a model leadership. And on the Day of Judgment, it will be a cause of regret

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and a cause of disgrace for you. Except for those who took it frightfully and lived up to it. Which is hard, which is extremely hard. So he's saying don't don't be fooled by it. don't really see it is extremely hard. It's it's like holding holding your hands hardcore in your hands. Except for someone who took it rightfully and lived up to it will have the levy on a feed failure.

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What a good

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witness Marbella is the witness the one who breastfeeds you know,

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so for what a good good net witness what bits of information and how often is the end in garbage? How awful it's been. So it will breastfeed you meaning it will supply you with all of you know

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your your human needs

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recognition, this thinks a

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little bit of fame, a little bit of celebrity a little bit of this and that and you will be happy and as long as you have it, it will continue to nourish you nurture you with those things, but they are contributing to the demise and destruction bit Southern Falcon Fatima is when it farm is what it is weaning. So we infer the breast milk when it when that Mr. Wiens you it will be an awful ending

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because it will wean you into the hellfire.

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So it will continue to nurture you with those you know

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ailments and

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Those vanities and then it gets you into the hellfire.

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So don't compete the prophets are seldom reported this

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form of the love nor the other one will traceable to the prophets of Salaam or for to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he said a double heavy,

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double heavy, invisible fear from those slaughterhouses. What are the slaughterhouses? There is the slaughterhouse, the members of the slaughterhouse. This table is a slaughterhouse any, you know, position of distinction is the Prophet call that slaughter house, because you're being slaughtered. Whenever you lead, whenever you sit in the middle of a gathering, whenever you sit in a position where people are looking up to you, you're being slaughtered, unless you do your best and unless the law discloses mercy on you, and unless, you know, you're given 10 feet, and your love forgives your shortcomings, because there will be shortcomings and there will be slips and falls. And unless Allah

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forgives those and Alyssa last discloses mercy on you, when charged with mercy, you know, to save you spare you from your evil inclinations, and tendencies, and evil thoughts that will cross your mind that too, you know, I gained the distinction, talking, you know, I'm addressing the crowd, and addressing the large crowd and addressing 5000 people, and speaking to another auditorium full of people. So all of those are taken away from your reward, if not, you know, earning you a huge sense, because you're watching the people, where you should have been watching the love, you're seeking the pleasure of people buy something with which you have, should have been seeking

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and seeking the pleasure of Allah subhana wa Tada. So, crush your ego Crusher, you crusher you avoid competition, avoid competition, avoid competition, then we're also related to the issue of

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purifying the heart, you know, having justice and fairness and purifying the heart. As the first step. The second be knowledge,

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related to the first step is

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the issue of

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you know,

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it still relates to humbleness, but I will address it from a different angle. Sometimes we think that we're the only thinkers.

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You know, that don't, that we're the only people capable of thinking. And then once we come to a conclusion, we feel that this is, you know, that no one can argue with this. That is actually a manifestation of a philosophical

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viewpoint or a philosophical school that is very, very, very corrupted. And no, no one philosophers accepted it, but it's called solipsism. It is, it's an offshoot of the Cartesian doubt, you know, the Cartesian doubt, you know, hideout fray exists.

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Part of an offshoot from this is solid sysm solipsism is when you doubt the presence or the existence of anything around you. Because everything could be an illusion. Even Mohammed ear could be an illusion, right?

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You know, the definition of collusion is something that you see, but it does not exist.

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I promise, collusion,

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you can even touch. You could be elucidating detail, you could be hallucinating, can you feel it, but it doesn't exist.

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But to some extent, we act like this sometimes. Like we're the only people that can think so why do I believe that I exist? Because I know for sure. According to this solid, solid citizen, where according to solid citizen where the solid says philosophy, why am I sure that I exist? Because I know that I think,

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why am I in doubt that you exist? Because I don't know that you're saying that you think you're thinking because I can see the thoughts in your mind. I do know the thoughts in my mind, but I can't see the thoughts in your mind. And despite the fact that this is just complete battle, but we do sometimes act like it is true. We do feel sometimes like it is true. How do you report the very, you know, remarkable story and it should bring you

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Grab our attention. So Buhari reported this from Ohio, where I was talking about when he was taking care of the vital man for the Department of Treasury or house of Treasury,

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where the they kept the money of this account, they kept to all the

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hazards of the state during the time of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam This used to be called the Baten man. So barreiros was guarding beighton vatan, man, and then someone came to speak verbatim, and you know, that story. When someone came to see from beta male first day of content second day, third day I said, Well, I'm not getting TV whatsoever, you know, and

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keep in New York. So he told them, should I tell you something that, you know, should I teach you something of benefit, and I have been stupid to acknowledge that he was, he was tempted to teach me and he taught them to recite

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to you before you go to bed to do protection for you, until the morning. So whenever I went to the prophets, Allah,

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the prophet SAW someone told them what he told them to do, and that even men can, can bury her in Satan. So he came to the Prophet related to him the story of the prophets of Salaam told them, he told you the truth, even though he's an insistent liar. Do you know who was talking to you last night? And what I said, Who and the Prophet told him I say, the devil, Satan himself, you know, so that the chief devil that it bleeds,

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given the form of a human being, and when he told this Orion, so that we learned a lesson,

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that the prophets Allah can recognize the truth that came from the cipher. He told them,

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he told you the truth. So in the same time, sometimes can, you know, slip and say something that is, right. So that teaches us, that teaches us that whenever you're talking to somebody, your Muslim brother is, is not going to be anywhere near the same.

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Hopefully not, there's gotta be some distance. And so. So there will be if you're, if you're Humble yourself and use all your years open and your eyes and your heart and your mind,

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you may be able to reap some benefit from what he's saying, even if most of it is not true, or not correct. But just listen, as you say, uncertainty, some user like me listening, you know, give justice to your ears, against your tongue, because a lot created for you two ears at one time.

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So give justice to your ears.

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So if you just listen with the expectation that I will be able to win something from this debate, not to win the debate, because it is better to win something of benefit from this debate to reap some benefits from this debate, than to win the debate itself, I will be able to benefit from the so you are thirsty for the Heckman the wisdom that may come out of the tongue or the mouth of your brother at one point, your ears are open so that there is a wisdom, you take it. If he points out something to you something wrong about you. You take it, you tell yourself even if this is not true, but this is how I come across to some people that I should work on it so that I make sure that I do

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not come across this way to any people.

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And then this would be a great lesson. And this would be a great gift the brother had given you if someone points out to you something. And certainly everybody is encouraged to give them a seat hi in the most polite and beautiful, courteous, sincere, devoted and humble way. But as a recipient of mercy Hi, you're encouraged to take it whichever way comes to you. Even if it comes to your rough, you know or from someone who is rough. You take it because you will benefit from it. It is a gift for you. You remove the dust you remove the thorns you remove whatever that may be in the way of reaping the benefits from this. And you just take them and see how you benefit of Tennessee. So keep

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your ears open. You're not the only one who has a mind. Keep your heart open. You're not the only one who has the wisdom.

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Try to find a point, you know, wisdom. And then once you find that, it will make a huge difference to our discussions that you as you know, like a party of the discussion, once you find any word of wisdom, or your family or your friend says anything that may be right, your your opponent says anything that is right, you pointed out and you say, Yes, you're right about this.

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Just notice from this time on how the whole discussion will will, will become different, we'll take a different course, once you recognize something right about what he said, he would come down, you know, it will be like you took like,

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a bucket of water, and you threw it on the fire in his mind or in his heart, he will come down and you will fall down.

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The other thing that is related to the problem of intent and conduct is the premature pruning, premature pruning, meaning oftentimes, we know very little, and we rush to overuse, overuse the knowledge that we have, by basically preaching and speaking and talking and correcting people and advising and so on. You know, after two or three days of learning, or like a couple of weeks of learning or learning if you're happy for a few verses from the puranam that were too quick. You don't even know honey.

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Remember, halifa

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for the one

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he

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started to teach, he was 40 years old, when he started to teach, he was ready when he was 20 or 18. But as long as command was living, his main teacher come out he was alive. Number one, he

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did not

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teach, because he was learning. He was he wanted to learn more and more from from math. And he felt that as long as humanity is here, we're going to need to teach

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how Matt is taken care of. So the idea is, you know, I am ready. So let me just make room for myself, because I'm ready. The idea is, there is someone who could take care who was taking care of it, then I don't need to get in that slaughterhouse, I don't need to expose myself to those dangers, that they dangers of becoming a teacher. And as long as command is doing it, then I am comfortable,

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then I am safe. Someone else is doing it. It is the responsibility of someone else. But we tend to have this premature pruning is like once I have a little bit of something that I want to create room for myself, even if I don't have much to contribute, but I want to make sure that I create true. And I gave the problem permanence that I believe that I deserved, when I don't deserve anything,

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is you know what some of the other Bhavani fans that have mad used to live about seven blocks away from him. And when he used when he was when he sat in his home, he never stretched out his legs in the direction of the house of her man which used to be seven blocks away from from avanafil this idea of you know,

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this is extra, you know, you and I'm not telling you to do that, because this is a station that we don't claim, you know, that we have reached the station of added that we may have not reached here. But much you know, less than this, we don't do you know, we we sometimes act

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or, you know, behave with the teachers like they are our servants or slaves

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which is absolutely, you know, painful sometimes you see like, stealing technology arguing with, you know, a teacher or scholar in a way that you think, who's who here or you know, completely switched positions. So, but but, you know, sitting in his own home would not stretch out his legs in the direction of the House of primatte out of respect for

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a long time. So

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that that level of mentor

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CIP is lacking, that level of mentorship is lacking, which is causing us

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so much chaos. And, you know, there is no order, the oma does not have order and I am not.

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I am opposed to cultish behavior. And I don't believe that the marine should be in the hands of hashish like a dead body,

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in the hands of the washer, I don't believe this. This does not used to be the way of the Sahaba. Reportedly on their way, there was a way of respect. But the Sahaba used to you know, that I used to listen to the law class, and I'm loving this rule, and I'm loving Obama. And I will cry. And I listen to this and listen to that. And they used to learn from a variety of teachers and did the same thing. They learned from a variety of teachers. And the only one, the only one that the acted with him, like a dead body, in the hands of the washer was the messenger. He's the only one that is infallible, that you want to just follow Him and applying following of the messenger is actually

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is why is following. Because a key

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compared to you, the messenger is that seeing the person holding the hand of a blind person across the street, then the plant blind person should actually follow the trustworthy person that is holding holding his hand across the street, that is the Prophet sallallahu Sallam with us.

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But anyway, so

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the problem of intent

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and problem of conduct.

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The treatment, like I said, is basically, to crush your ego.

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Avoid competition, is to recognize that other people have minds like you, they are not necessarily shouting, they are also sincere,

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they're likely looking for the truth. And to avoid the premature pruning or

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skipping the phases, the student knowledge should take his time to acquire knowledge, and then speak after he feels that he acquired enough knowledge and he has something to offer and that no one else

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is sufficing him sparing him of this very big responsibility of having to speak and having

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to teach

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them that the other side, and I'm sure, I'm sure, but we're done with the 45 minutes, right.

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Okay, the other side of it, because we said that refers to,

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you know, the removal of volume, which is the transgression, you know, failure of intent and failure and conduct, the heart of justice and the purification of the heart, this law has to do pollute the slack of pollute the purification of the heart from all of the diseases that we talked about. Now, the other aspect that is extremely important to that we manage our disagreements with is the aspect of knowledge, knowledge, because knowledge will give us the ability to discern between the different types of disagreement because disagreements are so different. They are not they don't all come at the same, you know, sides. disagreements could be anywhere from disagreeing over the messenger ship

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of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam is that a disagreement that he wanted to say, you know, we will cooperate and stuff you know, yeah, certainly I'm not gonna

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basically, I'm not gonna jump in, suffocate on you and suffocate you. But at the same time, this is not a disagreement that is allowed an Islam to disagree over the finality or of the messenger ship of Mohammed Salim or the Prophet, Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam should we actually be casual and sporty about those disagreements? And you know, there is no problem let's just maintain the unity of suffering. Absolutely not. So don't think that there is a generic prescription of tolerance and gentleness. Yes, tolerance and openness are commendable praiseworthy, but this is not a generic prescription for every disagreement because some disagreements we cannot tolerate.

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But I will not be able to go into the you know, this subject because if I if I go into this subject to that

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I have to give it its due right and I can do this in less than 45 minutes.

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But, but that more knowledge would help us discern between the different levels of disagreements, different types, there are oppositional disagreements that are variation of disagreements. So the different types of event and different types of a partner, those are not disagreements, there is no conflict. To begin with. Those are just different forms that were traced to the profits or loss and choose whichever one you like. So, you know, you you, you do relief work, you're involved in politics, or political activism. On behalf of the community, I'm involved in a relief work someone is involved in that way. Another person is involved in teaching, this is not a disagreement that

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needs to be resolved. Because the basically the we're complementing one another like the pieces of the puzzle. That the pitfalls of this is when you belittle my effort,

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exaggerating the importance of your work at the expense of belittling my effort, or my contribution, if you feel that we should not be doing any teaching, and we should be involved. You know, we shouldn't be all be out doing now. Or we should be out doing relief work, or that we should sit here the messaging feature, forget about the relief work and social work, because we want to build the community from within first and teach the people about Islam before reach out. And if you belittle the efforts and the contributions of others, that is the problem, but there is no problem that needs to be resolved with when it comes to those, you know, variational disagreements that will just help

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us complement one another. So last time, we may go into the details of this

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political conviction