Hatem al-Haj – Prevention and Treatment of Depression 2

Hatem al-Haj
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the complex issue of predestination, which connects to the heart and brain and is a crucial part of human behavior. They stress the importance of knowing one's limitations and avoiding injuries to avoid stress and sadness. The speakers also emphasize the need for schools to prepare children for college and emphasize the importance of seeking comfort and desire for comfort in life. They stress the importance of mixing with the right crowd and doing things to help people, and advise against drinking alcohol and barley to avoid overwhelming emotions. The speakers stress the importance of healthy eating, avoiding chemicals and foods that can cause stress, and practice patience and love friendships.
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Spitler from the law also said, I'm on

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the second part of this lecture.

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Or maybe this is the second lecture on the prevention and treatment of depression.

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And certainly the prevention and treatment of depression

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will have to entail talking about predestination, which would, which is what we did.

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And there were many questions about the issue of predestination, try to answer them as much as possible.

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I just want to alert you to one thing,

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which is to

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respect your limitation.

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You know, as a human being,

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each one of us, we human beings, should respect our limitations. We think that we can, or we have to comprehend it, so that it is,

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you know, easy like water, it is like drinking water.

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predestination is an issue that is complex, it is the thread that connects to the pros, it's an issue that

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comprehends, and it's 100%, maybe beyond you,

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yet, you have to believe it 100%, as conveyed to you from Allah, and His Messenger, what is it that you comprehend? 100% so that you want to comprehend predestination? 100%? And who are we?

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We just have to, you know, look in the mirror,

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you are a very, very weak creature.

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You, how do you how do you make? How do you make up your mind? How do you

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acquire knowledge,

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acquire knowledge, and convictions and so on, through that, that you get from your senses,

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your vision, your hearing, your thoughts, your smell, and your taste? Those are your five senses, right?

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And the data that you get from your five senses, is it complete?

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It is extremely deficient. It's just like, we have to stand for a while to pause for a while and ask ourselves, who are you

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the data that you're getting is extreme, the the talk about animals talking across continents, through waves that we cannot hear free frequencies, sound frequencies that we cannot hear.

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The most of them are red light, rays of light, he cannot see.

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He can see, he can see anything that has infrared or ultraviolet, you're only limited between the infra violet and ultra above right and below violet, you can't see anything else, most of the rays you cannot see most of the sound frequencies, you're limited to a certain

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range of decibels that you can hear anything below anything above you cannot hear.

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And the same applies to the rest of your senses. So, if your data

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you know if the mind is the processor and the mind which is your processor is given very deficient data, how do you expect to this mind which in which is in and by itself deficient?

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After giving the deficient that to make absolute

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to give to get it to make absolute conclusions, or to reach to absolute conclusions can issues that are of the unseen that are beyond us? It is like one of the safes once said, you know, the people who talk about you know, you know the existence of Allah and so on and so forth. And they say, you know, I can't see him, I can't touch him. I can't hear him, then how can I believe in Him? It's like someone who puts himself in a, in a dark room and covers himself with a blanket.

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And then says, you know, like someone in, in in Yemen, for instance,

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who you know, walks at night into his house, walks into his room, darkroom, covers himself with a blanket and then he says, the talk about the Americas, I can't see them. Where are the Americans? I don't believe in the Americans. I don't believe in China with China. Whether you are in a darkroom under the blankets in your house, any money you're not going to be able to see China

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and if you talk about

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The existence of God, then you have to understand your limitations, all of these manifestations of his existence. If they are not enough for you, then you have a huge problem, because who brought this to existence? Is the question that you should ask yourself, that is what predestination is also an issue that is extremely complex, that you may not be able to completely comprehend. Yet, there are certain things that are clear to every sane person, one of these things is that we're here.

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The other thing is that we are obviously being tested.

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You know, this whole creation has been created for us the anthropic principle that we talked about before. Therefore, there is a wisdom of our creation. There is

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a reason cause behind our creation, and we are currently being tested. And his well supersedes our well. Yeah, we we do it is extremely obvious. But his well, axiom supersedes ours.

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And as we said, we do have a will the remember that game that we played, bring the swatch from here. So we do have a well, it is superseded by his well. He created this universe, we're here for a test. All of these are facts are, you know, these, everything that I said now is a given. So just deal with the deal with this, why can't we deal with this, that we're already here we were created, his one supersedes ours, because there's so much that we're not in control of yes, we do have a well, because we prove that here. This is well, here.

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Bring it back, you know if he permits

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So these are all easy things. So why don't we take those things that are absolute and Givens and we agree on them. And then of these smaller of these big facts, smaller number, but they're big facts.

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We can start to work, you know, we have a whale. So we are responsible. So let us use this whale for his service because He created us and we're here. And we're being tested. So let's not waste time. And let us try to get to the end of the race. That is what, you know, sanity would mandate on us to try to what to walk in this direction. Yeah, if there are certain things that we cannot completely comprehend, what is it that you completely comprehend? Do you comprehend them? The Are you aware of the movements of your intestines? Now when you're sitting? Are you aware of your heartbeats or you're in control? Do you know how your heartbeats?

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You know, even if you're a physician, even if you're a cardiologist, you really know the bottom? The bottom of it? No, you don't? Even if you are a cardiologist to the year, do you really know everything about you know, those muscles and how they work and how the heart beats and, and all of this, and they keep on having discoveries every day. Discovery means what means something that you were ignorant of, and you came to know. So you talk cardiologists in the whole world. were ignorant of this new discovery, and now you've discovered it. And then tomorrow, you'll discover something else. And after tomorrow, you'll discover something else, and so on. So

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aren't we limited? And Shouldn't we respect the limitations? I think we said, I mean sanity, you know, is to know the limitations is to know the limitations. And that's wisdom. Wisdom is to know the limitations you see can be very intelligent, and not knowing your limitations, that will get you in trouble. You can be much less intelligent, but knowing your limitations and knowing how to move within your limitations wisely. And then you can certainly do very well this way. So I think that understanding the limitations is extremely helpful in this regard.

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The other issues that will help us help us you know, prevent and treat the stress and sadness include knowing that all people are trying you're not alone. You're not alone. And many times your your the catastrophe that befell you is much smaller than other people's problems.

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And many times you see people you see that they're doing well and so on. But if you know about their lives, and you know, the offer is made to you, they exchange, you will not exchange because that person that seems to be, you know, on top of it,

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you know, as they say Dean and donia You know, he has a bowl fees

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He's on top of it. That person may be having cancer at this point. And then if you if you're offering to exchange with him exchange lives with him you would not accept the offer. So the food says we could even see the thing with a dead lady while I'm Bianca Mara, who macula the hospital Burkina Super kurama Fina, no boo boo Yamato Sofia de mangalam use amendment Tara demasi button and severe en la Stan movie Oh, howdy favorite. Forever the character mercy button on Saba hopatcong Saba kabaneri Muhammad Sallallahu sallam. So he says many of us have the metabones evaton who was not affected out of all the people that you see who is not affected with excellent tragic

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catastrophe. You know loss of a child loss of a parent loss of a loved one loss of job loss of wealth, this or that, who's not affected. The Fs a beat on the San Javier howdy This is a fact that you're not the only trader out there. So many people will try this path before you

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favor the currency but the non Saba have felt called Mousavi mahtomedi. And if you remember your, your disaster, remember the greatest disaster, the Fairview with the loss of the profits of the lotteries. And

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the other issue also that could be very helpful is is that you have to know and this is part of, you know,

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part of the last point will lead us to this point, because most economists average conservative and many know that there is always a bigger problem. There is always a bigger disaster. And the disaster that befell you is not the biggest because the biggest is the disaster as well.

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destroy your deen

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the food says Well, good luck has been lalala has been who who America sneakernet Dini Gibran and every fracture allow me, Allah will fix it or may fix it.

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Except for the fracture of the deal is not fixable, it's not repairable if you if you lose your theme.

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What can make you up for it? Many times we work hard so that our kids go to an Ivy League University.

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That is not a bad idea. And as the brother said before in his comments was very, very, to the point that Muslims are behind in science and math and so on, we're behind. We're very behind. And it's it's it's, it's, it's a crime. It's a sin, because Allah says, Well, I put up on the spot on the continent of Africa to prepare all types of power, so that he can be a nation that that

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a respectable nation, respectable nation that is not violated that is not compromised. So Belfour, for instance, Prime Minister of Britain cannot give Palestine to the Jews, because he was so so you know, you know, so concerned about the Jews, the suffering in Europe, because have had this been a nation that is respected and feared. I mean, no one would have taken their land, had we been a nation that is respected and feared that you don't take their land and give it to other people, because they are, they have been oppressed in Europe. In this case, you will have taken parts of Europe and give it to them, you know, they have been oppressed in Europe. Well, they're being

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oppressed by the Germans, take parts of Germany and give it to them. And that would be justice. But because we are a nation that is not respected and feared, this happened to us. So Allah says pretty fair, all types of power that you may be given, deter them

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from doing un justice. And this this includes technological and scientific power, and financial and economic power, and so on and so forth. And we're very behind. So it is important that we go to Ivy League universities, it is important that we make sure that our kids go to Ivy League universities if they can, yep, if they get that certificate from Harvard and the certificate of Layla have a leg it's pulled back from them. That's it, there's nothing there. It's complete loss. Because it is infinity next to any number you put eight years of

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greatest successes and accomplishments in this world. You know, they are the most accomplished in this world for 80 years, you have become the president of the United States to terms and you broke the constitution and became the president a third time, whatever whatever it is, and you put all of this next to infinity and it will be zero, it will be zero. Therefore, every fracture can be is repairable except for the fracture of your dean is it is fractured. There is no fixing for this except without

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But if it is fractured permanently, and you don't repent, then there is that is the greatest and the ultimate loss as well I used to always think Allah subhanaw taala, when he was afflicted by anything, you would think a lot, it was not bigger.

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And that it was not in his beam.

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And that he was given patience to cope with it.

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So just remember that there is always a bigger inflection, there's always and many times we get,

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many times we get distressed over very trivial things very, very, and, you know, I, you know, I get

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a lot of phone calls from people who are distressed, you know, particularly between the spouses, and this is over very trivial things. And if these trivial things can distress you, don't you think that all that he can wake up tomorrow and you find, he can find you to serve them in bed in the morning, it is as easy as this, you just can wake up tomorrow and you find yourself but then.

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And then you are being so distressed now about this trivial issue that shows how small you are is

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nuts. Nuts have a lot of pain and some pain in your soul, your mind here, that shows the lack of integrity, the lack of integrity when people get so distressed over trivial and minor things, and minor conflicts with their spouses, that just shows lack of integrity, that you are big on the outside, but you're very small inside

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your ear muffs.

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Your soul

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is very small.

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The next thing is the t know that the one who tested you is the only one who can who can relieve your stress, who can relieve your stress. And that is very helpful. Because you know that the one is tested you is the one who's capable of relieving your distress. So you will not be running around. You will always be going back to him.

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And you know we

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in the Tuesday classes we did mention this last time. I mentioned that a couple of times it is when you're when your mother slaps you.

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If she does

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and you run away from her, what do you do? You run back to her

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that's what we said seeking refuge in You from you seek refuge in your pleasure from your anger. The lion muscle Allah tala belongs to the greatest example. Yeah, this is to make it a little bit easier for us to understand. If a child is out in the street, and his mother slaps him, he's not gonna run to a stranger.

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He would run this but you see sometimes that you know the mother slaps him and he's holding on to her. He wants her pleasure. He's escaping from her anger to her pleasure because he knows that she is the Most Merciful most loving to him. And if you the line method, Allah so Allah is the greatest example. That is what you need to do with Allah subhanaw taala you run from him to him. So if there is an affliction, then you run to him to seek refuge in Him because he's the only one capable of helping you and you know the poor says pay them to eat or be mechanized in hospital law several Quranic famous Malika Islam. What is up Teresa Corbett. infobus Lucha soba suku Tifa in Nevada

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Grandma, let us go on a lava defy nanodisc Karima la la vida Hama, if you are afflicted by a disaster, where the where the garment of

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patience and where the garment of silence.

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Were the two garments, the garments of patients and the garment of silence. Because this is safer. And this is more honorable, more graceful, to where the government officials in the garden movement scientists do not complain to the alphabet to the people. For if you do you are complaining to the one who has no mercy

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against the one who has all mercy on you. So you're complaining against the Most Merciful you're, you're going to have to complain to this are

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against the law Spinoza who decreed this against you. That does not mean that you will not seek comfort, but you will not be complaining against the decrees. You could seek comfort and others but you're not complaining because I'm against the decrees of Allah subhanaw taala you have to know that he's the only one who can help.

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Also, it's another poet said

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Isabell Hamilton and hammelmann verigin absurd beside and in fairness of law what he has worked on under Sahabi Isla de Sena in El Cap final Cassie Allahu Allah we have the father Kirby misurata Lazarus Zana final caffee. Allahu ficep Villa he wanted to be in Allah dx equals Bella who Allahu Allah He Malika Valle de la him and I had him for husavik Allah who frequently in like Allah, so he says, that all the old The one who is distressed,

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the distress will be relieved for the one who will relieve it is Allah is the one who caused the distress in the first place. And he says to him, and he has racked our head and Sahabi despair can destroy. The one who's desperate, do not have this fear, for Allah is the one who will

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undo the distress and relieve the distress. A lot of other Caribbean Academy my Salah can Allah always brings ease after hardship. That's why I want to look above us to say two eases will not be overcome by one hardship because Allah says, In the nanospheres, throw in an arrow, For verily with with the hardship there is ease with the hardship there is ease, so that it is the hardship but not the ease. So it is what heart, Allah God says with the hearts of the disease. So the second one is the same one. So there is ease twice multiplied, for every hardship so there will be ease. Kevin after the hardship if you stay connected to our last marathon

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is up to date a perfect Villa he wanted to be in the Exif with Bella, who allow if you're afflicted, have trust in Allah can be satisfied with him as your maintainer, your Lord regarding your disposal of affairs, what he or bubbeleh have read, that he is your Lord, Guardian maintainer. Disposer of affairs, Canada *, Lola de Malaga, zerolemon. For husavik, Allah houfy could look like a low viola, you have no one to rely on, but Allah, so let Allah be sufficient for you, for his book Allah, let him be sufficient, let him be enough for you. He call it like a low After all, it is Allah that is that you will have.

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So that is also very helpful to know that you are getting together to seek refuge from the one who caused the distress in the one who caused the distress, because he is the one in control, he is the one who brought on and he was the one who can lifted off.

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The next one is having higher aspirations and goals having higher aspiration and goals. And this is extremely important. Because many times we are consumed into our own interest into our own ego into our own self into our own selfishness we're consumed, we're consumed so that you're quite distressed because

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you lost $2,000. And there are people there are Muslims who are like

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that, so there

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it is pathetic, you know, because, you know, some people can be quite distressed, because I've sold some

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extremely trivial events or

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you can even call them afflictions or calamity you can call them anything, trivial events that take place in their life can make them distress. And there are those, you know, people that are dying of starvation, there are those people who are you know, under occupation, there are those people who are losing their their lives. And

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that is not distressing you. But if that if you if you live you consider yourself to be part of this

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part of this movement, and let these issues distress you. Your own personal problems will become very trivial in your sight.

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If you let if I'm not telling you that you should listen to the user, you know 24 hours a day, but listen to some news, know something about what's happening to your your your brothers and sisters. And let these issues the stress use to some extent, to some healthy extent to the extent that to motivate you to help that, you know stretch out your hand with some help to those afflicted.

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This is the way this is these these are the types of stresses that are healthy. This is what the prophet had. Yep, there Allah subhanaw taala told them, do not overdo it.

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A lot of them are not enough. Second, there are many you are perhaps you will kill yourself.

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Out of grief, because they're they do not believe, you see his aspirations, his goals, his goals is to save humanity.

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Because he said that he is running after us, holding us from the waist, African, the physical, holding us from the waist, so that we do not fall into the hellfire. So his aspirations, his goals, to save humanity, he is he was he he was about to get himself out of grief because they are not accepting the faith and they are not submitting to God.

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If you have similar, not necessarily to the point to the degree of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, but if you try to make of yourself someone who has who's bigger, bigger.

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In other words, your soul is bigger, your aspirations your your your home, your worries, your worries about your own, you know, the profit salon, some of them

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anyway, the,

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your worries about your own your worries about your people, then believe me that the personal problems will become quite trivial, and they will become easy to cope with, very easy to cope with. Because you see that, you know,

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if you truly if you feel that you are part of the body,

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when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam describes the believers as one body, if you believe that

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you're you're a part of the body, and then you see

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should not be a treatment of the person.

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If you believe that you're part of the body, and then you see, you see, like,

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one of the children, for instance, in the streets of

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any place, you know, I always remember Palestine because, you know, I'm from Egypt. So it's,

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you know, it's our biggest problem. But if you see like a child, you know,

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being shot in the streets,

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if you feel that this is your child,

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it will make a lot of things easier for us. By the way, it makes it harder in some respects.

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But it makes it it makes it easier. I think after you know, after us you see this on TV.

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If the food is not well made, where if the food is not warm,

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you're not going to be upset with your wife, you know, I don't think that

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you will have any

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energy to

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to get upset over anything else.

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Okay, so I think that the issue here is that were consumed into our ego. And if we

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if we put ourselves in the right place as part of this part of the body part of the bigger body, then our own personal problems will

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fall in into the right perspective and then you will have put them in the right place.

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The next tip is to mix with the right crowd, the right people.

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I think it is extremely important for depressed people to mix with people to mix with people, but mix with people who are going to help you because there are people who can hurt you further. But mixing and mingling masala Dini fidelity for younger after comunicado everyone follows the religion of his comrades so that one of you choose carefully, his friends, his companions, choose them

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carefully. But you need to mix with people and you need to be involved in activities, you need to be doing things to help to help our people you're mixing with people with people will also diminish your own distress. If you go out to senior homes and help out some of the senior Muslims. You know, it will give you a lot of joy and a lot of pleasure that will that you can carry with you for the rest of your week. You know, if you go out just once a week, and then bring some happiness to their hearts. that will that will bounce back. Believe me It should bounce back. And if it doesn't bounce back there is a problem but it should and then you should get a lot of this

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pleasure and, and happiness and you should carry it with you for the rest of your week. You go back to them you go to visit someone who's sick and so on and so forth. So I think that all of these activities are excellent, excellent remedies for depression and distress and mixing with the right crowd.

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is extremely important.

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The next one is to try to be a minimalist as much as you can. And this is an advice for all of us, including myself, you know, don't buy things that you don't need, just don't clutter your life. Because our life is so much cluttered, and by things and objects and goals that are, you know, sometimes not very,

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not very wholesome at times, and not very, you know, important to times, etc. So don't cover your life with these things I would do.

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the long run, we used to say allow many out to becoming synthetic,

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while I seek refuge in You from

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Chicago, Carl boothby, the dispersion over the plate version of the heart and the dispersion the version of the heart.

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And then they will ask him, you know, your heart is torn, and your heart is, is cut up and torn. The they asked him, What is this? What are the and he says an akuna like he couldn't the web where they meant

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to have wealth or to have property in every Valley, which means in every place, our property here property there and, and well, here, you have camels here, cows, their agricultural land, houses, etc. So he you say,

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you say allow many other governments another togo ally seek refuge in You from the day version of the heart, because these things all can divert your thoughts? From the one objective? This does not mean that as Muslims, we are not to own money?

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No, but as I said, the brother said, you know, one of the brothers said,

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the belief in predestination caused the Muslims to be to become so much behind. It did not cause the early Muslims who understood it well, to become behind. It actually made them the builders of civilizations. You know, we say this over and over and over.

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They build the build civilizations, after they were conflicting tribes, the Muslims,

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all of the Muslim land

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that extended from China, to Morocco, the built great civilizations, the we said, the former CEO of Hewlett Packard said without the Arabs, in other words, the Muslims because the, you know, they wrote in Arabic, so all of them were called Arabs. Without the Arabs, we would have not had computers.

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Because without the Arabs, there have not been algebra algebra is is a Muslim invention, is a Muslim science, the cat, the Canon Canon by ever center

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it is always called area but the center was from Uzbekistan. But when he wrote the Quran, and he wrote it in Arabic, because it was a global language, they wanted to globalize their, their knowledge. So instead of writing in your local language, you write in Arabic, you go to and had a few manuscripts will be spread out from Indonesia, to Morocco. And then your knowledge within one year can be benefited from from Indonesia to Morocco, just by going to HUD, and writing in Arabic and go into hearts. And then those manuscripts can be sent out to places as far as you know, in from Indonesia to Morocco. So the Canon by way of, you know, in the words of William Osler, the founder

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of the Medical Library,

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Oxford and Johns Hopkins professor.

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He said that the Canon was the medical Bible in Europe more than any other book for 300 years.

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And there is so much to say, but they didn't understand the 12 understand that they created predestination. Well, it was a motivating, positive force, not a negative force. And as a German orientalist, put it, he said, it's amazing how the one creed of predestination made a difference for the Muslims the earlier and the latter Muslims. For the earlier Muslims, it wasn't a positive force, and it taught them about sacrifice.

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it taught them about sacrifice and effort, putting effort into things that's what Jihad comes from effort. And and it earned them great victories and successes. But for the latter Muslims, it was a negative force that taught them in difference.

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lazyness until they completely departed from the caravan of history, or from from history, they are out of

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human history. And this is true to some extent, it is true that we corrupted the belief, the belief is for us to have this DoDEA and hold it in your hand, and keep it away from your heart. But have it you are commanded to have it, it is an obligation to have it. And now when we said, you know, and not only now, but I'm just as an example, he said that learning science and math is a communal obligation, communal obligation. So these things we have to have, we have what you hold in your hand away from your heart, you can be a billionaire,

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that could be a Muslim Bill Gates,

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there is no problem at all whatsoever, he could be a millionaire. But yet, all of this, no matter how big it is, it is that in your hand, but it is not in your heart. In other words, you control it, but it doesn't control you. You control it, but it does not control you. So learn as much as you can, to not clutter your life, to not have a lot of needs and wants and desires. You know, you can excel you can be accomplished, you can be achieved, but don't have a lot of interesting interests, or a needs and wants and desires because they can certainly clutter in your life. The next one, the next point is is worship, worship as a means of you know, seeking comfort. And this is prescribed by

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the prophet, the prophet is to say the rationale behind Abdullah give us comfort with overland Salah, the prayer give us comfort, it is a source of comfort, but it is not any solid. If it is just going to be up and down, then this is

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physical effort that may or may not be desirable. But you know, just up down it. But there's a lot that will be you know, you get ready and easy make your will do and then you go and meet your Lord that that understand that behind. You know I'm getting ready now to meet my Lord, to speak with him to converse with him to dialogue with him. If that is the sense, or the vibe is the sensation or that's the feeling that you have, before you embark on the prayer that prayer will be a source of pleasure and comfort. That is for sure. So I like the bed. And then to excel in one type of a bed. Try to have a type of eye rather than most loved love to you or most likeable and then try to excel

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in it. specialize specialize in this idea that some people specialize in CRM. Some people specialize in Zika fast in charity, some people specialize in you know the good works of you know, visiting the second and these will good works. But if you specialize in Nevada that I bet that will be

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your best source of comfort.

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for recreation is also important. Recreation is is important smiling rejuvenation, recreation trips, and so on and so forth. Because of poop the man of the butterfly, medallist reports without even the thought of said

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no clue But America mathematical evidence, empirical data, even Heckman. They've never thought of me a lot these days. hemiola be pleased with him said that the hearts get bored as much as the bodies get tired. So seek for them.

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Why is tales of humor? Why is tales of humor. So there is got to be some humor the prophets Allah Salam himself that the greatest and most important man in this whole universe that does not be lifted up to have some sense of humor. Because the greatest the most important man in the history of humanity had a sense of humor, and he would make jokes. And then like an older woman would come to him and talk to him about her husband, and he would tell her, her husband to his wife and his eyes, and she says I have no he doesn't have wife and his eyes because wife and his eyes meant calorie mental disease color to them. And then she keeps on telling him No, he doesn't and he doesn't eat as

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well. And then he tells everybody has widened his eyes. I have like my eyes. You everybody has widened.

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So it is the break the ice with this with this woman who is distressed to break the ice. And

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his sense of humor was known and we would race with ice as you'd beat him once he would be fun once you're done with her. That's all recreation that is all reasonably. That's all my

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Smiling is a practice by the way, smiling is a practice, there are people who are always frowning. And this is not, this is not a good idea, because this physical, physical,

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that state will affect your emotional state. If you're if your face is frowning, that will affect your heart and the heart affects the face, it is both ways. You know the Prophet sallahu wa sallam used to alert us to this fact.

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After you know when he says

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that will let us study for further clarity for kulu bukem do not, do not miss a line, lest your hurts will be at variance.

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Do not miss a line when you straight up for the prayer, do not miss a line less your hearts will be at variance. So the physical state will affect your emotional state. So if you

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and then the Prophet says another animal with Allah, why not head over to handle? Verily becoming knowledgeable is by seeking knowledge and becoming patient is by practicing patience. So these things you can practice and learn how to do so a little bit of a smile and try it. That would do you a lot of good because that will start to then reflect on your heart as much as your heart reflects in your body. The other way around can happen as well.

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And the next point would be about supplications supplications. That that is extremely extremely important because that's your connection with Allah. Allah there are many applications that the Prophet thought is particularly those who are distressed. Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran and sort of in MLM may use evil Matera is that I will actually Sue which translates

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assets or who listens to the distress when he calls on Him and who relieves his suffering.

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One of the one of them is the drop of a tube it's a great what you buy is another of the who and the instructor and via what you buy another name is Sonny adore one Tara Murakami. He say this or be in New rabine Macedonia good ones are from Russia, me. So you repeat this with yourself. Oh Allah, I have been touched by this stress, whereby harm and distress and you are the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy. You're the most Merciful of all those who showed mercy Club The name is Sonny upload our hammer Rahimi and you all know the affliction of Hollister and Allah subhanaw taala save them from this affliction, that all of the new items I have saved noon assignment

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that you know hotlanta satanic in the Continental Army. He said that in the womb of the

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stomach of the whale.

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La ilaha illa Anta subhanak in the Continental Army, there is no god but you glory beats you. I was one of the wrongdoers.

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Remind yourself also of this area that the believers used to say that there's I can it sorts of,

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you know, convictions do not just get acquired like this by mere you know, mental exercise you get can you get a conviction or you get like an established faith in something it is practice it is repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition, that grows your faith. So the more you say Polonius, even a llama cuttable Alana,

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the more you will really believe it, you will really feel for learning cebuana illa marketable level, which translates as,

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say nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allah has ordained for us. He's our Lord and protector. And in a law let the believers put their faith who are most likely to I can admit our kiddos, he is our Lord and protector and in a lot of the believers put their faith or their trust. So just to repeat it, let him see but I illimitable Lola has to be allowed Admiral Keith also the same, the same meaning Allah sufficient for me and he is the best Disposer of all affairs. All of these just repetition will help relieve the distress. Also when the prophets Allah sent them locked into the message and found that will never seen the message. And it was not time for prayer. He said

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to him, what is keeping you here and he told him about his dress, the stresses and so on. He taught him this thought he taught him

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Got to say it in the morning and evening Alemany I'll go bigger. They'll have me. When hasn't all I seek refuge new from and have worries and hazard? grief, harm, worries about the future. This anxiety

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hasn't. That's about the past. That is sadness depression. Hammond hasn't worries in grief. Oh ally seek refuge from him.

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An anxiety worries and sadness grief hasn't all the big terminology or curses seek refuge in You from weakness

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and laziness. Were also becoming and Germany or both I seek refuge in You from cowardice and

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stinginess or miserliness were also become invalid, they knew about a bit of reserved our character.

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And I seek refuge in You from the burden of debt can be overwhelmed by men being overwhelmed being under the control of men. So you should always seek to be only under control over the last minute odd.

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rows have become invalid, they need clarity, I seek refuge in You from the burden of debt and from being overwhelmed by man and ever God which is very, very helpful.

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And I can send those files to Massoud and he can forward them to anyone

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who wants who wants attention. Another guy which is very helpful is that say that is the

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law many of the governor of the governor Mr. Technology it via the modern theory of unfair cabal.

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No, that's another one. But this is that by the names of the names and attributes of allows what which is, which is a great way to relieve the distress alarm in the opposite corner of the covenant. ametek Oh, ally, I'm your servant, son of your servants some of your maid servant, nausea antibiotic my fallback is in your hand, not northern fear hook murkier decree upon me shall come to pass are going to cover your decree or your judgment or decree upon me is all fair. And just I don't actually check.

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As I look at the code list Meanwhile, like I asked you by every name that you have submitted, the enough security have given to yourself how Harlem Tijuana, toxic thought to one of your servants, how and delta will be revealed in one of your books. How's the delta V if you're not available, or preserved in the knowledge of unseen of the unseen with you? And that's out of Colorado v. Mara, vr COVID, viola saverio Zahra what I have, that you make the great glorious career, the comfort of my heart,

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or the pleasure of my heart, the light of my chest

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and the relief relief from my distress. And

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from my worries and anxiety.

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The last

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here is the medicine

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and you know, chemical intervention, chemical intervention. Many times people try their best and try to work on it as much as they can. But yeah, the there is like

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an obstacle to beach scan to get around and maybe make chemical intervention in this case.

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Maybe it could be helpful to intervene with Prozac.

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Zoloft, Paxil, Lexapro, Celexa, all of these names, it's all about serotonin and serotonin is a hormone that will increase the

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that will affect your mood that will elevate your mood. It's a mood enhancer.

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It's a more than hanser and all of these medications are to increase your serotonin. You can use those medications but after you have done all of the

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aforementioned Techniques To Overcome to prevent her and overcome yourself as he still can use them the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said alaikum bittel Bina in the gym out the gym. What doesn't happen without that person I prescribed for you to be there which is boys Barbie, for it brings comfort to Jomo Calabar, Marie Forleo brings comfort to the heart of the sick and takes away some of the sadness. Why boiled barley? You know, because that's what the prophet said so we believe it

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but maybe part of it is that a lot of people now drink wine and barley. And it is it is sold

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for for sadness

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Because barley has strapped to fat and chip to fat as a precursor of serotonin, so these are the settings here you know, not Muslims the sell, sell barley and they advertise it as a mood enhancer, a mood enhancer? How do you make this the veena it has stripped of a trip to fat as the main precursor of serotonin and barley is full of tryptophan. And if you just Google barley and tryptophan, you'll find a lot of articles on this issue.

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How do you make it into being a oboe in the barley boil the barley until it's a bit thick, and then you add honey to it,

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and then eat it once or twice a day, three times a day you can have any and it could be helpful as a source of serotonin. It is even better than the medicine because it's natural and it gives you the it gives it to you over extended period of time. And it is not like pulses it is consistent.

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Yeah, if that does not work, for them, the medicine certainly is, is indicated in this case.

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Before you do this, you have to implement all those techniques. And you have to also do some lifestyle changes. One of those

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is the eternal natural foods.

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Try to avoid the complex food that you buy from the supermarket, you know, one thing has like 200 ingredients, try to be more natural than your eating habits. He's more than that your eat more natural food, more fiber, less meat, etc. That's what we certainly can have can have a lot of helpful effects on you, the leafy vegetables as well, they could help

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so change your eating habits and eat healthy food. Healthy Food grows on trees and in farm in, you know, in the land, it is not made in factories. So that is how you define healthy food. If it if it comes from a tree or from the land, then it's probably healthy. And it's probably good for you. If it comes from a factory, when you eat, ask yourself how they made it. If there is too much process to make it, then the more complex it is, the less healthy it will be.

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Exercise is also extremely important. And this is an advice for me and you don't get offended, losing weight is helpful. Losing weight is helpful to the psyche, to the mood to your emotional well being. So if you are somewhat overweight, it is advisable eniola goodness or like * for me.

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So from the left, that's great, but if one of you has a little bit more than he should have, then you want to lose this because that certainly would have some help

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exposing yourself to the sun also is helpful This is advisable there is there chemical relationship and psychological relationship between sun exposure and the relief of the stress and the pressure. So, exposing yourself to the sun is helpful.

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And that's why it is it is important for the sisters who do not go out to work that you as a spouse, take them out

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take them outside make sure that they are not left at home and that they get some form of recreation

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but by by just going outside with you and you know going to the masjid you know the companions, female companions used to go to the masjid for federal license. So, just take your wife to the masjid for ice every day

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this year

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and then if you implement all of those techniques,

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you are

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inshallah you will be inshallah immune against the debilitating handicap handicapping depression or sadness.

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But you will not be immune against all kinds of sadness, because some of the sadness is prescribed, the motivating the moving sadness is as prescribed and it is not

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convertible in any way. I ask Allah subhanaw taala to relieve the distress of all the distress and to bring us

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a much needed comfort in our hearts and to

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make our purpose in this life one which is to earn his pleasure and to make our pursuit in this life. One, which is to get closer to him and make that person

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So the successful ones, like my famous

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