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Prevention and Treatment of Depression 1

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smilla from the loss Rasul Amano sorella

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inshallah, today we will talk about practical tips. We'll talk about the treatment and

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more importantly the prevention of depression. And it is a valid question to ask ourselves can a Muslim be depressed?

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In reality? Yes, there are a lot of Muslims who are depressed. In fact there are.

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There is a tone of depression that that many, many many Muslims have.

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And when we talk about the prevention and treatment of depression, we talk about what the Muslims should be like. We're not saying that the Muslims should never have any form of distress, because that is not that's not human. It is human to become distressed at some point or the other, it's human, to become depressed or sad, at some point in your life, and it is human to have such reaction to events that take place, you know, the action of sadness or grief. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam himself said, we're in Africa, Ibrahim, Lama Hassan, and we are saddened by your departure, or Abraham or over him the son of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So he was saddened by his

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departure, Allah subhanaw taala also says to the Prophet, la la cabeza en necec, la una mini kinosol Allah humanism Aya favela,

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you are, perhaps he will kill yourself with grief because they are not believers because they do not believe that's what Allah says to the prophet or something. Perhaps he will kill yourself with grief or out of grief, because they do not believe so the prophet SAW Selim was saddened and distressed by the fact that his people are not accepting Islam or not submitting to a loss pinata.

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So when we talk about, you know, the treatment, prevention and treatment of depression, we're not saying that we will take away every form of distress, but we will take away we should take away as Muslims the distress that is hindering impeding that cripples you that prevents you that was, you know, withholds you from performing your functions. And from being an active productive, you know, member a healthy member in this community, in the community of Muslims in the nation of Muslims in this oma that is the depression that is forbidden because there is forbidden depression. Allah says when I say you know what 1001 to one Allah wanna in consumer money, and do not be weak, and do not

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be sad, and what happens? No, and do not be sad. And when you are the supreme, if you are true believers, when you are the superior, if you are true believers. So if we're true believers, then we are forbidden, forbidden from weakness and sadness, how could you be forbidden? How could it sadness be prohibited? It is the sadness that is debilitating. It is the sadness that is crippling, it is the sadness that prevents you from performing your functions, your responsibilities, from living up to your responsibility towards yourself, towards your family, towards your community, and so on and so forth. This does not mean that we will all be

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super happy all the time. I mean, because there's also, you know, if you're if you're never saddened by anything, it's reflect some form of indifference, some form of

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apathy, indifference, etc. It's just not right, because you will have to interact properly, appropriately, with events and news that can come your way. So, if you hear that, you know, some Muslims have been

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afflicted by an earthquake for instance, I mean, that is 70 that is not something that you will hear about it, but it is the sadness that will not cripple you, it is the sadness that will motivate you to help out. But that will not cripple you that will not cause you to be

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suppress or that will not

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eat up your your energy because sadness sometimes can can devour your energy.

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Some people because of their sadness, they completely have no energy to do anything, they're just completely handicapped.

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So, what we will be talking about, we will talk about we will be talking about the prevention and treatment of this sadness that is crippling, not the not the sadness that is motivating, because there is sadness that is motivating. And if we don't have that type of sadness, then we have indifference.

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And we are

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getting consumed into ourselves where we're not, we were not part of this unknown part of this body, but were consumed into ourselves with with our indifference.

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Well, the first thing that you know now the prevention and treatment of sadness, after we know which sadness we're talking about,

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the first

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the first treatment of sadness is at the heat.

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At the heat, to be a true monotheistic to be a true monotheistic worshipper of one true eternal, unique God, which is a law. That is the first remedy of the stress and sadness, how could it be? How could it be? And what's the proof that you know that polytheism would cause you distress? It causes you great distress, enormous distress a Lost Planet? Allah says in the Quran,

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a lot of a local method and Roger lengthy he Shoraka omata shocky soon What Roger and Sarah mela Raja Holly Estonian, a masala Alhamdulillah Bell accelero home Lai Alamo mode, Allah put forth a parable

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Jimin Jimin, who has multiple partners, multiple masters that are at variance between themselves

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and another man who only has one master, one Roger and selama, Roger, completely devoted to this one master Holly so any method or those two parables equal in comparison, and hamdulillah All Praise be to Allah, but actual external one lie Allah moon, yet most of them have no knowledge.

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Or however most of them have no knowledge. This man that is that is serving multiple deities, historian between the multiple deities, Roger Fisher, aka motorcyclists on multiple partners at variance between themselves, and he's serving all of them and try to serve all of them, and to try to please all of them, that will cause you enormous distress. But as a worshipper of one true God, your all of your efforts, all of your energy, all of your aspiration is to please that one true God which is very easy to please.

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Allah subhanaw taala is easy to please because he guarantees he guarantees that if you seek Him, He will come to you. If you draw closer to Him, by one hand length, He will draw closer to you by one arm length and so on and so forth. And if you come to him walking, he will come to your running. So he is guaranteed you know, if you try to please Him, you will be able to please him if you do

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if you do your part in pleasing Allah subhanaw taala so all of us have one deity calculate how come we're depressed.

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The deity the deity is do not have to be stones or trees or you're worshipping, fire worshipping, you know,

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prophet or an Enzo you could be worshiping yourself.

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Because Allah, Allah says in the Quran, Have you not seen him who has taken for a god his own desires? Definitely. Ilaha Hauer? Allah subhanaw taala also, the Prophet sallahu wa sallam also indicated that some people could be worshipers of money. Some people could be worshippers of good clothing like fine clothing, etc. The prophet SAW Selim says pious after dinner, may be distressed the slave of dinar, the gold currency currency, may he be distressed the slave of a theorem dies after dinner at the silver currency.

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May he be distressed the slave of cultivo Cammisa to the different types of clothing.

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may be the

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stress. And

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may He

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promises I'm also sad to hear that that's not from the Prophet again is that if he got pricked by a thorn may not be removed from him, even if he got pricked by authority may not be removed from him, because that person who took for a guard for a deity, you know, the fine clothing, for instance, or it could be anything by the way, it could be multiple things. It could be anything that will distract you from your objectives distract you from this

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from the unity of purpose, from the oneness of purpose, your only purpose should be the pleasure of God. So anything that is that is going to be distracting you from that, from that purpose, whether it's going to be distracting you by having

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too much thought about it, like you're thinking about it all day all night.

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Or you're seeking it at the expense of displeasing Allah, Allah or using it in ways that are displeasing to Allah.

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So you'll love your like cars for instance, and no matter what you're gonna buy this car because you like cars and cars could be your deity and or your god you like fine clothing and you do everything to get what you want you like, you know,

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big homes you like money you like to save

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you like you like your spouse, you're like your spouse to the point of displeasing Allah subhanaw taala to please her or him, you like a particular person, any person. So any any of these could could become a form of a deity and could distract you from pleasing Allah subhanaw taala in this case, your hearts will be torn in between many things, and in this case you'll be caused tremendous distress. So, just make it one.

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Make your purpose your goal your objective in this life one and if you make it one last panel tada will take care of all of your worries, all of your concerns and all of your needs.

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The second thing that is important in the in the relief of the stress or the treatment, or prevention and treatment of, of the stress and sadness

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is the belief in predestination or the belief in Qatar, Qatar and Cuba or Qatar, the Divine Decree, the Divine Will.

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Now, this belief, how could it help us prevent the stress or sadness entry? First of all, you will have to understand that Allah who Holly Coco Haleakala say in aqualisa in Turkey, as a lot of us isn't sort of zomer Allahu Holly who coolly say, well, who are liquidly say in wiki, Allah is the Creator of all things. And he is the guardian and Disposer of all affairs, and he is the guardian and Disposer of all affairs. What does that mean to us? They know that Allah subhanaw taala is the creator of all things. That means that you will know that Allah is the maintainer, the controller of this universe, nothing happens in this universe, not only objects, but events alike creates them,

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brings them to existence. Not only that, he creates the objects, but he also creates the events. So no event takes place in this universe, that is not under the control of Allah subhanaw taala. How does this help, it helps by having your heart together again, there will be no dualism, you know, and no tribalism, there is only one person in control. So in this case, your heart will not be torn between two deities, if you believe that Allah subhanaw taala only decrease the good things, and someone else decrease the bad things that will tear your heart apart between the two different deities, the God of good and the God of evil. Because if someone, if someone creates the bad things

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or does the bad things under, you know, a loss control, then

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there is a lot whole career who's who's creating them and so I was bringing them to existence, if that deity wherever,

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you know, cause cause is under his control. And in this case, it will not be a creator it will be just a cause. Now that creator but if this cause is in control, if you believe that it bleeds for instance, is in fact in control

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Then it leaves then is a God for you. It is not a creature that is under a lot of control. It is not a creature that will like and destroy at any moment. It is not a creature that has no power, save the power given to him by Allah, it is a God for you, if you believe that he is in control, that he causes or brings about the disasters that take place here there, then you your belief is therefore corrupted, but we believe that everything comes from a loss kind of that which is

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that which is

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evil, in our perception may have a higher wisdom that we cannot completely comprehend but it is all from Allah subhanaw taala and that would help again, keeping your hearts together.

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The second part about that will cover that will also be relieving to our distress is to know that as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, while Amanda Masada akademia Coolio takoma park, Allah Miyako, Lucy like I know that what ever had

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he would have never missed you and whatever has missed you would have never hit you.

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It is done. It's a done deal. It is all decreed. Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran masaba mercy button fill out the RFP and fussy come in, pick it up man Calibri and abraha in Nevada, La Jolla. See, no affliction befalls on the earth or in yourselves except that it is inscribed in a book before we bring it to existence. Verily, this is easy for Allah Michaela. So Alana Federico Walla

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Walla, Walla, hypokalemic, Talon support that you may not I told you this, that you may not have excessive grief over that which you missed.

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Or excessively rejoice in that which you have gained. Over that's what she we have given you. Or Allah gave you?

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Well, I will tell him for her and Allah does not like every prideful booster, the booster and the proud. So

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while the last one I thought it is in this area is that everything that happens, a lot brought into existence, and it was inscribed in a book before it was brought to existence. It was inscribed in the book 50,000 years before a lot created the heavens and the earth has the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said an authentic hadith was reported by Muslim. So 50,000 years before Allah created the heavens and the earth. Everything was inscribed in a low head muffles the preserved tablet? How does this help us to know that it was all in scrape? How does it help us to know that whatever whatever had hit us would have never missed this would ever have missed this would have never had us.

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If it helps you with all the you know the the afflictions that had already been befall in you. If if you were afflicted by major loss, loss of wealth, loss of sight loss of this or that, you know that you would have never been able to avoid. It was inevitable. It would no matter what you've done. It was it was not possible to avoid it. Because regret. Regret is a major source of stress for people to say how they done this. That is why the Prophet sallahu wa sallam said in the Hadith, while attacco la Kanika de la Cana Kava Kava. Well I can call Qatar Allahu Allah Safar or federal law, so far. So and do not say, had had had it done this, it would have been like this. But say, this was a

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lie. This is what a law had decreed. And he brought to existence or he executed his decree, Qatar, Allahu Allah says, Allah, this is what Allah had decreed. And he executed his decree. And let's say he recreated the excusable degree. Does this make us indifferent as Muslims? No, because this is about events that already took place. But what about events that have not taken place? You do your best except you do your best. You take precautions. You make provisions, like the prophet SAW someone did when he made the hedra. He planned he made provisions like the Sahaba always did. They were never indifferent. They were never, you know, people who do things.

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haphazardly? No, they were people who plan very well the people who executed their plan.

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very accurately, and that is why they were successful. But when something happens, he learned the lessons from it if you if there were shortcomings, if there were shortcut if there were shortcomings on your part, you learn the lessons from that event that happened in the past, yet, you know, that it was not enough it was inevitable, it is what not it was not avoidable, no matter what you have done, because it was the already decreed. So that relieves you, so that you can always be positive in your thinking and you can be always moving forward, forward, what happens happen? So what should we do now, is the attitude that you should have, based on the Akita, of color or color. The other

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thing that you need to know about the color or color

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is that you have one of two choices, you have the choice of patience, or the choice of

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being been distressed and grieve. And

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no matter what, what option you or what route you will fake, the decree will come to be executed, the decree will come to take place.

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How even be thought about the Allahu Allah be pleased with him, set in Mecca in Sabah, Jawaharlal Daro anthem, when desert gerontological anthem. So if you show patience, the decrees will come to take place.

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And you shall be rewarded or you will be rewarded. And if you showed the stress, and impatience, that decrease will take place, and you will be punished. So choose for yourself, choose whichever route for yourself, because the decrees of Allah subhanaw taala are not stoppable. He can't stop the grace of Allah subhanaw taala. So choose for yourself, to accept them. Or to,

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to reject or to have patience or impatience, choose for yourself, the people who accept are people who can cope when and can move forward, the people who reject and the people who have denial and you know, and they go through the many stages, because they have lack of acceptance, lack of submission,

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they can go through a state of denial and then a state of shock. And then the coping starts afterwards, could be very slow, they may not be able to cope at all, you know, some people have what's called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, because they can't take I mean, something happened in the past, they just can't cool. And that is not what Muslims should do, you know that this is going to happen, this happens. This is this was unavoidable. Therefore, it is one of two routes, be patient and get rewarded, or be distressed and impatient. And then you will get punished for your rejection of a loss decree and your impatience which will cause you to do wrong.

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The next point that is important also is to know that

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that you are not being affected, because you are bad, necessarily.

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You're not necessarily being affected because you're bad. Because this is very important for many people, because many people what compounds their grief is that they feel that they are curse. That is why things are not working out for them. And many people many times you hear this from people hear from people that you know it is not working out for me so I'm afraid that I am

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cursed or I'm afraid that I am too far from Allah subhanaw taala for Allah does not mean good, or well for me, this is untrue. This is untrue. This could be true. But this is not necessarily true. You know, don't always think this way. Because the affliction can be to raise your end ranks, and to raise your decree, degree and elevate you and to reward you and erase your sins. So the flexion itself can be an enormous source of blessing for the person and a lot of thought it is not only a flick. The back doors are larger eyes, the back doors and the good doors. But many times the bad doors are tried for their own destruction. And the good doors are tried for their own innovation and

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to purify them from their sins.

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You know, all of us remember the hadith of Saudi Arabia because when he asked the Prophet sallallahu Sallam man as a danesi, Bella and color and via from Alam Salford

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wala Padilla Dini, in words of the feeding in Sabah, Ziva ALLAH hafiz Bella

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Dini

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Raqqa Syria has been at

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the southern province of Southern Who are the people who are the most afflicted or most tried, the prophet said the prophets and those who are closest and those who are closest to the, you know, the ranking of the prophets. Everyone will be tested and tried according to his, his, the, the strength of his Deen. So if he is, if he was found to be stronger than his Deen, the triune will be

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increased for him. And if he was found to have some weakness in his D in the trial will be decreased or limited

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or lightened for him. So if you look, if you look at this era of Latvia, if you look at the Newman, for instance, and how much he suffered, and if you look at our profits or something, and how much he suffered, and if you look at all of the envy and the suffering, you'll be able to recognize this fact, that reflection is not only for bad people affection could be for the bad, or the good. Because have Allah subhanaw taala has selected only the bad or the good. All the people who would have been

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one side, if afflictions only came to the bad or the people that have been good. And if afflictions only came to the good or only the good were affected all the people that have been bad.

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Allah says in the current load and equalness Oh my God, my extra duty I'm so confident on arizal they have

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and had had it not been that people would have been one nation one type, good or bad doors, we would have given to those who are extra bereft man, those who reject a rough man the Most Merciful or do not believe in the Most Merciful, we would have given them houses that have

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stairways of silver.

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We have given them abundance, abundance, because we do not care about this life. Allah tells us in this area, that he doesn't care about this life. And he can get he would give the disbelievers houses whose stairways are made of silver in this life, but he did not say that the people do not become one nation or one fight, because he had he done this all the people that have been disbelievers. But the opposite is true. If alone he reflects the good doers are the people the bad doors, and if he only reflects the evil doors, or the people bigger doors, and then there will be no test in this life. No test in this life or not right? So I'll fix all the old yet for the reflection

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for the good doers will be further innovation and purification and for the bad doers will defer the destruction. So how do you measure?

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Or how do you judge whether your reflection was for you or against you? It is by

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your course your path after the selection which courses have you taken which path Have you taken Have you have the has the affliction brought you back to Allah has the affection may be closer to Allah or farther away, if it may be closer to Allah than it was for your purification, and elevation and if it gets you farther away from him than it was for your destruction, that is how we can judge the affliction. But But, but know that it is not necessarily because you're bad. It is not necessarily because you're cursed, that you are being afflicted or things are not working out for you. They may not be working out for you because Allah is telling you that this is not the right

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path maybe you want to choose this path. This is not the right way and maybe you want to choose a different way. The next thing that is quite helpful also is certainty in the greater rewards stored for the patient one's certainty in the greater reward. That's a last panel data stores for those who are patient, Alice's and sort of Baccarat and everyone can be say in a coffee while jewelry are not sentimental and why do you want unfussy? What camera obscura savarin levina valsalva Tomas Eva Carlo in LA LA here in LA Roger on what I call him salata, Mira, ba ma, ma, ma, ma, ma ma ma.

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And we shall try you and test you with something of fear,

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hunger and loss of wealth,

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lives and fruits

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and give glad tidings for the ones who are patient. Those who say when afflicted, we belong to Allah and to Him we shall return

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In Mariela here in LA Roger, we belong to align to him We shall return Allah, Allah Himself, for those blessings will descend upon them and mercy and for and those are the guided ones. And those are the guidelines. So that word is blessings and mercy and guidance what else you want.

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Without reference Abdullah would say that if

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everything happened to me every affliction happened to me in this life. And Allah subhanaw taala just gave me this reward that would have been sufficient because blessings, mercy and guidance, what else do you need, but you need to say and this needs needs to be your first response to the affliction in Aleppo en la hora Jo, we belong to align to him We shall return the inner laminaria Roger needs to be studied by the way, this is a very big application this is

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you know, the chemistry of the girl that comes in the Quran or the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is, has to be studied, it is not. It's not simple.

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Love the prophets Allah solemn, and the God comes in the in the Qur'an is miraculous. In Allahu La Habra, Joan, we belong to Allah. So whatever he does to us, we are His, we are His, whatever he does us, he is going to give you everything in the first place, you are nothing your mother conceived you but she did not oversee your creation inside the womb, she did not oversee the creation of your site, the creation of your tongue in the creation of every part of your body. Yes, she can see you, but who did all of this, it was a law. So we are His. So when he takes something back, that He has given you, you are his know that you are his, if he takes something back from you, it is his because

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all of you your entirety, belong, belong to Him. So, that is the first part and to Him we shall return to Him we shall return also needs to be contemplated pondered over to him We shall return means that no matter what we lose, now, we are all going back to him. So we are all going to die, no matter what you lose now, because you're leaving goal of this, and you are returning to Allah subhanaw taala. So what you need to carry with you,

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to carry with you on this trip, not the wealth that you lost. It is the patience that you have after this affliction. That is the most important treasure that you will need to carry back to Allah subhanaw taala when you return to Him, you lost some wealth. So what you are, you're going to leave it anyway. Sooner or later, you're leaving it. So now what do you need to carry on this trip? It is the patients, it is not the money that you lost, or it's not the job that you lost. So the intellectual energy our own has to be said, with feelings, you know, not just the words, in Allah, we belong to Allah, and to Him we shall return. We are his, whatever he takes away from us. It was

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his he's the one who gave it to us. And to him, we shall return we're leaving all of this and returning to him. So make sure that when you meet him, you have the right sustenance for yourself, you know that will that we'll get you through.

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So this is a part of the reward and I'm not going to go into the word for the patient because there is so much to say about the orange for the patient.

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But the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said and it was reported by tirmidhi from ebihara Mazda Bella the men feola de WOMAD he went FC he had AMC,

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theater Calloway Sally, happy that the Bella or the affliction would continue to befall the believer in his offspring, his wealth and in himself until he meets Allah with no sense with no sense. So that is an important part of the reward for the patient ones. Also under 70 Malik says when he interpreted the area in the main office of urine as Andrea said, he says that the people will be brought, you know, people have sycophancy I've had you will be brought before Allah subhanaw taala. In my office I've known as ramadasa. Most certainly the patient ones will be given the reward without reckoning. So as of nomadic was explaining to the people how are they going to be given the

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reward without reckoning

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Without calculation, without, you know, accounting or anything, they, it will be poured on them as he said, that the people of the Catherine cm and Hud would be brought before Allah subhanaw taala and everyone will get dizzy word

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after the scales or, you know, the you know, the scales will be established, and the scriptures will be spread out for everyone, your scriptures your deeds are spread out for you, the scales will be established, and then your deeds will be weighed, your deeds will be weighed, and you will be subsequently and accordingly rewarded. He said except for the patient ones, they will be brought forth before Allah subhanaw taala and no skill will be established, and no scriptures will be spread out. But the reward will be poured on them, you're allowed to see me as the cattle hogs, pheasant sobre, noisy,

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noisy in the way, some may have found

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the country I'll marry him, for me with a bit of a sub felt I also bought a home isn't what I own Shalom, the one in the main sub body morogoro sub.

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So in this case, the reward for patience is greater than the reward of the other deeds. Why is it so? Why is it so because patience reflects reflects that you know that this is coming from God your Lord, it reflects the recognition of Allah subhanaw taala and respect for a Lost Planet Allah and submission to Allah subhanaw taala. So it reflects recognition, respect and submission. And it also reflects you reflect your good thoughts of Allah, you know, that he's the most merciful. So you're patient, because you know, that there is a bigger reward for you, there is patience, because you know, that allowing make you up there is patience, because you know, that this is not the end, or it

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was not for your destruction, because you will continue to be his devoted servant. So it reflects all of this, all of these

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feelings, and all of this recognition, the recognition of his existence, his greatness, and that he is in control, this comes from him, you respect to him, you submit to His well and you hope in his reward and you hope that he will make up for it and you will hope that he will help you cope with it. So, that is that that is all you know, part of the process of patience.

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The next the next one is and we repeat this over and over. It is the your knowledge and your recognition of the value of this life, your knowledge and your recognition, your understanding your comprehension of the value of this life. And this idea, please read it over and over if you can never read it enough. This is the ion sort of added in the last part of sort of Hadid alamanda manhyia to dounia live on Willa Han was enough when was the factor on beynac mata castle to MIT What can I say very fun. algebric a foreigner vegetable from Egypt Pharaoh was for Miko putana an accurate read on federal criminal law he ordered one on a hire to dounia lm

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lm I never had to do any live on what I do know that the life the life of this world is only about playing amusement.

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Live on whether one was enough to win.

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What the federal different between a company and usual boasting amongst you. What's the concern for them while you are learning and seeking abundance, or rivalry in

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offspring and wealth

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and rivalry

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and rivalry in abundance of children and wealth was the Catherine kanessa device in algebra, co founder and about to the likeness of this life for the parable is like a rain. The visitations there with that comes with the rain. The visitations that come with the rain pleases the tellers, the farmers.

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Some Mayor he do because it's green and it is growing and green. It is like a child. You know, every you know if you see a child if you see a baby or a child, they're always pleasing to you know the people who have like, you know, the right sense because some people may not be pleased. But the normal people for the normal people outside certainly the sight of a child is a pleasing sight and so and so the visitation

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They're green and growing will please the farmers. So my agent for Tara homes Faraj and then it will dry up dry out and turn yellow. Some Connaughton and then it becomes straw satyavan salido peritoneal layer one and in the hereafter there is great torment and forgiveness from Allah and pleasure on how to donate a limited role. And the life This world is only by the receiving enjoyment is only but at the receiving enjoyment, you contemplate this parable 10 this is, this is enough. For us, this is enough for us to understand the value of this life, because it is happening in front of our eyes every day. You know,

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the trees, if you look at the trees, if you look at the leaves, that is what this life is about, look at the stages, look at the summer, and now it is becoming green. And then and then it will dry out. And then it will fall off the trees. This is you that you are one of those leaves, and you are exactly one of those leaves. And you dry out also, as we said before, several times, and I hope that you remember the percentages, how much water is there in a baby in the body of a baby. About 75 to 80% of the body of the baby is water? How much water is there in the body of an older man. It's about 50 to 55%

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you dry out you the wrinkles you're drying out. So you see it in front of your eyes and people and and then you see it also in the you know when when people die. And if that is not enough to make you really understand the value of this life,

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then there is nothing that will help you understand it.

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In this case, how does this relate to our topic here? How does the value of this life relate or topic? It relates? greatly? Certainly because what makes you the stress? What makes you the stress is that you're having some disagreement with your spouse is that you are you've lost your job is that you've lost some money is that you did not pass the exam. Has you lost a loved one.

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You lost some of your limbs or some of your senses.

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Things of that nature, things of that nature. And these things will happen what has to happen. But you know the poet says the Manhattan lab with the Manhattan Fattah whenever dentro de la familia, Serrano, serrano hamanaka nanopore cartoon was Serrano's run from a sophomore RFA a things that have to happen for everyone.

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Serrano ham one

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happiness and grief. What's the now on offer cutting, gathering and separation? What else Ramazan is on hardship? What's up more Lafayette? health and sickness are the disease and health. So we will go through these things and they make you distress. Because you value that you overvalue this life. Have you put this life in the right place? Have you known that this is transient, this is temporary, this is so short and so worthless, have it had it been worth anything a lot would have not given the disbeliever a sip of water, had it been worth jennife about had it been worth the wind given ski to a load have not given a disbeliever a sip of water from this life, but it is not worth it. So transy

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and consortial short

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about that when he exhorted the people of Assam. He said to him many years 30 min nouthetic Assad and bitter humaine who who would buy from your purchase purchase from me the state of Iowa. The people have had the people who were unlike any other nation greater than any other nation

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that they're in, you know, they were in someplace in in Yemen, between Yemen and Oman.

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And those those people where are they now? Where are they now they're gone. Who would buy their their estates and their you know,

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inheritance the inheritance survived was to their homes, no one

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they're gone and so would

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everyone.

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So that net understanding certainly does help us.

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Put put this right and put this life in the right place and once we put it in the right place, then

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The small parts of this life will be put in the right place subsequently, you know, all of it is put in the right place, it is really small, is really small. So now your wealth or you know the, the $15,000, that you lost,

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you know, if that is part of your wealth, which is part of this life, which is worthless, therefore, everything will be put in the right place, and you will have less grief and distress, you have to remember that, that this believers are the ones who should, should, because this life is their paradise, and if they have no belief in the Hereafter, and they have no certainty of the Hereafter, this is it for them. So, they should be grieving over it so much, not the believer who believes in the hereafter who believes that this life is only about a trial, a test, an examination room, you are in in the examination room, what you care about the most is your work, that will you know, the

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results that will be published, soon thereafter, you're not caring so much about the

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wallpaper, you know, in the examination room, you're not caring so much about the carpet, you're not caring so much, even if the even if it is hot, or too cold or too hot, you will ignore it. And you will keep on writing and you make sure that it is about the results that will be published thereafter. But if this life is it for you, you're not looking forward to the Hereafter, then it will be very distressful to, to lose parts or most of it. And that is why you find that a lot of people, you know, a lot of seniors who are very distressed, and I you know, and I'm not saying I'm not trying to be stereotypical, and I'm not trying to be, you know, like closed minded, but I did

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see some of the seniors back home, you know, and I did see some of the seniors who were

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full of, you know, full of happiness, full of contentment, full of energy. They used to come to the masjid everyday in the morning after slotted fed, they would sit there and read Quran all the way until sunup, you know, those days for exam were really the golden days, because they were it was like sprinting now, you know, after running for two miles, it is time now to sprint. It is time now to do your best to excel. Because you're getting closer to meeting you're almost

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you're getting closer to meeting your most beloved. So it is about time that you sprint, like if you see like an a, you know, the end of the end of the race the pole at the end of the race, and then you're close, you're about a few 100 meters close to this, you will not be distressed about the past about, you know the, you know your life. If you're not looking forward to this, you will be distressed about everything because life has given her back to you. You have you have your weak, your body is weak. You can you can you know you can enjoy your money, you can even enjoy the food that you eat. And there is all the enjoyment all of the other enjoyments, the lusts and the other

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enjoyments everything give back, give it back to you. And then the some some become distressed because of this. But those people that are racing to their objective and they see the poll at the end of the race, they start the sprint at the end of the race and you see them full of happiness and full of energy. If you want to be of those people, if you want your golden

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days to be your last days or you want your last days to be full of energy full of happiness.

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Because then you have to work for it from now you have to increase your Eman. Increase your faith from now so that those days will be the best days in your life.

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We have covered about five of the

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the helpful treatments for the prevention of depression. And I think that we should have a break now as planned. And then we will come back and cover the rest and do questions and answers thereafter in Selma zachman Lohan's kind of

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stuff