The Solution To All Your Problems – Part 1

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hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi

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he can do so the law the

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My dear respected brothers and sisters who are listening firstly as Mr. aikman

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my brothers and my sisters, first question to all of you is if there is a person that is sitting here that doesn't have a problem in their life, and they are above the age of maybe 10 or 12 or something so you're, you understand what I'm saying. So if you don't have any problem in your life, please put your hands up.

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Not a single hand. Marsha, I was just getting ready to see the first human being who might be able to be entered into the Guinness Book of Records. But because Allah azza wa jal has made it that way, no human will be able to get into the Guinness Book of Records. Not for this reason, never, that this man has never had a problem ever in his life. This woman never had a problem ever in their life.

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Because Allah subhanaw taala I remember

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one thing I remember is I was machete Bangladesh, was sitting down. And a person came and he started to say, Sheriff, I have this problem chair. I have that problem. And that happened and this happened and I haven't.

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I'm a shareholder. He sits all day people come to me all day. And once I remember sitting next to him, and he said to the person said Oh, by

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so my brother

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a dunia best night. This world is not Jenna.

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This world is not. Jana. Jana, there's no problems.

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Jana, there will be no problems whatsoever.

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Nothing more family problems, no social problems, no debt problems. No business problems. No health problems, no wealth problems, no children problems. No, you know, politics problem, no emotional blackmail, nothing, no problems.

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Jana is the place where there are no problems.

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Then the chef said, he said, This world is a world where Allah has made it. He's made it so that there are problems and there are reasons for that.

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There are reasons why Allah has done this is the beauty of the believer to understand all of this. So first, I'm going to give you some principles to understand this that problems and the reason why I'm doing this is because a lot of people come to me. And they over the years they've been coming to me, and they've had whatever so many different types of problems. And every man gets people coming to them for problems. So what I decided with the brothers or hikma is I said let's do this one where people can come and they can find the general things general things that might help them shall Labine law with their problems. So there's going to be advice that will be given to you here there's

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going to be the hours that you will receive from the Quran from the Sunnah. And these things will be the things that will help us inshallah we'd like to go through life with his brothers and sisters. If you think that you can get something that will eliminate all your problems, then you better be in Ghana.

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Otherwise you will not get your your problems to go now, the thing is, you can manage your problems better.

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And you can feel that there are no problems.

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There's some people in the world The only other problem

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and the guys complaining. My God is God man, man. Man, what actually happened to me for me from

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your human being? You're a human being, when you're gonna have a problem. are you complaining? Allah azza wa jal? You know the best thing that Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. You know, one beautiful thing that he said is what he said that

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we should continue with our life. And we should not question fate.

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Fate,

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which allows origin has has written for us, fate, everyone's got fate, every lead that comes in good faith that is new or newly written in that state of yours for the next year. Allah azza wa jal, he reveals to His angels for my servant, these are the good things is going to receive for the whole next year, and these are the bad things you're going to receive. And don't worry about it. Some people get work, that's a bad thing. What do you do wrong? over the wrong, you don't have to do anything wrong, rather, you may have done something wrong. And that's one reason why there might be bad things coming to you. And that's very, very clean. I had it. Many I had these were bohart if you

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look at them at the beginning, you'll see that Rasulullah sallallahu, he takes back from his Sahaba. And he says to them that you know, by your only Allah Allah to

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make a pledge with me that you're not going to associate partners with Allah, you're not going to do that you're not going to you're not going to steal, you're not going to lie. You're not going to do this, this this throughout the beginning of Buhari will find it.

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And then Rasulullah solesmes. He said, he said, if you actually commit one of these crimes, and allows or jail, decides to punish you in this well, then we have that is it, it's done.

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But if Allah decides not to do that, not to punish you, he may seek to forgive you. And he may not seek to forgive you. The worst thing that could happen to you is that you get punished in the next life. So it's better to have something here than the next step. But don't do this, which one Sahabi was doing in front of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam and Prophet sallallahu ever had to stop him.

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He was making dua to Allah and civil law. You know, bring my holla if you're gonna punish me punishment, this well. He was making that door. And Professor Lawson heard him and he said oh nanosensor What are you saying? He said I'm asking Allah to bring the punishment of DACA in smaller forms in this one he said no, no, no. Was Allah was anila here ask Allah for relief don't bring it on to you allies most merciful The some people they think Yeah, let's bring it on.

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Let's try and get the you know, the small taste is here. Forget the big ones naka de la la says said say this Dora Allahumma inni Alcala wala fie dounia will Acura that's one word that you can do. If you want relief Rasulullah sallallahu said what? He said Allahumma inni asakawa Allah I am asking you for your forgiveness you pardoning that's the best thing you can ask for why should you say all I did this wrong thing than I deserve punishment punishment? Why do you want to do that when bring up Jesus say, Well, I forgive me and what I have here and our law I'm asking for relief relief. So relieve me really my tension really my you know, my soul? Really my body relieve me of the troubles

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that are around me, relieve me, relieve me of the massage and the different difficulties that are in this will relieve me cydonia well Acura not only in this world, but also in the next film A lot of my local Afro Lafayette do an afro. So that's the heartbeat of the last one who taught him and why did he teach us how to see all these things he did with the Sahaba they were one person, but they represented a large part of the model that would come later on that needed these guys that would be in the situation. So what he does,

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he teaches he, he taught us that we go through life, and we might find troubles. And he said it's time Billa he said it's time to learn. He said find try and seek help from Allah. Now I'm going to say to you in a little while what that help is how we can get that help from Allah azza wa jal. But one thing that is really crucial, he said here in this particular Hadith, and it's a Sahih Muslim.

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He said, If something afflicts you

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and this is this is one big thing, a lot of people make big mistakes. If something afflicts you, then

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when you've been afflicted don't say

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low and knee fall to Kava Kava, don't say, if only I had done this. If only I had done

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This would not happen to me.

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So last lesson told us not to bring the word if he said for in a low test Tacuba shavon because the word if opened the doors of the devil's onto you.

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The devil will have these ways onto you if you start saying if now, everyone's got problems. That's what that's what you said, right? I've got troubles as well. hamdulillah right hamdulillah you're saying troubles Alhamdulillah you gotta know how to deal with them. You got to become a human being if you become like that guy who little thing happened in says, Man, I don't believe this man. Oh man last Juma our future law. I came back. I had a car crash. Wonder the wrong man. So when you pray Jamal hamdulillah you had a crush, you know? Alhamdulillah What do you complain for that Juma is not linked to this thing? How are you looking for? I hate people in the link. They said did you see that

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guy? Did you see what happened to him? Did you see? He had a sunny Quito in

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DC. He was such a horrible person. He was such a horrible person. And then God sent him this big problem. Do you see where he is? Now? He's crying now. I mean, who When did you go on a ladder up to the fourth or the other other seventh heaven and above that? I went and saw a Laszlo from apples. And you when you read the law? Is this my enemy there? Yeah, that's his name. Oh, yes, he did. Is he Allah said, Thank you Allah for letting us visit your holy book learning mouthful, that you keep all your secrets. And I'm going to go back down to the earth and tell people that this happened. Who in the world are you to try and tell what God is doing up there? Allah doesn't see the thing is things

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when Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he said that it might be because of a sin. It doesn't have to be because of a sin.

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You must see that doesn't have to be because I've said most people get worried. What did I do wrong? Well, he told me this and he's one of my style deals that

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he taught us. He said, a lot of people think that if you're if you got a you got an illness, if you got something that's happened to you, then they say that it's because of your sin.

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And he said,

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may Allah May Allah give him a long life, and he's Allah bless him and his knowledge.

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He said, If that was the case, then why is it that our Prophet Rasulullah sallallahu and he had problems?

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Because Quran says and offer Allahumma Takata Madame de como la has forgiven your past your future all your sins, you have no since you have no since

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Allah has faced all of them. Live Rasulullah sallallahu never had since then. Why is it that Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam had Sakura. Why is it that on his deathbed, on his deathbed, he was in pain. Why is it that throughout his life, so many people have hurt him? Why is it that throughout his life, he had so much pain, so much difficulty more than anyone else? In fact, in the hadith of Bokhari,

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Rasulullah sallallahu himself, he says, and this is the secret to it. He says what he says that, when Allah azza wa jal, he sends his difficulties on to people, he sends it to them, sell, sell,

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sell, sell and sell to the best of his example on the world to the best of the believers example on the world. And then the next of the best of believers examples on the world he sends his masiva the biggest masiva the biggest one to the most closest people to him, you can think what stuff a llama getting close to the first selfie? You know, what are you talking about? Rasul Allah says and explains, he says that the ambia are the closest to Allah so they had the most difficulty that came on them. The ambia were the closest And out of all the ambia out of all the prophets I am the closest to Allah. So I have taken what I have taken, no other profit has taken

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no other profit now why is it even question? The hola hola que tiene la Villa? What is this? I get close to Allah and then I get even more difficulties. Or says

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See, the thing is the beauty of this is that you got to understand the secret. The secret is my brother This is my mama taught us. He said, when you worship Allah, you've got a 10 rewards here you've got 100 Awards here you've got 1000 rewards, you're fine. You worship Allah, you do your tahajjud you do. Vickery do Salah, you do reading Quran, you obey your parents, you do this, that is all obedience. So there's one way Craig getting closer to Allah and getting closer to general obedience. Everything about obedience, everything about obedience is calculated.

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So when you do to record Salah, this lesson has already said what he said for these two records you will get this or you know not everything he has said but we know that many of the things he said like you walk to the masjid, you will have one good reward for every step you take one battery will be gone and so on so forth. When you do will do

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This will happen when you read the Quran. 10 has an ad for every single lecture that you read, this has been already calculated. But there's one thing that goes when Allah starts to give you this without calculation, without without Allah saying, Okay, I'm going to give him 100 or 104 or 110 or 1000. Without calculation luggages. Allah has said that in the Holy Quran in surah Zuma in

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Verona

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when it comes to my seventh who are patient, I will give them reward without any measure, without any measure, without an account of how much I'm given, I'm just going to give a whole heap full I'm going to give loads and loads. So I will start said he said that Rasulullah sallallahu had no sense and there are so many close believers to Allah they've they have got rid of their students through this or through that and allies not punishing them maybe that's apart from the MBR everyone else has since apart from the profits everyone else has since but all other servants are alike is afflicting who Allah does not want to punish. Remember, some people are allowed to punish through the

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difficulties is given. But other people Allah knows that the person here he's going to get a bad day is going to be really bad. And at the end of everything, he can only reach the fourth level of gender.

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And Allah wants to take this servant to genital for those where Allah wants to give that person the opportunity to be next to Rasool Allah Allah has next to the MBA next to the output from Allah. Allah wants to give him that opportunity. But Allah knows there's no way this person can do this route to get there. So what does Allah do? Allah then sends NOC by he sends an affliction. And because of that affliction, if that person has trouble if that person has patience, then that person goes lightyears ahead in the sight of Allah. lightyears ahead. See, we don't understand a lot of us complaint when we have difficulties but you know what? Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam has said, I

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genuinely am the mean, how does a Muslim either and so, so amazing is the affair of the believer in Assad, but who, in Assad who survived if a person gets if a believer

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has said said to us, that is strange. What is a fair is because in Umrah, hula, hula, every single thing is good for the believer.

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If he gets a good thing in a samba to Sabah, a good thing comes about in a good fortune comes about contained in the world Shakira takahara Allah, He says, Alhamdulillah and that becomes good for a

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while.

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But if a masiva a an affliction befalls him, then he has suffered, he has patients and it also turns good for him. So we we believe is we never lose. We never lose in all other religions. You will not find this thing that what Allah has given us in this religion is one of the beauties of this religion, you cannot lose and the thing about phages that other Hadees that I said Muslim Rasulullah sallallahu said don't open the doors of love of if if

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because if you've opened the doors of if you have let's say Satan or the shaytan inside and he's going to start his whisperings Why?

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Because he said if something happens, just do this circuit de la wa Masha, if something happens to you, and an affliction comes about you just say Allah has willed this and whatever he wants, it has happened. A de la salle de la wa Masha

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Masha,

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Allah has three distinct distinct and whatever he will whatever he wanted has taken place. He has done that himself. I don't know the reason why. Now So bottom line is you're gonna think you're gonna you can try to work out fate. Fate is a very complex matter. You can work it out. You might see something absolutely negative, but it's absolutely positive. You might see absolutely positive but it's absolutely negative. That's what Allah said in Sudoku, rasa Takahashi

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Oh believe is there are certain things that you dislike but these things are good for you once to hit Boucher.

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There are certain things that you love and those things that you love are not good for you.

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There's a man who sees a girl a guy sees a girl and he says

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my dreams over

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I've got it the other day I've got a guy with me now when our journey

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when I was done and the guy said, you know i i want to shake his head. I need to get married.

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Most young people say I need to get mad you got loads of contacts Tell me

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if I could pick you one by one say look this brother 29 years old, his height please sisters if so anyway, I made the joke. Now the thing is what I find interesting is what what these brothers have inside their head.

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So I said to him, I said, Okay, well, you want to get to my two sister. I said, Tell me because I had a conversation about good 20 minutes and then I realized this guy's after someone really pretty. You want someone really pretty. So I said to him, I said, Brother, I said, you know you're looking for someone will be pretty sad. Yeah, she's gonna be pretty, she's gonna be pretty sad. Okay, if you had a if you had a scale of one to 1010 being the most prettiest, and one being the one that is sort of ugly, or near non pretty, let's say. So where What? What do you What are you after? How many out of 10 are you after? So you said nine out of 10. So nine out of 10. So you want to do something

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really pretty serious? So I said, Well, tell me this.

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yourself. You see yourself in the mirror.

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So I didn't say that to you. So I said to him, how would you? How would you put yourself on a scale of one to 10? He said four

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said you're four out of 10.

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And you want someone that is nine out of 10? I said Do you realize what you're saying? He said yeah, no, no, no. I said okay. But I said that's what that's one problem that you're getting. The reason why you'd probably not married and you're already nearing 30 is nearly 30 says the reason why is because you know you think about it that systems nine or 10 Why don't you take you four out of 10 she's not 10 She's so beautiful. She says she knows it. She knows it the moment she comes out this may not be on the can keep the eyes over and you want her she's got a choice between four or 10 five or 10 six or seven or eight or 10 she wants to take you

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What do you think this is Beauty and the Beast? anyway? I didn't say that to him by the way.

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You don't know the brother so I can carry on. So then I said to him, okay, now tell me this. A girl who's nine out of 10 who's got all that Jamal and that beauty and that you know, you know when other women are jealous. That's what happens. You know, when women are really beautiful other women get jealous. They think man, I think that woman she's eating into my pride. The moment she's around all the other women look at her. No one looks at me. She's seven out of 10. This was nine out of 10 she get jealous. Seven out of 10 gets jealous it happens. And this woman was nine out of 10. You get she comes on? Do you think she is that as what else do you want? He said I want her to have a degree. So

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okay, fine. What else do you want? I want him to be British born. I said fine. What else do you want? Yeah. And Indiana said to me about, you know, you should just go to john and get married. But before before I said that, you might say Listen, I said you want all these qualities in it. Do you think a nine out of 10 beautiful woman is going to come and it's going to get into your house? Yeah, she's gonna cook clean. She's gonna look after your children. When you leave the house. She's always gonna do all the chores of the house. She's gonna run around school doctors in a madrasa. She's gonna do all your rotis for you. She's gonna do all that for you reading nine out of 10 is going to

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do that. Or you're gonna come home and you find nine or 10 polishing her fingernails.

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I said, What are you talking about? I said my wife Alhamdulillah hamdulillah. And I would rate you like six out of 10

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hamdulillah.

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She's gonna listen to this one day.

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Okay, seven out of 10 don't complain. All right, well, myself, I wouldn't rate myself you know that much. I'm happy that I've gone. I said, Look, my wife looks at all this when I'm out of the house. Right now I'm lecturing, I go someplace lecturing. I don't have to worry. I said, you will be better off, you'll be better off going to Pakistan. To go to Pakistan, you'll find a girl who will be nine or 10. Now she might she might have certain baggage that you know you probably need to deal with. But the rest of the issue What do you want, because the thing is when Allah said, I said to him bushi. And when you love something, it could be bad for you see asset to the brothers brother, the

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inner beauty is much more worthy than the outer beauty. You should not look at nine out of 10 outside more than you should look at 10 out of 10 or nine or 10 inside. If you get nine or 10 inside the person's heart you think that heart there, that woman that mandate his heart, her heart is nine out of 10 but the face is probably six out of 10 five or 10 whatever. How could he not go for that woman? Go for that man. I'm saying to the system not to go for that. Why? Because Rasulullah sallallahu has said because they get married for four reasons he said at the end go for the Dean was the dean, the main his sister, the minister. So going back to that that

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As an attacker who you hate something, you see something horrible. How can this happen? Fate is something wonderful and is so complex so complex. I'll give you an example. Imagine we are working with musala salaam and

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now you need to tell this guy when you go visit people with problems. And any advice given this advice

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mean you are taking a stroll? So see the beauty of the Quran is it gives you examples and you can sit there all day and think about it. I mean, you are taking and travel and we're going to go back in time, and we're going to go to the time musala Santa Monica, la sala. Both of these people are some of the they're the two most knowledgeable people on the earth. Allah has given to Moosa what he hasn't given to him that he has given to him or what he hasn't given to Musa So anyway, the walking on the seaside

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and suddenly hidden sees this hadith in Bukhari and also is in the Quran as well. Suddenly hidden sees his 10 year old boy compacity musashino is walking, hidden, grabs the head of that boy, as he's passing passing him, he twists his neck

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and he kills the boy.

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The boy drops dead musala salon is talking on mine and you'll be half

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Musashi ram says like me and us What?

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What have you done? You just kill murder, a soul without the right to take his soul? What have you done?

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fedoras turned around and said,

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My students remember that, that law? that principle? You said, you're never going to ask me until I tell you.

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Okay, that was that was the reason why the traveling he was musasa had to learn a fiddle. And he was learning of some of the most complex matters. He goes to a boat before that they're on a boat. And you think about it. Peter, who's the most knowledgeable person he's so close to Allah suddenly grab something and start breaking the boat. musasa like me, he's talking a lot man. He says Why are you breaking this law? Now? What do we see? We see a broken boat. What do you say we see a kid we see a murdered child. And then pillar a Moosa they go all day. And they're going around the city asking for food. They're really hungry. And they don't get it this is if you want to find this.

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When the 15 years and 16 years they change that's where you find it. so old, they they travel they ask for food, none of the whole cities people give them food. So what would mean you do? We'll do what musallam did we go past that wall at the end of the city? There's a wall there the wall is just about to fall. Right? So what letter what letter won't fall down? These people deserve you

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deserve it?

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I'm dying and they don't want to feed us. So hydrolized lamb he gets down to just leaves and he starts mending the wall. musasa is watching like me and you we are the eyes musashino you watching you say come on. You fix their world for them. You could have at least ask for some bread or something in return on them. So Hitler said That's it. That's it. I mean, you can't travel anymore. You can't understand me because what Kevin was, he was I mean it LA. He was one of the signs of alarm on the earth that Allah has given him then given him certain certain hokum and certain commands at the right time to do with fate. So now he's there telling his student Moosa telling all

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of us what fate is.

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So he said I must Safina you sort of boat and I broke the boat that's why you see a boat Imagine if I saw both these guys what would you say the same guys man that's when you say you see my man is doing that you see is insane.

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Why do you bring the boat for reason? What did you do? What did the guys in the boat do? team.

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So and the same thing with the boy the guys What did you do?

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musasa is waiting patiently and hidden then says and Safina to fucka Natalie Misaki nyama Luna

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there are certain people who Allah has had mercy on through me.

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Then he can rock metal rally can mean rock, metal metal, Robbie, these these are things that are just done out from the mercy of my Lord, or my fan to one family. I didn't do it myself. These are things that allowed wanted me to do because these are matters of fate. This boat that you saw, what was it? You only see a boat you see people around. But Alaska knows that if that boat sails across what were the sailors doing? They were taking people from across the across the river, just like the Thames over there. The people take them, take them across the Thames. These people used to do that all day. At that moment. If they took that journey particular journey to the other end. A king would

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have arrived at that moment on the other side and he would have seen the boat and he would have taken it for himself because it was very good boat.

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So he said, I damaged the boat. By the time they fix it, that King would have passed by, so their boat would have got saved. There's trouble, of course, the masiva the masiva is that you got damaged. But my friend, how do you know what big damage Allah saved you from? What do you know what big damage Allah saved you from? You got and you ended up with a with a woman who's probably you know, four out of 10 or whatever. And you then

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more beautiful than that man. What do you know what one other woman would have done to you if she came into your house? What do you know what what another man two systems a man would do? If he came to your house

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has his plans. And he does things not only that, not only for marriage, I'm saying for any receiver, you basically twisted your ankle. And you think, man, I can't go out now, you probably don't know that mind. You could have gone to a place and you would have gone with your friends a lot planned a car accident. So I like to see your leg go and then your friends don't go out. So he said well have you through that or something you don't know. You don't plan.

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That person who was meant to you think that made an anomaly. I quote this to people who have lost the soul in the family. And I say you don't know there are brothers out there who are dying and dying of cancer at the age of 23. Yes, there are brothers and sisters and young children that are dying and people especially when the young children and their families very hysterical. And they can't understand you know why would allow them to take this young child and they start questioning why why my brother sister do me one favor, don't question our last fate.

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Because we have said when we took face, minimal cuddly Heidi he was sadly we believe in fate good and evil. Both of it comes from Allah and he come for a reason that we don't understand but Allah azza wa jal does the best for us. That's what you say, Allah, Allah, Masha, he does the best for us. So here you have a young child has passed away in the family, and they start questioning Allah and some of them see some people when they get them we'll see that they get a an affliction, they move away from the deen.

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But a lot of them they come to the D. And I've seen that a lot of them come towards the dean, they come towards religion, when a person passes away when they've got fear when they've got hunger when they've got in a crisis of health and across the world. Why? Because Allah said in the Holy Quran, he will give the misfortunes to bring you back. He will give you misfortune to bring you back Allah says in the Holy Quran, open the Quran surah number 30 and number 4118. As

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you

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may know,

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there are many corruptions on the earth and the heavens and the earth, whatever, whatever the season, the season the earth, Allah places Why? Because he wants certain people to taste taste, the evil of their own actions. And then he says LAN Lumia de Roon Allah wants that person to come back to him. So as an Imam, in the masjid, and sometimes this guy comes and it says, is a man, you know, I need you to make Doha.

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When they come to me and they say that everyone open, they open their problems. When they open the problems. I see this ayah right in front of me. Allah has brought this person to the masjid is bought into the dean because of an affliction that they had. Now some people then say, You know what? They say? Nah, man, I'm not going to the masjid. I'm gonna feel like a hypocrite.

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All these days. I was there puffing smoking, doing all the ganja business? Right. And now I get a big problem and I'm going to go to a lot how I want to feel I want to feel like a hypocrite in the house of Allah Baba. Don't do that. Don't say that. Don't say that. Because maybe this affliction that has come is the reason why Allah wants you to come here.

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And he's bringing you here He's inviting you. in a hospital Buhari says my UD de la v hi Can you say admin who whoever allows to give good to he will afflict them. allow him to give you good he will bring it to him through an affliction mo better than he will bring you through good is what happened. Brother Tell me the truth here. When I've got all the gifts that I need and unlock keeps on gifting me and He gives me and He gives me

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and I'm in total conflict.

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What do you want? How many people are very gifted? And they come to a lot compared to how many people have problems and they come to Allah you do the calculations yourself.

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So fake. This is fake allows working from there and allows origin you know from his working and what he's doing is he's doing his his duties. And here you see a dead boy, Akira Sam tukui and he then explains he said if this boy grew up,

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he would have been a horrible boy. very treacherous. parents would have been very heavy hearted about this boy. Why did they bring this boy up? So what did Allah do? Look at our last fate. Allah ordered him

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To kill this boy. Now he doesn't have to send it to the streets to kill all the other people around you houses. Oh my god he did was he killed him.

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He can drop whatever he can he can make a car accident. He can make a car accident he can make a plane accident he can make, I don't know someone slip and fall he can make someone have cancer he can make all these things on the earth on the earth as excuses to afflict people to take people away. So what happens after that? Allah that moment, he reveals in the Quran that he's replaced the this boy, this boy was up to the boy, the boy goes straight to

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the boy, this boy dead boy goes straight to Jelena. Why, because this boy is under age. Any person, anyone who has had a person who's young pathway in the family, you are very, very lucky. This one will tell you, you don't realize now I don't want to be I'm not being cynical here. I'm saying you are very lucky. All you need to do is one thing. You need to just have patience. And I know there are, you know, quite a few brothers and sisters across if you look at the population of Muslims, that they've lost it not just about Muslims, it's about non Muslims as well, you know, they lose it. But to the Muslims, I'm saying you lose a young person of your family just have sub two sub

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patients. Why?

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Because that young person will be your ticket to Jana.

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On the day of judgement, Allah will release all the young boys and girls are passed away. And on the condition that their parents have had suburbs

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that have had patience, on that condition.

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Allah azza wa jal will send these children on to the dentist, and they'll come looking for their parents. And they will hold the hands of their parents, both of the parents and they will say Allah, I'm not going to Jana until my parents go with me to

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unconditioned that we have sub unconditioned, you have sub Subhana, Allah allowed me to relate to you.

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I know this is not i'm not saying this for any other reason, but to parents who've lost, you know, their children. And you look at I think, it was the life of

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the style. I think it was Satan Abdullah in marketing himself, who saw a dream once about his own daughter, waiting for him in a dream in an afterlife that wants to take him to the other side. And there are numerous things that you can find. But there are the thing overall I want to say to you is what did Allah do after that you don't know how many good things Allah is given to you because of this mercy, but you don't see Do you don't know it. Allah gave that mother who lost a child in hydrolized lambs time, they made her pregnant again. And that new child was the replacement of that other child that she lost. And Allah made him

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very close person to the parent to the parents, that will that will get mended. Most of you know the story see me and you don't see that. When Allah azza wa jal has put certain things under the earth center beyond the eyes, this treasures on the day Allah wants to give it to some some your team. They are orphans allowance, give it to them. Why? Why tell me this Subhana fate is such a thing. Allah Wakanda Abu Masada, their father was a righteous man. Now today, my brother thing about this, your dad was righteous.

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And he did so many drugs for you. Today, a lot of your gifts are because of your late father. This Remember that? I see in my own life, so many things. My father, you know, my father, Rahim Allah, he's never used Mr. 100. Every time you used to pray for his sons and his daughter, every time and I remember that early in the morning, I would get up and listen to my father making law. You think these drugs if they don't come into being right now they can come into existence one generation later.

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You see the monkey wrench later. And like Rasulullah saw some at the time of time you had the choice of telling your brain to to order the angels to destroy that city. He said no. Perhaps there will be another nation that will come after them that will accept this event. And that's exactly what happened. So you don't think why see this thing about failure? Why is it that I should ask Allah for something right now and Allah has to do it for me right now? Who in the world are you using your God or something? You want something to happen? You want it to happen? You want it and doesn't happen? Unless you choose his time. He's doing this for a reason you make him drive today some brothers what

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they do they make da da da da da. And Allah Allah messenger, Allah Hardison said Allah He loves a tow he accepts his da of his seven melamine strategy. As long as that seven hasn't become hasty. Daddy's thinking either Timmy the Buddha was one of the two. So the Sahaba submissive Allah How is the person hasty. So here the Rasulullah sallallahu. He said what he said as long as the person says, as the alternative the person carries on doing blah and he doesn't say this

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He doesn't say I made dua to Allah and Alon have accepted it. That's been hasty. You start saying, I made Guatemala so many times, and this guy never got accepted. Who are you? Who are you? Because Allah azza wa jal does three things for you, in return of the drug that you just made one of three things, one of three things he will do for you. Number one, either Allah will give to you what you just asked for.

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Number two, you didn't get what you asked for. But Allah will give you something in return of that, somebody else in return, oh, he will save save you from an affliction.

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He will save you from an affliction. You didn't even know you make dua that Allah Allah, please please our law, I want this thing and I want I want this thing What is this job all on the job all on the job, you making that door. Allah never gave you that job, for whatever other reasons as well. But what he did is, he saved you from another masiva somewhere else because of that, or he gave you some other other thing, you might not even be a job job, he might be something else Allah gave you. And the third thing the best of all things is you never got anything at all in this dunya is what I made throughout my life and never got anything dystonia. What on the day of jasmine, some brothers

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will come and they will see right next to them. This in Hadith had this vomit. A person will see right next to him you will see mountains, mountains full of reward. Now this guy says mountain full of water, he thinks, Nah, man, and he will live that long to get these mountains that can't be mined. And he's looking at his little piles next to him.

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So that long time passes by no one comes to claim the mound is full of reward.

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And then the person says Allah Allah, just a question what my seven said these mountain floor rewards, who are they for? Allah says for you, my son

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says For me, a lot of the, you know the cost thinking how is it possible that I get so much reward? Allah says, My seven, my seven you are in the dunya when you are in the dunya, I used to make drive to me. I never accepted your drive that drive you makes use to make to me every single day, every day used to make drive to me, I never accepted it. But what I did in return is I gave you reward. And I kept on giving you reward for the drive that you use to make to me and today those drives are mountain full of reward that was made that you never got mountain view of the world. And he will say our law, our law. He will say to Allah, what do they say? He's speaking on our behalf, guys, you

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understand that? Yeah, this was awesome. Can't tell your name. You can't say my name, country name, but some of us are in this situation. So Allah Allah, in that case, why did you accept any of my drawers?

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In that case of Allah? Why didn't you reject all of my drawers in the world, reject all of them, so that I would get plenty more mountain falls on the day of judgment? If only we understood what Allah is doing to us, and what is beyond our fate? So going back to that story, we see welfare we don't we don't see Well, we see a broken wall. But Allah azza wa jal knows this treasures that he wants to give it to the sons of 18. When they grow up, their father was pious, and because of that, Allah made the drug his drug come into existence now, and he wants to give that one to them. Now. phage is something I'll tell you this brothers is what I normally say to people who are afflicted. I say, is

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there any way mean you would have worked those three things out without Allah telling us in the Quran? Yes or no?

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Yes or no? He could he could have worked out why the boy got killed by that boat got damaged. Why that woke up man did a yes or no, no, there's no way. So what do you do brother? His answer says, don't you sit there and start to wonder why Allah put you in the position you're in. There's no way you're gonna work it out. But I guarantee you one thing Allah says in the Quran, in naraba, sudo binomial mafia, Allah will make it absolutely clear, absolutely clear why certain things happen to you in this world. He can't tell you right now, because if he tells you right now, the test wouldn't be the test. Cialis testing us the test wouldn't be the test, and that other Hadassah said we are

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larger is choosing the most closest to him and most closest to him. Why is Allah doing that? Why? Because Allah azza wa jal not only wants to give them the high daraja not only wants to give them that highest station and the highest rank in front of him, but Allah azza wa jal, Allah azza wa jal wants to also make him an example for other people. And Allah azza wa jal wants to make them people who show who's who actually produce and they show that they that they've got a reason to go play Jenga my friend told me we're gonna go to Jana Alanis to show on the Day of Judgment this seven of mine and john now for this reason. There's a reason why I was going to do these things. Now. The the

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gold the person who's a, a goldsmith person who's got gold

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when they do

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Grow gold. What they do is what they do is they take the raw goal and the goal needs to then be cleaned how they clean gold brothers.

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Sorry, fire.

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They take the gold and they put it into fire and they they basically turn around

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and they clean the gold and then it comes out nice and clean and then they take that excess has gone off now they gotta go. This process is known as fitna. What is this? fitna fitna means that you taking the goal inside the fire and basically taking the excess of

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fitness means tribulation in Eric, why does it mean tribulation? What is what is fitna fitna is a lie, it's taking you and he wants to take the gold out of you. To bring the gold out of you. Allah has to put you to these trials without Allah putting you through through these trials. These these the best out of you can come

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when a child is crying, this the other day my kids will play

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and they played outside in the sand, and even the part they came back home. Now, I'm not gonna just take my child with sand in his hair, sand in his clothes, and just taking this just basically brush your teeth and put him in bed. I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna do that. Now what I'm gonna do

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so from the shower, my little kid he hates having his hair wash because he has still is only two years old. He said he said he hasn't understood you know about his his eyes to keep them sharp when the water comes. When the water comes out, so he keeps him open.

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Now he's not going to shop with you tell him shut your eyes when we shut down Put shampoo in your hand washing No, he doesn't. He keeps it open and screaming and why does he so is quite strong. case three is so strong. He basically will come up.

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So here you're talking about nothing he hates he screams he cries. But as a father as a mother, man. Yeah, he's my mother. We know that he needs his washing. So one step further. He said he said what he said, Allah azza wa jal wants to wash you before he puts you into Jannah he wants to wash your sins away from you. And you're gonna hate that. You're gonna hate that. And you're gonna say why is that I've got this masiva and nothing's wrong align hobbies, in hobbies activity, what does it say? It says like, Allah.

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Allah keeps on bringing afflictions to the believer. Until What? Until in in one and three things fiend FC.

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In three things in his health, Allah will have 15 new health, Allah will afflicting in your children or your progeny.

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A lovely afflict you?

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O'Malley in your wealth, three things, your health, your children, or

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family, in your family, for your own health, your family, and your wealth, three things alone 50

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comma until the day comes when he's meeting Allah. Wa Alayhi hottie and not a single sin is on his body.

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The day he comes to meet Allah after a lifetime's worth of affliction, he has not even a single sin because he was also not a single sin on his body. He goes, as soon as as a young child was born in this world, he goes is that from the world? So tell me when you hear these hobbies, and you've got afflictions? Don't these afflictions make sense to me? Does that make sense? Yes or no?

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documents I

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can usefully some of you are not convinced. We have to go through this process and see in fact, when they MBR they used to have one The closer you are to Allah, they get so many fictions. They understand that this is the best thing that can happen to me. Now it's not that they what they bring you on themselves. Like I said earlier, they ask a lot still for asking for relief. They ask a lot of love. So this problem, but after that, they still know that Allah azza wa jal wants the best for them. And they find a kind of good taste. Even though afflictions are bad, they find a good taste in that hamdulillah hamdulillah Allah

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you know, they praise a lion every moment of every moment of the life. How do they do this? I'll give you an example.

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You ever seen a guy who basically has roachie

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you seen a guy who has he has some of these?

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You know, these these rose petals and chilies that have you seen them? Yeah, the guy takes his rice. Yeah, whatever else is guys. We've got work to do. And then every bite he takes that

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he bites into a green tea.

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And some women are telling us I'm gonna tell you the strong man they take that Naga Molly's

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have small, I don't know how to do it, but I take it

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and then you me are probably sitting there thinking, Man, that guy can take some chili. Yeah, I must be burning it.

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And anybody it is it burns in the mouth. And

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so you take chili in the mouth and it burns in the mouth. But the guy takes another one. And then he takes another bite of the chili. He gives that spicy kick again.

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He burns his mouth again. Nice swaying, the guy swaying.

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You see my takes tissue and he wipes his forehead What is your bald head?

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It does that but the guy takes another chili Are you there you thinking man? This guy is this guy's in punishment?

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punishment but the guy tells you man Wow, that's nice, man. That's nice man. Give me another chili man.

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Mommy, you probably sitting there thinking man, how does the guy take this chili, Easter chili burn himself and he loves it, he enjoys it.

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See, when a person who become a close believer to Allah is in mercy by his an affliction. That affliction itself becomes sweet.

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These brothers who go out there in the path of Allah.

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And let's just talk about the Sahaba of the alarm on midnight.

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When the Sahaba of the alarm at nine, they had to go out to the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam.

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And they had to be with him in the times of turmoil that to be with him and had to put up with him in the heat. And sometimes they had to put up with these fights that they have to go through.

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They had, they had war, they had a very sweet taste in that. You're thinking man, that guy's killing himself.

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But the person is enjoying you. See, when a person gets close to a law, they see every affliction around them as a means of making that goal, a goal, making it look better.

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They see it as a means of purifying oneself. They see me as a means of getting close to allies though they're closer, closer, closer. That's why when he met a person who was ill, he came to him. And it's in various Hadith. He used to say what he said he's to say last tahunanui sha Allah, say,

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for whom in sha Allah say,

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that means don't worry. It's a means of purification. if Allah wills it's a means of purification. He's to talk positive to the people who are ill. Guys, please. We need to receive the talk positive a lot more positive. Don't talk now the guys in bed in the evening say what the doctors say. isn't gonna say The doctors told him man, I'm gonna be like this for a long time. Yeah, man, what can you do? Man is accepting man. Oh, c'est la birthstone. sha Allah say no, this is a purification. Don't worry, you're gonna be alright, say good things to him, say positive things team. So before I come to that part about how to see a person who's ill and how to visit them. What I want to say to you is

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that we have to be of those people who see the best in other doesn't matter if the worst happens. And the one thing is don't open that door of low of if. Because what does the person do? Ivan says, Man, if only I never when the man. If only I never did this, if only I was there at the right time. If only my daughter would have done this, if only he had passed his exams, I wouldn't be here 9000 pound fees in another another university. If only basically he took his he would basically go to the doctors earlier, he wouldn't have got that bad. If only I had made this choice earlier. If only I had got the other job. If only if only if only.

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We didn't do so are you kidding yourself? Allah

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gave you one little affliction and all you have to do c'est la vie. Allah. He wanted this to happen is done. Now he's going to tend to be

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positive, I'm going to look at the future, I'm going to say a lot changed things for me for the better. That will change me but what did you do you allow the shaytan in your heart.

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If only this would happen, if only I would get some other money for and if only I could take this loan out. And if only this were the future, whether it's the past, whether it's the present, if you bring if if this happened, if that happened to you bring that uncle shaytan he's basically got you wrapped around in his little finger.

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He's killing you and you know what happens then? Then you get stress.

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So a lot of people know that one of the biggest problems that there are around in this in this part of the world, especially in this part of the world, the West people the biggest problem is that there's the cost stress.

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Now tell me this

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rasulillah had the greatest of afflictions. But he didn't have stress. He didn't get to depression. He worried he had certain worries. Don't get

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Wrong set of worries

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but he didn't take himself too stressed and but he had one type of stress that he used to stress himself out with. Allah stopped him

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and you think what was also some had some kind of stress Yes, his only stress was

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de la mujer

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de aza maybe Oh prophet you, you will cause harm to yourself because of the regret you have inside yourself. Why didn't these people and when will these people get a man? When will these people believe his stress was belief? How can I save humanity from Ghana is not to do with his daughters. Look, guys don't think they know what you need to say to people who have afflictions is Rasulullah saw some had these affliction as a continent.

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He was the best of mankind, best of mankind. But he had the most afflictions. His daughters passed away in front of him. He buried his own daughters, his sons passed away in front of him, he buried them. He had, you know, people around him falling ill. And he had to go and visit he himself fell ill several times. He had the sword towards him, he lost his two teeth balance. He has covered in blood entire life. He had constant constant trouble from people because of trying to spread Islam. When they came to kill him year after year, they came to killing, killing, he had that problem. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam, he had a grief inside his heart. And Allah said that I know you

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do too. Sadhguru Karima pollun. Allah xojo he said to him, that I know your heart gets constrained because of things that are saying to you so many names they made about him. You know, right now you think that these insults are there to the professionalism, that they're anything they send it to him in his face. They said his face inshallah, Allah will be giving a talk about this in Edmonton, you know about this innocence of the Muslims and these these things, the things that's going on inshallah, this Friday afternoon, live, if you've got the time you come to Edmonton, I'll give a talk about that. That's a separate subject. But Allah said, maybe because of this regret, you will

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go through this, this kind of stress and stop by Allah from going through that stress is Allah said in the mind, you cannot guide who you love. See where your stress comes, if only if only this person would take him. And if only this person would build these abilities, and so on. If only my son would listen to me, if only my parents would accept this girl, I'm trying to marry whatever you try to create your stress, see that problem. olaniyi gave me that problem, you bought that problem onto yourself.

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alanda gave you that problem. And you can control it by saying if Allah wills is going to happen, finish Carlos, fate again, let them come to you and say, Man, this better happened. Or if the one big thing I learned from a chef, he was in so much difficulty and in every believer is in some type of difficulty with his mother, so he was in a lot of difficulty, and I raised money for him over the years to send to Bangladesh. And every time I would come to try and you know, say that this person wants to you know, this person has made the intention. He always said always till today, he says, He says, if Allah wills, and if Allah wants to still have that, then Allah will give it to us.

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But if Allah doesn't will, and if Allah doesn't want to give it to us, I don't want it either. He's happy. This is

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an eye as well, and is

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one of the highest highest thing that you can ask from voila, go get his one resolved by the local da, da, da, da, da da, you know, you can make a lot of money.

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All I asked you for one foot to become pleased with whatever you have willed. I want to be pleased with whatever you this is, this is the highest station of being the good servant of Allah. When things go wrong. You say, Okay, I got a plan. I don't know what the plan is. But I basically this has happened and I'm going to accept it. And if you have

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good plans for me, good plans. Good plan, don't say bad plans, good plans. Because the thing is, if I'm not selling the medicines, if I'm not continuously make decisions, or if I'm not going towards medicines, and if I'm trying to do my little bits of solid, all of that, why should I'm not punishment on this? In fact, one scholar said, he said that, he said, How do you know when people are actually being punished for their sins? And how do you know when Allah is giving people certain afflictions because he wants to raise the status? How do you know the difference? And he he answered the question for a personal question.

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He said, when you see a person who's been afflicted, and they start complaining, this has a man This happened that happened.

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When they complain to you see that as a sign of God, that allies punishing them.

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When you see a person who's in affliction, and they basically go through the affliction, and they accept it, they're not happy with it, but they accept that some of that patience, then you know that Allah azza wa jal is doing something good to them. That's a good sign. So what we should do is we should not take the tongue in a direction that Allah doesn't want. Like, I'll give you an example. His son passed away. Allahu salatu salam Hassan Ibrahim passed away and went out there his two year old son in his hands dead in his hands, and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he then shed tears. He shed tears and the Sahaba next to me said, Ministry of Allah you

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want something from you? And Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, he said, has he? Metal la Giada La Jolla Allahu taala.

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Regarding meaning, he said, these tears that you see, this is a mercy of Allah which he has put into the hearts of believers is a messy, crying, you've lost a soul you cry, cry, cry, no problem. grieving your heart, grief, no problem. But losses have been said what he said in

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the heart grieves in the line. The eye will shed tears while an akuna bimala the law but we don't say with the tongue that which Allah doesn't want us to say that's that's acceptable. You can cry see some people do. I hate people who become self professed Muftis. You see them at certain times tell you three times you see them yeah, definitely two times you'll see them when there's a janazah

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you see these guys who become leftists who become you know they know everything by yourself forgive yourself for getting this many lines

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listen Take it easy man these guys that just lost the soul they just lost a soul and right down until the grave you know they every single September they become big, big movies. That's one time second time is the time man if you don't know normally what I do in the Casa who's in charge Give me one person in charge otherwise you got five people in charge. One guy says he's one guy says that one guy says this and you think whoa what's happening man? I become a victim

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this time trying to do this in the car.

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And a third thing is when somebody passes away or something happens there

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they become self professed movies with everything that they must do. So they tell them get this done get that done get this done that and oh my god it becomes become a nightmare with these people go to a learning person and ask him and go to learning pedagogy man good ask him all these people around there that heard this that heard this. Oh my god, you better do the 40 today, what's the 40 that you get into third day? What is the third day now you just lost a soul or I used last time before that the problem started before that. Let's say you're your person in your family because I hate this. Honestly God I hate this and they see me nowadays my some of my relatives they run away from me. But

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I tell you that they bring problems for you I hate that you're in a problem why are you creating further problems? So for example, persons in your family in the household now what do you think you should follow the sooner the sooner is that needs to come visit them very short visits.

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It's very nice to come see them within say five minutes is out. Why? Because the person who's ill he needs his rest. Unless he says please sit down please I want you to just talk to me or be with me that's different. The person needs the rest. So you see him very briefly and say good words to him and say you know

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you know you'll be alright and so on. And a large rule isn't a few good words and go

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What do these some of these guys do? They come they stay long time.

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And they could have come at 11 in the morning. Or they could have come at five in the afternoon. But they're going to come on bank on two o'clock. You know why? Because two o'clock the cooking is going on in the house.

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Guys.

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The guy comes at the house when he knows in the house. Right? There's gonna be food on the table about two o'clock in the afternoon to three o'clock in the afternoon. You can have yes or no.

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So come on guy you want to visit the patient who's Ill visit them at 11 in the morning when you can come in. And you know what you shouldn't do is don't be a burden on the family. They're crying because of this person who's ill and you're going to make that a woman get sick herself by cooking and cooking, cooking, cooking. All these people are coming to see all the

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Have you ever come to one after the other 100 the guy hasn't passed away yet. He hasn't passed away. You've already half killed the family. The whole community is really good the committee should come it's a it's a it's a rite of the believer to go and visit his brother when he's ill. It's a right. Yes, but choose your time brother got a time when the maximum they can give you a cup of tea maximum and give you the juice. So be be good to the family. And if they offer you just just refuse go How many? You know, the they go and see this person who's ill they come at two o'clock. And then when they asked for tea, they say I'll have the after the food.

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Okay, I want to say well, you know, they might just say Nana, and some of them are you know, they want the food but they basically won't say but you know, you can read it. So let's say you wouldn't have a bit of tea, you know, it's okay. It's okay. It's okay. It's okay. I mean, I'm gonna eat in a little while it's okay, but he's not going to go oh my god.

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So in the end, we got food here we can cook here Really?

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is gonna go to the table.

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Is there a Rolly sleaze van?

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Before going to the house? I've got a patient in the house that woman been cooking all day. What do you think this is? The restaurant something that you can work in whenever you want. You should be a good Muslim and refuse do the sooner the promises and say look, I'm only here for a very short visual scene and out the madrasa map Okay, now the person passes away

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when the person passes away, all the movies come out you better do the third day, the third day

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third day you better you better feed everyone because the soul will come back the other night What kind of things and make up the soul will come back revisit the house for 40 days or not for three days whatever goes to good is good it goes down now what do you think this is?

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What is making up stories for this? Right? So what they will do they will try me know when my father passed away. Rahim Allah, they spied on me inside my family. So you know, these are relatives and people you know they're close to you. So you can't actually say, you know, you can't actually say to them things that you would say to anyone else so their relatives so they're very close to you.

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So when I you know three days normally in a Muslim as you know, three days that don't allow you to cook you know, people bring food fine, but I know what I would say to you, if a person is in bad health and you know a lot of people are going to that house and they're eating and that eating the food of that house, going to take them food, or tell those people please don't don't disturb the people with the difficulty the burden with this with this patient. Don't disturb them. Don't put extra pressure on them. I will tell you that yourself don't become a pressure on them. Next thing is after they passed away.

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I went I went home on the third day, and I was home.

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You know my father was in Walsall. So whether they and I saw in the third day, my sister in law and the women of my household, right. They're cutting onions, chopping onions and chopping garlic. I said I'm gonna mean so what are you chopping garlic, onions for? This under? You know, obviously there's still grieving over the fact that my father passed away. So they said not on everyone's coming. Now they're gonna come tomorrow. I think the secondary said everyone's gonna come tomorrow. They want to eat. I said, What? Yeah, really, as a poodle? On the way

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down in the way. God says congreve.

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No one's eating it tomorrow. So man, did I say the relative scale?

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Relative scale. Now I made then I said, Look, we want you guys want to prepare food you prepare from outside, whatever you want to do. But this three day thing, 40 day things. Look, what I will do is I'm going to do this. What's the matter with me? Me calling people and having food on the fifth? Or the sixth day? No, no, no, you got to do on the third day because that's how old our forefathers have done really? Well. I don't have to follow the forefathers and follow Hobbes. If I'm going to do a good deed after my father's pathway, I'm going to do it on my own time whenever I want to. Why do I do it on the 14th when the 14th came, they came they came again? I said I'll do on the 38th or the

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45th or the 42nd Why should I be on the 14th?

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So they are Why are you saying this is I've always done I don't care. People have always done it like you need to know what it is. Right especially you know that the first three days Oh my god, people are coming and coming and coming and come in. Or you will go visit a person who's pastor gonna take some food demand for Allah sake. You think you're gonna go there and sit down an armchair and start looking for the food to eat it a man's passed away in the house, you crazy. You put an extra burden that the crime is going to cook for you. So anyway, this is this is another problem that gets created by going back to my original thing, which I will say which is stress is created by

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people themselves and they open the door of if if

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If the best thing you can do brother and sister is close that door, if say Allah has wielded it's happened and move on, move on and do something positive. See, you know, when when my mother passed away a lot,

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it was different from my father passing away. Because when my father passed away, he got me for about two weeks, when my mother passed away, he got me for about six weeks, six to eight weeks, my mother's you have a touch with mothers that you don't have, and only people who lose, if you got a mother, guys, if you got a mother still alive, the only thing I can say to you is just go home, and just be the best you can to her for the rest of the days. Now, she might say things to you, and you might not want whatever, but just be kind to be good. hamdulillah both my parents were happy with me, you know, before they passed 100 such a big number to have. So anyway, it got me for six weeks.

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Why? Because the folks come, you're a human being, you miss them, you hear the you hear the moments that you are with them, you hear the time that you spend with them, you know, in your head, you go over memories, right? You miss them you go over, the more you do that, you know you do, you bring in that grief, you extend that grief now, immediately, three days after one week after whatever, you know, you don't have that yet. But what you should do is brothers, the big advice I can give you is go and get into your job straightaway go into work, go outside, go into different environments, with different people go into job getting to job even though you might not be away from getting a job.

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Why? Because this is what's going to break you away from that some people people pass away in their family, they go into depression. How did they go into depression is because they stopped there. They start thinking thinking, grieving, crying, whatever. And they started to play all their memories and added stress, stress, stress turns into depression. Some people that have somebody who's in the family, you know what you need to do when something that in themselves something they've got a lot of problems, some woman that's stressful, you know, they're stressed out, again, one common stress that a lot of women are facing and maybe some other aging women are facing I don't know. What do you

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think is the situation of a woman who's basically in a house? I know some of you like this, okay, now, I don't know which one of you Okay, somebody didn't give me a list before I came here. So if I say this, don't go to the committee members and make a big complaint about me, right? Because I know some of you senior

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some people they bring trouble on themselves because they don't follow the sooner what is the sooner the sooner is that you take the full life of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in its totality don't take part of it. Don't take the time when Rasulullah was was just serious.

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And don't look at the time this was a lesson was just normal with his companions. Don't take one or the other. And

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now how

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to name fool. So what do you see the sooner you see the sooner Rasulullah sallallahu. I'm telling you, this is a hadith. He used to go out for a walk with his wives

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or his wife.

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Wow, clapper, whoo, yay, go out for a walk with his wife.

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I wanna walk the walk in with him. Now like the way we've got down here, the boogeyman is 10 yards ahead, his wife is standing behind, and still both talking to each other.

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He's talking 10 yards.

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But he won't go He won't stand next to it because he knows it's a cultural thing. And that's not how he used to walk. He used to walk right next to them. And as soon as once he's coming from Madrid, he had to have his wife with him. And he said it's only songs of my wife and sons of a wife. You find that in the Hadith, why he went for a walk, he should take his wives to Jihad with him. He should take his wife to know what was his first wife. His first one was a businesswoman. A successful businesswoman. rasulillah philosophy is the women of the household. They had some freedom they could go out with their husbands and so on and the

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father the women used to be in the masjid.

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But I'm not telling you to please

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please don't say to please look at the full sooner. The full sooner is the women used to go out they used to get fresh air, though they used to be covered up. Right. It doesn't mean that we men make that life for them where a woman she gets married. She goes into the household she never can go out to she basically goes out to just a few places. And that's it. She's sitting there all her life and her husband comes home. Oh my God. Oh, my God, some guys that can be very horrible. I'm not saying these are Muslims, please. There's only some Muslim some house as well imagine this right? She's so worried about her kids. Now.

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She's more worried about the husband and the kids. Right? So she's sticking out but to get the salt right in this right before he comes in Not tonight because I'm going to have it right. So she works, cleans, cooks, whatever for years and years. Most a lot of our mothers, a lot of our mothers

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I've gone through this, right? They do for 20 years, 30 years. And she goes through the abuse that her husband might give, right? Some of them. I'm not saying all our fathers have done that. But some of them have gone through some, some things, difficulties, whatever they didn't, they weren't in Bangladesh where they could go to next boundary. So easy. A woman's got stress, she just go behind the house out there, into the next door, she talks to another woman.

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She comes back and she's,

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she's at least been able to talk to some other women seen them physically in this country, all they can do is pick up the phone, talk to someone individually, there will be a time when the husband is out, you know, when I catch me making this Cola, so they go through this 20 years, 30 years, and the kids are basically you know, the kids are getting spoiled in the middle dish, because she's so busy cooking, cleaning, whatever. And she says, you know, one day when my kids grow up, then they'll stand up the standard for me, whatever, you know, and then she goes for 1415. And our kids are born this way going that way. In the end, she sits down she thinks was this my life.

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And then she goes into stress. And a lot of these women, they go into depression. A lot of these women are telling this one thing, yeah, this shape came those shapes that came with my chef from Bangladesh this time around. And he said to me, he said, you know, some of these women who are home they start to hallucinate, start to see things and they say both Xena You know, this gene this goes over the scene, someone they can trust their own family members, they then their son gets married. And then the son's wife First of all, okay, can suddenly the daughter in law comes and she starts causing horrible things in the house with the daughter in law. Why is she doing this? He said most

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of these cases that are assessed and this is a big shift that deals with this stuff is most of these cases that are looked at, they are related to depression. Because part of when you get to certain certain type of depression, you start hallucinating, you start hearing things in your ears. It's got nothing to do with gin. It's got nothing to do with you know,

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you know, Sahara whatever it is black magic, whatever, but they go through depression. And you only can get these in a proper person who's deep into this knowledge you can only go to them to find out what the problem is. But one thing you need to do to them to get them out of this a lot of them who and this in this stage What do you need to get them out of the house? Get them there informals all day they see forward all day they see the same picture frame on the wall all day they just watching TV, they were seeing the same people around them, it gets very moody guys is good and Moody, and all that

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and he said that it is an IRA and I said that to her she said to me right

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Allah gave

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me this somebody was

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oh you believe asked help from me when asked help from me when you're in trouble with what you saw when he was Salah have patience number one and second thing you perform prayer from prayer towards me in Allah Hamas Saudi I Allah be with you where your problems are out

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of 150 52 wherever you see 53 you see, Allah azza wa jal has said that this is the this is the reason for that. So Allah azza wa jal has said that during the through Salah through Saba get some help this person they go into the Salah

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What did he do? He says something different or does this person do? This person goes into Salah lava Savanna Hello.

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And he said that and that happened and I could have said this too, but I didn't say that you either did he said

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what a bomb

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in the last in their

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problems. Stress isn't Salah they shouldn't use stress to get rid of Salah that being said Salah, then

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a third record second record, second record. Second record I was thinking about those things.

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So this must be third record because

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I was thinking oh

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my god, what kind of salary is this

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Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam used to say to be louder the a lot harder to say I've been

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sadati I've been an overland give the advance so that you can relieve us from the tensions of dystonia or relieve us from the tensions of the dunya and when I believe like Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam they are aduanas in

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my mind is going to start with the dunya My mind is gonna allow going back to Allah and standing

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who's better to solve my problems and allows someone to stand in front of

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me, I'm a stressful person, but I'm going to say Oh, praise belongs to you Why? Because I have two eyes I have the eye that I can look at all my good things in this life I have the eye that I can look at all the problems in my life.

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I'm not going to just use one eye to look at all the problems in my life, I'm going to use my other eye that I will see all the good thing that you have given to me. And by Allah By Allah, all the good things you have given to me clearly outweigh the few bad thing that I have. That's what a lot of knowledge says. All Praise to Allah why a stressful person needs to start thinking about the good things Allah has given to take them out of stress person is usually the Salah

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cannon story hour long you worshiping Allah, I'm seeking help from and that wholesaler should become a means to remove the trouble not to bring further trouble and the stresses in there the person you know shopping The thing about it toilet seat on there, the thing about it outside in the house in

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the house, think about it, pick up the phone, this talk about it, oh my god, you're gonna kill yourself. You're gonna kill yourself. Because this stress will eventually get to you and you find yourself trapped, trapped in this frame of mind. You won't be able to get out what to do go out, meet people talk about good things. Right. And I'm going to say one thing that you need to do is you need to people who are in stress and depression, they need to laugh.

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They need to laugh

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is one of the Sooners of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, one of the singers that he loved, not all blah, blah. Now what I'm gonna do is inshallah even after the Salah will carry on