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You just don't see that. Right? That's only an adult, someone who's you know, I suppose a little bit older, can actually see that a young young child will never be able to understand that even if he told me that this or choose that word hope it is for this reason they can't see understand Forget it. And this can see the ones who just get in touch me. Now the same applies, the same applies when you're a 10 year old. Okay, a 10 year old you think about it, what would they choose to have? If you gave them, you know, the choice of, you know, getting getting something that only a 20 year old would understand.

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But a 10 year old won't understand. Because like, for example, if you said to the to the 10 year old, because they were at the age of eight, they're not that age, if you said to them, that they will be able to get a certain person to be with them in a life and you know, be together, they don't understand any of them. For them, they're like, What do you mean? Prefer 20 year old relationships actually mean something, if you talk to a 10 year old to an eight year old, that like they might laugh it off the mic, or whatever, you know, if it doesn't mean anything, when it comes to teenagers, and they come to that come to the relationship now what's happening here, you I want

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youngsters to understand Allah's will get us to the system inside us, that system, there are certain times when certain elements are you, they come they get switched on, they get switched on, and then Allah turns it up. So for example, if you told a one and a half year old kid to enjoy a full, you know, chicken and chips meal, yet, a one and a half year old can enjoy chicken and chips. But when if we give a chicken and chips meal to a seven year old, 10 year old, they can fully enjoy it. Now that appetite for those kinds of things grows as you grow older, your appetite for certain foods is gonna grow. But then he also goes down after a while. So if you told for example, a 40 year old and

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a 15 year old to really enjoy chicken and chips Hill then I'm going to enjoy my friend for them. There's another world here there's a whole cholesterol world after think about you are you with me guys. Cholesterol is in our they can be thinking about that the system was gonna happen to them tomorrow, because they eat the healthy foods that are that age when when they fried foods when they have all of these, you know, foods that are not that healthy. For them, it means something else, okay? They enjoyed it 20 years ago, right? Now they need to be careful, right? You give them other cakes, you give them a lot of sweets, you know that they can take a little bit, but when they go

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overboard, they know it's gonna hit them. Because then they're gonna have they're gonna face you know that the realities of whatever's going to come toward them, right. So now the same thing applies to you here as as a person, what are you going to do? And how are you going to look at life when you're at when you're at, let's say,

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you know, 1617, okay, and you basically coming to your own relationships. When you come to those relationships, you're going to look a certain way. When you become someone who's 2025 30 something inside you, hola switched on, and it's going to increase, but then after a while, it's going to start to decrease last, let's look at the whole whole system, the whole thing. When you start to become a teenager, and you first become a teenager, then you're 13 or something here Allah has now turned on your hormones. Okay? It's natural. Why? Because Allah has made the human such that he will make them want each other for reproduction. Allah wants the human race to continue. Allah wants

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many, many children have been out of atomizer them to grow without that the human race will die. So he put a system inside us, you get to 1213 something is switched inside you. The boy now wants the girl the girl wants the boy, as they move along the ages when they get to 1718 1920 That thing's going to increase and increase more is going to get a time when they're going to be crazy for each other. Now, it all differs in different people. Some people will get crazy at the time of 16 some will get crazier 20 Some will get crazier 25 There's no such handbook to tell you who's going to be reached that crazy stage at what age now. That's going to happen. When you when you carry on have to

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go through the stage. You really want to be with the opposite gender you really want to be with a new and a happy relationship with the man Allah has given us a system that yes, we want to

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You know, we want to latch on to one another. However,

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by the time you've hit your 14, up to 4550, that thing's gonna be turned down. Trust me, it's gonna turn, you're young. And you said, Nah, I'm still going to be going, you're not brown, you're not going to be going. You can't physically go, you know, like the man who will look at a chicken and chips and look at a cake and saying, Ah, I'll take a little bit, but not too much yet. By the time you're 4550, right, you're going to be lucky if you can be the same. When you were 20, you're going to be lucky, you're going to be very lucky by the time you get to 60 here, you don't forget anything else, you're probably going to be ending up with a walking stick, right? Just keep keep yourself you

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know, standing. Alright, make yourself just about walk nicely forget perform, you're going to be walking it from the point, right? And say, yeah, so guys, understand this gonna hit you as well. There's almost like a peak right now in that P. Where you got to understand is Allah put a system inside us, because He wants the human race to continue to grow? That Allah gave us a system. He gave us a shutdown? He gave us something called Mica.

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Right? So if you want to get together with the opposite gender, there is a system in Islam, and it's called Nika. Now, what is Nika? And why is it so important? Because nowadays, youngsters are like, I don't know, in your schools, you're actually taught this stuff, right? In your schools, you're encouraged to go and do what you can, as long as you you know, it's all through consent. All right. So you agree, and she agrees, and all is good. And you can go on and you could do whatever your English schools are telling you, this is a marathon for them. Because there is no such thing. In fact, in the new culture that will engineers Nikka is a burden. Marriage is a burden. But it's not a

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burden. You got to understand Why did Allah put the system of Nica, I want you to understand that because the new generation is back. Just just get together to have fun. Have fun, get together have a relationship, you know, and there's all these all these ways that people are doing it today. Like there's apps, available apps, people are downloading them. And then what you do is you put your location, or you put your radius, yeah, how many miles apart because you don't want to be too close to your dad's house. You know, I'm saying like, you might get caught somewhere. So you want to go to a nearby city. And then you know, they swipe this way you swipe that way or you click and you put

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your things there and then you start you know, yet you want to meet up for a coffee.

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I think it's an innocent coffee, just want to meet up with a coffee or you might be someone or you call it you might meet someone or you need someone at your school or something and then you have feelings and so on. And the thing is, when you can't understand is Allah azza wa jal has now given us a pathway of halal and apart from power. This is Allah, my Creator, Ukraine to doing this. I never make the rules up. No more Lana, no chef, no Imam made these rules up. If you don't like the rules, you're gonna have to face him on the day of judgment. He's made the rules. It's his role, his rules. He created me in you. He put my hormones in me. He put the hormones in her. He turned the

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hormones up in her up in me and then he said you got halal, or haram? The highlight is

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you go through Nikka what does that mean? I want all of you to understand one because it's the best thing for the man and for the woman because in this situation, so one who is vulnerable is the woman you can go and slice that cake as you want. But the vulnerable person is the woman you can talk about equality till the Day of Judgment happens but the vulnerability is with the woman why? Because she's the only one who's going to bear the child

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not the man

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the one who bears the child is who

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or

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who's ready

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who's the vulnerable one

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are you guys scared of something that might be right and you know oh my god equality and all that listen, I don't care how you slice that equality thing. Right? The one who bears the child is the woman and because she bears the child, the child predominantly okay. Is within her first then is with her. Now we know okay, you can pick up all these equality okay? They can basically agree to look after this this child without having

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Marriage and so on, they can agree to all of that. But the reality is gay men, most men, most men

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will not share the responsibility of the children unless they have to.

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This is reality.

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You don't get in every other man segment fine, we live together, no married, no responsible, no nothing. And we get together we have children, I'll take full responsibility. And that man is going to stick to his words, you're going to find in law, martial law, only a few men in the world is going to do that. Otherwise, men need to be given by law, a responsibility to look after their children. And look after whatever comes our way. And that's what the car is about. nickering protection nicaya is protecting not only the woman, we're protecting the man as well. Why? Because Allah azza wa jal hasn't made us in a way that we can sleep with as many people as you want and

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nothing's going to happen. The world knows, the world might lie about it, the world knows that you ended up sleeping with several people, there's going to be illnesses are going to spread amongst you. We know this, it's on record. It's scientifically proven. People go through these tests in hospitals. What they call the STI is what they call them. Std STD sort of, you know why? Because then you sleep with so many people, you're going to end up with these illnesses that you don't want your own body is going to deteriorate. Because of doing this Allah let them make a system for us to you know, do whatever you want. There's no such thing. So Allah wants you to have only a few if that

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relationships or a single relation, if you're gonna have more than having within Halloween, but just a few relation.

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Now, in that, Allah, Allah is protecting the woman why? What happens is this.

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Before you get together, let's just talk about relationships. Because young people want to get into relationship. They're like, you know, I just, I just want to have, let's just have fun.

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Let's just enjoy each other, enjoy each other's time. What you don't understand is there's a lot. It's not just about the child, it's done to let you say, they said together, we're going to get together. But you know, we're not going to have any children.

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What about the emotions? What happens to a person when they've invested emotion together, and one person wants to just break up one person wants to get up? Have you ever seen a teenager go through emotions when their relationship has broken up? Has anyone seen that? And anyone experienced any of that in your community? No, yes or no? Yes. What happens to them?

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They are blinded. First. They go through that emotional roller coaster. Women take take a knife out and they start to cut themselves. Throughout life. They do that they cause self harm. Why? Because it's so much. When the emotions are high. You get together and there's no law to make you stay and stick together. They you had an argument and one of them wants to pull away. What happens? You go through absolute mayhem of your like your life you done Oh,

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that's why Allah said, look, there's a new car. Why? Because he can't prevent all of this. It puts responsibility. It puts you together and said, Okay, tomorrow, there's an argument. If tomorrow one of you doesn't want to be here, now you have to meet here. Nika is when you make an intention. I'm going to be with this person until the end of my life. That's the car. I want the youngsters and the young generation, even the middle aged people to understand this. My father, a lot of you are in your 40s or even 50s We know our dads, our mothers, when they got married, they knew they can do anything. They can argue til the cows come home. But there's gonna be no such thing as divorce as I

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was

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yesterday,

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and today, is that something happens oh DeVos Oh, cola cola.

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What's wrong with you guys? Are you like I will live in the life of Disney.

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Are you making some kind of a Hollywood film some kind of Bollywood romantic film that is all about if things work out when they work out? It's all hunky dory when things don't work either the test breakup let's move on. Let's go. What's his such a nigga is not that Nikka is you say okay, if I get into this, I get into this phone. That woman is my responsibility all the way

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The deputy passes. The woman also says that man, I'm going to be willing to stay with the thick and thin, thick of it till death departs us. That's because that's what Allah wanted us to do. If you ever get into religion, they say, You know what? Let's do in the car, we check the

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check it out. It's not IKEA.

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If you put the Ikea furniture home yet, you build it all up. You look at it.

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However delight,

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you take it all the way down, take it back to IKEA, go to customer services to returns, you say, without warning? Can I have a refund? Please? What in the world is one you're gonna just go for a quick refund and a human being? After you, you know, why is this no such thing, make a serious signal. What happened in most relationships that are not using the car is you facing all of these damages, you're facing the possibility of a child coming to the world where one of them or both of them will not want the child, they're gonna go for abortion. They're gonna want to get rid of the child, a child that did no

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cry,

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you just kind of throw it away, that child is going to come up on the gentleman.

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That fetus that was going to become a human being will come up under their judgment. And he's going to say to Allah, Allah, what was my fault? That these two individuals had to abort me? For the sake of their own pleasure? They didn't want they wanted, but they got rid of me. Why are you gonna do that as a child that that's putting a court case against you in front of Allah? Didn't we try Unicode? What are you gonna do? It's not about instead of our people just having fun. It's a serious future. But Allah is giving a hallelujah, Allah is giving your half haram. Which one are you going to choose? It's also about that what I said to these relationships, but they have

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they have relationships, what do they do? They get together.

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They'll get together for months, they'll get together for years, and they get so close to one another. Okay. Now, what do they say? When they say to each other in a while, I'm gonna have to say goodbye to you. But I don't know how to say goodbye to you. Because I'm so attached to you. Because my daddy, Aman mummy have fixed together the output of Bangladesh, and I'm going to marry my cousin.

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Or I'm going to manage some person that is literally in my, in my area. Because we from Bish net. And there said the she called me from vishna. But you're not from Krishna and you're from another country? Or you're you and me, are like never gonna get together. Because why on earth? Have you gone that far? Because then a lot of other problems come across

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a series I want you guys to think, what is it that you're getting into? Because then you come to a man like us? And you say that? Oh, isn't it hello? Oh, Canada do me this one. Whoa, whoa, listen, we managed to get my whoa, I'm going to give you what are you coming talk to us before you come into the relationship. Like, seriously, you get into the relationship, you have the relationship, you're together. And then you come to the Imam and the Imams now going to go and talk to your uncle and to your dad and convince all of them for you to I'm not against them. If there's any Muslim woman out there, fine, but I can't do the thing of getting into your family household and tell them what to do

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because people aren't the preferences. And you're gonna say to me, what is wrong for me to have, you know, a person from another country in other parts of the desert, look

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at your preference on you and your family. Now, you can go ahead and you can get right to that woman, but then your family might boycott you. Are you ready for that? Because that's another thing that's gonna happen. You're gonna say well, it's not fair. What I'm gonna say to you in this life is not a fairy tale. Life is not a fight in every fairy tale. I don't know why they read these fairy tales when you're young. Every time you read a fairy tale you come at the end and the last phrase is and they live happily ever after. Oh.

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And they live happily ever after. Is there one human being that ever lived happily ever after not mine this world and you can live happily ever after in general.

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Inshallah soil journal eyes lit my boot is

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lit up. Yes, you can live happily ever after in Ghana but in this world, there is no such thing as live.

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happily ever after, there's always going to be something that you're going to deal with. And you want to get into this relationship, there's going to be a big price to pay, not only in this dunya will definitely Dacula. But there's going to be something in this dunya as well, that might hit you. Now, you might take your calculations, because when those things happen, what are you supposed to do? Actually, one thing though, you can get married to different cultures, that's fine. But then you gotta have a way of being able to live together. The main thing is, are you to come to live together until death depart, you have to maintain? That is the main question. You don't want anything to come

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in between that suddenly, you know, rent your pod, and then you have all these emotions attached to them go through the emotional roller coaster and you're like, You're neither here you're none of that.

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Now, these youngsters, one of the things for them is that quickly go find someone, talk to them, talk to them, or all I'm doing is just talking to them.

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All I'm doing is talking to them. I'm never going to touch her eye she says I'm never going to touch. So what we just we just talk with a child.

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Well, that's that's the first mistake you make. Because the thing is, when you chat,

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you're all in it before that you've made one mistake. And the first one is the eyes. When you look at the other gender, with your eyes, and your eyes have fallen onto someone where your emotions start to boil up, then you straightaway fallen into a trap. Because that Trump's gonna take you one after the other to the next one. Rasulullah sallallahu has me he spoke about that. He said the the eyes fully came. And he says, he said, Ally Nan is in our Houma another. He said that fornication the eyes is to look,

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Allah has told us in the Sharia, he knows the Quran, Allah will mean a good omen absolving him he said, tell the bleeding men to lower their gaze not look unnecessarily.

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Well from Fujifilm and therefore straight after look, if you control your eyes, your follow through them will be able to control that which in between your thighs, you'll be able to control that straight to the women shaft that allows him only movement, you Young Goodman upside the hidden tell them to lower their gaze not just for men is for women as well. Were called enough wujiang And Allah said they will be able to protect their private parts as well. And that's the first thing if you can control it from here, you've controlled a lot. But if you haven't controlled from here, then the next thing is what you want to talk to them.

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When LisaNova Zina who Adam Callen Sahadi the Muslim, that the fornication of the tongue wants to talk lustfully the fornication of the ears, the prophet Allah some says is to one listen, and it's the man wants to listen. Because in that listening of the other person, you're getting enjoyment. When you're talking, you're getting enjoyment. When you're looking, you're getting enjoyment. When all of these things or three things are working, you're talking with your turn, we're looking with your eyes, we listening with you is all of that three together for you and for her, you're both getting enjoyment

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and shaitan if you look in the Quran, What did Allah seminar shaytaan the shaytaan will never take you straight to his end game show that always works with Hubble while it's called STEP BY STEP small steps he worked with. So step number one is for him for you for the shaytan to make me and you look unnecessarily Step number two is you know where the person seen someone step number two is I need to now get the number

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that's the next bullet. Why don't you kind of looking at them I need to go into this zone

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and recall front of them SR Sr, are you okay system? Do you need any help system

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or starts off with SR SR Ma? MashAllah brothers come to give Daraa

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he's come as a big diary, Mashallah. He's looking after all the sisters. He's coming as the man who's going to make sure all the sisters are protected under the permission of Allah. Allah who is where he inside him is like, Sister sister. Please say yes to me. Sister give me an insight but he's not going to that straightaway.

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If you knew and his

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sister living system in the college and the university, he's looking down he's totally stuck one oh mashallah Brahmins Oh really, you know, geared up to look after the system. A caravan.

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Doing that cousin doing that until one day somehow, you know, it's more than sister Are you okay? And it's more than her saying yes, I'm Okay brother. He's waiting for that chance. She's gonna get another time to come the shaytaan Shakedowns working on the house without working on him. So again he says Sister Sister, are you okay? Yes, I'm okay brother. I knew Okay brother, oh goes open now. Just when you phrase somebody or something extra, or she doesn't get anything in our back to say, she doesn't, you know, find it to dialogue. What did Allah saying the Quran?

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Allah says Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah said to the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam, that when you reply, don't reply in your natural, gentle, sweet voice you know women, Allah made them in such a way that when they talk normally they are natural sweet voice and so

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you won't do your watch talk like

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they do their hands three voices are not

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the same. So you're like man, you got to get behind me and just get beaten up and go home.

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They have much more now wedding day. Why to the perfect day perfect Elisa, speak back Allah azza wa jal said he said Lata Barna. Allah says don't at that time, lower your your voice. Why? Because if you talk in your natural stream voice, the other pinata Ducati bad intention, but the other person might hear from a mighty thing that you're you know, you're playing along. You're giving a little hint.

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And that's the danger because I tell you with a problem with magic is meant for them is straight away they want in all physical. Women think all emotional. Women are not interested straightaway in the physics of a man most women are not the women who are they don't really know what what's going on in life much right? But most women, they really like to see what the who the guy is on the inside. Most men they don't think about what's on the inside of the woman. They think about the outside of the woman and that's a big mistake men make.

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Because I say it's not just about the lips that she's got. But it's how the tongue behind the lips are going to treat humanoid robot. You guys understand? Yes or no?

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Only the augments and yes, the answer is alive now.

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Yeah, lips are really interesting. Yeah. You need that to be something that's you know, top notch. Now the thing is, though,

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when he's made that thing about Sr, Sr. Are you okay? Yes. Are you okay? Reverse it. Okay, since the union here was you, okay, provide whatever, you know, okay, this and then one thing and one thing, then either he's offered his number or She's offered her number or some other chords are not set. Now the collab now the hearing now that seeing every day is continuing, and then the next thing that's going to happen is those who will last all along who said he said Richland? He said the legs, Zina, Houma. He said, There's Zina. Therefore the occasion is to walk towards the person. Eventually that's going to happen. She does but he does plan. That's the next step. Next step is an era when

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you're done Zina, Huma, I'll wash their hands, they will want to actually touch even if the person says no, I'm not gonna do any of that, but that's coming along. That's part of the shaders plan is gonna come along. And then the process says that the last thing is whether the hearts actually come to accept or reject the fact that they're going to commit the actual fornication. And all of those plans away from the site from looking if men boys and women and girls they can control their site at first, then you stop all of shredders plant. And the only way to really go for the for the proper things is to do in the car. Now, my friends, when you're young, all of these hormones are bouncing

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up and down inside you. They're making you go crazy. And understand that you want to be with the other person. If you choose the halal

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you will be given Subhan Allah a wonderful thing on the Day of Judgment, a wonderful price. This is the choice that you've got. The price for Halal is you had a woman who she was

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As a beautiful woman, a beautiful girl, she was someone who was very attracted to you. She was someone from a good, you know, status. She wasn't one of these women that were, you know, here and then so no, she was one of those that has given you that tension.

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And she says to you come along, let's go and let's do it. Or the opposite thing. Let's say, for example, a man, good looking man, he's asked the system, he said to me, let's do it. There's no IndyCar involved here that says, let's go ahead. And the other person says in me a half of luck, I can't go ahead. And I can't do this, because I fear Allah as the other person says that, and they meet, and they want to end the relationship. If any of you youngsters are in a relationship, or you're in a situation where you're tempted for that relationship, and you give it up for the sake of Allah, and on the Day of Judgment, when the whole of the dead General will be full of a sea of

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people, an ocean and gigantic, enormous ocean where you cannot see the last man, there's going to be men and women and children and animals and everything, you can see the end of this. And the sun is going to be one man above people's heads. And the only shade like your own body doesn't have a shadow. The only shade is going to be the shade of Allah's throne on that day, under the throne is going to be the MBR in Salatu Salam is going to be the truthful people that civility is going to be the shahada, the martyrs, there's going to be the solid from the pious people, and a number of other people that Allah is going to put on the day. If you're a man, or you're a woman who gave up a haram

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relationship, and a haram invitation for the sake of Allah, you gave it up, that Allah has gone to call you on the Day of Judgment and invite your special invitation where you come under that shade of Allah through not only that, you come in large shade, you see amniotic surface, you see all the prophets Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam has called sat in his hands, and he will offer you the drink of cold water for you to drink. When you drink, that you can never be thirsty ever again, you will be in and amongst the celebrities of the day, determine the Ambia, the Sahaba, the best of people, the people who kept Allah happy, and Allah is gonna keep them happy on the day of demand,

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and he's gonna put them into Jana, you're going to be amongst those people, you got no worries on this day, this is your price on this day for giving up the religion.

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The harm pathway, if you carry on doing what you're doing, and you go down a pathway and temptation and lost a job, and I'm gonna tell you guys, though, before I go ahead, I will tell you this last temptation is something a bit life going, you know, down hill. Okay, so if you've got a bike, all right, you're at, you're at one of these streets that has got a steep, you know, some of the hill that goes all the way down the road is such that it just goes down. If you're at the top, right, if at the top of the hill, you're on a bike, and you basically just let go of the brakes. So you're sitting now, you're not pedaling. What's gonna happen to the bike?

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What's gonna happen, it's gonna start going down, as it goes down, is it going to decrease in speed or increase in speed? Increase, this is exactly the same as last and contagion. You gotta be very careful here. Because last interrogation doesn't decrease. If you look at the other person, you make contact with the person have you already increased, like you've got the bike now you let go the brakes, nice car is moving, moving. Now. You start talking to the other person, it's moving on before you better put your brakes Summerfest

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you got to put your brakes on stop that because we don't, your speed is going to increase. And your temptation towards the other person is gonna get stronger and stronger as you move along. Right? Because now you speak in a token every day. There's text messages going around going on, right? Every day, this kind of you know, conversation, and you can't even live your life.

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There's young guys who failed exams because of religion. Some of you smiling at me thinking yeah, I was there.

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There's young people who walk up they can't see anything. Rasulullah sallallahu said booka shade and your Meek or

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your love for something can make you blind. Guys, you guys get the SNR you don't understand. You know your love for PS five

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I can make you like, I don't want to do anything else except for playing FIFA fortnight all day.

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You can make your blind love for something, the temptation for something can make you go crazy. It gets into an addiction and those guys who get into drugs is same thing. They got their stuff from some puffing some e cigarette or something, gone to an actual cigarette, getting somebody to we'd get something like, you know, hierarchy higher, you know, slowly, slowly, slowly, concave

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speed all the way down. The same thing doesn't give them a buzz anymore. So they ended up with cocaine and ended with heroin after that. And now this seriously addicted but by the time you get to the bottom, oh my God, you're going for a crush. So the same thing happened with temptation with relationships. If you don't stop it, you're gonna hit hard because you're going to be going full speed ahead. And he spoke like some of these guys. They can't think straight. I remember the story right? So this is guy comes along and dinner this Musa Sally comes along to me. And somebody sweatshirts with a former please. So this local Mussolini comes along.

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And he says to please speak to my brother. He's going to relationship. But this sister is gone.

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She's not wearing the hijab.

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And he's a family and we don't want him to go ahead and they're really close in it.

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And you can't make any sense it and you talk to them that guy, what are you doing? You come from a practicing family. Your family is doing Salah all the time. You're doing your Salah all the time, you're doing fabulous, great this sister does that even pray, she doesn't have any job. She's not nothing. But you know what, what's the intention? I'm gonna make her parade. I'm going to be added to Google and make a friend to Google my whole thing.

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You're gonna make your pray. I tell you one thing straight up boys. And girls, if you ever get into any of these things, where you think that I'm gonna make the system becoming practicing, ah, after the niqab Forget it, game over. Because what happens is up to the nickel you say, Sister Sister, I think going away the heater veteran? Of course I will my dad

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inshallah inshallah sister says she's going to wear the hijab, on please everybody except you. Fine. You get married one year, one year and you try and use a system please

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bring my own time. That's what she didn't say she didn't say what I'm wearing. But I really was in my own time.

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Another year later saying she's the one gone by my wife come on, come on life, whether it's whether whether he got caught, you got to do it. You know, Allah sent this Allah says, You got to do it. And she said, Wait a minute, I'll do it in my own time. I'll do it when I'm ready. I'm praying when I'm with you. That's what they say to you. So then on the third day, you run it now you're getting frustrated? Why on earth are you getting frustrated? Senator, you Why

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should I tell you why I don't work? You don't? Why are you getting frustrated by the second third yet?

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Because you got children coming along the way.

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Who face it? Now you basically walk in a room has told you the beginning of this band, every stage of life when you got life looks different life as you move along. Life looks different. So now you've been frustrated. For what because we're children coming along this guy. He said to me talk to my brother, Sato assigned brother Damn.

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I saw that go there.

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I said, I said you serious? You want to get married? Jane said I'm serious. I said yes. I said, Well, you realize, you know What? What? What are you getting into? And if you know you get blind, you can't think you can't think once your emotions are high, you can't think straight. So he's like, Yeah, I'm happy. She's happy. Which one? Go ahead and get the new guy down. I said, okay, one question.

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I said, Imagine Allah blesses you with a daughter.

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You gotta be Canada. Allah blesses me with the daughter. The daughter grows up, she becomes nine years old, nine year old daughter, she's about to eat 1011 12. So the bite to eat the age now when she's going to grow. And you know how a woman body's in a role as well. She's about to get to that age. But she's she's looking at her mouth. Her mom's not wearing hijab.

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For her, it's normal to say, Brother, tell me this, would you want your daughter to wear hijab? He said, Yes. I said, Okay. I turned around to the girl and said, Would you want your daughter to wear hijab? She said, No. Whoa, because I'm beef going on however, beef,

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then Assad is in front of me. As low is a harmless

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acid and I got to the bottom of it. Simple questions, put them in a scenario because then our thinking that I'm thinking about the future

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thinking techniques, they don't get into relationship where you're going to regret. You're going to be fighting and you want to get out of the marriage. And he said, he said, Well, I discussed this with you that you're going to become more practicing as we go along.

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But

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if you don't break him out, you don't do something again. Look out girl, you can find two without a job. She's telling you the fourth

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time, and then one day she turns around, she says this, she says, we're now got married to you. You accepted me without the hijab. And now you're forcing the hijab on me. That's not fair.

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You're forcing the hijab. Now you can forcing the hijab on?

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That's not fair. I tell you guys, look, you gotta understand there's a life ahead. The life is you're not seeing the time when you have children. You're not seeing the time when your children grow up, because life doesn't look the same. Like what what does life look to young people right now? Young people right now is I get her she gets me I have her she has mean we live together as the very dresses happily ever after.

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There's no dream of children does not drink even if children pop up. They're going to be the most beautiful and the best children ever under having remote control. She can have remote control I will put the children to sleep wherever you want

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we press another button he says happy smile you press that the kid got

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press another box each that kid got

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what do you give birth to some robot or some

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other kid the kid's gonna have his independent life. Right? The kid's gonna bring his own life into your lives is going to become a total different different world view you're gonna see and young people can see this young people don't know what it is that I'm getting into. Unlike is this look if you're in a relationship right now without makeup, it's gonna happen when those kids come along. Most men, they don't want to do anything to do it or run away. That's why I love to look at them for your protection for your own good. Now let me get back to that hadith about haram. I said, the Haram pathway

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if you go down the Haram pathway, and what is your result like let's say you have no new car and you have relationships, you sleeping together. And shaytan is taking you down the hill like I said to temptation last up to you and now you're doing everything now the next thing what you do is these days you can suffer loss of love suffered a loss of law under shake up plays with democra che time playing with the big time either he does this to you and I know that our youngsters and young men who do this, they have a haram relationship. Right it's a bit like what the you know, you know you notice some of the Christians the protesters what they do, right? Friday night. They have the life

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they want in a club. Right? Friday night. Okay hola

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Sadie, whatever the mind you I'm in the morning comes they go to the priest

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and the Father, Father, I have seen

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and the father.

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I don't know why the process is he said, What have you done my son? Why do you have to even ask that? Would it be done unless you want to find out what he's done? Anyway, he says, Father I did this on Friday night. Okay, son, you're blessed. You know, I forgive you you know you go this guy every week goes back to the Father Father I've seen and then they give some kind of donation to the church and it's kind of resigned because the father keeps on you might say you bless them finish now some Muslims are made that some kind of some almost the same thing is that it's like you got there. You know what you like with the opposite gender, then it's like oh, you know, do Stefan Tober so as

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topless tequila or come to the masjid or come for Juma. I'll be a good boy. I'll get a good donation to the masjid you know, I tend to Imams have to make bar for me. You know Imam sub loves me you know doesn't just love you right? The Masjid loves you because of your donation bro. And I hope you understand that. But anyway, we love you. But the thing is, don't think that your donations it's gonna get you out of this. Don't think that the Imam there's no such thing as time anywhere been a blessing. There's no such thing but you think that you're only step far your toe but every time you've gone down that line, you know you have to abandon this and some other Muslims like oh, if I

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have so much love for the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, he's going to intercede for people under their judgment. So that's why I'm going to be laid off.

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And honestly, there are most invitees who have who have invested a lot in the Promise of Allah, Allah. Okay, we will

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Love The Promise of Allah Islam. We know he's going to make intercession on the day. But are you banking on that? To get yourself redeemed on your sin? On the Day of Judgment is almost a God do what I want to

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build a masjid here and give some money over there. Allah please forgive me Lord Allah Allahu Allah building another half of the people watching please forgive me, but let me just carry on do what I want to do. Nothing's gonna happen to you. Let me tell you one thing before you even get to the dead gentlemen, this is the Haram part that I was going to talk to you about from the Hadith, the Hadith, and Buhari

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the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, he travels in a dream and all the prophets dreams are truthful. They are reality they're not none of the prophets dreams ever show them anything except reality. Now, the prophets of Allah, Allah, he traveled with Jabril Isola, he sees many things on this route. One of the things he sees is that he sees

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a whole big pot, a massive pot, huge.

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And that pot is burning. As it is, it's um, it's called fire inside is not a fire underneath. It's called fire inside. There are naked men, naked women who are being tossed from within the pot outside of the puck high like flames that come up. And those naked men, women fall back inside the portal and screaming and like, the fire is so intense, it throws them out of the pot high and then they fall back straight into the body.

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So awesome. Allah has been quiet. You realize, what is this that I'm seeing? Oh, you know, oh, you will and you realize, well, Salam said, he said these are the men and women of your OMA who commit Zina to commit adultery or fornication. This is their fate. Now, my friend,

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this Allah's law is not my law. You know, when that's gonna happen, that is the other will cover. The other man said, all the dreams in that particular being delivered to the law. So this is the punishment of the grave. So which means that those people will feel and be in that punishment because they committed Zina until whatever Allah lets them up until the Day of Judgment, for five minutes of pleasure. For half an hour of pleasure. Do you want to give yourself a lifetime and several lifetime worth of punishment? Anyone who's in a relationship that is haram right now, you have a choice. You say to yourself, either I do the thing that I said to you earlier, which is in

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near half Allah, I fear Allah, if you do that, you will earn your place under the Throne of Allah on the Day of Judgment. If you don't, you're faced with the other thing and I'm both of these I had either side.

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Both of these are Hadith aside, one is a Muslim. The other one is inside Buhari. Most of us are, hey, which one which route are you going to take? Because if you don't, and the position under Allah's are from the day of judgment, and you get shaded, and live amongst the prophets, and be with them until they get to Jannah your other pathway is you get punished in a pot of fire, and your burning, burning, burning all the time. Allah knows man, God, Allah forgive us. May Allah protect us army. Now, young guys, look, open your eyes and say to yourself, I'm going to give up the relationship and I make it I'm going to make a hallelujah, hallelujah is Nika. And before I

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continue, I want to address the elderly community as well. We the parents, guardians of these children, we need to make life easy for them, please. You know, we have also made our life slightly difficult.

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Why is the balance between the children being too young to get married, I understand that. But there's also there's another side where the children may have losing their hair on the end. And they're looking for, for a person to get married to. And they can't find that because we became too fussy.

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And let me explain that to you. And I'm talking particularly to the elderly, can those who've got children, I'm talking to you, those who have grandchildren, I'm talking to you.

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Rasulullah sallallahu said in a hadith when I he said, addressing the men, he said when a potential spouse for your daughters comes and he is a good man. He's a religious person. He said get

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Then you're done straightaway. Otherwise, there's going to be a big fifth and a big trial and big tribulation will stop. I'll come out on

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that basis where we should do is is the pattern is that girl? Or is that boy? Are they religious or they're getting religious enough that the light of my son or the life of my daughter is going to be good until get past them. That's what you want to look at. Now we throw a lot of things inside there. And I don't know why. Look, if if your son likes the girl, or the girl likes the boy.

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Why are you getting foster back the height?

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Why

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nakasu To enjoy you.

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She's five foot. If she was five foot two inches, that would have been okay. Now she's five foot nationala

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what in the world is wrong with you? It's not going to feel good for it's going to be not nice for us. What do you mean? If your son likes her? Whether she's five foot or five foot two or five to formula? Whether she's taller than him? Or he's taller than her? What does that matter? You're basing you're basing it on one thing mine shake it up. Why are people going to say that? That's all it's about? If people didn't make a first you wouldn't be happy to go ahead. Mine should know this thing about mine. Check it out. But this killed us, especially I've been wanting community. What are people going to say? So now you've got a nice proposal come is within select. Both of them are

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within cynet Not all data crucify Me. Musa unison, they're from that place. We don't get along with og vi God, the girls British, the boys British. They don't know anything about Ebola and vishna Madiba, Giovanna to deny anything about that. They don't know they don't have an ounce of that inside there. They go to Bangladesh once in 15 years, once in 10 years, even then, you know hostel or shahada, they stay there for four weeks because you make them stay there. They complain about their mosquito, they complain about the weather, they complain about the water that they complain about the people that they don't like anything over there. They want to come and live over there.

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They are British, please make life easy for yourself. Please open up make some some accommodation for the youngster. Because some of these youngsters they want to get married and found someone that knew and found someone religious. And we're going to make it difficult for them. Because now I'm not always a nice, sometimes we say this. They're ready to get married at the age of 20 or 21. Or do we say nah, for degreaser?

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You gotta finish your degree. You know, we pile these things on until 100 Things we piled on. If you look about 30 years ago,

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if the boy had just a levels, the girl had that time needs to call them all levels. Now we call them GCSEs. If the girl had a GCSE, and the boy had a level, we said Al Hamdulillah get the man nothing else.

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Then after another few years, okay, about 2025 years ago, we said no, that guy's got to have a degree. And the girls got to have angels. We said up there. Yes. Yes. The houses yes, we're going to get that done. So the rules are okay, the girl has to have gone somewhere else. And the boys are one degree.

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You can have no problem. He's got a degree. Yeah, he'll get he'll get a job, don't worry, he'll get a job. Everything's gonna be fine. You've got a degree, then we'll have an offer that about 20 years ago

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15 years ago, we changed it again. We said the boy now has to have a levels. He has STEM degree and on top of that he has to get a job

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and

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I'm gonna give him without a job. So isn't that he's got a job. So now the girls sitting around she's going okay, he's gonna get it done now for him to get a job at 2425 again gets a job she's gonna get a good job and you're gonna get sick you got to go do that God's gonna go home degrees what you just wait in there. Like I said, we're measured on one study a little bit more. So nothing became the girl has to have a degree and the boy has to another job. And after about 10 years, things changed again. We added another one. So now

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the board has to get a gastic is ailable master's degree has got a job and then he has

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had enough money secured in his bank for the deposit of his future house when he when he's got that or he can tell us that he's going to be able to buy a house. He's got enough to do that. Then we can give our daughter

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in Nalin Largo nila, Roger. Yeah, so what happened now yet? The gargoyle is degree and then he basically his job now has got to get deposit deposit not gonna happen happen overnight. It's gonna happen overnight and what's gonna conquer them guys? Yes or no guys

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can take five, six years. So the guy was 24 when he finished or 23 When he finished his degree. He got a job at 24 in five years 929 29 And now I've got the boss eight. Understand. You save a little deposit. Girl what she's doing. She got a degree as well. Before I'm gonna sit down. I'm also gonna get on the phone. Right so she got a job as well now she got her money. She's not getting money. She's not earning. She's not being independent. He's 29 by 29 If you took his hat off yet, he's got

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that here. You know, like the sun's come out and maybe certain rivers are drying up yet. He's gonna live patch them dried up. You know? Gosh, you

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guys lost his hair way. That what happened to the girl? Guess what happened? The truth. I'm telling you this. She's 21 She's pretty. She's beautiful. She's bubbly. She's ready for Nikka she wants to pick up guys come on nananana nanana hears about this one because

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this one has a job but not the job that we would like. Yeah. Okay. And then Japan's another one, please. Not weddings, they see the girl. They say harmfully, whose daughter is that straightaway they put a proposal can we get can we get ourselves ready? Your daughter's ready. Let's do it now. Waiting out she's gonna be 24 before she's gonna know she's gonna get your degree finished. We got we can't do this. But if but if but now she got 2425. And then what happens is the proposals that are coming now as fewer proposals, she got loads of proposals 2122 23 when she hits 2425 proposals are getting less why? Now she's 24 People are saying that oh, she's a little bit older. Let's look

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for somebody else. First, their preferred choice goes to someone younger. Okay. By the time she gets to 2627, right? Even if they propose Now, the other party are rejecting her. She's a beautiful girl. 2627 What do we need?

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Now the question is, why hasn't she got married? And she's still 26 or 27?

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Why is she still a bachelor? Because it was armored. And she's probably symptoms of why you called them yes or no. Does this happen? Yes or No? Who's the problem for this the parents, culture, parents, grandparents society. You will put this on her. It's not her fault. She put her mind at 21 She broke up by the 22. She gets to 27. Now you know before it's like big Reshiram ham Syrah one degree. We want quick we want this one internal Good job, a good salary. A good yearly salary. Now you know what happened? The next guy that comes they look at him and say yes. Have you got two eyes? Yes. You got two legs. Yes. You can read the description come forward on the phone.

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When you were when she was 21 turned to off. We need to have 15,000 Maha. We need to have this. We need to have deposit we never by the time she gets to 27 JANA

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dosha. Pfizer's analysable Give us 5000 Mah give us

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a bit of gold. You know, this is enough. They couldn't get it up.

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Why did you cause all that problem and I'll tell you another problem that happens. It should be nice. If you get them married at a young age. They are like, have you seen when when plants grow? Have you seen when when a tree grows? First have branches agree? Then the branches become brown? Say yes or no. When they green, you can bend them. You can twist them. You can put them through the trellis. You can make any shape change you want. And by the time it goes brown stays in that shape yes or no.

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When they're 2122 23 they both get married together. They both agree Mashallah. They can blend with each other. They can share

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each other, they can get off by the time that 20 And he's 2930. She's 2728

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They get married and now brown.

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You know, I'm trying to say, the brown, he wants to change her. He got she's actually led to an independent life.

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That's more who

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you are money. What?

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Are you going to job here? For the last five years, you have a job as well, when you're gonna show it to me. While all your degrees are going to degree to hear, you've got British passport

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to

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you person who's got rights and other rights do you want to try to get our challenge? You might not only live on the corner, but what to do this means that all comes because both became independent. Do

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you guys understand that? Yes, yes. Two of them have led the independent life from 22 to 29. The age to get married was 2223. At that time, you get the marriage, they have the little kids, they can blame the commode each other, they can change, they can adopt it very easy to adapt, because the young still, by the time they get to around 30 They don't want to change. You know what the new new culture is. The new culture has become now they don't want to get married.

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Want to have independent life? I don't know how they might not have that. He hasn't happened yet. He started yet.

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London is allowed to go there's all these girls 3536 37 I know partly it's not their fault. Partly is the parents. Their parents did not the mind, but I'm gonna 30 They're getting normal proposals now. 3132 they're really having a very hard time finding anyone new. The guys don't want to get married to them. They're like, Okay, I'll take you. I'll take the people, you're basically they either might be in a situation where only people who've gone through a divorce might think that it's really sad. It's really sad. I've had plenty of these cases in London. Now, the 3536 enough money, she bought her flat she lived on her own. She's living an independent life.

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What are you gonna do? The guy also a journalist and yet the guy also he's left his independent life. He's and one of the things he wants to do in life is fed up. When they get fed up, then they're gonna make their own man you can't tell the 3031 32 year old what to do. They're not going to mistake us I don't

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know they come to the stage when they'll tell you I'm not listening to you anymore. I'm going to do what I'm going to do now because you guys with all your Bangladeshi maps, and your culture of chicken biryani, tuna Lamborghini, autonomous Allah here, we know these differences you have you basically just messed up my whole chance of getting Mandheling now that I want to listen to you, that's another another case. So I want to tell you this.

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Can I kindly ask the elders of the community that this is a very easy question.

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Because I'm always terrified. It's okay yeah. To do a product of a binomial return is here but get at this is a very important thing. I want to say

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I've got a new thing. I'll tell you guys, you're making life difficult for yourself. You know why? First is removed all these conditions? If the boy is good, Allah will give him a job.

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Yes or no. It is it is ready to work he's going to find a work is going to find a job. What are the job Allah is in a blessing, Allah is going to give them a place to stay. Right don't worry about that. Now, the thing I want to say today is really important that I'm saying this up and down the country and I'm saying this here as well please, please forward this message. The reason why we make Nikka so difficult is because we put a price tag on it. The price tag we put it in pictures or we say 20,000 pounds you need to get the Nikodem who in the world call you need 20,000 pound who told you need 30,000 40,000 50,000 pounds, you put that on your head, you're saying whole half ago. We

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need to get our whole way to have the deco we need to have the full band, winter and everything we need to have you know the volume 500 people invited to interview 50 people invited when to have this many things on the table or to have you know, whatever you put up 20,000 rounds why I'm getting please Why mine shake it up.

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What will people say yes or no? Are you following me? Because of this plug in is actually a simple way of getting data. And I want you people to start it up the way you started the masjid off the young demand that I hear, please Bismillah start it off.

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Have knickers in a muscular, simple. You only give dates after the Mackay finish. This is a sunnah Nika in the masjid. A goon Cabal. dates given everybody knows fine. When you have new walima Havlat don't hide a wedding home, hire a school. Local school will charge you a few 100 pounds to hire a whole new charge a few 1000 pounds. Okay? If you can't if you don't want to do the school, have you in your backyard? Put a marquee up there called people in your house. Have you backyard if you can't do that in the masjid talk to the most people have the circuit on the floor. No shame in this.

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Why should you feel embarrassed ashamed? Put the dust on the floor or have the women with the machina house have the men in the masjid that's on the floor. Everyone sits down and does have one dish.

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Are people in this country so greedy. They have to have a five dish thing on a wedding. The guy is dying with with all his expenses anyway, now you're going to save the money, right? You're going to tell people this week is with dignity says I want people to say to the Father with pride. Say this to all your relatives, all your friends. I'm going to say from the 20,000 pounds. I'm going to do the niqab with only two or 3000 pounds the whole of this the Sahara one dish one biryani one food. One small dessert done. Everyone's fed everyone gone. I'm going to save myself 17,000 pounds. Do you guys know what I'm going to do with the 17,000 pounds? I'm going to give it to my son or my daughter

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for the deposit of the house.

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Does that make sense? Yes or no by novelization?

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Does it I want to hear properly. Does it make sense? Yes or not?

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Are you guys going to do it? Yes or no?

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You're not gonna do

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I'm gonna get a serious one. Are you gonna do yes or no? 17,000 pounds you're gonna have in one meal. One meal of

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body politic. Yes.

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Everyone eats 17,000 pounds to refute you feel that people that ate or that whole hog. They got everything he got stacked on the sewage. 70,000 times can be the deposit for the house. 2030 years you've given, they'll take such a long time to get to where they're on use. You've given that to them misspent like you don't want to do that. You can use a Sunday you can do whatever you want to do what you like, why do you want to jeopardize the future of your own children at the expense of a wedding? Oh, I don't understand that. Okay, so please, guys, tell everyone you're going to eat. Like everyone's house has got food being thrown in the business. Everyone's everyone's fridges are full

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right now. No one's dying for an extra chicken tikka. Or no one's gonna die. So don't get the extra chicken tikka, you don't have to give it to them. Explain to them, Look, I'm sending them money. I'm gonna give it I'm starting the trend, and inshallah Muslims can start this trend. Our future young people have this they finished university. They've got 50,000 debt on their heads. And us loving another wedding with another 20,000 pounds. I don't understand that. Right? Please have mercy on them. Have mercy on yourself, do this. Let's make it easy for them. And if they come to you at the stage of university and say that I've got a girl I want to marry, you can get them married, make it

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Halab as long as you know they're gonna live together for the rest of their life, meet up with their families make it Hala they don't have to move in your house. They can sleep or be wherever they want. Later on. They can get the house later on. They can do that. Normally, at least you make the HELOC. I know parents who know there's a relationship who turn a blind eye to that relationship yet they will carry that on because they don't want to go for the new car. May Allah protect us May Allah forgive us. Please choose hello for yourself for your children. Exactly. Welcome with our