I’m Right, You’re Wrong!

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Hasan Ali

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Hey,

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guys, I just want to say a quick thing about people thinking that they are in a position to think that they're just right there right? Now there could be any kind of confrontation or an argument or something taking place. Now I've had a number of people come to me, and they come to you, and they'll give you a story. And they'll say, this happened. And that happened. And this person said to me, the thing is, look, when a person talks to you, and they give you a story, most likely, they will tell you all the best things that will make them look good. And they will give you very little, if anything, about them being wrong, and they will paint a massive picture of the other person being

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wrong. And they'll give you very little if anything, that the other person is actually right. This happens in most cases, and you've got a be a person whenever I don't care if it's a friend, a family member, husband or wife, I don't care who Parent Child whatever, you know, tumoricidal is in a Masjid to people who are on different sides of the dean, or in having an argument or a difference of opinion, please, first thing is first, the fact that this person says I'm completely right. And he or she is completely wrong. Forget it. Most cases 99% of cases, that is not the case. So what do you do? Well, you have to talk to the other person, you have to talk to the other party, and you have to

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find out their story. And they might do exactly the same thing. When you listen to the other party, then you have to corroborate what they've said with this person. So usually when when an Imam like myself would have in our person coming to us and given us a story, we have to try and be unbiased, and we have to try and be, you know, we have to try and be in a position where we can get the other person now, it's not always the case that you can listen to the other person. Sometimes, if you get the other person involved, the whole situation is going to blow up. So that's why what we do is, we'll have to do our best to give advice. But what I want to say to you is this and I've had like

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recently I had a couple come to me it was a husband and wife. And when you listen to the husband, you think so bohan allow that woman she did all that to this man. Oh my god. And then I said, Okay, fine. I'll sit with with with yourself. Again, after after I say this guy. Look, I haven't got time to sit with everybody. This was a very close present to me that I had to do this with. Okay, so don't try and contact me and say I've got this problem, that problem seriously go to your local Imams and sorted out inshallah. So anyway, this person's set gave me his story. So I said, Okay, let me let me go and see your wife. So he said, Okay, fine. He arranged for his wife to be there. And

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his wife spoke to me directly. And when I heard her story, think so bahala, Ito guide and all of that, seriously, that after that, okay, I said to the husband, okay, let me speak to you. I said, Look, your wife said, it's all about you. And then he says, if you have things using Whoa, okay. And then you speak to her, and she says a few other things. You think, Okay, then you get both of them together. And you speak to both of them. And then you know, what you what I had to do, I found out that, and this happens a lot, guys. The problem is not with them. See, when they say I'm right, she's wrong. And I'm right, and he's wrong. And that kind of, you know, thing. First is, I'm right.

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You know, you're wrong. We're like, heads I win. tails you lose is very unfair. But you know, what I found in this case, which I found a lot of cases is

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I asked him a question. I said it both of you live together on your own without all your father's mother's father in law's mother in law's brother, sisters in laws, whoever relatives, all of them out the way. Just you and her, just you and him live together and just be on your own? Would you be able to live together happily? And the answer was yes. And I found that answer quite a lot of times when I asked him this question, especially early in the marriage, and I said, you know, the problem is the problems. problem is with other people. You think the problem is here, because they're kind of cat and dog sort of vital. I'm right, you're wrong, you know, that kind of thing. And when I

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spoke to the extended family Alhamdulillah I managed to tell them to lay their hands off the marriage let these two get on together. 100 ladies, these these guys have been getting on now for a good few months and hamdullah good few months. What I want to say to you is first is wrong when people come to you and as they give you a full story, please see through all of it. Allah has told us in the Quran fabyan do your research, get your clarification. Find out the truth, and especially from both parties. You can't listen to one party and make your judgment and this is what Muslims should do. So whatever the situation is, please try and get to the bottom of it and then make your

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conclusion and don't listen.

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To anyone who says I'm completely right and that person completely wrong, go and try and be be balanced okay on both sides because I from Ohio said Mr. Lee come over again. Hey.

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