Fortnite – Managing Time & Dealing with addiction
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Shaykh Hasan Ali discusses managing time and dealing with addiction
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Listen guys. When I was young there was no fortnight
forget fortnight there was no ps4.
You guys gonna say there is no life without ps4?
Some kids like to say that what would life be without ps4?
ps4 is like an Xbox One. ps4 and Xbox One is extra for them. The other thing that's great for the iPad
is that without that without the PC was, like be like
when I was young, there was no even ps1.
Making you sound like a beautiful bride was very long ago.
When I was young, the kind of games are just coming out was the Amstrad giving us
some of the people who are like 40 something years old, they're like smiling
Amstrad, Commodore 64,
get, you have to load the game through something called a cassette.
You guys don't even know what cassette cassette, they probably wouldn't know how to play, because it's diamond mini cassette.
So you have to
wait for to load each time you play the new game, you have to wait for three, four minutes for it to load. And then when the game came on, it was very busy. Very squarish kind of thing. If you made a couple of news that says the game was over, you had to start again. So we waited there with some of for another three, four minutes for it to load again.
The first that there was also the Atari at that time ages, and then came out to be the sort of the console games like a mannequin in the early 90s. And the 80s, early 90s. The early console games came back with 16 bit and 32 bit and so on and it was getting better.
But those days, I think it was a lot better in many ways. Because you know, we have to grow up very fast, and we have to engage with a lot of adults. The problem I'm finding with these kids are playing fortnight.
And yesterday was the other game Call of Duty 10 years ago, right? 1012 years ago, a craze was Call of Duty. That was the game that every kid was hooked up to now call of duty is like an arcade. Right now it's like fortnight with whoever's playing fortnight like you're in, right? The code is taught in the schools of who's on what level? Who's got what skinny
skins they've got, how many grams v bucks you got? Right? Yeah, how vivox EVO what you got, what kind of guns you call for special guns, you go, oh my god. That's amazing. And what made more crazy, is the online payment.
Because the Internet has now given birth to this online thing that you have before. Even in the 90s you have no online but even in the notes, there's no online grant. It was not there was no such concept. You either played in the same room with the people who are there, or you just played on your own with the computer or just simply on your own. There was no such thing as online playing as an online playing as has revolutionized the way games are played because they go to school and play these people in this kind of, you know, place where they run for miles and miles and miles. Yeah, not even close right now. These kids at home
given so much in a few minutes, right? And I'm thinking, no one thing there is I don't even know what life is.
So what they do is in this game, for those of you who probably don't know,
first come to the lobby area,
waiting for the friends hanging some friends to come in and start to play. Right. So coming to the lobby area, you
need to get a squad. Yes, four people together. For duo, you're going to do the gala, or you go signal
on your own.
Now, what then happens is we go to the bottom,
right, the bottom of this bus flying with a blue, which is non existent, by the way, okay? You don't have buses.
sideways, you got the boss, you say bye to the driver, which is a computer. Got your statement, you said, goodbye. And thank you to the bus driver, you've lost it. Okay. So anyway, you say, goodbye. And then you fly out and you find your spot and you win again, okay? And it's going to be the unique, most fun you can get, because it's going to be treasure boxes that you have to go down to, and get yourself some ammunition, some bullets and, you know, whatever, you start off with the pickaxe, right? So you got to go there, and you got to find the treasure boxes and take it out to them. They get very excited about this counter. But I
was so excited.
Because I want to shoot this one, it killed this one, I'm gonna do this to that one. And then they go out some of the guy by the way by calling from
some of them died.
Someone killed him with a pickaxe, which is very shady, by the way, and some of them will then start shooting because of berganza. The idea of the game is to survive is to see if you can be the last man standing, or the last team standing out of 100 people. Right now the other version of the game, right? You got to know all these rules come back to some B's one of the versions of some zombies.
It's boring enough to watch them land
and get some you know, pick something up.
is boring to watch. Right? What is even more boring to watch, save the world boring object was really boring, because they just said.
And actually what you're doing is you're not killing anyone, you're dead. If you have to turn around for the screen, I just look at you. Yeah, you know,
your body's not even moving. Your fingers are moving like crazy on the joystick. I
can screen However, you can only do this
for two hours or three hours.
Besides attendance and Roma,
right, you have to get face to face anyway. Now, the point is this.
When they are in this game here, the addictive nature of this is,
is very addictive. If you're in it, by the way, I don't
know, I don't
have never played a single mothers have watched
my son play
when he's played it. I've loved what goes on inside. And of course we have limited time want to get to that in a little while. But let me just talk about the game. Because it is the addictive nature of this game is the fact that whoever's playing the game is almost giving you so much signal is giving so much stimulus, so much going on. Because you're in this world where you choose where you want to land. When you get there are certain houses and other things that you land and you can break rooms and whatnot and get treasure boxes and so on. But it's the whole nature of you finding the world that you can relate to that you're actually moving in real time. With all these other places
where you're running, you're focusing, you're hiding your ambition, you're setting traps, and it's so exciting to be in this virtual world.
for hours and hours locked in to see what you can achieve and who you kill and so on. Okay?
I like the fact that
simply when you kill someone, they just disappear from the game. But what's actually happening is this kid's got a pager so that I can say, I will tell him
what's happening as the claim, the nature of all of these changes, you're getting certain chemicals that get released in your brain.
That's the real thing that's happening in the real world. What's happening on the screen is a virtual world, it doesn't exist, these kids get so excited, all arresting, I've got a red skin.
You're the same person I saw yesterday. Here, the same goes with the same skin. So five years ago, again, you need a more white nor black, okay, you're the same person I saw. For the talk about the skins on the actual game itself, there is
a lot of money on some of them spending huge amounts of money on what on nothing. Literally.
It is it's like on a screen. If you as a family member, allowing the child to spend so much money on all of this and you know, buying this binder, the bank, nothing, literally wasting money. But anyway, let's get to the addictive nature ethical nature is that there are certain chemicals are released in the market ahead when they kill someone when they actually make an achievement when they start to build. And this is another feature of another bill that you know charities wrote about when they're doing that what happens is they're getting this huge buzz, the same chemical that is released of after taking drugs, serotonin, dopamine and so on, the same drug that is released in
their head after having real drugs is the same chemical released in their head when winning in some of these games. It doesn't have to be fortnight, it could be anything on even on a pad and so on when you're actually scoring. And when you're when you're when you're making poisons on when you're moving ahead when it's like a victory for you. The same chemicals are getting released now release the same amount as real drugs, but they get released in small amounts. And this release is energy in the body. And it gives a sense of happiness.
The problems start
when they have to switch back to the real world.
That's where the problem is. Now the tale of two parents, if you've got whether it's fortnight or whether it's any other game that you have virtually in the house, and you allow your kids to do that, you better have a timetable from your house.
If your child
and have a lot of children here sitting here, if your child starts to play for hours and hours,
and you're thinking, well, it's only an innocent game, and that's all it is. They could ruin their lives through these games.
When Call of Duty came out until about 1015 years ago, Call of Duty came out. Do you know how many children messed up the GCSE exams
I'm talking about hundreds and hundreds of children that are messed up their
GCSE messed up after them retake the GCSE some of the messed up the elements because of that.
Because when it gets to that addictive nature, they can't stop.
And the world the whole head is in these games,
then you got a serious problem. Because your obedience as a father or a mother comes into question. They don't want to evade when
they will only obey you if you give them the Yes.
And they don't want to listen to you. If you don't give them they can. Now this is serious, because what's happening is your whole family structure has been affected. Now the kids are going to be thinking, no, no, no, no, let's play. Well, yeah, let him play. But you've got to pay.
Because your own life will be ruined. And when you grow up, you're going to blame the parents and say why didn't you stop us from from becoming addicted to these days? There are I mean, some of you I don't know, this is being recorded and some of it okay. There are parents who made a massive mistake in putting the TV or separate TV
It's a huge mistake. It's an unforgivable, unforgivable mistake.
You put the TV downstairs in the living room are a couple of sleeping rooms. That's
okay to move old TV or monitors, okay, sometimes our monitor whatever you got to be careful sometimes on the computer, or the laptop or the pad, whatever you're given a huge mistake is to give that allow that to the bedroom. Why? Because then they can stop playing matter using the sleep. There's several families who suffer this, where the kid is supposed to be asleep. And the kid gets up either at 11 o'clock in an elevator pretends to be sleep for a couple of hours or one hour or something. As soon as you've gone to bed as a kid mother, you're going to get the kid comes out to his bed, and he starts playing the game and he probably played to two o'clock in the back. Now what
that does is it messes the sleep up, it messes school up in message, the concentration, and this is the thing that you can do kids got to wake up to this. Yep. It's your kid playing these games first. And you came in this game for hours and hours was happening to the imprint that made in your head. Your head is still living in fortnight when you're not playing fortnight. So there you are sitting at the dining table. And you've got lamb curry and chop. So are they in front of you, but you don't see chops? You see guns
on your plate.
You don't see peas, peas and beans. You see bullets on your plate. Your head can't think of the real world. You're trying to as an adult, talk to your child. How's your day? Isn't that the only thing a child to talk about? Yeah. Yeah. And it really was good about it. Oh, I'm better than my friend.
That's your only thing that your kid can talk about.
And your kid with all the other kids at school, that's all they were talking about, about?
How fun is entertainment, but the thing is, what am I from your life? Can you actually focus on studies and get a book reading for 45 minutes and actually concentrate properly? Can you do that for three hours? Can you take breaks in between let's say for example I give you three hours, three breaks you get 345 minute breaks in between but I want you to study for three hours of hard look at a textbook and actually decent work can you focus that long? Or has the fortnight and other games made you sit there and only be able to see like you see yourself running up
that's when you see something I'm serious
about a book or a classroom our they see
the best of the best
You don't even know what a brand is
just you don't have a
name you want
a good rifle or a machine gun in
a government in something
the n m
and SNP right SMD
some government with some enemies random 16 by and something else you
we're out of my
family to Jerusalem
are real guns, the hands. Okay. Now the soldiers studying set checkpoints
in as a Muslim
first want to go to Jerusalem to see the holy side. Okay, we'll come back.
dress like this, just like this. And you're going to someone next to you
with a hat on his head and he says
that's an N 30 something
The thing is, you don't even know what a gun.
You don't know what a real gun.
You're playing games, you don't know what politics is. You don't know what the real world is. And for those of you who are thinking about when you're tempted to quiet is because a Muslim boy token, mentioning the name of a gun loudly, in a political situation like Jerusalem could end up in serious trouble, not because we do anything wrong. No. But the fact that the authorities might think that why isn't mentioning the gun? Why is it mentioning that he probably got something right. political situation could change, I don't understand that. You kids haven't got a clue about what you're doing.
With this game.
Like, I'll give us the right to tell children like checked out telling you these guys sleep on the floor.
sleep on the floor. And sleep one, I don't
have to do that. Don't use a toilet that is not that clean water. But it can be very difficult for them to do that. In a fortnight, you play sometimes for so long. You don't even go to the toilet, and fortnight.
Do you know these soldiers are actually in the real world who have to go out there, they can't do the things that I'm fortnight, you can't do those things in fortnight, you can't be okay. You can't drink loads of water, and have like loads of books in your backpack. And you can do straight away, you can't do that. You can't have bricks and bricks and carry metal. And you do when you want, you can't do that. And you know how hard it is to tell you one thing that you let
you go shopping with them. And you have a bag of shopping and you give it to them. Exactly. Oh, oh,
you can't carry the shopping bags. And you can even do like
a 364 to 72 metal pieces and 200 bricks. You crazy. That doesn't happen. And let's say you know what the when they're in these games, and all they're doing is you know that the sniper in the shooting better understand what shooting really is.
And in one sense is good. But in one sense, it really messes them up. Because what is happening is these children. Some of them unfortunately, take killing very likely, some of them. And some of them even if they don't take killing lightly, what will happen is they feel that this is a world to really enjoy. Well, that's an honest review, who played how many people play Call of Duty today?
About three, four or five out of the format for about 2025 pay
for people play Call of Duty, right? Do you realize the fortnight continuous time is going to be played by only a few people, there's going to be another game out another addictive game, and we're going to move on. And you realize that those people will play Call of Duty 10 years ago, they're not playing today. But you know, one thing is that call of duty is going to become an arcade game in a few years time. Those who played Call of Duty or what playing fortnight today, they don't understand the real world to these games. Real World is real communication with real human beings. You know that? You know, the generation today that says growing up is very unfortunate they have they don't
even have the skills to be able to text one another properly.
This texting skills have got abbreviations. When they say Do they put the letters
instead of saying Why have you put the letter you on the same you're the post you are okay, fine. It's a little language between them. But you know what they do
with each other. They edit them several times before they send the text message, which means that they don't have the real communication skills that you need in real time. What do you need guys? When you come out of fortnite world and when you come to the real world, when you grow up? You need to be able to be in a situation you can communicate with human beings in real time without making mistakes by knowing what to actually say most children are
not talking about the shopping bags. Forget that
important movies do you know monstrous
Kind of, you know, monuments that they, that they save and protect themselves in, in the real world, because even
the capital contenders
in fortnight, they will be able to run and run around
in the real life, they can't get off the sofa.
In fortnight, they will be able to, you know, team up, and they can talk, they can talk via the microphone to other friends. And they can say, hey, they do this,
which is teamwork and the sound, but in real life, can for boys or for girls actually do something real together for the real world. That's to be senior, very little of it. My point is this, these kids need limited amount of time on these games. And these kids, if they get too much of this, they will ruin their lives that will ruin their education, they will do that for process. In fact, when their mind is occupied in a lot of these computers, sort of you know, these gains on the screen are real thinking doesn't happen. Either the difference in real thinking and virtual thinking. So for example, let's just talk about this building here. You know, this building, for someone to design
this building in a very good way. for someone to actually do that. It requires real good thinking. It's not your virtual world where you build, you know, a fortnight you know, a monument. Now, the first thing about that is when you as parents want to tell them to stop playing
a play stop straightaway, yes or no? No. Because this afternoon, we'll have a
yes or no.
Okay, now, you give them time to finish that game. They start a new game, you cannot look. You can look in the country.
aside, another good point is where's your obedience as parents, you want them to listen to you? You said to them for two hours, and it comes to the end of two hours and they feel like they want to pay for 20 minutes because when you're having fun time, go do your part. But two to two hours have gone by now with a big problem for parents to get them to stop. When the parents make them stop. What do the kids do at home?
Call me here is when your kids have stopped playing fortnight at home? What do they do after phone as soon as you say switch switch the xbox one six a ps4? What do kids do?
They either become zombies. They don't know what to do. They just don't know what to do. They're bored out their heads. And no other parents are open. Do
they get moody? Yes. Thank you. You know why they get bored? They get bored because I was so excited in the real world is boring. And they got movies because they have so many chemicals released in their heads and made them excited for the woman because
they got away with something you know all our children out there have seven life
doesn't happen in your life by the way. Yeah, they get
mad and they come out of the gate.
You know, when you make life like that, where they're
boring, then you've got a real situation. How can any other parent Tell me what else they do? When they come to
take a hold of YouTube. And instead of playing money, they want to watch other people that oh my god.
YouTube does, right? And this guy's got this pretty follow the followers is that gay guy guy. He's the guy to follow.
And that guy was a YouTuber who's getting so many likes. Do you know him?
Oh my god, I feel sorry for you.
I'm not casting all of them out there. I'm discussing with you. Have you seen the size of his belly? You know why he's sitting there on that chair with a PC and a mouse as
he's sitting there for hours and hours and drinking and eating burgers in this place is just about time to go to the toilet.
And is unhealthy is very unhealthy. You might have to follow up
Imagine getting two bucks a month. But that's what life is about. And talking about toilets. Man, I tell you one thing.
If you want to ever want to see how long kids can stay without the toilet and watch them when
they go to the toilet last minute,
last minute, right go there cook is the business come back out, back in the game again, you know what you just did that you just don't need to.
Because what you're doing is when you go to the toilet, your body automatically tells you to go more frequently to the toilet.
If you have this much in your bladder to release, and you get really late, the next time the bladder will tend to go
It's an automatic system inside. So you go to the toilet more and more. If you kind of delayed it, you're gonna get a human infection.
And the stories coming out in the newspapers, that some kids are doing it better. They're they're on the seat.
They're just releasing it on the sea bicycle policy in his living room. Yeah, he's held to so long, he's in the middle of the case.
I just use the seat as a toilet. Now, his mum has to come and clean it up. I don't know why the
school is coming up with that regulator. My first is that what do the kids do? Well, in YouTube, they want to now look at other people playing, it's still the mind is still occupied that I have to tell you one thing parents is that seriously limit the time, you should not be giving your phone to your child to play at all. You don't need to do that, you know, sometimes think that if I don't give my
child can be bored. Boring is a very good thing.
being bored is a very good thing. If you can hack the board, it means that you've
got patience, you've got patience in life, you will get very far in life. Patience is something you need a lot. So your kids are bored at home, it's good veteran find something to do. And what the other movie they can do here sometimes the fight amongst themselves, because they've been playing the fighting games, they come up and they want to fight each other out. Because so much energy inside them, they start fighting one another.
And then what
are the other things if you have other devices open to them, they shouldn't be able to go to the other devices that anybody else wants that you have to come up with.
Some of them don't
like to have something other eyes, there's nothing you know, amongst the players of these games, there's more people wearing glasses.
Because they actually ruin the vision. Some of them went too close to the screen, some of them that got pains in the neck and their hands and their wrists in the bodies qualified and they don't know why the world is paying. And a lot of the times because the way they're sitting in the baby's games anyway.
When you children grow up
Will you be playing fortnight all your life? No. Will you be playing ps4 and PS five and ps 650 comes out and PS seven in your lifetime? or Xbox? Whatever it is that comes out of your life? Will you be playing that in your life for the rest of your life to know
what will you be doing? But as soon as you get to a certain age, responsibility is going to be brought to you
and you're going to have to become adults in a real life. Not only that, but your whole life on this earth was not about games. The whole life on this earth was for you to concentrate on your acula our purpose. So does that we have been he has told us that
the dunya dunya is something that is a place for cultivation.
The idea has been created for us the Word of God created for us and we have been created for the
the time element or how much spending on this game is going to be a serious question when you grow up. Because when you grow up my friend, you're gonna look back and you're gonna wish that you studied more and you wish that you invested better for this role and the next one and this is a massive
How'd you like to go to regret? So parents, when they put restrictions on low game time, when they say you can only play this for them doing a massive favor for you,
they're not being horrible to you think that they've been horrible, they're not being horrible to you, they're actually doing a massive favor for you. Because if they get you to do something good in that time, and if they get you to actually study and do something for your future life, or for this life on this earth, you're gonna be very, very happy. In fact, these kids don't even understand how money is made.
They can just become a YouTuber, and you can make money, they get a following. You just take money, you can make money, and they don't even understand politics. So for example, one of the big things that has happened in recent times, is about cyber bullying,
cyber bullying, so through these games, online games, through the interactions they have with one another through the WhatsApp and so on. 11 year olds, 12 year olds,
14 year old, they start communicating with another social media groups, they will have, you know, banter going on, they will have cussing, and they will have teasing and making mockery activity
going on. What they don't understand is how to deal with this. Welcome to the Real Life. A lot of these kids when they go, they don't know, they're adults, they don't know the etiquette on how to communicate the first place. And when you get attacked by someone how to respond. Do you know what life is about?
Life is more about knowing how to how to behave, and how to act in a situation where you've got pressure. That's what life is about. Life is not about removing every pressure out of the way, and just having happiness and comfort and gains and social time.
You ask any human being as grown up?
Whether you're seven year old sitting here, 17 year old sitting here, 1415, wherever you're at sitting here, you're going to have to go through life with all the pressure that comes with, I know what some people say. Some people say, the life is all about happiness. And life is acquiring happiness. I'm not saying life is about comfort, life is about getting loads of money. Life is about acquiring both of value element loads of comfort, and you sit down and you have a very good time. For the rest of your life. That's all life is.
Life is the best part of life is as a human being is to be prepared for your entire life and knowing how to react to every situation that comes about and to still be a person who is content. A person who is happy with all the pressures that come up your your good characters because that's what life is about.
These kids get bullied on WhatsApp. No, they do. They stop copying pasting to one another. Or he said this. She said this, he said know what they do, they run into further trouble. Because when you copy paste on social media, and WhatsApp and you show other people what messages you got set, those people can also copy paste as well. Soon they find themselves as a victim of bullying.
They find themselves as a victim of bullying. Even the people who fake play fortnight some of them are not good at playing fortnight.
Some of them are not good at playing fortnight. So the other games when they go to school, there's bullying going on. He's not even on the charts before.
He got killed with a pickaxe and
he got distracted. Because
the thing is, how do these kids prepare themselves for real life? For real communication? If they cannot take bullying or unsafe? Take what I mean by this is if they cannot take the pressure of what this whole world brings them at the age of 13 1415. What are they gonna do with life for the 2425 26 and then married under pressure coming about children and pressures coming? Or they've got friends that get into serious trouble in life? professionally, what are they going to do them? I know many of us, many of us parents or nothing I have to say to you is that I'm going to tell you straight, don't make life for your child too comfortable.
And your kids are going to be very happy I said this. You might be thinking right now why is it coming to a must and taking our parents to kind
Whenever you're too kind to children, whenever you are too loving anyone, and you go past the mark of being balanced, you will spoil them, and you'll suffer, or they will suffer of both of us as parents who is suffering. And I'm telling you from hundreds and hundreds of cases out there, in modern psychology literature, it is okay for you to knock down. In modern psychology, there is a clear
there is a clear study that we conducted.
If your child asks you for something that is extra from the necessities that they have in life,
let's say your child asks you that they want something that's extra, you know, as it gains, the extra beyond the necessities, that necessity is your clothing, food, education, and so on, so forth. Okay, having a shelter, these are the necessities. When you go beyond the necessities, and you keep the extra things, when they're asked for every time the child asks you for something, and you give it eight out of 10 times you say yes to them. Two out of 10 times you say no to them, for the extra things they asked you in life, your children will grow up to become appreciative of the things that happen in life, they will have a lack of patience in their life, and they will actually be unhappy.
This is from real psychology, psychological studies. But if you as parents, when your children asked you for the extra things in life,
two out of 10 times you say yes, eight out of 10 times you say no to that your children will grow up as Haitian people, as happy people. And as people who appreciate what they have. You know why? Because when you're young, and you're growing up right now, and every time they demand something 80% of the time you said yes, oh my
God, give me give him you know what they think they think this is like, you get things really easily, then they don't appreciate things. Next thing is because they're getting so abundantly so abundantly, they actually did not know, if I want it, I get it so bad, the impatience goes up, the patient goes down. And when life gets them at a certain age, when they can't get things so easily, when they have to work for themselves to get things without to pay for their own bills, and they know what it is, you know what they grew up to be miserable people. They grew up with a very, very short term, patients, and they snap a snap at people, they can't take it because they haven't got
something inside them all their life. They've been spoiled by getting things frequently, and now they can't get what they want.
I'm telling you this, right? Because there's a whole generation of people now, yesterday's children, who got things very seasoned, who got a lot of confidence in the life don't know how to live a married life. They're not prepared for it. For small arguments, they want to break in a whole marriage. They want divorce. For small things they want to treat their children, like rubbish come out from a dustbin for small things. The patient is needed to actually mold other human beings and do their job and actually make them be molded in a good standing hacker. You need a lot of patience for a lot of patience. These kids are not prepared for my because we support them amongst new
parents not to spoil your kids. for the kids. If you've given your child, if you've given your child
a pad, or you've given them a device or an Android device.
Are you giving them a phone, a smartphone?
Please make sure that you've got the passcode to that. Please make sure they're not going back the internet whenever they want. In fact, my child right now, my oldest child, a son is 14 years old. He has never had a smartphone ever given him a very, very simple phone. He can only make calls. He can't browse the internet.
And all his friends have got smartphones.
And I said
Why? Because of how to love my child has gone got any access to fitness for how long on the internet.
at the touch of a button,
your kids will do things behind the father's backs, mother's backs. And the fathers and mothers don't do that can't even access these phones. I'm surprised.
I've done this country, I've done this in other countries as well. The amount of parents that give devices to their children and don't have any access to the passcode, or the password is 75%, almost 75% to 80%, the amount of parents can keep access to those phones or devices only 20%. That means 75% or 80% of the children can browse through how long can get into how long can spoil that the man can spoil the future, like dislike control, as well as for the future life, and no one was there to rescue them. We're not saying as parents that want to spy on you, no, we're saying we're going to protect you for your own good. And we're gonna guide you so that when you're old enough to guide
yourself, you can then have your own password, and you pass code to yourself. Why are these kids given smartphones with their own personal passcode? on there were no I don't have access to that you know what you've done. You've just given your child away you bought today, the man probably could end up doing anything.
Now, even if you said okay, I'm not going to give my smartphone whatever is possible to that, have you limited the time that they are playing? What are the games there is in your house? Have you limited that because he wants to straight up whatever rules you have in your house, you can have one rule and your children will be happy with that after a while I see what the typical child does when they come home, typical child when they come home straightaway to switch the TV on or the switch some games on. And as soon as they come home. Mom is making the routines. Okay? That's our mom's making some, you know, some poodle warnings of Buddha. Okay, the typical child is getting a half an
hour, whatever it is, at home, on the pad on the TV, before they even come to the masjid. Most normal people come to the mosque, right will come to the question of the evening.
You You, you know, you might give your child a little bit of time to play you know, you don't, you know, stimulate their brain and do all of these activities where they're not going to be concentrated when it comes to the company that comes with. Even if you haven't given that time, a typical child would go to the masjid and spend a couple of hours come home and they'll start playing a little bit on home and they want to play if you allow your child to play in the evenings again, when they close their eyes at night. I can guarantee you they're gonna see themselves in those games.
Did you see this over getting big children have got a lack of sleep because these days, they can wake up it
was fun. It was fun. It
was fun. School
was fun, what's not obligatory? Allah has said you better turn up with
what's called in the morning.
For the right, guys
pray for you. It
was a question was for me an answer in the morning.
What Salah is called in the morning?
How important is it?
out of out of one to 1010 being the most important one being the least important? One number
10. Where are most of our kids that play these games in the morning? Who are teenagers who are valid? Who turned to adulthood who are now responsible for the accuracy? Who are teenagers. Where are they from? early in the morning? Tell me
where are they?
In bed? Where are they in bed? They're snoring. All right. And they're letting other stuff out of work early in the morning. Magazine. They're busy in bed
These kids to get them away is a real mission.
And that is the most important part of the day early in the morning. It should have started.
So one thing in your household is you should have
AC kids as well as
The other thing is you know most houses they eat really late.
You know most especially the agent houses they eat
Late at 910 o'clock, they eat heavy meals at night. And if you have a heavy meal of 910 o'clock, it's going to tax on your wake up in the morning, trying to eat over six, seven o'clock and let that be your last meal. If you can do that six o'clock Central.
You don't need to teach anymore after that, especially in cold countries, you don't need to eat anymore. Okay? There doesn't have to be any games Monday to Friday, just have
to go to Masjid or homework or tuition or have any
spare time, give them other games in the house to play with real board games, give them board games, give them other games, to play football.
Football, and other games don't allow people
to have some injuries. But these gains, your gains are far better than sitting down and just play this game. Because it's not even giving them any exercise for the body. Now, when it comes to the weekend, have your timetable what are the tuitions and other things family time, shopping time, whatever you want them to do, let them do it. And then comes in between somewhere limited time on these devices.
These kids need to know regular regular, they need to clean the houses, they need to do their beds, they need to tidy their clothes, they need to keep the rooms tidy, they need to make sure that they actually get out of bed, right wash their face, brush their teeth, you are done that presence on it is really the thing that you are asked every single day that needs to be the system. If you think oh my god, my child
is not gonna accept it.
It you make a huge in your house that the kids have to do this, they'll do it imagine losing your house. This is the timetable for Monday through Friday, we don't have any electronic games at all. The only time you go on to the Wi Fi internet is because you've got homework, otherwise you don't go on to the object at all.
the limited time.
limited time. And then after that what you do is have the rest of the time for other things that we needed to do. Like I said, you know, I'm in the
wind these kids are in the clothes, one and making their own breakfast. Why? Why don't they know how to make?
Why these kids in to regularly vacuum cleaning the house, boys and girls.
If you make the system in your house, where they have to do it, they'll do it. Otherwise, you as a parent at the age of 17 know your kid is 17 he comes to the table.
You as a parent will be getting the food on the plate warming in the microwave, making sure it's the right temperature coochie coochie baby
in front of him. And then when he looks at me says I don't want to eat dogs. I don't want to eat
Like vegetable fruits. Okay, well, these are your life. You need vegetables, you need food for your life. If you if you make a vegetable food from a young age
for life, if you don't give it to them and you say oh
No problem. You create a monster.
And then parents come to you. Okay. And guess what they say to us?
The parents come to us when it's too late. Too late. I've had several people come to
us recently. This weekend.
My child plays on these games too much. I can't stop in. What can I do? How long does it take five to six hours a day?
Five to six hours, four to five hours a day. Right? And the parent has no ability to stop you.
So what do they want us to do?
Take the genealogy. There's no genetic
genealogy that you put in
all these hours that he played all these years and he got addicted. We never stopped him again. the more and more you spoke to him you wanted this thing to get this thing you want the more time you're getting more slowly so they get so addicted.
Do what they become your parents, they tell you what to do.
They tell you what to do. They tell you when they're going to eat, they tell you when they're hungry, they tell you we're not hungry. They tell you when they're going to come off the gate. And they tell you when they're going to play the game. And if you don't give Sonny his game, he's not going to do your homework.
If you don't get your study that game,
he's gonna go to school, I was gonna exam just to prove to you who is
that when your children have taken over your life, you have to buy the clothes, they want the designer clothes in the in the stores, their demands have to be met. Doesn't matter what the salary is, you got to make sure you buy gear for them. Because if you don't buy the game for them, they're gonna throw all these tantrums, they're gonna make your life miserable. They're not gonna do that stuff This has to do, they're gonna become like spoiled children. And just to make them listen, do you give the next thing and they're happy to present you money? Thank you, Daddy.
Happy for two days, have for three days, three days. So I'm going to give you this game top I sent to you
for three days.
After that, is back to normal again.
The way to do that, the way
you stay in control. And all the children listen to me. You might be saying, Well, you know what? From today onwards, you know what I like to do some a little bit more, you know, you know, bad days and the good old days, you have to pay for four or $5. And I'm telling you, if you like one day,
one day, you're gonna thank me.
I've been a school teacher for a long time. I
teach in America. But in school, so I've taught I taught once in school for three years.
In the school, I was working full time. I had to discipline certain kids. Okay, I do this is an evening Mama, Mama teacher, the teacher about to discipline seven kids. in that school, I got even suspended.
This is oh boy school in North London. Usually sounds good. If you know that in northwestern is very prestigious, very good school. And then as the heading round head of Arabic anatra disobedience. And you know, when you discipline your children, children don't like you, when you put them in the face, when you make them work hard. When you make them do what they're supposed to do with, you know, being a good person to them. They don't see the goodness inside you. But you know what, I've got 10s and 10s of cards sent to me after they graduate. They send me cards after cards came to me as one of the best teachers, you know why? They said, Sir, if you wasn't there, if you never did that, if you
never discipline me, if you never suspended me, or if you never actually made me do that thing, I'm booking my place that I wouldn't have been the person I am today. Now I was in Hong Kong today, I would just be myself making sure that, you know, I'm getting to the future.
If I want to, if I don't have a future, I will give me five hours today of this game. I'm gonna mess your life up.
This game 234 hours a day of this game, I want to mess your life up. If I if I care for you, I'm not going to give you that new house. And you got to understand I'm actually caring for you, I care for you. I love you, as a son, as a nephew, as whoever you are my students, I love you by giving you these rules. Because one day, you're gonna look back, and you got to actually thank me, and thank the people who put these rules in your life, who restricted you Who made you work, who made you see realized who made you do the things that you need for your real life. And I've got so many cards that have been sent to me after the time, the spending the week after the surgery comes some of the
other day they graduated, they stay in school, they send me cards, and they trashed the house. Why? Because people need this. And my students will handle up most of them in contact with me. They actually are happy. Because you know disability is not an easy thing. You must hate the discipline. That when you grow up one day, you're going to be very, very happy with the results. Right now, you know, I asked you I'm a strict Father.
Father, I know today. My biggest draws go to my father as I understood and okay five my father mother
Okay, he had his own lack of quality one. At that time, I couldn't understand that today, some of my biggest draws are from my father, because he wasn't for my father, I wouldn't be where I am today. And you will understand kids that when you grow up,
you will understand that you will better people better. I remember my mother, telling my mother when I was young,
I was like seven or eight years old. My mother used to drag me and sit me down and teach me Bangla right. Now, the other British kid, I was born in England, like most of you here, sitting here, born in England.
And she say, No, no, no, she says Samsung.
Samsung says security learn this, one day, you'll understand the value of this.
Today, I regularly go to Bangladesh. And I'm well versed with all those people over there, I can read or write.
And I took the lessons from my age at that time, but I know the value of it today.
And these things that we learn in life.
When you are older, you see the value of what your elders have taught you. And don't don't put your parents down, other than because they are spoiling everything for you, then I'll let you play, then I want you to play. But you better play place in restricted and limited time. Otherwise use for yourself. Okay. I'm going to run you off now by asking anyone got any questions, because I noticed that our time was recorded with
the questions if I'm suffering from something that I might have not said. Anybody else want to add? Some thing that might have or should have said whatever you want to do here?
What's the question?
How long does it take?
How long does it last? I'm glad he's got very limited time
is our very limited time.
About a couple of hours, three hours maximum. Even that on the weekend,
Monday through Friday, and outside of that they've got a lot of studying to do throughout the day, a lot of studying. I'm not talking about hours and hours of study. So it's a it's a whole combination, given a lot more studies at the same time, and then balancing.
How many hours
per week depends on the parents. I'm not going to give you
a question. If I told you how many cups would it take to fill up a whole pool of students to the school yet? How many cups how many classes we take to fill this simple?
pounds and it gives you the answer.
And it gives you the right answer.
And it gives you the right setup
is the genius amongst us. It depends on the size of the car. If your car
is half the size of this hole, you don't need to constantly do
if it was silent.
It is fourth quarter of this volume four cups, right? Because
when you ask the question, how much do we need to play the week? It depends on what your parents say. Your parents can say to you that they don't want to have a TV in your house that said prerogative as far as your parents say they don't want to have any tears in the house.
if your parents say that they're going to have your home or they're going to give you two hours a week.
If another parents are going to give you six hours a week, that's up to them. What I'm trying to say is that balance everything else teach children skills of life, make sure that the gaming is not taking over your life, make sure there's no addiction, make sure that they actually prepared for the future of the life. Make sure they're not spoiling any of the exam, the studies the future what they could become
as long as the parents balance so that they can choose what limited time you want to give every house. So this is another argument that Oh, my cousins are playing this many hours. Why can't I play this out?
So behind Allah, when your customers don't have as much money as you get pocket money, so why don't they become equal? No, we don't look at it one way, and we look at ways you can look at it one way. Any cousin's house, any relatives house any other house that does whatever it is their house as their rules. My house does not have to match according to another country's house, another relative's house, and don't fall for that trap. You're gonna have to match it with one of their house somebody else's, you know, you don't have to. If you don't even want to have a TV in your house, that's completely fine. As your thing that mentioned you manage it? How did you manage it?
That's up to you. But as you have your rules, you expect your own thing I will tell you this, before we finish is really important. You got to explain to children Why? Today's focus, I explained a lot of things to you, for both parents and for both children. If you don't get explanations, you will sometimes feel that you've been very harsh. The fact that I never gave her child a smartphone. I've sat with him several times. I've explained to him why a smartphone is not good for him and explain what kind of things going to be on this platform? How is the character hooked on to social media, how he's going to waste his time on it. And guess what, a couple of years later, the school sent a
letter to all the all the parents telling them to get off WhatsApp.
And I was like 111 llama child doesn't even have WhatsApp.
Because these kids will get talking to each other, then they start to total waste time, bullying one another how you know, share videos and share images that just wasted the time and then they fix their homework time. The effects of school effects, the concentration effects the relationship of school, as well. So the point is that if you explain to the children while you're restricting them, why they must have this many hours. On the other hand, they know what the good communication between parents and children, they understand that we accepted the child. And that's up to you how you manage anything else.
You know, they used to ask the question is more used to the parents here? Yes. So from this Briana, Piccolo used to be very nice, actually.
Okay, a lot of parents, I think the goal is not living in the house. Okay. So, you know, as, you know, as a child asking the question, How long was trying to
get my parents? Okay, you know, on that line.
So say for the child at home, and the parents are like, you know, ps4 is your, you know, is your like,
Xbox One is your life and as long as you like, and if you read as as a as a young person, you're thinking about how long?
I'll be honest with you.
The Mark is that, could you leave your ps4 your Xbox, whenever you want to? Could you actually stop playing that leave it aside for a day for two days? Without having the urge to play?
And you're not addicted? If no, then you're addicted. Most kids without knowing it are addicted to these devices. If you cannot leave some of these, like, for example, for adults, or what I'm gonna say, if you can't leave your smartphone for a week without having to touch into any social media, any of the apps, you can leave it for a week, or 10 days, or addicted. Even as another jurisdiction.
You know, one of the best times of the year from East Africa for 10 days, leave a few happy that you left some time to go abroad. I don't have any, any download sort of, you know, bytes, or whatever they call it. Okay, so what is it, I go abroad, and I have everything switched off. And I'm there for days and sometimes for weeks, or a couple of weeks. And there's no internet connection? And I'm fine. All right. That's one of the signs that you're not addicted to these devices. If you feel the desire that I better take I have to theta one and theta must play when you're addicted. So make that class to solve that question. And for you children. Just a few just a couple of hours here there
should be more than enough if you're on those games. Okay. The main thing as I said to you in the in the talk is that you need to make sure that you live in this world and in the next world, especially the next one. The amount of learning the amount of
things that you could have done to build your agenda
is going to be phenomenal. Anyway Exactly. Stop danger or whatever you want to sell off.
Everybody can feel free to do