Ask Dr. Hanaa – As a Female Mufti #20
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All right hamdulillah We're so glad to be doing this again and in short luck just waiting for everyone to get on
so back there
this is this is the last Monday in the month right is the last Monday of Ramadan
the fastest wasn't saying that everyone was the fastest Ramadan indeed we say that remember
but this time I think it really wins the prize this time was really fast so Han Allah that reminds me up my life you know just so panelized Fast Forward exactly exactly Yes What's my mom would always say that she would say my life felt like it was on fast forward
in what How have your main job muddled the higher up alameen Kufa mean on me? Yeah, De Niro planned for all her patients in the
in the bombing. Oh, that means a lot to me. My mom loved you a lot and
I appreciate the elegance and
people that have ever met so Panama just like a lot head on. Thank you so much. She She loved you and she knew how dear You were to me and we have Mashallah. We're ready to get started. Salam Alikum and welcome to mindful Ramadan. This is our last our final q&a with Dr. Hannah Gamal, our favorite female Mufti from Houston, Texas, Masha Allah we've benefited so much from your your answers your wisdom and and your beautiful personality. Mashallah, so, we're so blessed to have you. And I like how we met with our blue
stripe to imitate my color I know I love you and I want to imitate you
of the way for us to meet in heist place in Chennai or LA and so they say imitation is the highest form of flattery. When somebody prays for you, you don't say insha Allah you say, I mean, I mean
I mean, the answer for that does not stop or wait for the machine. Because you answered the diet immediately. I like that. I like how y'all remembered please put hashtag live if you're watching live if you're watching the replay, put hashtag replay and let's get started in sha Allah who's ready to get their questions answered right me and we are ready to go so we had a few questions from from last time that didn't get you know we didn't oh they're saying we can't see you. Oh no, don't tell me that we cannot see you either here Oh, you can't
Oh no. All right. Can you let me know can I really what they're saying it's a beautiful color of his job How can you How can you say color his job if you can see yes
they are talking about mine My My dear I'm sure guys only you as in only me Holly our Dr. Hannah. Oh no we can't see it this is this is we can see you can use specify you as in me Okay. Why can't we see we need to have beautiful Dr. Hannah on and
oh, I can only see okay dogs out there. I cannot see you so panel Okay, well that's okay. As long as we have our dear guests
see you. I know inshallah, it will be tended to as of right now. I will. You can hear me though. Right? You can.
She said I love Dr. Hannah. Beautiful inside and out. I agree. So you guys, we want to make use of the time. So what we're going to do is I'm going to go ahead and ask the questions. One minute, please. One minute.
Support Don't worry, do not fear. My husband is here.
The little blue thing just needs to be clicked.
Okay, we're gonna figure it out. You guys. Thank you for being so patient. All of you are scared.
You're not supposed to be on this group.
The fifth night you said this is
only for women. Only.
he left Carlos it's just women
no but actually we're
the husband of sister hella it just like one of my sons for a long time he's very very close friend of my sons is just a person that we love very very much but on the front of house she's gonna kill me if I say that
no he loves your you and your family so much I knew your son's much later we go way back 20 years 20 years of friendship and and I've had the privilege of studying with you and you're one of my first foreign teachers. And if I sound good, it's because of it because if I if I don't sound so great. It's not your fault.
I take full responsibility if anything doesn't come up. She will spend so much time with the massage Ma sha Allah. We did how many months? Eight months? Nine months in months? Yes. 10 months. Okay, so let's get started Ma sha Allah so we are ready to go this mela
in one of the answers Dr. Hanna has said that if a deceased person has any remaining fast to be taken, it is better for the child to fulfill it. My question is Does that mean we can take Sunnah fast for our parents? Okay.
I was a bit lacking in a shape Anya rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam O Allah ashrafi mousseline Saeed, and I'm having met him while he was here. Right. So the Haleakala in Medina in lantana in NACA into lollywood, hockey and rugby shortly so that he was suddenly empty were no longer productive milissa Ania only Allah Masha Allah Milena had a hall this one eluding me in Europe alameen Allah Medina Illa Sawa It's been a long journey and
congratulations for you ladies. The agenda insha Allah Allah I asked her what the Baraka with Allah to accept all of our inquiry and all of our supplication yummy in those last 10 days and the whole Ramadan and the whole year. And just to make the thing quick, our relationship between us and Allah subhanho wa Taala does not stop here in the last 10 days of Ramadan, Ramadan, the beauty and the peace and the connection that we felt between us and our toddler in Ramadan we would love to continue doing it because the role of Ramadan is the rub of chawan is above every month and every day and a lot of work with Allah says in the Quran, there are only a study Villa home asking me I
will respond immediately to you. So it does not stop here at all We would love to continue have the intimate relationship between us and the poor and in such a beautiful way reciting it the proper way I understand that I understand that the meaning and the and what Allah subhanaw taala wants us to do understand what a lot of work what Allah wants us to abstain from understand how to implement and this is the ultimate goal of reciting Quran so the way belt
Yani the peace and the serenity when we would have in the relationship between us and the Quran and Allah and feeling like you know i can i can postpone this nonsense things for standing before a lot our khattala or sitting with the Quran for a little bit or attilan Allah subhanaw taala my story or complaint Allah subhanho wa Taala or showing gratitude and thank you for everything that he's done for me. All what we did the Ramadan was amazing with rejuvenating and with was so beautiful. We extended that we would love to have a full year Ramadan you can have the whole year. Ramadan, just need some time before you because this is how you want to prove to yourself that you love you. You
love you love when it comes to love America, everything is me, myself and I everything is something for anybody on the face of the earth. It's for me, I am doing my intent to be rewarded for it. And that's why I would love for you and I I asked a lot of articles to make me say what to do what I'm saying, to continue having this beautiful relationship between us and a lot of America with IRA. Hopefully Allah subhanho wa Taala we make our life full of peace no matter
insha Allah, Allah me, I have a word for this. I'm going to just interject we call it spiritual self care because we talk a lot on the mindful hearts about self care, but this is the spiritual self care that we need to do throughout the year.
This is this is this is the treasure that we need to save in our bank, the bank where the
The fat in the feed not the interest What is your actual bank account?
It's it's multiplied by 700 divided by a number that we have no clue about. And, you know, imagine that when you the first moment when you enter Jannah imagine just
an amazing moment that the moment would be astonished by your rivers by your castles or by the people that passed away a long time ago and you're prideful. need them. Imagine that you're seeing all the Sahaba that you've been reading about and love, your new autumn hopper coming from there. I fell in love very dizzy over there. I say the hadisha is sitting here I say that Aisha is sitting there. Imagine all your children are all your family around you and all of a sudden you find life has nothing of the agony that we're going through. Imagine yourself going to be like 25 years old like me and you find yourself again 18 years old in general and you there is no sickness there is no
Here there is no enmity there is no there is no that there is no there is no CRM, there is nothing going over there. We enjoy, enjoy it and it's so worth it. Love yourself for the proper way. It is very easy for you to go to China as a woman because you go through a lot and Allah subhanho wa Taala will take you two gentlemen insha Allah Allah together me with you, all of us in general remember in this day,
in the highest place in Jannah sitting with our scholars say that he was the one who's teaching us the knowledge of Rasulullah sallallahu taala he gave me goosebumps goosebumps
waiting for that and shout love. It's beautiful. And this is our ultimate goal. If you're going through any hardship, just close your eyes and say insha Allah is coming.
I mean in sha Allah that He will suddenly murder Carlos, Mohammed in water. He was going to be here tonight as for the the question that the sister ask the student is something And the fourth is something else you cannot combine funa with fun, if your mom owes a loss some forum that you have to have the intention that you're doing for the for her, you will be getting the reward the no doubt for doing doing two things doing something to be beautiful to your mom and something that you Allah subhanaw taala is not going to let you go without any type of reward for it. Right? If you know that she owes over five days go ahead and do it to your brother to take one day you can take one day you
can do it all at least to train yourself in sha Allah tala to first Mondays and Thursdays as for Hajj and Umrah? Yes, definitely you can do
volunteer had you for your mom if she if she if he passed away without performing hajj and she was capable of doing Hajj there is a huge difference in any disputes among the scholars if you suppose to do Hajj on her behalf or not. Because at the day she had the means she had the health she had the safety of the road she had all the requirements for hygiene she chose not to there is a huge dispute among the speller if you do but I will go for it if I can do from her own money before I distribute the inheritance or I can voluntarily give it to her for my own money. That's absolutely we also this is for the mandatory Hajj and I do in each and every person who have the means to go and perform the
Hajj Do not wait for
the the as for the volunteer Hajj and Umrah it's open you can do as much as you want. So the Russell salovaara what he was saying that said is a matter of time Allahu lambing tell us so the purge area elbonian FRB or willdan sadi from yet
if a person dies, all his his severed except in three things we'll do inside here the righteous child who prays for him ongoing charity, or he did it for himself before he passed away or you also can do it after that. But the best is the one that you do it for yourself. And the third one is knowledge that benefit people after you die. It doesn't have to be Islamic knowledge. It could be in medicine, in engineering, in math in anything, but the intention has to be for a lot of arco tala to help mankind.
Of course, the DA and then the DA and then the DA is something that is needed for all of us after we leave this dunya
Mashallah Jazakallah here for that thorough response and just to make sure
Sunda fasts are permissible as well, right? Absolutely. He could always say I'm doing this sooner today and I'm sending my reward for my mom. Nice. Okay, beautiful. And the next question is a woman with two daughters wants to write a will to distribute most of her property amongst her daughter's hand, a small portion left for donation after her death. She does not want her husband and siblings to benefit from her property due to being treated badly for several years. Is it allowed to write such a Will she wants to please Allah in the best way? Is there an alternative option that would please Allah the Most? Please can you explain the reason behind property distribution for parents
and daughters and in which case they are obliged to include their family members and the will?
Aloma Deena in so so Dr. Amin begin with my beautiful sister, Allah Baraka with Allah when it comes to the to the finance and to the money, he did not leave a say for anyone.
A lot of work with Allah is the one who divided the inheritance. But he did not put the condition to say the only condition that you can deprive your child that you inherit from you when he leaves or she leaves Islam. Or when you are yourself leaving Islam. This is the only case
there the inheritance is divided among the boys and the girls and the parents. The way a lot of Oracle tala divided it in Surah An Nisa a number 11, you will see a lot of learning only the academies have their own site. And it's detailed one by one.
If you have boys and girls, the boys will take bubble. And this is the only case that the boys will take double most of the other cases the girls takes a lot more than the boys. And if they are words, only, they take the 2/3 and the rest will be for the parents if they are alive, the parents who will take share of your inheritance if they are alive. If you have boys or girls, they are the one who brought you up. They are the one who put you in this position. They are the one who took care of you from elementary school and before all the way to the time that you get married and you have children and they still were taking care of you. So and again, I'm not justifying any of that. It's Allah's
decree. He divided the inheritance between the people It does not matter if my son's is on drugs, or his bad or his good. Anything he takes his chair and then he has to to act the answer to Allah subhanaw taala for his behavior with you, if he's a husband or a brother or a father or anybody else. All you have to do is submit to a lot of what I what I ask you to do give the the portion that you are going to give to the relatives of your husband or your husband is really very, very small portion and the rest will be all for your daughter but this is for the inheritance so we have no say we have no say everything has to go as Allah subhanho wa Taala describe it and a lot divided it. The
other thing is you can do a lot of things in your lifetime. You can give gifted your dog house you can buy her this you can buy her that and to your heart if you do a lot of work with Allah do not destroy the money because you do not want to have the relative to go to them. They take an under the resurrection you will take your rights from Allah Baraka with Allah. And this is the way we feel Allah, we say semir now altana we obey and we give the help to the people who deserve it as Allah subhanaw taala directed us to do and they have to answer to a lot of their behavior with us. It does not matter how they've been good with us, this is not how inheritance Mashallah that was very well
explained in the sense that you can give what you want while you are alive. So if you want to give extra gifts to your children and distribute the wealth, but do not change what Allah has prescribed as far as the well because this is this is summit now I thought that we have to hear and obey. Now. I am only seeing myself and I'm not seeing your wonderful face. I'm seeing myself in you. Okay good. But so maybe it's something one more thing before I go. With this the question if you have boys and girls and you are giving giving gifts, then the gifts has to be equal. The only difference is the inheritance let's say you have a boy and a girl I want to give $1,000 to this boy is a gift tonight.
I give $1,000 to this girl to the girl I also buy a house for this boy I buy a house for this
Give a five letter to this I get $5 this I give it whatever it has to be as a gift equal. Okay? That's a good distinction. It's not it's with inheritance that the proportions right definitely. By the way, just in two words I'm so sorry that inheritance is very fair because the my son, my brother, the one who's gonna take a bubble of me, needs to go to get married in take care of me still as a sister. He has a wife to take care of his his children. He has a mom to take care of tooth and he sees responsibility as for me, my man is for me
or my husband or my children, this is not this is how Allah subhanaw taala Yani give the man a little bit more because he has more obligation, including myself, he is obliged to serve myself, right. So on the surface, it may look like the man is getting more but it's because of his level of responsibility with family members so he is obligated to take care of them. The woman whatever she gets, she actually keeps herself so
much well explained. Here is the next question. I have a problem with passing when and I don't know what is causing the problem when I make Salah when I make Salah I have to repeat my widow a few times my clothes get wet and my body feels cold. I heard one had the if you hear a sound or smell passing gas, it invalidates withyou and also another Hadith about using one mu for every fart Salah is valid for cases like mine.
Sometimes this picture I get the okay you get it
wouldn't long have you noticed oh wait so they
use a limo verticality that I'm hammered in my fingers right? When it goes to person went. Or when it comes to discharge like you're in or person some of you are in it's all the same. There are three things.
One when you have a chronic problem and I do advise a sister who sent me this question to investigate this with her doctor to see if this is a chronic thing or something that can be Charla Jani taking care of
if it's a chronic Yes, you do we'll do for the summer. And even if it if you hear it and even if you smell it, and even if you do anything with it, and on inside your Salah, you're fine. Same thing for the person who passes urine. And this is also a some kind of chronic illness. He or she has to do look for every salah and does not matter if the urine come down on the prayer up. No problem your Salah is absolutely but Islam is very, very flexible and very beautiful. It's all about your heart, not about your action.
So this is the first case the second case, if it's a temporary we have to take care of it, we have to make sure that the if there is a certain type of food that goes in that or certain type of situation, and then we have to take care of that. And in this case, yes, I have to make sure that if I lose it if if something happened I lose my Voodoo and I go RE DO my Voodoo and finish my it's my Salah, the third one which is very, very scary is the sweats. The one who has in his mind, oh my god, I think I passed when Oh my God, I think I lost money Oh my God. And this is and he's not sure of anything, this is very dangerous, you have to be very assure and also you have to be very certain
that this has happened otherwise the house will be like in a shape on the regime. And the Yani focusing on your Salah, and keep keep doing your idea that the worst is very dangerous. So be careful with that. If you follow this one is going to drive you crazy and it is not good for you. And you know some people they met they ended up going to Jani some problems. So anyway, make sure that you you're not going through the eastwest like oh, I don't know if I did that or I don't know they did that. No. The first one is the one who is chronically ill the second one who is temporary l that we can take care of of it and pay attention to it. And the third one is with words and this is
the most dangerous one and if you go to any phagwara website, you will find this question there. Yes, the Hadees of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the one who said that you do not really follow your shikon when he tells you that there is something going on this you hear something? he hear it loud at all. You smell something? This is for the people who are no you don't have a problem.
don't have a problem. And they, they
basically does not want them to listen to the Shakedown. And that's why
you have to hear something or you have to smell something.
I wanted to just give a psychological perspective on this, because I've had hundreds of clients that have had obsessive compulsive disorder, OCD. And they do get very obsessed, sometimes it takes some 30 minutes to do with, or sometimes the prayer. And it really has to do with this idea of wanting or expecting perfection. And many times we have a shoe explaining the widow, that your widow has to be perfect, and your Salah has to be perfect. And I know they mean well, they are meaning to you know, do your best. But with someone who has OCD, they will take that literally. So what I tell you, if you have a problem with this, don't expect 100% if you aim for 80%, say I'm going to do 80% and you
do your best, that's much better than being consumed with worry and fear and anxiety because of your widow. So that that's something to keep in mind. And another thing is, if you're passing us It could be a food intolerance. So if you take some kind of a blood work and find out what you're allergic to, because, you know, we've done blood work we've seen we have certain allergies, wheat, dairy, eggs, many, many things, the garlic, and if you avoid those items, then you won't experience the passing of gas. So it doesn't have to be something you just accept. Please look into that. So just that's a sign of your heart. Focus on your heart. Focus on your heart.
ami. Yes. One woman is saying if a woman is diagnosed case of early menopause after two years of no periods, she has withdrawn bleeding. Can she fast and pray
with the roll? bleeding? What? Like Like, random
guys, it just comes. It's not like it yours? Yes. It sounds like it. I'm not sure she has to deal with it. I know exactly what she's saying. Yes, she can have appeared after two years, or one year or six months. Yes. She deal with it like a like a period.
Okay, she deals with it like a period so she doesn't fast or pray during that. Right? Yes. Okay. So as I said I another sister was asking online right now that if she is a stay at home mom, is she responsible to pays that card on her jewelry?
I think we talked about this last week by saying that the majority of the unima do not believe that you should pay zeca for your jewelry that you're using as ornament. But what are some, like Abu hanifa for example, there are some of them that they say you should pay for your your adornment. I myself I don't pay.
Okay, just Sokoloff ADA. This is saying last week on Wednesday, at Astor time, I noticed yellowish discharge. And after wrapping up, I notice red discharge. I was fasting that day. So my period started after my prep. I think the last red color I saw was the following week on Thursday at fetcher. sohar and then it was yellow at officer. It might be a little confusing. out this period.
I have no idea. I don't know. Yeah. So the first week, she only had this charge. This was a yellowish yellow was started after and mcwrap she saw red. And one week later she's started her period. Right.
So she started to have periods. This is where she counted period. Right? The questions are very clear for me. I'm sorry. Okay, it Yeah, it's, uh, says, How do I count this period? Is it seven days? Or did I go over seven days? Someone told me we count our area from my prep time. It seems like she started her period, often the memory, right. That's what she saw. Right? I mean, I would I would take the whole day of the bushi received that discharge as part of her period. Even though it wasn't read, even though it wasn't read because the to prove that that the three are distorted. She saw the the red one. Sure. That's a yellow discharge first. You know what she said that she said
that she is so that is right after mother.
He would have the red before mother so to be on the safe side. Let her count this thing. Okay. We'll log on. Okay. All right. And for anyone to count your period for you, my dear sister, you have to be very vigilant. Several months write down all kinds of sign right now.
When and how and the smell and the and the color and everything that you have. So you can be very, very familiar for your period. And that will help you also to help your daughter in the future inshallah, in sha Allah, there are even apps to keep track of it. So you could do that. And that way you can kind of anticipate without breaks, if you can smell her here when breaking during Salah What about in between Salah times in between some of them if
she wants to maintain her widu she wants to maintain her window. And this is not during prayer. I believe that's only for prayer time. This is only for prayer times. Yeah. And also, don't be sensitive or yummy. If you do not if you're not sure that you you you break your will to keep going. Okay, I have to be certain about it be certain about Yes. Okay. Is it acceptable for my husband to hide things from me, for example, where he is going or what he is doing? He recently got angry because the children told me he gave charity in the masjid. And also when they told me there's something difficult going on in his sister's marriage. Is there any?
I guess secrecy and marriage is what the question is, belong solely or certainly more verticality than I'm hammered in my early age. My there are two aspects of this question one, is there any problem between you and your husband that caused him to have some kind of secrets or hiding things from you.
Or already, this is his personality. When it comes to Islam, you don't have to know everything about your husband. If he was he loves to give some sort of power without telling anyone to give him the give him the space. You don't have to know this money. And even you if you have your own money you can give your mother I don't have to tell your husband. So
also, why he did not share with you the problem that's going on in your his heart, his sister his house, when I'm very happy that he didn't because I also saw Mohali, he was alum told Osman has nice learning marketer kuvo melayani, one of the signs of being a good Muslim to let go of things that doesn't belong to you, instead of making you you know, busy with a situation and think about it or something like that to your husband, just yet he chose not to kill you, and he did not see why he should kill you. So we should respect that. Unless you have a relationship that you can share things with each other. Every home is different, every personality is different than every year we have to
respect each other as much as we can.
I'm sure that
our Haleh will comment on that much better than me. So it's like Allah Farah, Mashallah you're always give thorough answers. And that's true as far as like with the data and, you know, relationship with his, with his family members. I think what ends up happening, a lot of times the secrecy is about sometimes phone passwords, they put, you know, I think it's really critical to have transparency within our marriage. So if you're putting a password, you don't want your wife looking at your phone looking at your messages, then there's this question of why what what is being hidden, or sometimes the women do this. And so in that point, I really emphasize transparency with things
that would cause suspicion, right, the prophet Elijah Salaam would avoid any form of suspicion, even when he was walking with his wife at night and the Sahaba sign. He made sure that they saw that it was his wife, so not to not cast any doubt. So it doesn't have anything with doubts. Yeah, those two things that she mentioned is yummy. Something that
you could do with his own money. Right, right. Yeah. Yanni There are so sister who insisted you know how many breaths that the husband takes today? Right. That's excessive. It's so much. Yes. No, you're absolutely right. I mean, I cannot really ask her for her a 30 answer because they don't know much about her situation. Right. I do not want to comment on something that I am not aware of the whole situation. That that makes perfect sense. Is it acceptable for my husband? Oh, we did that when my husband's mom passed away. But he has two step mothers. So I want to know what is the right of the step mother for him and the right of the step mother in law in Islam for me, along at home,
get me out of the last one sundiata says how much is the key level care for us asking this beautiful question
for your husband. He tried his best to deal with them till tomorrow.
His own father for his own for for the benefits of his own father, he tries his best to deal with them bill Morrow
in the best way of his ability insha Allah As for you, you do the same, just like the way you were doing, you have no obligation toward you in your mother in law, or your father in law except to be a gentle being sweet, be nice be in dealing with them bill Morrow, you know, give them gifts, helping them if you can. It's not an it's not it's not an obligation. Again, it's not an obligation. But this has something to do with the hostname nature of dealing with each other in the best and the highest manners. This is the issue between the daughter in law and the mother in law, his relationship can if you can do it, like friendship will be good. If it's not if it's not possible,
you be that this person and always give gifts and always say Salaam and always trying to help but even if you receive any fiber float or any kind of word or any kind of things for people, it's absolutely fine. It's absolutely fine. Just remember the first minute when you earn the agenda and say, You know what, I'm gonna be patient because I want to intelligent and look at all this amazing things. Insha Allah that's a beautiful reminder because many people struggle with this. And many times they just take that the fatwa of they're not my responsibility and they dismiss they dismiss it I don't I'm not gonna sit with them. I'm not gonna bring that and that's not the heart of the
moment that you're snatching huge amount of love of your husband. Yes. For you. will lie. Yeah hamdulillahi Rabbil aalameen Yeah. And have been a good relationship and it's you. You are the vibrant You are the young you are who the the one who has the future in front of you. You are the one who can do a lot of things you can make her laugh You can joke you can tell your husband Let's go see my mother you know any of this etc. My mother for a long time. My mother loves this kind of chocolate or my mother like the dish is not going to take anything away from you is going to add a lot for you. With your husband with your in laws. It doesn't matter how they are going to treat you
because there are also some allamani who is selling them somebody when
he said yaroslava I have relative I visit them and they don't visit me I give them the the pride me I'm be nice with them and they've been bad with me.
But he also loves it if what you are saying is correct. You wouldn't be as if you are taking the sand and you are thrown in their eyes.
So I don't deal with people though they deal with me I deal with people with the if they disobey Allah in dealing with me, I do not disobey Allah who deal with them.
I am me. I am working for me. I am working for me. I am saved in in my own bank account with a rock man. I am not looking at you. I'm looking at me Allah you're great with Allah and that has guided me so much in so many relationships that I'm only focus on my grade with a lot it's not about the other person and when you do that and when you do it with sincerity Allah will get their hearts to melt and eventually Oh yeah. You really are able to when a person over you kill them with kindness.
having lots of experience with lots of people like that. I think a lot of people that we saw with our own eyes, how things turn you know, amazingly beautiful it really does a level loss if I'll be lucky
for either the NACA webinar whoo who are the
honey refill with that? The best of the best that you have? Right? Was that person that was really giving you a hard time. All of a sudden you will find this one the who was an enemy to you became to you an intimate friend. Mashallah, we've I think we've all experienced that and and it is. It is a training of the enough's to you know, there were times I would pick up the phone and I say you know, y'all I'm only doing this for you. And you feel the reward of it.
One sister is asking, what happens when we get upset extremely upset when we are fasting Do we have to make up the day because they say they anger can break your fat? Remember? My dear beautiful sister for the other question. Remember one more thing that lk Lima Yuba for the
mother and most it's something she looked at you in certain ways it oh mama, you look
Beautiful Michelle Obama a learning where do you know you remember that thing that you that I ate in your house last week? I still have the taste in my tongue is so beautiful. Right? So I've kept him up a year but for the top as for this sister here, aloha folio slo mo barik ala Sayidina Muhammad in LA LA or San Diego man. alumina Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Karasu Salafi Lapasset when you become very angry, and you were standing sit down, if you still very angry lay down, if you still very understandable Makoto, if you still very angry, put yourself under the shell because anger comes from the shaytan shaytaan was made from fire the water will extinguishes the the fire
that's going through your body. So this is the this is the steps that you take insha Allah Allah when you become angry, and don't listen to the shape on the minute that you feel that way. First eight hours we learn him in a shape on the regime to people who are fighting in the front of Rasulullah His body
is extended that their nose and their ears became red.
Nobody who said upset I know words. If they say them, they that anger will subside all day he mean a shape on your regime because you are basically reaching out to Allah The one who has the power over the shape on which he sees you and you do not see him and you say you're Allah take care of him. Then he become Yunus and was worth of kindness, you become this big and you're here. And that's why when you start fighting with your husband, you feel the heat. start saying I will be learning the Shakeology or kill your husband please say our leguminous shake on Russian normally, are you your your cm is valid. Everything is okay with the car. But you lose some of the reward if he's if you
are words that
you know, that's not supposed to be there. Just like a Lafayette on how this one is about parenting. How does one treat their children the same? For example, girls need more accessories, hence, more finance, especially at weddings. Or one child might be more assertive in their needs, or the eldest gets more new things and attention because they're the eldest
How can we be fair in the treatment of our children and what are their rights in terms of fairness? Good question. Very, very, very good course it insha Allah Allah Eonni very soon you will hear a beautiful program about raising children Islam beads in lakita Allah will be on the same panel beat the library stone and sha Allah and
to be fair with your child give him what he needs. If I hadn't filed who's 18 years old, and a child who is five years old 18 years old needs a car
$1,000 go to the university with my my five years old needs a remote control car with $100 to play with. So I give the one who is going to college $20,000 to get the car and for the little one 130 this is absolutely fair no problem with that. I cannot say why I give this a what happened if I die I don't this is his risk. And this is this is his need at this moment. At this moment. My daughter get married and I prepare for her wedding and I paid this much money for her and hamdulillah when my son gets married if I can help with this much less or more I can relax it depends on the situation at this moment it is not it's not an inheritance that I have to do it Penny by Penny no it's it's a
situation like I have that today I'm well off and my choice
in need of $100,000 for tuition I paid then my other son came and I was not as young I didn't have enough money to give him the tuition this is a situation so there is nothing to be worried about if situation happened like that unless you plan for it and you mean it like you'd want I can give my daughter because I I want it my daughter to have all this and my son You know what? He's married a stranger. I don't want to I do not want him to have you have so again, it depends on your situation. your intention you try your your best out of the best. This is the only way to keep your brothers and sister happy together. And this is that richer to keep your family together loving each other is
a double and this is the easiest way to civil the relationship between brothers and sisters. Beautiful Mashallah. Just sokola hit on. One sister is asking Should I accept the proposal that I don't want
I'm not pleased with just to please my parents. That's there's a lot about, say that again.
Should one accept the proposal even though their heart is not feeling that it is right in order to please my parents? Absolutely not. Absolutely. Amen. Amen. I mean
to some allamani insulin Stein, the lady with him and I really appreciate all the heavy yet May Allah reward him immensely and gather us with him guys place in general not leave any question for us to answer now they asked her Susannah for everything. So this lady wanted Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam she said the Rasul Allah my father wanted me to marry this person to raise his status by me marrying this guy. Shall I accepted? He said, You do not want him if he said no. He said, No, he has no right to meet you.
so if you don't have chemistry for the brother, yes, my dear sister, and if you are your heart is not happy and flying, that he's married, that you're either really getting married to this brother is not a good sign. Right? I just liked it a lot. That's that's so important because so many people just do it to please their parents and then it builds resentment. Then it creates fitna in the marriage many horrible things happen when they're unhappy with your parents. Your parents are not going to wake up in the morning and look at this man next to me or this woman next to me.
I'm not going to live with Him forever. It's something that I look at this man and my eyes are yummy. Really, please so please No, this is this is this is not fair. And this is oppression. This is what I call oppression. The woman the girl has the right to say yes to be happy to be flying to reject the just like the men completely like the man. Right? So Sokka lafaye and I should one be more careful and reserved with non maharam within the family rather than outside for example, colleagues, classmates and more reserved with Muslim non my friends because they are least likely to form a relationship.
Non Muharram is anonymous.
If he's actually resourceful Allahu alayhi wa sallam told us
the relative or more to be more conservative like you're the brother in law for example some people they just if she's wearing off it doesn't wear up in front of her brother in law if she's doing things in the house here are all the way because it's only the brother in law know the brother in law is a stranger just like you're anyone else outside you should be conservative when you are surrounded by any nonmetal okay just like a lot Hey, is it okay to give that caught caught they'll fit as groceries for a needy family? yes actually supposed to give it as you know, grain rice food whatever the family need, that would be the best it's much better than giving the money okay and
someone else asked Is it okay to give the Is it okay to give the zip Zakat money to family members? Yes if they are in need if they are under that seven categories
Okay, just like a Latina Alright, if I sew dresses for women and those women display those dresses in front of non mahute on men Am I encouraged? Am I encouraging this behavior by making these dresses do I partially bear the responsibility or this sin?
You can you can you can Yani with a condition that
I when I display this kind of dresses I would love to have only women in the in the room and then if they do anything after that this is their problem. Okay, it's not her responsibility. Okay. All right, if a mother is bias and supports her son at the old age, even when she is wrong, and misbehaves when the daughter and is sometimes very rude and unkind to her, What can a daughter do in this type of misbehavior of her mother? I think the sister is talking about being treated unkindly and less favorably to her brother by her mother to be more beautiful to her mom.
This way, the her her Jihad here her struggle is encouraging. Beautiful
Yeah, if Yeah, forgiven, overlooked definitely if the mom is someone that she can communicate with chicken, talk to her in a soft way the discard kind of behavior hurts me that kind of things that can, you know, make me feel awkward, whatever. If she's not, she keeps you boggle.
Whatever she's doing for her mom, and that we learn your ticket to Jenna
Mashallah, so regardless of how you're being treated with your mother, you overlook you do your best and do it for the sake of Allah inshallah it's someone who can advise the mom to be faithful all of them not for the girl it's for the mom will be best because it is not right to be
to prefer someone over someone from the kids boys a verse
just a koala hater. Let's say Can Can you please provide guidance and resolving conflict between family members in the light of Islam that would take an hours
I'd like to do so before the end of Ramadan she's wants to know very, very simple and easy. Do not indulge in details of anybody's life in your family. I always say hi hi bye bye You know soleimani our you know Barack
that I don't cut relation or civil relationship between me and anybody. If they have funeral I go if I have to have something nice I go if I there is something that I need to go and give gifts I do but not to make sure that they know everything about them otherwise I'm not part of the family or they know everything about me This is where the problem starts. He will not right and I would add three things in with for the conflict resolution First of all, Mashallah just like a life here and that you want to fix the relationship in Ramadan May Allah make this way so heavily so many people hold grudges and so that's a beautiful character that you have that you want to do this I will say three
things take ownership of what you have done wrong. So admitted, apologize for anything that you may have contributed. And third, ask what you can do to improve these are like maybe three simple steps with a conflict resolution inshallah. So sokola fan and Mashallah so much. We have so many questions and so little time I'm going to try to go through this is it okay to wear a turban instead of a hit job or a headscarf? I'm glad that you mentioned this one because there is a sister who asked a question
to two, Monday's ago. Yes. And she said that her daughter's like 14 or cherish their puberty and she's insisting for her to wear abaya because the other is the hijab. And but the daughter has a special syndrome she has Down syndrome and this she is she's struggling really walking with the with that diet and be honest with you, you have the eye buyer is not Oh what are they a Baba is not the hijab.
The definition of hijab is also for the issue. It does not describe your body, the shape of your body and it is not transparent. And when in any way you like if you are a thin person that you can wear a
pan pants that's loose pants and long a shirt that's under reach all the way under your knees and
covers your bosom you find that the scarf,
the scarf, yes, you have a if you were to show one promise but the thick material and it's not showing what's under it 100 that if you were in a skirt and something over 100 that it does not have to be Avaya. My dear sister Avaya will be Yes, that's fine. But do not impose it on your child to the extended that your child don't hit the abaya and hit the hijab altogether. So yes, she can wear a pants she can wear and you think a lot of Baraka Tyler, that you have such a beautiful girl that who wants to wear the hijab in this age you are absolutely fortunate I'm hungry leg up and as for the turban, this is the hijab in Surah two mu and so as it says while you're greener beehoon or
hiner Allah Jew beginner so it has come from the head all the way to the chest area, this part the neck has to be covered, the ear has to be covered the chest to have have to be covered, but the person who put the the Turpin only covered in the here and the whole
nine yards is still there opening
so the left for you started with the turban May Allah reward you and increase your Eman little by little insha Allah tala you'll find yourself putting a scarf and it is not a big deal. It's beautiful. It's really beautiful. And I just feel honored with a lot about a koala honor. Did you say you are super beautiful. I want to cover you. You are a gem. I do not want anybody to look at you. Right? Right. It's upon Allah. I remember when I had first put on his job. I was wearing it very loosely.
And a friend had shared, like, Oh, this is a way you can do it and you can wear your earrings with it. And, and I remember asking a friend of mine who was quite religious, and I said, you know, is it okay to put you know, earrings and have the neck showing. And she answered this in a way without being judgmental without saying, you know, this is wrong. And she said, your head job is a reflection of your level of emotion. And I, you know, I thought about it and I put the earrings I said, I'm gonna put it aside, because everyone wants to have the highest emotion but we do start at a certain stage and we build up and I know that I definitely went through those stages. And
sometimes you just have to take those baby steps as you said.
I wouldn't have to know that Don't be scared. It's beautiful. It is not a big deal. It is not a big deal at all. It just it feels special. Yes, yes, Ma sha Allah. So just I call a Hana we have we still have can we do a few more? Are you fine with answering a few more questions? Anything happy before you're happy? Just like Allah ADA. So first of all, I remember we had a talk and I had a talk in debate and it was about his job and I said, Dr. Hanna, I'm gonna need backup. So I remember
I called you and I said, Okay, help. So you've always been such a source of inspiration and support Mashallah.
All right. So let's say if a woman earns money, can she spend her money without her husband's permission? Does a woman have to give Zakat on the money she has earned herself? My dear beautiful women, you are a complete entity You are a complete individually or complete servant of Allah, whatever is obligated for you to do is the same or you're obliged to do your husband or your brother or your father is obliged to do when it comes to the act of worship. We're all the same in everything except to the things that doesn't suit our body. That's it. So if you are a working woman or you inherit money or you are a business woman yes you're responsible for your own money to pay
your second if your your money stays with you for one full year, reach the nisab you are obliged or obligated to pay what two and a half percent on that money. Absolutely. And you are super free to do whatever you want to do with your your money but it's
gonna be something that is extravagant you buy drugs, you buy alcohol, you buy something good husband can stop you. But
it's Yeah, if the relationship is good with you and your husband is too beautiful to
consult you know, I bought this car I want to buy this ring I want to buy but if you want to get this other part No, probably you don't have to tell him or you want to give a gift for your mom You don't have to tell him are you going to do something unless he's somebody that you know you share everything with and he's okay with everything that's absolutely fine. But the point that I want you to know that you are free to do whatever you want to do with your money As long as you earn it from halaal and spend it and Helen and you are no different than any man when it deep when it comes to money and saw the power and the care and everything 100% equal in that Mashallah Jazakallah Farah
and for that
my money is my money and his money is our money.
Yeah, yeah. And you know, when if you decide to help with the family with the expenses, you know, every penny that you pay towards the family is a setup. So and that's highly encouraged if we do it with a good heart and listen Allah there is something that we need to explain to our sisters, because of course in a lot of problem between husbands and wives,
when you get married, you supposed to be a wife and you're supposed to be a mother or you're supposed to be a home take any particular area.
Now I'm leaving my house 1/3 of the day. And I my think that I was expected and expected of me it is not even 1/3 so if I come and say you know I am making $10,000 a month I am going to put in the house $3,000 because I feel like I am dupioni there is a lot of short and my sight that's absolutely fine. It feels good to participate in the house. Other than that, in the penny that you spend from your pocket, for your house, for your foot for food for eating for you because the food and the clothes and every especially the food is on the house.
Okay, so it puts Payton in the house is one of personal issues.
It's one of the Young Living in a peaceful way. It is not like my money, your money, here's the problem. Okay? So that way, even if there is a situation that I'm compelled to put all of my money in the house, you know what smile, it's okay, you're gonna get reward and you paint the car for every penny that you put there.
If you feel like this is too much for you, you're gonna stay at home. It's your decision also.
Mashallah, that was a beautiful reminder that we will keep that in mind and sha Allah. You know, while we have everyone online, I just want to remind you, that is the last final days of Ramadan where everything is going to waste so heavily on our scale. And we do have a setup project that 100% of donation goes to the homeless Muslims and also the refugees here in Dallas. And we're almost there you guys, we've raised Mashallah Tabata cola with all your support and help 26,000 and now we only have four more 1000 to go. So if you could help us reach this goal, you will get lifetime access to all of these amazing lectures with these incredible scholars. Mashallah, specially I know
all of you love Dr. Hanna, you can listen to her and you can have it and we have the workbook that can help you. So it the character building is a year, you know, year long process. It's not just in the month of Ramadan. So we want to gift you with those two things. And what would you like to share with us Dr. Han about giving the sadaqa to our brothers and sisters here in our hometown. It's amazing Subhan Allah, when you look at the i o and Allah Subhana Allah said the when you're dying, you know you say Rob, Billy Joe, take me back, Omar, why? You want to do more Salah now? You want to go ahead? No, no only have four.
So I might pay more. Because now I have the I save all the money and I'm leaving by myself and I'm not doing anything for myself. Okay, so now I understand the importance of cybercom definitely a sort of extinguishes the anger of a lot about Ireland, in the door for sustenance, the southern part as a resource of a body who seldom said
this much a lot of America with Ireland, take this
Southern and invest it for you until it
Wow. So this is a beautiful point investment right now there's a lot of focus on investment with dodge coin and all these other kinds of, you know, crypto currency imagine and we're so puzzled many people are like, is he joking? Is it that you know, Elon Musk? Is he really trying to help us or is he trying to play us but this is an investment that a law is investing for you so you are 110% sure that it's going to be a compound that then just make sure that you understand very, very well that there is nothing will be taken away from your money when you are paying for the man
made an oath he said man Nah, man.
He did an oath by a law that there is no way your money will be new or be will be less than you know. I paid 100 $100 out of $1,000 now I have 900 this 900 you'll understand the how much Baraka might spend it right? In $1,000 Allah knows best Yeah, yeah.
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annville spent a lot we spend on a lot Mashallah. And we've seen this so many times Dr. Hanna that you get the money and several, you know several times over Allah returns it to you sometimes immediately and you're like, I wish I had given more right because you Masha Allah, it is amazing. It is amazing. So.
Exactly, exactly. And we would love all of you to join tomorrow we're going to also talk about, you know, what are some of the signs of that you're, you're fasting, you're Ramadan has been accepted, and we're going to kind of solidify everything. And we are going to announce some of the winners of the of the membership. We're going to give a three month membership of my mentorship program, the mindful Hearts Academy, and so we just want you to stay till the very end so you can
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vitami Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik Allah say that I'm humbled and early you're one of the thing that can
assure you that your act of worship is accepted is finding yourself doing the same anymore.
And find yourself a version of bitter you
know, after hedgerow till the people go and always think and put your hand on your heart and your action on the pond and see if you're the same or a bitter person among Muslim you are suddenly Mubarak Annecy then Mohammed Mr. Earley, he was like ah my mama can handle
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